JustPearlyThings - August 12, 2023


Modern Women Do This To Each Other


Episode Stats

Length

10 minutes

Words per Minute

214.83888

Word Count

2,358

Sentence Count

193

Misogynist Sentences

21

Hate Speech Sentences

17


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 I just think that modern women are selfish when it comes to their kids.
00:00:03.220 They care about themselves more than their kids.
00:00:05.080 And I think it's really sad.
00:00:06.720 And I think it actually ruins society because when you put yourself before
00:00:10.160 your kids, you mean you put your generation before the next generation.
00:00:15.160 But are there enough?
00:00:16.780 Okay.
00:00:17.260 Let me backtrack a bit.
00:00:18.900 So to the point of like people that are not having kids, right?
00:00:24.480 Do you reckon there's enough women that have passed that point of being able
00:00:28.640 to get pregnant?
00:00:30.000 That are actually speaking to younger women and saying, all right, listen.
00:00:34.220 Because that involves swallowing their pride and they don't want to do that.
00:00:36.720 But there's enough guys saying, hey, get your act together.
00:00:39.380 You know, you need money.
00:00:40.620 You need to do this.
00:00:41.560 You need networks.
00:00:42.160 You need to be able to defend yourself.
00:00:45.080 There's enough.
00:00:45.700 I feel like there's enough guys doing that.
00:00:48.220 I just want to know from the women, are there women that are doing that?
00:00:50.560 No.
00:00:51.060 No, there's a fundamental difference between guys and girls.
00:00:53.320 Guys will give guys genuine advice.
00:00:54.940 Girls won't.
00:00:55.740 Have you heard the whole phrase?
00:00:56.820 Because girls compete with each other.
00:00:58.440 Because if you're 25 and the girl that's 38, you're competing with her for the same
00:01:02.640 guy.
00:01:03.320 You've heard the phrase, a girl, a guy will insult a guy and not mean it.
00:01:07.120 A girl will compliment a girl and not mean it.
00:01:08.880 Yeah.
00:01:09.660 So it's one of those ones where those older girls you would think would give those
00:01:13.540 advice might say to you, oh, you're so pretty, you should do this.
00:01:15.880 But, like, they don't mean it.
00:01:17.640 It's like when you see girls, like, commenting on obese girls' pictures, like, beautiful,
00:01:23.680 love it.
00:01:24.300 Like, what are you doing?
00:01:25.260 It's not beautiful.
00:01:26.560 It's not worth it.
00:01:26.840 Why are you encouraging her?
00:01:28.240 Yeah, because, look, I say it like this, yeah.
00:01:33.020 With men, I don't care, like, you look at even Kevin, yeah.
00:01:38.420 I didn't care about the delivery because he's not talking to me directly.
00:01:41.480 People call up and, you know, they go.
00:01:42.780 Oh, yeah.
00:01:43.220 But if you're not talking to that person directly, you can see the delivery and look at that
00:01:48.340 as entertainment, but you can still take the message.
00:01:50.920 I think with women, it needs to be dissected in a way that makes them feel.
00:01:53.700 Directly to them, specifically for them.
00:01:56.200 They've got to feel great about it to receive it.
00:02:00.080 Whereas with guys, like, generally speaking, I'll just be like, cool.
00:02:03.640 Yeah, what he's saying makes sense.
00:02:05.580 And you move on, yeah.
00:02:06.480 And I apply it or I don't apply it.
00:02:08.500 Do you know what I mean?
00:02:08.920 But I believe there's enough men out there giving that direction.
00:02:11.620 And I think, you know, just from a conversation that we've had here just through on the panel,
00:02:16.280 you know, is it working for you to, if you want, if you know what you want kids and you
00:02:20.920 want this kind of, you want a certain kind of lifestyle, you want things, is the way
00:02:24.880 you're moving working for you?
00:02:26.620 And if it isn't, do you have people in your life that are saying that you can talk to
00:02:31.460 that haven't had kids and they can say, boom, all right, look, you know, time's ticking.
00:02:35.700 It will get to this point.
00:02:36.520 And this is how I feel now that I waited and I'm here.
00:02:39.920 But yeah, but you know what it is with that?
00:02:42.520 The biggest enemy to women most times is other women.
00:02:47.300 So like you.
00:02:48.200 Because we can't even admit there's a problem.
00:02:50.700 Other women are the downfall of women for a lot of the time because they will be the
00:02:54.840 ones who will feed you the stuff that you want to hear in one side, knowing good and
00:02:59.420 damn well that's not the advice you need to hear.
00:03:01.060 And then watch you walk out that door and make that mistake.
00:03:04.540 I'm going to read you guys some stats.
00:03:08.940 Some of these are from the US.
00:03:10.240 Some of these are from the UK.
00:03:11.660 So, you know, take them with a grain of salt.
00:03:14.280 But one in four women have an STD.
00:03:16.940 One in three women have had an abortion.
00:03:19.580 38% of kids are born into single parent homes.
00:03:22.860 The average age of first child is 26 and the average age of first marriage is 30.
