JustPearlyThings - November 15, 2023


Modern Women Deserve to Be PUNISHED for Abusing Men


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23 minutes

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211.61418

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4,962

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104


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00:00:00.000 If it was you don't know when they were younger and
00:00:04.240 maybe
00:00:05.280 surrounded by the wrong say bunch of girls and was like
00:00:09.960 Their mindset was like that
00:00:11.340 So she just went along with it like that and then grew up and then was like I'm not actually like that
00:00:16.460 I didn't want to do that. I didn't want to do those things because I'm a woman
00:00:21.140 I don't like to do those things like men do right then not so much because she's realized it if a girl
00:00:26.500 But would you rather your brother date a girl that had that past or didn't have that past?
00:00:31.000 Oh that didn't see I actually haven't I haven't thought about if it's a red flag or not because the way that I see it is I
00:00:39.740 don't really care how many partners you've had before me and
00:00:43.740 Maybe some men care. I've met men that don't care because what is done before is irrelevant
00:00:49.080 Obviously, yeah
00:00:49.820 If you're clotting everyone and you're walking down the street and men are just approaching you left right?
00:00:53.880 Hey, and you know that she's really put it out there then yeah
00:00:57.820 That that's a huge issue
00:00:58.740 But that would be an issue for anybody if I was walking down the street with a guy and every five seconds a woman is walking up to him
00:01:03.700 Do you think women feel that way about Drake?
00:01:06.700 Women are lined up to sleep with Drake and he slept with loads of women. Do you think women care?
00:01:10.560 But the standard for men and women is so different
00:01:12.820 You're right
00:01:13.220 Especially in this day and age like a guy he can have slept with a hundred women and he'll get spuds for it
00:01:18.640 Or he'll get ratings or whatever. Let a girl sleep with more than ten guys. She's a hope for life branded
00:01:24.020 But I do think that it is slightly and it is a double standard and I don't know, you know, I'm a woman
00:01:28.760 I don't want to like jump ship on like womanhood and everything and whatnot, but it is different
00:01:33.040 I feel like it is different to you know
00:01:36.620 To allow a man into your
00:01:39.280 Sacred space don't get me wrong. You can be you can be comfortable you can be you know
00:01:43.620 Promiscuous as much as you want. You could love sex. That's okay. You can do whatever you want
00:01:47.780 But I think I think that it's poor sexual hygiene to let yeah so many guys you would say it's a red flag
00:01:54.200 Also, it's I get I get yeah, let me not let me answer the question. I hadn't thought about it before
00:02:00.280 We would say yes, but I would probably say now if she's if she's overly promiscuous and just puts it out there without any moral any sexual morals whatsoever
00:02:07.760 Then yeah, that'll be but then yeah, that'll be a red flag. I would say you think red flag
00:02:11.640 Yeah, I think that if it's an attitude is a very casual attitude to all sex and that is a red flag. Yeah
00:02:18.120 You both said yes you what about you? Yeah, I don't thought about it, but hearing everybody's
00:02:23.140 Takes on it. Yes, it is quite a sacred thing
00:02:25.260 And if you don't give it the value that it has and you're just like whatever with it, then you don't respect yourself
00:02:30.600 And what do you what do you guys say to two women that say men are insecure for feeling that way?
00:02:35.640 I don't think it's an insecurity. It's not an insecurity. I think for women as I think we know also
00:02:43.780 It's not as good for us as it is for men
00:02:46.340 So why would we want well me personally anyway?
00:02:49.400 What's not as good for us as it is for men?
00:02:51.400 There is a book. It depends. I'm telling you. The sex. The majority of women. The act of sex.
00:02:56.120 No, not necessarily the act, but like, you know, they always finish. I don't know.
00:03:01.120 Majority of women don't get that.
00:03:03.120 Oh no, it's not so much about that. Don't get me wrong. Don't get me wrong.
00:03:06.120 I don't want my boyfriend to be offended.
