Modern Women Deserve to Be PUNISHED for Abusing Men
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In this episode, we discuss the double standard when it comes to sex and how it affects women. We discuss what we think is a red flag and what we would look out for in a potential partner. We also talk about the importance of sexual hygiene and how important it is to take care of yourself sexually.
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If it was you don't know when they were younger and
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surrounded by the wrong say bunch of girls and was like
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So she just went along with it like that and then grew up and then was like I'm not actually like that
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I didn't want to do that. I didn't want to do those things because I'm a woman
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I don't like to do those things like men do right then not so much because she's realized it if a girl
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But would you rather your brother date a girl that had that past or didn't have that past?
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Oh that didn't see I actually haven't I haven't thought about if it's a red flag or not because the way that I see it is I
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don't really care how many partners you've had before me and
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Maybe some men care. I've met men that don't care because what is done before is irrelevant
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If you're clotting everyone and you're walking down the street and men are just approaching you left right?
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Hey, and you know that she's really put it out there then yeah
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But that would be an issue for anybody if I was walking down the street with a guy and every five seconds a woman is walking up to him
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Women are lined up to sleep with Drake and he slept with loads of women. Do you think women care?
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But the standard for men and women is so different
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Especially in this day and age like a guy he can have slept with a hundred women and he'll get spuds for it
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Or he'll get ratings or whatever. Let a girl sleep with more than ten guys. She's a hope for life branded
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But I do think that it is slightly and it is a double standard and I don't know, you know, I'm a woman
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I don't want to like jump ship on like womanhood and everything and whatnot, but it is different
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Sacred space don't get me wrong. You can be you can be comfortable you can be you know
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Promiscuous as much as you want. You could love sex. That's okay. You can do whatever you want
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But I think I think that it's poor sexual hygiene to let yeah so many guys you would say it's a red flag
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Also, it's I get I get yeah, let me not let me answer the question. I hadn't thought about it before
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We would say yes, but I would probably say now if she's if she's overly promiscuous and just puts it out there without any moral any sexual morals whatsoever
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Then yeah, that'll be but then yeah, that'll be a red flag. I would say you think red flag
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Yeah, I think that if it's an attitude is a very casual attitude to all sex and that is a red flag. Yeah
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You both said yes you what about you? Yeah, I don't thought about it, but hearing everybody's
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And if you don't give it the value that it has and you're just like whatever with it, then you don't respect yourself
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And what do you what do you guys say to two women that say men are insecure for feeling that way?
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I don't think it's an insecurity. It's not an insecurity. I think for women as I think we know also
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So why would we want well me personally anyway?
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There is a book. It depends. I'm telling you. The sex. The majority of women. The act of sex.
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No, not necessarily the act, but like, you know, they always finish. I don't know.
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Oh no, it's not so much about that. Don't get me wrong. Don't get me wrong.
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The thing is we do get energetically tied to the men that we sleep with and I think that it's like it's a you know
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It's an energy exchange and again if you're sort of sleeping with multiple men and you're taking on that energy as well
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It's spiritually I feel it does affect you and and a lot of women actually are depressed and all kinds of things
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Because of also because I believe there is an aspect of actually taking on the energy of all these different people
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So you believe in soul ties in it? Yeah, I do believe in that. I can't lie. I believe in them to an extent as well
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Like basically for anyone who doesn't know what it is
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It's when you basically sleep with someone and their energy kind of comes into you and yours goes into theirs and it's like you start
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Yeah, you're like you almost take on some of their DNA. Yeah, it's like almost taking like their traits into account
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It's like a spiritual thing like you said. Yeah, I feel like as well because I'm religious as well
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Maybe sleep with a certain person say they've got I don't know my trauma my image or something you're gonna attract some of those
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I feel that way and there's a thing that we do as humans is like pair bonding
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So actually there's a hormone that gets released when you have sex with the same person
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you know, it's particularly multiple times that we actually do release these hormones, which
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sends a signal to our brain that we're actually going to be like procreating with this person
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So I feel like that is damaging in the long run if we're just doing that with people that we don't have that intention with
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But at the same time as well, you see where it comes to all this
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I don't know soul ties emotional kind of bonding and stuff
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I feel like personally men don't really get that
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I feel like you can sleep with a guy say you've been talking to this guy for ages
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He could have one thing in his mind and he can be saying okay cool. I'm just here
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To do it and then go but at the same time if you start actually catching feelings for this guy when you sleep with him
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It's gonna amplify but he might not feel the same way and because I feel like they don't get attached as easily as we do
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So I feel like for somebody to be sleeping with people that much
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They don't really have like how do you have feelings?
