Modern Women DO NOT Respect Their Biological Clock
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about when is the right age to have kids and how old should you be when you have your first child. We also talk about the pros and cons of having kids later in life and how much energy it takes to raise a child.
Transcript
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If you want more kids, when would you want them?
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It is true, you know, we're all just bags of chemicals
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And remind them how old you are and what age you want kids.
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To be honest, I've been kind of thinking about children,
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but I just feel like when I'm a little bit more stable,
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when I finish doing certain things with myself,
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Low key maybe next year, but I need to go and travel.
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Like why, like when I grew up, I traveled with my family.
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Why do we have to travel first and then have the family?
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Oh, no, I don't even, I like that idea as well.
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I just felt like I need to do some things by myself separately.
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I just don't, I just don't understand that mindset.
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So I'm just curious, like what made you say you have to do that first?
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I just want to travel without a kid first and then I'll travel with a kid.
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I'm 20 and I'm hoping to have children by like between 23 and 25.
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And then after that, I don't think, I don't see myself wanting to have kids after 35.
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You don't mind having more kids or you want more kids?
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It's not something that I want while I'm in a relationship.
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So if it's something that is in the talks, then yeah.
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It's like one day you think yes, the next day you think no.
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Um, I'm thinking around like 35, so I'll go for like two, three years to go.
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Well, I feel like when you have your kids, that's down to your personal choice of what
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age you have them, so long as you can provide for them and love them and give them the things
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And you've got the support maybe by family, their family, et cetera.
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Um, in terms of age, I feel that that's very personal.
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Um, maybe in terms of when you said the older woman, yes, there is more health risks.
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Um, I would, I didn't, I didn't say right or wrong.
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Um, what age, even, even if you passed it, like what would be the ideal age to have kids?
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Well, personally speaking, I feel that being a younger parent, there's more advantage, um,
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simply because you can raise them and grow with them.
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You still got a lot of energy where you can do quite a lot of activities with them.
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Um, when you're a more mature parent, I feel that you become less energetic and it may become
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a bit harder, not impossible, but however, it's not going to be as easier when you've got like
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Um, no, I had them a bit younger, which I'm glad that I did.
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And when I was younger, I had a way lot more energy, whereas becoming a more mature
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parent, I would have a way lot less energy now than what I did.
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No, I've heard that, that if you wait too long, like, like, because my dad, my youngest
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sister's 10 years younger than me and he's just exhausted.
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He's like, I'm trying to get these kids out of the house.
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I'm 25 and if I had a partner, I would have children as soon as he's ready to be able to
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He says, he said, I'll get, I'll marry you in the next six months.
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Men smell funny or if they're stupid or boring, I guess, um, if they're jealous and possessive,
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Why is, why is abusive the first, it's not just you guys, it's everybody abusive.
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Well, it's like, why is that the first thing women say?
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I guess it's like the worst thing you can imagine.
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Yeah, but it's like, why are we, why are we always thinking of the worst thing that could
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Because in debate, I suppose you go to the extreme to make a point.
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No one's going to stay with an abusive, crazy psycho that's beating you left, right and center.
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My question, my question is not telling you to stay with an abusive guy.
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It is, why is that the first thing that we bring up?
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Because if I was to get into it with my partner and we was to start getting mad,
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So it's funny because one-sided abuse, women hit men one-sided more than men hit women one-sided.
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Yet women are always the ones that bring up abuse.
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When if we're going to be technical about it, men should be the ones bringing up abuse and they never do.
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Maybe men that haven't been abusive can say it too.
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Like maybe when you're just not, when you're not abusive, you probably will bring it up because
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it's something that you just don't believe in, you know?
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No, my, my whole point is women have this like negative picture of men that they're just abusive
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I would say, I would say in general, I hear the word abuse come up way too often.
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Considering like from women, I never hear it from men, even though one-sided abuse is more
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But that's because the men are meant to be alpha and the stronger ones.
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My, my point is like, why do women always go to the extreme?
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It's the minority of guys that are abusing women.
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I wouldn't say it's the majority, but with my friends and stuff and family and stuff,
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And from what I've heard, it's something that I personally would never want to go through.
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And so I'm not saying it's the majority of men, but I have heard it quite frequently
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I would say the majority of women that say they were abused are lying.
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Because what they did was they expanded the definition of abuse.
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So women will use these words that like mean nothing.
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Like, like they, like, for example, um, what, what is coercion?
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I, and I've, and I've, the only reason I say this is because I've done these shows so
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many times and women come on, they tell me their story.
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She said my, my ex-boyfriend like shoved me out of the house or whatever, like pushed me out.
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And I was like, okay, like, why did he shove you like to the ground or whatever?
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But does it give him the right to then shove her?
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I mean, I think if I have someone that is breaking and entering into my house,
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Because, um, if you love someone, I wouldn't really be.
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Well, I'll tell you, I'll tell you, I'll tell you, I'll tell you the problem is I like,
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I know guys that have slammed a door that the woman was holding onto the door.
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And I'm saying, I'm telling you, you wouldn't know not being in it how one sided it is.
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Like it's very much like, and the reason we can look at this is because family court is based
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on a balance of probabilities where criminal court is based off of evidence.
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So if you really want to see how common is abuse, the majority of abuse allegations that happen in
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So that tells us that the majority aren't even taking it to the police.
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But would you not think that if it's, if it's to do with family, then the reason is
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it's not a higher rate is because they don't want to break up that family.
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Well, if they're going to court, they're already breaking up the family.