JustPearlyThings - Modern Women Don't Know How To Take L's

00:00:00.000 Thank you.

00:00:30.000 Thank you.

00:01:00.000 Thank you.

00:01:29.980 I'm your host, Pearl, and we go live on YouTube, Rumble, and X.

00:01:33.740 If you want to support my work, we are trying to get to 3,500 memberships on the website.

00:01:39.420 So if you want $10 a month, $80 a year, and I do, read your chats.

00:01:43.560 So today we are going to talk about the art of taking an L.

00:01:47.480 So this really is a lost art.

00:01:50.820 But before we do, I wanted to start the show with the funniest video I have seen in a while.

00:01:57.860 I wanted to, there is a show where people basically call in and figure out why their date didn't call them back.

00:02:07.340 So you guys ever go on a date and you think that date went amazing.

00:02:13.020 You think it's the best date you ever had.

00:02:15.220 You think, I have locked this in the bag.

00:02:18.080 And then you never hear from them again.

00:02:20.960 It's 2024.

00:02:22.160 If it hasn't happened to you, it's abnormal.

00:02:24.820 You're the weird one.

00:02:26.320 Sorry.

00:02:27.280 Now, this woman called into a show to figure out why this guy did not call her back.

00:02:31.760 And so what they do is the two show hosts, they get the guy on the phone, and the guy does not know that the woman is there.

00:02:40.640 So they get the woman to be quiet or vice versa, right?

00:02:43.580 Sometimes it's a man calling about why a woman didn't call him back.

00:02:48.560 So I just saw this video and I thought it was so funny.

00:02:53.860 So the first word is she.

00:02:55.880 I cut it at the wrong spot when I screen recorded it.

00:03:00.840 But let's go.

00:03:02.760 Psychos put her on.

00:03:04.000 Oh, no, it's you.

00:03:04.780 So he says you psychos.

00:03:06.860 Okay, let me turn the sound up.

00:03:08.420 Make sure this is.

00:03:09.200 Oh, that was the problem.

00:03:11.240 Psychos put her on the phone.

00:03:13.560 Oh, my God.

00:03:15.040 Yes, she's been here the whole time.

00:03:16.700 Chris, you do not need to be scared of me.

00:03:18.820 There is nothing to be scared of.

00:03:22.220 Hello, Chris?

00:03:23.160 I ain't scared.

00:03:25.440 What you said was crazy.

00:03:27.420 It was crazy.

00:03:28.880 Okay, Chris, let me be real right now.

00:03:30.980 I do not like my roommate.

00:03:33.160 She's messy and crazy.

00:03:34.380 And, yeah, I've thought about how to go in my mind and, like, think about what I would do, how I would do it.

00:03:41.680 And it makes me feel better.

00:03:43.240 And I would never actually do it.

00:03:44.900 Come on, I love mac and cheese.

00:03:48.680 I'm not a serial killer.

00:03:50.000 That does not mean anything.

00:03:51.980 I mean, I think everybody here, including Chris, has had a lot of bad roommates and nobody has ever fantasized about chopping them into little pieces.

00:03:59.300 I'm terrified right now, if anybody wants to know.

00:04:04.260 Thank you for popping up, Chris.

00:04:05.800 I was actually wondering.

00:04:06.720 I want a poll in the chat I'm going to do.

00:04:09.500 Would you call her?

00:04:10.740 How do we do a poll?

00:04:11.700 You know how to do a poll in the chat?

00:04:13.140 I want to know if you guys would call her back.

00:04:15.320 We're going to keep going.

00:04:16.280 All right, I want to say, did he, did he, yeah, I'm putting it, did he dodge a bullet?

00:04:25.820 We're going to watch the rest.

00:04:27.200 And when you guys have made a decision, I want you guys to answer because the comments on this were funny.

00:04:35.340 Half the guys thought, what's he freaking out about?

00:04:38.060 The other half were saying he dodged a bullet.

00:04:40.560 So I want you guys, I want to know what my audience thinks.

00:04:43.120 And I'm going to ask, I'm going to put, I am a woman for the two women that are watching today.

00:04:49.000 I appreciate you, ladies.

00:04:50.820 Okay.

00:04:51.920 I'm wondering about that.

00:04:53.300 Okay, so Rebecca, you don't really want to kill your roommate.

00:04:56.780 No, of course not.

00:04:58.440 Okay, good.

00:04:59.700 You can understand, like, if you were on a date with a guy and he was talking about how he was going to off his buddy, that would be kind of a red flag.

00:05:09.760 Like, if he was talking about murdering, like, his friend in, like, a funny way, I would laugh in a funny way.

00:05:16.820 Are you guys, are you guys listening to this?

00:05:18.620 She's still talking about it.

00:05:20.360 I just wanted the date to be about mac and cheese.

00:05:24.020 Not murder.

00:05:25.900 Oh, my God.

00:05:26.920 You just don't get it.

00:05:27.920 I was just joking, like, blowing off steam, like being a fuck.

00:05:31.160 How about this, Chris?

00:05:32.560 Would you like to go out on a second date with Rebecca?

00:05:34.760 We will pay for it.

00:05:36.080 You could not pay me enough.

00:05:37.780 I mean, if you think of it this way, there's no way she has any outstanding warrants or anything.

00:05:42.860 She wouldn't do a radio thing if that was the case.

00:05:45.820 I don't want to know anything about her background.

00:05:49.020 I'm terrified I'm going to be tied to a future crime she commits.

00:05:53.120 You actually, honestly, 100% believe that I am capable of murdering someone?

00:05:58.960 Are you serious?

00:06:00.080 Are you serious?

00:06:01.060 Come on.

00:06:01.860 Just be normal.

00:06:02.620 You're so cute.

00:06:03.500 Just be normal.

00:06:04.500 Just be normal.

00:06:05.160 You're so cute.

00:06:06.280 Oh, my God.

00:06:07.120 That is a plea that so many women have said before.

00:06:10.240 Chris, will you be normal?

00:06:11.920 You're so cute.

00:06:12.640 Will you go out with her again?

00:06:13.660 And we're not going out again.

00:06:15.480 All right.

00:06:16.520 Well, thank you for telling us about your date.

00:06:19.380 I think you're safe now.

00:06:21.240 Oh, he is not safe.

00:06:22.780 I'm going to keep messaging you because you're cute.

00:06:25.060 And if you think I'm crazy, I'll be crazy.

00:06:27.500 Oh, whoa.

00:06:29.560 I haven't seen anything yet.

00:06:31.000 That was just joking.

00:06:32.340 Rebecca, he doesn't want to go out with you, though.

00:06:34.920 Just, like, cut your losses.

00:06:36.620 You can find somebody else who's cute and normal on your level.

00:06:40.160 And, like, mac and cheese, I doubt it.

00:06:42.580 Chris, we're going out next Friday.

00:06:44.040 Yeah, I am, and it sounds like you have a date.

00:06:45.920 I'm sorry.

00:06:46.600 I think you should show up.

00:06:47.820 We'll still pay for it.

00:06:49.300 We're going to pay for it.

00:06:51.980 You go there on Friday, okay?

00:06:53.800 And if I don't show up in, like, an hour, just keep waiting because I'll be there.

00:06:58.020 So, what do you guys think?

00:07:03.280 Did he dodge a bullet?

00:07:06.060 Okay, the chat, 84% says yes.

00:07:10.560 I thought she was kind of funny.

00:07:12.080 I thought she was funny.

00:07:15.900 Sue me.

00:07:17.060 But you know what?

00:07:18.540 Most women barely know how to speak proper English.

00:07:21.400 Do we got anything on the website?

00:07:23.480 Nothing.

00:07:24.840 Guys, guys, $10 a month, $80 a year.

00:07:28.720 You want your opinion valued?

00:07:31.320 You want to comment on the show and I read it no matter what?

00:07:34.980 Go to the website.

00:07:36.100 Click on live stream.

00:07:37.120 We have an app.

00:07:38.240 We have an app, all right?

00:07:39.780 You know, on both.

00:07:41.140 It's the Audacity Network on both Android.

00:07:45.180 Yeah, I always forget what the other one's called.

00:07:46.780 I'm an Apple girl.

00:07:47.920 Apple and Android.

00:07:49.100 Could you fix the thing?

00:07:51.620 Okay, guys.

00:07:52.400 So, today we're going to talk.

00:07:54.040 Do I need to talk about...

00:07:58.020 Wait, you got to do it again.

00:08:00.760 All right.

00:08:01.020 Ratcheted up against men that is rarely talked about.

00:08:03.780 It's not just the relentless anti-masculinity propaganda and OnlyFans hoes causing the societal issues we discuss in this show.

00:08:10.140 Did you know that the average city's tap water contains trace pharmaceuticals and endocrine disruptors?

00:08:15.280 This often includes estrogen from birth control.

00:08:18.180 The average adult consumes a credit card worth of plastic every week.

00:08:21.340 That's five grams of plastic a week on average, so it's no wonder that the average male's testosterone is half of what it was 50 years ago.

00:08:28.860 Testosterone declines 1% a year, and without course correction, we are headed towards extinction.

00:08:33.700 No matter how based you are, you need to be naturally boosting your testosterone, my friends at Chalk.

00:08:37.780 See H-O-Q.com around a mission to save mankind from extinction by boosting your vitality.

00:08:43.420 Chalk's male vitality stack contains premium and potent herbs clinically studied to naturally boost your testosterone levels, sperm count, and overall vitality.

00:08:50.640 Just one of the many ingredients in the male vitality stack was studied in double-blind human clinical trials to boost total testosterone 20% in 90 days.

00:08:58.840 When you boost your testosterone levels, you'll have more mental clarity, you're more capable of making decisions and taking risks.

00:09:04.680 Having high testosterone will also affect your pheromones, so women will find you more attractive subconsciously.

00:09:09.520 Get the Chalk male vitality stack right now on Chalk.com.

00:09:12.420 That's C-H-O-Q.com.

00:09:13.740 Use my name, Pearl, as your coupon code, and you'll get 25% off sitewide on Chalk.com.

00:09:18.300 That's C-H-O-Q.com.

00:09:19.560 My name is Pearl.

00:09:20.640 That is the discount code.

00:09:22.780 And I took this before I ran my marathon, guys.

00:09:25.940 It's good.

00:09:26.740 I'll tell you what.

00:09:27.400 I actually like the taste, which I don't usually like for pre-workout.

00:09:31.860 Anyways, so today we're going to talk about the art of taking an L.

00:09:36.980 Now, what is taking an L in life?

00:09:40.640 You know, an example is getting fired from your job.

00:09:43.560 That's an L.

00:09:44.020 Another example is a man simping really hard, paying for a woman for months.

00:09:50.480 You know, there's men that pay women's rent without getting any poonanny.

00:09:54.680 Zero.

00:09:55.780 Nothing.

00:09:56.840 Do you know what that's called?

00:09:58.700 An L.

00:09:59.460 And one of the biggest differences between men and women is men are better at taking losses

00:10:10.620 because society tells men where they are, where they stand, and if they are good enough early

00:10:18.380 on in life.

00:10:19.000 Men get audited where women do not.

00:10:22.260 You know, if a woman is average looking, she can get above average results by putting on

00:10:28.360 a pound of makeup, getting a good boob job, and, you know, putting on a filter on a dating

00:10:35.940 app.

00:10:37.380 Boom.

00:10:38.440 And you guys know how you are.

00:10:40.140 If you're already on the date and she's hot enough, even if she catfished you guys a little,

00:10:45.240 but can we just be honest here?

00:10:46.440 I'm really tired of the dishonesty.

00:10:48.720 If you guys get on a date, and even if she doesn't look like her pictures, if she's

00:10:54.740 attractive enough, you still might do it.

00:10:57.300 Like, let's not.

00:10:58.600 I hate it when you guys cat to me.

00:11:00.540 I really don't like it.

00:11:02.120 So the average modern women will take L's in the modern women life cycle, especially

00:11:09.860 when it comes to dating in the early and mid-20s.

00:11:12.880 We all know what the dating apps are telling us.

00:11:15.360 Women are sharing men.

00:11:17.360 There's no special app that's different.

00:11:19.700 If a woman is on a dating app or even Instagram, and really most of history, monogamy is a

00:11:26.740 relatively new thing historically.

00:11:29.080 So we are sharing men.

00:11:32.660 It's literally in our DNA.

00:11:34.580 So women are going to sleep with at least one man in her life that is not interested in

00:11:40.800 anything but sex.

00:11:41.720 Most women will have a time where they thought things were headed towards something serious,

00:11:47.520 ignoring all the red flags along the way, just to find out that that guy had no intention

00:11:52.580 of being in a relationship.

00:11:54.060 Or maybe he was initially, you know, interested in being in a relationship, but he changed his

00:11:58.980 mind.

00:11:59.240 Not only do women not know how to take L's, but there is a whole social infrastructure

00:12:05.460 in place to prevent women from doing so.

00:12:08.700 How many of you guys have seen an idiot woman in a job that she does not deserve?

00:12:14.300 How many guys have seen a man dating a woman that offers to accept less than they deserve?

00:12:25.120 I mean, how many of you guys have seen that in a father, an uncle, a friend?

00:12:28.680 That's not uncommon.

00:12:29.360 A man can keep a woman on friends with benefits for years, with the woman being a willing participant,

00:12:37.420 but the man is still demonized, even if she knew full well what the situation was.

00:12:44.340 How many of you guys have seen a sister?

00:12:47.880 I don't know.

00:12:48.240 Maybe some of you had a single mother.

00:12:49.740 I don't know.

00:12:50.140 A sister, a mother, a friend, who was clearly in a situationship that she wanted to be more

00:12:58.200 and was going nowhere.

00:13:01.160 If a woman wants to be in a relationship and she is in a situationship, which is sex without

00:13:10.920 commitment, that is an L.

00:13:13.460 Now, I understand that sometimes it's the man in the situationship.

00:13:17.020 I mean, I hear stories from you guys.

00:13:19.040 You know, I've heard stories from men where they wanted to be in a relationship and the

00:13:24.420 woman told them no.

00:13:25.480 I find this really common in the men right below the chads, like they're almost chads.

00:13:31.060 So the ladies are going for the chads, but in between, they might go for a below chad.

00:13:37.540 And the below chad is like, dang, this woman's hot.

00:13:40.840 I'll take it.

00:13:42.180 I'll take it off the lots or I want this one.

00:13:45.740 And she's like, no, I just want something casual.

00:13:49.380 That happens too.

00:13:51.720 But, you know, what are the solutions?

00:13:55.720 Who do I see?

00:13:56.560 I want to talk about who I see winning in this market because I know we talk about the

00:14:01.460 sexes, you know, drifting further and further apart.

00:14:04.420 But every now and then I like to talk about the ladies that I've seen win.

00:14:07.860 I know I like to rag on us and talk about the modern woman life cycle.

00:14:12.860 And I do want to give a disclaimer that these sometimes may sound like generalizations.

00:14:19.540 And maybe they are, but this is based on my personal experience and what I've seen.

00:14:24.340 I interviewed a thousand people in a lot of different volleyball teams and a lot of different

00:14:28.260 social groups.

00:14:29.140 So, you know, you guys can take it or leave it.

00:14:31.500 But this is just the women that I've seen win, at least right now.

