JustPearlyThings - Modern Women Don't Take Responsibility For Their ACTIONS

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00:00:00.940 I think a lot of people can, like, base their, like, toxicity

00:00:05.480 off, like, a bad upbringing and stuff, but do you know what?

00:00:08.460 You get to a certain age where you need to be held accountable

00:00:10.760 for, like, your behaviours and stuff.

00:00:12.700 Not necessarily.

00:00:13.320 And you can't blame it.

00:00:14.260 You can't blame it on your childhood and stuff

00:00:16.720 because at the end of the day, like, you can see someone

00:00:18.820 who's got, like, grown up with, like, alcoholic parents.

00:00:21.640 I actually saw a post and it was, like, twins

00:00:24.560 and they grew up in a household with, like, two alcoholic parents.

00:00:27.900 And one of them became a complete alcoholic,

00:00:31.080 just like his parents, and the other one fixed his whole life,

00:00:33.120 had a successful business and stuff.

00:00:34.640 The same way we don't have the same body

00:00:36.040 is the same way we don't have the same mindset.

00:00:37.920 No, 100%.

00:00:38.640 A mindset is something that you learn, like, over time.

00:00:40.820 Yeah.

00:00:41.360 And everyone's way of learning is different.

00:00:42.900 Like, the same way school isn't for everyone

00:00:44.480 is the same way the way you take education differently.

00:00:46.700 Yeah.

00:00:47.060 Yeah.

00:00:47.560 So you can't be a female person when they don't change their lives. 1.00

00:00:50.480 But at the same time, like, you can't sit there

00:00:53.880 and blame everything else for the way your life's turned out

00:00:56.700 because everyone has a sob story.

00:00:59.580 Like, everyone goes through shit, yeah.

00:01:01.180 But it just needs one person.

00:01:02.260 It's about how you deal with it.

00:01:04.680 You know, if you don't want to be in that situation,

00:01:06.480 then you work towards getting yourself out of that situation.

00:01:09.060 You know, if you sit there and you sulk

00:01:10.360 and you're like, oh, I'm in this situation

00:01:11.540 and you don't make no change, like,

00:01:13.860 how do you expect to grow?

00:01:15.220 How do you expect yourself to change?

00:01:16.360 You are who you say you are.

00:01:16.860 Yeah, exactly.

00:01:17.380 You have to become the change

00:01:19.380 and take actions toward that change.

00:01:21.540 Today, guys, we are talking about toxic exes.

00:01:24.440 Now, this is a young panel,

00:01:27.100 so I'm hoping this topic still works.

00:01:31.400 So question, what is your definition of a toxic ex?

00:01:35.720 Someone that feels entitled to making decisions for you.

00:01:41.600 I feel like.

00:01:42.580 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:01:43.120 That's a toxic ex.

00:01:44.520 Someone that feels entitled to your life, to your lifestyle.

00:01:49.180 But that also determines on whether you give them that entitlement,

00:01:51.820 whether you give them that.

00:01:53.060 But do you not like it when a guy has a bit of, like, control?

00:01:55.600 Like, with me, even though I have a lot of control in my career

00:01:59.100 and in my life, but I like to feel, you know, petite and cute.

00:02:02.840 So I like when a man is like, oh, John Turner says,

00:02:04.960 like, give it to me.

00:02:05.780 I like to have, like, a bit of control in that.

00:02:09.140 Oh, where are you?

00:02:10.280 Yeah.

00:02:10.520 John Turner says, I want to know you care about me.

00:02:12.020 Because also, like, the whole controlling thing

00:02:13.720 shows you that he cares as well.

00:02:15.400 I think that's important in any relationship.

00:02:17.020 Okay.

00:02:17.780 This is confusing.

00:02:18.640 You're nodding.

00:02:19.940 And she says this.

00:02:20.760 But she's saying the opposite of what you said.

00:02:24.040 No, because you know why.

00:02:25.020 No, no, no.

00:02:25.400 She's taking an account.

00:02:26.500 She's taking an account.

00:02:27.680 I agree because of the context that she means it in.

00:02:31.200 She doesn't mean, like, toxic or, like, in an angry way,

00:02:34.360 in a controlling way, as in,

00:02:36.880 I would want you to show me that you care.

00:02:40.300 I get that.

00:02:40.900 I like that.

00:02:41.460 I'm not going to lie.

00:02:41.960 But I think she means it in an extreme way.

00:02:42.760 I can't lie.

00:02:43.680 No, no, no.

00:02:44.220 I can't lie.

00:02:45.020 So show me that you want me.

00:02:46.620 Chase me.

00:02:47.620 Okay.

00:02:48.040 Okay.

00:02:48.340 So show me that you want me.

00:02:49.720 You don't want him to feel entitled to making decisions.

00:02:52.480 Yes.

00:02:52.920 But you want him to chase you.

00:02:54.920 Okay.

00:02:55.640 I'm just wearing this down.

00:02:56.840 Yes.

00:02:57.300 That's why I want to talk to you.

00:02:58.960 I do think that there's a huge difference between controlling

00:03:02.020 and a bit of dominance.

00:03:03.660 And I think that as a woman, I think in a relationship,

00:03:06.340 you're like a man that has a little bit of dominance.

00:03:08.080 I think controlling and like constantly checking where you are.

00:03:11.480 I feel like it's a bit too much.

00:03:13.280 In my opinion, anyway,

00:03:14.160 I feel like there should be a level of trust in a relationship.

00:03:16.500 Word.

00:03:16.960 If you're chasing, constantly asking where someone is.

00:03:18.780 But no, when I say where are you,

00:03:20.680 it's more of like, oh, are you safe?

00:03:21.860 Are you at home yet?

00:03:22.700 Okay.

00:03:23.140 Yeah.

00:03:23.260 So that's different.

00:03:24.420 Yeah.

00:03:25.220 Okay.

00:03:25.560 What's the difference between controlling and dominance?

00:03:27.980 I think a dominant man is someone that can like make decisions.

00:03:31.340 Like say, for example, like we're going on a date.

00:03:34.620 Okay.

00:03:35.000 I'm picking you up at eight.

00:03:36.440 I'm taking you somewhere.

00:03:37.200 Like that's kind of like dominance or like,

00:03:38.960 did you get home safe or, you know,

00:03:40.600 checking up on you and making sure you're good.

00:03:42.380 But like, instead of being like, where are you?

00:03:44.340 What are you doing?

00:03:44.940 Who are you with?

00:03:45.440 Show me who you're with.

00:03:46.580 Okay.

00:03:46.980 You can't wear that outfit.

00:03:49.000 Like that is very toxic.

00:03:50.380 So you want them to be able to make the decisions,

00:03:52.860 but not the decision of what to wear.

00:03:56.200 Okay.

00:03:57.780 Do you know what?

00:03:58.700 That is attractive though.

00:04:00.080 When a man goes, 0.85

00:04:01.080 when a man goes,

00:04:02.460 oh babe,

00:04:03.040 I want you to wear that sexy outfit.

00:04:04.540 You'll look good in that.

00:04:05.460 Okay.

00:04:05.620 That's cute.

00:04:06.340 That's cute.

00:04:06.820 That means he trusts you though.

00:04:08.300 Don't you think there's a level of trust?

00:04:09.720 Yeah.

00:04:11.000 What you're saying is manipulation,

00:04:13.000 not,

00:04:13.420 I don't think you guys are really answering the question

00:04:15.500 by what she said,

00:04:16.540 what is a toxic relationship.

00:04:18.380 You guys are just saying the guys being controlled

00:04:20.460 and manipulative.

00:04:21.660 I feel like those are two different things.

00:04:23.140 A hundred percent.

00:04:23.980 Yeah,

00:04:24.220 I agree with that.

00:04:25.420 Okay.

00:04:25.680 What do you think?

00:04:26.240 I feel like a toxic relationship is when two people

00:04:29.200 are going at each other,

00:04:30.640 but in a way where you know that what one person saying

00:04:34.040 is not good and what another person saying is not good,

00:04:35.780 but it's like in your head it's good to them,

00:04:39.420 but in their head it's not good.

00:04:40.880 So it's like you guys are fighting and banning like,

00:04:42.780 okay,

00:04:43.120 what's that?

00:04:43.880 It's like,

00:04:44.700 do you get what I'm trying to say?

00:04:45.460 Yeah,

00:04:45.480 you're clashing with each other.

00:04:46.540 You might love each other to pieces,

00:04:47.880 but if it doesn't work and you have that clash all the time,

00:04:50.940 then it's going to be consistently toxic.

00:04:52.780 That's what makes it toxic.

00:04:54.100 So extreme fighting?

00:04:55.660 Yeah.

00:04:56.020 Okay.

00:04:56.780 Knowing that it's not good,

00:04:58.360 but you're still doing it and you're still together.

00:05:00.780 Yeah.

00:05:01.000 So knowing it's not good,

00:05:03.160 but staying together.

00:05:04.160 Yeah.

00:05:04.420 What about rough patches in marriages?

00:05:06.660 I think rough patches in marriages.

00:05:10.600 I mean,

00:05:11.180 because don't you argue all the time during a rough patch in a marriage?

00:05:13.840 You wouldn't think.

00:05:14.160 I agree.

00:05:14.880 But what I would say is if you're married to someone,

00:05:17.620 it's a lifelong commitment.

00:05:19.180 And I think those are things that you should be able to work through by communication.

00:05:22.500 Like there's even like couples therapy,

00:05:25.760 even like if you need to do it,

00:05:27.440 if you're willing to like work through that,

00:05:29.520 then you can get through it.

