JustPearlyThings - July 29, 2023


Modern Women Don't Agree With This

Topics
abusive relationships youth attractiveness in dating having kids and age abusive deal breakers abuse narratives
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Hannah Pearl Davis
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Carrie Underwood
Modern Man Claimed to be FAITHFUL You Won't Believe Who She CHEATED With

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50 minutes

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In this episode, we talk about the importance of a good relationship with your partner, why women should travel first and then have kids, and the future of the human race. We also talk about what it means to be a modern man.

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00:00:01.120 Even though a lot of women wouldn't agree with it, 0.96
00:00:06.160 it's something that men tend to really love.
00:00:08.720 It's a loyalty thing.
00:00:09.900 They want to know that that woman is just you. 1.00
00:00:11.820 They want to know that that woman is the only one.
00:00:14.960 You're the only one as a man that's going with this woman, basically. 0.70
00:00:18.720 I'm not going to go into too much details.
00:00:20.440 But that is something that I've heard from a lot of men,
00:00:26.980 that they do like the loyalty.
00:00:28.600 I'm 29.
00:00:30.200 To be honest, I've been kind of thinking about children,
00:00:35.420 but I just feel like when I'm a little bit more stable,
00:00:41.700 when I finish doing certain things with myself, then I'll have them.
00:00:45.500 I can actually have, and I've got a partner.
00:00:47.940 Okay.
00:00:48.260 But I've just put it on hold for a second.
00:00:50.780 Not for too long.
00:00:52.240 Low-key, maybe next year.
00:00:53.720 But I need to go and travel.
00:00:55.840 Okay, so you want to travel?
00:00:57.700 I want to travel a bit.
00:00:58.660 Get that.
00:00:59.800 I'm just curious.
00:01:01.080 When I grew up, I traveled with my family.
00:01:04.280 Why do we have to travel first and then have the family? 0.99
00:01:07.860 Oh, no.
00:01:08.420 I like that idea as well.
00:01:10.640 I just felt like I need to do some things by myself separately and then I'll get to the family.
00:01:17.280 Well, I just don't understand that mindset.
00:01:19.880 Do you know what I mean?
00:01:20.520 It's like, because you can do both.
00:01:22.400 You can go on a trip with your kid.
00:01:24.480 Yeah, no.
00:01:25.080 It's harder, but, you know.
00:01:27.240 So I'm just curious, like, what made you say you have to do that first?
00:01:30.020 It's just something I want.
00:01:32.280 Okay.
00:01:33.120 It's just me.
00:01:34.200 I just want to travel without a kid first and then I'll travel with a kid.
00:01:38.720 And then with a kid.
00:01:39.680 Okay.
00:01:39.860 Hoflation.
00:01:41.980 Yes.
00:01:42.300 So, does anyone know what hoflation is?
00:01:45.720 No?
00:01:46.340 You've never heard of this topic.
00:01:47.740 Okay.
00:01:48.380 So this is something that has been going around online that the men have been saying.
00:01:55.140 Modern men have to work five times harder than their grandfathers did for women 20 times worse than what their grandmothers were.
00:02:03.300 It's called hoflation.
00:02:05.820 Do you guys think that's true?
00:02:08.320 No.
00:02:08.940 No?
00:02:09.660 An extraordinary idea.
00:02:11.300 Worse in what way?
00:02:12.240 Better in what way?
00:02:13.540 I would say worse in that we offer less kids.
00:02:17.940 We're more promiscuous.
00:02:19.380 We're fatter.
00:02:20.980 And I would just say, in general, most people, like, a third of us didn't grow up in two-parent homes.
00:02:27.280 So a lot of us weren't trained or, like, told how to be a wife.
00:02:30.680 Oh, okay.
00:02:31.940 Well, I don't think being promiscuous makes you necessarily worse.
00:02:34.720 And I think probably fewer children is a good idea.
00:02:36.700 Oh, less kids is good.
00:02:38.320 I think so, because the world's imploding.
00:02:40.600 The world.
00:02:41.180 So what about, like, the replacement birth rate?
00:02:43.720 Yeah, well, again, I think less is definitely better than more.
00:02:46.520 Okay.
00:02:46.940 Who would fill the jobs? 0.92
00:02:48.980 Oh, there's enough of us for that, I'm sure.
00:02:50.760 AI as well, also, of course.
00:02:52.100 Oh, okay.
00:02:52.460 The robots will do it.
00:02:53.260 Okay.
00:02:53.620 But what about, like, building the buildings?
00:02:56.000 Oh, I think.
00:02:56.400 Running the infrastructure?
00:02:58.120 You know, 45% of men are in infrastructure jobs.
00:03:00.960 That's right.
00:03:01.440 Mm-hmm.
00:03:01.880 Okay.
00:03:02.720 I'm sure robots will help with that.
00:03:03.900 Oh, okay, robots.
00:03:04.960 Yeah, we're fine. 0.99
00:03:05.980 So, F them kids.
00:03:07.640 Yeah.
00:03:07.900 Yeah, all right, all right.
00:03:08.840 Yeah, there's too many.
00:03:09.600 All right, all right.
00:03:10.580 What about you?
00:03:11.920 Do you think that's true?
00:03:13.460 Repeat again, because I'm not going to lie.
00:03:14.980 Okay, it's all right.
00:03:15.620 I got you, I got you.
00:03:17.000 Modern men have to work five times harder than their grandfathers did,
00:03:20.600 for women 20 times worse than what their grandmothers were.
00:03:23.900 Yeah, I just don't, I don't, what even is that?
00:03:28.880 Like, how?
00:03:29.300 Okay, what do men want? 0.98
00:03:33.100 They want a woman that supports them.
00:03:35.580 Okay.
00:03:36.140 Do you think women today are more supportive than our grandmothers?
00:03:39.920 To be honest, I don't know whose grandma was what back in the day.
00:03:42.860 Okay, what about, what about, what about your grandma?
00:03:45.220 I know that it all depends on the person that you are.
00:03:50.080 I mean, there's a lot of people that follow in the, um.
00:03:51.500 I'm going to make one caveat for the show.
00:03:53.480 I'm sorry to cut you.
00:03:54.180 I'm going to let you finish.
00:03:54.920 No, it depends.
00:03:57.580 I'm banning, it depends.
00:03:59.540 I'm banned it.
00:04:00.240 Like, we have to pick a side just so we can, this is a conversation in general,
00:04:04.360 not for everyone.
00:04:05.760 So we're just talking about the average man, average woman.
00:04:08.800 But sorry, go ahead.
00:04:10.240 Okay.
00:04:11.060 Well, um, now I've been thrown off because I'm just thinking of a bit more of a.
00:04:17.540 So you said support.
00:04:18.760 You said support, like men want support.
00:04:20.540 And I agree with you.
00:04:21.280 Yeah.
00:04:21.620 Do you think women today are more supportive than our grandmothers?
00:04:24.940 Some of them ain't supportive at all.
00:04:27.140 Some of them want everything just handed to them.
00:04:29.140 Okay.
00:04:29.520 Without doing anything.
00:04:31.760 Okay.
00:04:32.280 I wasn't about to swear.
00:04:33.420 So then you would, you would agree with this then, right?
00:04:36.680 Yeah.
00:04:37.300 Yeah.
00:04:37.900 Yeah.
00:04:38.600 Yes.
00:04:39.380 To a certain extent.
00:04:40.620 To a certain extent.
00:04:41.660 To a certain extent.
00:04:42.580 Okay.
00:04:43.020 Go ahead.
00:04:43.700 I agree.
00:04:44.640 You agree?
00:04:45.100 Tell me why.
00:04:45.860 I, well, of course, with inflation and everything, I do believe that men are working 10 times,
00:04:53.320 if not 20 times harder than our grandfathers did.
00:04:55.960 And definitely as women, we are offering a bit less, especially with the lives we have today.
00:05:03.120 In what way do we offer less?
00:05:06.080 We always want less kids because we want a career before we even want to enter marriage.
00:05:12.100 By the time we enter marriage, we don't really have the capacity to bear as many children as the men would like.
00:05:19.680 So, yeah.
00:05:20.340 Okay.
00:05:21.440 I would agree as well.
00:05:23.660 With who?
00:05:25.080 With the statement.
