JustPearlyThings - Modern Women Do This To Each Other

00:00:00.000 I just think that modern women are selfish when it comes to their kids. 1.00

00:00:03.220 They care about themselves more than their kids.

00:00:05.080 And I think it's really sad.

00:00:06.720 And I think it actually ruins society because when you put yourself before

00:00:10.160 your kids, you mean you put your generation before the next generation.

00:00:15.160 But are there enough?

00:00:16.780 Okay.

00:00:17.260 Let me backtrack a bit.

00:00:18.900 So to the point of like people that are not having kids, right?

00:00:24.480 Do you reckon there's enough women that have passed that point of being able 1.00

00:00:28.640 to get pregnant? 0.96

00:00:30.000 That are actually speaking to younger women and saying, all right, listen.

00:00:34.220 Because that involves swallowing their pride and they don't want to do that.

00:00:36.720 But there's enough guys saying, hey, get your act together.

00:00:39.380 You know, you need money.

00:00:40.620 You need to do this.

00:00:41.560 You need networks.

00:00:42.160 You need to be able to defend yourself.

00:00:45.080 There's enough.

00:00:45.700 I feel like there's enough guys doing that.

00:00:48.220 I just want to know from the women, are there women that are doing that? 1.00

00:00:50.560 No.

00:00:51.060 No, there's a fundamental difference between guys and girls.

00:00:53.320 Guys will give guys genuine advice.

00:00:54.940 Girls won't. 1.00

00:00:55.740 Have you heard the whole phrase?

00:00:56.820 Because girls compete with each other. 1.00

00:00:58.440 Because if you're 25 and the girl that's 38, you're competing with her for the same

00:01:02.640 guy.

00:01:03.320 You've heard the phrase, a girl, a guy will insult a guy and not mean it. 1.00

00:01:07.120 A girl will compliment a girl and not mean it.

00:01:08.880 Yeah.

00:01:09.660 So it's one of those ones where those older girls you would think would give those 1.00

00:01:13.540 advice might say to you, oh, you're so pretty, you should do this.

00:01:15.880 But, like, they don't mean it.

00:01:17.640 It's like when you see girls, like, commenting on obese girls' pictures, like, beautiful, 0.79

00:01:23.680 love it.

00:01:24.300 Like, what are you doing?

00:01:25.260 It's not beautiful.

00:01:26.560 It's not worth it.

00:01:26.840 Why are you encouraging her?

00:01:28.240 Yeah, because, look, I say it like this, yeah.

00:01:33.020 With men, I don't care, like, you look at even Kevin, yeah.

00:01:38.420 I didn't care about the delivery because he's not talking to me directly.

00:01:41.480 People call up and, you know, they go.

00:01:42.780 Oh, yeah.

00:01:43.220 But if you're not talking to that person directly, you can see the delivery and look at that

00:01:48.340 as entertainment, but you can still take the message.

00:01:50.920 I think with women, it needs to be dissected in a way that makes them feel. 1.00

00:01:53.700 Directly to them, specifically for them.

00:01:56.200 They've got to feel great about it to receive it.

00:02:00.080 Whereas with guys, like, generally speaking, I'll just be like, cool.

00:02:03.640 Yeah, what he's saying makes sense.

00:02:05.580 And you move on, yeah.

00:02:06.480 And I apply it or I don't apply it.

00:02:08.500 Do you know what I mean?

00:02:08.920 But I believe there's enough men out there giving that direction.

00:02:11.620 And I think, you know, just from a conversation that we've had here just through on the panel,

00:02:16.280 you know, is it working for you to, if you want, if you know what you want kids and you

00:02:20.920 want this kind of, you want a certain kind of lifestyle, you want things, is the way

00:02:24.880 you're moving working for you?

00:02:26.620 And if it isn't, do you have people in your life that are saying that you can talk to

00:02:31.460 that haven't had kids and they can say, boom, all right, look, you know, time's ticking.