00:05:30.680 But yeah,

00:05:32.220 everyone argues.

00:05:33.540 Yeah.

00:05:34.300 It's just,

00:05:34.960 it's very broad.

00:05:35.740 Everything you guys are saying,

00:05:36.740 I'm just trying to lock you down onto one thing.

00:05:40.700 Go ahead.

00:05:41.400 I feel like it depends on what the topic of conversation is and what you guys are arguing about.

00:05:46.140 That then depends if it's toxic or thing where I'm correcting you and what you're doing is wrong.

00:05:51.020 Yeah.

00:05:51.700 Wait,

00:05:51.960 say that again. 0.71

00:05:52.500 Sorry.

00:05:53.060 That all depends on what you guys are arguing about for you to know whether it is toxic

00:05:58.640 or thing where you're just correcting the person.

00:06:01.520 Because,

00:06:01.800 yeah.

00:06:02.960 So what would be an example of something that's toxic and something that's not?

00:06:07.860 I've got one.

00:06:08.580 I've got such a good one.

00:06:10.900 I've got such a good one.

00:06:12.160 God, it's free.

00:06:12.860 Take deep breaths.

00:06:15.580 Liking other girls' pictures on Instagram,

00:06:18.300 following bare girls,

00:06:19.580 that is toxic in itself.

00:06:21.140 I'm sorry.

00:06:21.460 Don't you think it's toxic to be constantly looking who he's following and who he's liking?

00:06:28.920 That's why I say it takes two to tango.

00:06:30.640 Yeah, but at the end of the day,

00:06:32.600 if you really like one person and you like the person you're with,

00:06:36.400 why do you need to seek elsewhere?

00:06:37.820 Why do you need to have temptation?

00:06:38.880 Yeah, but why do you got to get upset over an Instagram?

00:06:41.920 Because you're double tapping it because you clearly like what you're seeing.

00:06:46.340 If you like what you're seeing,

00:06:47.720 go with them then.

00:06:48.520 Don't waste my time.

00:06:49.620 You don't think you're looking for drama in a way?

00:06:52.060 No, I'm trying to see if I can trust him.

00:06:53.840 I'm trying to see if I can trust him.

00:06:55.760 You're doing it for trust.

00:06:56.600 I'm not just me.

00:06:57.140 But shouldn't you go into relationships in good faith?

00:07:00.880 No, no, no.

00:07:01.940 Everything she's saying is right.

00:07:03.220 The reason why I'm saying everything she's saying is right.

00:07:04.960 Because as you know,

00:07:06.000 we are Gen Z.

00:07:07.100 The way things were back then is totally different.

00:07:09.320 You guys didn't have social media.

00:07:10.500 You guys didn't have phones.

00:07:11.480 You guys are all about trust.

00:07:12.660 Fake marriage.

00:07:12.700 I mean, you guys.

00:07:13.860 I mean, the people who never had phones.

00:07:15.420 I had a phone.

00:07:16.120 So you guys didn't have phones.

00:07:20.820 So when you guys see people on the street

00:07:22.020 and you're like,

00:07:22.600 you'll go to them,

00:07:23.860 you'll chirps them, right?

00:07:25.380 But now,

00:07:26.500 chirpsing is double tapping.

00:07:28.660 Because it says a lot about a man's sexual discipline as well.

00:07:31.240 What about when girls post selfies 0.99

00:07:34.920 while in a relationship?

00:07:35.720 Yeah, it's the same thing.

00:07:37.420 Chapsing is double tapping

00:07:38.560 and liking a girl's picture.

00:07:39.640 That's showing that, yes,

00:07:40.300 you're attracted to them.

00:07:41.720 And when they say slid in your DMs.

00:07:42.800 So would you say a toxic girl 1.00

00:07:44.500 posts selfies?

00:07:45.360 And while she's in a relationship?

00:07:47.940 If her intention

00:07:48.920 Sorry.

00:07:49.700 If her intention is to get a reaction out of that

00:07:52.220 from a certain audience,

00:07:53.720 then yes.

00:07:54.380 But what if his intention

00:07:55.320 was just to like the picture?

00:07:56.740 Why would you just like a...

00:07:58.960 And if anything,

00:07:59.780 let's have an open conversation about it.

00:08:01.080 Yeah, you know what?

00:08:01.860 Yeah, because I don't like a single guy's picture.

00:08:04.420 You know what I mean?

00:08:05.240 Because why would I give them the satisfaction

00:08:07.260 of seeing me in their notifications?

00:08:10.560 No, thank you.

00:08:11.000 I mean, to be honest,

00:08:11.940 I don't really think that

00:08:13.180 liking a girl's Instagram picture

00:08:14.400 is that deep.

00:08:15.160 I think obviously

00:08:15.840 if they go ahead

00:08:16.660 and DM them

00:08:17.480 and message them

00:08:18.180 because you can appreciate

00:08:19.400 someone's beauty

00:08:20.100 but without...

00:08:20.520 But you're putting the girl.

00:08:21.940 But you can just go through your feet

00:08:23.080 and appreciate someone's beauty.

00:08:24.940 Couldn't you say the same thing

00:08:26.900 about women

00:08:27.300 that post suggestive

00:08:28.360 Instagram pictures

00:08:29.260 while in a relationship

00:08:30.160 that they're looking for attention?

00:08:32.200 Even if it's just a selfie,

00:08:33.260 you know that men are going to...

00:08:34.080 You know how men are.

00:08:34.960 You know how they're going to look.

00:08:35.400 What if they're in an open relationship?

00:08:36.860 We're not talking about open relationships.

00:08:39.360 If she's looking at who he's following...

00:08:41.100 That is two complete different topics, yeah?

00:08:43.720 A girl posting pictures of...

00:08:45.860 It's about female empowerment 1.00

00:08:47.760 at the end of the day.

00:08:48.660 Look, we've got all female empowerment. 1.00

00:08:50.180 Female empowerment.

00:08:50.960 It really just sounds like

00:08:52.940 you want to do whatever you want

00:08:54.540 but he can't do whatever he wants.

00:08:56.180 Yeah.

00:08:56.660 Oh, excuse me!

00:08:57.920 Because at the end of the day,

00:08:59.200 if you're in a relationship with a man,

00:09:00.780 there should be a level of trust there.

00:09:02.120 So you just...

00:09:02.740 You know that already.

00:09:03.580 If he's liking another Instagram post,

00:09:05.440 it's never that deep

00:09:06.360 because he's not going to speak to that girl.

00:09:07.120 It's because the trust isn't there.

00:09:08.260 It's because the trust isn't there.

00:09:09.320 But you shouldn't be in a relationship

00:09:10.280 with someone you don't trust.

00:09:11.200 The trust should be there

00:09:12.120 before you get into something serious with them.

00:09:13.080 But what do we think about that happening

00:09:14.560 during a dating,

00:09:16.120 like when you're dating,

00:09:16.920 like the dating base?

00:09:17.940 Is that still allowed then?

00:09:18.880 I mean, shouldn't you go into a relationship

00:09:21.140 in good faith?

00:09:22.240 Like assuming the best?

00:09:22.940 No, but let's say you're just dating.

00:09:24.600 You're not in a relationship

00:09:25.540 but you're about to get into the relationship

00:09:27.080 but then you...

00:09:28.820 You know what I mean?

00:09:30.480 I kind of think you're overthinking it

00:09:31.820 way too much.

00:09:33.060 Yeah, I think...

00:09:33.940 I mean, if you guys are together

00:09:35.040 and it's something serious

00:09:36.140 and then he starts to go

00:09:37.380 and follow loads of girls 0.88

00:09:38.140 and then he's moving like that,

00:09:39.280 that's a bit different.

00:09:40.320 That's different.

00:09:40.840 That's a bit different.

00:09:41.640 I'm talking in a dating phase

00:09:43.000 where you're getting to know each other

00:09:44.280 and he's still lacking

00:09:45.020 other girls' pictures.

00:09:45.540 Well, you're both single

00:09:46.260 so you have the rights

00:09:47.420 to do whatever you want, I think.

00:09:49.460 Unless it becomes something serious.

00:09:51.420 If you're single,

00:09:52.020 you're going to chat to whoever

00:09:52.960 and they're going to chat to whoever

00:09:54.240 and then if you decide

00:09:55.560 that it's something

00:09:56.100 that is worth trying for,

00:09:57.800 then you guys cut off your links

00:09:59.700 or you do whatever.

00:10:00.900 Do you know what I mean?

00:10:02.620 No, that's fair

00:10:03.520 because a relationship

00:10:04.280 is more based on trust, right?

00:10:06.640 Yeah.

00:10:07.060 And then dating is more fair.

00:10:09.120 I don't even know, man.

00:10:10.060 It's why I'm so single.

00:10:12.080 I can't lie, yeah.

00:10:12.760 Men are just... 0.92

00:10:14.160 I honestly think you're overthinking it.

00:10:15.080 Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.

00:10:17.540 Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.

00:10:18.540 Men are what?

00:10:19.920 Men are just telling you, 0.69

00:10:22.360 some of you just need a pattern up.

00:10:24.720 Yeah, a lot of you just don't.

00:10:26.240 Who do you think is more promiscuous,

00:10:27.700 men or women?

00:10:28.900 Hmm.

00:10:31.040 That's a question for me.

00:10:31.880 I feel like they're both promiscuous

00:10:33.740 in different ways, I feel like.

