JustPearlyThings - July 29, 2023


Modern Women Don't Agree With THIS


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00:00:00.000 coming up next and are attracted to women so of course women are going to have a better
00:00:05.840 working experience working for men women are attracted to men
00:00:11.520 so and the sky is blue and and and the statistic supports that that says that women prefer
00:00:21.900 but i'm saying it's equal it's equal but the only difference is that women women don't like
00:00:27.580 working for women they like working for men men say i don't care hiring people has actually like
00:00:32.240 kind of put me like understand like why there's more men and leadership positions and positions
00:00:38.800 of power because i found like the the best paid jobs and the high like jobs like women don't want
00:00:44.520 to do because it's they're stressful so like my so i'll give you an example so my recruiting my
00:00:50.920 recruiter like that's probably one of the highest paid jobs i have that's a really hard job to get
00:00:55.840 that many people in like what i need 20 to 50 girls four days a week that's really hard and
00:01:02.140 it's stressful because if you don't get me guests like the whole show fails so it's it's paid well
00:01:07.180 but it's also high stress but i i had um my roommate jess i said you would make way more money you can
00:01:14.000 do this job she did for a week she said you can't pay me to do this this sucks and when i and when i
00:01:17.920 i brought the job to my team none of no one on my team wanted to do it and it's like they could make
00:01:22.700 double what they're making at their jobs that they do but it's hard you guys think it's um offensive
00:01:28.080 to make general statements about a gender no men tend to be better in leadership i mean stereotypes
00:01:36.500 are there for a reason and they come from somewhere you know but overall we are generalizing and
00:01:41.480 i feel like there's a lot of like we've been bashing right now within the workplace but
00:01:46.780 if we look at it as well you know in history the women went to work what sort of from the 50s and
00:01:53.460 60s and whereas we first had you know the women being the hormone uh home mayor um maker homemaker
00:02:01.620 that's the word i'm looking for i'm like the farm too yeah i'm sorry i'm thinking u.s actually i was
00:02:07.140 thinking about the u.s too that's where i read the statistics from but basically when the women went
00:02:12.420 into the workforce sort of the family side of things struggled that was also when divorce rates
00:02:17.660 went up by i think like 80 percent or something crazy like that but it was also after the development
00:02:22.660 of birth control yes it all came around the same same time yeah but i mean um they're like bring me
00:02:29.740 back to the street i think if we're gonna be that particular like men are better than leaders
00:02:37.360 oh where's this world going i can't say nothing i can't just think out loud at this point bloody hell
00:02:44.220 no wait so you're saying we should be able to say that it's just your opinion yeah it's not
00:02:49.380 calling anybody hasn't got any references into anything graphic or inappropriate
00:02:54.060 yeah because i just don't know we keep saying we keep saying there are exceptions and i'm like i know
00:03:01.120 there are exceptions but like we can make general statements about to be fair though i do think it
00:03:06.220 depends on the topic with generalization like the topics that we had before that were very like
00:03:11.540 it can be very yeah touch like touchy in subjects it generalizing can be too much like when you were
00:03:17.340 both going and talking about like the specifics of the numbers you were using it can be dependent on
00:03:23.100 the topic really generalization we all do it with everything but yeah with certain like subjects you
00:03:29.140 have to be a bit more particular i think i think nowadays um with the rise and evolution of feminism
00:03:38.420 um more women um who hear um certain generalizations that don't necessarily paint um women in a good
00:03:50.140 light will take umbrage to those generalizations and then those would be that they will be the ones
00:03:55.680 to say something you know get triggered and want to kind of dispute it or even if even if it's a
00:04:02.020 factual thing um they will still say i don't agree you can still fudge the numbers though so statistically
00:04:09.180 there are more men in the workforce therefore the statistics will lean better into their their favor
00:04:13.920 so in order to say that men are better leaders numerically they are better leaders because they
00:04:18.960 asked no because they asked women the the study i was saying was um they they picked female-led
00:04:25.740 industries and they like what were the female-led industry i can i can i can read it you have to be
00:04:32.160 very careful pearly things why about statistics because what should we go wait wait wait wait wait
00:04:40.940 wait wait wait wait wait wait wait watch it guys guys what should guys who's laughing in the mic it's
00:04:46.980 me i'm sorry i'm sorry i apologize what should what should we go off our feelings sorry if we don't go
00:04:51.760 off of stats what are we going to go off of i can like who wrote these statistics who funded these