00:03:27.260 45% of marriages end in divorce.
00:03:30.600 The average number of sexual partners for a woman is between four and eight.
00:03:34.860 And after women have slept with more than five people, she has a 20% chance of having
00:03:39.380 a happy marriage after 10 years.
00:03:41.660 If men get divorced, they can be financially ruined and their kids can be taken from them.
00:03:47.500 70% of women are overweight.
00:03:49.500 90% of women have used contraceptives at some point in their reproductive years.
00:03:53.700 And most have used more than one method throughout their lifetime.
00:03:57.260 So it's like, how do we look at these numbers and say we're doing well as a whole?
00:04:02.160 You know?
00:04:03.400 And I'm not saying, you know, that, like, because they'll always say, what about them?
00:04:08.660 I'm not saying men don't have issues, too.
00:04:10.100 But it's like, we can't even talk about our problems without people always having to point
00:04:13.560 out the men.
00:04:14.600 Like, we can never even just have a conversation about the issues that we have as women without
00:04:18.580 simps or women coming in saying, but men have problems, too.
00:04:22.600 Like, we can't even have one conversation about it.
00:04:24.740 Whereas back in the day, women used to actually sit down together and discuss things.
00:04:29.860 Or they'd say, you're not dressed well, you're not...
00:04:32.720 Yeah, we used to actually, like, catch each other up on stuff.
00:04:36.500 Like, you know, oh, you're showing too much.
00:04:38.500 Like, you're presenting yourself this way.
00:04:40.360 Or, you know, even something silly, like you didn't brush your hair.
00:04:43.100 Like, I feel like nowadays, like, girls sort of tiptoe around each other and they don't
00:04:47.320 even want to, like, tell their friend, like...
00:04:48.980 It depends what type of girl you are, though, if I'm completely honest.
00:04:51.600 I think if you're insecure and you're unhappy with what you're doing yourself, then you're
00:04:55.420 going to be a bit too to other people.
00:04:56.960 If you're happy and content, you've got to support.
00:04:59.240 Do you know what I mean?
00:05:00.160 So I think it's the individual.
00:05:01.220 I don't think supporting...
00:05:04.180 I think real supporting is being honest.
00:05:07.080 Yeah, but that's what I mean.
00:05:07.980 Like she said, you might not tell your friend if they haven't brushed your hair or something.
00:05:12.000 I would tell my friend.
00:05:12.340 Yeah, no, I would as well, but some girls wouldn't.
00:05:14.540 But that's because they're like, oh, well, I'm going to look better than you.
00:05:16.800 Yeah, they kind of want to see...
00:05:17.820 Do you know what I mean?
00:05:18.660 Fail, almost.
00:05:19.580 Because they're unhappy with themselves, so...
00:05:21.420 Which goes back to what I said.
00:05:22.960 A lot of times a woman's worst enemy is another woman.
00:05:25.640 Yeah.
00:05:25.940 Because a guy would point out the fact that, uh, your shirt's kind of inside out.
00:05:30.060 Yeah.
00:05:31.220 You know what I mean?
00:05:32.860 I believe, like, chastising someone in public is different.
00:05:35.600 Like, I don't think you should do that in front of other people.
00:05:37.820 Yeah, of course not.
00:05:38.360 But you should take...
00:05:38.940 If that's your real friend, then you should be able to take them to the side and say,
00:05:41.220 hey, you know what?
00:05:41.980 Hey, man.
00:05:42.400 Yeah.
00:05:42.700 Fix up.
00:05:43.180 Fix up.
00:05:43.540 Fix up.
00:05:43.900 Fix up.
00:05:44.400 And we can respect that.
00:05:45.800 And we won't look at that as, like, you being bitchy on it.
00:05:47.760 It's like, you know when you eat something, you've got something, your teeth are...
00:05:50.300 Please tell me.
00:05:51.980 Tell me.
00:05:53.000 Please tell me.
00:05:53.840 Like, even if you go...
00:05:55.240 Yeah.
00:05:56.100 Just tell me.
00:05:56.940 You know what I mean?
00:05:57.300 So I think, you know...
00:05:58.800 Because even at the beginning of my relationship with my girl now, I had to tell her...
00:06:03.420 We had a conversation where I was like, if there's an issue that you see, please just
00:06:06.560 tell me right there and then.
00:06:07.760 I don't want this whole passive-aggressive thinking about it for two weeks, don't bring
00:06:12.200 it up, and then vixing, talking to your girlfriends about it behind my back, and this
00:06:16.140 whole fucking month period, I had no idea this is an issue that you had.
00:06:19.620 All right.
00:06:19.960 With that, are you able to accept the delivery of her problem in any form?
00:06:26.660 Yeah.
00:06:26.900 I don't care about delivery.
00:06:27.640 It's just about what gets said.
00:06:29.800 Because with me, it's like, if I disagree with what you're saying, then we have a discussion
00:06:34.920 about what I disagree with.
00:06:36.320 But like, delivery is one of those things.
00:06:37.500 I get an example, right?
00:06:38.660 Let's say, for instance, it's in the bedroom, something that's sensitive, right?
00:06:41.260 Something like, boom.
00:06:42.520 Ah, you're not doing this, right?