00:10:35.920 Females, I feel like, 1.00

00:10:37.140 you know what?

00:10:37.540 These days, some of these females, 0.99

00:10:39.340 they use Instagram like a dating app.

00:10:41.160 I don't know what is going on.

00:10:42.200 They're posting all these random pictures.

00:10:43.820 It's like, bro,

00:10:44.700 you don't have to do all of that.

00:10:45.780 Focus on yourself and your career.

00:10:47.140 Who are you trying to get attention from?

00:10:48.880 I think a lot of girls, 1.00

00:10:50.080 a lot of attention-seeking girls on Instagram. 0.63

00:10:51.900 When it comes to guys...

00:10:53.640 So pick one, pick one.

00:10:54.800 Who's more promiscuous?

00:10:56.420 Promiscuous?

00:10:56.920 Yeah.

00:10:57.540 If we're talking about, like,

00:10:59.100 visually,

00:11:00.660 it's females. 1.00

00:11:00.840 I'm talking about who sleeps around more.

00:11:03.160 Oh, oh.

00:11:04.280 Okay, I'm going to spread the question.

00:11:06.840 You say men?

00:11:07.560 Yeah, I say men.

00:11:08.560 Men, yeah, yeah.

00:11:09.560 Okay, so I'm going to give you guys a stat.

00:11:11.920 Did you know one in three men under 30

00:11:13.580 are either virgins

00:11:14.520 or haven't had sex in the past year?

00:11:16.460 Do you think one in three women under 30

00:11:18.540 are either virgins

00:11:19.420 or haven't had sex in the past year?

00:11:22.160 No.

00:11:23.380 No.

00:11:25.260 I was going to say women sleep more than men. 1.00

00:11:27.820 That's what I was going to say.

00:11:28.700 Oh, I'm sorry.

00:11:29.280 Really?

00:11:29.680 Is that true?

00:11:31.080 Women sleep more than men. 1.00

00:11:32.600 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:11:33.200 Yeah, it's crazy, though.

00:11:34.320 No, I don't.

00:11:34.640 Oh, my goodness.

00:11:35.060 That's crazy.

00:11:35.460 Do you guys,

00:11:36.060 do you guys,

00:11:36.680 do you guys like tall guys?

00:11:39.260 You're into tall guys?

00:11:40.180 You're like short kings.

00:11:41.300 I mean, as long as they're taller than me,

00:11:42.560 I'm as short as it is,

00:11:43.620 so I don't need a six-foot king.

00:11:45.680 I'm all right with a five-seven, babe.

00:11:47.400 Have you heard,

00:11:48.040 have you heard girls say 1.00

00:11:49.040 that they need a guy over six foot?

00:11:50.620 Yeah.

00:11:51.120 All the time.

00:11:52.000 Do any of you have an ex

00:11:53.320 that's over six foot?

00:11:54.340 Yes.

00:11:54.620 Yeah, yeah.

00:11:55.140 I need to be that girl.

00:11:56.280 I need to say,

00:11:56.740 if you're not over six foot,

00:11:59.520 I don't want to know you.

00:12:00.060 Sorry, go ahead.

00:12:01.320 As long as you're taller than me,

00:12:02.400 that's what matters.

00:12:03.400 Do you have an ex over six foot?

00:12:06.480 Yeah.

00:12:06.920 Yeah.

00:12:08.520 It's okay, it's okay.

00:12:10.720 What percent of guys

00:12:12.080 do you think are over six foot?

00:12:14.320 One percent.

00:12:16.640 Lucky guess, 56.

00:12:18.620 56 percent?

00:12:19.520 I'm going to say 35 percent.

00:12:21.540 35 percent.

00:12:22.240 42.

00:12:22.820 42.

00:12:23.140 I'm not drunk, guys.

00:12:29.920 I would say 30 percent.

00:12:31.580 30 percent.

00:12:32.400 So it's only 15 percent of guys.

00:12:34.420 Wow.

00:12:35.440 And now think about it.

00:12:36.240 Think about it.

00:12:37.040 How many people said

00:12:38.140 they have an ex over six foot?

00:12:39.260 You did.

00:12:39.640 You did.

00:12:40.000 You did.

00:12:40.680 All sleeping with the same guys.

00:12:43.320 Huh?

00:12:44.040 Yeah, that's what I mean.

00:12:45.240 Why not sleeping with the same guys?

00:12:46.520 Not you personally,

00:12:48.580 but women in general 0.99

00:12:49.500 are sleeping with the same guys

00:12:50.760 because 80 percent of women 0.94

00:12:51.860 want 20 percent of men. 1.00

00:12:54.140 No, that is mad.

00:12:55.580 So the reason like women 1.00

00:12:56.720 think men are trash

00:12:57.480 and they think they're

00:12:58.000 sleeping around all the time

00:12:58.980 is because we go for

00:12:59.680 such a small percentage of men

00:13:01.520 and they are sleeping around

00:13:03.020 all the time.

00:13:03.520 But the majority of men,

00:13:04.560 if you go to Tesco,

00:13:05.460 you think they're getting any play?

00:13:07.840 Okay, so you're saying

00:13:08.920 it comes to our choice in men,

00:13:11.280 right?

00:13:12.300 That makes us think

00:13:13.880 the rest are the same.

00:13:15.320 I think that's a fair statement,

00:13:16.320 actually.

00:13:16.780 Yeah, I agree with that.

00:13:18.800 That's a very interesting statement.

00:13:20.300 Because I feel like a lot of the time,

00:13:21.560 like women when they're younger, 0.99

00:13:23.220 yeah, they go for like

00:13:24.060 the bad boy

00:13:25.140 or like something.

00:13:26.180 And as you get older,

00:13:26.960 you kind of realize

00:13:28.000 that like certain traits

00:13:29.040 that you would like

00:13:29.940 find attractive,

00:13:31.160 like someone who's

00:13:32.420 emotionally unavailable,

00:13:33.780 they become unattractive

00:13:35.020 as you get older.

00:13:35.700 You're only 22, right?

00:13:38.600 I know.

00:13:39.660 I haven't even been in a relationship,

00:13:41.260 but you know what?

00:13:41.620 I've seen so many like people

00:13:42.800 get into relationships

00:13:43.600 and it's just like

00:13:44.380 And it all flops.

00:13:45.180 Toxic and it's like,

00:13:46.180 Yeah.

00:13:46.700 I'm scared.

00:13:48.580 I'm actually terrified.

00:13:49.980 So have you guys had a toxic ex?

00:13:52.160 Yep.

00:13:52.580 Yes?

00:13:54.140 It wasn't an ex,

00:13:55.160 but I guess,

00:13:55.920 yeah, sort of toxic.

00:13:56.840 Yeah, okay.

00:13:57.880 Nope.

00:13:58.240 I've had people who felt

00:13:59.560 like they were obliged

00:14:01.020 by having a say

00:14:04.000 in my life

00:14:05.440 because they like me.

00:14:07.640 But that,

00:14:08.000 I don't,

00:14:08.620 that ain't,

00:14:09.340 that's not,

00:14:09.920 that's not.

00:14:12.020 Yes or no?

00:14:12.680 I need a yes or no.

00:14:13.640 No.

00:14:14.080 No.

00:14:15.600 No, okay.

00:14:16.380 Me, I would say yeah.

00:14:17.520 Yeah.

00:14:18.240 Okay.

00:14:18.840 How long were you involved

00:14:20.220 with your toxic ex?

00:14:21.460 A year and a half.

00:14:22.340 Yeah.

00:14:22.480 Did you love him?

00:14:23.520 Yes.

00:14:24.060 Yes?

00:14:24.900 Five years.

00:14:25.700 Five years?

00:14:26.440 Oh my.

00:14:27.460 Oh my goodness.

00:14:28.620 That is mad.

00:14:29.480 Five years.

00:14:30.140 That is crazy.

00:14:31.420 Did you love him?

00:14:32.100 That's how you know,

00:14:32.540 it's toxic.

00:14:32.940 I don't know.

00:14:33.940 Five years,

00:14:34.600 you didn't love him?

00:14:35.300 I don't know.

00:14:35.980 It was,

00:14:36.460 I wasn't like in a relationship

00:14:37.780 with him,

00:14:38.260 but it was just

00:14:38.680 this very toxic situation.

00:14:41.340 Okay.

00:14:41.960 So no,

00:14:42.900 you didn't love him?

00:14:43.560 Yes or no?

00:14:45.160 I don't know.

00:14:46.060 Maybe it was love to me

00:14:46.960 at the time,

00:14:47.660 but now I see it.

00:14:48.620 I don't think it's love.

00:14:49.960 Like now when I look back on it.

00:14:52.080 Wow.

00:14:52.560 Five years.

00:14:53.200 Okay.

00:14:53.480 So I actually never been

00:14:54.300 in a relationship like properly

00:14:55.500 where I can say,

00:14:56.360 oh,

00:14:56.860 you know,

00:14:57.360 with boyfriend and girlfriend.

00:14:58.760 Yeah.

00:14:58.920 But I've been in a lot of situations

00:15:01.280 where I'm dating a guy

00:15:02.020 and I would say,

00:15:02.780 yeah,

00:15:02.920 I'm this girl

00:15:03.380 and he's been quite toxic.

00:15:04.700 So yeah.

00:15:05.780 Yes?

00:15:06.380 Yes.

00:15:06.780 And how long were you with him?

00:15:07.760 I was with him

00:15:11.200 for about,

00:15:12.420 must have been like five months,

00:15:15.060 not that long.