00:14:35.620 I can't predict what will happen in the future.

00:14:39.020 Now, the common pattern I noticed with these women is they had the ability to put their ego

00:14:45.880 aside, ignore what everybody was telling them, not take personal anything that wasn't their

00:14:52.740 fault.

00:14:53.160 And that was how they won.

00:14:56.440 So there was a girl I knew in college and freshman year.

00:15:00.320 She started hooking up with this guy on the baseball team.

00:15:03.200 Now, this guy on the baseball team was a bit of a player.

00:15:06.920 You know what I mean?

00:15:07.420 Like he he was one of the better looking ones.

00:15:10.860 She hitched.

00:15:11.920 She was on that wagon from freshman year.

00:15:13.800 And for about five years, she was in this situation ship.

00:15:17.100 Now, the men are thinking women will give it up for free for years.

00:15:21.540 They don't move on.

00:15:22.660 They have so many options.

00:15:23.840 Look, guys, I'm just telling you what I've seen.

00:15:27.640 And this woman was so and to be fair, he was probably two points above her in looks like

00:15:32.660 I'd give her like a six.

00:15:35.760 He's probably an eight.

00:15:37.840 And I thought at the time I thought she was stupid.

00:15:40.340 I'm being honest.

00:15:41.080 OK, I'm you know, I'm not always right.

00:15:44.080 And at this point, I thought she was an idiot.

00:15:46.140 I thought he was never going to date her.

00:15:47.880 I mean, guys, from my perspective, it had been five years.

00:15:52.660 And, you know, recently I checked up on them.

00:15:57.760 She's now pregnant with his kid.

00:16:00.000 So what did she do?

00:16:01.400 How did she win?

00:16:02.960 She won by not listening to the women like me at the time to all of the people telling

00:16:09.520 her he was never going to commit and sticking it out and doing it now, to be fair, I want

00:16:16.540 to be fair.

00:16:17.400 That's not always going to work.

00:16:19.820 There are women that do that and they just dump them and marry the next that that happens

00:16:24.280 to.

00:16:24.540 But the thing is, men have more of a sense of duty.

00:16:27.920 So some women that stick it out, the men feel loyal to.

00:16:32.580 They think, you know what?

00:16:33.480 This woman has been there.

00:16:35.680 I've gone for the women I actually want.

00:16:38.040 And they they're not really that loyal to me.

00:16:41.820 So good enough.

00:16:44.340 You know, men, when they're ready to settle down, have kids, do their thing, they'll take

00:16:51.080 good enough women, unfortunately.

00:16:52.580 You know what we do, too?

00:16:54.200 We do on some level.

00:16:56.460 But then we divorce them later.

00:16:58.340 Men are just kind of better people.

00:16:59.960 Not all, not all, not all.

00:17:02.500 Now, I know another woman.

00:17:03.920 It was the same thing.

00:17:04.980 You know, she had a boyfriend.

00:17:06.880 This wasn't a situationship, but she wanted to be married.

00:17:10.280 She met him in college and right after college, she wanted to marry him.

00:17:15.440 And he said, Naseki, nada, no, I'm not doing it because I am not ready.

00:17:20.900 Now, she had two options here.

00:17:22.580 She could have went and found the next guy.

00:17:25.100 But this guy was a bit of a Chad.

00:17:27.140 You know, he was six, four.

00:17:30.480 He made he went out of college making about two hundred fifty, three hundred thousand dollars

00:17:35.800 a year.

00:17:36.200 I'm not saying she can't replace him, but that's tough, right?

00:17:41.460 You know, and I'm not going to say she didn't have other men that maybe would have been just

00:17:46.580 as good, because let's let's be honest here.

00:17:48.460 If a woman can attract one guy on that level, it's not unheard of for her to be able to attract

00:17:54.860 another.

00:17:56.720 But she said, you know what?

00:17:57.860 I'm going to stick it out.

00:17:58.760 And 10 years later, she got the ring.

00:18:01.640 And the thing is, the women I see winning are women that are willing to take the risk.

00:18:07.280 Now, there's this new wave of female dating advice where the new strategy is to hold out

00:18:13.040 as long as possible on giving men girlfriend treatment.

00:18:17.360 No sex, no cooking, no cleaning until I get what I want.

00:18:24.720 And I don't really see those women winning.

00:18:27.920 And the reason I don't is because they're going into it with so much fear.

00:18:32.960 They go in afraid of the worst that could happen.

00:18:37.960 Now, I know.

00:18:38.740 Let's let's go another woman who took an out.

00:18:41.640 There is a woman at my college.

00:18:44.520 She was the biggest 304.

00:18:46.220 My God.

00:18:47.900 She was sleeping with everyone, guys.

00:18:51.240 I'm just being honest here.

00:18:53.540 But, you know, again, women have to do different strategies in order to win.

00:18:57.900 You know, not every woman has this.

00:18:59.420 Like a woman that's an eight strategy and a woman that's a five strategy is going to be

00:19:04.240 completely different.

00:19:06.100 You know, an eight might be able to hold off on sex way longer than a guy's going to wait

00:19:10.860 for a five.

00:19:11.720 You know what I mean?

00:19:12.160 Like, it's just not it's not the same.

00:19:15.320 But this girl, I put her at maybe a seven strong seven.

00:19:19.500 Right.

00:19:20.800 She didn't have to sleep with everyone.

00:19:22.640 I'm going to be honest.

00:19:23.240 She really didn't have to do that.

00:19:24.340 But she did.

00:19:25.120 She wanted to.

00:19:25.640 But she realized the position she was in and what she decided to do.

00:19:30.980 If she would really play any games with the sex, any guy that she was interested in was

00:19:35.700 going to get it and get really good in bed.

00:19:39.960 And eventually there was a taker.

00:19:44.560 I mean, what do you guys want?

00:19:45.900 You want, you know, and sometimes men, not always, not always.

00:19:51.620 I know, I know, I know.

00:19:52.800 Sometimes men will go for the hoe who's nice over the bitchy prude.

00:19:59.200 Because sometimes you wonder, you think, why on earth would a guy marry that woman?

00:20:03.100 We see it happen with porn stars.

00:20:04.720 But the thing with slutty women is sometimes they take the time to understand men where

00:20:11.440 the prudes don't always, because they think all they have to do is not have had sex with

00:20:20.320 that many people.

00:20:21.600 Now, granted, men's standards are pretty low nowadays.

00:20:25.620 A lot of men will take that.

00:20:27.620 They will.

00:20:27.980 But not the men we're all fighting for on the dating apps, not the men that they were

00:20:34.500 fighting for on campus, right?

00:20:36.820 The men that have choice are going to be selective, or at least more selective than the men that

00:20:41.700 don't.

00:20:43.340 So I did a couple thoughts I had.

00:20:47.400 These women had to figure out how to move on from the L's those guys made them took.

00:20:53.040 If those women were constantly bringing up the fact that he took a decade to propose,

00:20:59.680 they probably never would have gotten a ring.

00:21:02.160 If the woman was constantly bringing up that she was in a situationship and she did so much

00:21:08.980 for him, blah, blah, blah, she never would have got the ring.

00:21:12.620 The women that win, if they're going to take an L, they move on from it fast.

00:21:22.080 They really do.

00:21:24.460 Now, I wanted to talk about reasons men will not call you back, you know.

00:21:29.600 I've been taking polls from women privately.

00:21:32.480 I think I need to do like an anonymous poll, because this is just from the ladies.

00:21:36.640 And I asked them the question, how many men did you sleep with to get your boyfriend?

00:21:41.100 Because, let's be honest, women think they have a boyfriend a lot of times, especially

00:21:47.140 in the cities.

00:21:48.460 Women could think they're in a full-fledged relationship with a guy, and it could just

00:21:52.100 be a situationship with him.

00:21:54.640 So the question is, how many men did you have to sleep with in order to get to commitment?

00:21:59.640 The lowest number I got, three.

00:22:02.700 The highest number I got, 17.

00:22:04.620 And, you know, I put in the reasons that men, you guys can add to this, are not going to

00:22:13.840 call you back, number one.

00:22:16.340 But they want to bang, right?

00:22:17.760 They want the sex, so they got to pretend you're not for the night.

00:22:22.060 Men can do that.

00:22:23.660 You're too annoying, too awkward, too overweight.

00:22:26.700 Too much of a slut.

00:22:35.620 Now, these are the things that are completely in your control, right?

00:22:40.560 If you're really annoying, you can kind of work on that.

00:22:43.560 Get a little bit better.

00:22:44.580 If you're really overweight, you can hit the treadmill.

00:22:47.220 You're too self-centered.

00:22:48.400 Those are things you can improve.

00:22:50.020 And men, they figure that out in dating, right?

00:22:52.800 Because they go on some dates, and men are just more strategic and analytical than us.

00:22:57.600 So they're trying to actually fix their problems.

00:23:01.020 We just want to talk about it and complain.

00:23:03.900 So reasons men don't call you back that are out of your control.

00:23:08.400 One, you're not as tight.

00:23:10.620 Look, I have a guy friend.

00:23:13.640 And, you know, by the way, sometimes guys...

00:23:18.040 No, I'm going to go.

00:23:18.600 I have a guy friend, and his type is tall blondes.

00:23:23.740 That's just his thing.

00:23:24.740 He likes the big boobs.

00:23:27.320 But I've seen him date Asian women.

00:23:30.340 I've seen him date Latina women.

00:23:33.140 I've seen him hook up with them, maybe date for a couple months.

00:23:36.780 But I know, and he knows, that when it's time to settle down,

00:23:42.240 he is going to do it with a tall blonde because that's his type.

00:23:45.780 Now, do some men compromise and say, you know what?

00:23:51.980 Maybe that's something I can let go?

00:23:53.700 Sure, that totally happens.

00:23:55.060 But the men with the most choice, they're going to be picky.

00:24:02.600 Ben Affleck messed around with minority women.

00:24:05.720 He dated J-Lo.

00:24:06.600 But when it came time to settle down, he had kids with Jennifer Gardner.

00:24:12.820 Some men have a specific type, or they want their kids to look like them.

00:24:18.320 Some men have a type that they're going to sleep with and not marry.

00:24:24.240 There is a certain level of attractiveness for a woman that a man is going to be seen in public with.

00:24:31.320 Guys, fellas, one in the chat, if you've ever been at a club or a bar and you're drinking

00:24:40.700 and you might have slept with or made out with a girl you're not really proud of.

00:24:48.440 Who's done it?

00:24:53.160 Let's just be honest here.

00:24:54.520 Please stop capping.

00:24:56.700 Who has hooked up with a whale?

00:24:59.000 Who's done it?

00:25:01.160 Someone's doing it.

00:25:02.420 They're too...

00:25:03.180 The overweight women are too confident for none of you to have done it.

00:25:09.240 Yep.

00:25:10.640 Yep.

00:25:13.580 Two.

00:25:13.940 He's just not ready to settle down.

00:25:16.920 You know, you could meet the men a lot faster.

00:25:21.140 Let's say you want four kids.

00:25:22.700 You probably got to start before 25.

00:25:25.480 Let's say you're a woman.

00:25:26.760 You want four children and you met Prince Charming at 22.

00:25:32.120 Well, Prince Charming, sometimes he has career goals he wants to do first and accomplish first.

00:25:39.160 And it doesn't matter how much nagging you do.

00:25:41.900 So, he is not going to settle down.

00:25:45.400 The men we want, right?

00:25:46.740 I mean, the more desperate men, they're going to give up what they want for whatever the mediocre pussy wants, right?

00:26:00.680 That's what they'll do.

00:26:02.620 They'll move to it.

00:26:04.460 They'll do...

00:26:05.100 They will...

00:26:06.220 But the men that we compete for, the small percentage of men, it's not really just an income thing.

00:26:11.400 It's more of a mindset.

00:26:13.260 They're not going to do it until they want to do it.

00:26:16.860 And then you have two options.

00:26:20.240 You can risk it, right?

00:26:22.380 You can spend more youth and hope that he decides to have two children or he decides to have a kid with you before you're 35 or 30.

00:26:36.920 And, you know, some women pay a price for that.

00:26:41.560 They get dumped and then he marries the next woman.

00:26:43.580 There's no guarantees.

00:26:46.960 There's only different strategies.

00:26:48.540 Strategy number two, dump him and find someone else.

00:26:56.400 That's it.

00:26:57.140 That's all you got.

00:26:58.100 There's no...

00:26:58.920 And a lot of times when I...

00:27:02.100 Dating is just different strategies, right?

00:27:05.200 There's just different strategies to get what you want.

00:27:07.780 There's no guarantees.

00:27:08.880 Sometimes you have the best strategy on the planet and you just took an L.

00:27:15.460 I mean, how many men out there were great fathers and did all the things right?

00:27:19.580 They...

00:27:19.980 I mean, so there's one guy that's been on our show.

00:27:23.000 His requirements for a wife were two parents in the home, under 27, had to have no debt, response...

00:27:33.340 Had to have a real job, like, responsible.

00:27:35.740 Um, like...

00:27:38.900 And, um, worked with kids.

00:27:42.280 He found it.

00:27:43.320 And guess what?

00:27:44.560 She still ruined his life.

00:27:45.920 What else was he supposed to do?

00:27:48.980 You know, I've had men marry virgin women that were homeschooled and they ruined their life.

00:27:54.920 All we have is different strategies.

00:27:56.940 It's the same for women.

00:27:59.120 You know, in all honesty, I've seen more women be rewarded for waiting it out.

00:28:04.480 There's this, you know, trend on social media where they say, if he doesn't give you exactly

00:28:11.180 what you want immediately, like the marriage, the ring, the children, I find that when men

00:28:17.300 give women exactly what they want immediately, usually they're just more in it to get what

00:28:25.200 they want.

00:28:25.780 The kid...

00:28:26.480 But I find that the women that weighed it out, they seem to be more loyal at this point

00:28:30.940 in my life.

00:28:31.460 I mean, I don't know, maybe it'll switch in a decade of what I see.

00:28:34.620 This is just what I've seen, the people I knew in high school and college.

00:28:38.480 So, again, another reason that he might not call you back that's out of your control is

00:28:46.400 you're just not attractive enough for him.

00:28:49.660 There are strategies to try to improve this, right?

00:28:53.240 Try losing weight.

00:28:54.340 But if you're in shape, there's really not much you can do.

00:28:58.080 Now, I'm not going to simp.

00:28:59.320 A lot of the traditional conservatives and virtue signalers online will say, plastic surgery

00:29:07.300 does not work.

00:29:08.320 Men hate plastic surgery.

00:29:14.680 That's true when they know about it.

00:29:17.720 The problem is, I've shown men pictures of faces, like with nose jobs, for example.

00:29:27.160 Boob jobs are a little bit more obvious, but the stuff, the technology is getting better

00:29:32.500 and better and better.

00:29:33.660 The men can't always tell.

00:29:34.960 They think they're smarter than they are.

00:29:36.760 I'm sorry, you guys.

00:29:37.700 I'm not going to virtue signal right now and pretend I haven't seen it work ever.

00:29:43.740 But I've seen both.

00:29:45.620 I've seen women really mess up their face.

00:29:47.600 I really have.

00:29:49.520 I've seen women that were pretty go to below average.