00:02:35.700 It will get to this point.

00:02:36.520 And this is how I feel now that I waited and I'm here.

00:02:39.920 But yeah, but you know what it is with that?

00:02:42.520 The biggest enemy to women most times is other women. 1.00

00:02:47.300 So like you.

00:02:48.200 Because we can't even admit there's a problem.

00:02:50.700 Other women are the downfall of women for a lot of the time because they will be the 1.00

00:02:54.840 ones who will feed you the stuff that you want to hear in one side, knowing good and 0.97

00:02:59.420 damn well that's not the advice you need to hear.

00:03:01.060 And then watch you walk out that door and make that mistake. 0.99

00:03:04.540 I'm going to read you guys some stats.

00:03:08.940 Some of these are from the US.

00:03:10.240 Some of these are from the UK.

00:03:11.660 So, you know, take them with a grain of salt.

00:03:14.280 But one in four women have an STD. 1.00

00:03:16.940 One in three women have had an abortion.

00:03:19.580 38% of kids are born into single parent homes.

00:03:22.860 The average age of first child is 26 and the average age of first marriage is 30.

00:03:27.260 45% of marriages end in divorce.

00:03:30.600 The average number of sexual partners for a woman is between four and eight.

00:03:34.860 And after women have slept with more than five people, she has a 20% chance of having 1.00

00:03:39.380 a happy marriage after 10 years.

00:03:41.660 If men get divorced, they can be financially ruined and their kids can be taken from them.

00:03:47.500 70% of women are overweight. 0.80

00:03:49.500 90% of women have used contraceptives at some point in their reproductive years.

00:03:53.700 And most have used more than one method throughout their lifetime.

00:03:57.260 So it's like, how do we look at these numbers and say we're doing well as a whole?

00:04:02.160 You know?

00:04:03.400 And I'm not saying, you know, that, like, because they'll always say, what about them?

00:04:08.660 I'm not saying men don't have issues, too.

00:04:10.100 But it's like, we can't even talk about our problems without people always having to point

00:04:13.560 out the men.

00:04:14.600 Like, we can never even just have a conversation about the issues that we have as women without 0.51

00:04:18.580 simps or women coming in saying, but men have problems, too. 0.57

00:04:22.600 Like, we can't even have one conversation about it.

00:04:24.740 Whereas back in the day, women used to actually sit down together and discuss things. 1.00

00:04:29.860 Or they'd say, you're not dressed well, you're not...

00:04:32.720 Yeah, we used to actually, like, catch each other up on stuff.

00:04:36.500 Like, you know, oh, you're showing too much.

00:04:38.500 Like, you're presenting yourself this way.

00:04:40.360 Or, you know, even something silly, like you didn't brush your hair.

00:04:43.100 Like, I feel like nowadays, like, girls sort of tiptoe around each other and they don't 0.99

00:04:47.320 even want to, like, tell their friend, like...

00:04:48.980 It depends what type of girl you are, though, if I'm completely honest.

00:04:51.600 I think if you're insecure and you're unhappy with what you're doing yourself, then you're

00:04:55.420 going to be a bit too to other people.

00:04:56.960 If you're happy and content, you've got to support.

00:04:59.240 Do you know what I mean?

00:05:00.160 So I think it's the individual.

00:05:01.220 I don't think supporting...

00:05:04.180 I think real supporting is being honest.

00:05:07.080 Yeah, but that's what I mean.

00:05:07.980 Like she said, you might not tell your friend if they haven't brushed your hair or something.

00:05:12.000 I would tell my friend.

00:05:12.340 Yeah, no, I would as well, but some girls wouldn't. 1.00

00:05:14.540 But that's because they're like, oh, well, I'm going to look better than you.

00:05:16.800 Yeah, they kind of want to see...

00:05:17.820 Do you know what I mean?

00:05:18.660 Fail, almost.