00:15:15.640 Five months?

00:15:16.280 Yeah.

00:15:16.540 I'm a busy woman.

00:15:17.280 I haven't really got time.

00:15:18.180 Did you love him?

00:15:20.040 No.

00:15:20.580 No?

00:15:21.440 Okay.

00:15:22.020 So question,

00:15:22.980 question.

00:15:23.200 Based on this panel,

00:15:25.000 two out of four of you

00:15:25.920 said you loved your toxic ex

00:15:27.300 and you were with him

00:15:27.960 for over a year.

00:15:28.600 Would you say by that statement,

00:15:29.720 young women love toxic men?

00:15:32.300 Yes.

00:15:32.860 Yes.

00:15:33.460 Do you know what it is?

00:15:34.100 I think when you're young,

00:15:34.980 you don't really know

00:15:36.040 your boundaries properly yet.

00:15:37.920 And a lot of people

00:15:39.260 put up with stuff

00:15:40.140 that they wouldn't

00:15:40.820 usually put up with.

00:15:41.920 Like I always say now,

00:15:43.080 like men only treat you bad

00:15:45.600 if you let them.

00:15:46.340 If you let them,

00:15:46.920 yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:15:47.260 If you let them treat you bad.

00:15:48.100 That's true.

00:15:48.280 And if you don't respect

00:15:49.500 your boundaries,

00:15:50.260 then they're going to

00:15:50.820 walk all over you

00:15:51.600 and treat you like ass. 0.96

00:15:52.440 I think that's just

00:15:53.140 bad guys though.

00:15:54.580 I think that's just bad guys.

00:15:56.180 Like I think there's something

00:15:57.280 about young women

00:15:57.960 like picking the bad boys.

00:16:00.380 Like I don't think,

00:16:00.760 a nice guy isn't going to

00:16:01.920 walk all over you

00:16:02.700 if you treat him well.

00:16:03.780 That's just the thing.

00:16:04.220 No, 100%.

00:16:05.420 I'm the youngest in here

00:16:06.680 and I will tell you,

00:16:07.660 yeah,

00:16:08.080 it's because it's exciting.

00:16:09.420 It's like almost

00:16:09.860 like an adrenaline.

00:16:11.080 Yeah, no,

00:16:11.920 I agree with that.

00:16:12.380 Especially when I've got

00:16:13.260 high energy

00:16:13.900 and we bounce off each other.

00:16:15.600 I knew it

00:16:16.120 when she was talking

00:16:16.740 about the following.

00:16:17.500 I was like,

00:16:18.200 he likes the drama.

00:16:20.020 Yeah, literally.

00:16:21.040 But I also feel like,

00:16:22.520 yeah, it's not.

00:16:23.200 Sorry,

00:16:23.480 I also feel like

00:16:24.300 it depends on your circumstances

00:16:25.940 as the young girl.

00:16:27.240 Because I,

00:16:28.240 with me,

00:16:28.660 I depended on my ex

00:16:29.940 for living,

00:16:31.340 for food,

00:16:31.840 for everything.

00:16:32.820 So I felt like

00:16:33.700 I was chained to him.

00:16:35.600 Like I was his,

00:16:36.740 had no one else,

00:16:37.800 you know?

00:16:38.140 So it was like

00:16:38.800 circumstances made me

00:16:40.040 be in that situation.

00:16:41.800 So what about

00:16:42.520 that situation was toxic?

00:16:45.340 Well,

00:16:45.780 he was basically

00:16:47.880 like cheating around,

00:16:49.060 flirting with other girls

00:16:50.000 at work.

00:16:51.480 I didn't know,

00:16:52.420 obviously,

00:16:52.900 because I was just

00:16:53.520 like at home.

00:16:54.340 I didn't have a job.

00:16:55.320 I was just like

00:16:55.920 living off him,

00:16:56.920 you know?

00:16:57.500 But I feel like

00:16:58.220 he,

00:16:58.860 he

00:16:59.480 had that power over me

00:17:01.880 because I allowed him

00:17:02.760 to,

00:17:03.080 obviously.

00:17:04.400 So,

00:17:05.000 yeah.

00:17:06.060 So,

00:17:06.300 was it more than cheating

00:17:07.420 or was he a good boyfriend

00:17:08.560 outside of that?

00:17:09.040 It was more than cheating.

00:17:10.000 I was involved

00:17:10.800 in certain things as well.

00:17:12.240 So I felt like

00:17:12.740 if he did,

00:17:13.300 if he could do,

00:17:14.220 I could do it too.

00:17:14.980 Okay,

00:17:15.240 so you were cheating,

00:17:15.960 you were both cheating

00:17:16.640 on each other.

00:17:17.520 And couldn't you

00:17:18.020 have just done a standstill

00:17:19.020 and then got along?

00:17:21.160 No,

00:17:21.680 because,

00:17:22.120 I mean,

00:17:22.640 we did have conversations

00:17:24.520 about it.

00:17:25.100 We were very open

00:17:26.320 with each other.

00:17:27.300 But then,

00:17:28.660 obviously,

00:17:28.980 the cheating was lies

00:17:30.000 because he kept it from me.

00:17:31.940 Did you keep

00:17:32.480 your cheating from him?

00:17:33.520 No,

00:17:33.760 I told him.

00:17:34.800 I told him.

00:17:35.840 How did he react?

00:17:36.540 You don't want,

00:17:36.920 you don't know,

00:17:37.360 you don't want to know

00:17:37.920 who I cheated on him with,

00:17:38.880 but he reacted.

00:17:40.340 No,

00:17:40.540 you don't.

00:17:40.860 Really?

00:17:42.660 No,

00:17:42.960 I didn't think this is not.

00:17:43.640 Is he famous?

00:17:44.680 No,

00:17:45.000 he's not.

00:17:45.480 No,

00:17:45.620 no,

00:17:45.700 no,

00:17:45.720 no.

00:17:45.780 Okay,

00:17:46.200 do I know him?

00:17:46.760 I'm scared who's he the one.

00:17:47.780 Do I know him?

00:17:48.520 No,

00:17:48.820 you don't.

00:17:51.360 Okay,

00:17:51.740 I cheated on him

00:17:52.320 with his sister.

00:17:55.400 What the hell?

00:17:56.640 Listen,

00:17:57.280 if you break me,

00:17:58.740 I will break you back.

00:17:59.920 This is your sister.

00:18:01.800 Stop,

00:18:02.520 guys.

00:18:03.320 I'm going to go viral.

00:18:05.500 No,

00:18:06.100 no,

00:18:06.300 no,

00:18:06.580 no,

00:18:06.820 no,

00:18:06.880 no,

00:18:07.080 no,

00:18:07.180 no,

00:18:07.200 no,

00:18:07.480 no,

00:18:07.520 no,

00:18:07.800 no.

00:18:08.180 I'm a changed person.

00:18:10.220 I am a changed person.

00:18:12.100 I'm a changed person.

00:18:13.040 So why,

00:18:14.580 why,

00:18:15.380 why his sister?

00:18:16.700 I'm just going to sip my drink.

00:18:18.400 Me and his sister were really good friends.

00:18:20.320 I mean,

00:18:20.560 clearly.

00:18:22.480 No,

00:18:22.980 no,

00:18:23.160 we were really good friends.

00:18:27.760 And obviously one day she said she wanted to come over and I said,

00:18:30.600 cool,

00:18:30.760 he was at work.

00:18:31.600 We got drunk.

00:18:32.460 And she started like pouncing on me. 1.00

00:18:35.120 Okay.

00:18:35.400 I'm not even trying to like,

00:18:36.500 I'm so serious.

00:18:37.160 Like she,

00:18:37.620 and I was like,

00:18:38.040 no,

00:18:38.300 like this isn't right.

00:18:39.140 And she was like,

00:18:39.480 no,

00:18:40.320 and then it happened.

00:18:41.520 And I was like,

00:18:42.020 fuck.

00:18:42.640 And then you told him?

00:18:43.720 Yeah,

00:18:43.940 I told him.

00:18:44.420 How'd he react?

00:18:45.320 He almost killed me.

00:18:47.700 Was she younger?

00:18:48.580 How old was she? 0.89

00:18:49.240 She was younger.

00:18:49.940 Yeah.

00:18:50.040 But we had a conversation about it and I can't pay out his ethnicity.

00:18:55.380 Anyway,

00:18:55.840 um,

00:18:56.200 it's,

00:18:56.620 it's almost like common from where he's from.

00:19:00.220 Pardon?

00:19:00.480 At this point,

00:19:07.200 what's the,

00:19:07.880 what's holding you back?

00:19:08.780 What country do we need to not date?

00:19:14.040 Um,

00:19:14.580 let's just say somewhere in Africa.

00:19:16.320 Somewhere in Africa. 0.52

00:19:16.820 Somewhere in Africa. 0.52

00:19:17.480 Pardon?

00:19:18.060 Yeah.

00:19:18.360 Okay.

00:19:18.600 Where,

00:19:18.900 where in Africa is that common?

00:19:20.980 That's not common where I'm from.

00:19:22.460 Where in Africa?

00:19:23.720 Okay.

00:19:24.100 So South,

00:19:24.560 South Africa.

00:19:26.180 Oh,

00:19:26.560 wow.

00:19:27.480 Guys,

00:19:27.900 please don't get onto me.

00:19:29.220 I want to see love talking to me today.

00:19:30.880 Please don't get onto me.

00:19:31.340 I'm not going to lie.