00:29:53.780 But I've also seen women that were average go up like one or two points.

00:29:59.500 There's no guarantees in life.

00:30:01.440 There's only trade-offs.

00:30:03.480 One man, I know, said he would not marry his wife unless she got a boob job.

00:30:07.800 She was a boob guy and he's like, look, she did it.

00:30:10.880 And so what, I'm going to tell you guys that I've never seen that help.

00:30:16.760 What do you want me to do?

00:30:19.800 So the boob jobs can be toxic.

00:30:22.460 They totally can.

00:30:23.600 But I see men getting height surgery.

00:30:26.500 There's a guy that got height surgery who said it was the best investment he ever made.

00:30:32.540 How am I going to be that black and white and say, no, plastic surgery is always a bad idea?

00:30:39.320 Now, it's expensive.

00:30:46.120 And if you're going to go the plastic surgery route, you're going to want to go for the men that are a little more superficial and in the city.

00:30:54.060 You're not going to want to go for the country guys.

00:30:56.100 The country guys, they're not going to be with that.

00:30:59.360 They see it as an expense.

00:31:01.340 The city is a bit more superficial.

00:31:03.040 So the city, the guys there, many of them are pro.

00:31:07.700 I've heard men say they want their wives to get Botox there.

00:31:12.320 And these are high earning men that I've heard say this.

00:31:16.280 The country, the culture is a little different.

00:31:20.800 Pearl's right.

00:31:21.520 It's the deceit.

00:31:22.280 Look, I'm not going to lie to you guys.

00:31:30.320 Look, they've done polls on men on which boobs they prefer.

00:31:33.820 And they didn't tell them which were natural and which weren't.

00:31:36.460 Which ones do you think men picked?

00:31:41.580 They've done the YouTube videos of men trying to guess what's natural, what's not.

00:31:46.160 Now, this makes the guys feel icky.

00:31:48.000 They don't like being tripped.

00:31:49.000 We could talk about the morality of it, right?

00:31:51.320 We could go into, is this moral?

00:31:54.140 Is this not moral?

00:31:55.240 And you might feel like it's not moral.

00:31:58.240 The country people, they tend to have more morals.

00:32:01.020 The city people have less morals.

00:32:04.140 Just in general, right?

00:32:05.640 Just in general.

00:32:07.720 Look, I'm not telling you one way or another.

00:32:09.920 I'm trying to tell you what I've seen work and what I've seen.

00:32:12.740 But you got to be really careful with the plastic surgery because you can mess up your face real easy.

00:32:17.440 It just takes one bad surgery.

00:32:26.540 Now, I did some strategies for the ladies to get out of a situation ship.

00:32:31.340 Because I have seen women move out of the fuck zone to the wife zone.

00:32:36.020 Now, I do understand that men put you in categories.

00:32:38.940 And most of the time, you're stuck.

00:32:40.960 But I want to talk about the women I've seen get out of it.

00:32:45.300 Number one, wait until he's ready.

00:32:48.140 Now, this strategy is going to work better if a woman's in her early 20s, late teens.

00:32:55.480 The reason is she's got more time to bargain with, right?

00:32:59.200 But that's why you get the older women saying their biological clock is ticking.

00:33:04.080 Because they decided to wait it out and make it the men's problem.

00:33:09.740 You know, men, they want to feel like stuff happens naturally.

00:33:12.520 They don't want to feel like it's forced.

00:33:14.160 And when you come in saying, I want to be married at this time, have kids within this time.

00:33:19.480 Again, that's just making them pay for your problem.

00:33:24.700 Two, be more attractive.

00:33:27.040 You know, a guy will screw around with a girl that's like 20 pounds overweight at 2 a.m.

00:33:32.940 Please stop acting like you guys are above it.

00:33:36.740 Can you please stop?

00:33:38.440 Please.

00:33:40.400 I am tired of this chat.

00:33:44.320 Don't say situationship to me.

00:33:46.220 Look, we're in 2024.

00:33:48.500 I'm using the modern terms.

00:33:50.240 What do you want?

00:33:50.740 So, be more attractive.

00:33:57.040 Get in better shape.

00:33:58.480 You can go the plastic surgery route, but that's a risk, right?

00:34:03.360 What I would do is I'd study who has he dated officially before and how much hotter were they than you.

00:34:10.200 I'm assuming they're hotter than you because there's just no way.

00:34:14.780 That's usually, that's, if it's an attraction thing, that's what I would do.

00:34:18.540 You got to find his exes.

00:34:20.920 How much more attractive than you are they?

00:34:24.580 And can you get close?

00:34:26.640 You know, because men will go down a point or two, but every man has a limit because they know if you're here, it's just going to go down.

00:34:33.120 You're going to have kids.

00:34:34.380 They got to mentally add on the 20 pounds that comes with the kids.

00:34:39.100 I mean, they're pragmatic, right?

00:34:42.720 I'm hitting them all, Pearl.

00:34:44.260 Of course you are, Black Panther.

00:34:45.920 Of course.

00:34:46.380 I mean, come on.

00:34:50.940 Now, the other ways I've seen women be useful.

00:34:57.580 Pearl, it's a unicorn, okay?

00:34:59.640 Okay, these are the unicorns I've seen.

00:35:02.700 God.

00:35:06.440 Obviously, there's cooking, right?

00:35:08.220 But especially in the city, in the country, men value this more.

00:35:13.960 In the city, there's guys that just get Chipotle and they have like two or three restaurants or food that they go to.

00:35:20.420 They don't care about that as much.

00:35:23.600 It's just not as important to them.

00:35:28.160 In the country, it's more important.

00:35:32.180 You know, you could pack his lunch, counting the calories if you've got a gym guy.

00:35:37.060 You know, you pack the lunch, put the protein powder in, whatever.

00:35:43.580 I've seen women help with a guy's business or work.

00:35:47.380 So one woman, he didn't have, you know, many women want to help a guy with his business.

00:35:51.840 But the problem is most men don't have businesses.

00:35:54.080 They have jobs.

00:35:55.540 Most men don't get to work about things they're passionate about, right?

00:35:58.520 So they get to work for things they have to do.

00:36:01.240 But she knew her man did not really like his job.

00:36:05.360 He just, it wasn't.

00:36:07.380 So what she decided to do was give him a social media rebrand.

00:36:11.640 She got, she picked out the outfits that would make him look good.

00:36:16.560 She had him take social media, new LinkedIn pictures.

00:36:21.060 She made him a resume and she started applying to new places for him.

00:36:25.180 That's helpful.

00:36:26.720 That's another woman I know.

00:36:29.800 And this woman, this was her last shot.

00:36:31.840 I got to be honest.

00:36:33.040 She was like 37 when she met her husband.

00:36:35.300 This was, she was divorced.

00:36:36.200 This was her last shot.

00:36:38.580 This woman knew it's either, this either works out or I'm cooked.

00:36:42.920 I'm done.

00:36:44.420 They said, Pearl, you were ruined by the city.

00:36:47.340 Do you want me to not have eyes?

00:36:49.980 This is the thing.

00:36:50.740 Country people sometimes can be a little naive.

00:36:54.640 The city is just a little bit more savage.

00:36:57.220 But the men, cause what happens is the women come back from the city and it doesn't even

00:37:02.900 have to be that big of a city.

00:37:06.500 But, and the men don't know the tricks and then they get, they get played.

00:37:13.640 Look, I don't care.

00:37:15.040 You guys can take it or leave it.

00:37:16.680 Okay, so this woman figured out how to code and built her husband a website.

00:37:24.940 She told me it was the hardest thing she ever did.

00:37:26.840 She quit her marketing job.

00:37:27.920 She said, you know what?

00:37:29.340 He's got a business.

00:37:30.420 He's, it's a side hustle now.

00:37:31.740 I'm going to quit.

00:37:32.480 I'm going to work for him.

00:37:33.400 I was thinking in my industry, YouTube editing, that could help.

00:37:43.320 You guys can put stuff in the chat that you think of.

00:37:46.040 I'm just, these were off the dome, right?

00:37:49.100 I put massages, guys like massages, you know.

00:37:53.180 Now, number four, so learning to be useful really is just paying attention to your guy.

00:37:59.120 Maybe he likes cooking and you can help him be neater.

00:38:05.980 It's not doing the things he already likes to do.

00:38:08.560 Some guys like to cook.

00:38:09.760 You learn to clean.

00:38:12.480 You know, it's figuring out what he doesn't like to do when doing that.

00:38:17.340 Now, the next is being less annoying.

00:38:20.880 You know, when men come back from a hard day's work, they just want peace and quiet.

00:38:24.620 They don't want any problems.

00:38:25.820 So, you know, there's listening to understand instead of waiting for your turn to talk, talking less, apologizing.

00:38:34.040 How many of you guys have dated a woman that did not know how to apologize and could never see when she was wrong?

00:38:42.980 You know, guys, we get, it's never been easier to date a guy out of our league.

00:38:49.020 It really, I believe this because the market is so bad right now.

00:38:53.520 I mean, out of our competition, 80% of women are overweight.

00:39:01.000 You're competing with 20% of women.

00:39:03.560 And the hot women tend to go to the cities.

00:39:08.340 So, there's a lot of bad decisions there that are made.

00:39:13.000 So, you know, learning to apologize and just admitting when you're wrong does a lot.

00:39:24.440 Don't be a big bill.

00:39:26.040 If you have expensive habits, pay for them yourself.

00:39:30.640 And expect to pay for them for a lifetime.

00:39:33.160 Or, which goes to my next point, being financially responsible.

00:39:43.900 You know, there's women that do their nails every two weeks.

00:39:49.000 Pay off your debt.

00:39:51.940 No man wants a monthly house payment to start a marriage.

00:39:57.460 Don't be a bill with a big mouth.

00:39:59.560 Now, the men that actually get laid, the men that are a part of the sexual marketplace,

00:40:06.560 the men that women are competing for,

00:40:08.700 they know that women have to have,

00:40:12.480 they have to go to places to socialize in order to meet men.

00:40:16.720 Unless you're going to go the complete digital route, which is an option,

00:40:20.100 but let's say you don't.

00:40:21.920 They're not really going to fault you if you go to a bar sometime.

00:40:26.300 There are people around, you know, that's not it.

00:40:29.240 But a man wants to be with a woman whose hobbies and activities can be dropped

00:40:34.860 to put him as a priority.

00:40:38.000 And they could benefit both parties.

00:40:43.020 Yes.

00:40:45.180 Now, the next thing that I think women sometimes take L's

00:40:50.120 because we can't figure out what we want.

00:40:52.400 Now, there is a woman I played volleyball with.

00:40:55.940 Guys, I have these stories for days.

00:40:57.800 I've been on a different volleyball team pretty much every year.

00:41:01.380 It's like 10 new women a year.

00:41:03.000 You get pretty close with them in like six months.

00:41:06.400 God, I have these stories for days.

00:41:08.660 She really just liked Pookies.

00:41:10.640 That was just her thing, you know.

00:41:11.920 But she was trying to fight it.

00:41:14.980 And I understand trying to fight it, right?

00:41:17.560 I mean, I get it.

00:41:19.240 Told the story before.

00:41:20.400 So, she dated a guy freshman, sophomore year.

00:41:24.260 That was a Pookie.

00:41:25.000 He was totally Pookie, Ray Ray.

00:41:27.480 He was on the football team.

00:41:30.340 Junior, senior year, she starts dating a new guy.

00:41:33.820 Now, this guy looked, I'm not going to go into looks,

00:41:36.300 but the one guy was built, football player.

00:41:41.380 The other guy had a beer belly.

00:41:43.820 Just not as attractive.

00:41:45.540 I'm just being honest here.

00:41:46.780 And she moved on to him.

00:41:50.440 And it's not like women go into relationships maliciously.

00:41:54.240 But I think a lot of times, we can't answer the question of what she wanted.

00:41:58.400 Now, we went to this, we had day parties.

00:42:00.480 I don't know if you guys had those in college.

00:42:02.200 But it's like, everyone's drinking outside.

00:42:04.420 And I go into the basement of the, like, to go into the bathroom, right?

00:42:09.160 And I'm waiting for, like, hours.

00:42:12.160 Like, it felt like hours for this bathroom.

00:42:15.540 And she was at a party with her current boyfriend,

00:42:19.280 hooking up in the bathroom with the guy from freshman year.

00:42:25.700 Because deep down, that was her type.

00:42:28.020 Her type was a Pookie.

00:42:28.960 Now, if you want Gavin, the starving musician.

00:42:34.540 If you want Pookie, Ray Ray, I would suggest, you know, we got to work with you here.

00:42:41.760 You know, because the men will say, we'll just be attracted to the other thing.

00:42:44.760 Good luck.

00:42:46.160 You guys are way too logical.

00:42:47.360 You guys can do that.

00:42:48.340 Women, not so much.

00:42:51.180 Once a woman has a type, it's tough to switch it.

00:42:53.720 And that's why they end up in sexless marriages is because the woman gives up their type for marriage

00:43:01.140 and then can't figure out why she doesn't want to sleep with her husband.

00:43:04.580 So if I was advising this woman, I would say, look, you got to break up with this guy.

00:43:08.520 I'm sorry.

00:43:10.760 I mean, or you can cheat on him for life because I don't see you stopping now.

00:43:14.940 I just, I can't, if I had to predict the future, I just can't see you.

00:43:20.860 So if you're doing this now, I don't see you not doing it later.

00:43:24.920 Now, she's still with this guy.

00:43:26.020 This guy does not know.

00:43:28.440 What I would say is, look, you like Pookie's, you like Ray Ray's, you like the starving musicians.

00:43:33.260 Let's go find one that has enough money that is stable.

00:43:40.180 There's men, you know, okay, you're never going to be rich.

00:43:43.980 Let's give that up.

00:43:45.220 Let's, let's forget that.

00:43:48.120 But let's, let's go for one option.

00:43:50.300 Let's, why don't you go for a coach?

00:43:51.980 If you like the athletes, let's go for a coach that's employed.

00:43:57.920 Now he's going to cheat, probably.

00:44:03.020 They don't, they're not faithful, but let's just accept that because you're either going

00:44:06.940 to be the cheater or you're going to be cheated on in this scenario.

00:44:09.560 So I would say, let's go to a personal trainer.

00:44:13.980 Ask him how many clients he has.

00:44:16.620 He is probably going to bang them.

00:44:18.380 Let's just be honest here.

00:44:19.560 But I'm trying to be pragmatic based on what she wants, based on her actions, not her words,

00:44:26.680 her actions.

00:44:28.880 Music teacher, right?

00:44:30.240 You can, if you like musicians, go for the music teacher.

00:44:33.560 Ask him, figure out how many students he has.

00:44:35.220 Somebody has to own a music studio that makes money.

00:44:37.520 An actor, right?

00:44:42.340 But an actor that's semi-employed.

00:44:46.520 If he makes 45,000 a year, 35,000, that's called good enough.

00:44:52.160 Take it.

00:44:52.620 He's going to make that for life.

00:44:53.860 Don't expect him to get better.

00:44:57.340 Because, I mean, this is the industry.

00:44:59.220 Look at, I'm just trying to be pragmatic.

00:45:00.720 Now, some women, they want a wife instead of a husband.