00:05:19.580 Because they're unhappy with themselves, so...

00:05:21.420 Which goes back to what I said.

00:05:22.960 A lot of times a woman's worst enemy is another woman. 1.00

00:05:25.640 Yeah.

00:05:25.940 Because a guy would point out the fact that, uh, your shirt's kind of inside out.

00:05:30.060 Yeah.

00:05:31.220 You know what I mean?

00:05:32.860 I believe, like, chastising someone in public is different.

00:05:35.600 Like, I don't think you should do that in front of other people.

00:05:37.820 Yeah, of course not.

00:05:38.360 But you should take...

00:05:38.940 If that's your real friend, then you should be able to take them to the side and say,

00:05:41.220 hey, you know what?

00:05:41.980 Hey, man.

00:05:42.400 Yeah.

00:05:42.700 Fix up.

00:05:43.180 Fix up.

00:05:43.540 Fix up.

00:05:43.900 Fix up.

00:05:44.400 And we can respect that.

00:05:45.800 And we won't look at that as, like, you being bitchy on it.

00:05:47.760 It's like, you know when you eat something, you've got something, your teeth are...

00:05:50.300 Please tell me.

00:05:51.980 Tell me.

00:05:53.000 Please tell me.

00:05:53.840 Like, even if you go...

00:05:55.240 Yeah.

00:05:56.100 Just tell me.

00:05:56.940 You know what I mean?

00:05:57.300 So I think, you know...

00:05:58.800 Because even at the beginning of my relationship with my girl now, I had to tell her...

00:06:03.420 We had a conversation where I was like, if there's an issue that you see, please just

00:06:06.560 tell me right there and then.

00:06:07.760 I don't want this whole passive-aggressive thinking about it for two weeks, don't bring

00:06:12.200 it up, and then vixing, talking to your girlfriends about it behind my back, and this 0.83

00:06:16.140 whole fucking month period, I had no idea this is an issue that you had. 0.90

00:06:19.620 All right. 0.98

00:06:19.960 With that, are you able to accept the delivery of her problem in any form?

00:06:26.660 Yeah.

00:06:26.900 I don't care about delivery.

00:06:27.640 It's just about what gets said.

00:06:29.800 Because with me, it's like, if I disagree with what you're saying, then we have a discussion

00:06:34.920 about what I disagree with.

00:06:36.320 But like, delivery is one of those things.

00:06:37.500 I get an example, right?

00:06:38.660 Let's say, for instance, it's in the bedroom, something that's sensitive, right?

00:06:41.260 Something like, boom.

00:06:42.520 Ah, you're not doing this, right?

00:06:46.640 If she thinks about it, and then she kind of...

00:06:49.400 Let's say you're having a stressful week at work or whatever like that, and then she kind

00:06:53.560 of puts that into her mind and thinks, all right, cool, maybe I approach it in this

00:06:57.300 way, as opposed to just be like, oh, you can't do this.

00:07:00.280 Like, you know, if she expresses the frustrations then and there without thinking about it at

00:07:04.420 all or like seeking some kind of advice, then do you not think that can have some kind

00:07:09.400 of detriment to how you're able to get over that?

00:07:12.240 Or are you saying that regardless of how she comes at you with whatever she comes at you,

00:07:15.560 you're going to be able to swallow it and move on as normal?

00:07:17.740 Kind of.

00:07:18.980 I get where you're coming from, but then I have to equate that to like, all right, let's

00:07:23.200 talk about like equate that to like football.

00:07:25.660 If your manager says you need to be there, you're going to be upset with him because my

00:07:30.720 mind, I'm having a really bad week at home.

00:07:33.500 So my manager has to talk to me a certain type of way.

00:07:36.060 If the information with me per se, and I know I'm a very black sheep when it comes to

00:07:40.900 this.

00:07:41.040 My girlfriend always says to me, you have the emotional capacity of a wooden spoon because

00:07:44.780 I don't really care about like emotions too tough.