00:05:26.200 Okay.
00:05:26.840 Okay.
00:05:27.020 Yeah.
00:05:28.060 Like the statement.
00:05:30.320 Yeah.
00:05:30.840 Because I find that women actually want too much, which is why men have to work harder. 1.00
00:05:36.480 Okay.
00:05:37.880 Yeah.
00:05:39.320 How do women typically want too much? 1.00
00:05:42.100 Well, not necessarily too much, but they want a lot more now than they wanted back then.
00:05:46.720 Okay.
00:05:47.200 What do we want today that we didn't want yesterday?
00:05:50.060 Pretty much everything.
00:05:52.040 Can we list a couple things?
00:05:53.720 I'll give you one.
00:05:55.160 I don't know if six foot was on the table a hundred years ago.
00:05:59.140 I don't know if that's what the grandmothers and great grandmothers were like, you need a man that's six foot.
00:06:04.060 They need to drive.
00:06:05.080 They need to have the good job.
00:06:06.680 They need to have the money and the expenses to be able to afford the woman. 1.00
00:06:10.580 Okay.
00:06:11.000 So, I feel like that's what a lot of women in today's society want. 1.00
00:06:15.040 Do you think men used to have to afford a woman? 0.99
00:06:18.520 No.
00:06:18.920 You don't think so?
00:06:20.040 A little bit, yes, but not as much as, I don't think it was asked for as much as it is now.
00:06:25.180 You think a woman was more willing to work with a man? 1.00
00:06:27.520 Yeah.
00:06:27.860 Okay.
00:06:28.480 What do you think?
00:06:29.260 Um, well, I'm not sure if it's a correct term to use, hoflation.
00:06:33.820 And I also feel like it's been the same.
00:06:36.700 It's just more amplified now because we can see it.
00:06:38.900 Like, for example, if my parents or let's say my grandparents had an issue, I would never find out.
00:06:43.880 Like, I'm finding out things now what my granddad did after he passed.
00:06:48.040 But now I think things are more transparent.
00:06:50.140 If you see on social media what happened in L.A.
00:06:52.220 I think we are sort of easy to get information rather than how it was before.
00:06:59.740 I think women have been the same. 0.86
00:07:01.440 And men have also been the same.
00:07:03.060 I think the only difference is we can see it now.
00:07:06.280 The problems have been more magnified than it was back then.
00:07:09.660 Did your grandma stay with your grandpa?
00:07:11.960 Yeah, he did.
00:07:12.540 But she did.
00:07:13.400 Do women today stay with their husbands? 1.00
00:07:16.100 Um, not many, no.
00:07:17.720 So wouldn't you say it's different?
00:07:18.920 I think it's different.
00:07:20.100 It's not different as in what the perception of it.
00:07:23.560 My grandmother stayed, but don't mean that she was fully happy with the situation.
00:07:27.540 Right.
00:07:28.020 But she committed through it all.
00:07:29.680 But I feel like women lately sort of feel like, why do I need to stay in misery if I can just go and... 1.00
00:07:36.820 If I can just capitalize on life itself.
00:07:39.280 Let's say my grandmother didn't have that space or that world to even navigate through freely as a woman to even, you know, just do things for herself. 1.00
00:07:51.000 So I guess she felt more dependent.
00:07:51.960 She couldn't do things for herself?
00:07:53.380 I mean, not that she couldn't.
00:07:54.400 It's just the world wouldn't allow her to navigate through life as it is now.
00:07:57.660 They wouldn't allow her to navigate?
00:07:59.080 Yeah, through life.
00:07:59.780 I say, this is book I read.
00:08:00.860 What do you mean allow?
00:08:01.980 Allow, I say, for example, this is book I read.
00:08:03.760 I think it's got a thousand candles in the sand.
00:08:06.360 I'm not sure.
00:08:06.940 But it's to do with something happening in Afghanistan where this woman weren't allowed to travel without a man being with them.
00:08:15.700 So just imagine coming from that world.
00:08:17.540 How are you supposed to leave your husband?
00:08:18.700 You can't even go to the shop without being with a male figure.
00:08:22.860 They wouldn't allow you.
00:08:23.560 You get sent back home.
00:08:24.960 What was the reason for that love?
00:08:26.460 It was, I don't know, it's just...
00:08:28.300 Well, because the world used to be a more dangerous place too.
00:08:32.080 It's so dangerous now.
00:08:33.340 Right.
00:08:33.820 But I'm saying, like, we have institutions that protect women that, depending on the time period and where you were in the world, didn't always exist.
00:08:40.940 Like the police force, like legal systems that could...
00:08:43.460 I agree.
00:08:44.000 You know what I'm saying?
00:08:44.580 So it was...
00:08:45.440 Sometimes we judge, like, laws of the past by the times of today.
00:08:49.060 You know what I mean?
00:08:49.620 Yeah.
00:08:49.960 So I don't know that law.
00:08:51.000 I was just asking.
00:08:52.100 It's not...
00:08:52.520 I don't think it's a law.
00:08:53.520 I think it's just more culturally.
00:08:54.760 Right.
00:08:55.280 This is in Afghanistan.
00:08:56.340 This is a book I read.
00:08:57.360 Oh, okay.
00:08:57.740 It happened about 1920.
00:08:58.920 Okay.
00:08:59.500 The girl that wrote the book was actually in the story that she was telling about.
00:09:03.320 I just feel like...
00:09:04.220 Well, I just...
00:09:04.720 When I hear allow, like, it sounds like we couldn't work back then and we could...
00:09:08.780 No, it could work.
00:09:09.720 But I'm just saying, back to you saying that, did my grandmother stay?
00:09:14.340 Yeah.
00:09:14.620 And I'm trying to bring it back.
00:09:16.020 Maybe if she had the opportunity to go out there and navigate as how women can today, who knows? 1.00
00:09:20.900 She may have not stayed. 0.91
00:09:22.020 So it's just circumstances.
00:09:23.420 But I feel like the world has always been a bit terrifying for just, I guess, just people not knowing how to stay together.
00:09:32.880 I feel like men have been men and women have been women.
00:09:36.080 But just not...
00:09:37.060 Women didn't have the platform to say what they're saying now. 1.00
00:09:39.960 Okay.
00:09:40.620 So you think women have always been the same. 1.00
00:09:42.720 Now they just leave instead.
00:09:44.920 Or, like, now it's just out in the public.
00:09:47.220 Yes.
00:09:47.600 I feel like now we can see more.
00:09:49.280 Like, before, we wouldn't know what's happening in someone else's family.
00:09:52.140 But now you've got people filming what's happening in their own household and posting on social media.
00:09:56.980 Or, like, everyone...
00:09:58.140 I think people have an opinion.
00:09:59.520 You've got someone just laying in his bed at home.
00:10:02.180 He can just say whatever and that'll get to me.
00:10:03.860 Whereby, way back, I wouldn't know what he thinks or she thinks.
00:10:06.260 So I'm just stuck in my own little world that I've created for myself.
00:10:09.460 My own perception of the world.
00:10:10.600 But now your perception can be injected by anyone.
00:10:13.660 Someone from Dubai can say something.
00:10:14.920 And I can see you on Twitter and feel offended.
00:10:17.040 Like, what was this?
00:10:18.180 Whereby, before, there's no Twitter.
00:10:19.560 There's no social media.
00:10:20.300 There's no internet.
00:10:21.180 Just live in your own world.
00:10:22.540 Okay.
00:10:23.480 What do you think?
00:10:26.220 Well, I actually agree with the statement.
00:10:28.940 And the reason why I agree with the statement is because guys do generally have to work much harder now.
00:10:37.980 And the reason why I feel that they need to work much harder is in terms of inflation.
00:10:43.580 And in terms of inflation in the last 10 years, it's absolutely ridiculous.
00:10:49.220 There's no chance for young people. 1.00
00:10:51.140 And the government just keeps raising inflation.
00:10:54.460 They say they raise the wages.
00:10:57.980 But however, the inflation rises just above the wages.
00:11:02.840 So then a lot more has to go in for them to get a lot out.
00:11:06.920 In terms of women, do they give less? 1.00
00:11:11.920 Well, I can't speak for every woman. 1.00
00:11:13.800 It depends on how that woman thinks and what her perspective is. 0.90
00:11:19.000 Remember, no, it depends.
