JustPearlyThings - December 27, 2022


Modern Women Date For Money


Episode Stats

Length

19 minutes

Words per Minute

186.97902

Word Count

3,589

Sentence Count

1

Misogynist Sentences

26

Hate Speech Sentences

11


Summary

In this episode, we discuss age differences in the dating market, the age gap between men and women, and how to deal with them. We also discuss the dating marketplace and how men operate in it and how women operate in dating.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 36 and he was already like rich which one would you say would be better to pick
00:00:07.360 all things equal yeah things are never equal um i like uh see that that's a hard one because
00:00:16.320 one's a guarantee kind of one's not so i would go with a 26 year old in my case but in your case
00:00:21.920 i'm not sure i would in your case i like hard work i like hard work i think it's the best thing in
00:00:26.720 the world and so but but 30 is that it's a 10 year gap isn't huge it's a big but not huge
00:00:36.000 you said 20 years i'd say no question 26 year old so if it was if it was if it was 46 you'd say to
00:00:42.000 pick the 26 year old no not in question why would you why would you say to pick the 26 year old over
00:00:48.240 20 because when you're 50s 70s old so that's the problem that's the problem no guarantees in life
00:00:58.720 yeah you're right but still it's still 20 years plus you have much in common people because they
00:01:02.160 are never equal you grew up in different generations like me dating a 30 year old or something like
00:01:05.840 that i just different generation of people oh it's a different generation love doing music
00:01:10.720 so have you have you ever seen have you ever seen a large age gap work have you ever seen a large
00:01:22.240 age gap work like long term because you're old you've actually seen people get together
00:01:26.880 in makeup oh really yeah and i think they've done pretty well sally and the lady the lady in florida
00:01:46.560 the lady in florida
00:01:47.600 yeah i'm a doctor yeah they're pretty far apart too okay i was just curious because they were asking
00:01:55.520 if women um would rather like build with a guy or they'd rather just like pick a guy that's there
00:02:01.360 and that's i think i'm gonna pick a guy that has it already most most women most women would pick a guy
00:02:07.440 that has it already oh god for sure why not why do you want to build with it why don't you want to build
00:02:14.160 i don't agree with that but i just don't know why you wouldn't as a girl do you think do you think
00:02:27.040 my perspective is different because like i grew up with money something dirty what and you're building
00:02:34.000 something and you're building something so yeah yeah well that's i was just wondering because i feel
00:02:40.880 like money has i feel like what everything they have looks who so most of your baby daddies where
00:02:48.480 are they they have looks who's baby daddies just whatever what your group of people you deal with
00:02:55.360 all the time baby oh oh there yeah what did they have that looks because if they had money they'd
00:03:00.960 probably still be there oh that's a good question i could ask on a show be like how much did your baby
00:03:06.080 daddy make even that opinion right there i mean i don't think people i don't think they're into
00:03:13.680 that it's just the difference i mean yeah you don't get as much to offer yeah so i mean that i mean so
00:03:22.480 but they're not like they're not because they're good looking they're getting the positive
00:03:26.320 conversation because they got money if they didn't get money so so no i so no that's that's that's the
00:03:34.400 problem so that's a lot of different questions there to answer oh okay okay i was just wondering
00:03:42.240 okay good luck have fun okay thanks dad love you bye
00:03:48.400 that's what my dad said what'd you guys think
00:03:50.560 um i want to see
00:04:00.000 um is there any other girl i should call that was kind of sad everyone's watching me be left let's see
00:04:12.080 because i think i'd prefer to date someone going there than there but then people will be like cap cap
00:04:19.120 cap cap but i think that's only because like there's a guarantee that he'd get there in my head
00:04:25.680 like do you know what i'm saying but yeah okay things up here and there in your castle but at the
00:04:30.160 end of the day you got to build the structure women aren't going to build it with you those days are
00:04:33.440 done some women do though like a lot of women do some no a few like the ones i know i would say a
00:04:39.680 minority a majority want a guy that comes pre-assembled yeah but want and can get two different
00:04:45.120 questions what what what percent got got a chance with a guy that's pre-assembled none is he talking
00:04:52.560 about so we got to go off with the majority not the minority wait hold on actually i have one other
00:04:56.960 person that i'd like to call