00:03:07.120 The thing is we do get energetically tied to the men that we sleep with and I think that it's like it's a you know
00:03:12.920 It's an energy exchange and again if you're sort of sleeping with multiple men and you're taking on that energy as well
00:03:19.620 It's spiritually I feel it does affect you and and a lot of women actually are depressed and all kinds of things
00:03:26.860 Because of also because I believe there is an aspect of actually taking on the energy of all these different people
00:03:31.880 So you believe in soul ties in it? Yeah, I do believe in that. I can't lie. I believe in them to an extent as well
00:03:36.920 Like basically for anyone who doesn't know what it is
00:03:39.720 It's when you basically sleep with someone and their energy kind of comes into you and yours goes into theirs and it's like you start
00:03:46.280 I don't know not taking their traits
00:03:47.660 Yeah, you're like you almost take on some of their DNA. Yeah, it's like almost taking like their traits into account
00:03:52.820 It's like a spiritual thing like you said. Yeah, I feel like as well because I'm religious as well
00:03:56.980 I feel like it's a thing like that
00:03:59.400 Maybe sleep with a certain person say they've got I don't know my trauma my image or something you're gonna attract some of those
00:04:05.900 I feel that way and there's a thing that we do as humans is like pair bonding
00:04:10.540 So actually there's a hormone that gets released when you have sex with the same person
00:04:15.180 you know, it's particularly multiple times that we actually do release these hormones, which
00:04:19.300 sends a signal to our brain that we're actually going to be like procreating with this person
00:04:24.420 So I feel like that is damaging in the long run if we're just doing that with people that we don't have that intention with
00:04:30.220 Yeah, yeah
00:04:31.340 But at the same time as well, you see where it comes to all this
00:04:34.340 I don't know soul ties emotional kind of bonding and stuff
00:04:37.820 I feel like personally men don't really get that
00:04:40.340 I feel like you can sleep with a guy say you've been talking to this guy for ages
00:04:44.820 He could have one thing in his mind and he can be saying okay cool. I'm just here
00:04:48.900 To do it and then go but at the same time if you start actually catching feelings for this guy when you sleep with him
00:04:54.220 It's gonna amplify but he might not feel the same way and because I feel like they don't get attached as easily as we do
00:04:59.740 So I feel like for somebody to be sleeping with people that much
00:05:03.100 They don't really have like how do you have feelings?
00:05:05.660 Well, I feel like you feel even just a physical act of what happens with men and women is is that you know
00:05:10.380 The men release don't they and then they're relieved and they go as women we receive it all
00:05:15.740 So even the egg, you know when it gets implanted just like we've received that with and the baby then grows in us
00:05:21.620 They don't have that experience. So that's where genetically, you know, we are made differently
00:05:27.180 I've heard guys say that they don't even know if they like you until they've slept with you
00:05:30.660 100%
00:05:31.660 Isn't there like that?
00:05:32.660 Do you think can I ask a question? Do you think that women get post I don't want to say it sounds so cringe
00:05:38.060 But we're just gonna drop it. Do you think women get like post finish clarity see the way that guys get post not clarity?
00:05:43.900 No, do you think women get that?
00:05:45.900 Okay, like as soon as you finish you think actually I didn't really need to do that
00:05:49.740 I don't really want to do that. Do you think women get that kind of like as soon as that as soon as the act is finished?
00:05:54.460 It's like actually you can just go home
00:05:57.180 A woman is very in their masculine energy probably. I think so and you know, I think so
00:06:02.260 I said yes, but then I just thought like it depends who it is if you're yeah, it literally depends who it is I
00:06:09.900 think I
00:06:10.900 Don't know
00:06:12.900 Yeah, I was just curious
00:06:14.900 As you just said men sometimes men don't even have to like the woman that they have sleep that they have sex with
00:06:19.820 This is just a blood flow to their organ that they have now used they've finished and now
00:06:23.760 I would say not like at first, but I could see some some girls that like
00:06:31.260 Have said sex so much that they kind of just start acting like dudes
00:06:34.920 You know what I would you said yeah, I'm like I could see that a little bit. Yeah
00:06:40.000 Yeah, so one thing
00:06:42.760 So I told you guys earlier that with Tommy and Pamela that Tommy went to jail for beating her right?
00:06:49.200 Yeah, you guys I said that earlier. Okay. I'm just making sure you went to jail for like roughly six months and
00:06:55.000 And it it honestly
00:07:00.220 It didn't paint either of them in the best light, but it didn't clearly didn't paint him in the best light
00:07:05.000 A lot of people don't know that she hit him first
00:07:09.560 Do you think that women should be able to press charges for assault if they hit first?
00:07:15.320 I think that personally
00:07:17.940 Obviously, it might sound a bit mad, but it depends on the situation. I'm gonna give you two scenarios
00:07:22.320 So cool you got one girl and I don't know they're getting a heated argument
00:07:26.320 She slaps her man does that give the man the right to come and now start pounding on her with all his strength knowing
00:07:32.220 That genetically men are actually stronger than women like if she's giving you one slap
00:07:36.300 Why does that give you the right to come and beat her up to the point where she's bleeding and on the floor?