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Well, I feel like you feel even just a physical act of what happens with men and women is is that you know
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The men release don't they and then they're relieved and they go as women we receive it all
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So even the egg, you know when it gets implanted just like we've received that with and the baby then grows in us
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They don't have that experience. So that's where genetically, you know, we are made differently
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I've heard guys say that they don't even know if they like you until they've slept with you
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Do you think can I ask a question? Do you think that women get post I don't want to say it sounds so cringe
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But we're just gonna drop it. Do you think women get like post finish clarity see the way that guys get post not clarity?
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Okay, like as soon as you finish you think actually I didn't really need to do that
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I don't really want to do that. Do you think women get that kind of like as soon as that as soon as the act is finished?
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A woman is very in their masculine energy probably. I think so and you know, I think so
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I said yes, but then I just thought like it depends who it is if you're yeah, it literally depends who it is I
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As you just said men sometimes men don't even have to like the woman that they have sleep that they have sex with
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This is just a blood flow to their organ that they have now used they've finished and now
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I would say not like at first, but I could see some some girls that like
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Have said sex so much that they kind of just start acting like dudes
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You know what I would you said yeah, I'm like I could see that a little bit. Yeah
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So I told you guys earlier that with Tommy and Pamela that Tommy went to jail for beating her right?
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Yeah, you guys I said that earlier. Okay. I'm just making sure you went to jail for like roughly six months and
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It didn't paint either of them in the best light, but it didn't clearly didn't paint him in the best light
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A lot of people don't know that she hit him first
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Do you think that women should be able to press charges for assault if they hit first?
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Obviously, it might sound a bit mad, but it depends on the situation. I'm gonna give you two scenarios
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So cool you got one girl and I don't know they're getting a heated argument
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She slaps her man does that give the man the right to come and now start pounding on her with all his strength knowing
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That genetically men are actually stronger than women like if she's giving you one slap
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Why does that give you the right to come and beat her up to the point where she's bleeding and on the floor?
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So surely she should know if he's physically stronger than her why are you putting your hand on him?
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And second scenario because I'm not gonna lie even though it might made me sound like a bad person. I've seen it
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Intentionally provoke men, so it's like a thing where like she's gonna slap you you're gonna stop her
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She's gonna keep hitting you you're gonna stop her because you know, you're stronger
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But it gets to the point where he's only human he could only take so much
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Yeah, so I feel like I've seen that to the point where a girl was actually provoking him so much
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I couldn't even get him what I get her off and all of this stuff says like
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But she was doing too much that she made the guy bleed from time I saw blood draw from his skin
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I think women take advantage of the fact that they know that men are not supposed to hit them
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Yeah, but it's like how far can you go before that you can't you expect the hit back?
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I used to genuinely think you should never hit a woman
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Until until I saw the type of hits and punches that these women were throwing
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Hmm, and I've never grown up around women that acted like that
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You've never seen the videos come up on Twitter where the girls are just like beating on the guys
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And it's one punch and she's on the floor and now yeah, but but you respectfully nobody deserves anyone to hit them
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But if you're gonna hit somebody expect I think if you're gonna hit somebody you should expect to hit them back
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And actually it's really challenging as a mother of a son
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To like what is the best thing to teach him because ultimately I teach my son that he shouldn't put his hands on girls
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But if a woman is if a girl is hitting him and attacking him, what can he then hit her back?
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I took this to social media. I took this to Instagram and the
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Unanimous response so from the guys it was yeah
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If she hits him, he should be able to hit her back and every single female aren't said no
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It doesn't matter how many times she hits him a man shouldn't hit a woman
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It must be hard as a mother because you know that there might be consequences for him if he does
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Like there are men that have called the police for a woman abusing him and they arrested him
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Yeah, because she'll just cry and play the victim and say it was him. Yeah, and so it's like
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You know, I always say equal rights equal lefts, but it's like in all in all seriousness. What do you tell them to do?
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What is it the boys thing? What do you think if a girl hits you would you hit her back?
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Wait, raise your hand guys if you think equal rights equal lefts are you hitting the girl back?
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What if she made you bleed now? What if she critically injured you?
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I used to be like yeah, used to be like you if you make me bleed yeah
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I think most men would use restraint wouldn't they? Most men would rather use restraint on a woman
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Yeah, she's like what if she doesn't stop are you hitting her?
