JustPearlyThings - November 04, 2023


Modern Women FAILED Men by Becoming Shitty Wives


Episode Stats

Length

24 minutes

Words per Minute

192.2869

Word Count

4,740

Sentence Count

115

Misogynist Sentences

30

Hate Speech Sentences

16


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 20, 30% of beauty?
00:00:02.000 No.
00:00:03.240 But why should they not if we're expecting them
00:00:05.400 to be in the higher range?
00:00:06.400 I think they do want that.
00:00:08.380 They might want it, but they're not going to hold out for it.
00:00:10.720 Because most guys are quite thirsty,
00:00:12.180 do you know what I mean?
00:00:12.880 We were talking about this the other night.
00:00:15.220 Most guys are quite thirsty.
00:00:16.240 I love how you said that as well.
00:00:17.780 They're going to take what they could get, you know?
00:00:20.080 Oh.
00:00:20.760 Oh.
00:00:22.080 I mean, that's a good point.
00:00:23.160 That's a good point.
00:00:24.020 Have you heard the husband's store analogy?
00:00:26.500 No.
00:00:27.360 There's like, I hope I say this right.
00:00:29.060 There's like a husband store analogy in the manosphere, okay?
00:00:32.500 And basically, every store or every floor
00:00:37.160 is a different set of husbands, okay?
00:00:39.340 And you go up a floor.
00:00:41.440 And the only rule is you can't go back down.
00:00:43.300 So there's five floors total.
00:00:44.740 And you can go up, but you can't go down.
00:00:46.420 So the first floor is guys that love kids and are loyal to you.
00:00:53.020 Oh, sweet.
00:00:54.020 And so the women go to the first floor.
00:00:56.720 So they go to the first floor and they say, you know what?
00:00:59.060 I want more.
00:01:00.060 I want to go up.
00:01:01.500 Okay.
00:01:02.500 So they go to the second floor.
00:01:03.500 And they find the shitty one.
00:01:05.500 No, no, no.
00:01:06.500 It gets better.
00:01:07.500 It gets better.
00:01:08.500 So these guys love kids.
00:01:09.500 They're loyal.
00:01:10.500 And they're hot.
00:01:11.500 They're sexy.
00:01:12.500 Yeah.
00:01:13.500 So, but they're like, well, what's on the next floor?
00:01:17.440 Okay.
00:01:18.440 Then they go.
00:01:19.880 They're just curious.
00:01:20.880 Yeah.
00:01:21.880 Yeah.
00:01:22.880 So they go, what's next?
00:01:23.880 Curiosity comes out.
00:01:24.880 And they say, okay, the next floor, these guys are hot.
00:01:27.880 They make 70,000 a year.
00:01:29.880 They love kids and they're loyal.
00:01:31.880 But she's on the third floor and she's like, well, what's, what's on the next floor?
00:01:36.880 And so then, then she goes next, they make six figures.
00:01:43.880 Love kids, loyal, everything, but she wants to go to the fifth floor.
00:01:48.880 And on the fifth floor, unfaithful, all the husbands are sold out and there's dogs because
00:01:56.880 die alone.
00:01:57.880 I mean, so, so, so then to make it fair, they did a wife score or a wife store, right?
00:02:04.920 So on the first floor, there was women, good sex, loyal, sixes.
00:02:12.720 And they never found out what was on the second floor.
00:02:14.880 But I think modern day woman, no offense, and I know I'm a woman, but are super like
00:02:29.520 materialistic.
00:02:30.520 I don't agree with that.
00:02:33.520 I love most of my friends, but I know if they were given the opportunity to go with someone
00:02:38.580 who aren't like over a million, they'll take it and they'll cheat on the person that they
00:02:43.520 love and they feel committed to.
00:02:45.520 And they won't.
00:02:46.520 And that's such an issue.
00:02:47.520 And they won't.
00:02:48.520 Well, they cheat for money.
00:02:49.520 I mean, they would, yeah.
00:02:50.520 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:02:51.520 And I think that's.
00:02:52.520 For a Gucci bag, a lot of people would.
00:02:53.520 But people, people now have.
00:02:54.520 You're bringing the Gucci bag there.
00:02:56.520 But it's been normalized.
00:02:57.520 That's true.
00:02:58.520 It's seen as normal now to cheat and it's seen as normal to like, be like, oh yeah, but
00:03:03.520 he's better.
00:03:04.520 And they won't.
00:03:05.520 Why not just fight through your issues at the time?
00:03:06.520 She found it better because he have money.
00:03:08.520 Exactly.
00:03:09.520 But why is that important?
00:03:10.520 I don't know.
00:03:11.520 Why is that important?
00:03:12.520 Exactly.
00:03:13.520 And that's why guys shouldn't get married because that's the dynamic.
00:03:18.520 That's the dynamic.
00:03:19.520 But you're, as a guy, you're entering into a contract with somebody when that is the dynamic
00:03:24.520 that's going on in society.
00:03:25.520 They're going to steal 50%.
00:03:26.520 And that's very problematic.