00:04:56.420 statistics thank you the let's see a new study ucla okay it's a university yeah i know the i know
00:05:06.400 the university thank you yeah it says a uc a study taught at ucla um a much smaller survey by ucla law
00:05:15.760 firm staff ucla yeah it's a college american so it's not ucla no they they took stats from the uk
00:05:24.840 to i think no no this is american oh it's american yeah i think interesting i think what she's trying
00:05:30.840 to say thank you um is just how many people would actually fill out stuff to do with this and then
00:05:39.800 those demographical people i'm i don't care for what i'm actually saying just trying to reference
00:05:44.520 what she's saying so those people that would fill out a survey versus people that wouldn't fill out a
00:05:48.360 survey this is just i just feel like sometimes we jump through hoops whenever women like i just feel
00:05:54.680 like sometimes i feel like we we jump through hoops whenever women look bad like to to somehow change
00:06:01.000 the narrative for us not to look bad but we can say women run the world and nobody nobody even pushes
00:06:05.880 back on that okay so it's like you have to understand we can always so with statistics okay so men lie
00:06:13.720 numbers don't men lie women lie numbers don't lie but numbers can be manipulated depending who's looking
00:06:18.120 at them and what they wanted to say so we can say that right but if we look generally how the world
00:06:23.560 since the beginning of time has done censuses then we we we take the majority or we take it we take a
00:06:29.240 slice of it and then we generalize right if we don't do that we will never ever able to come to
00:06:34.760 some type of like general you know decision on something so we have to do that it might not be
00:06:39.720 perfect sometimes some people might get roped into it some people might get left out but this is the best
00:06:45.320 that we have and this is what and this is what the world has been using since the beginning of time
00:06:50.040 from when from when pontus pilot had to go do censuses and go literally from then them times
00:06:55.000 there from when the passover was happening and they wanted to know how many people were inside each
00:06:58.840 from them times they'd be taking numbers down yeah so unless one of you guys can give me i was gonna
00:07:03.640 say i can go on give me one no because because you're speaking about before the dawn of time before
00:07:08.600 the dawn of time it was a man's man's world that's the saying that a lot of people like to bring up in
00:07:12.440 it from back in the day like it's a man's world everything's very man-made that's because men
00:07:16.200 built the world yeah but for me it's like condition of the mind see it from my perspective i did
00:07:19.960 psychology so i believe that everything is like some form of like introductory it's like planting
00:07:23.880 a seed it's going to grow if i'm always surrounded by male counterparts in power if i'm always being
00:07:28.680 told that a male is the one that's meant to hold me down you know protect me like a male is meant to be
00:07:33.080 you know my version of god essentially because he's meant to be my everything at this point this is the
00:07:37.640 society that they built up on women couldn't do it there's no society we couldn't we wasn't given
00:07:42.840 a chance no we were that we could have done it just like the men did it but like no but wait wait but
00:07:47.240 no but no society wait wait wait stop do not interrupt me no no society that has stood the test
00:07:54.280 of time was run by women women had just as much opportunity as men and men and men still run the
00:08:00.760 world i mean they run our whole infrastructure if if men disappeared tomorrow like the lights would go
00:08:05.800 out the plumbing would stop where if women they would be fine it's possible to it to an extent
00:08:10.920 but the point i'm trying to make is that imagine if you're only being surrounded by a male energy
00:08:17.240 you're not going to know any difference to them yeah but i want to know i want to know
00:08:20.440 that's why the statistics um given more prominent male do you get it because everyone's been surrounded
00:08:25.240 by males if you if you were forced to be in a female you know i am we live like okay so management
00:08:30.360 wise we're talking about management no but i'm talking about consensus i'm talking about census and
00:08:33.800 getting a demographic of people i want to know how the fact that men like men are there like what
00:08:39.000 you say makes 60 000 women all the sense to say that actually working for women creates me more
00:08:43.400 problems i want to know what has men done to make women say actually if i work for a woman i don't
00:08:48.040 actually like it as much 60 000 60 000 men are attracted to women so of course women are going to have a
00:08:56.120 better working experience working for men women are attracted to men
00:09:05.640 so and the sky is blue and the statistics support that that says that women prefer
00:09:14.680 it's equal but the only difference is that women women don't like working for women they like working
00:09:19.480 for men men say i don't care i feel like men have a certain approach like we're saying women and men are
00:09:23.720 very different in the workplace and i feel like their approaches are different so maybe males tend