00:05:14.640 so yeah let's go if i'm advising men how to you know operate in a dating marketplace i can't tell
00:05:19.200 them look out for this 10 that wants to build with you no the reality is most women want you
00:05:23.520 to come pre-assembled and to be honest the most attractive and youngest women that have the most
00:05:27.440 options they definitely want you to come pre-assembled women want winners they sit at the finish line and
00:05:31.360 pick the winners where did you grow up i grew up in new britain connecticut okay so i was north of new
00:05:41.200 york city so what was your upbringing like great parents were together the whole time stable i had a
00:05:47.280 sister brother um still i mean they're still alive now i haven't said had yeah like they're gone yeah
00:05:54.560 um yeah i mean i grew up went to high school played basketball in high school played video games had
00:06:00.400 still have my childhood friends to this day i would say i grew up like in a pretty good situation we
00:06:05.040 didn't grow up with money right we grew up fairly you know poor little you know lower middle class
00:06:10.000 my parents struggled especially in the beginning yeah i mean i wouldn't trade it for the world i think
00:06:13.600 i think it's important for young men to grow up like struggling yeah you know what's interesting
00:06:19.120 my family was always like the had the most money but we spent it like we were very frugal growing up
00:06:25.760 i mean we always had a big house i'm going to say that we always always had a big house but
00:06:29.120 when it came to like um i don't know clothes like we always had a hand-me-downs we never flew on
00:06:35.440 vacation we drove we didn't have cable tv and i just feel like you you shouldn't spoil children
00:06:40.640 sometimes in the red pill they'll be like spoil the women they shouldn't have hard stuff either and
00:06:44.320 i'm like uh i don't know then you kind of get a little spoiled brat it gets you it builds character
00:06:50.400 you have to do it how will you raise a son with your mindset i'm just curious to know uh i would raise
00:06:56.240 my son to not be a victim uh you know i'm at a point now where very successful financially but my son
00:07:02.080 would not see any of this money at all i would make him get it out the mud because um like we discussed
00:07:07.840 before trust fund babies typically don't know what to do in life and how to you know they don't
00:07:12.480 understand and appreciate the value of a dollar and i thank my dad for instilling in that me and
00:07:17.920 that in me early i mean my first job was at mcdonald's and i got fired and i quickly learned that i
00:07:22.160 didn't want to be in the service industry but it made me appreciate people in the service industry
00:07:26.240 so i cannot imagine
00:07:27.360 what is this by the way so this is like a tonic wine when i drink i'm like quite a mellow person
00:07:36.560 chill completely in the mood you're not an angry drunk no i'm not actually no okay that's good
00:07:41.200 i'd be the worst angry oh auntie jenny is calling me said auntie jenny is calling me i'll call her back
00:07:47.600 oh yeah um hey auntie hi what um what did you call what's up no i was just watching your show
00:08:15.120 about being frugal and i think a lot of women don't want to be frugal
00:08:24.480 no it's true the way that you're just because they've got the money they they didn't spend it
00:08:30.800 they did it you know it doesn't mean you have to spend it stupidly i mean we always like you said
00:08:37.040 if you've got kids they always pass the clothes down so it's normally the oldest that gets new clothes
00:08:42.480 unless you're going out yeah i was lucky i was the oldest girl
00:08:48.640 you know we always used to go the cheapest way and take a packed lunch have a picnic on the way
00:08:53.920 and i think if i if i had money i'd still do the same thing i don't think that's how come i'm so frugal
00:08:59.200 because i learned from my mom how to be frugal and then you just spend money on the important things
00:09:05.520 that's what i'm doing auntie you can come watch if you're if you're free you can come watch it with me
00:09:14.320 yeah you know why you're right you're just a bit far
00:09:20.160 no because i know that you're alive aren't you you're alive yeah yeah of course
00:09:24.240 i saw when you called your daddy and i think your dad's right i think it's better to marry a man with
00:09:29.280 ambition than a rich man with none because when you struggle together with your mentality if you
00:09:35.440 believe in your man you'd help him build up his business and i think when couples struggle and
00:09:41.680 suffer together if they're meant to be together it just makes them stronger and they learn to
00:09:46.560 appreciate more than the more that they've got so i think the reason why your family was so frugal
00:09:52.240 because they know how they got that money they did just make it overnight they worked bloody hard and
00:09:56.400 sacrifice for it whereas if you meet a man he's already made it what are you going to do spend