00:03:27.520 It is.
00:03:28.520 Because you're basically marrying into.
00:03:29.520 It's like, it's like buying a house that it's got loads of faults with the house and you're
00:03:32.520 going to have loads of money to pay further down the line.
00:03:34.520 It's like you're buying it.
00:03:35.520 You're getting into a contract with somebody who is being influenced by the society that's
00:03:38.520 basically saying to you, there's always going to be better.
00:03:41.520 There's always your, and not only is that always going to be better, but you deserve better.
00:03:45.520 You know, you go, girl.
00:03:46.520 You go on to the next dude.
00:03:47.520 You just want more and more.
00:03:48.520 It's nearly like a mobile phone contract.
00:03:51.520 Exactly.
00:03:52.520 You're being told you can upgrade at any time.
00:03:54.520 That's true.
00:03:55.520 Why is that worth it?
00:03:56.520 My grandma had 13 kids for a fireman and she submitted to him.
00:04:00.520 And that's, that's the thing like modern women.
00:04:02.520 That's a good job.
00:04:03.520 But that's so cute.
00:04:04.520 No, but that's beautiful.
00:04:05.520 That is what it should be.
00:04:06.520 It was an average salary back then.
00:04:08.520 And so I'm, I'm just saying like, you know, I think it's this generation, this generation
00:04:13.520 is just getting worse.
00:04:15.520 But, but money shouldn't be the end all and be all of it.
00:04:18.520 And it is what it is now.
00:04:21.520 If you feel that emotionally attached to someone, like for someone like me that doesn't want to
00:04:26.520 particularly get married.
00:04:27.520 If you feel that emotionally attached that you're willing to get married, you should
00:04:31.520 not just up and leave because someone else has more money or someone else maybe is, is
00:04:36.520 more attractive.
00:04:37.520 Like it should be all taken as I've committed to this person for a reason.
00:04:41.520 There was something there, unless there's something a lot deeper going on, like abuse
00:04:45.520 or, or something that is a lot deeper and it's a lot more complex.
00:04:48.520 If it's something as simple as that person earns more, I'm going to go with them.
00:04:52.520 That's really sad.
00:04:53.520 That's really sad.
00:04:54.520 So do you think that the woman, so would you say you think that the woman should stick
00:04:59.520 it out basically, even if there is like a period of suffering?
00:05:02.520 Not necessarily stick out, but don't, try and work through it.
00:05:06.520 Say this man that she's with is like literally not hardly making any money.
00:05:11.520 They are really struggling.
00:05:13.520 Like times are really tough for her.
00:05:15.520 And do you think that she should just stay and stick it out?
00:05:19.520 Or do you think she should want better for herself?
00:05:21.520 Can I, can I, can I, can I just read something really quick?
00:05:24.520 Go for it.
00:05:25.520 All right.
00:05:26.520 Um, I take you for my lawfully wedded husband to happen to hold for better or for worse,
00:05:39.520 for richer or for poorer and sickness and health till death do us part if you
00:05:44.200 believe in leaving the second there's a rough patch then why get married there's no point just be in a relationship because you're not a wife
00:06:04.600 i mean you're getting married and then you think oh i'm gonna divorce one day i don't think anyone wants to get divorced when they get married they think it's forever but i think things happen and you have to be realistic that i'm not saying that maybe you marry someone and in the beginning it's all good and then suddenly when you get married he might lose his money and then leave him no i don't agree with that but i feel like yeah i feel like you should still stay with that person but if there's no progress there's no
00:06:34.120 sign of him you know working hard or trying or trying to get back to that level that he was at before
00:06:40.380 things are getting worse you know it's time to call it
00:06:42.800 this is what this is one more time one more time
00:06:45.200 for better or for worse for richer for poorer yeah in sickness and in health until death do us anyways
00:06:54.880 that's it this is what rollo tomasi the the author of the rational male who talks a lot about this kind of
00:07:00.940 these kind of intergender dynamics he talks about the burden of performance on men and that's exactly
00:07:05.000 what you're talking about then there's always this there's this burden of performance on men it's like
00:07:08.680 okay well he could have a rough patch but if he doesn't shape up after two years you know she's going
00:07:12.680 to be like thinking well hang on what's going on which is i understand why you would say that but that