00:09:27.560 to like interactive women in a more like you know they understand the nature of women hiring people
00:09:33.560 has actually like kind of put me like understand like why there's more men and leadership positions
00:09:40.280 and positions of power because i found like the the best paid jobs and the high like jobs like women
00:09:46.200 don't want to do because it's they're stressful so like my so i'll give you an example so my recruiting my
00:09:52.920 recruiter like that's probably one of the highest paid jobs i have that's a really hard job to get
00:09:57.960 that many people in like what i need 20 to 50 girls four days a week that's really hard and it's
00:10:04.280 stressful because if you don't get me guests like the whole show fails so it's it's paid well but it's
00:10:09.480 also high stress but i i had um my roommate jess i said you would make way more money you can do this
00:10:16.280 job she did it for a week she said you can't pay me to do this this sucks and when i and when i i brought
00:10:20.600 the job to my team no one on my team wanted to do it and it's like they could make double what they're
00:10:25.400 making at their jobs that they do but it's hard are you sure that i've been i agree but that may
00:10:30.680 be a little bit of law of averages yeah what do you mean uh law of average of what like obviously it
00:10:35.960 would have been a waste of time and money that's why you wouldn't have gone the route of law on
00:10:39.640 average but if you tried more and more girls you would have stumbled across one that could handle it
00:10:44.920 you didn't know i'm not i'm not saying that like no women can do it that's not that's not what i'm
00:10:50.040 saying like i i would i would kill i used to do recruiting i would kill oh my god i would i would
00:10:56.040 kill the recruiting but like i just think in general women don't want to do those jobs like like across
00:11:01.400 the board like women don't want the super high stress jobs and even even like oil rigs right like
00:11:09.400 that's a six-figure job you can do right away how many of y'all want to go work on an oil rig no
00:11:15.240 yeah yeah i i you couldn't pay me they could pay me 300k a year you would not catch me on an oil
00:11:20.440 but that goes back to like it's a man's world a lot of things were started from men doing a lot of
00:11:25.000 do you know what i'm saying no no i think i think men just i think women just don't want to do hard
00:11:29.960 jobs i feel like we just don't want to do something that doesn't serve us well i feel like for myself
00:11:35.800 i don't mind doing a job that can be a bit you know intense but it needs to serve me well i feel
00:11:39.800 like some women they feel like they've been served well so 100 grams so you could work you could work
00:11:43.880 on the nights on a train engineering on train you know guys in the orange and that yeah yeah you can
00:11:48.200 there's not nothing stopping you from doing that job nothing from you can make 100k doing that job
00:11:52.200 yeah it doesn't how can 100k not serve you well not to say that 100k is not serving me well but do i
00:11:57.160 want to be bending and straining my back long term for how many years that's going to give me a long-term
00:12:02.040 um you know health difference but men don't have a choice right right give me you do because you
00:12:07.240 don't have that job no okay but if we but if we don't do okay wait so let me do that no no no no
00:12:12.360 no but if we don't do that job if we don't do that job you cannot catch a train no no no no no because
00:12:19.480 this is what you're doing there's another guy that will but you won't do it so so but you could but
00:12:24.440 you won't do something else no but this is okay but this is this is this is the point so this is
00:12:30.440 this is the point when i said like met like women don't want to build the world because like even
00:12:34.840 no no no no no i'm saying like you said but you're picking we stop stop this is what i'm saying like
00:12:40.280 in society like you were saying it's cultural right and like like because women didn't see
00:12:45.000 like women in positions of power it's all influence but i'm even today when we have every opportunity
00:12:49.160 women still don't want to do it they don't want to do the hardest jobs which put your body on the line
00:12:54.120 of course like i said yeah that's that was one of the things that i did say even i used to i
00:12:58.840 used to interview there was there was a point there there was a point where i interviewed um top
00:13:03.720 executives um i i just decided i wanted more rich friends and it's kind of funny you can call them
00:13:08.680 up yeah yeah i just thought i was like my friend group too broke and so what i did was i like to network
00:13:15.720 um this is when i was 22 i just called them up and said i'm 22 i want to learn and like i talked to
00:13:21.480 like top executives at billion dollar companies and you get to see the toll like because they've
00:13:26.440 been working 80 no on their face seriously they look so tired they look so burned out because
00:13:31.080 they've been working 80 hours a week for 30 40 years who wants to do that you couldn't pay me to
00:13:35.720 work that much oh i think subconscious just quickly say very like i think it's also we need to
