JustPearlyThings - May 18, 2023


Modern Women FAIL To Grasp This Concept


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7 minutes

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204.04362

Word count

1,534

Sentence count

116

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Misogyny

7

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Hate speech

7

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In this episode, we talk about the effects of single motherhood and how it has impacted our generation and the impact on our children. We also talk about why single mother homes are the root cause of so many of our problems.

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00:00:00.000 If you have a kid that's in a single mother home, she's more likely to go to jail, she's more likely to drop out of school, 1.00
00:00:04.360 they're more likely to be sexually abused by the stepdad, they're more likely to have mental health issues,
00:00:10.560 every statistical disadvantage you could put your kid out, you're putting them out, what, because you're not happy?
00:00:16.380 Yeah, you're in control of your happiness.
00:00:18.420 That's when we get into the maturing thing.
00:00:20.700 Happiness is good.
00:00:21.800 It's that happiness kind of has to take a back seat.
00:00:24.600 Yeah, yeah, because not everything's going to be happy all the time.
00:00:27.420 I hear it, but at the same time.
00:00:28.900 Abuse, I think male or female, if you're in an abusive relationship, whether it's verbal,
00:00:36.500 Abuse is because of being unhappy.
00:00:38.940 No, but that plays in unhappiness.
00:00:40.540 That plays in unhappiness.
00:00:41.580 Wait, wait, wait, but this is propaganda, though.
00:00:44.460 They put this in the media, like, we're so afraid of these men that are just abusing women all the time.
00:00:49.660 It's like 5%, if that, of men that commit the majority of the crimes.
00:00:53.940 And what percent of them are incarcerated?
00:00:56.200 Yet women pick man that's incarcerated. 1.00
00:00:59.660 Women pick these dangerous men. 1.00
00:01:01.780 They're like a bad boy.
00:01:02.740 Yeah, and then whine when it happens. 0.98
00:01:03.720 They're like a bad boy.
00:01:03.780 Bad boy, the thrill.
00:01:04.120 The thrill, the thrill.
00:01:04.920 So it's like, am I going to feel bad for you that you picked it back?
00:01:08.400 That's who you picked.
00:01:09.100 You made a kid with him.
00:01:09.940 Work it out.
00:01:10.860 Decisions have consequences.
00:01:12.120 And you need to realize that decisions that you make.
00:01:15.000 Because a lot of times, a lot of people need to realize that the decisions that you make don't only just affect you.
00:01:19.720 They affect everyone around you.
00:01:21.200 And I see it, like, today when we had four girls come on the show for, like, the cat lady or wife show.
00:01:28.940 And I think, did all four come from single mother homes?
00:01:32.540 I think all four, either three out of four or four did.
00:01:35.260 And you can see it in the way they view relationships.
00:01:37.400 Like, they all say partnership.
00:01:39.660 Like, they don't even understand that husband and wife is a role.
00:01:42.840 It's like they don't know basic things.
00:01:44.760 And then it's like you get these kids that have never seen a functioning relationship.
00:01:48.740 Then our generation can't have relationships.
00:01:50.500 There's so many problems that come with that.
00:01:52.440 Like, homelessness, drug addiction.
00:01:54.740 There's so many issues that come as a result of single mother homes. 1.00
00:01:59.640 And a lot of times, it leads to the birth rate declining.
00:02:03.240 Because now, I think we're at, like, 1.4 kids per woman.
00:02:07.600 They're predicting that 50% of women are going to be single and childless.
00:02:10.700 Yeah.
00:02:11.100 Like, so now 50 more women that hit 30 are not going to have kids than have them in the next couple of years. 1.00
00:02:16.980 Yeah.
00:02:17.360 It's like that thing where, you know, when people say, like, someone who bullies is someone who's just being bullied in another situation by someone else.
00:02:25.780 Right?
00:02:26.380 You can liken that to the situation because it's like if one person sees a bad relationship and they don't know how to do a bad relationship,
00:02:33.240 bad relationship, all they will know is what they've seen and what they know to be true from the immediate surroundings.
00:02:41.140 Now, if the immediate surroundings are negative and every example of a relationship is all negative,
00:02:46.800 the only idea of a relationship that they have in their head is most likely going to refer back to negative.
00:02:52.100 Yes, they will have the positive ones from movies and stuff, but they only know negative.
00:02:55.460 Also, it's also about, like, the way that behavior, the way that humans behave is based off of what they know.
00:03:01.040 We can only behave off of what we know.
00:03:02.840 Like, if you go back to when we were, is it, like, hunter-gatherer times?
00:03:06.360 Like, our brain maps stuff out.
00:03:09.660 So if you've only seen bad stuff, like you say, you might see good stuff in the movies,
00:03:13.500 but you're not the one actually going through the experience.
00:03:16.080 You're going to repeat that pattern of unhealthy relationships because it's all that your brain has actually experienced.