00:45:05.460 And I don't, you know, I don't think anyone's right or wrong.

00:45:08.960 This is the thing.

00:45:09.900 Everyone wants to say, I did it this way, live like me.

00:45:12.700 That's the conservative fantasy is, I had 10 children, five, but I could point to three

00:45:20.020 people that didn't work out for.

00:45:21.980 You know, that's why it's really important to do what you want.

00:45:25.060 Because if you live life for other people, you know, the woman, she was living life for

00:45:31.080 her family because she was going off of what they wanted instead of what she wanted.

00:45:37.780 And maybe, you know, maybe that's good.

00:45:39.840 I don't know.

00:45:41.300 You could, but I'm trying to be pragmatic to help to, if I was to strategize how to get

00:45:49.820 what you want.

00:45:51.380 Okay.

00:45:51.560 Some women want a wife instead of a husband.

00:45:56.200 They want to pursue the career and they want to give nothing up when they have children.

00:46:04.960 They're not going to leave their career behind.

00:46:07.120 She wants to have it all and have him deal with all that foolishness.

00:46:11.200 You want, she wants to travel for work.

00:46:13.760 Some options here, you know, you could go the customer service men in retail.

00:46:18.500 I bet there's some men working at Home Depot with some muscles, not that good looking men,

00:46:26.180 but you could go for.

00:46:28.240 You do it at a sports store, you know, maybe in an industry that's kind of hot, right?

00:46:34.200 You know, where if they knew a lot about that industry, maybe they sell guns, male teachers.

00:46:41.880 But it's got to be guys that, one, don't have a ton of options, but have some, because I

00:46:54.720 don't want you to cheat either.

00:46:58.100 They said the Amish community takes care of their own.

00:47:01.520 Go there at your own risk.

00:47:02.820 Go be Amish.

00:47:03.920 Have fun.

00:47:04.620 I don't know.

00:47:05.060 Go ahead.

00:47:05.580 Everyone talks about Logan.

00:47:09.320 Now, you want a super good looking man.

00:47:12.480 Okay, let's strategize.

00:47:14.380 Models, club promoters, DJs, actors.

00:47:20.880 It maybe looks personal trainer.

00:47:22.440 Maybe looks is what you want.

00:47:24.000 You have only dated a hot broke.

00:47:26.180 Like, what I'm trying to do is I'm trying to go with the ladies.

00:47:29.680 They want stupid things, but they're never going to stop wanting stupid things.

00:47:34.900 So let's try to find a stupid thing that works at least better, right?

00:47:41.760 Let's try to be pragmatic.

00:47:46.640 They fear being dominated, and they start to screw over the only one who would take her

00:47:52.200 out of the hole.

00:47:52.860 I want to marry rich.

00:47:55.700 That is what I want to do.

00:47:57.340 I am going in, and I am going to marry rich.

00:48:03.400 Okay, at least we can figure out that's what you want.

00:48:06.660 Let's be pragmatic.

00:48:07.960 You're going to need a big set of fake boobs if you don't have any.

00:48:12.100 You're going to need to get to the gym, 120.

00:48:16.560 Yep.

00:48:17.460 Get on that treadmill, 120.

00:48:20.500 The rich men, they're not playing.

00:48:22.580 You've got to Google, what are the highest paid professions in your city?

00:48:27.780 What city are you in?

00:48:30.000 Who's making the money?

00:48:32.500 The guys are saying 140 is my final.

00:48:35.060 Okay.

00:48:37.380 The thinner the better.

00:48:41.080 C-suite, doctor, defense attorneys in the right area, finance, airline pilots,

00:48:46.540 flight engineers, sales, all can be pretty high paid.

00:48:52.140 You've got to research the industry, figure out who's making the cash, and what types of

00:48:57.140 women are they marrying?

00:48:59.740 You know, if you go more, if you want to marry rich, but you have an arm sleeve, right?

00:49:04.880 That's your, like, oh, shit.

00:49:06.640 When I was younger, I got a chest tattoo.

00:49:10.060 This is an L.

00:49:10.620 Okay, which rich men would accept that?

00:49:13.860 Now, I know, I know you guys are saying, oh, Pearl, none of them, none of them, none

00:49:17.200 of them.

00:49:17.660 Well, a rock star would, but that, you know, that's too, that's not going to work.

00:49:23.540 I'd have to think more about which rich ones.

00:49:26.800 Who would, I think engineers would be less picky.

00:49:29.900 It's like, they're not, like, front-facing as much.

00:49:33.400 They're kind of, yeah, you tell me, women, doctors, lawyers, bankers, she better be over

00:49:41.020 six foot tall to be over 130.

00:49:43.280 Tell them.

00:49:46.260 Now, the next question is, how do you get access to these guys in the professions?

00:49:50.800 Now, one strategy a lot of women do is to work with them, but, you know, to the younger

00:49:56.280 ladies watching, the two, I really wouldn't do that nowadays because the men have seen

00:50:01.820 too many of their other men get me toot at work.

00:50:05.320 Now, there's always going to be the guy that does it, but usually he's either a dog, like

00:50:10.840 he's never going to settle down, he doesn't discriminate, he's going to F anything, or he's

00:50:16.700 just not that intelligent and you don't want to, you don't want to go that route.

00:50:20.680 Now, places you can get access to these guys, country clubs, networking events, there are

00:50:28.860 events for a specific field, so there are, like, conventions.

00:50:32.820 There's doctor's conventions.

00:50:34.600 You've got to figure out where they're at.

00:50:37.460 Go stay at the same hotel in those conventions.

00:50:40.640 Boom.

00:50:42.660 Go work at a coffee shop that has these conventions.

00:50:45.720 Get a high net worth hobby, skiing, boating, golfing, fashion, suits, you can work there.

00:50:53.020 Get a job.

00:50:54.120 Working near these, I think, is a better strategy nowadays than working with them.

00:50:59.560 Like, nurses used to be able to go for doctors, and they still do, but again, the smarter men

00:51:07.400 are going to stop doing that.

00:51:09.980 Oh, MMA fighters love tats.

00:51:12.000 You guys are so pragmatic.

00:51:13.760 You guys are so, I'm trying to be pragmatic here.

00:51:19.180 Customer service at a country club or tennis facility, high-end restaurant, coffee club or

00:51:28.400 coffee shop.

00:51:29.160 Like, imagine, there's coffee shops in hospitals.

00:51:32.120 If your thing's a doctor, you go work at a coffee shop for six months.

00:51:36.980 If you get some leads, keep working there.

00:51:41.060 If you don't, move on.

00:51:42.600 And server, you know, I want to tell you guys a story.

00:51:45.900 So my dad has a friend who has a friend at the skybox.

00:51:48.560 They have people that bring you food.

00:51:51.420 And there is a woman who brought dessert.

00:51:53.380 Now, who isn't happy when they get dessert?

00:51:56.700 One in the chat.

00:51:57.880 If you're, if you are excited when somebody brings warm cookies.

00:52:02.140 So this is an angle that this woman could have taken.

00:52:06.360 She is the woman bringing in the warm cookies to rich men.

00:52:11.720 And she was obese.

00:52:16.100 Well, I'm like, I'm thinking that she looked like she was from the city, right?

00:52:19.820 And I'm thinking you could change the whole trajectory of your family.

00:52:26.780 All you would have had to do is be thin and serve these cookies.

00:52:32.340 I promise to God, you would get a taker if you started, if you started flirting with these guys.

00:52:42.740 I mean, it's just, it's just a numbers game.

00:52:45.020 If she's serving.

00:52:46.180 Okay, let me get this straight.

00:52:47.400 Okay, let's say there's 50 of these boxes.

00:52:51.240 I don't actually know.

00:52:52.080 I'm just making up a number.

00:52:53.500 But, and these guys give it to their rich friends, right?

00:52:58.720 One of them is going to have a son.

00:53:01.840 One of the, like, somebody is going to go through there and be a taker.

00:53:08.260 But she was obese.

00:53:10.600 Other ideas, rich neighborhoods.

00:53:13.360 Home Depot in a rich neighborhood.

00:53:15.680 You know, there's a lot of, especially if you're in the country, those guys are going to want to do things themselves.

00:53:23.040 You know, they want to fix things.

00:53:25.000 I'd have to do more research into the time of day.

00:53:28.100 I'm guessing after work.

00:53:29.360 You're going to go to Home Depot.

00:53:30.760 Cigar lounge.

00:53:31.840 High-end alcohol.

00:53:35.000 The place is what is it?

00:53:36.200 The Rolex shops.

00:53:38.980 Breweries.

00:53:39.860 Sports games or sports bars that play high-end sports.

00:53:43.240 But even normal sports games.

00:53:45.960 I mean, Mark Zuckerberg was talking about MMA fighting the other day.

00:53:51.980 Whatever neighborhood those guys live in, you got to figure it out.

00:53:55.520 That can be Googled.

00:53:57.160 Googled.

00:53:58.140 And so the women that I see that win, they go in with a plan.

00:54:04.180 They figure out the net worth of these neighborhoods.

00:54:09.920 They figure out the profession they're going to go act by a couple men.

00:54:14.200 That is, they're just going to take an L because that's just going to happen.

00:54:18.220 And they keep going until they win.

00:54:23.880 Now, to be fair, for every one winner, there's 10 losers.

00:54:27.220 Most women are going to die alone and don't have the skills to do this.

00:54:31.760 Too fat.

00:54:32.380 Too fat.

00:54:34.180 But it's never been easier for women to win.

00:54:37.720 It really hasn't.

00:54:39.580 My friend was 37.

00:54:41.860 And I'm not saying this story to sell dreams or hope.

00:54:45.020 Ladies, if you're watching, it's probably not going to be you.

00:54:47.260 I'm just being honest.

00:54:48.240 But do the work.

00:54:50.240 But she married a guy that was a millionaire at 37.

00:54:55.860 And the way she did that was she gave up everything.

00:54:59.400 She gave up everything of her old life.

00:55:02.320 Did whatever he wanted.

00:55:05.820 And did it for like seven years until he married her.

00:55:10.540 There was no...

00:55:11.340 This was her last chance.

00:55:12.760 She was not effing this up.

00:55:14.560 Women do not need to go to college.

00:55:19.960 Women need the Bible, a cookbook, Jesus, and a good man.

00:55:22.660 Well, you know, that's an easy thing to say.

00:55:25.080 But that's not really a strategy on how they're going to find the guy.

00:55:29.120 And I'm trying to take morality out of this.

00:55:32.720 Because it's so easy to go online and say, well, the moral thing is that.

00:55:38.820 It's lazy to me.

00:55:42.420 It is so easy to say, women shouldn't divorce their husband.

00:55:48.720 That's easy.

00:55:50.020 And I've said it, right?

00:55:51.180 I have.

00:55:52.660 But I got bored, right?

00:55:54.080 Because the incentives are there.

00:55:58.000 They're going to do it anyway.

00:55:59.120 You guys might say, oh, women should marry for reasonable things.

00:56:06.700 Women shouldn't go after the top 10% of men.

00:56:10.660 They're going to do it anyway.

00:56:12.900 We might as well be pragmatic here.

00:56:15.740 If, you know, the woman likes drug dealers, okay, you know, maybe let's go.

00:56:22.680 Let's look at that archetype.

00:56:24.520 Let's go for pharmacists instead.

00:56:26.440 Or, you know, maybe a criminal that's less, that does petty crime.

00:56:37.160 Do you know what I mean?

00:56:38.100 Like, trying to take women away from the drug dealers is a waste of your time.

00:56:43.420 Or, okay, let's try to get you a reformed one that has some steps going towards being reformed.

00:56:51.920 You're like, Pearl, tell the women not to date these guys.

00:56:57.620 Yeah, okay.

00:57:04.960 Pearl, we want to make the first step.

00:57:07.420 Tell us where to find those good, innocent women.

00:57:09.480 Okay, well, the Amish.

00:57:10.860 Look at, look at, guys.

00:57:14.940 There are good women, but you, the challenge is, you just are never going to know.

00:57:20.360 It's a roll of the dice.

00:57:21.720 I don't know what your woman is going to be like at 42.

00:57:26.320 There have been women that at 22, they got married, and I thought they were good picks for wives.

00:57:32.280 10 years later, it was a different story.

00:57:34.340 I don't know, you know, okay, the same way, we don't know the type of person a man is going to be when he's rich.

00:57:43.020 There have been men that virtue signal about never wanting to cheat.

00:57:47.800 But the second that he gets fame and influence, power, maybe he changes his mind.

00:57:57.780 Many women, when they get leverage in the relationship, they change their mind,

00:58:01.980 and they change their behaviors because the incentives are there.

00:58:09.620 They said, are you guys seriously going to the Amish?

00:58:14.540 Okay, go ahead.

00:58:19.620 You know, I mean, here, let me read these chats.

00:58:24.220 Okay.

00:58:24.980 I'm 5'7", and took a 4'8", 200-pound girl from the bar just to get laid.

00:58:31.980 I knew someone.

00:58:33.440 Thank you for being honest, Fazel.

00:58:36.540 I appreciate the honesty.

00:58:38.420 Otherwise, my type is tall, blonde, blue-eyed women with naturally big booties.

00:58:42.120 No, no surgeries at all.

00:58:44.800 Thank you for being honest.

00:58:48.340 4'8", 200 pounds.

00:58:50.040 Wow, that's...

00:58:53.980 Dane, guys say you're saying you go to the Amish,

00:58:57.620 but they're smart enough not to marry outside.

00:59:00.400 It's almost impossible to become Amish because it includes the German culture.

00:59:05.720 Look, women leave the Amish all the time.

00:59:09.120 I've seen their...

00:59:09.720 I've seen the, like, women talking about...

00:59:12.040 They make whole documentaries on women that left the Amish.

00:59:15.540 It's possible, but it's...

00:59:16.860 They're gonna...

00:59:17.280 You're gonna have the same problem as the passport bros.

00:59:19.560 Unless you're going all in and joining that community,

00:59:23.380 the passport bros, how many of them had a perfectly good,

00:59:28.720 submissive, beautiful wife in Asia?

00:59:31.840 And they bring them back, and then all of the sudden, she is modern.

00:59:36.660 I look at incentives.

00:59:40.600 Now, we're gonna...

00:59:42.940 You know, I want to just say this.

00:59:45.160 The women that I've seen win

00:59:46.520 are the ones that learn from their mistakes.

00:59:49.540 And they don't take rejection personally.

00:59:56.560 The women that I see wallow about next for years,

00:59:59.800 they're cooked, done.

01:00:03.100 The women that I see, you know,

01:00:04.960 they don't get called back.

01:00:08.160 They hook up with a guy.

01:00:09.280 They think he wants a relationship.

01:00:10.960 They have sex.

01:00:11.860 Take that L.

01:00:13.720 And then they pull themselves out of the dating market

01:00:16.240 for, like, six months.

01:00:17.940 Cooked, done.

01:00:19.780 Don't see them winning.

01:00:21.860 You know, it's the women that go in with a plan

01:00:24.720 and are trying to get what they want

01:00:26.520 and let go of the things that don't work out

01:00:30.360 or the mistakes that the men they love make.

01:00:33.280 Because a lot of these women

01:00:34.400 that took the L's and ended up winning,

01:00:37.100 they really had to learn to not hold over their head

01:00:41.580 the resentment of not getting what they want.