00:13:42.440 acknowledge that it's sort of like a generational trauma thing because if you saw your dad working 80
00:13:48.120 hours and your you know that your granddad did that and then that's the generation that you came
00:13:53.560 from no there's no trauma no trauma my dad loves it he still works my dad wouldn't be who he was
00:13:57.800 without working maybe not not generational trauma just a generational pattern shall we say but when you
00:14:03.160 see you know because we lead by example as parents so we sort of are conditioned whether it's negatively
00:14:09.080 or positively to sort of go into the same sort of roles as our parents it's when we break those patterns
00:14:16.200 and go off and do different things but that's like a little bit strange no no no it's just i make
00:14:20.040 observations and i just i like again my dad has friends that are in similar fields and him like do
00:14:26.040 as well as he does and i'm just saying women i promise women because the women don't see it exactly
00:14:31.880 i agree with you on that yeah because again they've seen their generations of patterns with maybe um you
00:14:38.920 know the the home home makers um you know they've seen the home makers or they've seen you know their
00:14:46.280 their the women in their family in certain roles and then because they've been you know again like
00:14:52.600 learning how old are these people we've been we've had been able to work since the 70s
00:14:58.280 actually it they say that it takes like two decades for like a change to be implemented in society like
00:15:04.360 bully so i do still think we are changing the gender they started entering the workforce at world
00:15:09.480 war ii sorry go ahead but no no i like i'm i just think that it's going to take more time if women want
00:15:17.720 these big jobs and they probably won't want the more physical ones that they're not possible you know
00:15:24.440 able to do but i think it will just take longer for women to have those higher roles maybe so why is it
00:15:32.840 why is it that when countries where women have more choice the pay gap increases it doesn't decrease
00:15:38.680 so if you if you make a list of countries so like let's say saudi arabia women have less choice
00:15:43.560 and we say in um more what is it either it's eastern europe no no not eastern european it's um
00:15:53.080 there's one country where it's like but okay let's take the us there's more free they're more free right
00:15:57.960 so when you look at countries that are more free the pay gap increases it doesn't decrease and you get
00:16:02.280 more women like you get more women being nurses and more men being doctors rather than decreasing
00:16:07.960 why do you think that is if if if it's like a generational thing subconsciously for me i have
00:16:13.800 i don't have kids but i already feel like that's going to be the hardest job on earth
00:16:16.920 so i'm just like maybe maybe men do the rest because um carry what uh do what no my titty uh
00:16:31.880 so i'm happy to be on this side of stuff i'm happy i'm i'm okay i can dip my toe in over there you know i
00:16:39.880 can carry a little one darling sorry i can carry your one thing for you i can help but like i i
00:16:47.480 think subconsciously whether i'm conditioned or not i just feel like giving birth and being a mum
00:16:54.280 that is for life i'm i don't know but i feel like that's gonna be harder that's the job that holds like
00:17:01.560 i'm yeah i'm the physical portal to the physical and okay guys you can take over thank you
00:17:12.360 half of women are in our generation aren't going to have kids 50 of women that are um hit 30 are
00:17:17.320 single and childless and they're predicting that 40 45 of um women between the ages of 25 and 45
00:17:24.680 aren't going to have kids because because feminism's on the rise anything because um i don't i think
00:17:31.640 women they can't find a guy they want to they can't get a guy that they want to have kids interesting
00:17:37.160 i think it's i think it's because i think it's because feminism's on the rise i think that's a
00:17:42.120 part of it i think that the not having kids and the the title of this uh this question in fact
00:17:49.080 can modern women be be men it's all due to the rise of feminism there are so many reasons though
00:17:56.920 yeah yeah yeah yeah i think but i think all of those reasons are connected to the rise of what would
00:18:03.080 the the other reasons be that are connected to feminism well apart from feminism why else are
00:18:10.360 women not having children from 24 they can't afford it they're predicting between 25 to 45 and 50
00:18:17.000 percent of women that what wait and 50 of women that hit 30 are single and childless because it's
00:18:21.960 okay to not want to yeah except the women over the ages of 45 with no kids or family um are the
00:18:29.880 rated the least happy well maybe we're catching up we're catching up yeah but can i just say something
00:18:35.640 but that probably goes down to when you see older guys getting with younger girls is that because
00:18:40.200 they're miserable it's because they don't want to date women their age because because the women their
00:18:45.000 age are miserable i'm in one fruit so so i spoke about this i spoke about this last week to be
00:18:54.280 fair yeah um so so a lot of women so so you have from 18 to 28 you have let's say 10 years those