00:11:21.140 So, again, I wouldn't pigeonhole every single female. 0.97
00:11:25.660 Some females, yeah, are gold diggers. 1.00
00:11:28.220 And some females are not.
00:11:30.820 What value do women in 2023 bring? 1.00
00:11:34.060 The average chick. 0.99
00:11:36.520 Well, if you're average, I'm not sure about the average.
00:11:40.760 But however, I was brought up in a way where we were raised to support our men.
00:11:48.360 And to stand beside our men.
00:11:51.220 So, I mean, they may not have had a lot.
00:11:53.380 But you would support them in their endeavors or their dreams, etc.
00:11:57.220 And you'd be that backbone towards their goals or their dreams, etc.
00:12:03.900 Do you think most women do that? 1.00
00:12:06.440 I can't speak for most women. 0.98
00:12:08.320 But for what I've seen, for the females around me, no, they don't.
00:12:12.840 Okay.
00:12:13.980 So, yeah, especially with like half of, like, how can we say we're supportive if half of
00:12:17.900 us leave?
00:12:19.340 You know what I mean?
00:12:20.500 I think in terms of leaving.
00:12:23.660 It's like, because, you know, it's like if you're going to support, you got to stay and
00:12:27.200 support him.
00:12:28.420 You know.
00:12:28.760 Again, I know you say you don't like the word depends.
00:12:32.600 But however, I wouldn't recommend for someone to stay in an abusive relationship.
00:12:37.800 So, if someone's been abusive.
00:12:38.760 Why is abusive the first thing that comes to your head?
00:12:42.200 Because I'm not saying that's the first thing.
00:12:45.640 It's the first thing you said.
00:12:47.060 Yeah, but I've known women that have left from relationships because of physical abuse. 1.00
00:12:52.780 Is that the majority?
00:12:54.440 Um, I can't really speak for the majority.
00:12:58.420 You think the majority of men are abusing women?
00:13:00.860 You think that's probable?
00:13:02.600 No.
00:13:03.240 Okay.
00:13:03.520 So, like, why is it the first thing that comes to your head?
00:13:06.800 Um, you're saying it's about support and leave.
00:13:09.280 Yeah.
00:13:09.500 I'm saying circumstances.
00:13:11.200 Right.
00:13:11.480 But I'm saying if half of women are leaving and then the first thing you say is abuse,
00:13:14.960 I'm just, I'm asking why that's the first thing.
00:13:18.140 I'm saying that could be one of the things.
00:13:20.200 I'm not saying that's the first thing.
00:13:21.780 I'm just saying.
00:13:22.380 No, I'm saying that's the first thing you said, though.
00:13:24.940 Yeah.
00:13:25.320 So, my first thing I would say, if a relationship is abusive, then you have the right to leave.
00:13:31.640 Okay.
00:13:33.560 Right.
00:13:34.080 But, like, my point was that half of women are leaving.
00:13:38.060 And so, I'm saying we can't be supportive if we're leaving.
00:13:41.240 Like, half of us.
00:13:42.820 You know what I mean?
00:13:43.280 Well, unless someone knows the reason why they're leaving, every relationship and every partnership has their reason why they leave.
00:13:55.920 What are good reasons to leave a marriage?
00:13:58.740 Well, I would say abuse.
00:14:01.080 Okay.
00:14:01.460 Outside of abuse, which we agree is the minority, right?
00:14:04.660 Outside of abuse, I don't know.
00:14:08.380 I feel like it really, really depends.
00:14:11.660 Or say someone's a heavy gambler.
00:14:13.940 Okay.
00:14:14.300 Gambling.
00:14:15.720 Gambling and abuse.
00:14:16.720 But would you agree those are minority cases, not majority?
00:14:20.400 Yeah, I guess so.
00:14:21.260 Yeah.
00:14:21.540 I agree with that.
00:14:22.160 Okay.
00:14:22.600 Okay.
00:14:22.980 So, are there any other good reasons to leave?
00:14:26.560 Outside of that, I would say no.
00:14:28.120 So, wouldn't you say the majority of women are not supportive?
00:14:31.540 Yeah.
00:14:32.000 Yeah.
00:14:32.140 I would say so, yeah.
00:14:33.260 Okay.
00:14:33.900 What about you?
00:14:34.820 Hoflation.
00:14:35.560 True or false?
00:14:37.540 I would partially agree with that statement.
00:14:40.620 Okay.
00:14:40.800 So, I agree with the part where there isn't much quality women that are left that has dropped massively.
00:14:48.120 I slightly disagree with the part where men have to work extra hard now and days compared to the men back in the days.
00:14:58.560 On two aspects, financially, it's more easier to gain financial success if you just understand the strategies to it in today's timing.
00:15:09.560 And in terms of finding a woman, I think it's absolutely easy for males to find a decent woman. 0.81
00:15:18.660 Only because females are now degrading themselves and they're showing it in front of the whole world in the public. 1.00
00:15:25.380 So, men are now able to now look at that and say, okay, well, I don't want you.
00:15:29.340 They can filter more easily because females are just upcoming degrading themselves. 1.00
00:15:34.780 What is a decent woman? 1.00
00:15:35.720 A decent woman. 0.69
00:15:41.560 A decent woman would carry such qualities that would facilitate being a mother, a wife, and a lady. 1.00
00:15:50.660 And some of those will come from the parenting, how they were raised in the first place.
00:15:56.580 And then part of that will also be down to their decisions that they make in life.
00:16:02.320 Do you think the majority of women were raised to be wives? 0.98
00:16:04.800 No.
00:16:06.280 Okay.
00:16:07.600 What if a guy wanted 10 kids?
00:16:09.460 Where would he get that?
00:16:12.020 Are there women that want to give 10 kids nowadays? 1.00
00:16:15.200 No.
00:16:15.940 Do you know what the average guy got in 1,800?
00:16:20.960 No.
00:16:21.660 Eight kids per woman. 0.99
00:16:23.440 But that's the thing.
00:16:26.460 There is quality woman out there. 1.00
00:16:28.540 It's just more easier to filter through it now.
00:16:31.300 Right.
00:16:31.500 So, what does a quality woman give to a man? 1.00
00:16:35.420 A quality woman is basically a woman that most men would dream to have. 1.00
00:16:41.440 Or the type of woman that grandparents were.
00:16:44.860 Okay.
00:16:45.180 Okay.
00:16:45.620 Okay.
00:16:45.860 So, what does she give?
00:16:47.200 Like, what does she bring to the table?
00:16:49.860 A quality woman? 1.00
00:16:51.520 I don't agree with females bringing anything to the table. 1.00
00:16:54.700 No, but you said it's not that hard for a man to find a quality.
00:16:57.760 Okay.
00:16:58.180 But I'm saying we have to define what is a quality woman. 0.99
00:17:00.960 I can define to you what type of woman that they won't want. 1.00
00:17:04.960 Okay.
00:17:05.340 But no, I'm asking what.
00:17:06.980 Because you said a quality woman. 0.94
00:17:08.540 I'm saying what would they want?
00:17:10.600 Right?
00:17:10.860 Like, how many kids does a quality woman bring? 1.00
00:17:13.020 Is she a virgin? 0.99
00:17:14.120 Is she like what?
00:17:15.300 Like, how old is she? 0.55
00:17:16.800 What does a quality woman look like? 1.00
00:17:19.800 Okay.
00:17:20.500 She'll be well-groomed, first of all.
00:17:23.080 She'll be well-presented, well-spoken.
00:17:27.040 Quite intelligent in that sense.
00:17:29.340 She would also have the skills to know how to cook and, well, how to use the kitchen app.
00:17:37.420 I would normally say to people two things.
00:17:39.600 A woman should know how to feed the hunger and heal the sick within the kitchen. 1.00
00:17:45.220 Okay.
00:17:45.800 Those are two qualities that a woman should have. 1.00
00:17:48.260 What about age?
00:17:51.160 Age doesn't really hold really much weight.
00:17:53.680 Because you can be a quality woman for the rest of your life.
00:17:55.740 You can be 50.
00:17:56.220 So, a 40-year-old woman is equally as quality as a 20-year-old woman. 1.00
00:18:01.300 They could still be quality women at just different ages. 1.00
00:18:04.600 They're probably better.