01:00:44.640 Tough one.

01:00:45.580 Maybe you guys have seen something different, though.

01:00:47.400 You know, this is just my perspective.

01:00:50.440 Now, we're going to watch some TikToks

01:00:52.560 of women not being able to take L's.

01:00:54.360 If you and your situation ship...

01:00:56.140 Okay, here we go.

01:00:57.580 ...are having the what are we conversation

01:00:59.740 and he doesn't want a relationship,

01:01:02.440 this is what you're going to say to him.

01:01:03.960 Never believe a guy who says,

01:01:05.660 I didn't mean to misdirect you

01:01:07.560 when they literally treated you

01:01:09.540 exactly like a relationship would.

01:01:11.800 How do you guys want them

01:01:13.760 to treat you during casual sex?

01:01:16.960 Do you want them to be mean to you?

01:01:19.960 Most guys, they're not looking.

01:01:22.460 The men that just want sex,

01:01:24.060 they don't want relationships.

01:01:27.960 They don't want to be an asshole to you.

01:01:30.380 But how many of them said,

01:01:32.460 I don't want to be in a relationship?

01:01:35.300 That's an emotionally unavailable man

01:01:37.120 and he knew exactly what he was doing.

01:01:38.980 He just wants to get away with it.

01:01:40.980 Therefore, stop beating his ego.

01:01:42.620 Stop responding.

01:01:43.440 Stop being cool with him

01:01:44.740 just because you want the attention.

01:01:46.040 There's so many other guys out there

01:01:47.600 that you could be giving your time and energy to

01:01:50.220 who would die to date someone like you.

01:01:52.620 There's many reasons why a guy

01:01:54.180 will not want to jump into something serious

01:01:56.560 and he's like dragging things along.

01:01:59.080 He just likes like the attention or whatever.

01:02:01.140 The nice guy is going to explain himself.

01:02:03.220 The asshole is going to ghost you

01:02:05.400 and just treat you as if like you meant nothing.

01:02:08.120 The nice guy, whether it's genuine or not,

01:02:10.120 he's going to say something like,

01:02:11.560 oh, I think you're such a great girl

01:02:13.220 and stuff like that, blah, blah, blah, whatever.

01:02:14.740 You are going to keep it short and sweet.

01:02:16.820 You're not going to be problematic.

01:02:18.120 You're going to ask the right questions

01:02:19.500 without pushing too hard on like why it is

01:02:22.500 that he doesn't want something serious with you.

01:02:24.160 And you can catch if this guy is lying

01:02:25.820 by asking a question like,

01:02:27.200 did you always feel this way?

01:02:28.720 Like basically, since the second he started talking to you,

01:02:32.000 was this his point of view?

01:02:33.920 You know, sometimes in the beginning,

01:02:35.680 that's another thing.

01:02:37.040 Sometimes in the beginning,

01:02:38.680 they might have intended to date you.

01:02:44.040 And then either they changed their mind,

01:02:46.560 they start hooking up with a couple girls

01:02:48.500 and they thought, huh,

01:02:50.620 nah, I don't want this.

01:02:51.880 Or they saw a red flag.

01:02:55.400 Said, oh, she's too crazy.

01:02:58.380 Nope, next.

01:03:00.040 All the time or did he change his mind

01:03:02.160 throughout the process?

01:03:03.020 I'm not trying to sound disingenuous when I say this,

01:03:05.980 but I also don't think you should come off

01:03:08.520 as if you wanted a relationship with him

01:03:10.660 while he's the one telling you he doesn't.

01:03:12.600 It's not about what he wants.

01:03:13.840 It's about what you both want.

01:03:15.280 So I would ask a question

01:03:16.440 trying to figure out where you both stand.

01:03:18.580 Listen, if you're catching feelings,

01:03:20.260 I don't suggest you keep hanging out with this guy

01:03:22.640 as if you guys are going to date

01:03:24.140 because this is just going to upset you more.

01:03:26.080 They're going to do it anyway.

01:03:29.280 On my show, I would ask women

01:03:30.680 the longest situationship they had.

01:03:32.840 It's like four years, three years is an average.

01:03:35.800 You can also mention that like it's not fair

01:03:37.920 if you guys continue to hang out

01:03:39.580 as if you guys are dating

01:03:40.740 and maybe make it more official

01:03:42.700 that you guys are more like flirty friends.

01:03:45.580 And if that's something you cannot handle,

01:03:47.540 do not do it.

01:03:48.520 I always like to tell my girlfriends,

01:03:50.640 like if you're hanging out with a guy

01:03:51.800 and you catch yourself falling for him

01:03:53.800 and if you know he doesn't feel mutual,

01:03:55.600 I wouldn't put yourself in a situation

01:03:57.260 because you like him to keep hanging out with him

01:04:00.160 knowing that it's not going to go anywhere

01:04:01.320 because you're only going to hurt yourself.

01:04:02.740 And if this guy has no desire

01:04:04.500 to tell you where you guys stand

01:04:06.140 and he goes to you and treats you less than well,

01:04:08.560 then that should tell you enough

01:04:10.140 and you should just not stoop down to his level

01:04:12.420 and send him paragraphs and stuff.

01:04:14.460 You should simply walk away, be unbothered,

01:04:16.960 and he will come back around.

01:04:18.340 And when he does, I hope you...

01:04:19.920 They're not going to come back around.

01:04:25.180 Oh, they might for a second.

01:04:27.300 ...glam the door in his face.

01:04:28.700 You want someone to love you

01:04:29.900 the way that you know how to love somebody else.

01:04:32.220 Therefore, when you find someone...

01:04:33.580 If we did, then we would go with the guys

01:04:35.920 that we, you know, that love us.

01:04:38.720 It's not what we do.

01:04:39.920 ...one who's not loving you the way you love.

01:04:42.380 You almost try to subconsciously change them

01:04:44.780 and if they're not willing to change,

01:04:46.420 then drop them off.

01:04:48.080 Stop trying.

01:04:49.020 Literally drop them off.

01:04:49.920 They're not your business anymore.

01:04:51.480 If it's not...

01:04:52.520 I actually agree with that to some level.

01:04:57.420 It depends what strategy you want to do.

01:05:00.220 Strategy one, I don't tell you...

01:05:01.740 I don't tell you which one to do

01:05:03.180 because you ladies, the two that watch me,

01:05:06.780 you know the guy better than I do.

01:05:11.660 It's either option A, stick it out,

01:05:14.840 and hopefully, eventually, he'll change his mind.

01:05:17.760 I've seen that work.

01:05:18.940 I wouldn't say it's the normal.

01:05:20.900 I wouldn't say it's the majority,

01:05:22.120 but I have seen it work.

01:05:23.620 Or B, move on.

01:05:24.900 If you're going to go option B,

01:05:26.220 yeah, you just...

01:05:26.900 I would just move on.

01:05:27.580 Not a yes.

01:05:28.200 It's delivered as a no

01:05:29.640 regardless if it comes out of his mouth or not.

01:05:32.640 Love you.

01:05:32.940 Okay, let's keep going with these L's.

01:05:35.940 Situationship breakups are way worse than real breakups

01:05:40.700 because you feel crazy for being sad about it

01:05:42.860 because you don't even really date.

01:05:46.500 Situationship alpha guy.

01:05:48.740 Women don't get sad over breaking up with security guys.

01:05:51.500 So that's why she's saying the situationship is worse.

01:05:56.040 In your head, you did.

01:05:56.900 But, oh, that doesn't count, I guess.

01:05:58.420 And also, when you go to tell people about it,

01:06:00.200 that you're going through a breakup right now

01:06:01.340 and it's a catastrophic event in your life,

01:06:03.580 so mind you,

01:06:04.440 everyone's first question is always,

01:06:05.600 oh my God, how long did you two date?

01:06:07.280 And you're like, okay, what kind of...

01:06:08.820 That's such a subjective question.

01:06:10.880 We went on, I don't know, two dates.

01:06:13.100 One of them was in my mind.

01:06:14.340 Why does this...

01:06:15.020 Why is that relevant?

01:06:16.120 Like, what is this the Oprah Winfrey show?

01:06:18.860 Like, what do you need all the details?

01:06:19.900 Like, something about you is that you're really nosy.

01:06:21.720 You're really nosy.

01:06:22.600 And then when you're explaining the details back to your friends,

01:06:24.540 suddenly it sounds just way worse coming out of your mouth

01:06:26.560 than it felt like living it.

01:06:28.080 Like, you're like,

01:06:28.940 okay, so let me explain.

01:06:29.920 Let me explain.

01:06:30.440 They said that they like me a lot, right?

01:06:33.720 But they just hate hanging out with me.

01:06:36.480 Let me explain that in the context of this specific...

01:06:38.560 I think if you were just in,

01:06:40.440 on the first date with us,

01:06:41.780 on Beyond,

01:06:42.340 they said that they like a lot of things about me.

01:06:45.020 But they all...

01:06:46.140 So they hate 10 to 15 parts of my personality.

01:06:49.980 But that's...

01:06:50.540 You have to meet them, okay?

01:06:52.360 Like, you wouldn't...

01:06:52.960 You weren't there when we were alone together, right?

01:06:55.040 You weren't there.

01:06:55.820 And then he didn't text me for like a full week.

01:06:58.460 Here's why...

01:06:59.040 Okay, here's why that is...

01:07:00.320 It's different.

01:07:00.840 Because he has a job.

01:07:02.740 And he doesn't like technology.

01:07:04.120 Have I...

01:07:04.460 I've always said I didn't want anyone that's on their phone all the time.

01:07:07.340 Have I shown you guys...

01:07:08.080 Have I showed you guys his Instagram?

01:07:09.640 He's really hot.

01:07:12.360 Okay, there's another L.

01:07:15.020 Keep going.

01:07:17.820 No, like, I need to know

01:07:19.900 why you're ignoring me.

01:07:22.700 Because the thing is,

01:07:25.140 you said you were going to call me when you got home.

01:07:28.460 And I know your ass is home

01:07:29.860 because I had your damn location.

01:07:31.420 So, I'm trying to figure out

01:07:34.500 why you're not picking up the phone

01:07:37.180 for texting me guys.

01:07:40.980 Yeah, I need...

01:07:42.040 I need to know.

01:07:43.540 And I know you're not asleep.

01:07:45.720 Okay?

01:07:46.100 I know you're not asleep

01:07:48.020 because I know everything.

01:07:50.840 So,

01:07:52.100 return my damn call

01:07:55.080 and text me the phone.

01:07:56.360 There's another one.

01:08:02.740 Women giving advice

01:08:04.100 as to why men ghost after sex.

01:08:06.540 Girls, this is the harsh truth.

01:08:08.520 If you're in the dating scene,

01:08:09.740 you need to watch this video.

01:08:11.480 Unfortunately,

01:08:12.380 we have been lied to

01:08:13.860 and I don't know what you guys think,

01:08:16.100 but the amount of guys

01:08:17.740 that you sleep with

01:08:18.680 says absolutely nothing

01:08:20.420 about the amount of guys

01:08:22.000 that want you.

01:08:22.760 If you haven't realized it already,

01:08:25.120 guys will basically have sex with...

01:08:27.300 I want to tell you

01:08:30.060 why she thinks this is true.

01:08:31.980 I want to tell you.

01:08:32.520 I'm going to play devil's advocate here.

01:08:37.720 Women know more

01:08:39.140 about the women you're dating

01:08:41.100 than you do.

01:08:42.060 We see a difference.

01:08:43.280 You guys,

01:08:44.560 you see the crazy

01:08:45.660 how much your guys

01:08:46.700 like cheat behind the scenes.

01:08:48.340 Like the men will

01:08:49.040 show each other

01:08:49.980 the girls they're dating.

01:08:51.080 You'll see the extreme lengths

01:08:52.440 that men go through to cheat.

01:08:54.840 Women see

01:08:55.980 the women

01:08:59.000 that you guys pick

01:09:01.280 what they were doing before.

01:09:07.160 And some women

01:09:08.540 are very good con artists.

01:09:10.400 That is all I will say.

01:09:12.380 With anything.

01:09:13.680 Their standards

01:09:14.580 when it comes to having sex

01:09:16.180 with someone are so low.

01:09:18.040 The way men and women

01:09:19.280 view sex is so different.

01:09:21.560 Majority of men

01:09:22.560 do not view sex

01:09:24.140 as having anything

01:09:24.960 to do with love.

01:09:26.360 And a lot of that

01:09:27.080 has to do with the fact

01:09:28.100 that they have been

01:09:28.660 watching porn

01:09:29.420 since they were an adolescent.

01:09:31.960 See, that's always

01:09:32.880 what women do.

01:09:33.560 They shame the male sex drive.

01:09:35.920 So they'll always

01:09:36.800 put it on porn

01:09:38.220 when it's some part

01:09:39.780 of male sexuality

01:09:40.900 that they don't like.

01:09:42.880 So sex is different

01:09:43.860 for men and for women.

01:09:45.760 Obviously.

01:09:46.200 Whereas as women

01:09:47.500 we view sex

01:09:48.680 very differently

01:09:49.320 and we create a bond

01:09:51.260 when we have sex

01:09:51.960 with someone.

01:09:52.760 Women release oxytocin

01:09:54.240 when we have sex.

01:09:55.260 That is a hormone

01:09:56.060 that bonds us

01:09:56.760 to another person.

01:09:57.980 And men release

01:09:59.260 vasopressin

01:10:00.160 when they fall in love

01:10:01.100 with someone

01:10:01.580 and vasopressin

01:10:02.540 is not released

01:10:03.320 when they have sex.

01:10:04.480 It's actually released

01:10:05.500 when they have to work

01:10:07.000 towards having sex

01:10:07.980 with a girl.

01:10:08.800 So you have to stop

01:10:09.920 thinking that having

01:10:10.920 sex with a guy

01:10:11.720 is going to be

01:10:12.220 the key to his heart.

01:10:13.540 And this is most likely

01:10:14.780 the reason why

01:10:15.580 you constantly get ghosted

01:10:17.300 after you sleep

01:10:18.240 with a guy.

01:10:18.980 And it doesn't feel good

01:10:20.420 because as women

01:10:21.740 you most likely

01:10:23.300 have bonded with this guy

01:10:24.360 after sleeping with him

01:10:25.380 and now you feel

01:10:26.020 heartbroken

01:10:26.720 because you don't

01:10:27.660 understand the way

01:10:28.500 men and women

01:10:29.180 fall in love.

01:10:30.380 And the last decade

01:10:31.700 or so

01:10:32.260 I feel like

01:10:33.340 as women

01:10:33.960 we have been

01:10:34.500 very much lied to

01:10:35.800 because we're

01:10:36.300 constantly being told

01:10:37.320 to liberate ourselves

01:10:39.000 and to

01:10:39.800 be more promiscuous

01:10:41.200 and I feel like

01:10:42.080 we're just sold

01:10:42.960 that lie

01:10:44.100 that promiscuity

01:10:45.080 is the answer

01:10:46.480 for us

01:10:47.040 and that's

01:10:47.480 what's going

01:10:47.800 to make us

01:10:48.160 more attractive

01:10:48.780 and more desirable

01:10:49.700 when in reality

01:10:51.040 it couldn't be

01:10:51.920 further from the truth.

