JustPearlyThings - Modern Women Don't Appreciate HONESTY

00:00:00.000 what do you guys look for in a guy

00:00:01.260 yeah go ahead go ahead i've already answered i said however yeah she says i'm sorry i'm sorry

00:00:09.520 i want the truth because i seem to find myself in the position where i'm always seem to be the

00:00:17.720 side bit side bitch all the time and i think that's just what annoys me like 1.00

00:00:25.660 you think you give us side chick vibes yeah i just don't seem to find someone that just 0.96

00:00:30.000 but do you know he's in a relationship when you meet him no otherwise i wouldn't go there

00:00:34.220 oh okay that's different yeah i just get put in a position where i find out like months in one case

00:00:41.800 two years um that they've been in a relationship so i just want the truth because it doesn't hurt

00:00:48.640 me like you could turn around say oh this is not serious and i'd be like that it is what it is i

00:00:53.960 want to have my fun but if why do you think they put you in that box i think because i don't

00:01:00.000 necessarily come i don't come across like i want to have something serious okay so as much as i do

00:01:08.500 i'm like in between because i've had bad experiences before which has made me feel like i don't want

00:01:14.060 no one to live with me i don't want this i don't want that but then it comes to i do feel lonely and

00:01:20.140 i would want that intimacy and that love from the right person do you think then that's in a way

00:01:25.900 making the mistakes of the men of the future pay for the mistakes of your past it's kind of like

00:01:32.200 when it's kind of like when a guy is is always going through your phone because some girl cheated

00:01:36.240 on him in a way you see i always say this rule i won't go through your phone don't go through my

00:01:41.720 phone if you see something that's going to hurt you don't you think that before you move on to

00:01:45.640 one relationship like get rid of the baggage heal from one before you go don't take one relationship

00:01:50.820 into the other can i say i've i've clocked that we've all been saying honesty but i feel like 0.96

00:01:56.360 personally if you yearn for like honesty in a relationship it's kind of like it kind of sucks

00:02:00.940 because like if you're going into a relationship being like i just want honesty i need you to be honest

00:02:04.280 with me i need you to be honest with me that's kind of like do you need to beg for that but also

00:02:08.920 at the end of the day i don't know about you guys but personally for someone that's been honest with

00:02:14.320 me i have felt hurt before and it's kind of like also that honesty doesn't i feel like there's certain

00:02:19.000 things that you don't have to say that's certain things that you don't have to say but if you say

00:02:26.760 it's going to cause some type of some type of you know and and also can i say guys that are

00:02:32.980 always honest they're normally always honest about the past relationships and i feel like

00:02:37.360 if you if you if you've established that you guys are going to be a hundred percent about

00:02:41.780 everything you've done you're going to feel some type of way regardless of whether that involved

00:02:45.560 you or not so they've been doing stuff before they even knew you but you'd feel the type of way

00:02:50.120 because they're with you right now so it's kind of like certain stuff you don't have to say

00:02:52.940 and it's not me being secretive if there's certain stuff that we can talk about we can talk about

00:02:56.360 that's going to progress our relationship but if it's about oh like yeah i used to do like

00:03:00.040 this with her and like yeah like this and that it's kind of like i think you're right i don't

00:03:05.100 think women want honesty because then they wouldn't keep dating liars yeah do you get you'd sit here

00:03:09.840 and be like yeah i want you to be a hundred percent honest with me but if you're honest with me i'm 0.87

00:03:13.260 gonna start crying the same thing with cheaters you know i would rather just cry and be mad and then

00:03:18.200 just get over it my first reaction i always say tell me the honest truth let the first reaction go over

00:03:23.560 their head because that's it soaking in but does the honesty progress your relationship is it positive to your

00:03:27.860 relationship though yes because they know that there's no point in lying to me i'm not the one

00:03:32.360 you want to lie to why did you say honesty when i asked when you i asked you what you were looking

00:03:37.420 for because to me that implies that maybe you haven't always gotten that no i haven't um the past

00:03:43.280 relationships well like as you're a pretty girl you have a million options there's many men that

00:03:48.440 will be honest with you but it's like we picked the liar no they i don't know i just feel like they

00:03:53.060 as you said make my funny thought so it's like the liars the lies make you want them but then

00:03:59.780 you're attracted to the lie good for you good for you but i do want the truth it'd be nice so then

00:04:07.560 what incentive do men have to be honest with us if the liars get laid i just prefer like if you just

00:04:13.160 turn around and said yeah you're seen talking to like two three other girls and i'm just an option 0.95

00:04:17.740 if they told you that then they you wouldn't sleep with them that kind of links back to what i said

00:04:22.860 earlier um a lot of time and this has been mentioned on fresh and fit another podcast

00:04:27.640 um women want honesty honesty but as the saying goes they can't really handle the truth because when you 1.00

00:04:33.740 are honest they immediately leave which you know i understand but what incentive is there for men to be

00:04:41.500 honest because they'll lose the resources they put into you you know whether it's taking on dates life