00:07:40.220 So surely she should know if he's physically stronger than her why are you putting your hand on him?
00:07:43.700 Okay, but why?
00:07:45.700 Sorry, sorry, okay
00:07:46.700 And second scenario because I'm not gonna lie even though it might made me sound like a bad person. I've seen it
00:07:52.000 I've seen certain girls who
00:07:54.800 Intentionally provoke men, so it's like a thing where like she's gonna slap you you're gonna stop her
00:07:59.860 She's gonna keep hitting you you're gonna stop her because you know, you're stronger
00:08:02.120 But it gets to the point where he's only human he could only take so much
00:08:05.240 Yeah, so I feel like I've seen that to the point where a girl was actually provoking him so much
00:08:10.060 I couldn't even get him what I get her off and all of this stuff says like
00:08:13.700 I can't lie, Loki I didn't even blame him
00:08:15.460 But she was doing too much that she made the guy bleed from time I saw blood draw from his skin
00:08:19.380 I think women take advantage of the fact that they know that men are not supposed to hit them
00:08:22.960 Yeah, but it's like how far can you go before that you can't you expect the hit back?
00:08:27.460 How about you just don't?
00:08:28.260 I used to genuinely think you should never hit a woman
00:08:31.860 Until until I saw the type of hits and punches that these women were throwing
00:08:38.660 Hmm, and I've never grown up around women that acted like that
00:08:42.420 But I'm like if you're gonna hit like a dude
00:08:44.660 They fight like men
00:08:46.420 Expect to get hit like a dude
00:08:48.420 Where did you see it?
00:08:49.620 Just like on Twitter and stuff
00:08:51.620 You can see you can see oh my gosh
00:08:53.620 You've never seen the videos come up on Twitter where the girls are just like beating on the guys
00:08:58.020 And then he just snaps and like hits her back
00:09:00.660 And it's one punch and she's on the floor and now yeah, but but you respectfully nobody deserves anyone to hit them
00:09:08.420 Because just keep your hands to yourself
00:09:10.420 But if you're gonna hit somebody expect I think if you're gonna hit somebody you should expect to hit them back
00:09:15.300 And actually it's really challenging as a mother of a son
00:09:18.660 To like what is the best thing to teach him because ultimately I teach my son that he shouldn't put his hands on girls
00:09:25.060 But if a woman is if a girl is hitting him and attacking him, what can he then hit her back?
00:09:29.620 I took this to social media. I took this to Instagram and the
00:09:34.900 Unanimous response so from the guys it was yeah
00:09:37.620 If she hits him, he should be able to hit her back and every single female aren't said no
00:09:42.500 It doesn't matter how many times she hits him a man shouldn't hit a woman
00:09:46.740 It must be hard as a mother because you know that there might be consequences for him if he does
00:09:52.260 Yeah, it's really especially in the u.s
00:09:54.260 Like there are men that have called the police for a woman abusing him and they arrested him
00:09:59.620 Yeah, because she'll just cry and play the victim and say it was him. Yeah, and so it's like
00:10:05.060 You know, I always say equal rights equal lefts, but it's like in all in all seriousness. What do you tell them to do?
00:10:09.380 What is it the boys thing? What do you think if a girl hits you would you hit her back?
00:10:14.100 Wait, raise your hand guys if you think equal rights equal lefts are you hitting the girl back?
00:10:18.500 What if she made you bleed now? What if she critically injured you?
00:10:26.900 I used to be like yeah, used to be like you if you make me bleed yeah
00:10:31.220 But do you think
00:10:33.700 I think most men would use restraint wouldn't they? Most men would rather use restraint on a woman
00:10:37.860 Yeah, she's like what if she doesn't stop are you hitting her?
00:10:48.260 Look because if you compare me to one of these two
00:10:53.540 I feel like they could probably kill me in like three punches. Yeah, but
00:10:57.300 You can hurt them though. I can hurt them
00:10:59.300 But have you ever heard the saying like oh you hit like a girl
00:11:02.420 You know what? I mean, you know, we can hit but they can literally kill with bare hands
00:11:07.540 So then you should be aware of that before you're throwing hands. So have you ever?
00:11:12.180 I was gonna say
00:11:14.500 He was raising his hand
00:11:20.100 Oh
00:11:23.540 Game changer. I wouldn't hit her but she picks up a weapon. She's she's going to sleep
00:11:27.460 Yeah, but that's different if she's just using her hands a girl women are so much smaller than men as well
00:11:33.540 I know they can hit but they can't really like so many times have you ever have you ever seen
00:11:41.060 Okay, we have Dwayne the Rock Johnson, right?