00:03:22.460 And it doesn't even have to be, but sometimes you can do the complete opposite because you've been,
00:03:27.080 you were raised in that household and you saw, and you're like, this is how I don't want my marriage to be.
00:03:32.620 Yeah, of course, of course.
00:03:33.540 You can, but statistically they don't.
00:03:36.840 Yeah, it's hard.
00:03:37.700 Like, why do you think, we don't even have to look at stats to know this.
00:03:41.200 Why do we say that girls have daddy issues? 1.00
00:03:44.100 There are ramifications for not having functioning, happy relationships.
00:03:47.760 And I also think it turns men into simps where they don't know how to deal with women because, like, 0.96
00:03:53.720 they've never seen a masculine man lead in a relationship.
00:03:56.220 But then you have all the women complaining that there's no masculine men. 0.90
00:03:59.080 It's like trying to explain the color red to someone who's colorblind.
00:04:01.120 If you've never seen the color red, how do you explain it?
00:04:03.240 Like, have you seen, have you guys heard of the inmates and the prisoners and the guards' psychological, like, experiment that happened, that they did?
00:04:13.560 Oh, the Stanford prison experiment.
00:04:15.500 So I met the guy, Zimmerman, Zimmerman, Zimmerman.
00:04:18.360 Yeah, something like that.
00:04:19.320 Right.
00:04:19.600 So this experiment, essentially, like, they had a room full of people.
00:04:23.780 They split them in half, students.
00:04:25.620 Half of them were inmates and the other half were guards.
00:04:29.140 And they realized after a certain amount of time, the guards started acting like actual guards.
00:04:33.640 And the prisoners started acting like actual prisoners.
00:04:35.740 And they started to have, like, an actual power disparity.
00:04:37.700 And they had to shut it down.
00:04:38.540 And they had to shut it down early because the guards were, like, really taking it in as, like, this is their life.
00:04:45.100 And these people are actually villainous people.
00:04:48.640 The reason I bring this up is to show, like, this is a real-life psychological example of what it looks like to be surrounded by images of things that you don't really understand.
00:04:57.960 It's an example of, like, being surrounded by a negative image of what you think should happen, only going off your idea of what it should happen and seeing how the human mind goes with that.
00:05:11.940 Because they were quick to take on the roles of prisoner and jailer.
00:05:16.040 Wasn't it, like, three days?
00:05:17.100 It was, like, three to five days or something.
00:05:19.240 And they flipped.
00:05:20.160 They were going to kill these people.
00:05:21.880 Like, people were, like, locked up in solitary confinement.
00:05:24.420 So it goes to show.
00:05:25.740 The reason I bring it up is to show that, like, the psychology of human beings is so, like...
00:05:32.740 Fragile.
00:05:33.540 Yeah, I was going to say frigid or, like, fragile.
00:05:35.500 That, like, things around you that you see every day that you don't even realize that you see or hear or you experience shape you, right?
00:05:43.180 So to continuously show kids, right?
00:05:45.760 Because I'm, like, I've seen it myself.
00:05:47.720 There's so much single-parent stuff shown.
00:05:51.120 There was a period of time where single-parent stuff was shown a lot, right?
00:05:55.160 And it just becomes something that's, like, very natural and very all right.
00:05:59.460 Which shows that, like...
00:06:00.860 Even in fairy tales, like Cinderella, they never...
00:06:03.860 They never.
00:06:04.440 They never.
00:06:06.340 Like, they always remarry someone and the stepmoms always, like, disgusting, but you never really talk about the mom because you was past or something.
00:06:13.560 Yeah.
00:06:13.760 And it's always, like, one of those ones where single-parent's, like, lifestyle had been pushed, not, like, directly, but, like, indirectly in different ways of, like, if you notice it, then you notice it type of thing.
00:06:25.020 I just think that modern women are selfish when it comes to their kids. 1.00
00:06:28.000 They care about themselves more than their kids.
00:06:29.880 Yeah.
00:06:30.100 And I think it's really sad, and I think it actually ruins society because when you put yourself before your kids, you mean you put your generation before the next generation.
00:06:40.040 But are there enough...
00:06:41.560 Okay, let me backtrack a bit.
00:06:43.700 So to the point of, like, people that are not having kids, right?
00:06:48.440 Do you reckon there's enough women that have passed that point of being able to get pregnant that are actually speaking to younger women and saying, all right, let's...
00:06:58.860 No.
00:06:59.060 Because that involves swallowing their pride and they don't want to do that.
00:07:01.500 But there's enough guys saying, hey, get your act together.
00:07:04.160 But guys...
00:07:04.540 You know, you need money.
00:07:05.420 You need to do this.
00:07:06.340 You need networks.
00:07:06.920 You need to be able to defend yourself.
00:07:09.700 You know, there's enough...
00:07:10.500 I feel like there's enough guys doing that.
00:07:12.900 I just want to know from the women, are there women out there? 1.00
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