00:10:04.800 now there's nothing to work towards so i think that yeah couples that fight together and do all
00:10:09.680 things like that i think that they they're the ones that last so i'd go with the poor man but i know a lot
00:10:15.360 of women would go with a rich man but i'm with your dad on that well my dad always talks about like
00:10:21.600 if it's a big age gap you're not going to be alive for the last half of your life
00:10:26.320 and i feel like there's i was like i never yeah yeah that's my dad was saying so well never thought
00:10:34.080 of that and you don't want to be um i dated another man and when we split up i thought it was the greatest
00:10:41.600 thing ever and because i found out he was a cheater and i just said to him you just saved me a lifetime of
00:10:47.360 cleaning nappies adult nappies huh and that's what you need to think about i took the if you choose
00:10:56.320 really really old that eventually you're gonna have to start cleaning it
00:10:59.920 i'm not saying they can't i've just never the only people i know it's like only been a couple of
00:11:15.680 years so it's kind of too soon to say so why would she try to sabotage your friends yeah
00:11:22.640 but i'm gonna i'm gonna i'm gonna finish this video you're welcome to come by
00:11:27.280 it's the podcast i just thought that i'll join in because your dad was on our phone yet i'm with
00:11:31.760 dad you're with dad okay all right then bye bye
00:11:36.400 i love aunt jenny not drink i don't it's haram so you have you never drunk i have i definitely have
00:11:46.640 but i mean it's not really conducive to my life goals at the moment so i don't really drink like
00:11:50.800 that it's just more self-awareness isn't it yeah i mean i stopped drinking too fun fact man you you
00:11:56.800 can't afford to have things that cloud your you know your inhibition or your ability to go out there
00:12:00.880 and create and become a better version of yourself and i think like that's why i'm really big on like
00:12:04.400 not drinking doing drugs any of that stuff you got to be focused all the time so how do you find
00:12:08.960 dating then with the way that you are i mean when you understand uh the code it's you know plug and
00:12:14.160 play it's like okay just deal with the girl size her up figure out what kind of chick she is and then
00:12:18.800 bam you know you already know kind of how to how to move so like what's the code depends on the girl
00:12:22.800 i wonder how i would be sized up and please chat don't say nobody's trying to size you up anyway
00:12:29.840 all right all right all right i'm not everyone's a cup of tea but if i was i just want to know what
00:12:36.320 i'd be sized up because i just can't imagine any girl's like gonna want to be like hug me at the
00:12:43.840 beginning of the day okay you got to be able to adapt based on the woman that you're sitting across
00:12:48.960 the table from yeah i have the female codes in my sleeves i know pretty much worth what they all are
00:12:53.600 okay so how are you adapting to me right now you want me to be honest yeah of course okay i would
00:12:58.800 i want the code now and then i'll ask the code again by the end of it yeah i would say uh recreational
00:13:04.000 use only no offense so what's like the how many codes is there wow wow no you know if you deal with
00:13:12.160 a girl that's younger that's in her prime years well you got to understand that she's more you know
00:13:16.240 inclined to look for fun if you're dealing with a girl that is in her mid-20s a lot of times and she
00:13:21.280 might be pursuing you know it depends on the girl but she might be pursuing some type of stability or
00:13:25.360 some security and you got to play at that angle or if you deal with a girl that's a little bit older
00:13:29.440 late 20s 30s and up nine out of ten times she's going to want some type of security if she hasn't
00:13:34.880 gotten there already code it's not even that deep like either you like them or not you don't need to
00:13:38.880 put them in categories so what kind of woman do you want sorry um let's be honest ladies we have
00:13:43.600 categories too let's just let's just be real let's just let's just be real you know damn well when we
00:13:50.480 meet a guy we put him in a box i personally my boxes are yes no maybe yes no maybe it's like
00:13:58.960 immediate yes immediate no maybe gotta get to know this one a little more yes no maybe
00:14:08.080 and then the chat will be like ah never mind sorry you guys
00:14:13.680 sometimes you'll be coming for me for everything it's like damn i can't say anything anyway sorry
00:14:23.280 i mean i can deal with whatever my thing is i need to come into my life and be an asset and not a
00:14:28.880 liability most girls are liabilities to be honest do you think i think the right woman though could like
00:14:34.960 really just compliment you and make you like progress also i will read super chats if i see them