00:11:43.780 Okay, what if blessing goes up to Dwayne the Rock Johnson
00:11:50.100 Should he not and and he hit he decks him right?
00:11:52.740 Mm-hmm should Dwayne the Rock Johnson not hit him back because he's much bigger exactly but he's
00:11:59.300 No, no, it's nobody. Yes or no
00:12:01.700 Wait, who who's the other
00:12:04.340 Blessing this is blessing. Okay, but I feel like
00:12:08.260 No, no, it's yeah, this is what happened. Wait, so it's a blessing blessing right there. That's blessing. Yeah, okay
00:12:14.340 He goes up to Dwayne the Rock Johnson, you know, do you know who that is? Yeah, okay big big dude. Yeah, he hits him in the face
00:12:20.420 Mm-hmm. Should we feel bad for blessing if he gets knocked the hell out?
00:12:25.780 Because he hit him first
00:12:27.940 um
00:12:28.820 No, but he's also a man
00:12:31.140 So why is it different for men and for women because clearly Dwayne the Rock Johnson is way stronger than blessing? No offense
00:12:37.540 Because women are so much weaker physically
00:12:42.100 He's so much weaker than have you seen the rock?
00:12:45.460 I've seen the rock
00:12:47.460 Also, you don't this guy could train on the side. He could be physically strong just because he's taller
00:12:55.700 Like
00:12:57.380 I think it's just it's not really a fair chance of someone like if a kid keeps like
00:13:02.580 Banging at you or someone who's smaller than you keeps banging that kid is not gonna knock you out. Okay
00:13:07.620 Another yeah, but it's a woman gonna knock a man out. Okay. Look at like this. They're with their bat hands
00:13:13.060 I know for a fact. I could never knock you too. I mean that only fans model in florida killed her. I saw that
00:13:18.580 Yeah, I was she killed him. She did
00:13:21.380 She killed him
00:13:22.740 And also there are female fighters that are
00:13:25.540 Like diesel. Yeah, there are female fighters, but like maybe like a normal woman
00:13:29.700 Well, no, but then but then where do we draw the line like okay?
00:13:33.540 If you if you weigh a certain amount if you have a certain amount of like if you lift a certain amount
00:13:39.940 Is it not I think this is just a man? I'm not saying anyone is okay at all
00:13:44.820 I'm not I don't think anyone should hear anyone. Let's be real. Yeah, because no one should I'm just saying I just
00:13:52.340 feel like more so
00:13:54.900 Men should restrain more to that because they could do serious damage. But to what extent do they have to restrain themselves?
00:14:02.740 To what extent like what would you say is the point where it's that? Okay, cool
00:14:06.820 Like at this point, it's okay for me to hit her back. Yeah, I would say well no point, but
00:14:12.180 So what if this guy, cool, let me give you a scenario
00:14:15.060 So this girl has come I don't know if I can say all of this on here, but this guy has come
00:14:19.700 Let's say she's got a weapon. Yeah, that one could penetrate your skin
00:14:26.580 She comes and she stab you boom. Yeah, and you're there like
00:14:30.100 She keeps doing it doing it doing it to the point where you're not bleeding so much
00:14:33.380 But you know you can still look at this girl to save your life
00:14:36.100 You're telling me the man shouldn't do it. No, he should because she's stabbing you
00:14:40.900 Okay, yeah, so she's not just so you think if it goes to the point where women is taking it too far
00:14:46.340 Then the woman the man should have a right. Yeah, when she's about to end your life and kill you
00:14:50.740 Yeah, but why does he have to wait till that point?
00:14:53.940 Exactly. I think
00:14:56.900 It's not to wait until that point as well is to save his life. Yeah, but the
00:15:03.540 I think she could maybe hurt him, but never as much as he could hurt her
00:15:08.340 And I think everybody knows that. It does happen
00:15:11.220 You know how much domestic violence happens where women where women are domestically abusive towards men
00:15:15.700 And it's even worse because let's say they go to report it
00:15:18.900 No, one's taking them seriously, and this is why men's mental health and and you know that there are so many other
00:15:24.420 I don't want to bring down the tone of the chat and stuff
00:15:26.100 But it is very common very very common and it's not taken seriously
00:15:30.740 Yeah, but ultimately the message is like women apparently they don't want to talk about it
00:15:34.580 No, no, no
00:15:34.980 They do want to take a talk about it
00:15:36.180 But because of the stereotype of oh, you're a man. You're tough, right?