00:07:17.940 is contrary to what pearl read out because the agreement is for better or worse for sick sicker and poorer
00:07:22.140 because it could be he's got some underlying issue like he's got maybe some underlying like like depression
00:07:26.740 or something like that that he's trying to deal with some trauma and he's not working he's not
00:07:30.580 pushing himself to the degree because of that but you know the the woman who disregards that could
00:07:35.940 just say well sod it you know i'm going to go for steve over here because he's making six figures so i
00:07:40.100 have a question so the same way you believe that um if he's not making more money or working or
00:07:46.160 whatever you should leave should he leave her if she gets fat wow i mean same energy same energy
00:07:55.360 same energy if that's a standard he went for yeah yeah why not it depends if you're if you're gonna
00:08:00.720 flip it i'm looking at it i'm just asking yes um i think he's he's allowed to to bring it up yeah
00:08:08.320 for sure no no out out oh well give her some chance you know to get in the gym she got like
00:08:15.520 three months six months no well no because she's not gonna leave him like if the woman is like in
00:08:21.760 that situation she's not we're not saying the woman's just gonna go right oh you're not working
00:08:25.360 for three months off i go like it's not gonna happen like that she's obviously gonna stick it out
00:08:30.160 she's gonna try and help especially if you've got kids it's different like she may not be able to go
00:08:34.480 back to work they may have to find alternative ways of surviving i don't know it's very difficult
00:08:39.840 but she's not going to leave straight away it's it's you know over a few years three four years
00:08:45.440 maybe i don't know um and in the same yeah same energy for for the man as well if the woman's
00:08:51.360 completely let herself go and you know she's not taking care of herself forget the man it's not even
00:08:57.040 good for you as a woman forget him like it's about you like you want to be able to look yourself in
00:09:01.920 the mirror and feel confident and happy and you know comfortable in your skin so go out and do
00:09:07.280 something about it so i yeah but he have to make sure you you get like some compliments about it
00:09:14.640 so he can make you feel better but are you going to give him the same compliments if he has no job
00:09:19.360 oh yeah yeah you know what i mean i think it works i have a question do you genuinely do you genuinely
00:09:26.240 think most women nicely ask or do you think most women nag what's just
00:09:35.600 yeah okay yes baby i'm so happy you didn't do that thing i asked you to do last yeah
00:09:41.600 very happy i mean that's the woman condition yeah
00:09:45.840 yeah should be away but the female condition is very different to a man as well like we we do like
00:09:53.040 to no offense but picket things yeah whereas a man will be very much more up front about it and
00:10:00.240 if they have an issue with something most of the time most of the time not all men i i know not all
00:10:05.120 men are quite as straightforward as that but most men will just say it as it is whereas women will
00:10:10.240 sugarcoat things i'm not gonna i'm kind of i'm gonna be straightforward me it makes it more
00:10:15.120 complicated so if you can't take it don't give it no what my opinion on it is oh so um i actually
00:10:24.400 haven't seen this response video to me i was sent it so let's um i don't want to show the original
00:10:30.960 tick tock you know what okay i do want to can you click my original tick tock i sent tick tock awry this
00:10:37.680 week oh my gosh all right um what oh yeah but you have to it's a stitch you got to click there
00:10:48.560 you see that yeah there you go
00:10:53.920 now
00:10:56.640 okay are you gonna show it okay i'll look it i know i had something on my shirt i'd like to say
00:11:03.120 i'm in the comments thank you i don't know i don't know how to curl my hair my friend does
00:11:11.200 oh you naturally straight hair no i just that's the only thing i know how to do
00:11:16.720 i don't know how to do anything else fair enough you do you you do you um okay wait go ahead
00:11:21.920 so i sent the internet awry with this a muck i've done that a lot this week okay
00:11:28.240 scroll it up uh we can't hear it
00:11:34.240 so a lot of the wives are triggered on this app saying i'm young inexperienced don't know what i'm
00:11:39.360 talking about but i listen to what the men say every single day through consultations through what i do
00:11:46.720 for work youtube videos made about you guys don't shoot the messenger i'm just letting you know a lot