00:04:46.560 advice everything because men help us with a lot of things when we're with them um but then you just

00:04:51.100 leave because they're with other people which is most likely the thing that they're not being honest

00:04:55.400 about um so as you said what incentive do they have to be honest when they could lose the whole

00:04:59.660 thing they've put work into you must be crazy do not tell me something that you know i'm gonna be like

00:05:04.160 yeah i'm gonna leave you for it's kind of like what people are selfish i mean do you do you go into

00:05:09.980 relationships telling men your body count well it depends if they're like if we're gonna be 100

00:05:14.780 has anyone ever asked i've never been asked because i don't know because i feel like any guy

00:05:19.580 that you talk to these they will ask you your body count really not really not anymore maybe like

00:05:24.140 maybe young people not anymore she's right it's a young per it's like the younger the younger the

00:05:32.220 guy is yeah maybe it's because yeah but i'm just saying if we're gonna be a hundred percent honest

00:05:36.780 no because i feel like no especially right like a lot of girls are with guys where they know if

00:05:42.860 they said their body count it would end their relationship so so so like there's there's in

00:05:47.580 a way we're not always honest with them either because i was gonna say like if you're going into

00:05:51.340 a relationship nowadays especially like my friends everybody that i'm surrounded by right now as a

00:05:55.740 19 year old they will 100 ask you your body count 100 it's one of the first thing that comes up what's your

00:06:01.340 name what school do you go see if you're a color what's your body count it's definitely the age thing 0.70

00:06:05.500 maybe it's the age thing but in this like in this day and age right now that i'm in right now they

00:06:10.540 will ask you with no shame because that's the question will you answer 100 i'll be straight up

00:06:16.220 with you i'll say this many or this i've never had anybody ask me that older men just don't see the

00:06:22.780 point in asking yeah maybe they just feel like you're gonna lie anyway you're right but the last time i

00:06:28.060 ever got asked that question i think i was 16 years old that's a good nine years ago really because

00:06:37.260 i lied i did get asked all the time right now and i did give my honest answer i think with men as well

00:06:43.100 um obviously you know you can't look at a woman and be like oh yeah her body count is this but you

00:06:49.020 can get an inkling of whether it's higher or lower and sometimes that is enough to suffice them as to

00:06:53.900 whether they get in a relationship or just have sex with you or whatever it may be i think how

00:06:58.940 you portray yourself is sometimes enough for them to decide would it put you off of this if their

00:07:03.980 body count was like higher than yours no i'd prefer that if my partner's body was higher than mine 0.76

00:07:10.620 no of course not you know i think men value inexperience whereas women value experience so

00:07:17.100 my partner's body count is of course higher than mine and if it wasn't i'd be like why the hell am i

00:07:21.420 with you if no one else wants you but didn't the young lady on the end i don't see i don't think

00:07:26.060 that i don't agree with that but i just expect that men you don't agree with what that um you think

00:07:32.060 it's because the experience i don't think you don't think women value experience no no i do think they

00:07:36.540 value experience but i don't think i'd be saying oh your body count is less than mine so i don't like

00:07:42.140 that because other women don't like you okay i mean i don't think it's a conscious thing but i mean

00:07:47.340 yeah i don't i don't sit there and think to myself well these women didn't you've got a lower 1.00

00:07:51.740 body count therefore these women didn't like you so why am i it's just you know a silent tick in your 0.87

00:07:57.020 head where it's you know it's like evolution it's like when a guy's very i mean one of the guys will

00:08:02.700 tell me getting verified is the first way to get women really yeah because it's a sign of pre-selection 0.93

00:08:08.700 that's so superficial there isn't it i mean we can't really change it yeah it's like it's like telling

00:08:14.220 the world not to be the world and all in all history like women have gone for men that other 1.00

00:08:18.620 women have selected so it's like you could say it's superficial but that's that's always what's 1.00

00:08:22.620 happened yeah like look at um you know genghis khan or the world's conquerors if women didn't like men 1.00

00:08:27.740 that weren't if women did not like men that were experienced why do these men that she have harems of 1.00

00:08:32.940 women and would just naturally gravitate 17 women reproduced for one man every one man 8 000 years ago 1.00

00:08:38.140 my my ex has this saying that girls can get who they want and guys get what they want no girls get

00:08:45.580 what they want guys get like if a guy can only get a girl if the girl wants them he can't just go out

00:08:51.260 and get the girl girls but they get who they want and guys can get who they can can i say um sorry um

00:08:57.900 i feel like just we were talking about like a couple seconds ago but like i feel like women always say

00:09:03.100 they want to experience someone who's experienced but will cry if they find out who they've been

00:09:09.340 in those experiences with and how many body count there is can i just say it because i could say

00:09:13.660 and be like i want someone who's so experienced that's gonna do this that's gonna do that and

00:09:16.940 make me feel this type of way but then as soon as okay cool that happens and they're like okay cool

00:09:21.180 like what's your body count who have you been in for the past they're gonna start crying and it's