01:10:54.080 Keep going.

01:10:55.800 Common sense

01:10:56.560 about how to

01:10:58.320 take an L

01:10:59.000 but women

01:10:59.540 will not listen.

01:11:00.480 Whenever a guy

01:11:01.100 tells you

01:11:01.540 that he's not

01:11:02.120 ready for commitment

01:11:03.020 or he's not ready

01:11:03.880 for a relationship

01:11:04.660 this is what

01:11:05.320 he really means.

01:11:06.640 The reason why

01:11:07.080 a lot of women

01:11:07.680 struggle with this

01:11:08.720 and how to respond

01:11:09.780 to whenever a guy

01:11:10.740 says this

01:11:11.380 is because

01:11:11.800 Take the L!

01:11:14.100 sorry

01:11:14.700 Eat it

01:11:16.540 Men

01:11:18.340 have you ever

01:11:18.800 paid

01:11:19.280 have you ever

01:11:19.980 paid a lot

01:11:20.560 of money

01:11:21.120 for a woman

01:11:23.880 and not gotten

01:11:24.620 sex?

01:11:25.500 Have you ever

01:11:26.220 you know

01:11:28.960 how much

01:11:29.460 did your last

01:11:30.080 girlfriend

01:11:30.580 or situationship

01:11:32.300 or girl

01:11:32.640 you went on

01:11:33.060 a date

01:11:33.420 cost you

01:11:34.100 and what

01:11:34.480 did you

01:11:34.740 get out

01:11:35.120 of it?