00:19:31.960 No,

00:19:32.220 but,

00:19:32.460 um,

00:19:32.740 it's not common,

00:19:33.740 but it was like a thing within his.

00:19:38.240 I'll take your word.

00:19:39.220 I've never been to South Africa.

00:19:39.600 I feel like it's just getting worse,

00:19:40.940 but,

00:19:41.180 um,

00:19:41.660 a thing within his family.

00:19:42.660 And I spoke to him.

00:19:43.860 Why did you pick that up?

00:19:46.660 Because you said it,

00:19:47.640 you know,

00:19:48.180 like I could hear.

00:19:49.240 But because I'm,

00:19:50.660 regardless of whether I did something wrong or not,

00:19:53.060 regardless of whether I hurt someone's feeling or not,

00:19:55.180 I am an honest person.

00:19:56.920 And I feel like that's very,

00:19:58.360 very important.

00:19:59.040 If you're,

00:19:59.840 if you're talking to someone,

00:20:01.520 if you're in a relationship with someone,

00:20:03.100 if you're just with people anyway,

00:20:05.280 you know?

00:20:05.720 So I,

00:20:06.280 I just,

00:20:06.780 I clarified that with him.

00:20:07.740 He got upset.

00:20:08.960 He came back and he was like,

00:20:09.880 thank you for being honest with me.

00:20:11.620 You know?

00:20:12.100 So it was like,

00:20:13.420 yeah.

00:20:13.600 But he was toxic for cheating on you and not telling you.

00:20:17.140 Yes.

00:20:17.680 I had to find out.

00:20:18.820 Would you,

00:20:19.300 would you rather have him told you?

00:20:20.980 Yes.

00:20:21.720 Do you think men lie to women they care about or that they,

00:20:24.860 or they tell the truth to women?

00:20:26.020 They lie to women they care about. 0.97

00:20:27.620 And they feel like maybe like certain characteristics that they have,

00:20:31.280 for example,

00:20:32.280 um,

00:20:33.240 some,

00:20:34.080 cause some women are really stern. 1.00

00:20:35.480 Like if you cheat on me,

00:20:36.120 that's it.

00:20:36.720 And because they care so much,

00:20:38.180 they don't want to lose you.

00:20:39.100 So that thought of having to lose you would now be in,

00:20:42.640 be in the head obviously.

00:20:44.120 And yeah,

00:20:44.700 they wouldn't,

00:20:45.380 they wouldn't tell you.

00:20:46.160 So outside of the cheating,

00:20:47.380 anything else toxic or just that?

00:20:49.360 Um,

00:20:50.920 yeah,

00:20:51.400 we smoked a lot of stuff.

00:20:53.480 I guess that was toxic.

00:21:01.040 Yeah.

00:21:01.160 Okay.

00:21:01.860 Um,

00:21:02.720 all right.

00:21:03.080 What about you?

00:21:05.160 Um,

00:21:06.000 what was the question?

00:21:10.340 Um,

00:21:10.820 what was toxic about,

00:21:12.260 you said you had a toxic situationship.

00:21:14.440 Yeah.

00:21:14.640 What was toxic about it?

00:21:15.600 Um,

00:21:15.900 it was very emotionally abusive.

00:21:18.040 So like,

00:21:19.280 even though I see myself as a strong person,

00:21:21.540 but there's only so many times you can like get knocked down.

00:21:23.480 And I dealt with it and I feel like I didn't respect my own boundaries,

00:21:27.160 which led to me being in that situation.

00:21:30.920 Um,

00:21:31.240 yeah,

00:21:31.460 it was just very unhealthy.

00:21:32.660 What is emotional abuse?

00:21:34.700 Um,

00:21:35.020 I think to constantly knock someone's confidence down,

00:21:38.480 make them feel bad about themselves.

00:21:40.500 Like what specifically?

00:21:44.120 Um,

00:21:44.640 I don't know.

00:21:46.620 Like it could really be anything that,

00:21:48.700 you know,

00:21:48.920 just I'm asking like to you,

00:21:50.220 like,

00:21:50.340 what did he say?

00:21:51.080 Like what,

00:21:51.880 how was he emotionally abusive?

00:21:53.480 Oh,

00:21:53.980 he just like,

00:21:54.820 just used to knock me down.

00:21:55.940 Like I used to be a bit slow because I had a history of like doing like,

00:22:00.520 party drugs.

00:22:01.280 And I feel like it actually affected my like mental development a bit.

00:22:06.080 Like I had a start over a long time.

00:22:07.780 Like I was a bit slow and it was one of my biggest insecurities.

00:22:12.660 And I used to get dig that a lot for that.

00:22:14.300 Like,

00:22:14.480 Oh,

00:22:14.540 you're so slow.

00:22:15.120 You're stupid.

00:22:15.740 You're this.

00:22:16.240 And that's what he would say to you.

00:22:17.360 Yeah.

00:22:17.700 And also,

00:22:18.700 um,

00:22:19.420 I lost a lot of weight because of stress and I was very insecure in my skin.

00:22:22.880 I'd be like,

00:22:23.120 you're so skinny.

00:22:23.880 Like you lost so much weight.

00:22:25.540 And it would just make me feel like a bit rubbish about myself.

00:22:28.720 And what is,

00:22:30.640 what did you say to him back?

00:22:32.260 Like,

00:22:32.440 did you push back or what?

00:22:33.840 Yeah,

00:22:34.180 I would push back.

00:22:34.980 I would tell him like,

00:22:35.600 don't talk to me like that or I don't like that or something.

00:22:37.600 Cause he did.

00:22:38.060 You still like threaten me and stuff,

00:22:39.320 but he used to threaten you.

00:22:40.600 Yeah.

00:22:41.140 He was,

00:22:41.560 he wasn't like threatened threatened to do like what?

00:22:44.620 Kill you or no, 0.69

00:22:45.860 like just to like,

00:22:46.780 you know,

00:22:47.540 bring his fists up to me and stuff.

00:22:48.720 I knew he would never do anything,

00:22:50.040 but like,

00:22:50.660 yeah,

00:22:50.960 it was just not a nice situation.

00:22:53.280 I would always stand my ground about that,

00:22:54.780 but I would continue to put up with it for so long.

00:22:57.120 So that's why,

00:22:58.720 like I was disrespected for so long,

00:23:01.300 but literally after I got out of it,

00:23:03.380 I put on weight.

00:23:04.220 Like I was,

00:23:04.720 I got glow.

00:23:05.600 Like life is good.

00:23:07.420 Oh,

00:23:08.480 we love a happy ending.

00:23:09.640 Yeah.

00:23:10.480 Yeah.

00:23:13.320 What about,

00:23:13.980 no,

00:23:14.560 you,

00:23:14.860 you said,

00:23:15.280 yeah,

00:23:15.480 I mean,

00:23:16.000 you were,

00:23:17.260 you were sort of,

00:23:17.900 maybe,

00:23:19.480 you know,

00:23:20.140 no,

00:23:20.620 I told you not to wear something.

00:23:23.680 Yeah.

00:23:24.680 Literally it.

00:23:25.680 Yeah.

00:23:26.680 Yeah.

00:23:27.180 I've done this too many times.

00:23:28.680 I relate to her as well.

00:23:32.180 Cause you know what it is now I'm hearing both the stories.

00:23:35.680 Maybe I haven't actually been in a toxic relationship,

00:23:38.680 you say,

00:23:39.040 or toxic ex,

00:23:39.840 but everyone has their own meaning of toxic at the end of the day.

00:23:43.520 Obviously I'm sure there is like a meaning by book,

00:23:46.020 but everyone has their like individual.

00:23:48.020 definition by book.

00:23:49.020 Yeah.

00:23:50.020 Yeah.

00:23:51.020 One meaning.

00:23:52.020 One meaning.

00:23:53.020 Yeah.

00:23:54.020 You know what I'm trying to say,

00:23:55.020 but yeah,

00:23:56.020 basically I think with me,

00:23:57.020 it wasn't for that long.

00:23:58.020 It wasn't for that long.

00:23:59.020 I think,

00:24:00.020 I think what's toxic is like,

00:24:01.020 he was saying he wanted to see me,

00:24:02.020 but didn't see me.

00:24:03.020 And this was about eight months.

00:24:05.020 So he would say,

00:24:06.020 he'd want to see you.

00:24:07.020 And then he wouldn't see you.

00:24:08.020 That was toxic.

00:24:10.020 You call that toxic?

00:24:12.020 Because he constantly like makes promises to you.

00:24:17.020 He makes plans with you and lets you down consistently.

00:24:19.020 And it's like,

00:24:20.020 leading you on.

00:24:21.020 You know what I mean?

00:24:22.020 You cannot take advantage of me.

00:24:23.020 I'll be like,

00:24:24.020 leave then.

00:24:25.020 Stop leading me on.

00:24:26.020 I'm not leading you on.

00:24:27.020 Have you ever promised to go on a date and not get,

00:24:29.020 not went?

00:24:30.020 Have you ever blown off a guy for a date?

00:24:31.020 Yeah.

00:24:32.020 Multiple times.

00:24:33.020 Are you guys all toxic?

00:24:34.020 Yes.

00:24:35.020 You know,

00:24:36.020 I used to be.

00:24:37.020 To an extent.

00:24:38.020 I used to do the whole like,

00:24:39.020 I used to do the whole player thing.

00:24:40.020 I will lead you on.

00:24:41.020 And then just maybe.

00:24:42.020 I'm pretty sure all girls have entertained guys.

00:24:44.020 Like plenty of times in their lifetime.