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Look because if you compare me to one of these two
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I feel like they could probably kill me in like three punches. Yeah, but
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But have you ever heard the saying like oh you hit like a girl
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You know what? I mean, you know, we can hit but they can literally kill with bare hands
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So then you should be aware of that before you're throwing hands. So have you ever?
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Game changer. I wouldn't hit her but she picks up a weapon. She's she's going to sleep
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Yeah, but that's different if she's just using her hands a girl women are so much smaller than men as well
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I know they can hit but they can't really like so many times have you ever have you ever seen
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Okay, what if blessing goes up to Dwayne the Rock Johnson
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Should he not and and he hit he decks him right?
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Mm-hmm should Dwayne the Rock Johnson not hit him back because he's much bigger exactly but he's
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Blessing this is blessing. Okay, but I feel like
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No, no, it's yeah, this is what happened. Wait, so it's a blessing blessing right there. That's blessing. Yeah, okay
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He goes up to Dwayne the Rock Johnson, you know, do you know who that is? Yeah, okay big big dude. Yeah, he hits him in the face
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Mm-hmm. Should we feel bad for blessing if he gets knocked the hell out?
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So why is it different for men and for women because clearly Dwayne the Rock Johnson is way stronger than blessing? No offense
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He's so much weaker than have you seen the rock?
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Also, you don't this guy could train on the side. He could be physically strong just because he's taller
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I think it's just it's not really a fair chance of someone like if a kid keeps like
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Banging at you or someone who's smaller than you keeps banging that kid is not gonna knock you out. Okay
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Another yeah, but it's a woman gonna knock a man out. Okay. Look at like this. They're with their bat hands
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I know for a fact. I could never knock you too. I mean that only fans model in florida killed her. I saw that
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Like diesel. Yeah, there are female fighters, but like maybe like a normal woman
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Well, no, but then but then where do we draw the line like okay?
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If you if you weigh a certain amount if you have a certain amount of like if you lift a certain amount
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Is it not I think this is just a man? I'm not saying anyone is okay at all
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I'm not I don't think anyone should hear anyone. Let's be real. Yeah, because no one should I'm just saying I just
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Men should restrain more to that because they could do serious damage. But to what extent do they have to restrain themselves?
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To what extent like what would you say is the point where it's that? Okay, cool
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Like at this point, it's okay for me to hit her back. Yeah, I would say well no point, but
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So what if this guy, cool, let me give you a scenario
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So this girl has come I don't know if I can say all of this on here, but this guy has come
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Let's say she's got a weapon. Yeah, that one could penetrate your skin
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She comes and she stab you boom. Yeah, and you're there like
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She keeps doing it doing it doing it to the point where you're not bleeding so much
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But you know you can still look at this girl to save your life
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You're telling me the man shouldn't do it. No, he should because she's stabbing you
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Okay, yeah, so she's not just so you think if it goes to the point where women is taking it too far
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Then the woman the man should have a right. Yeah, when she's about to end your life and kill you
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Yeah, but why does he have to wait till that point?
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It's not to wait until that point as well is to save his life. Yeah, but the
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I think she could maybe hurt him, but never as much as he could hurt her
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And I think everybody knows that. It does happen
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You know how much domestic violence happens where women where women are domestically abusive towards men
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And it's even worse because let's say they go to report it
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No, one's taking them seriously, and this is why men's mental health and and you know that there are so many other
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I don't want to bring down the tone of the chat and stuff
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But it is very common very very common and it's not taken seriously
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Yeah, but ultimately the message is like women apparently they don't want to talk about it
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But because of the stereotype of oh, you're a man. You're tough, right?
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What do you mean this woman just hit you come on man up
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There is this stigma that men have to be tough and men can't be so they do
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I don't know if most men really I mean you guys could correct me if I'm wrong
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I don't think most men would want to admit that their girl was beating them up
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Like I think that's kind of embarrassing to a guy
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I've got a friend who who was in a relationship with a woman and and she like she when she got angry and when she was drinking
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She would hit it. She would throw things at him. She'd hit him. She'd provoke it
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And every time that happened, he'd leave the house
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He'd leave the house and then he'd come back and it just got worse and worse and worse and worse
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By the time he told me it was going on for like two years
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There is an what do you mean your woman's beating you up? What do you mean?
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There is this stigma around men being tough and not being able to
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Be vulnerable in those situations and I don't think it's acceptable
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The message is keep your hands to yourself and if you're not going to then you need to expect that
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There's a possibility that they're going to hit you back. Yeah, that's awful
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But yeah, everyone just just keep their hands to themselves. No one should be hitting anyone in a kumbaya world
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Yeah, we're not there and it's not but it's just like
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You know what people should do, but I know that's not the case obviously
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I don't know if just someone weaker is hitting you. Are they hurting you as much?