00:15:38.740 What do you mean this woman just hit you come on man up
00:15:40.980 There is this stigma that men have to be tough and men can't be so they do
00:15:47.540 I don't know if most men really I mean you guys could correct me if I'm wrong
00:15:50.820 I don't think most men would want to admit that their girl was beating them up
00:15:54.340 Like I think that's kind of embarrassing to a guy
00:15:56.340 Yeah, I agree
00:15:57.860 I've got a friend who who was in a relationship with a woman and and she like she when she got angry and when she was drinking
00:16:04.740 She would hit it. She would throw things at him. She'd hit him. She'd provoke it
00:16:07.860 And every time that happened, he'd leave the house
00:16:10.260 He'd leave the house and then he'd come back and it just got worse and worse and worse and worse
00:16:14.340 But he held that it happened
00:16:16.500 By the time he told me it was going on for like two years
00:16:19.700 But he didn't tell anyone because as you said
00:16:22.100 There is an what do you mean your woman's beating you up? What do you mean?
00:16:25.220 There is this stigma around men being tough and not being able to
00:16:29.780 Be vulnerable in those situations and I don't think it's acceptable
00:16:32.420 The message is keep your hands to yourself and if you're not going to then you need to expect that
00:16:38.820 There's a possibility that they're going to hit you back. Yeah, that's awful
00:16:41.460 But yeah, everyone just just keep their hands to themselves. No one should be hitting anyone in a kumbaya world
00:16:47.700 I think I think that would be lovely
00:16:49.060 But this is I don't I don't think we're there
00:16:50.900 Yeah, we're not there and it's not but it's just like
00:16:54.820 You know what people should do, but I know that's not the case obviously
00:16:59.540 But also I just always think maybe
00:17:03.540 I don't know if just someone weaker is hitting you. Are they hurting you as much?
00:17:08.340 Did you know that most abuse is mutual?
00:17:12.020 So in most abusive relationships the parties are hitting each other and actually in one-sided abuse
00:17:17.060 What do you think is more common men hitting women one-sided or women hitting men one-sided?
00:17:21.220 Look at blueface and Christiane. I know you guys have seen that
00:17:23.860 There we go
00:17:25.780 Blueface is more scared of her than she is of him. There we go. She's pretty scary
00:17:29.620 Do you think now blueface should not hear her back? I was thinking that girl's crazy. Yeah, no, I those two
00:17:35.780 I actually cannot
00:17:38.340 Wait, she has no teeth because of why because of it? I have no clue. I'm not gonna lie to you
00:17:43.620 But at the same time this girl I heard that some some snapchat video or whatever
00:17:48.500 He's on the phone like he's making a tick-tock and she's like yo babe, who's on the phone to you?
00:17:52.500 He's like 999
00:17:54.420 He actually acts scared of her like
00:17:56.420 They asked him why he stayed. He's I forgot what he said. He was like
00:18:00.260 I'm already in this far like I already did all this. I'm like what are you?
00:18:04.420 Too deep. It reminded me of the Amber Rose
00:18:06.420 Amber Rose and Johnny Depp Amber Heard sorry
00:18:09.380 Yeah, and yeah, that was that that listening to that court case that was very much like that wasn't it?
00:18:14.260 It was there were both
00:18:15.300 But that was her
00:18:17.300 After watching that it goes to show you that a lot of women actually played the victim card a lot
00:18:23.300 And more time they're the toxic ones in the relationship because at the end of the day if it wasn't for that court trial
00:18:28.420 This guy was getting cancelled. He was getting taken off so much things like he's so successful
00:18:32.820 And she was just trying to come and bring him down and after all that
00:18:35.220 She still wanted to go to do a retrial didn't she didn't want to accept that decision
00:18:38.660 But look at her it backfired on her she got fired from her stuff
00:18:41.380 It's crazy with this too because she
00:18:44.020 Pamela Anderson literally they're on and off for years
00:18:46.980 Okay, she he went to jail even though she hit him first
00:18:51.380 And on top of that she's doing a documentary about it
00:18:54.740 And she wrote a book about it and now she has the audacity to text him at 55 and say you were my one true love
00:19:02.020 Wait did she say that he replied?