00:19:01.560 your prime years um those years when you're going outside the world moves for you you go into places
00:19:05.960 you know i'm gonna say you get in you get free entry um the top guys you you know you literally
00:19:11.320 it's your best time of your life right everyone sees you between 18 to 20 is when no one really
00:19:15.720 sees us men these are when we have to create our value so women are born with value men inherently we
00:19:20.440 have to create our value so a lot of times is you at 18 to 28 you can pick a guy that's studying you
00:19:25.720 could pick a guy that's just trying to try trying to come up just an ordinary guy but what you tend to
00:19:29.720 do is you don't tend to pick these guys you tend to go for the top 20 of guys that have access to
00:19:34.040 multiple women so now we have 100 of women going for 20 of guys and so you spend 18 to 28 dating
00:19:40.680 bad boys dating as we like to call them chad and tyrone and running up your body so yeah um chad and
00:19:46.440 tyrone and running up your body count so then what tends to happen as you get to 28 is when women
00:19:50.680 start to get a little bit um oh my god they start to see the guys they didn't see but now these guys
00:19:55.560 that you didn't see they recognize you didn't see them and there's a new set of women so while you're
00:19:59.320 outside now and you're 28 or 30 there's a whole new set of women now but you feel as if that the
00:20:05.000 men in their 30s to be speaking to you but um they're not so a lot of the times what women say is
00:20:10.680 oh men are trying to find young girls so they can manipulate them so they can do all these types of
00:20:14.440 things what they're trying to do is they're trying to make it fair because they're not it's now
00:20:17.560 competition but when we was 18 and 20 and 20 21 23 and the women were jumping out out of the big cars
00:20:23.960 in west end all the guys popping the bottles like we said the sparklers we had to feel it it was not
00:20:28.120 nice we had to feel the bitter but you girls didn't care when you was like you guys literally
00:20:31.880 didn't care so now we're in our 30s and our life is up and we're doing really well why would we pick
00:20:36.280 you when a lot of you girls come with trauma a lot of you girls come with kids and us men don't have
00:20:40.520 kids and we're doing really well we'll just look past you women women only swipe right on dating apps
00:20:45.080 five percent of the time where men swipe right 45 yeah so and that's the thing like i always say women
00:20:50.520 women say things like men are trash or men are the problems because they're all sleeping with the same ones
00:20:54.120 no my okay my point was is our older men going for younger women because in their older age are
00:21:00.760 they miserable so they have to feel they're getting their confidence back by getting with younger women
00:21:05.400 no i'm no i think i think i think men's lives get better after 45 because they actually have money
00:21:10.840 they're usually in better okay this is a question for everyone do you think roles reverse that women
00:21:15.000 are happy when they're younger yeah yes and then less happy yeah i mean why do you think why do you
00:21:19.720 why do you think women why do you think women spend three hundred thousand dollars in their
00:21:23.640 lifetime on beauty products that's the number one thing that women out like outspend men in
00:21:28.840 why do you think women spend so much money on botox lip filler all that stuff they're trying to look
00:21:33.000 young i'm sorry i think innately innately women know it listen we just we just heard the pattern like
00:21:39.080 china china just gave you the gold fact pattern of what how it goes and we skipped past it so quickly
00:21:47.720 we didn't even take it in like that's exactly that's how it goes you just that's it that's the
00:21:54.360 pattern right there that's what happens um okay so i have but there was questions asked after that
00:22:00.200 which it's like no one understood that he just answered everything so basically i'm not i'm not
00:22:05.400 miserable i'm happy man sorry i don't i hardly swear but i you know what it is i'm just happy life's
00:22:09.640 good like so i don't understand my girls in the early 20s i just just like my life is really good so
00:22:13.720 this thing where they want to act like men no we're living our life and and and it's the women
00:22:18.200 i get in their 30s that trying to make it fair they're trying to make it no but it doesn't have
00:22:21.400 to be fair because it wasn't fair for us early and then we had to go through life it not being fair
00:22:26.760 eating not being looked at but now we're not eating we're eating caviar on state you know what i'm saying
00:22:31.320 to you and i'm happy as i get older yeah okay okay um um so i i have a question for the men um do you
00:22:39.640 prefer female leadership male leadership or do you not have a preference i don't i don't have i don't
00:22:46.840 have a preference but i do know that i have experienced both okay i i don't care but i've
00:22:52.520 got i don't i don't have a preference i've got i've got mentors um who everything i learned
00:22:58.120 professionally like i'm indebted to them forever um one like two of them are women one's one's a man