00:24:45.020 It's for their own selfish reasons.

00:24:47.020 Yeah.

00:24:48.020 Yeah, but women aren't demonized for it. 1.00

00:24:49.020 Men are.

00:24:50.020 We call it entertainment.

00:24:51.020 It is entertainment.

00:24:52.020 It is entertainment.

00:24:53.020 It is entertainment.

00:24:54.020 I think women can be just as bad. 1.00

00:24:55.020 I want to go on to the Friday night.

00:24:56.020 Entertainment.

00:24:57.020 I want to be like.

00:24:58.020 Rotation guys.

00:24:59.020 You can say like a rotation entertainment.

00:25:01.020 Ha ha ha.

00:25:02.020 But when a guy says that he's toxic.

00:25:04.020 Yeah.

00:25:05.020 Yeah.

00:25:06.020 That's absolutely correct.

00:25:07.020 He says the exact same thing.

00:25:08.020 I do think women can be just as bad as men though. 1.00

00:25:09.020 Some women are actually demons. 1.00

00:25:11.020 Like.

00:25:12.020 Yeah.

00:25:13.020 Evil.

00:25:14.020 Pure evil.

00:25:15.020 Yeah.

00:25:16.020 Tell me.

00:25:17.020 Who are you thinking of?

00:25:18.020 What story?

00:25:19.020 No, I've just like seen how like some women treat men and like, 1.00

00:25:22.020 you know,

00:25:23.020 some women can be very narcissistic. 1.00

00:25:25.020 I think social media especially has like become a breeding ground for narcissism.

00:25:30.020 And a lot of people.

00:25:31.020 But I do also think the term is thrown around very loosely.

00:25:34.020 And a lot of people are accused of being a narcissist when they're actually not.

00:25:38.020 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:25:39.020 No but what girl.

00:25:40.020 You said you could think of a narcissistic girl.

00:25:41.020 Is there a story?

00:25:42.020 Give us a tea?

00:25:43.020 Yeah.

00:25:44.020 Yeah.

00:25:45.020 Spill the tea baby. 0.98

00:25:46.020 Um.

00:25:47.020 I mean, I could use like my.

00:25:49.020 I don't know.

00:25:50.020 Like I don't know any narcissistic women. 1.00

00:25:52.020 Oh, I've heard stories and stuff.

00:25:53.020 Oh, you've heard stories.

00:25:54.020 I've heard lots of stories and it's, it's actually like heartbreaking because a lot of the

00:25:58.020 time these men really care for these women and they're trapped in this abusive relationship.

00:26:02.020 but you know what a lot of girls trap guys by getting pregnant they do but at the same time 1.00

00:26:07.540 and then they have all this baby mom and dad but it's like it's mad no but you know what it is yeah

00:26:11.860 when it comes to like trapping a man with a baby you need to be careful who you sleep with 0.98

00:26:15.780 if you're sleeping with people loosely and you you run the risk of getting that person pregnant 0.98

00:26:20.900 so you have to you have to sit like you dug your grave but that runs back to what we said earlier

00:26:24.700 remember we said earlier about if you you only go into place with dating that person you don't

00:26:28.660 that person you want to be with them and you're getting supposed to because it's trust and then

00:26:31.540 you'd only sleep with that person if you're like john mean that yeah at the same time at the same

00:26:36.020 time if you don't want a baby then you need to wrap up because yeah as much as it takes two to tango

00:26:41.220 you need to protect yourself for your own good like yeah yeah the woman can say she's on the pill she's 1.00

00:26:45.780 on this she's on that but like it's still at the same time protect yourself you know you said you've

00:26:50.660 you've heard of a girl trapping a guy tell me about that um we're just baiting people's business 0.94

00:26:56.900 obviously someone in the music industry i don't know about who it is i can't even show you the

00:27:04.100 story if you want yeah be careful babes be careful but but what i was gonna say obviously um yeah he

00:27:12.580 was obviously dating i think this like girl only fans girl and um yeah and then obviously his energy

00:27:21.460 kind of switched right and she was quite um toxic i know she's toxic because she used to i heard from 1.00

00:27:28.420 other girls that she used to block she's to go on his phone and block certain goals oh wow and um used 1.00

00:27:34.260 to go and she'd go through people's like insta stories and stuff and john who he follows that makes

00:27:40.180 sense yeah that makes sense yeah and then afterwards um obviously who knows how she got pregnant yeah and

00:27:48.580 then um but obviously again it was it was it wasn't serious he was doing it mainly for pleasure

00:27:54.740 because of her body right she's got a nice body okay cool what else can you bring to the table 1.00

00:27:59.300 you know we've got beautiful lady panelists tonight we've all got body body you know what i mean but 1.00

00:28:04.820 we've got more than that hence why we're here today that's what i'm trying to say but obviously in the

00:28:10.420 in that case of obviously trapping him it's crazy because now it's messed up his career a little

00:28:15.380 bit he obviously didn't want he did not really taking responsibility and he's kind of like hiding

00:28:19.620 away from everyone almost and obviously that can impact the man mentally as well and i think a lot

00:28:24.580 of people don't focus on a man's mental health as well and i think females are all like oh we're 1.00

00:28:30.260 emotional and we've got feelings but obviously men are taught to obviously keep that away but but also

00:28:36.180 what i would say is like once a woman like when a woman actually falls pregnant it's a very very very

00:28:41.540 difficult decision to make whether to keep it or to get rid of it um like you grow pregnant 0.96

00:28:48.820 how do you fall pregnant

00:28:55.220 yeah but it is true because you get an emotional attachment

00:29:02.900 yeah it's a it's an actual baby i mean you might tell yourself oh i don't want a baby and then you

00:29:07.860 fall pregnant and you're like oh shit like what have i done yeah what have i done like i actually 0.85

00:29:12.740 want to keep this baby now or i'm gonna that's what i feel like a lot of people do you guys don't think

00:29:16.580 about the consequences of your actions you're always relying i feel like this generation likes so much

00:29:21.140 awareness yeah are you present are you aware of like what you're doing and the consequences

00:29:27.140 of our generation i would say mostly yeah this generation i would say mostly women yeah so we

00:29:31.220 go back to what you said women i would say women use abortion as a form i would say we use it as a 0.99

00:29:35.540 form of birth control which is not good which is not good by the way i mean i know people might have

00:29:41.460 different um views but i say that's not good that's horrible yeah i think if you don't want to get

00:29:47.220 pregnant then you need to like take the precautions to not get pregnant obviously if you need to have an 0.81

00:29:51.780 abortion then like you get an abortion because there's women out there that can't have children 1.00

00:29:58.500 and then if you get a lot of abortions that can actually stop you from having kids in the future

00:30:02.020 that is very true that is very true because i took the pill so many times i now suffer from

00:30:07.300 polycystic ovarian syndrome so it's hard for me to actually get pregnant um unfortunately i haven't

00:30:13.220 seen my period for four years but recently i got my period through some prophet that prayed for me and

00:30:17.780 yeah i'm delivered guys miracle wait so from like from what did you get it from the pill like

00:30:24.020 like do you mean the morning after pill or the the morning after pill yeah i took that too many times

00:30:28.980 and i also went on the pill how many times did you take it oh i think like six seven times six seven

00:30:35.940 times within the span of how long um within oh maybe like a month six seven in a month wow yeah and

00:30:45.060 did you know that was a possible side effect no i didn't and how did you find out that you had that

00:30:50.020 this was actually what what the polycystic ovarian syndrome when i was in a relationship with my toxic

00:30:54.820 ex because i noticed that he would obviously inside of me and then i would notice that i wasn't like

00:31:01.540 getting pregnant and i was gaining so much weight really quickly and um i started growing excess excess

00:31:08.420 hair in certain places so those are all the side effects of getting um polycystic ovarian syndromes and

00:31:14.020 then i went to the doctors found out i had it and yeah what was that like for you it was scary

00:31:21.300 because i love kids i'm i am a child myself you know like i love laughs i love playing i love to just

00:31:27.140 be me everywhere so kids was a big factor for me but i knew that in due time things will work out in my

00:31:34.500 favor and i will get the kids that i want it's not impossible not to have kids but it's harder 10 times

00:31:40.420 do you wish they told you about that um before you before i took yes thousand percent yeah that's

00:31:46.100 um thousand percent because i feel like a lot of girls really don't know about the side effects 0.89

00:31:49.940 they don't discuss them the doctors don't tell you i've never really been on it because when i

00:31:54.340 heard about birth control i was like you're gonna stop me from getting pregnant yeah i'm like that 0.92

00:31:58.340 can't be good education i want that education in that aspect when it comes to contraception

00:32:03.140 methods it's not that good they teach you a little bit at school but not

00:32:06.340 completely like the full world deal but even when you go and like get it prescribed the doctor

00:32:10.580 don't really tell you nothing and you know what there's so many women that go on contraception 1.00

00:32:14.660 and then they can't they struggle to get pregnant afterwards like they're like oh your fertility 0.97

00:32:18.580 goes back to normal straight away and it doesn't and some people are trying for a baby and three

00:32:23.220 years down the line they still can't have a child because they've been everyone's body's different

00:32:26.740 as well everyone's body works differently yeah yeah yeah it's hard do you guys believe that the label

00:32:33.380 toxic is overused in relationships today yes yeah i mean look at me like what 10 minutes ago i was

00:32:40.660 like yeah when he's been liking it like come on now like really and then hearing them stories you know

00:32:46.740 there's different like i said there's different um heights of toxic levels of toxicness and again