00:18:06.000 Who?
00:18:06.480 Who's better?
00:18:07.620 You could probably even be better.
00:18:09.480 At what age?
00:18:10.120 At an old age.
00:18:10.560 You might get a bit more mature.
00:18:11.740 You're kind of experienced.
00:18:15.120 What do you bring at 40 that you wouldn't have at 20?
00:18:18.880 A bit more of a mature attitude.
00:18:21.000 Are older women generally known for being more agreeable and better? 0.99
00:18:26.660 Yeah.
00:18:29.020 No, they are.
00:18:30.060 No, they're not.
00:18:30.560 Maybe you've not ever experienced them.
00:18:32.680 I've only interviewed hundreds of women. 1.00
00:18:34.620 It doesn't matter.
00:18:35.320 There's thousands and millions of us.
00:18:36.980 There's a lot of things that we haven't experienced, you know, that we can't really comment on.
00:18:41.900 Okay, what are women over 30's reputation that are still single? 1.00
00:18:45.560 Good or bad?
00:18:47.500 Oh, the reputation defines them as a person, right?
00:18:51.040 Oh, right.
00:18:52.040 Well, I don't agree.
00:18:53.460 Yeah.
00:18:53.840 You don't think we can make generalities based on a reputation?
00:18:58.560 No.
00:18:59.220 No.
00:18:59.960 We can make no conclusions. 0.99
00:19:00.840 I know some men that don't give a crap. 0.99
00:19:02.680 Yeah, right. 0.99
00:19:03.160 But we're talking about women. 0.99
00:19:04.600 We're talking about women. 1.00
00:19:05.160 But if you think we're talking about women, all right, I understand that.
00:19:10.760 But why are we talking?
00:19:12.080 What is it?
00:19:12.620 Is it for the men that we're talking about this role?
00:19:15.520 Right, but I'm saying if she's 40, what is she going to bring to a guy who wants a new wife and a family? 1.00
00:19:21.740 More sexual experience? 0.67
00:19:23.200 She'll probably be a better member. 0.96
00:19:25.360 Do men want wives with more sexual experience? 0.97
00:19:28.720 No.
00:19:28.880 Some do.
00:19:29.580 I think the more interesting ones do.
00:19:30.680 No.
00:19:31.580 I don't think so.
00:19:32.940 Maybe he does it.
00:19:34.140 Maybe you all does.
00:19:35.480 You're more likely to get divorced the more sexual experience you have.
00:19:38.880 That's actually true.
00:19:39.720 Yeah.
00:19:40.100 Well, maybe that's because you won't settle for less.
00:19:42.620 Right, but what is settle?
00:19:44.720 Well, settling is when you're in a marriage that isn't perhaps perfect and you want to go out and explore what else is available.
00:19:49.400 Right, that's the problem.
00:19:51.120 Yeah, because women think they deserve more than they do. 1.00
00:19:54.580 Yeah.
00:19:55.540 Is one perspective.
00:19:57.120 Well, I mean, if you could get it, you would get it, right?
00:20:00.420 So if she hasn't gotten it, how does she deserve something she can't get?
00:20:04.180 Oh, I think she just has to keep looking.
00:20:05.980 Just keep shagging. 0.98
00:20:08.380 You'll get there.
00:20:09.680 He's out there.
00:20:10.380 No, but seriously, a guy that wants a wife, what is he going to get out of a woman that is 40 years old? 0.97
00:20:18.920 It's geriatric pregnancy. 0.73
00:20:20.360 She can't bring him kids. 0.77
00:20:21.580 How is that equally?
00:20:23.700 I mean, I know you don't want kids, but I think.
00:20:25.840 I've got a child.
00:20:26.100 Okay, I know you don't want a lot of kids.
00:20:29.120 That's fine.
00:20:29.740 Right, right.
00:20:31.580 Are you planning children?
00:20:32.560 What?
00:20:32.960 Are you planning children?
00:20:34.480 Every day of my life.
00:20:35.960 Yeah, yeah.
00:20:36.580 So the question is, what does a 40-year-old woman bring that a 20-year-old can't? 1.00
00:20:44.080 So men don't care about sexual experience.
00:20:46.280 Okay, well, better conversation, more life experience, more money, potentially, better career, more education.
00:20:51.140 Do men care about your career and education? 0.70
00:20:53.440 Oh, I hope so.
00:20:54.460 Yeah, again, the interesting ones would, I'm sure.
00:20:56.960 So the interesting men care about your career.
00:20:59.820 What is a career to a guy that has one?
00:21:02.160 It's more like the broke men care about your career.
00:21:05.900 I think it would be more important to a man with a career because then you'd have something to talk about and points you can relate to each other.
00:21:12.020 You're nodding.
00:21:12.860 You think that's true?
00:21:13.860 No, yeah, it's very true.
00:21:15.280 It's not true.
00:21:16.060 Maybe not in your world, love.
00:21:19.420 There is a lot of things going on that you might not have experienced to really be able to comment on.
00:21:26.040 Okay, then why do the richest men not care about a woman's career? 0.83
00:21:30.820 Why do they go for young, attractive women? 1.00
00:21:32.980 Why do they go for models? 0.99
00:21:34.140 The more naive ones.
00:21:35.740 The more, why do you think they're naive?
00:21:37.940 There's a lot of them that are naive.
00:21:39.420 Some of them don't even know what they want.
00:21:40.660 They just see what's on social media, what's out on, you know, on the internet.
00:21:45.320 All the flash, the bling.
00:21:47.140 Give me the car.
00:21:48.140 Give me the clothes.
00:21:49.940 Give me the jewels.
00:21:51.320 That's what a lot of young girls are like. 1.00
00:21:53.180 How is that different from the older women? 1.00
00:21:56.000 The older women are doing the same thing. 0.99
00:21:57.240 No, but some women grow out of it and they realize that there's more about a man than just his money. 0.99
00:22:03.440 You can be stable if you're on the same level.
00:22:05.940 That's nice.
00:22:06.680 You know, have your money, but all of the extra stuff.
00:22:09.520 Oh, do you want me to finish?
00:22:11.220 Yeah.
00:22:11.660 Yeah.
00:22:11.900 So all the extra stuff, it's been there, done that.
00:22:15.960 When you grow up, you grow out of it.
00:22:17.400 Then you start more focusing on the man's mentality, their mental health, how to become better, not be a nuisance.
00:22:26.100 Kind of become a team.
00:22:27.720 You then start becoming best friends.
00:22:29.940 It's not really about the jewels and all the extra stuff.
00:22:32.960 Like, that's a young mentality.
00:22:35.500 That's fine.
00:22:35.980 But that's my opinion.
00:22:36.640 But why do a lot of them still end up single?
00:22:38.860 With all the knowledge they have about men and how to be better, they still end up single.
00:22:43.800 I don't know, boy.
00:22:44.560 I've got married parents.
00:22:46.120 They've been together from 20 to now and they're 57.
00:22:49.560 So I don't know.
00:22:50.280 Maybe I haven't experienced.
00:22:51.720 No, I'm not talking about them.
00:22:52.780 I'm talking about this generation of women that are single. 1.00
00:22:55.200 I can't say.
00:22:57.100 I don't know.
00:22:58.220 I don't know.
00:22:58.740 Yeah.
00:22:59.180 Why are they less married than ever?
00:23:01.760 Can't say.
00:23:02.960 We don't know.
00:23:04.400 Okay.
00:23:04.880 So if the data shows that men don't like women the older they get, what does that mean?
00:23:13.500 Who's the data?
00:23:14.880 I think.
00:23:15.680 Every dating app data that you can possibly take.
00:23:18.260 Dating apps.
00:23:19.920 Even if you have men pick women by scent, they still pick the younger women. 1.00
00:23:26.100 Yeah.
00:23:26.480 They literally don't even have to see the women. 0.94
00:23:28.200 They smell it.
00:23:28.900 Trying to keep themselves young.
00:23:29.660 No, I mean, there's biological reasons why we do the things we do and men are attracted
00:23:34.960 to purity.
00:23:35.660 They're attracted to youth because historically they had to reproduce and you're more likely
00:23:40.680 to be able to reproduce more children with a younger woman.