00:23:06.120 but yeah i don't have a preference you know i love them all the same have you ever seen someone
00:23:12.200 at work get falsely accused of essay yes let me tell you something very quickly on that
00:23:21.080 so sorry i breathed into the camera um at my at my at my last my last job when i was an employee um
00:23:31.640 um so there was there was like a weird um situation going on where if if anyone told if
00:23:40.520 anyone knows me i i just i tell the truth like that's that's what i'm that's what i'm known for
00:23:45.880 yeah that's what my channel's about 100 interviews go and check that out on youtube um so basically
00:23:53.640 it does offend people sometimes you know some you know people want to hear nice things but
00:23:58.600 unfortunately i wish i could you know the truth was always nice but it's it's not i'm just the
00:24:04.600 messenger i'm just gonna tell you what it is and unfortunately sometimes it's gonna make people
00:24:09.720 uncomfortable so this was happening at work and the hr lady um did not uh love the fact that i was
00:24:19.720 doing this and highlighting certain things so she tried to put me under something called a performance
00:24:25.640 review um and started trying to like follow me like outside of work i just i turn i turn and see
00:24:34.040 her certain places like all of a sudden she's on my same tube into work and weird little things that
00:24:39.880 i thought i kind of thought nothing of and then um one day she called me into a meeting it was just me
00:24:47.800 and me and her in a room and i was very she she said to me um she said she said something about black
00:24:56.120 people yeah um which i know is not the topic but immediately in that moment i resigned i had i
00:25:03.400 resigned the job um and but the way i did it the way i did it because it's just me and this lady in the
00:25:10.920 room i'm a big black guy i very very carefully said to her with a smile on my face i would like to
00:25:18.120 resign it's not you yeah it's not you it's it's all good um but i've been thinking about it for a
00:25:24.760 while um i've already written the letter i hadn't um i'll say i'll send it to you later on i just i'd
00:25:31.160 like to resign i think i'm ready to move on with a smile walked out the room and then went and made
00:25:38.120 sure i was somewhere where everyone could see me and started to explain to one or two of my
00:25:42.520 colleagues what happened uh and then shortly after that i moved on because i know that if i had not um
00:25:51.320 for some reason i felt like if i hadn't handled that situation in that way that woman could have
00:25:56.440 come out of that room and said anything about me doing essay or anything to her in that room and
00:26:04.760 you know i'm not a weirdo not that i look like a weirdo or nothing but you know it's not hard for
00:26:12.440 someone to say oh look at this poor um young um you know little white woman and this big black guy and
00:26:19.720 it's it's believable if someone says something about like about me um something about me like that
00:26:25.960 it's believable look at the size of me you know i'm saying so i had to handle that situation very
00:26:30.760 carefully and use my wits um so yeah i just wanted to tell that that story very quickly on that point
00:26:39.400 and but did she accuse you of something or no no no no she she couldn't because the way i did it
00:26:44.600 okay yeah the way i did it she couldn't there was no cameras in that room but the way i kind of smiled
00:26:49.160 and you know made her just made her comfortable and then but alex yeah what what was the assumption
00:26:56.040 what was the assumption that she could say that about you he was safeguarding it's like
00:27:01.720 so do you know do you know what it is yeah um i've just see i've seen enough situations
00:27:10.200 what have you seen enough situations like that where people have been blamed so i learn from
00:27:16.440 other people's mistakes and it's and it's not a person's mistake sorry but it's not a person's
00:27:20.680 mistake to not look out for the lie that's coming against them but it's it's still i learned from
00:27:27.320 that situation and decided exactly how i was going to handle you know that situation at that time when
00:27:34.680 they're spiteful i've heard guys talk about how they were accused of essay after they rejected a girl
00:27:40.120 and like there is there's one case in the us where a girl accused a guy of essay and um they they
00:27:46.200 kicked him out of the school even after footage came out of her pulling him in to kiss her at the
00:27:51.960 bar her pulling him back to the dorm and like clearly like flirting with him all over him all night
00:27:58.760 and then like he still got kicked out of the school even with all that evidence and footage that came
00:28:04.200 forward that's the problem like it's easier for women to play that card than it is for men like men
00:28:08.840 don't have any sort of backup on that topic and that happens every day so what he's saying like i completely
00:28:15.400 understand what about you china yeah so i know so many um i could give you examples of this but what
00:28:22.440 so it's you know what i'll say remember the story that i told you i'm not going to speak about that
00:28:27.080 but i'm actually um i'm actually writing a play about something like something about this we're