00:11:53.040 of you are shitty wife sorry okay this is the wrong one i thought it was a different one okay my the
00:11:58.880 one i'm talking about because i was responding to the other one i just said okay look if you don't
00:12:02.800 clean you don't cook and you don't have sex with him what does he get out of that that's a shitty
00:12:08.160 wife and you leave and take half you're a shitty wife
00:12:26.480 if you get fat oh god you're not loyal because you know 70 to 80 percent of women in the u.s are
00:12:34.160 overweight 70 80 percent yeah so yeah so so that's one two we're not loyal we leave 70 to 80 of the
00:12:41.040 time on top of that um one out of four marriages is sexless so and i i can't imagine most women
00:12:48.800 really have their original recipes really cater to men support them so it's like can we really say
00:12:53.440 we're doing a good job as a group i'm including myself in this right but i'm just saying as a group
00:12:58.160 can we say we're we're offering a lot do you know i i feel like a lot of it comes down to the fact
00:13:04.800 that marriage is now a nearly a political statement it's nothing to do with the religion aspect of it
00:13:11.280 i'm not religious myself but i come from a very religious background i'm i'm born and raised in
00:13:16.800 northern ireland very religious and all the basis of marriage is like the core elements of it you take
00:13:23.840 religion out of that yeah marriage kind of is nothing but a statement yeah she's right no you're
00:13:30.160 right because it's the because religion has become you know watered down and fewer people
00:13:36.000 are religion religious today and also societal constraints but the societal constraints came
00:13:40.400 out of religion didn't they you know the whole reason that it was so um frowned upon for people
00:13:46.320 to be divorced and certainly for women to be divorced in the past was because of the religious
00:13:49.440 aspects to it we'll take out the religion and suddenly it's like well what is the incentive do you
00:13:53.200 know what i mean there is no incentive and that's the that's the problem with the marriage contract
00:13:56.400 now i also think that's quite sad because i feel like marriage has lost its meaning like let's not
00:14:02.160 forget marriage is a beautiful thing it's a sacred thing but that's only that's only if you're religious
00:14:08.000 that's the issue that that is coming up i don't know i think they come i don't know but you're forgetting
00:14:13.120 the marriage but i understand what you're saying like in some people can just be in relationships and
00:14:17.360 not get married but you're forgetting that you don't actually get that security the type of security
00:14:21.680 that you get when you're married but the plan doesn't get the man doesn't get the security
00:14:24.800 because 70 percent of the women leave i would say yeah and it's women's it's women's fault we don't
00:14:30.960 get security okay we wanted to work we said send us to work and then we go to work and now the wages
00:14:38.080 are cut in half for everyone when you got double the amount of employees it's our own fault and then
00:14:42.960 women women who's in charge of sex right so women said you know what i used to require marriage to have
00:14:49.520 sex with me now we don't do that so it's our own fault it broke down because of women
00:15:00.560 i'll tell you i'll tell you this my grandma my grandma
00:15:04.480 old lady sweet lady she had nine kids my dad had 13 my mom and i got a lot big family right
00:15:10.160 and you know she's getting older right and i asked her um like grandma why do you think
00:15:15.840 like the divorce rate spiked so much because the divorce rate really went um up in the 60s right
00:15:21.200 and i was like grandma like what like why is that like what what happened you were you were around
00:15:24.560 right she looks at me she says birth control made him do it oh wow oh okay she doesn't know
00:15:32.320 about stats but if you look at the birth control rate and the divorce rate they're the same
00:15:37.360 so what are you saying that the birth control does something to the women kind of thing no i think
00:15:41.200 women just wanted to sleep around oh yeah lovely i mean birth control has shown to have a difference
00:15:49.280 in your yeah because i've heard about attractiveness basically it's just what you're attracted to at
00:15:55.840 the time when you're hormonal yeah i heard that i've heard stories i mean yeah there's some really
00:16:00.880 interesting research i'm very scientific i i studied science as a degree some really interesting research