00:06:46.640 If she thinks about it, and then she kind of...
00:06:49.400 Let's say you're having a stressful week at work or whatever like that, and then she kind
00:06:53.560 of puts that into her mind and thinks, all right, cool, maybe I approach it in this
00:06:57.300 way, as opposed to just be like, oh, you can't do this.
00:07:00.280 Like, you know, if she expresses the frustrations then and there without thinking about it at
00:07:04.420 all or like seeking some kind of advice, then do you not think that can have some kind
00:07:09.400 of detriment to how you're able to get over that?
00:07:12.240 Or are you saying that regardless of how she comes at you with whatever she comes at you,
00:07:15.560 you're going to be able to swallow it and move on as normal?
00:07:17.740 Kind of.
00:07:18.980 I get where you're coming from, but then I have to equate that to like, all right, let's
00:07:23.200 talk about like equate that to like football.
00:07:25.660 If your manager says you need to be there, you're going to be upset with him because my
00:07:30.720 mind, I'm having a really bad week at home.
00:07:33.500 So my manager has to talk to me a certain type of way.
00:07:36.060 If the information with me per se, and I know I'm a very black sheep when it comes to
00:07:40.900 this.
00:07:41.040 My girlfriend always says to me, you have the emotional capacity of a wooden spoon because
00:07:44.780 I don't really care about like emotions too tough.
00:07:46.660 If the information is necessary, please tell me and I will do the same.
00:07:50.180 Yeah, but he's talking sexually.
00:07:51.720 You mean you ain't fully pleasing a woman, right?
00:07:55.040 And then the worst thing with a woman, a woman would tell you, a lot of women talk with each
00:07:59.460 other about their sex and the size of their partner's this and what that partner's doing
00:08:04.740 and what you're not doing.
00:08:05.800 And then that girl, your partner would bring that in the bedroom and go, oh, well, my friend
00:08:09.480 tried this and blah, blah, blah.
00:08:11.140 And if you ain't satisfying her in a certain way, if you come at me,
00:08:14.780 in like a aggressive kind of way, like it will hurt my feelings.
00:08:20.220 Remember this, when you're having sex with someone, you're completely vulnerable with
00:08:25.080 each other.
00:08:25.900 Okay.
00:08:26.260 So which hurts more?
00:08:28.800 So when you're talking about like, so when you're talking about like, we, when you met
00:08:33.560 your partner and you always said, oh, like no matter what, just tell me whatever.
00:08:37.720 Like you can tell me, but you need to, if it's sexually, like you need to tell me in a
00:08:42.220 certain way, because I feel like I'm doing the best I can do.
00:08:45.180 Okay.
00:08:45.880 So if I'm not doing the best I can do, let me, I need you to maybe.
00:08:50.280 Let me ask, let me ask a question.
00:08:52.260 Which would hurt more?
00:08:53.520 Her directly saying, you need to do this better because you're not really doing that
00:08:56.800 that much.
00:08:57.300 Or her going through all of her friends and eventually saying to you.
00:09:00.500 She's going to go through her friends regardless.
00:09:03.020 Eventually her saying it to you nicely, but now, you know, all of her friends know.
00:09:07.820 Before you.
00:09:08.780 Remember this, when you, sex is a thing where people, where girls talk, bro.
00:09:13.140 Exactly.
00:09:13.400 So it's like, if you didn't fulfill her fantasy the first time, she already told her
00:09:16.760 friend.
00:09:16.920 So she probably told her friend first and then she's already come to you.
00:09:20.520 Her friends already know.
00:09:21.700 That's what I'm saying.
00:09:22.420 I want to be the first to know.
00:09:24.220 Yeah, but it's too late because girls talk.
00:09:26.280 She already told her friend when you messed up the first time.
00:09:28.680 That's why you bring up a relationship where it is, tell her straight out.
00:09:31.060 You don't know that.
00:09:31.600 You're not in control of that.
00:09:32.520 A woman's in control of that.
00:09:33.500 Of course.
00:09:33.920 Women talk.
00:09:34.780 You're not in no control of what a woman thinks and the way she talk.
00:09:38.980 Women talk.
00:09:39.940 No matter what you do, you could be the best guy, the best at whatever you're doing.
00:09:43.460 They are going to talk.
00:09:44.300 I need to listen to my man because he's been in them rooms.
00:09:46.280 I know.
00:09:47.120 I'm talking for experience.
00:09:48.740 I know.
00:09:49.300 I'm talking for experience because, listen, me, I would only do certain things on birthdays,
00:09:53.660 Valentine's Days and Christmas.
00:09:55.300 Anyone that's been with me knows what I'm talking about.
00:09:57.900 Now, if your friend or whatever gets it whenever, once a week, it's a downfall and I'll be like,
00:10:06.320 yeah, but you know, I do the best I can do on a celebration.
00:10:10.640 It's something you look forward to and you bring out the roses and the petals and the
00:10:14.080 whipped cream and the chocolate sauce, blah, blah, blah.
00:10:17.360 Crazy.
00:10:19.540 You know what I mean?
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