00:32:52.100 it's what you perceive the word toxic to mean so but i do think that toxic relationships and like

00:32:59.460 just with anyone like friends yeah partners and stuff it's like really like promoted on social

00:33:04.660 media it is it is actually like the toxic relationship lifestyles like toxic love like

00:33:10.340 everyone yeah like with kushan and and what's his name blue face yeah yeah yeah that's why i don't

00:33:15.060 understand why they get so much i don't get so much attention for that and it's like so unhealthy

00:33:19.620 they're probably so both so depressed and unhappy i feel like to be toxic you have to have a very

00:33:24.500 strong head yeah like for them to be toxic they know what they're doing it's like they don't it's

00:33:30.100 not like they don't know what they're doing it's like it's like it's calculated yeah they're doing

00:33:33.780 it on purpose but what i've seen that's what it looks like yeah i mean to be honest i feel like

00:33:38.820 with toxic relationships you get that adrenaline rush from like when things are good and then when

00:33:43.940 it goes like really bad you just think about the good times which is why you stay with that person

00:33:48.340 you're making excuses you feel like you're making excuses for yourself to stay yeah and obviously

00:33:52.180 it's so up and down like once it goes down you're like oh my god i can't wait for it to like go back

00:33:56.260 up again like and everything to be good because you guys go through like really good phases and it's

00:34:00.020 like a little bit of hope almost yeah that good part or sometimes you're just used to it this is

00:34:05.220 your comfort zone now yeah the cons will eventually outweigh the pose i mean that's when you know how do

00:34:13.140 you get used to it no but some people have grown up in even like a toxic household like with

00:34:18.020 toxic families like also like how someone's been raised has a big impact on like the type of men

00:34:23.780 they go for women also like drama yeah they do they do they love it i mean why don't women watch

00:34:29.300 sports that's camaraderie we like the kardashians that's true oh my god i love the kardashians so much

00:34:43.460 watch me in a year's time i'm gonna be sitting with kim kardashian

00:34:47.780 she's gonna be me and how i'm gonna be i'm telling you now manifestation

00:34:52.020 me and how i'm gonna be opposite each other working on you know skims x i've got a cover

00:34:56.580 land dropping soon as well joining my music so mad madness i told you i'm such a east dennis fan so i

00:35:03.380 can't you know what i like you know but it's christmas specials yeah they're drama every day

00:35:09.780 every day i used to do that i used to do that i used to send us every single day

00:35:13.860 but then the the storyline is just too dark for me like it's so negative that to a point you might

00:35:19.060 be able to handle it but like it got to a point where i could not i could not anymore but that is

00:35:24.180 toxic actually question what is toxicness and where does it come from i think something that's not good

00:35:31.940 for you but you want it you go for it anyway but something that's genuinely like bad for your

00:35:36.660 your mental health and i think it's and you do it anyway it's a long duration but where does it stem

00:35:41.940 from though where does it stem from i think well toxic relationships stem from lack of boundaries

00:35:47.060 i'm talking about toxic not toxic relationship there's two different that's like toxic itself

00:35:52.020 what does it stem from toxic it's something harmful something dangerous people use that for food

00:35:59.860 it's like poison wouldn't you say because that's what it can lead to it can like damage and it's

00:36:04.660 harmful to your mental health and then it can jamie needs other things the environment have have you

00:36:09.300 guys ever been labeled a toxic ex like would your exes say that you're toxic yes yes yeah no i haven't no

00:36:17.300 no but i would say i could be toxic if i choose to be toxic yeah yeah exactly that that's the energy

00:36:29.780 i agree with that that's why i said please be toxic you have to have a strong head and people

00:36:34.420 know what they do when they be toxic it's not like no it's like a mind game 100 i agree what do you think

00:36:41.380 have you ever been labeled a toxic ex would your exes say you're toxic they would they would say i'm

00:36:46.180 toxic only because they're not as lit as me that is why i'm toxic because um because um

00:36:53.700 we're not gonna talk about the whole like and follow that thing because i was in the past that

00:36:57.060 was 10 minutes ago but yeah i don't think i would be called toxic how how do you guys think past

00:37:04.660 relationships shape future relationships you know the difference between lust and love oh my goodness

00:37:12.180 you know the difference i feel like if you're able to reflect if you're able to reflect and not

00:37:17.940 carry on the patterns that you had in your past relationship 100 you need to be self-aware in that

00:37:23.540 aspect yeah 100 like erica badoo said yes in that song bag lady she's like pack light because if you 1.00

00:37:29.620 bring all your emotional baggage yeah into your future relationships they're never going to work

00:37:33.700 no one wants to deal with your baggage is she married now or no erica badoo i think she's got 1.00

00:37:37.940 kids i don't know she's got kids she does have kids i don't know about marriage i don't know i'm

00:37:43.060 not in the loop actually i met her once fun fact really yeah wow i didn't i didn't know who she was

00:37:48.020 though no way yeah she was cool though i love her she's she's sick do you guys think that the best

00:37:53.780 predictor of uh future relationships is past relationships yeah yeah yeah i don't think so

00:38:00.020 because i feel like in life like if you go into a relationship and you learn the lesson that it's

00:38:05.780 taught you after you've broken up then no but if you don't learn the lesson then the universe is

00:38:12.340 just going to keep sending you the same person in a different body and you're going to have to

00:38:15.460 keep re-learning why do we say the universe is going to you pick them no no no no because

00:38:22.660 hold on hold on i'm adding that to my list wait wait wait wait i'm adding that to my list of things

00:38:28.740 like i want girls to stop saying the universe but you know what some people really genuinely believe that

00:38:33.940 no yeah the universe does because if not if not why is it that the same person with the same

00:38:39.860 character traits with the same habits with the same comes to you again i got you you need to learn

00:38:48.340 i can i can i can break it down for you choices yeah no i'm saying like you either like toxic

00:38:54.820 you probably like toxic people and you're probably toxic but at the same time a lot of

00:38:58.500 the time you're the common denominator actually i understand that wait wait so girls will take 0.98

00:39:04.660 accountability off of them and say it's the it's and i'm not trying to pick on you but it's like

00:39:08.500 they'll say the universe and then it's like it might not be the universe it's probably you

00:39:12.820 but at the same time though a lot of toxic relationships don't start off toxic they start off like normal

00:39:17.620 relationships and then they change they change after the honeymoon phase that's true what i would say is yeah

00:39:22.820 poor choices but it's because you haven't learned your lesson the first time yeah exactly and there's

00:39:26.180 only so many relationships you're going to go through before you need to look inwards and be

00:39:29.220 like okay maybe i'm the problem yeah and i but self-reflection is hard you know yeah

00:39:36.900 it might not start toxic but then you probably do something that's toxic

00:39:42.020 yeah no one's perfect so actually relating to what you said it makes sense because when you said

00:39:47.060 environment and um how it relates i feel like it makes sense and when you said it's

00:39:52.500 you environment and you so it all depends on where you come from your upbringing and what

00:39:58.500 makes you who you are so i feel like when you're in relation a past relationship can make your future

00:40:02.500 relationship better but how that makes it better is by you knowing yourself uh-huh you have to do

00:40:07.380 self-reflection and you said self-reflection if you don't reflect on yourself or if you don't know

00:40:12.260 yourself or if you don't do better or if you continue to do the same thing it's like

00:40:16.340 whether you see and whether you like what you do that is what you're gonna attract do any of you guys go to the

00:40:21.140 gym you guys so if you if you're practicing squats you get better at squatting right so wouldn't you

00:40:28.900 say the only way to get better at being in a healthy relationship is to be in a healthy relationship

00:40:33.300 how would you know i would think so but also i think to be in a healthy relationship you need to

00:40:37.460 know what your boundaries are and you need to like respect them like going back to boundaries again like

00:40:41.300 if you have set boundaries and you respect your own boundaries and you have a level of self-respect

00:40:45.700 for yourself then it sets the tone for other people to come into your life and respect those

00:40:50.100 boundaries what kind of boundaries are helpful in a relationship i think a level of trust being able

00:40:55.860 to give people space if they need it okay trust you know not being like controlling or anything

00:41:01.940 not being controlling okay yeah i mean everyone's boundaries are kind of different it kind of depends

00:41:06.340 on the person and i think it also depends on that you gotta be independent as a woman and be okay with

00:41:12.100 being on your own i need to learn to love yourself if he leaves if he leaves it's like okay it's cool

00:41:18.340 he can leave you know i mean i've got a lot of girls rely a lot of guys a little girls depend that's

00:41:23.380 when do you know anyone that's been married for 30 plus years yeah 20 plus years not 20 20 20 plus

00:41:30.020 years do you feel like that's the woman's mentality is i need a lot of boundaries and i need to not need 1.00

00:41:34.900 him i don't think it's about not needing the person but i think there's a fine line between like

00:41:41.220 they could be so having your own life and then like codependency i mean like some some like girls 0.90

00:41:46.660 they make their relationship their whole life and then they break up with their partner and they're

00:41:51.220 lost they don't have no friends anymore because they drop out all their friends like they they don't

00:41:54.980 know themselves they lose their whole personality because they've made their whole life their

00:41:59.140 relationship and you need to remember to have a life i'm a couple years older than you and usually

00:42:05.620 those girls actually end up getting into a relationship and starting a family young 1.00

00:42:10.260 so it's just like instead of like you guys might have different skills like you're good at singing

00:42:13.940 you're good at that those girls just have relationship skills so they just usually they 1.00