01:11:35.900 Men get

01:11:36.420 negative

01:11:37.000 ROIs

01:11:37.700 all the time

01:11:38.600 but they

01:11:40.560 kind of

01:11:41.060 figure out

01:11:41.840 the solutions

01:11:43.020 they'll say

01:11:43.540 okay I'm going

01:11:43.900 to stop

01:11:44.560 doing that

01:11:45.360 women

01:11:45.700 we have

01:11:47.360 whole courses

01:11:48.080 on how

01:11:48.560 to take

01:11:48.940 an L

01:11:49.300 because

01:11:50.040 it ignites

01:11:51.280 that fixer

01:11:52.020 mentality

01:11:52.640 but whenever

01:11:53.400 a guy's

01:11:53.820 literally

01:11:54.240 telling you

01:11:54.860 why he

01:11:55.340 doesn't want

01:11:55.700 to be

01:11:55.880 with you

01:11:56.240 this is

01:11:56.680 not

01:11:57.160 an invitation

01:11:58.060 to try

01:11:58.640 harder

01:11:59.020 because

01:11:59.660 what he

01:11:59.920 really

01:12:00.200 means

01:12:00.500 is that

01:12:00.740 he's

01:12:00.900 not ready

01:12:01.220 to commit

01:12:01.740 to you

01:12:02.480 this is

01:12:03.220 also why

01:12:03.720 I talk

01:12:04.120 about

01:12:04.380 nervous

01:12:04.700 system

01:12:05.060 regulation

01:12:05.600 getting

01:12:05.940 to the

01:12:06.300 root

01:12:06.500 cause

01:12:06.880 of

01:12:07.060 why

01:12:07.620 you

01:12:07.800 even

01:12:08.040 desire

01:12:08.580 a

01:12:08.860 partner

01:12:09.180 and

01:12:09.520 truly

01:12:09.820 working

01:12:10.240 on your

01:12:10.600 self-love

01:12:11.200 and healing

01:12:11.980 so that

01:12:12.360 you can

01:12:12.620 attract

01:12:13.060 somebody

01:12:13.460 from a

01:12:14.220 place of

01:12:14.660 fulfillment

01:12:15.040 rather than

01:12:15.680 a place

01:12:15.980 of lack

01:12:16.460 and truly

01:12:17.520 getting into

01:12:18.320 your divine

01:12:18.940 feminine

01:12:19.320 energy

01:12:19.740 so that

01:12:20.080 you can

01:12:20.320 receive

01:12:21.240 the love

01:12:21.800 that you

01:12:22.140 so deeply

01:12:22.680 crave

01:12:23.160 because

01:12:23.620 it's

01:12:24.780 always to

01:12:25.320 do less

01:12:26.600 get more

01:12:29.860 receive more

01:12:30.780 because you

01:12:31.240 already give

01:12:31.920 it to yourself

01:12:32.660 so next

01:12:33.560 time a guy

01:12:33.960 says this

01:12:34.460 to you

01:12:34.900 respond

01:12:35.840 with

01:12:36.240 okay

01:12:36.840 wish you

01:12:37.600 well

01:12:37.920 it's like

01:12:41.800 basic

01:12:42.420 I mean

01:12:42.800 what do you

01:12:43.080 guys do

01:12:43.660 when women

01:12:44.060 dump you

01:12:44.680 okay

01:12:45.740 see ya

01:12:47.180 all right

01:12:48.300 women

01:12:49.240 instead of

01:12:49.660 taking an

01:12:50.200 L

01:12:50.460 now I know

01:12:51.840 you're probably

01:12:52.180 asking yourself

01:12:52.820 am I the

01:12:53.320 problem

01:12:53.760 now you

01:12:54.620 might be

01:12:55.220 you fully

01:12:56.080 might be

01:12:56.640 but here's

01:12:57.420 how we

01:12:57.640 change that

01:12:58.220 if he's

01:12:59.100 acting like

01:12:59.620 he's just

01:13:00.040 seeing where

01:13:00.580 it goes

01:13:01.080 great

01:13:01.620 then you're

01:13:02.160 gonna look

01:13:02.480 through your

01:13:02.740 phone and

01:13:03.200 see who

01:13:03.460 else you

01:13:03.740 can be

01:13:04.000 texting

01:13:04.340 if that's

01:13:05.260 how he's

01:13:05.640 treating it

01:13:06.160 so are

01:13:06.620 you

01:13:06.820 take a bit

01:13:07.560 longer to

01:13:08.000 answer his

01:13:08.460 texts

01:13:08.860 you have

01:13:09.540 other people

01:13:09.920 now you

01:13:10.620 are entertaining

01:13:11.380 other people

01:13:12.180 and not just

01:13:13.000 him because

01:13:13.500 if he's not

01:13:13.980 treating you

01:13:14.500 as he should

01:13:15.460 be to

01:13:16.180 commit with

01:13:16.640 you then

01:13:17.360 why would

01:13:17.660 you hit

01:13:18.360 him with

01:13:18.620 the classic

01:13:19.180 line

01:13:19.540 the thing

01:13:19.820 is women

01:13:20.260 will entertain

01:13:20.960 this for

01:13:21.620 years

01:13:22.140 waste years

01:13:24.300 of their

01:13:24.660 life

01:13:25.060 and some

01:13:28.880 pull it

01:13:29.420 off

01:13:29.700 there's no

01:13:31.440 look at

01:13:31.760 there's no

01:13:32.080 guaranteed

01:13:32.480 outcomes

01:13:33.080 just

01:13:33.380 strategies

01:13:34.000 you're not

01:13:34.840 looking for

01:13:35.220 anything

01:13:35.420 serious

01:13:35.980 we even

01:13:36.520 have a

01:13:36.860 hunch

01:13:37.240 that he's

01:13:37.960 not looking

01:13:38.320 for anything

01:13:38.700 serious

01:13:39.380 then girl

01:13:40.560 you say it

01:13:41.460 first

01:13:41.740 let those words

01:13:42.740 come out of

01:13:43.160 your mouth

01:13:43.700 before they

01:13:44.160 come out of

01:13:44.500 his

01:13:44.720 okay

01:13:45.040 and once

01:13:45.340 you say

01:13:45.600 that you're

01:13:45.940 not looking

01:13:46.400 for anything

01:13:46.860 serious

01:13:47.380 then he'll

01:13:49.480 say great

01:13:50.260 okay

01:13:54.720 he will be

01:13:55.300 looking for

01:13:55.840 that he

01:13:56.140 will be

01:13:56.440 concerned as

01:13:57.140 to why you

01:13:57.760 don't want

01:13:58.120 anything from

01:13:58.660 him he

01:13:59.360 will then

01:13:59.840 chase you

01:14:00.640 start posting

01:14:01.540 your life

01:14:02.100 give him a

01:14:02.620 bit of

01:14:02.920 FOMO

01:14:03.340 show him

01:14:03.760 what he's

01:14:04.060 missing

01:14:04.520 go for

01:14:04.980 brunch with

01:14:05.400 the girls

01:14:05.960 do something

01:14:06.700 fun do

01:14:07.400 something mysterious

01:14:08.100 do something

01:14:08.640 that he

01:14:08.980 wanted to

01:14:09.400 do and

01:14:10.020 last but not

01:14:10.540 least do

01:14:10.960 not devalue

01:14:11.580 yourself do

01:14:12.140 not stoop to

01:14:12.860 his level do

01:14:13.620 not be the

01:14:14.320 person that he

01:14:14.980 just wants to

01:14:15.660 have around or

01:14:16.440 whatever do

01:14:16.900 not be

01:14:17.260 that girl

01:14:17.720 okay you

01:14:18.260 are the

01:14:18.640 brides and

01:14:19.240 we're not

01:14:19.600 devaluing

01:14:20.040 ourselves

01:14:20.460 yeah

01:14:21.680 we really

01:14:24.200 just cannot

01:14:25.040 take L's

01:14:27.060 so I'm

01:14:29.340 gonna do a

01:14:29.740 call-in show

01:14:30.400 today and I

01:14:32.360 really want to

01:14:32.900 hear from the

01:14:33.480 ladies I've

01:14:34.600 been having a

01:14:35.040 tough time

01:14:35.500 getting female

01:14:36.140 callers so

01:14:37.020 I want to

01:14:39.160 hear about

01:14:41.480 your L's

01:14:42.400 what L's

01:14:44.400 did you

01:14:44.900 take

01:14:45.380 and how

01:14:47.800 did you

01:14:48.260 learn from

01:14:49.040 them

01:14:49.380 men you

01:14:51.700 can call

01:14:52.380 in but

01:14:52.860 only if you

01:14:53.460 have a

01:14:53.880 story about

01:14:55.200 a woman

01:14:55.660 you know

01:14:56.200 how she

01:14:58.240 took an

01:14:58.640 L and

01:14:58.980 either learned

01:14:59.540 from it or

01:15:00.100 didn't learn

01:15:00.740 from it

01:15:01.220 we're gonna

01:15:02.460 put the

01:15:02.880 link in the

01:15:03.520 chat but

01:15:05.040 before then I

01:15:06.080 did have a

01:15:06.720 submission so

01:15:07.680 you got the

01:15:08.240 link in the

01:15:08.680 chat yeah

01:15:09.220 okay

01:15:09.560 um you

01:15:10.800 emailed it

01:15:11.440 yeah we're

01:15:12.120 gonna react to

01:15:13.000 a something

01:15:13.600 that Dane

01:15:14.460 um on the

01:15:16.120 website see on

01:15:17.000 the website

01:15:17.420 guys you can

01:15:18.240 put things that

01:15:19.540 you want me to

01:15:20.140 react to and I

01:15:21.040 will do them

01:15:21.740 so it's

01:15:23.780 Eddie Murphy's

01:15:24.800 Raw

01:15:25.140 here we go

01:15:28.300 I was in the

01:15:29.380 club man

01:15:29.960 I stopped

01:15:31.080 I've never seen

01:15:32.240 this before so

01:15:33.120 we'll see

01:15:33.600 I was in the

01:15:36.400 club man

01:15:37.000 I stopped

01:15:38.100 I ain't dancing

01:15:38.720 along because I

01:15:39.200 just had a fight

01:15:40.200 recently and I

01:15:40.880 said I ain't

01:15:41.280 dancing I went to

01:15:42.300 clubs you get in

01:15:43.200 a lot of people

01:15:43.620 get drunk go to

01:15:44.320 clubs and stuff

01:15:44.780 fight I had a

01:15:45.240 fight with an

01:15:45.680 Italian dude

01:15:46.420 right after around

01:15:47.240 time Rocky came

01:15:48.460 out Italian

01:15:49.840 white people period

01:15:51.000 y'all go crazy

01:15:51.780 after y'all see a

01:15:52.380 Rocky movie because

01:15:53.000 y'all believe that

01:15:54.080 shit because the

01:15:56.380 movies are so

01:15:56.960 emotional and so

01:15:58.060 real you sit there

01:15:58.960 and go like hey

01:15:59.700 this is real

01:16:00.720 yeah and Stallone

01:16:02.220 have y'all white

01:16:02.820 people pump

01:16:03.320 especially Italians

01:16:04.220 after the Italians

01:16:04.800 see Rocky they

01:16:05.780 come out the

01:16:06.220 movie theater they

01:16:06.740 be like Italians

01:16:07.740 are funny people

01:16:08.280 because they act

01:16:08.740 like niggas

01:16:09.320 it's real funny

01:16:09.900 they do they

01:16:11.720 hold their dick

01:16:12.280 more than us

01:16:12.840 to be standing

01:16:13.300 around with

01:16:13.620 get the fuck

01:16:14.360 out of here

01:16:15.020 it's right here

01:16:22.100 all right

01:16:22.560 what hey fuck

01:16:24.800 you all right

01:16:25.460 everything is a

01:16:27.220 question too

01:16:27.820 hey what am I

01:16:28.380 an asshole

01:16:28.960 what am I a

01:16:30.500 fucking jerk

01:16:31.120 get the fuck

01:16:31.760 out of here

01:16:32.420 it's right here

01:16:33.460 ready

01:16:33.820 after they see

01:16:45.020 Rocky they come

01:16:46.020 out the theater

01:16:46.440 charge they'll be

01:16:47.240 like all right

01:16:48.100 rock up

01:16:48.800 all right

01:16:50.400 slide

01:16:51.120 all right

01:16:56.840 rock up

01:16:59.840 rock up

01:17:01.620 rock people

01:17:02.820 stand on line

01:17:03.540 and shit

01:17:03.880 hey

01:17:04.480 you going

01:17:05.360 into she

01:17:05.700 Rocky right

01:17:06.240 now

01:17:06.540 yeah

01:17:07.220 great

01:17:07.940 fucking

01:17:08.340 move

01:17:08.740 straight

01:17:13.560 you don't

01:17:16.680 like this

01:17:17.020 way

01:17:17.180 he comes

01:17:17.520 out

01:17:17.740 fly

01:17:18.020 comes

01:17:18.220 out

01:17:18.380 he

01:17:18.500 brave

01:17:18.780 she's

01:17:19.000 big

01:17:19.240 fucking

01:17:19.600 niggas

01:17:19.960 face

01:17:20.260 she bust

01:17:20.660 it

01:17:20.800 fucking

01:17:21.060 wide

01:17:21.380 open

01:17:21.600 fucking

01:17:22.500 moon

01:17:22.780 and y'all

01:17:23.100 laying on

01:17:23.480 the floor

01:17:23.880 fucked up

01:17:24.560 it's

01:17:27.620 fucking

01:17:27.900 great

01:17:28.300 I fucking

01:17:29.160 love it

01:17:29.660 man

01:17:30.080 all right

01:17:30.720 rock up

01:17:31.540 okay

01:17:33.600 I don't

01:17:35.320 really get

01:17:35.700 it sorry

01:17:36.140 guys

01:17:36.480 okay

01:17:37.860 um

01:17:38.400 let me

01:17:39.700 is anyone

01:17:40.460 on the line

01:17:41.080 or let me

01:17:41.560 get on there

01:17:42.340 hold on

01:17:43.400 take the

01:17:43.940 it's off

01:17:44.420 right

01:17:44.700 also guys

01:17:48.960 hit the like

01:17:49.600 button and if

01:17:50.360 you want

01:17:50.940 if you want

01:17:52.060 go to the

01:17:53.280 website 10

01:17:53.900 bucks a month

01:17:54.440 80 bucks a

01:17:55.160 year

01:17:55.380 um

01:17:57.000 we have all

01:17:58.100 of my old

01:17:58.540 content on the

01:17:59.380 website so if

01:18:00.160 you like to see

01:18:00.600 me dunk

01:18:01.000 on 304

01:18:01.760 it's on my

01:18:03.300 website I

01:18:03.760 had to delete

01:18:04.260 it off of

01:18:04.720 YouTube they

01:18:05.320 couldn't handle

01:18:05.840 me on here

01:18:06.500 and then let

01:18:08.300 me stop the

01:18:09.040 video

01:18:09.520 okay I think

01:18:12.620 I'm in there

01:18:13.260 okay

01:18:16.500 yeah yeah

01:18:20.540 yeah yeah

01:18:21.140 yeah yeah

01:18:21.860 yeah yeah

01:18:22.540 yeah

01:18:23.040 sorry

01:18:24.140 muted it

01:18:25.460 um

01:18:27.360 so I want

01:18:28.980 to know

01:18:29.220 from the

01:18:29.620 ladies

01:18:30.200 I want

01:18:31.100 to know

01:18:31.280 from the

01:18:31.600 ladies

01:18:31.980 what is

01:18:35.060 an L

01:18:35.460 it seems

01:18:38.080 like every

01:18:38.580 woman that

01:18:39.560 I've talked

01:18:40.100 to

01:18:40.500 claims they've

01:18:43.920 taken no L's

01:18:44.980 in life

01:18:45.500 unless you

01:18:48.040 married your

01:18:48.620 high school

01:18:49.520 or college

01:18:50.240 sweetheart I do

01:18:51.120 not believe you

01:18:51.880 it's bullshit

01:18:52.540 complete BS

01:18:54.580 do not

01:18:56.060 believe it

01:18:56.760 okay I'm

01:18:59.000 gonna read

01:18:59.420 the website

01:19:00.200 so we got

01:19:00.940 pearl in

01:19:04.400 ancient Egypt

01:19:05.260 one emperor

01:19:06.080 banned the

01:19:06.720 manufacturer of

01:19:07.700 women's shoes

01:19:08.320 so he couldn't

01:19:09.260 leave the

01:19:09.840 house

01:19:10.260 oh shit

01:19:13.220 ancient Egypt

01:19:14.360 one I'm sure

01:19:15.000 emperor banned

01:19:15.700 the manufacturer of

01:19:16.700 women's shoes so

01:19:17.440 they couldn't leave

01:19:18.180 the house

01:19:18.660 look you know

01:19:20.380 there's a lot

01:19:20.840 of guys that'll

01:19:21.700 say the

01:19:22.940 Muslims are

01:19:23.800 right you

01:19:24.720 know we

01:19:24.940 should women

01:19:26.200 shouldn't drive

01:19:27.120 put them in

01:19:27.780 the house

01:19:28.540 you know my

01:19:30.800 dad he's

01:19:32.080 just a wise

01:19:32.780 guy and the

01:19:33.380 older I get

01:19:33.980 the more I see

01:19:34.660 he's just right

01:19:35.180 about everything

01:19:35.940 he's kind of

01:19:36.580 annoying

01:19:36.920 my dad is

01:19:39.540 not very

01:19:40.540 controlling but

01:19:41.540 he ran a

01:19:42.100 software company

01:19:42.920 and his

01:19:45.640 philosophy was

01:19:46.780 the more you

01:19:48.280 try to control

01:19:49.200 people the

01:19:49.820 more you they

01:19:50.680 resent you for

01:19:51.640 it and you

01:19:53.380 got to just let

01:19:54.180 people be who

01:19:55.060 they are and

01:19:55.960 act accordingly

01:19:56.860 and that's the

01:20:00.340 way I view it

01:20:01.120 if the ladies

01:20:01.900 want to go be

01:20:03.100 super whores

01:20:04.420 I do not

01:20:06.760 care go do

01:20:07.820 it it is no

01:20:09.580 longer our

01:20:10.720 problem good

01:20:12.220 luck the

01:20:13.840 only thing is

01:20:14.660 now they don't

01:20:15.380 deal with the

01:20:15.840 consequences

01:20:16.500 as long as

01:20:17.400 they deal with

01:20:18.000 the consequences

01:20:18.780 not my

01:20:19.400 problem

01:20:19.880 pearl oh

01:20:22.440 now you're

01:20:22.840 getting on me

01:20:23.300 about my

01:20:23.620 unread emails

01:20:24.480 all right

01:20:25.080 all right

01:20:25.960 Bennett says

01:20:27.140 a girl I

01:20:27.780 hooked up

01:20:28.220 with twice

01:20:28.980 reported me

01:20:29.700 on bumble

01:20:30.160 when I

01:20:30.460 ghosted her

01:20:30.940 and I was

01:20:31.280 banned I

01:20:32.080 found this

01:20:32.460 out because

01:20:32.840 she was

01:20:33.140 talking about

01:20:33.700 me on are

01:20:34.080 we dating

01:20:34.440 the same

01:20:34.840 guy I

01:20:35.200 ghosted her

01:20:35.620 two years

01:20:36.300 ago and she

01:20:37.300 brought this

01:20:37.740 up on that

01:20:38.240 page last

01:20:38.940 month

01:20:39.360 okay oh

01:20:44.500 we got

01:20:44.920 someone named

01:20:45.600 Erica on

01:20:46.340 the line

01:20:46.820 I need

01:20:48.400 camera on

01:20:49.480 so I can

01:20:52.880 see you're

01:20:53.340 a person

01:20:53.980 if you want

01:20:55.460 to be off

01:20:56.160 camera we

01:20:57.140 can't arrange

01:20:57.920 that but we

01:21:00.260 can take your

01:21:00.900 just so it's

01:21:01.980 audio on the

01:21:02.740 screen so if

01:21:03.660 you'd want that

01:21:04.240 you can you

01:21:04.720 guys can tell

01:21:05.340 me right away

01:21:06.020 but I need to

01:21:07.860 make sure you're

01:21:08.460 a person I

01:21:09.500 don't want any

01:21:10.300 weird stuff that's

01:21:11.320 happened to me

01:21:11.840 before I'm

01:21:12.600 scarred for

01:21:13.240 life

01:21:13.640 let's see

01:21:19.740 Erica I

01:21:22.360 don't see

01:21:23.020 your face

01:21:24.060 okay well

01:21:34.740 until that

01:21:37.340 happens let

01:21:38.180 me see

01:21:38.580 Erica she

01:21:43.960 said okay

01:21:44.540 one minute

01:21:45.080 she's coming

01:21:45.560 on guys

01:21:46.100 you know but

01:21:48.000 back to the

01:21:48.560 burka thing

01:21:49.280 like once you

01:21:51.100 know men are

01:21:51.500 so solution

01:21:52.200 oriented so

01:21:53.020 their solution

01:21:53.740 is we got

01:21:56.340 a chain

01:21:57.320 women into

01:21:59.160 the house so

01:21:59.840 they won't

01:22:00.260 cheat

01:22:00.540 in my

01:22:02.840 experience

01:22:03.540 that guy

01:22:05.520 took his

01:22:06.200 girlfriend to

01:22:06.960 a party he

01:22:07.820 was at and

01:22:09.140 she figured

01:22:10.120 out a way

01:22:11.000 to cheat

01:22:11.540 when women

01:22:13.720 want to

01:22:14.220 cheat they

01:22:16.220 will cheat

01:22:16.820 there is

01:22:17.900 nothing you

01:22:18.580 can do it's

01:22:19.300 the same thing

01:22:19.840 with a guy

01:22:20.480 have you guys

01:22:21.200 ever seen a

01:22:21.740 man that wants

01:22:22.380 to cheat and

01:22:23.100 the lengths he

01:22:23.880 will go to

01:22:24.440 okay she

01:22:28.940 doesn't want to

01:22:29.400 be on screen

01:22:30.180 you have that

01:22:31.180 um you have

01:22:34.080 it so she

01:22:34.620 won't be on

01:22:35.100 screen okay

01:22:36.020 i need to

01:22:36.920 see you're a

01:22:37.400 person so

01:22:38.160 you can put

01:22:38.660 your screen

01:22:39.300 on but we're