00:28:30.520 going to put it on next year so when it yeah as we get through i'll let people know but there's
00:28:33.880 actually a story that i'm writing about it's quite it's quite poignant and so i'm putting it we're going
00:28:37.640 to put on um uh stick on on on a theater production of it next year uh so but what i will talk about i'm
00:28:44.120 gonna talk about a friend of mine's case i'm not going to speak too much about him because i don't
00:28:47.240 want to let it go but what i will say is a friend of mine was working he had a very good job
00:28:52.920 um in the educational sector um he was uh there was a new role that's about to come out he there
00:28:59.720 was a colleague of him they used to have a bit of balance but it was nothing you know i'm trying
00:29:03.080 to say to you he went for a job role she went for a job role he was given the job role she was not
00:29:07.880 given the job role everything was fine up to that point after that point he was given the job role
00:29:12.040 he obviously became her boss and then now he had to get her to do certain things and you know i mean
00:29:17.240 so she didn't like the fact that he was given the job role and he was now her boss even though they
00:29:21.800 were fine 100 before everything was fine she started creating problems within it and saying that she
00:29:26.680 can't work with him and then obviously the um hr was like why can't you work with him and then she
00:29:31.320 came around he's been inappropriate and that created a whole spiral of events that happened and
00:29:36.600 when i know how hard my boys come from nothing it's not one of the it's one of these people that's
00:29:40.520 come from nothing like war-torn country to climb up and to get yourself go to university get yourself
00:29:44.920 educational sector and he was like the only black person in there and then she was also um she was
00:29:49.720 a black girl mixed face girl and then so just two of them and when she went and made whatever
00:29:55.640 allegations against him it set a whole spiral of events that put him through and i had to witness this
00:30:01.240 man go through this pain like and he's my friend and i was just like why is she doing this but she just didn't
00:30:05.240 like the fact he got the job and she didn't get the job um in the end he had to go on some hr course
00:30:11.560 about inappropriate conduct at work he he kept his job and everything was fine but you see after that
00:30:17.320 he um he left he left the post and went somewhere he was just like bro it wasn't the same he was like
00:30:22.360 i didn't want to climb up any higher in that industry even though that they and they found me it was not
00:30:26.520 guilt where everything was fine just the fact that he had to be put through that that whole process so you
00:30:31.720 see what he's saying alex is saying like see as a man and when you put yourself in a scenario just
00:30:40.120 why i said don't move to girls i don't because i could never have a woman say to me that i came
00:30:44.040 and approached the inappropriate because i don't even do it so i'm saying to she's gonna have to
00:30:47.240 approach to me when you see the messages between us two it's not going to be me that's trying to
00:30:51.880 say it's going to be her because we live in a new world now and i've always been like this but ever
00:30:56.040 since women have said oh you know what if a man's walking down the road i expect him to cross over
00:31:00.040 this over the road because it makes me feel nervous i'm i'm minding my business you know i
00:31:03.480 got my hoodie on i'm i'm doing my own thing but now you're saying that but i what women are these
00:31:07.960 okay okay you're saying what women are these just saying no but the same women that are talking
00:31:11.640 about the rubbernecking or these that's no i mean the same women that would be myself are you
00:31:15.800 referring to myself no so so you asked me you asked me a question and i'm speaking so you're
00:31:20.120 saying which women are doing this you talked about the advert right the same women that are
00:31:23.880 talking about the advert are the same women that are making a man cross over the road because
00:31:28.040 personally i would never i didn't say you i didn't say you see what we're doing is you're making
00:31:32.520 about you stop making it about you but you're making it about i'll give you an example the
00:31:37.880 definition of sexual assault that says for example pressure there we go so manipulation bullying
00:31:46.360 intimidation threats deception drugs or alcohol they're trying to include if a guy this is the stupidest
00:31:53.080 i've ever heard in my life if a guy lies to a girl about his job and she sleeps with him like
00:31:59.320 thinking he has that job they're gonna say that's essay
00:32:04.920 jose i understand i understand where they got it from in terms of
00:32:09.480 if obviously you know i mean like that's the level of manipulation if someone did something obviously
00:32:13.720 it's not good but if someone slept with somebody based on what they thought they worked as and then
00:32:18.280 they found out they didn't it's like i wouldn't call it essay though i would call that an owl no
00:32:23.480 no no personally obviously i personally i would as well i wouldn't call it essay either