00:23:44.140 But you can't just undo biology the same way you like taller men because they can protect
00:23:47.880 you.
00:23:48.080 The same way you like muscles because it can protect you.
00:23:50.000 The same reason women like rich men because they want resources. 1.00
00:23:52.860 Men are attracted to purity.
00:23:54.040 They're attracted to youth.
00:23:55.460 Are we talking about men over 50 or how old are we even talking about?
00:23:59.000 We're talking about older men like younger women. 0.87
00:24:01.600 Okay.
00:24:01.960 And that's over what age?
00:24:03.580 All ages.
00:24:04.560 Okay.
00:24:04.880 Just like that.
00:24:05.340 I mean, the dating app is between 18 and 80.
00:24:10.220 You know what age they ranked the most attractive from 18 to 80, all of them?
00:24:15.220 22.
00:24:16.480 I've had some apps go as long as 18 where men or women, it doesn't peak till 50.
00:24:23.160 So really and truly men are just looking for the looks.
00:24:27.360 It starts with looks.
00:24:28.660 Yeah.
00:24:29.840 And everything else.
00:24:31.280 I know some girls that just don't lift a finger and they get it. 1.00
00:24:35.180 Oh, they don't even need a personality.
00:24:37.160 Some men like that.
00:24:38.200 They don't.
00:24:38.340 Well, I think that's the whole point is that like that's all women bring in 2023. 1.00
00:24:42.560 The majority of us haven't been raised to be wives.
00:24:47.520 Do you think that's untrue?
00:24:52.160 This day and age, anything below 25, they have been struggling.
00:24:58.320 Women. 0.81
00:24:59.240 Okay.
00:25:00.380 Not all of them, but there is a lot that have been struggling.
00:25:06.700 Guidance wise.
00:25:08.700 Yeah.
00:25:09.220 Yeah, because we got, I think the women between like. 1.00
00:25:12.280 They're more free spirited.
00:25:14.240 Is that, is that good for society?
00:25:17.980 Both ways.
00:25:20.140 Huh?
00:25:20.720 Both ways.
00:25:21.740 It's good both ways.
00:25:23.020 It's good.
00:25:24.240 And it's a bit bad.
00:25:26.040 Okay.
00:25:26.220 So it's like, you can't take, I mean.
00:25:31.660 To be honest, everyone's expectations and that is different.
00:25:35.600 But a lot of young girls haven't been really taught about respecting themselves.
00:25:43.080 You know, they don't, they're not being told how to conduct themselves.
00:25:49.520 But then we all get our moments.
00:25:52.020 I'm not going to say I'm some special.
00:25:55.000 We've all had our moments, but I feel like it's all to do with the maturity.
00:25:58.220 But I do believe that it works good and bad for like that free spirit.
00:26:04.940 So maybe if they want an older guy, an older man might not like that free spirit too much
00:26:11.260 because they kind of want, depending on the guy.
00:26:14.000 Sorry, I know you don't like that word.
00:26:15.280 But they might want a bit more of a submissive girl. 1.00
00:26:19.680 Okay.
00:26:20.500 And you think older women are more submissive? 1.00
00:26:24.240 Some.
00:26:26.000 Some.
00:26:26.400 Are people more likely to change when they're older or younger?
00:26:31.940 Older.
00:26:33.800 Come on.
00:26:35.140 What?
00:26:36.300 All right.
00:26:37.040 If a guy, if a guy's been committing crimes until 18,
00:26:40.080 is he more likely to stop if he stops at 18 or if he stops at 35?
00:26:45.600 He's been doing it for 15 years or he's been doing it for two years?
00:26:49.520 They don't stop guys.
00:26:51.460 Guys don't ever change.
00:26:53.720 Do you think, do you think women change? 0.96
00:26:56.400 Yes.
00:26:58.160 I do.
00:26:59.820 Maybe I'm just talking on my behalf.
00:27:01.620 If there's others that don't, then I can't say, no, you don't.
00:27:05.320 It's not my place to say that.
00:27:07.580 But I do know of everyone around me that they've changed from in their early 20s to their mid-30s, late-30s.
00:27:16.000 If you're a woman and you don't, you don't, you don't, you, okay, let's put it like this. 1.00
00:27:21.020 You're so sure that guys don't change and you're not a guy.
00:27:24.240 But for a woman, you have a completely different view on it.
00:27:27.340 How does that compute?
00:27:28.380 You're so right.
00:27:29.760 I'm so sorry.
00:27:30.660 Apologies.
00:27:31.940 Some guys.
00:27:32.480 What makes a woman valuable? 1.00
00:27:40.340 Me?
00:27:42.380 Gosh.
00:27:43.160 Well, everything I've said, really.
00:27:44.500 I think being helpful.
00:27:46.700 Okay, helpful.
00:27:47.320 And respectful of men.
00:27:48.160 I'll go along with that.
00:27:50.600 And having their own ambitions as well and being able to make their own money.
00:27:53.600 Okay.
00:27:54.340 Money, being helpful.
00:27:56.980 Okay.
00:27:58.000 Go ahead.
00:27:58.560 What makes a woman valuable? 1.00
00:28:00.240 Okay.
00:28:02.480 Why do I feel like I'm going to repeat myself?
00:28:08.220 Oh, yeah.
00:28:08.760 I have to repeat myself.
00:28:09.780 Okay.
00:28:12.540 Right.
00:28:14.780 Judging on male friends of mine, what they've said, what they find is valuable in a woman is the biggest word. 0.97
00:28:23.360 It's to stay and ride with them.
00:28:26.240 Okay.
00:28:26.920 Loyalty.
00:28:27.340 Which is, yeah, it's a loyalty thing.
00:28:29.060 Even though a lot of women wouldn't agree with it, it's something that men tend to really love.
00:28:38.040 It's a loyalty thing.
00:28:39.240 They want to know that that woman is just you. 1.00
00:28:41.160 They want to know that that woman is the only one.
00:28:44.300 You're the only one as a man that's going with this woman, basically. 0.70
00:28:48.080 Okay.
00:28:48.240 I'm not going to go into too much details, but that is something that I've heard from a lot of men, that they do like the loyalty.
00:28:57.620 Obviously, you know, the same old cook and all that kind of stuff.
00:29:02.700 But then again, I've also heard, which I kind of understand to a certain extent, that when you're doing all that wifey, wifey stuff, it's great. 0.50
00:29:12.060 They know that you're home, but it gets boring for some men.
00:29:16.840 And that's why some men go and cheat, because they want someone that's not doing the everyday stuff that is going on at home.
00:29:24.660 I don't agree with it, but it's just something that I have basically heard of.
00:29:33.360 And it's a lot, a lot of men say that.
00:29:36.700 Okay.
00:29:37.000 That they want to cheat?
00:29:38.180 No, that it's just like, it's boring, you know, with all these, these things that we as women feel that is valuable to a man.
00:29:46.400 We, we think what we think, but men won't think the way we think, you know? 0.91
00:29:52.460 Well, you know why it gets boring for them.
00:29:55.140 Have you ever heard the phrase, you can't compete with noob, you know?
00:29:57.680 It's because men crave sexual variety.
00:30:02.140 In order to pass on their genes, they had to, you know, how did Ganges Khan, like, get two out of every 100 people? 0.99
00:30:07.600 He, like, screwed everybody.
00:30:08.980 It was the best way to procreate.
00:30:12.000 It's the same reason, it's the same reason we like rich guys, right?
00:30:14.660 Because if you got the highest value guy, he was the most likely to protect you and pass on resources to you.
00:30:19.360 There's biological reasons we feel the way we feel.
00:30:21.500 But, you know, he had a queen and a concubine.
00:30:25.980 So we shouldn't, we shouldn't confuse what he does with the concubine with the queen.
00:30:30.720 Right?
00:30:31.560 Would you agree with that or disagree?
00:30:33.180 No, I understand what you're saying.
00:30:34.240 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:30:35.760 What about you?
00:30:38.160 Purity, loyalty, respect, and a caring nature.
00:30:41.700 Okay.
00:30:42.540 I literally would have said everything she just said.
00:30:45.460 I don't think there's anything that I would have added to it.
00:30:48.400 Oh, I don't know if there's anything that I could add to what she said.
00:30:51.920 I would have said the exact same thing.
00:30:53.880 Okay.