00:16:07.120 on it have you but it still doesn't give to a reason for difference have you heard about women
00:16:11.600 who get married to a dude when they're on birth control and they come off yeah yeah again that's
00:16:18.880 not a materialistic thing though at least at least it's just it's it's something a bit deeper though
00:16:24.400 isn't it do you know why that is that because when she's on the birth control she's looking for a
00:16:27.920 certain type of dude it's a completely different hormonal imbalance in the body so when you come off the
00:16:33.520 birth control is it different hormone balances is it basically when she's on birth control she's
00:16:38.560 looking for a more of a dad kind of character then she comes off it she's looking for life i think
00:16:42.000 it's personal preference it's naturally what she would have been attracted to i thought you were
00:16:47.040 right because i thought it was because doesn't when you're on birth control like the body tricks
00:16:50.400 you into thinking yeah yeah and you're looking for those aspects like a strong man man with good
00:16:56.160 selective genes good um i thought you wanted the resources because you already got the genes but that
00:17:02.400 that's the you when you feel like you're pregnant you want that security but then when you come off
00:17:07.440 it it's just go wild i mean that's the issue though isn't it they come off it and they're like
00:17:14.960 they go on so they want they're more they're more up for yeah yeah anything because there's an
00:17:20.080 idea there's i don't know if you guys agree with this or not but there's an idea in the men's
00:17:23.200 online you know advice space that basically women look for two different things they look for the
00:17:27.040 dads and they look for the cats so they look for the guys who are more like the provider guys more
00:17:30.400 who's he's a nice guy he's dependable he's solid he's got a good pension pension plan in place you
00:17:35.440 know all that stuff and then you've got the sexy the sexy dude over here who maybe hasn't got any
00:17:39.680 of that stuff but he's ripped and he's like devil may care and he's like you know he's that kind
00:17:43.280 of and and there's this idea that women look for those two things so what it sounds like you're
00:17:47.440 saying is that on the birth control they go for the first and then they come to birth control
00:17:51.120 they're like right where's chad yeah where's the poor boy do you think these days men wants
00:17:58.960 kids more than women wants kids no i don't know i think it's i i think today's society though it's
00:18:07.040 not more about what the man or woman wants it's more about what's being pushed on you yeah so a lot
00:18:12.880 of people are thinking i don't want too many children because the financial aspects of it or i don't want
00:18:17.200 too many children because the environmental aspects of it or it's just personal preference
00:18:22.080 or they're waiting too long yeah exactly and there's a huge amount of evidence now saying
00:18:27.760 if you're into your 40s and you're having a child you increase the risk of them having severe
00:18:33.840 abnormalities having down syndrome and as much as those children they thrive in life but it's not
00:18:40.080 fair to push that on them knowing you're you're going into your 40s and you're having a child
00:18:44.800 me i i don't i don't agree with it when she was 45 no it's not everyone it's not everyone but the
00:18:52.880 science the science supports it saying once you reach a certain point you increase that risk of
00:18:58.880 something like that happening or stillbirths or having a child that has fear fetal fatal abnormalities
00:19:05.360 which then into their very very young years end up dying so i think that's a lot of the things that now
00:19:10.800 because we have the research backing up people are going well it's too late and i don't want to i
00:19:15.360 don't want to force that on a child which is fair which is fair too late with both sides man and
00:19:20.240 woman i think it's both works both ways what age is it over for a woman what age is it like it's you're
00:19:26.720 not going to be a wife well it's really but it depends let's let's talk about okay let me i'm just
00:19:33.600 going to clarify a little bit we're not going to talk about the exceptions i know somebody yeah there's
00:19:38.160 always going to be exceptions right there's always going to be so i heard a lady gave birth at 60.
00:19:44.080 but knowing knowing knowing that men today are more hesitant to get married right and half of
00:19:50.800 they're predicting half of women in our age group aren't even going to be married they're you know