00:32:29.240 i wouldn't call it essay either personally but i understand where they try to put it into the
00:32:34.280 category yeah from it's a form of manipulation but that's not sexual assault though so essay so
00:32:38.600 but what it is is like the sexual assault comes from if you've told me you don't if you know
00:32:43.000 that you're gonna tell me you're a bin man i don't care let's just give a real like if someone
00:32:49.000 was to say bin man or you just did something like yeah i mean council work whatever it is
00:32:52.840 i don't care personally i'm not discriminative or prejudiced against anyone on their work but like
00:32:57.960 if you told me that's what you did i would take you as that and i'll take you from that but if you've
00:33:01.640 had to lie to me to tell me that you do something else for me to take you as this is not you you're an
00:33:05.400 imposter in my vagina trust me you're an imposter in my vagina i was i was ceo and i've been
00:33:13.160 that's a violation and i've been sexually assaulted i probably busted down for you
00:33:18.040 and this is an l like like you said pal it's an l yeah but you see where the men are coming from
00:33:24.280 it's like like if a guy tries to convince you to sleep with him that can be seen as coercion
00:33:28.440 that's creepy i i understand like okay like i've seen i i think every girl has had an
00:33:35.240 experience with a guy that's like it's too pushy right but there is a difference between pushy
00:33:40.200 and sexual assault yeah and and i just think recently in recent years we've been blurring
00:33:45.560 the lines to the point it's confusing confusing and men like china are like you know what screw
00:33:50.840 this every girl's different every girl is gonna one girl's one girl's gonna report me one girl's not
00:33:56.520 one girl's gonna think this is flirting one girl's gonna report me for assault that they're just like
00:34:00.200 you know what this i don't even want to deal with it and that's why and that's why men don't
00:34:04.280 it's fine for you not me i'm like i don't want to be a bro stop with these like let them be mad in
00:34:10.360 the corner question question question yeah question question for you yeah so in fact for everyone for
00:34:16.200 everyone so so if a if the if a bin man said you know lies and says i'm a doctor you know oh i'm
00:34:24.760 michael jordan himself or whatever yeah um and he's prime yeah and and a girl sleeps with him because of
00:34:31.400 that and then found finds out she was lied to is there is there is there is there something a bit
00:34:39.640 is there is that is that me period is that but wait but wait but wait but wait is there anything
00:34:46.840 but women women catfish every day with botox lip fillers can i ask the question though
00:34:51.960 can i get to the question though can i get to the actual question yeah i've presented it but let me
00:35:02.040 let me ask the question is there any kind of responsibility or is there is there anything
00:35:09.880 weird about the girl choosing to sleep with someone because of this status or title or whatever is there
00:35:16.600 any wrong there at all why are we why are we saying that's weird no no i'm asking you a question i'm
00:35:21.720 asking i'm asking the question we've just presented that women are not good bosses women are not good
00:35:26.600 leaders therefore men have to do it so if you don't have the leadership skills and you're a bin man yeah
00:35:36.760 but you have to lie and say i'm not a bit because you're not proud i would i mean i could be with a
00:35:41.080 bin man if you say it with chess i could be with a bin man i don't think i don't think my question's
00:35:47.320 being understood so but go on karen you're saying that why if a woman has sex with a man because of
00:35:55.320 his title yeah isn't that a form of manipulation but why did the man lie about his title because he
00:36:02.040 knew that that woman not me but that woman cared more about the title than the person cool let's get
00:36:08.040 to that that's let's definitely the right woman hold on hold on hold on let's definitely get to
00:36:12.120 the man lying because that's wrong okay cool but what about the what about step one of the woman
00:36:17.000 sleeping with the man because like okay let's let's take let's have an example let's take the tinder
00:36:21.800 swim layer it wasn't just one woman yeah it was many that was many like he was doing that everywhere
00:36:26.120 but he was picking a specific sorry to cut you if i was but i feel like he was picking a
00:36:30.120 specific type of woman woman sorry so like women that were not you know he knew they had money he'd
00:36:34.680 done his research he's not gonna go talk to no broken woman but he was making sure that they
00:36:38.760 was you know single he was making sure that they was kind of you know you know in a country that
00:36:42.120 had good credit yeah you know what i mean he was picking wisely so he targeted he was targeting women
00:36:47.080 that he knew were vulnerable and that's like that's a different type of you know manipulation in a
00:36:51.400 sense but what we're saying is like if a guy's got a job and you're happy with your job and you want
00:36:55.720 a certain type of girl i feel like you should present yourself as that person just be real to yourself
00:36:59.400 i i agree with you but his point is is it's a question