00:30:55.140 I would say morals.
00:30:56.300 I think if she got good morals, then she would take all the boxes that one's saying. 1.00
00:31:00.180 So if she got good morals, then she'll be respectful.
00:31:03.320 And that would just naturally reciprocate and that leads to loyalty.
00:31:08.080 But respected, I guess, you'd be loyal.
00:31:10.020 Okay.
00:31:11.100 I think a woman should be a man's piece and a good home. 1.00
00:31:17.020 Okay.
00:31:17.280 How does a woman become a man's piece? 1.00
00:31:21.480 By not stressing him out, supporting him with what he chooses to do, and, yeah, make the home a home.
00:31:35.200 What's the best way she can not stress him out?
00:31:38.740 By giving him problems or telling him problems that he doesn't really need to know about, etc.
00:31:47.600 Okay.
00:31:50.480 I can give you three points of what would make a woman valuable today. 0.96
00:31:55.700 Okay.
00:31:56.700 Those three points would be health, that they're healthy.
00:32:00.560 Okay.
00:32:00.900 No children.
00:32:02.860 And the third point would be...
00:32:05.260 That's hard.
00:32:06.340 I'll say this contributes, but a two-parent household that they've experienced, lived in.
00:32:15.380 Okay.
00:32:15.600 So, question.
00:32:18.200 When do you, yourself...
00:32:19.980 I know some of...
00:32:20.860 I know you said you already have kids.
00:32:23.100 If you want more kids, when would you want them?
00:32:27.140 And remind them what age you are and what age you'd want kids.
00:32:29.560 I was 24 when I had my son.
00:32:31.660 I think that's probably about right.
00:32:33.140 I mean, it is true.
00:32:34.340 You know, we're all just bags of chemicals, and the older you get, egg quality drops off,
00:32:38.100 and you do get more disabilities, possibly.
00:32:40.760 And, yeah.
00:32:41.480 Certainly, nature intended us to reproduce teens in the early 20s. 0.90
00:32:47.120 Okay.
00:32:50.280 When do I want kids?
00:32:52.460 And remind them how old you are and what age you want kids.
00:32:55.080 I'm 29.
00:32:56.060 Okay.
00:32:56.740 To be honest, I've been kind of thinking about children, but I just feel like...
00:33:04.840 When I'm a little bit more stable, when I finish doing certain things with myself,
00:33:10.480 then I'll have them.
00:33:12.020 I can actually have, and I've got a partner.
00:33:14.480 Okay.
00:33:14.960 But I've just put it on hold for a second.
00:33:17.240 Not for too long.
00:33:18.700 Low-key, maybe next year.
00:33:20.240 But I need to go and travel.
00:33:22.240 Okay, so you want to travel?
00:33:24.180 I want to travel a bit.
00:33:25.140 Get that.
00:33:25.420 Yeah, get that.
00:33:26.260 I'm just curious.
00:33:27.560 Like, when I grew up, I traveled with my family.
00:33:30.660 Yeah.
00:33:30.880 Like, why do we have to travel first and then have the family?
00:33:34.300 Oh, no.
00:33:34.860 I don't even...
00:33:35.660 I like that idea as well.
00:33:37.260 Yeah.
00:33:37.420 I just felt like I need to do some things by myself separately, and then I'll get to
00:33:43.500 the family stuff.
00:33:43.740 Well, I just don't understand that mindset.
00:33:46.340 Do you know what I mean?
00:33:47.000 It's like, because you can do both.
00:33:48.840 Yeah, yeah, you can.
00:33:49.020 You can go on a trip with your kid.
00:33:50.900 Yeah, no.
00:33:51.560 It's harder, but, you know.
00:33:53.700 So I'm just curious.
00:33:54.780 Like, what made you say you have to do that first?
00:33:57.200 Something I want.
00:33:58.780 Okay.
00:33:59.660 It's just me.
00:34:00.440 I just want to travel without a kid first, and then I'll travel with a kid.
00:34:05.180 And then with a kid.
00:34:06.140 Yeah, yeah.
00:34:06.320 Okay.
00:34:07.600 I'm 20, and I'm hoping to have children by, like, between 23 and 25.
00:34:13.320 Okay.
00:34:13.840 Yeah.
00:34:15.340 I'm 30.
00:34:16.400 I already have a son.
00:34:18.360 I don't know.
00:34:19.180 Did you say 30?
00:34:19.980 Wow.
00:34:20.720 You do not look that old.
00:34:22.680 Yeah, I'm 30.
00:34:24.120 I already have a son.
00:34:26.040 And how old were you when you had your son?
00:34:28.720 My son is six, so I was 24.
00:34:31.980 Okay.
00:34:34.260 I don't mind having more children.
00:34:36.180 I think I give myself until 35.
00:34:38.620 Okay.
00:34:38.880 And then after that, I don't think, I don't see myself wanting to have kids after 35.
00:34:43.880 You don't mind having more kids, or you want more kids?
00:34:46.160 I don't mind.
00:34:47.040 It's not something that I want.
00:34:49.260 Okay.
00:34:49.520 I'm in a relationship, so if it's something that is in the books, then, yeah.
00:34:55.200 Okay.
00:34:56.700 But I already have some, so it's like...
00:34:58.560 Well, I'm just asking what you want, your perfect reality.
00:35:01.080 Are you done, or you want more?
00:35:03.520 It's up in the air.
00:35:05.160 Okay.
00:35:05.560 It's like one day you think yes, the next day you think no.
00:35:09.660 Not necessarily.
00:35:10.820 It's just an open thought.
00:35:13.880 Okay.
00:35:14.940 All right.
00:35:16.420 I'm thinking around, like, 35.
00:35:17.720 So I've got, like, two, three years to go.
00:35:20.280 Okay.
00:35:20.700 Yeah.
00:35:21.040 I mean, if it happens, then it happens.
00:35:23.380 Okay.
00:35:24.580 Well, I feel like when you have your kids, that's down to your personal choice of what
00:35:29.420 age you have them.
00:35:30.460 So long as you can provide for them, and love them, and give them the things that they need,
00:35:36.880 and you've got the support, maybe, by family, their family, etc.
00:35:42.740 In terms of age, I feel that that's very personal.
00:35:46.840 There isn't a right age or a wrong age.
00:35:50.560 Maybe in terms of when you said an older woman, yes, there is more health risks. 0.61
00:35:57.100 I didn't say right or wrong.
00:35:59.200 I said, what age do you want to have kids?
00:36:02.480 What age?
00:36:03.320 Even if you passed it, like, what would be the ideal age to have kids?
00:36:07.080 Well, personally speaking, I feel that being a younger parent, there's more advantage, simply
00:36:13.760 because you can raise them and grow with them.
00:36:16.220 You've still got a lot of energy, where you can do quite a lot of activities with them.
00:36:23.280 When you're a more mature parent, I feel that you become less energetic, and it may become
00:36:29.140 a bit harder.
00:36:30.480 Not impossible, but however, it's not going to be as easy when you've got, like, a lot
00:36:36.500 of energy when you're young.
00:36:37.860 Okay, so what age?
00:36:40.900 I would say 20s, maybe.
00:36:44.880 Okay, like, 20 or 29, 25?
00:36:48.400 I would say 20 going on, 21, 22, 23.
00:36:51.660 Okay, so early 20s.
00:36:53.400 Early 20s, yeah.
00:36:54.340 Okay, and do you have kids?
00:36:56.760 Yeah, I do.
00:36:57.840 Okay, was that around the age you had them?
00:37:00.560 No, I had them a bit younger, which I'm glad that I did.
00:37:03.820 Okay.
00:37:04.220 Okay, why is that you just had more energy, is what you're saying?
00:37:09.400 Because it's fact, I've had children, and when I was younger, I had a way lot more energy,
00:37:14.840 whereas becoming a more mature parent, I would have a way lot less energy now than what I
00:37:21.460 did.
00:37:22.420 Yeah, no, I've heard that if you wait too long, like, because my dad, my youngest sister, is
00:37:27.540 10 years younger than me, and he's just exhausted.
00:37:29.900 He's like, I'm trying to get these kids out of the house.
00:37:32.900 What about you?
00:37:34.220 I'm 25, and if I had a partner, I would have children as soon as he's ready to be able
00:37:41.140 to cater for the children and myself.