00:19:56.320 50 of us in the room never married no kids that's what they're predicting okay at what age
00:20:01.440 is it would you say over you know probably no one's going to marry you no one's if no one's
00:20:08.480 wow and no one's trying to marry if no one's tried to marry you yet you're probably never going to get
00:20:13.520 it oh what age what do you think um as a woman um what age would you say when you're a spinster like
00:20:20.800 no offense like for late 40s late 40s late 40s over okay kind of yeah when do you think it's over oh
00:20:30.880 yeah i'd say probably 45 and over yeah okay 45 same yeah 40 i want to come back to you 45.
00:20:39.280 like i think because a lot of people because people who are getting married tend to want families
00:20:48.160 isn't it so they're going to look at them and go what if i might love you but i yeah but in
00:20:54.000 traditional aspects marriage is to support a family and they might look at it and go
00:20:58.800 we're most likely not going to have a child so i mean if i'm not religious is there any point
00:21:04.960 get married at this point that's why i said i didn't say relationship marriage marriage all right
00:21:09.280 try what do you think what age 27 27. oh wow that was such a precise number i knew that i knew that
00:21:18.480 would trigger that i knew that would trigger everyone i just like the preciseness of 27.
00:21:26.320 in all seriousness if we're talking about having kids though as well like not just are we talking
00:21:31.200 marriage and kids this is just personally i feel like most guys over a certain age they'll get in
00:21:37.200 a long-term relationship with a girl but why get married if there's no kids yeah no true true so
00:21:42.160 at what age is it would you say as a guy you're like couldn't start a family with her you can have
00:21:46.720 everything but if you don't have yeah so if she if you had a girl you really liked right and you were
00:21:51.040 thinking of someone you wanted to start a family with but you said you know what too old
00:21:54.720 i mean to be honest i think it's going to be like mid-30s probably yeah yeah realistically because of
00:22:00.320 the things you're talking about as well because you start to think getting much older than that
00:22:04.000 you start thinking well you know would everything be be okay you know um yeah because if you think
00:22:12.080 about it what do women's peak fertility use really it's sort of it's like 22 23 right yeah yeah yeah
00:22:18.160 just under 25 i think yeah once you start reaching 30 that's when it starts getting quite
00:22:23.840 dangerous yeah 90 of your eggs are gone by 30. wow that's why marriage used to be so much younger
00:22:32.320 that's why people used to get married a lot younger but now now a lot of people don't want to have
00:22:36.480 children so they get married a lot later because it's yeah i mean you could different if it's just
00:22:40.880 if it's just marriage for like companionship then to be fair people could get married older you know
00:22:44.320 like you might meet somebody you know in the nursing home and you're just like all right
00:22:48.560 on the deathbed i noticed are you engaged i saw the i see the ring me no i always get asked this no
00:22:58.240 this is um on the right hand not on the left hand okay no everyone always asks me that no not yet
00:23:04.240 soon maybe hopefully hopefully we pray um okay next question next question all right because i feel like
00:23:12.720 i was given so much flack for this are you a good wife if you get married and then you gain 100
00:23:18.160 pounds is that good wife i'm just i'm just asking am i off base i mean was there a reason for that
00:23:27.120 like did someone pass away it doesn't matter the reason i mean you're not a bad wife for gaining
00:23:32.080 100 pounds whatever for a reason so like okay let me let me just say so i lost my job and refused to
00:23:38.560 work as a husband but i did it for a reason am i a good husband you know i lost my job but i was
00:23:46.400 depressed i mean things like what happened it can be a benefit i didn't say i didn't say that it
00:23:53.360 doesn't happen i didn't say you couldn't work through it i just said good good means like a student
00:23:57.520 good a b student right that's good i don't know i kind of need specifics because like gaining weight and
00:24:04.400 being depressed obviously you can gain weight as a girl because you're depressed okay so you know i
00:24:13.840 got married i'm in love and then i said you know what i'm just gonna eat crispy creams every day if
00:24:21.120 if you're not willing as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a
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