00:09:23.820 kind of like choose choose whether you want him to be experienced and and like is that common

00:09:30.140 a hundred percent just don't just don't answer them i just want to hear if you didn't ask her

00:09:35.340 the question about what she wants in the man oh yeah what do you look for what do i look for yes

00:09:40.460 um i feel like even though i'm quite small i'd say like five eight how tall are you sorry i'm like

00:09:47.660 five three do you want two little people yeah they're making me normally i feel short next to

00:09:55.340 pearl i feel tall today um i like a man that's family very big on my family um big family

00:10:06.940 i like chivalry i don't really have like a type like physically so he's got to be five eight and he

00:10:13.820 likes his family and chivalry well he's nice yeah he's got a good family anti-chivalry what about

00:10:18.860 money any minimum what if he's unemployed are you paying the bills till till he figures it just it

00:10:25.580 depends on how much passion he has and what he's doing that's not paying bills is like money a big

00:10:31.420 thing usually unemployed people don't have passion typically i'll tell you what welcome to england

00:10:37.740 they do so are we all going to say like money is a big thing in relationship going into a relationship

00:10:42.540 right now like yeah money is a big thing i've heard everybody mention everything and for me

00:10:51.340 all i want is a man that's working that's going to treat me the same way he'd like to be treated

00:10:56.780 and he's got to be good in bed i ain't gonna have no money i don't care what you look like 1.00

00:11:01.340 i don't care how tall you are if you're not good in bed it ain't happening i don't care how much money

00:11:05.900 you've got either if you look and everybody's talking talking about this fanny fluttering 0.92

00:11:10.460 that fanny fluttering and nobody said about sex what but so your fanny can flutter and the man's 0.98

00:11:15.500 gonna turn around he ain't gonna be good in bed what you're gonna do then he's got everything else 0.99

00:11:19.180 that's in the shopping trolley except that because i see you put that you need to put that in the

00:11:22.540 shopping trolley i missed that off but that is vital absolutely you guys rather have a guy that you

00:11:27.580 weren't physically attracted to that's good and bad or a guy that you were very physically

00:11:31.740 attracted to but he was bad in bed give me the one that not physical i want the one that is not

00:11:36.220 yeah i don't mind because i feel like if you're not good in bed i can always do that myself no

00:11:41.420 they're working for me so you would take the hot guy yeah you take the hot guy what about you

00:11:49.180 i think i think i'd have to be attracted to him to some degree to be able to lay down so i'd have to

00:11:54.060 teach i think rather than not have an attractive man no no there's no word this isn't build a man

00:12:02.300 he's bad in bed today he's going to be bad in bed tomorrow

00:12:05.900 i'm going to teach him and build him up being an actor

00:12:09.100 he does not care give her one yeah she'll make him the best 0.61

00:12:12.860 60 seconds that's it

00:12:18.300 i mean i think that's important for me they would have to be good in bed so

00:12:22.940 but then i wouldn't be able to lay with somebody if i didn't find them attractive so it's difficult

00:12:27.340 just pick one pick one i can't pick one you have to 0.99

00:12:32.540 ugly and good in bed and good looking and rubbish 1.00

00:12:36.620 are you didn't tell me they can't go out of an ugly man 1.00

00:12:41.660 is that how superficial you are 0.98

00:12:47.260 i think um 0.99

00:12:47.980 it's tough i can't answer see i never got that because i always think if you get an ugly man

00:12:55.340 nobody's gonna want him you got a whole man for yourself

00:12:58.860 but then he's not making my fanny flyer so then it's not but that's what she said for me so i think

00:13:02.700 i would have to i would have to yeah maybe but then i have to look at him it's the good looking

00:13:07.260 i have to look he has to be attractive to me and how many hours a day are you looking at each other

00:13:11.740 versus how many hours a day are you sleeping with each other if you're working if you're going out

00:13:17.180 together you see it you it's yeah now how many days how many hours a day do you work about eight

00:13:22.540 how many hours a day do you sleep about eight that's what you've got to think about so you're

00:13:26.620 you're only going to see him before and depending on sexual positions you don't even have to look at

00:13:29.980 him

00:13:39.420 i think i'd have to go with with the good looking guy that's superficial isn't it but i think i would

00:13:43.260 have to yeah most women would though yeah i think i'd have to okay would anyone take the 1.00

00:13:48.540 the not so good looking guy but get in bed me all right you two and then you would take the hot guy 1.00

00:13:54.620 yeah i've actually been with someone that's not good looking but it was good in bed and then after

00:13:59.740 a while it's like my man just started saying to me they're good looking it's all right

00:14:06.940 makes up for it in the beds no i go for the person that's unattractive but good in bed because you can

00:14:13.500 learn to love someone's appearance even if they don't change you can just gradually learn to love

00:14:17.980 it whereas sex is quite an intimate part of relationship so even though it's not as important

00:14:22.780 for women as it is for men generally um it's that would still be a part of your relationship missing

JustPearlyThings - August 07, 2023

Modern Women Don't Appreciate HONESTY

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