00:37:43.260 So, you meet a guy tomorrow.
00:37:44.940 I'll have children tomorrow.
00:37:46.040 He said, I'll marry you in the next six months.
00:37:49.000 Let's, immediately.
00:37:50.300 Yeah.
00:37:50.800 Okay, cool, cool.
00:37:51.960 I'm ready.
00:37:54.360 What are your deal breakers? 1.00
00:37:58.400 Men smell funny, or if they're stupid or boring, I guess. 1.00
00:38:02.200 If they're jealous and possessive, obviously abusive, that kind of thing. 1.00
00:38:10.920 Why is abusive the first?
00:38:13.380 It's not just you guys.
00:38:14.540 It's everybody.
00:38:15.420 Abusive.
00:38:16.200 Yeah.
00:38:16.560 It's like, why is that the first thing women say? 1.00
00:38:19.460 I guess it's like the worst thing you can imagine, really.
00:38:21.040 Yeah, but it's like, why are we always thinking of the worst thing that could happen?
00:38:26.040 Because in debate, I suppose you go to the extreme to make your point.
00:38:28.700 This isn't a debate.
00:38:29.560 You know, all right, just men that smell funny, then, and balmy. 0.96
00:38:34.380 Okay, men that are boring. 0.94
00:38:36.580 See, it's like.
00:38:38.120 No, but it's true, though.
00:38:39.240 Come on, who you asked the question is very obvious. 0.99
00:38:42.640 No one's going to stay with an abusive, crazy psycho that's beating you left, right, and center. 0.98
00:38:46.260 My question is not telling you to stay with an abusive guy. 0.99
00:38:50.560 It is.
00:38:50.700 Why is that the first thing that we bring up?
00:38:53.600 If we can agree it's the.
00:38:54.820 How do we think about our brains?
00:38:56.680 It's like, why?
00:38:57.780 Why is that?
00:38:58.400 Why do we always go to the extreme?
00:38:59.980 Like the worst thing that could happen?
00:39:02.020 Maybe because it's just out there.
00:39:03.660 You know, you hear of it often.
00:39:06.320 That wouldn't be your deal breaker, though.
00:39:08.220 What's your deal breaker?
00:39:09.220 Mine.
00:39:09.500 Mine.
00:39:10.100 Yeah.
00:39:14.300 Yeah, boy.
00:39:15.000 Because if I was to get into it with my partner, then we was to start getting mad.
00:39:18.740 Like, probably be mad back. 0.97
00:39:20.520 You know, women are more violent than men. 1.00
00:39:24.340 Yeah, I've seen some stuff. 0.97
00:39:26.360 No, so it's funny because one-sided abuse, women hit men one-sided more than men hit women one-sided.
00:39:34.400 Yet women are always the ones that bring up abuse. 1.00
00:39:37.460 When if we're going to be technical about it, men should be the ones bringing up abuse and they never do.
00:39:42.560 Yeah, but why?
00:39:43.800 Why?
00:39:44.440 Maybe we're not abusive.
00:39:45.980 Maybe we can say it.
00:39:46.960 Maybe men that haven't been abusive can say it too.
00:39:50.080 Like, maybe when you're just not, when you're not abusive, you probably will bring it up because it's something that you just don't believe in, you know?
00:39:56.940 No, my whole point is women have this, like, negative picture of men that they're just abusive out to get us. 0.99
00:40:03.840 Well, all of them.
00:40:04.640 I would say, I would say in general, I hear the word abuse come up way too often considering, like, from women, I never hear it from men, even though one-sided abuse is more common from women to men.
00:40:18.860 But that's because the men are meant to be alpha and the stronger ones, so they would never admit that anyway.
00:40:22.840 My point is, like, why do women always go to the extreme? 1.00
00:40:28.600 If we would agree, right, we'd agree it's the minority of guys that are abusing women. 0.86
00:40:33.360 Well.
00:40:33.680 We would agree that's not a majority.
00:40:36.200 Right?
00:40:36.500 That's not your, right?
00:40:37.960 Come on.
00:40:38.360 Like, this shouldn't be.
00:40:39.120 You think over 50% of men are abusing women?
00:40:42.020 Oh, cool.
00:40:42.900 I wouldn't say it's the majority, but with my friends and stuff and family and stuff, I've seen it quite a lot.
00:40:51.340 And from what I've heard, it's something that I personally would never want to go through.
00:40:56.460 And so I'm not saying it's the majority of men, but I have heard it quite frequently from lots of different backgrounds.
00:41:05.500 I meet randoms and tell me stuff like that.
00:41:07.900 It's lies.
00:41:09.120 Yeah, it's lies.
00:41:10.180 What's lies?
00:41:10.640 Sorry?
00:41:10.900 What's lies?
00:41:11.500 The abuse allegations.
00:41:13.360 They're mostly lies.
00:41:15.140 Wait, I don't get it. 0.94
00:41:16.180 Yeah, women lie about abuse. 1.00
00:41:18.080 Yes.
00:41:18.560 No, yeah, there is.
00:41:19.940 Not all of them.
00:41:21.180 Women. 0.81
00:41:21.820 You're telling me all women lie about it? 0.97
00:41:23.080 I would say the majority of women that say they were abused are lying.
00:41:28.560 Okay.
00:41:28.980 Because what they did was they expanded the definition of abuse.
00:41:32.360 So women will use these words that, like, mean nothing. 1.00
00:41:35.960 Like, for example, what is coercion?
00:41:41.880 And the only reason I say this is because I've done these shows so many times and women come on. 1.00
00:41:46.520 They tell me their story and then I ask questions.
00:41:49.840 And it's not abuse.
00:41:51.280 I'll give you an example.
00:41:52.940 Had a girl come on. 0.99
00:41:54.080 She said my ex-boyfriend, like, shoved me out of the house or whatever, like, pushed me out.
00:41:59.580 And I was like, okay, like, why did he shove you, like, to the ground or whatever?
00:42:04.220 Turns out she refused to leave his house.
00:42:06.240 She was trespassing.
00:42:07.940 But does it give him the right to then shove her?
00:42:10.080 I mean, I think if I have someone that is breaking and entering into my house, I certainly can shove you out of there.
00:42:16.760 But was they not meant to be together?
00:42:18.520 And what kind of shove?
00:42:19.680 Because if you love someone, I wouldn't really be...
00:42:22.520 Well, I'll tell you, I'll tell you, I'll tell you, I'll tell you the problem is, like, I know guys that have slammed a door that the woman was holding on to the door.
00:42:32.000 Boom, abuse.
00:42:33.260 And he's actually was charged with that.
00:42:35.380 Okay.
00:42:35.860 And I get that.
00:42:36.600 That is so massive.
00:42:37.360 And I'm saying, and I'm telling you, you wouldn't know not being in it how one-sided it is.
00:42:42.120 It's very, very one-sided.
00:42:44.560 Like, it's very much like, and the reason we can look at this is because family court is based on a balance of probabilities,
00:42:51.380 where criminal court is based off of evidence.
00:42:53.500 So if you really want to see how common is abuse, the majority of abuse allegations that happen in family court, only 10% take it to the police.
00:43:03.720 So that tells us that the majority aren't even taking it to the police.
00:43:09.460 Yeah, that's why I think they're lying, the majority.
00:43:12.100 But would you not think that if it's to do with family, then the reason it's not a higher rate is because they don't want to break up that family? 0.99
00:43:19.020 Well, if they're going to court, they're already breaking up the family, so they clearly don't give a shit. 0.98
00:43:23.560 There's still ways around it. 0.98
00:43:25.320 What ways are there around it?
00:43:26.880 There's still ways around it where the father can still see the son or the daughter, whatever it is, like the child, but without actually putting them in jail.
00:43:34.140 Why would you want to leave an abusive man out to abuse another woman?
00:43:38.780 What?
00:43:39.680 No, I'm serious.
00:43:40.760 If he was hitting in a, because I have two questions.
00:43:43.180 The average man can beat up a woman pretty easy.
00:43:46.420 If you're fine, if you don't have any visible, no arms are broken, no nothing, my question is, how is he abusing you?
00:43:53.360 What is abuse?
00:43:54.860 Oh, there's all different kinds of terms of abuse.
