Modern Women Get A RUDE Awakening
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about why it s important to have a family unit and how to balance a career and a family life. We also talk about the benefits of having a business and how important it is to have one.
Transcript
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You're saying me having a business is wanting to have a business as long as I stay at home.
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The reason you want a career is for better outcome financially and lifestyle, you want a better lifestyle.
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No, but if I'm staying at home at that point, I'm already there.
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But then at the same time, as long as I'm keeping myself active, if I can't keep myself active,
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how am I going to be able to, this is my opinion, how would I be able to sustain that home and
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make it happy and cook and clean if I'm not happy with myself?
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What has being active got to do with going to work?
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If you operate a business, it's all based on financial gain.
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And if you're not making any profit, then her business is creative.
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The business I run is not just a business for financial gain because I give a lot back.
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I put on events and I also do it to inspire and to single mothers and people like me and people
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It's not a business if you're not making money.
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I'm not living off this business because I work at the same time.
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It's not a business then if it's not about money.
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I think you've been in denial because I run a business.
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I run a business and I'm very passionate about what I do.
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Like there's been times I've done it for years.
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You're saying to me that the business I would want to do is based on finances and based on profit.
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So if you're doing business for any other needs other than profit, it's not a business.
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Can you go back to the point where you said it's based on something about not love?
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I think what she's basically saying is you're more focused on maintaining your child rather than raising your child.
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What I realised as a mother and from life experiences, you have to be, you actually have to put your mind first,
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You cannot raise a child in the best way possible if you're not mentally stable.
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In what society has society, what era has society flourished putting me before the family?
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I'm not saying, my child comes before everything.
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It doesn't come before everything because you want a business before your child.
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No, but I didn't say I want a business before my child.
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My child, without a shadow of a doubt, comes before everything.
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I've even stopped working to make sure that my child was okay.
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I've reduced my hours to make sure that my child is okay.
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However, doing that, I realise if you're not right mentally, you can't...
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I think you're in denial because I'm going to be real here.
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Basically, that's her outlet to make sure she's stably and mentally correct for her child.
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You can't say I'm in denial because I would do it for free.
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That's just her way, basically, her way of her outlet, in it, of her releasing herself from her child.
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She'd prefer to go and do business, whereas some people might do a marathon.
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But her point is that if it's not about profit, it's not a business, then it's a hobby.
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And maybe eventually, actually, my main goal eventually is to turn it into a charity.
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But the point is, you're saying you would rather spend 30% of the week on you than on the family.
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And so when you're saying it's not a modern answer, it's just not true.
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You're saying that, like, she's not with her in the morning.
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Raising a child and maintaining a child is two different things.
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No, but the thing is, you can't say that because I raised my child.
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No one's saying you're wrong in saying that, you know?
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If you're sending your kid to school and loads of people will disagree here,
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you're not really raising your child because for eight hours a day,
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and then you get these independent women that get up in the morning and do breakfast club and after club.
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I'm just saying, people do this, like, they'll send the kids for 10 hours a day, yeah?
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For 10 hours a day, yeah, your kids at school, come home after care, 6 o'clock,
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No, but I see my child because she has activities every single day.
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Your child's being programmed to the social norm.
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And I mean, I feel like that makes socially awkward people.
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She teaches a class of 30 children and 30 people.
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My classes, I run classes, and she teaches people.
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When you send your child to school, that you're not raising them at all.
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more time to spend with your child than you will.
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I mean, and I'll say I went to school, but there were times when I certainly spent more time
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with coaches or teachers than my parents because, again, I'm spending eight hours a day in school.
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So when you have one homeroom teacher, and they teach most of your classes in third grade,
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you're spending eight hours a day communicating with that homeroom teacher.
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And we now have outcomes where kids are getting brainwashed in schools, and now-
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But parenting isn't just smothering your child 24-7.
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Just because you homeschool your child doesn't mean they miss out on any of those aspects.
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You, as a mother, have a duty to ensure those are in place.
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Yeah, but I'm just going off the point that Pearl made.
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Like, you know, that just because, you know, I'm not spending 24-7 with them every second,
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Sometimes, who knows, like, the child might be fed up of you.
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No, but I'm not saying homeschooling is based upon you living with your child 24-7.
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Yeah, but you are saying that if someone sends their child to school-
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I think she's just saying what she wants to do personally.
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I'm just saying for eight hours a day, your child is in the care of somebody else.
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And for most people, they're going to breakfast club and aftercare.
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You get four hours in a week there with your child.
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I understand, but your child also needs to learn other fundamental skills.
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Would you say now you're fully raising your child because you're homeschooling your child?
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Because I'm sending my child to school and I'm not raising her.
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I believe I've got more of an input of what I can put into my child and more of a say.
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Whereas for 10 hours, 8 hours a day at school, I don't have a say.
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Is that one of the main reasons you chose to homeschool your child?
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I chose to homeschool because I went to school and then I was always like two, three years ahead.
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So why do I need eight hours a day if I can complete my work in 20 minutes?
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I'm not saying my child's me because she isn't, but I'm intelligent enough to educate my own child.
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Someone spending eight to 10 hours a day with your kid or someone spending four?
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And why do you think we have these kids that are coming home literally thinking they're women?
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Like little boys literally coming home thinking they're women.
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And women, young women literally coming home and thinking they're men.
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And then when they get older, they're even saying, I want to go back to this.
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We went to private school, like Catholic school.
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Why are they showing a liberal news network to my fifth grade child?
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You can avoid a lot of those problems by homeschooling.
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But you're going to be in the world regardless.
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Yeah, but you need to make them aware of certain things that you believe in your family culture
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Yeah, but then that is down to you as a parent to make sure that you raise your child with those values.
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My parents did it with me and I think I turned out all right.
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Yeah, I feel like the four hours, that's only...
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But if you're not all of it, you're not any of it, you either are or you aren't.
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Because then you're in the house now with your man trying to make...
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If I can't have a say at certain things, you're not going to be happy.
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So go and chase your career or be a stay-at-home mom or whatever.
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I can have my career and my husband can be supportive of that.
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So when does your child spend time like away from you?
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Okay, so when you said, oh, she's working, like, her choosing to work on her business,
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yeah, and those are times she's not with her child.
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Two days a week when she still sees her in the morning.
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How is that, like, what's the problem with that?
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I said I take accountability for the fact that I'm on my own with my child.
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So where do you get time to raise your child if you're always...
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I want to be at home with my child, but because I don't have a partner at home, I'm here because
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I'm doing whatever I'm doing with my work or whatever, and I'm here.
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But if I had a choice, which is what I said, I would love the idea of spending seven days
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a week, every day of the week with my daughter, because I don't ever get bored of my child.
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And you wouldn't have any hobbies, any projects, anything?
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Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, okay, stop.
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She has a real traditional mindset, because she's actually talking about putting the kid