00:07:46.660 If the information is necessary, please tell me and I will do the same.

00:07:50.180 Yeah, but he's talking sexually.

00:07:51.720 You mean you ain't fully pleasing a woman, right?

00:07:55.040 And then the worst thing with a woman, a woman would tell you, a lot of women talk with each 1.00

00:07:59.460 other about their sex and the size of their partner's this and what that partner's doing

00:08:04.740 and what you're not doing.

00:08:05.800 And then that girl, your partner would bring that in the bedroom and go, oh, well, my friend

00:08:09.480 tried this and blah, blah, blah.

00:08:11.140 And if you ain't satisfying her in a certain way, if you come at me,

00:08:14.780 in like a aggressive kind of way, like it will hurt my feelings.

00:08:20.220 Remember this, when you're having sex with someone, you're completely vulnerable with

00:08:25.080 each other.

00:08:25.900 Okay.

00:08:26.260 So which hurts more?

00:08:28.800 So when you're talking about like, so when you're talking about like, we, when you met

00:08:33.560 your partner and you always said, oh, like no matter what, just tell me whatever.

00:08:37.720 Like you can tell me, but you need to, if it's sexually, like you need to tell me in a

00:08:42.220 certain way, because I feel like I'm doing the best I can do.

00:08:45.180 Okay.

00:08:45.880 So if I'm not doing the best I can do, let me, I need you to maybe.

00:08:50.280 Let me ask, let me ask a question.

00:08:52.260 Which would hurt more?

00:08:53.520 Her directly saying, you need to do this better because you're not really doing that

00:08:56.800 that much.

00:08:57.300 Or her going through all of her friends and eventually saying to you.

00:09:00.500 She's going to go through her friends regardless.

00:09:03.020 Eventually her saying it to you nicely, but now, you know, all of her friends know.

00:09:07.820 Before you.

00:09:08.780 Remember this, when you, sex is a thing where people, where girls talk, bro. 0.57

00:09:13.140 Exactly.

00:09:13.400 So it's like, if you didn't fulfill her fantasy the first time, she already told her

00:09:16.760 friend.

00:09:16.920 So she probably told her friend first and then she's already come to you.

00:09:20.520 Her friends already know.

00:09:21.700 That's what I'm saying.

00:09:22.420 I want to be the first to know.

00:09:24.220 Yeah, but it's too late because girls talk. 1.00

00:09:26.280 She already told her friend when you messed up the first time.

00:09:28.680 That's why you bring up a relationship where it is, tell her straight out.

00:09:31.060 You don't know that.

00:09:31.600 You're not in control of that.

00:09:32.520 A woman's in control of that. 1.00

00:09:33.500 Of course.

00:09:33.920 Women talk. 1.00

00:09:34.780 You're not in no control of what a woman thinks and the way she talk.

00:09:38.980 Women talk. 1.00

00:09:39.940 No matter what you do, you could be the best guy, the best at whatever you're doing.

00:09:43.460 They are going to talk.

00:09:44.300 I need to listen to my man because he's been in them rooms.

00:09:46.280 I know.

00:09:47.120 I'm talking for experience.

00:09:48.740 I know.

00:09:49.300 I'm talking for experience because, listen, me, I would only do certain things on birthdays,

00:09:53.660 Valentine's Days and Christmas.

00:09:55.300 Anyone that's been with me knows what I'm talking about.

00:09:57.900 Now, if your friend or whatever gets it whenever, once a week, it's a downfall and I'll be like,

00:10:06.320 yeah, but you know, I do the best I can do on a celebration.

00:10:10.640 It's something you look forward to and you bring out the roses and the petals and the

00:10:14.080 whipped cream and the chocolate sauce, blah, blah, blah.

00:10:17.360 Crazy.

00:10:19.540 You know what I mean?

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JustPearlyThings - August 12, 2023

Modern Women Do This To Each Other

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