01:22:40.220 not going to

01:22:40.660 see it other

01:22:41.180 than um on

01:22:42.800 us we can do

01:22:43.520 that right where

01:22:44.560 i can see the

01:22:45.120 screen but then

01:22:45.760 okay yeah so

01:22:47.000 if you go screen

01:22:47.740 on i won't be

01:22:48.340 able to see

01:22:48.800 you or like

01:22:50.620 the audience

01:22:52.680 won't be able

01:22:53.300 to see you

01:22:53.840 a girl hooked

01:23:04.160 up with you

01:23:04.680 and reported

01:23:05.540 you on

01:23:06.020 bumble

01:23:06.420 yeah that's

01:23:07.140 the thing

01:23:07.400 there's nothing

01:23:08.000 like a woman

01:23:08.780 scorned

01:23:10.120 there are times

01:23:12.060 when every

01:23:12.840 single person

01:23:13.620 alive has been

01:23:14.460 a bad person

01:23:15.160 there's a lot

01:23:17.800 of virtue

01:23:18.200 signaling

01:23:18.700 it drives me

01:23:19.200 nuts

01:23:19.560 um but

01:23:20.940 who who

01:23:22.000 out there

01:23:22.600 has never

01:23:24.020 been a bad

01:23:24.660 person ever

01:23:25.500 you are the

01:23:28.140 villain in

01:23:29.180 somebody's

01:23:29.960 story

01:23:30.380 someone's

01:23:32.700 and um

01:23:35.380 in my

01:23:36.320 experience

01:23:37.180 right

01:23:37.540 when a

01:23:41.560 woman when

01:23:42.440 someone does

01:23:42.940 a woman

01:23:43.360 wrong it's

01:23:44.020 like she'll

01:23:44.360 hold on to

01:23:44.880 it for years

01:23:45.760 instead of

01:23:46.460 just letting

01:23:46.940 it go

01:23:47.500 moving on

01:23:48.800 we got

01:23:50.040 erica

01:23:50.520 on

01:23:51.420 in the

01:23:52.600 chat

01:23:53.020 hello

01:23:53.440 erica

01:23:54.000 hello

01:23:55.600 um no one

01:23:56.960 can see you

01:23:57.580 just me

01:23:58.120 so how are

01:23:58.740 you okay

01:23:59.180 i'm good

01:24:00.220 how are you

01:24:00.740 good where

01:24:01.260 are you

01:24:01.440 calling out

01:24:01.980 of

01:24:02.240 uh

01:24:03.480 california

01:24:04.120 nice

01:24:04.680 so what

01:24:06.100 was an

01:24:06.440 l you took

01:24:07.260 and how

01:24:07.820 did you

01:24:08.440 learn from

01:24:09.020 it

01:24:09.240 um

01:24:11.740 so i

01:24:13.500 my l

01:24:14.680 that i

01:24:15.020 took

01:24:15.560 was when

01:24:16.580 i was

01:24:16.840 younger

01:24:17.140 i am

01:24:18.160 now 20

01:24:18.980 i'm going

01:24:19.740 on 26

01:24:20.220 okay

01:24:20.980 and when

01:24:22.100 i was

01:24:22.460 younger

01:24:22.780 i started

01:24:23.940 to go

01:24:24.300 to the

01:24:24.520 gym

01:24:24.840 i started

01:24:25.240 to kind

01:24:26.600 of like

01:24:26.820 what you

01:24:27.060 talk about

01:24:27.740 i started

01:24:28.200 to uh

01:24:29.520 like wear

01:24:29.860 makeup

01:24:30.280 and i

01:24:31.260 started i

01:24:31.740 guess i

01:24:32.060 was beginning

01:24:32.860 to go on

01:24:33.740 to this

01:24:34.080 phase where

01:24:34.680 i thought i

01:24:35.580 could get

01:24:36.160 someone like

01:24:36.840 better than

01:24:37.400 me or

01:24:37.780 like i

01:24:38.120 thought at

01:24:39.340 my level

01:24:39.980 um so i

01:24:42.560 was like

01:24:42.920 dating a lot

01:24:43.620 i was on

01:24:44.160 tinder and

01:24:45.120 i was meeting

01:24:45.540 a lot of

01:24:45.980 guys

01:24:46.520 and i

01:24:48.200 was going

01:24:48.500 on a lot

01:24:48.800 of dates

01:24:49.380 and um

01:24:51.860 there was

01:24:52.540 a time

01:24:53.180 where i

01:24:53.620 dated a

01:24:54.020 cop and

01:24:55.720 we uh

01:24:57.480 we started

01:24:58.040 talking but

01:24:59.360 i noticed

01:24:59.760 that he

01:25:00.100 wanted to

01:25:00.540 date me

01:25:01.000 but he

01:25:01.540 just our

01:25:02.540 dates were

01:25:03.020 only

01:25:03.440 that'll do

01:25:04.420 it the i

01:25:04.920 care about

01:25:05.560 you they

01:25:06.140 do that

01:25:06.680 yeah

01:25:07.120 yeah and

01:25:08.760 and i and

01:25:09.620 i didn't realize

01:25:10.140 this until

01:25:10.580 later yeah

01:25:11.480 unfortunately

01:25:12.200 but i i

01:25:14.320 took an l

01:25:14.820 and i

01:25:15.160 realized that

01:25:15.600 now and

01:25:16.040 i realized

01:25:16.880 how stupid

01:25:17.440 i was

01:25:18.080 and um

01:25:20.680 you know

01:25:21.520 obviously we

01:25:22.140 didn't work

01:25:22.500 out and we

01:25:23.360 stopped talking

01:25:23.860 and he never

01:25:24.320 really cared to

01:25:24.980 like come

01:25:25.680 after me or

01:25:26.320 anything like

01:25:26.780 that you know

01:25:27.380 like he

01:25:28.560 didn't hit me

01:25:29.320 up months

01:25:29.800 later like i

01:25:30.420 miss you or

01:25:30.940 anything like

01:25:31.280 that because

01:25:31.780 he got what

01:25:32.220 he wanted and

01:25:32.820 like that was

01:25:33.320 it so um

01:25:34.960 that was like

01:25:35.560 my l

01:25:36.100 so how long

01:25:37.120 did it last

01:25:37.900 probably like

01:25:39.820 six months

01:25:40.780 that's not too

01:25:41.660 bad i've heard

01:25:42.500 way worse i've

01:25:43.240 heard years oh

01:25:44.900 man i can't

01:25:45.880 yeah well

01:25:46.660 yeah no it

01:25:48.940 was only six

01:25:49.400 months six

01:25:49.980 months how

01:25:50.460 often was he

01:25:51.120 seeing you

01:25:51.720 um maybe

01:25:53.820 on the weekends

01:25:54.780 okay so like

01:25:57.000 once a week

01:25:57.620 i see a kid

01:25:58.740 so it seems

01:25:59.440 like you moved

01:26:00.120 on yeah

01:26:01.520 no now i'm

01:26:02.240 like i have

01:26:02.680 married and i

01:26:03.300 have a um

01:26:04.700 you know we

01:26:06.160 i've moved on

01:26:06.840 obviously but um

01:26:08.360 i realized that

01:26:09.740 well one it

01:26:10.520 didn't work out

01:26:11.380 that i i

01:26:12.980 don't know i

01:26:13.360 thought i had

01:26:14.660 it all or

01:26:15.220 like i was

01:26:15.740 able to get

01:26:16.200 all these

01:26:16.600 men and

01:26:18.080 it made me

01:26:18.460 realize like

01:26:19.100 okay well

01:26:19.960 obviously i'm

01:26:21.120 not how do

01:26:22.300 i say it like

01:26:22.900 i'm not

01:26:23.240 respecting myself

01:26:24.240 and they see

01:26:25.720 that and they

01:26:26.520 know that and

01:26:28.460 so it made me

01:26:29.380 realize like okay

01:26:30.520 well i need

01:26:32.500 to how do i

01:26:34.900 explain it i

01:26:36.820 don't know just

01:26:37.120 made me realize

01:26:37.540 it's not something

01:26:38.240 to brag about

01:26:38.860 you know yeah

01:26:39.720 like that i get

01:26:40.840 these men or

01:26:41.400 because i

01:26:41.680 didn't in

01:26:42.820 my head i'm

01:26:43.320 like oh

01:26:43.620 i'm dating

01:26:43.960 a cop like

01:26:44.680 i'm dating

01:26:45.020 someone of

01:26:45.560 high value

01:26:46.140 or whatever

01:26:46.640 but you know

01:26:47.800 it wasn't

01:26:48.280 serious and

01:26:49.060 he didn't

01:26:49.660 take me

01:26:49.960 serious so

01:26:51.420 are you happily

01:26:52.300 married now

01:26:53.000 uh yes

01:26:54.840 yeah so where

01:26:55.640 did you meet

01:26:56.080 your husband

01:26:56.580 we were um

01:26:58.880 we actually

01:26:59.720 dated i'm

01:27:00.780 sorry we

01:27:01.280 knew each

01:27:01.620 other from

01:27:01.920 school but

01:27:02.380 we never

01:27:02.680 dated and

01:27:03.500 then we

01:27:04.200 ended up

01:27:04.480 reconnecting

01:27:05.100 through um

01:27:05.880 social media

01:27:06.500 okay cool

01:27:07.960 and did

01:27:09.280 you do

01:27:09.620 something

01:27:09.980 differently

01:27:10.500 with that

01:27:11.040 relationship

01:27:11.700 to get a

01:27:12.320 better outcome

01:27:12.980 so like did

01:27:14.900 you were you

01:27:15.400 presenting yourself

01:27:16.360 one way before

01:27:17.260 and then maybe

01:27:18.100 you stopped

01:27:18.800 or like what

01:27:19.680 changed

01:27:20.140 um yeah

01:27:22.000 i think so

01:27:22.880 i start i was

01:27:24.020 very intentional

01:27:24.700 about it i was

01:27:25.780 very much like i

01:27:26.540 want to i want

01:27:27.980 to settle down

01:27:28.680 and i want to

01:27:29.180 find someone

01:27:29.940 because i went

01:27:31.100 through this like

01:27:31.620 i said like this

01:27:32.100 little whole phase

01:27:32.780 i guess i would

01:27:33.240 call it um

01:27:34.800 where like i

01:27:36.080 thought i could

01:27:36.520 date and i

01:27:37.220 could just have

01:27:37.880 like have a

01:27:39.000 good time and

01:27:39.920 mess around and

01:27:41.160 not have any

01:27:41.580 consequences and

01:27:43.280 not worry about

01:27:43.940 anything but

01:27:44.820 looking back now

01:27:45.640 like i regret a

01:27:46.520 lot of that a

01:27:47.920 lot of that time

01:27:48.860 that time frame

01:27:49.480 where i was

01:27:49.900 dating a lot i

01:27:51.340 regret it and

01:27:52.380 if i could go

01:27:53.600 back and like get

01:27:54.300 married earlier i

01:27:55.280 would have you

01:27:56.260 know well you're

01:27:58.460 26 you have a

01:27:59.540 kid so it's not

01:28:00.980 yeah it's not

01:28:01.480 like you waited

01:28:01.920 till 36 i have

01:28:02.980 a daughter and

01:28:03.800 now i realize i'm

01:28:04.540 like no i need a

01:28:05.340 teacher differently

01:28:06.480 and i don't want

01:28:07.760 her to go

01:28:08.180 down that

01:28:08.700 same like

01:28:09.280 mentality or

01:28:10.000 like route that

01:28:10.880 her mom did

01:28:11.540 you know yeah

01:28:12.300 well thank you

01:28:13.660 so much erica

01:28:14.580 yeah of course

01:28:16.140 thank you i love

01:28:17.040 what you you know

01:28:17.680 what you do and

01:28:18.280 what you say and

01:28:19.120 i think that

01:28:19.720 there's a lot of

01:28:20.260 truth in what

01:28:20.780 you say and um

01:28:22.000 i know sometimes

01:28:22.880 people take it

01:28:24.120 the wrong way or

01:28:24.860 they get offended

01:28:25.640 by it but like i

01:28:27.000 can tell you like

01:28:28.000 a lot of the

01:28:28.440 things that you

01:28:28.840 say they don't

01:28:29.380 trigger me but it

01:28:30.180 makes me realize

01:28:30.680 like oh she's

01:28:31.280 talking about me

01:28:31.860 you know yeah

01:28:32.800 and it's just the

01:28:33.980 truth and if if

01:28:35.600 it wasn't the

01:28:36.100 truth then you

01:28:37.020 wouldn't have so

01:28:37.540 many women upset

01:28:38.420 yeah so thank

01:28:40.560 you thank you

01:28:41.380 erica i appreciate

01:28:42.360 you calling feel

01:28:43.420 free to call back

01:28:44.200 anytime okay thank

01:28:46.200 you girl bye

01:28:47.240 let's see don't

01:28:52.460 it always asks me

01:28:53.220 if i want to

01:28:53.660 report them after

01:28:54.660 oh i put them in

01:28:58.820 the rating room okay

01:28:59.740 we have bond

01:29:01.260 gone okay i need

01:29:04.480 guys we don't

01:29:05.760 start with the

01:29:06.440 cameras on if you

01:29:07.300 want to be off

01:29:07.860 camera totally

01:29:08.800 hello hello

01:29:18.380 hello

01:29:29.740 yeah there you

01:29:31.600 go how you

01:29:32.320 doing you have

01:29:33.960 got to get a new

01:29:34.720 mic i said it's

01:29:39.060 always um i think

01:29:40.580 it's the fan in the

01:29:41.520 background or

01:29:43.260 something i've just

01:29:47.620 got the fountain

01:29:48.280 fixed so that

01:29:49.300 doesn't make very

01:29:50.060 much noise at the

01:29:51.000 minute like but

01:29:51.860 anyway so what's

01:29:53.060 an l that you saw

01:29:54.360 someone take

01:29:55.180 can i tell you if

01:29:58.540 it's uh an l that

01:29:59.900 i caused i mean

01:30:01.420 uh sure yeah go

01:30:03.480 ahead it was it

01:30:05.660 was me who caused

01:30:06.340 the l um it was

01:30:08.660 when i was at

01:30:09.840 school um like

01:30:11.340 this girl on

01:30:12.300 valentine's day

01:30:13.260 came to me and

01:30:14.560 said that her

01:30:15.080 friend that she

01:30:16.160 fancied me and

01:30:18.720 uh gave me a card

01:30:20.220 and uh i couldn't

01:30:23.420 go out with it i

01:30:24.160 just didn't fancy

01:30:25.020 it at all so i

01:30:26.940 told uh

01:30:27.820 that because i

01:30:29.820 did i really

01:30:30.400 fancied a friend

01:30:31.320 so i told her i

01:30:33.060 fancied a friend

01:30:33.920 wow and uh she

01:30:36.660 actually told her

01:30:37.580 friend and i ended

01:30:38.620 up going out with

01:30:39.240 her friend it's

01:30:39.800 just one of those

01:30:41.200 sort of rare

01:30:41.780 instances where a

01:30:43.020 woman actually did

01:30:43.880 take an l really

01:30:46.020 well for a friend

01:30:46.920 she ate it huh

01:30:48.940 she was she ate

01:30:51.580 the l huh

01:30:52.420 she did i took it

01:30:54.960 and like so that's

01:30:56.800 cool i don't think

01:30:58.100 it's cool right but

01:30:59.340 it's cool that it

01:31:00.700 happened yeah well

01:31:02.180 cool thanks for

01:31:03.180 telling me you're out

01:31:04.100 today yeah thanks for

01:31:08.880 calling in

01:31:09.640 yeah that audio i

01:31:17.460 gotta don't know if

01:31:19.660 you guys could hear

01:31:20.320 that i know the

01:31:21.280 noise he said he

01:31:24.160 asked his um a girl

01:31:25.600 out or a girl liked

01:31:28.120 him but he really

01:31:28.920 liked her friend and

01:31:30.960 the friend told the

01:31:32.220 other friend and he

01:31:33.000 went out with the

01:31:33.600 friend

01:31:33.900 that l was the

01:31:37.500 noise i know i know

01:31:39.100 i know i know

01:31:39.820 let's see what we

01:31:43.860 got

01:31:44.320 pearl

01:31:46.480 dan i'll react to

01:31:49.800 it next show i

01:31:51.400 just i don't want

01:31:52.600 to get off track

01:31:53.400 today

01:31:53.760 so while i'm

01:31:57.680 waiting i'll wait

01:31:58.300 for my next

01:31:59.020 women ladies

01:32:00.480 it's okay

01:32:02.680 you know what i'm

01:32:03.780 like we take so

01:32:05.760 many l's in life

01:32:07.340 men men in the

01:32:09.760 chat have you

01:32:10.300 ever taken an

01:32:11.180 l and can you

01:32:12.020 guys let's

01:32:13.840 not let's

01:32:16.580 not the women

01:32:17.440 are going to be

01:32:18.000 honest on my

01:32:18.880 show they're going

01:32:19.380 to be honest with

01:32:20.140 me okay they're

01:32:21.360 really they're going

01:32:21.900 to be honest and

01:32:24.360 in exchange for the

01:32:25.780 honesty i need you

01:32:26.780 guys to not roast

01:32:28.580 their existence i am

01:32:31.400 not going to get

01:32:32.140 honesty from women

01:32:33.380 or more honesty

01:32:35.240 let's say i mean

01:32:35.900 they're women so

01:32:36.620 it's like we

01:32:39.080 don't even mean

01:32:39.600 to lie sometimes

01:32:40.500 if we lie if

01:32:41.920 you guys are in

01:32:43.000 the comments

01:32:43.840 roasting the

01:32:45.120 living crap out

01:32:45.980 of them

01:32:46.280 i understand if

01:32:50.340 they're being

01:32:50.740 combative and

01:32:51.620 rude

01:32:52.060 fine go at

01:32:55.420 it if they're

01:32:55.800 being disrespectful

01:32:56.700 don't care

01:32:57.740 but can we just

01:33:01.100 like negotiate

01:33:01.840 here chat

01:33:03.060 i need the

01:33:06.420 honesty from the

01:33:07.360 ladies or at

01:33:08.160 least the stories

01:33:09.220 and i'm just not

01:33:09.960 going to get

01:33:10.480 them

01:33:10.860 they're saying

01:33:16.220 funny okay

01:33:17.080 you know ladies

01:33:19.100 you can you can

01:33:19.800 say your l's

01:33:20.680 it's okay

01:33:21.380 you can be off

01:33:24.080 camera it's all

01:33:24.920 right because you

01:33:26.580 know i've taken

01:33:27.240 an l in my

01:33:27.880 life every woman

01:33:28.800 has every man

01:33:29.980 has the people

01:33:33.060 that win keep

01:33:34.240 going despite the

01:33:36.180 l's that's why i

01:33:38.840 get mad

01:33:39.640 riley reed wanted

01:33:44.360 to get married

01:33:45.260 we all could learn

01:33:46.840 something from

01:33:47.580 riley reed i know

01:33:48.540 you're thinking i

01:33:49.480 could learn nothing

01:33:50.400 from a corn star

01:33:51.320 well riley reed

01:33:53.940 did corn made

01:33:55.580 her money and

01:33:57.740 said i want to

01:33:58.380 get married after

01:33:59.340 she initiated

01:34:00.340 she messaged

01:34:01.200 this guy and

01:34:03.480 said that guy i

01:34:04.380 wanted him because

01:34:05.320 that i obviously

01:34:06.880 have corn so the

01:34:08.680 way i'm gonna win

01:34:09.520 is i'm gonna give

01:34:10.380 him my hot

01:34:11.060 friends he can

01:34:12.340 have sex with

01:34:12.900 me and my hot

01:34:13.800 friends that's a

01:34:16.140 pragmatic woman

01:34:17.400 now i'm not

01:34:21.020 saying it's gonna

01:34:21.620 work out but the

01:34:23.220 people that win in

01:34:24.120 life they keep

01:34:25.280 figuring they

01:34:25.980 keep going after

01:34:27.040 what they want

01:34:27.940 and you know

01:34:32.120 i you know i'm

01:34:33.460 gonna be women

01:34:35.420 that go after what

01:34:36.720 they want and

01:34:37.520 take l's are far

01:34:39.360 better than the

01:34:40.160 ladies that don't

01:34:41.020 even try

01:34:41.620 it is far better

01:34:46.500 to go after what

01:34:47.580 you want and

01:34:48.640 maybe not get it

01:34:49.720 but know you

01:34:50.300 tried then live

01:34:52.580 then live life

01:34:53.860 behind a screen

01:34:55.140 watching life go

01:34:56.860 by

01:34:57.240 really

01:35:01.340 i'm right i know

01:35:05.680 i'm right you

01:35:06.780 know two l's look

01:35:07.680 there's a girl in

01:35:08.340 college that taught

01:35:09.020 me this we kept

01:35:09.620 losing we're on a

01:35:10.420 losing streak two

01:35:12.460 l's make a w

01:35:14.240 serious you know

01:35:18.340 i'm not

01:35:22.580 and i learned this

01:35:23.900 from my dad my

01:35:24.640 dad would always

01:35:25.220 say focus on the

01:35:26.600 solution don't focus

01:35:27.760 on the problem

01:35:28.420 riley reed we can

01:35:30.020 learn something from

01:35:30.940 she did

JustPearlyThings - January 17, 2025

Modern Women Don't Know How To Take L's ｜ Pearl Daily

Episode Stats

Length

Words per Minute

Word Count

Sentence Count

Misogynist Sentences

Hate Speech Sentences

Summary

Transcript