00:43:57.760 Correct.
00:43:58.380 Mental abuse.
00:43:59.400 Okay, okay, right there, right there, right there. 0.64
00:44:01.760 Mental abuse. 0.58
00:44:02.960 Mental abuse.
00:44:03.720 Who is more emotionally manipulative, men or women? 0.99
00:44:06.500 Women. 0.91
00:44:07.580 So why are the women always crying abuse? 1.00
00:44:09.920 Like, this is what I'm saying.
00:44:11.620 Like, and that's the problem.
00:44:12.960 You said emotional abuse.
00:44:14.020 That used to not even exist.
00:44:15.460 That term didn't even exist until like the 80s, 70s or 80s.
00:44:18.780 They got into, the feminists got into the legal system, added all these words that don't mean anything to convince women that we're victims. 1.00
00:44:26.500 Like, they expanded the definition of abuse.
00:44:31.380 And so that's what I mean.
00:44:32.820 Like, I don't think it's that common for a man to beat a woman. 0.99
00:44:37.280 I would add to that and say, I don't think most females are lying. 1.00
00:44:43.240 I would say they provoke the situation and they just don't want to admit that they either started it first or literally just provoked it.
00:44:49.460 I would agree with that.
00:44:50.760 Yeah.
00:44:51.080 I just want to say for everyone who's watching this, if you're going through abuse right now and you, you know, you find our stuff, our conversation offensive, please, you know, this is just our individual opinions.
00:45:00.940 And if you are going through it, you know, seek help and my love to you.
00:45:07.160 Anyway, sorry.
00:45:08.040 I agree.
00:45:08.500 Sorry, I had to cut that.
00:45:09.800 Yeah, I still, I totally agree.
00:45:11.400 I still think the majority are lying.
00:45:13.640 Yeah, I would say over, I would say 80% lying.
00:45:18.080 And I think they over exaggerate it.
00:45:20.460 I think they don't talk about their part to play.
00:45:22.520 I think they emotionally abuse the men.
00:45:24.520 Oftentimes they just snap because they emotionally abuse it.
00:45:27.820 And I think it's funny because, again, women do it to men more than men do it to women.
00:45:32.000 And yet women are always, what, whining. 1.00
00:45:34.940 I can agree with you.
00:45:36.780 I swear.
00:45:37.660 We're on the same team.
00:45:39.560 I swear to God, I agree with you.
00:45:41.360 Trust me.
00:45:42.420 But I'm telling you, there's some people out there right now that are suffering and they're not, they don't even know how to speak.
00:45:49.680 Abuse totally exists.
00:45:51.160 Mentally abuse a man.
00:45:52.300 I'm not saying it doesn't exist, but my whole point is like, why wouldn't you go to the police?
00:45:57.680 They're scared.
00:45:58.680 And no, I think we got to end this narrative.
00:46:00.880 And they love them.
00:46:01.640 They love them.
00:46:02.780 It is what is.
00:46:03.300 I think we got to end the narrative.
00:46:04.940 I think as a woman, you cannot accuse a man of being abusive without going to criminal court.
00:46:09.600 But then it's the same thing that you said.
00:46:10.780 It comes down to evidence.
00:46:12.880 Correct.
00:46:13.500 And I, with this, okay, any, any guy in here, any guy in here, if he abused me, you don't think there would be evidence?
00:46:21.500 Oh, come on. 0.87
00:46:22.300 Again, you can't get a term.
00:46:24.120 No, no, no, think about it.
00:46:25.120 Think about it.
00:46:25.640 I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm strong.
00:46:27.620 Wait, I deadlift, I deadlift 300 pounds.
00:46:30.380 I can bench a plate.
00:46:31.320 I'm six foot.
00:46:32.200 I'm tall and strong for a chick. 0.80
00:46:34.300 Any one of these guys could beat me up pretty easy to the point they're like, there would be bruises.
00:46:40.180 There would be, there would absolutely be evidence.
00:46:42.460 I agree with, what's your name again, sorry?
00:46:47.800 Me?
00:46:48.200 Yeah.
00:46:48.660 Shanela.
00:46:49.380 I agree with Shanela.
00:46:51.200 And again, like I said, you can't pigeonhole every situation.
00:46:56.260 Yeah.
00:46:56.440 I'm not, I'm not, I'm not saying you are, I'm not saying, I'm not saying you are.
00:47:00.660 Remember what I said before, I'm talking about in general.
00:47:02.800 Yeah.
00:47:03.300 So I'm not saying you are pigeonholing.
00:47:06.620 Because like what you're saying, yeah, you are right.
00:47:09.660 There are some very manipulative women out there. 1.00
00:47:12.540 And when they can't get the one, yeah, they may tell lies.
00:47:16.440 But then on the other hand, which they're always at the other hand, there's generally women that are being literally abused. 1.00
00:47:25.260 Yeah.
00:47:25.740 Abusive women exist. 1.00
00:47:27.000 Yeah, I'm not saying they don't.
00:47:28.580 I mean, you know, it's yin and yang.
00:47:30.760 I mean, there is, and I feel like, guys as well, you know, like, I feel like guys don't speak as much because simply the fact that it takes away their male masculinity and stuff like that.
00:47:43.400 And it will make them feel like, oh, I'm not a man if I go on competing.
00:47:46.120 Guys don't speak because nobody would care.
00:47:48.940 You know what, I'm against that.
00:47:49.800 They would still, they would still, they would still paint the women.
00:47:51.840 I've seen videos on TikTok of a woman like freaking out at a man. 1.00
00:47:55.900 And what, and what, what does everyone say in the comments?
00:47:58.420 Well, what did he do?
00:47:59.960 Right.
00:48:00.480 I mean, we had, we had on, we had anyone country fan, country fan, Carrie Underwood.
00:48:05.660 I dug my key into the side of his pretty, you know, the song, right?
00:48:09.900 She, she keys his car for cheating. 1.00
00:48:12.620 And if a guy did that to a woman, everyone be freaking out.
00:48:15.760 I would even argue that if we're to use the same way that women define abuse. 0.99
00:48:23.140 To like, look at all the cases that men go through.
00:48:27.100 I would argue that almost every woman has abused a man that they've been in a relationship with. 0.97
00:48:32.240 If we're to, if we're to go by the same standards of the way women shout abuse. 0.99
00:48:36.300 I would say every single woman that has dated a man has abused that man. 1.00
00:48:41.520 Yeah, I agree.
00:48:45.720 You what?
00:48:46.860 Sorry.
00:48:47.160 I feel like that just got a little late on me.
00:48:49.980 The drink kind of delayed a little bit.
00:48:53.420 Oh, he was saying that most women, if we use the same definitions, most women have abused men.
00:48:58.980 Okay.
00:49:00.140 Well, I know someone really close to me that is a man that has been abused by a woman.
00:49:05.460 Yeah, I know.
00:49:06.140 The word is just dramatic.
00:49:07.360 But anyway, either way, it is some sort of abuse.
00:49:10.040 No.
00:49:10.500 Physical abuse.
00:49:11.340 Let me make my point clear.
00:49:12.020 I'm saying, if we're to use the definitions of the way women claim abuse, let's even take it out of, in general.
00:49:18.960 I would say you sitting right there have abused almost every man you've been in a relationship with.
00:49:23.500 Wow.
00:49:24.480 Wait, are you telling me that I have?
00:49:26.280 Yeah.
00:49:26.940 Oh, really?
00:49:27.960 Is that how I come across?
00:49:29.120 It's not about what you come across.
00:49:30.500 I'm just telling you how relationships go.
00:49:32.700 Oh, so you're not telling me that I am abusive to a man?
00:49:36.260 No, I'm not.
00:49:36.560 No, he's saying by the definition that feminists use. 1.00
00:49:39.720 And by the legal system, so coercive control, emotionally manipulative, narcissistic. 0.53
00:49:44.500 It's like women throw narcissists at men 24-7 when it's like, who's more narcissistic? 0.99
00:49:49.240 We're the ones addicted to social media. 0.96
00:49:52.180 Yeah, we're all just basically corrupt, aren't we?
00:49:54.960 Yeah, that's the whole point.
00:49:56.020 No one's special and no one's perfect.
00:49:59.160 She gets it.
00:50:00.480 Wow.