00:42:18.100 just usually get into another relationship i mean they're heartbroken for a bit but then they they find

00:42:22.820 another guy because she proved she could be a good girlfriend to that one so that she goes into 1.00

00:42:26.580 another yeah some people are just relationship people i think they're just made to like be in a

00:42:30.900 relationship some people have the goals of like having a family young or they're just naive in

00:42:35.140 this day they just get taken advantage off yeah there's a very very like fine line there's a very

00:42:41.380 very fine line between that i think because yeah there's a lot of just make a man their whole life

00:42:46.740 because it gives them validation because they don't love themselves yeah and when you don't love

00:42:51.540 yourself like i know it's cliche but like how can you expect someone to love you properly if you don't

00:42:54.980 love and respect yourself how would you expect them to love you yeah you need to set the tone for them

00:43:00.580 you know if you show them that you don't respect yourself and you don't love yourself then how

00:43:04.900 are they going to do how are they going to love you and respect you so how do you show them that

00:43:09.300 i just i always hear these terms with girls and i just it's always so broad don't give them too many

00:43:13.620 chances i think you know i mean you know like if someone yeah don't give them too many chances okay

00:43:19.300 do you think the 30-year marriage 20-year marriage the the longest marriage you know you think the woman's 1.00

00:43:25.940 mentality was don't give him too many chances no no i'm just i'm talking about successful

00:43:31.620 outcomes so if we look at people with with good outcomes because we'd all agree long marriage is

00:43:36.580 better than no breaking up right yeah yeah okay but i'm talking i'm talking about like the dating

00:43:42.340 like when you're dating before you get into it because like i said i haven't actually been in a

00:43:45.540 proper relationship so i can only go with experience from dating something to say i know these girls think 1.00

00:43:49.780 some of you have been in relationships or no no but like i i haven't so yeah but i feel like you

00:43:55.940 have to make sure what was the question again do you think that do you think that the mentality of

00:44:02.100 cut a guy off quick it was good for a long-term relationship don't give him too many no if he's

00:44:07.220 cheating then yeah you've got it because he will most likely do it again why do we why do we always go to

00:44:12.820 like the worst case scenario i think i think um because of females in the beginning i think if 0.98

00:44:18.900 someone like if you express that you don't like how someone's treating you and then they continue

00:44:24.100 to treat you like that and then you still take them back that's unhealthy that's not you not

00:44:28.580 respecting your boundaries because you don't like the way you're being treated but you're going to

00:44:31.460 stay there because you like him or you think that he likes you because he does nasty things to you and

00:44:37.300 then he might buy some flowers afterwards and be like oh i'm so sorry but then he does it again

00:44:41.220 like that's unhealthy do you know what i mean like space of experience that's not good but like if

00:44:47.300 you're in a long-term marriage or you're in a relationship and you have a few issues that you

00:44:51.060 don't you don't like agree on certain things those things can easily be resolved with good communication

00:44:57.620 yeah i mean i agree with you that you should cut people off that aren't married if you if you want

00:45:01.780 to be married that aren't marriage-minded quick but i think sometimes like as women we always jump to

00:45:07.220 like the worst case scenario it's either cheating or be i don't i only know this i've done this show

00:45:11.220 so many times yeah we have fantasies it's always cheating i'm starting to get better before i used

00:45:17.220 to always think of the worst case scenario but now i'm like i'm calming down a little bit didn't you

00:45:22.180 just say cheating no but no i'm taking notes as an example as an example as an example i think sometimes

00:45:27.380 you just got to go with the flow like yeah literally you do you can't think too much into it

00:45:32.100 obviously if you're not being treated right then obviously he's got to go but yeah 100 it's as

00:45:36.820 simple as that okay um can a person change and no longer be considered a toxic ex yes 100 i think

00:45:44.980 they can change when they look in words okay what do you think um no what you don't think people can

00:45:52.500 change no depending on how long you're trying to get them to change depending on how long you have

00:46:01.300 no but you know what it is a man or a woman anyone will only change when they're ready to change yeah 0.99

00:46:05.460 you can't ever force them force them to change because they're never they're never going to

00:46:08.980 change for you like if you stay with a man hoping that he will change he's not going to change for you

00:46:13.380 influence when he's ready it's got to be genuine as well it's got to be a genuine change yeah like it's

00:46:17.780 got a last yeah and don't forget like sometimes you know guys i'm sure go through stuff as well

00:46:22.980 like certain triggers might trigger them to like certain toxic toxic attributes to like you know

00:46:29.140 come back that aren't healthy so that needs to be taken into account as well when he makes that change

00:46:34.500 that has he completely like uh looked within himself that we keep saying and like what about her so

00:46:41.060 it's just interesting whenever i say toxic acts we always say man what about her 1.00

00:46:44.100 yeah but like a toxic girl you know because you said you knew a lot of toxic girls or you've seen 1.00

00:46:55.460 that situation toxic relationships and i've seen like toxic relationships where the woman is like 1.00

00:47:00.020 the aggressor or like the the toxic person and did she change um i don't know her well enough to know

00:47:05.860 that so i can't really speak on it but um yeah people some people change but you know what it is again

00:47:11.460 like self-reflection it is really hard to do when you have to look inwards and look at yourself and

00:47:15.700 your own flaws a lot of people would rather ignore that because ignorance is bliss someone in the

00:47:21.140 chat said people only change when the reality of their life convinces them to make a change

00:47:26.420 yeah that's true big big situations happen or something that would just it's so yeah yeah i mean

00:47:32.900 i feel like a lot of people have to hit rock bottom for them to realize okay i need to change this i need to

00:47:37.860 like that's true yeah one time i was dating a guy that my dad didn't like and um i said i said dad

00:47:46.740 do people change that was a couple years ago and he looks at me and he says yes they get worse over

00:47:53.380 time so any truth that you see any truth that you see now it's gonna be worse in 10 years so choose

00:48:00.500 carefully because it's not gonna get better no it's true though because it would just get under

00:48:06.340 your skin more word as the time goes on if you don't like something you're not vocal about it from

00:48:10.580 the beginning like it's gonna how do you expect it's gonna dwell on your mind yeah i feel like

00:48:15.620 that's how you get the ick i feel like you can't fix a person a person can only fix themselves and for

00:48:20.100 them to fix themselves they have to make countless mistakes in order for them to realize yo whoa what am i

00:48:24.660 doing that's it 100 i agree with that and that includes sorry sorry that includes going back to

00:48:30.420 the triggers you were talking about because without those triggers how would you know that you're

00:48:34.740 ready for change or you're ready to change you know okay i think a lot of people can like um

00:48:41.380 base their like toxicity off like a bad upbringing and stuff but you know what you get to a certain

00:48:46.500 age where you need to be held accountable for like your behaviors and stuff not necessarily

00:48:50.660 you can't blame it you can't blame it on your your childhood and stuff because at the end of the

00:48:54.820 day like you can see someone who's got like grown up with like alcoholic parents i actually saw a

00:49:00.580 post and it was like twins and they grew up in a household with like two alcoholic parents and one

00:49:06.260 of them became a complete alcoholic just like his parents and the other one fixed his whole life

00:49:10.340 had a successful business and stuff you know like if you've been given cards but it's just like

00:49:15.300 it depends what you want to do like you can either learn from that and be like okay i don't want to

00:49:18.180 be like that i'm going to make a change so i'm not that kind of person or you can just be like

00:49:22.740 oh i'm like that because my parents were like that i'm like this because i grew up in a bad

00:49:26.340 environment i think that's because of mindset as well don't you think that's because of mindset

00:49:31.620 why did you say now the reason why i said not necessarily was because like she just said

00:49:35.860 the first twin decided to be more of an alcoholic and the second twin decided to make a change of his

00:49:42.100 life and they are two different people what's through one person it's doing the same household

00:49:46.980 but as you just said mindset what depends on who you're around with yes it is a decision but at

00:49:52.820 the same time you can't do it by yourself you need people to help you 100 don't you get to choose the

00:49:58.980 people in your life yeah you do but at the same time over the age of 18 you guys have all come across

00:50:03.940 really bad i'm pretty sure you guys are walking across really bad people but you didn't end up being

00:50:07.700 like them you chose with them yeah but you're not them but at the same time you like realize like okay

00:50:13.220 i don't want to be like this so you're not going to associate yourself with people that again it's

00:50:17.140 like what you said having um boundaries yeah what you accept into your life and yeah 100

00:50:22.900 do you know what i mean the same way we don't have the same bodies the same way we don't have the same

00:50:26.100 mindset no 100 a mindset is something that you learn like over time yeah and everyone's way of learning

00:50:31.220 is different like the same way school isn't for everyone it's the same way the way you take education

00:50:34.900 differently yeah yeah so you can't be a person when they don't change their lives but at the same

00:50:39.780 time like you can't sit there and blame everything else for the way your life's turned out because

00:50:46.820 everyone has a sob story like everyone goes through yeah but it's like it's about how you it's about how

00:50:52.340 you deal with it you know if you don't want to be in that situation then you work towards getting

00:50:56.180 yourself out of that situation you know if you sit there and you sulk and you're like oh i'm in this

00:50:59.860 situation and you don't make no change like how do you expect to grow how do you expect you are

00:51:05.620 yeah exactly you have to become the change and take actions towards that change like thinking and

00:51:11.140 all of that is nothing without action you gotta continue consistently execute it that's really

JustPearlyThings - July 13, 2023

Modern Women Don't Take Responsibility For Their ACTIONS

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