00:14:40.160 sorry i have the thing if you have things you want to say you can super chat it or not you know
00:14:46.240 whatever but i'm just saying i'm working for a living here you know i want to get blessing and monopod
00:14:52.720 but they really he really spent a lot on my credit card last month me and blessing got beef right now
00:15:00.960 we got beef because it was a lot so we're kind of on a budget but you know anyways well you gotta train
00:15:07.840 them no you haven't in order to train someone you need them to listen i'm telling you no woman is
00:15:13.200 listening to you like most girls come into your life like and if you don't know what you're doing
00:15:17.040 she's going to come in as a liability 100 no you don't train them though you have to try it's like
00:15:21.440 training a dog you wouldn't do that oh here we go i knew that was gonna no but it's true though it's
00:15:25.280 not training it's not something like once again it's just seeing this person as you i actually do
00:15:29.920 think you sort of train women i i i think good women are trainable sorry sorry well okay but
00:15:38.400 showing the person respect it's not training so i look at it like if i'm gonna have a girlfriend and
00:15:43.280 she's gonna be my girl and she's gonna have my title well she's got to be trained to rise up to
00:15:47.440 a certain level because i'm gonna make her into an asset buy me a bag do this blah blah blah take me
00:15:51.680 on trips whatever when they haven't earned it so you got to train detrain those bad behaviors out of
00:15:55.680 that girl and make her an asset into your life versus a liability most guys don't understand their
00:16:00.000 value they bring her onto their life they give her everything she hasn't earned it she doesn't respect
00:16:04.320 them she's walking all over him she's right this is just facts this is just look at this is just facts
00:16:10.160 he's speaking fat that's true that's absolutely true women you can't give girls everything we then we
00:16:15.920 don't respect it and it's kind of like
00:16:17.360 like somewhat similar for guys like guys kind of want to chase a little bit too you know take the
00:16:26.640 relationship i know the guys would be like no no no guys don't at all and i'm just thinking like
00:16:33.680 okay i'm sorry guys there would not be all these books that sell so well that women have wrote with
00:16:39.840 like women dating advice if men don't like the chase a little bit i understand simps maybe it's just the
00:16:45.520 simps okay but some of y'all do okay i'm just being honest i'm just being honest most people don't
00:16:52.400 like things that are given to them for free they don't respect it you're not getting sex tonight
00:16:57.600 blah blah blah he's so rude obviously this is your experience so i can't argue that but i mean this is
00:17:03.440 this is this is biology women are hardwired to extract resources from men it's been that way since
00:17:08.160 the beginning of time biology rules everything guys they could sit there and say oh but i'm doing this
00:17:12.960 in my truth blah blah blah biology rules you there's one truth there's no such thing as my truth
00:17:17.920 female typical blah blah blah trash no but i kind of feel like from my experience if i've gone into if
00:17:24.640 i'm going into someone's life i would want to add value so i wouldn't really take things and i kind
00:17:29.280 of feel when you what did you just say two seconds ago you said in my experience yeah i come in and i
00:17:33.280 added value yeah that's you majority women come in meet the guy okay what can i get from this guy okay
00:17:38.480 this guy's a simp i'll just take him out on dinner date he could pay i'm never gonna smash him another
00:17:43.360 guy this guy's hot you know i can smash him i can hang out with him this guy he has some utility he's
00:17:47.120 a plumber okay he could do my plumbing but i'll give him a bj once girls put guys in roles it's your
00:17:51.840 job as the man to make sure that you're the top guy and you got the main role where you're not
00:17:55.840 investing too much and she's investing more in you girls only respect men that they invest in the
00:18:00.000 girl always has to like the guy more than she likes him no i think it works better the other way around
00:18:04.240 when the guy likes to grow more yeah that doesn't make sense why doesn't it make sense because women
00:18:09.600 want a man that's better than them so how do i look if i'm better than you and i'm sitting here
00:18:13.920 chasing after you it doesn't make sense women only respect men that they chase it doesn't work the
00:18:17.760 other way around once again with this like new i i hate that that's true but come on like how many
00:18:26.800 times have we heard on tick tock oh i only like the guys that don't like me did it yeah we like being
00:18:33.760 sims we do we like to work for it i can't i don't make the game i just tell you what it is
00:18:42.080 women as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis
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