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So in most abusive relationships the parties are hitting each other and actually in one-sided abuse
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What do you think is more common men hitting women one-sided or women hitting men one-sided?
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Look at blueface and Christiane. I know you guys have seen that
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Blueface is more scared of her than she is of him. There we go. She's pretty scary
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Do you think now blueface should not hear her back? I was thinking that girl's crazy. Yeah, no, I those two
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Wait, she has no teeth because of why because of it? I have no clue. I'm not gonna lie to you
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But at the same time this girl I heard that some some snapchat video or whatever
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He's on the phone like he's making a tick-tock and she's like yo babe, who's on the phone to you?
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They asked him why he stayed. He's I forgot what he said. He was like
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I'm already in this far like I already did all this. I'm like what are you?
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Yeah, and yeah, that was that that listening to that court case that was very much like that wasn't it?
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After watching that it goes to show you that a lot of women actually played the victim card a lot
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And more time they're the toxic ones in the relationship because at the end of the day if it wasn't for that court trial
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This guy was getting cancelled. He was getting taken off so much things like he's so successful
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And she was just trying to come and bring him down and after all that
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She still wanted to go to do a retrial didn't she didn't want to accept that decision
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But look at her it backfired on her she got fired from her stuff
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Pamela Anderson literally they're on and off for years
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Okay, she he went to jail even though she hit him first
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And on top of that she's doing a documentary about it
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And she wrote a book about it and now she has the audacity to text him at 55 and say you were my one true love
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She's definitely the one that keep reeling him back in I think
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I can't believe it's kind of like cut off because it's in the documentary, but it says
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Toxic we were it's I think this is they were young. I can't believe they filmed so much. It's heartbreaking in a good way
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So much love we were happy so cute with you with the boys as babies
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And it's really how the paparazzi world tore us apart
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I have only good things to say about you especially in hindsight
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I realized I only had one true love I never recovered
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Each other to dwell anything on the negative. It's the truth
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Yeah, but he's like married now, so I don't think he responded
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Yeah, I bet any money if he come knocking at her door
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Yeah, but then she's had him, you know spend time in jail
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She's you know been talking about in the last 10 years
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She's made his life a misery probably for a long time. Yeah, so what does that make him if he goes back to her?
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Oh, but these men you never know these men you know
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It's interesting how she uses the paparazzi as a reason they didn't work out
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After all that that's happened, it's down to the photographers
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It wasn't an on again off again abusive and she married someone else too
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and then after she was they divorced and she was like right back with tommy
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That's crazy. So it's like she had a guy that you know allegedly would treat her well
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Yeah, and then you wonder why guys when did they get married again? How?
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1995 I think it said but they got married within like three days of meeting three days
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When was the last time? I think it was five years ago from now. So it was 1994
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Yeah, and I think sometimes we forget well, I'm not we forget but in some cases with women and men I guess is
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What you think is the norm so you know somebody who identifies love as like
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Chaotic and wow windy and you know on and off on off on off that thrill that excitement that
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They will continuously go for people that they feel that with because that's what they know to be loved that feeling of
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The whole butterflies and it's all excitable and it's all
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Chaotic as I said that whole roller coaster of emotions
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That is what they believe it to be and so that that's what they chase
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It sounds like pamela henderson certainly she believes that he is the one for her her one true love
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But that's what she believes is love and I think other people that don't I think that's what kind of plays into
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What we were talking about earlier about toxicness because I feel like a lot of relationships on paper will look one way
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But when you're there experiencing it for yourself
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Like you're gonna feel a whole different type of emotions
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Than the person who's actually just reading your story if that makes sense
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Like you can somebody can read something and be like oh like for example christian and blue rock
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We always judge these lot, but we don't know what's going on behind closed doors
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We don't know what emotions they're going through. We don't know what he says to her what she says to him
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We don't know that kind of bond that they have it's more
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But we just see what we see if that makes I think it's attachment
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Attachment style attachment bond it's like the same word and upbringing childhood childhood trauma that has been unresolved
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You know where they've had to work grow up in a house where there may be experienced abuse
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I mean even chris brown and the rihanna situation
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You know he was able to link back to the fact that he did see domestic abuse in his
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Yes, exactly and she's she's obviously got some childhood stuff probably that she was dealing with
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I'm not saying we can always blame it on our childhood
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But I do think that's why a lot of people really do need to be in
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Therapy or something to process you know so that it doesn't continue into your adult relationships and become
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