00:19:04.020 No, no, no
00:19:07.060 She's definitely the one that keep reeling him back in I think
00:19:09.620 Yeah, yeah, she said
00:19:12.020 I can't believe it's kind of like cut off because it's in the documentary, but it says
00:19:17.060 Toxic we were it's I think this is they were young. I can't believe they filmed so much. It's heartbreaking in a good way
00:19:22.820 So much love we were happy so cute with you with the boys as babies
00:19:26.980 And it's really how the paparazzi world tore us apart
00:19:29.860 Um, it was very emotional and sweet
00:19:31.860 I have only good things to say about you especially in hindsight
00:19:34.580 I realized I only had one true love I never recovered
00:19:38.420 Um, it's hard and I regret the pain I caused
00:19:42.020 Each other to dwell anything on the negative. It's the truth
00:19:45.940 Yeah, but he's like married now, so I don't think he responded
00:19:48.660 So just leave the guy in peace
00:19:51.700 That I mean that's what you should do, but
00:19:53.940 Yeah, I bet any money if he come knocking at her door
00:19:57.940 She'd open up wouldn't she?
00:19:59.940 Yeah, fully if she's saying not just the door
00:20:01.780 Yeah, but then she's had him, you know spend time in jail
00:20:06.260 She's you know been talking about in the last 10 years
00:20:08.900 She's made his life a misery probably for a long time. Yeah, so what does that make him if he goes back to her?
00:20:14.180 Well, he's not
00:20:16.180 Oh, but these men you never know these men you know
00:20:18.500 Well, he didn't reply to us so
00:20:19.940 It's interesting how she uses the paparazzi as a reason they didn't work out
00:20:23.220 She's not very accountable
00:20:24.340 After all that that's happened, it's down to the photographers
00:20:28.100 It's their fault that we broke up
00:20:30.980 It wasn't an on again off again abusive and she married someone else too
00:20:35.700 with it was um kid rock
00:20:37.860 and then after she was they divorced and she was like right back with tommy
00:20:42.820 That's crazy. So it's like she had a guy that you know allegedly would treat her well
00:20:47.540 Yeah, and then you wonder why guys when did they get married again? How?
00:20:51.540 1995 I think it said but they got married within like three days of meeting three days
00:20:58.580 When was the last time? I think it was five years ago from now. So it was 1994
00:21:05.860 to 2018
00:21:07.860 Yeah, and I think sometimes we forget well, I'm not we forget but in some cases with women and men I guess is
00:21:16.180 What you think is the norm so you know somebody who identifies love as like
00:21:22.100 Chaotic and wow windy and you know on and off on off on off that thrill that excitement that
00:21:28.820 um up and down emotions and stuff
00:21:31.460 They will continuously go for people that they feel that with because that's what they know to be loved that feeling of
00:21:38.180 The whole butterflies and it's all excitable and it's all
00:21:41.300 Chaotic as I said that whole roller coaster of emotions
00:21:44.260 That is what they believe it to be and so that that's what they chase
00:21:47.220 It sounds like pamela henderson certainly she believes that he is the one for her her one true love
00:21:52.180 When we look at it on paper
00:21:53.300 It looks like a shit show
00:21:54.660 But that's what she believes is love and I think other people that don't I think that's what kind of plays into
00:22:00.180 What we were talking about earlier about toxicness because I feel like a lot of relationships on paper will look one way
00:22:05.780 But when you're there experiencing it for yourself
00:22:08.420 Like you're gonna feel a whole different type of emotions
00:22:11.300 Than the person who's actually just reading your story if that makes sense
00:22:14.580 Like you can somebody can read something and be like oh like for example christian and blue rock
00:22:18.900 We always judge these lot, but we don't know what's going on behind closed doors
00:22:22.180 We don't know what emotions they're going through. We don't know what he says to her what she says to him
00:22:26.900 We don't know that kind of bond that they have it's more
00:22:28.900 But we just see what we see if that makes I think it's attachment
00:22:31.620 It's not bond it's an attachment
00:22:32.820 Attachment style attachment bond it's like the same word and upbringing childhood childhood trauma that has been unresolved
00:22:38.580 You know where they've had to work grow up in a house where there may be experienced abuse
00:22:43.860 I mean even chris brown and the rihanna situation
00:22:46.900 You know he was able to link back to the fact that he did see domestic abuse in his
00:22:51.460 She also was hitting him too
00:22:53.540 Yes, exactly and she's she's obviously got some childhood stuff probably that she was dealing with
00:22:58.740 I'm not saying we can always blame it on our childhood
00:23:00.580 But I do think that's why a lot of people really do need to be in
00:23:04.420 Therapy or something to process you know so that it doesn't continue into your adult relationships and become
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