Modern Women Get DELUDED with Beauty Standard
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In this episode, we talk about how we would like our significant other to pay the bills and take care of us in a relationship. We also talk about the pros and cons of having a partner who doesn't pay for all the bills.
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OK, because I'm just thinking, I'm just thinking.
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Start saying, oh, wow, like I really like the bag.
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It's like, oh my gosh, I'm thinking maybe next payday.
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And do you, if he doesn't, then are you, are you gone?
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Like the last guy I dated, I haven't bought him a gift
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I'm not like that, but it's like, that's ideally,
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that's how I would want my relationship to work
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What if he goes for two months and he hasn't bought the bag?
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I've never actually lived with someone that I've been with.
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Or like if we're traveling, I've never had to pay for,
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Do you do, because I was going to ask if in those situations
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you do 100% of the chores, like would you in that situation?
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If he's paying 100% of the bills, then you do 100% of the chores?
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One time I found myself washing plates and I was fuming,
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Yeah, I don't like washing plates, but I did it anyway, so.
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Okay, I'm going to, someone in the chat wants you guys
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And I feel like everyone's ten ten in their own way.
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A lot of Graham's girls think that's a bad thing.
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So, I actually, like, when I think of a ten, I think of Rihanna in her prime.
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They're saying it kind of supports the black pillars.
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Chillman, I feel like some women want demigods.
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Green jacket is the second, and the rest are for the streets.
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See Dumbledore, if you weren't in the top 5% of women before you opened your mouth, and after you talked, you dropped to the bottom 5%.
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You women say one thing, but then you do something else.
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Women want marriage, but they are also the ones who want to divorce too.
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Seems like guys are just being used to prove babies and financial security.
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Not all women, they always go to the exceptions.
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Like, they literally believe they're going to win the lottery.
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Women's addiction to whataboutism is nauseating.
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If something's wrong with you, if you need continuous emotional support, why are you not emotionally okay on your own?
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Women can't think in general because they always have one person in mind.
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Women believe they deserve the world but offer nothing.
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Women can wake up and file for divorce for any reason and take a man for everything he has worked for.
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The predictions is that more than 50% of women are going to be single and childless by 2030.
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Would you marry a man with the same career as your...
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Would you guys marry a man with the same career as your dad?
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Would you marry someone with the same career as your mom?
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I have a stepmother, but my mom never really worked.
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Johnny, emotional support as long as he loses his job or develops a money or draining habit.
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Women's divorce to take half before the man loses his value.
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She cares less if he listens to all her problems.
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These women have no idea what their level really is in best in pet care products.
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Walton, the average man 5'8 and 50K would be happy with the average women.
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Conversely, the average man is invisible to average women.
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Actually, I think most of them said 5'8 and 50K, actually.
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Women that are 40 plus are not the beauty standard.
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They don't mind throwing out the 1 to 10 scale for women.
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Please take notes of the type of women you need to avoid.
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Work on yourself and get a young, pretty, fertile woman that's going to take your lead.
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Pearl is the only one with a sane rating in the room.
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3K is 30% of 8.3K a month, which is 100K a year.
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If he came up to you in the club and he's like, you know, putting some moves on, would you...
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So this is exonerating the Black Pill guys in the chat.
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But like men, we're able to rate them 1 to 10 fairly accurately.
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As in what you think is different from what you think.
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Like I mean if you think you're a 10 on looks like Rihanna, right?
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And if I'm a millionaire, then okay, I'm a millionaire.
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I'm either a millionaire to everyone or I'm not a millionaire.
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Do you know there's people out there that don't find her attractive?
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No one in her prime, no one like 10 years ago thought Rihanna was ugly.
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I'm sure there are people out there that don't find her attractive.
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But with beauty, you can't really like, you know, you can be ugly with someone.
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Can we bring up, could you bring up Margot Robbie and Rosie O'Donald, please?
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I call her age plays a part because she looks like 10 times younger than the first lady.
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Okay, but then why'd you mention her age if older women aren't familiar?
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I feel like when you age sometimes she wants to see their beauty.
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But sometimes women age and they look like they look much younger than their age.
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So I'm going to go by JLo looking like that on the right at the bottom.
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No, JLo's definitely more attractive than Whoopi.
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That some women are more attractive than others.
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There'll be some men out there that think the opposite.
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Maybe there's somebody in the chat who thinks that Whoopi Goldberg is hotter.
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I think there are, to play devil's advocate here, I think there are small deviations though,
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Because I've got friends, like even people say, yeah, guys are just very shallow.
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However, I've got male friends and some of the, there are, there are differences and quite
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large differences between the type of women that say I would be attracted to versus what
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You know, sometimes I look at my friend and I'm like, really?
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You know, and he may well think the same thing about me.
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So I think it's, and I sense with women as well, that's also the case.
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I don't know because it seems like for me, like if a guy on a dating app, for example.
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So if I deal with a lot of guys who use Tinder and they don't get very good results and then
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they do, they'll meet women in the daytime or they'll meet women at, you know, at a night,
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at a lounge bar or a party or whatever, and they get much better results.
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It's not like they've become magically better looking.
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It must be that their personality is conveying something when they go into the interaction.
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So I think for men, actually, you know, as a personality, the way that you deliver yourself,
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the way that you put yourself across does make a difference.
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Would you say that it's obvious who's more attractive when it comes to men?
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Like the guy that we just showed you versus Channing Tatum.
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Channing Tatum was the guy in that stripper movie.
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But see, the only reason I'm doing this is because it kind of shows the point where I think that men have higher beauty standards than women and are held up to a higher standard when it comes to beauty.
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Because, like, women will say that we're 10s, but a man, like, will do a picture and will say he's a 4 or a 2.
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I think it's more acceptable to slate guys' looks now, actually, perhaps, than for a man to slate a woman's looks.
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And we, uh, and I was, um, what was I, like, in my late, I was, like, 35 or something like that, or late 30s or something like that.
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And she said to me, um, one time, uh, oh, you know, I wish I'd have, I wish I'd have got with you when you were in your 20s, you know, when you were really in your prime.
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And I was thinking, and I always remembered that, and I sort of laughed it off at the time, but I was thinking, God, if I said that to a woman, can you imagine how castigated I get?
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Can you imagine if I dated, you know, if I dated a woman who was, like, at 40 or something, I'm like, oh, God, I wish I'd have got with you when you were, like, 25.
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You know, like, like, and I'm not saying it was acceptable for her to have said that, but it feels more acceptable, you know, for a woman to say something like that about a man.
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Um, so, yeah, you know, I think there is a little bit of a double standard these days.
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That is a horrible thing to say, I'm not going to lie to you.
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It's all right. I wasn't hot then either, so it's fine.
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Do you guys think the phrase is true that men would have sex with anyone?
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But I feel like a lot of men out there will definitely have sex with anyone.
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Even women that they will say, oh, you know, you'll have some men and they'll be like, oh, I would never have sex with this woman.
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Like, I feel like men are not as trash as we think they are.
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But I feel like in this day and age, some men don't care about that.
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Yeah, but they probably won't speak about it because they'll be ashamed in a way.
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Have you heard the percentage rate of people having sex?
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Remember, we must have told you, it's low standards at the moment.
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I feel like they have, like, they need to be aroused.
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Have you guys' mind changed at all about who has higher standards, men or women, and who's pickier men or women?
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And when it comes down to men sleeping with anything, I do feel like money plays an issue.
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It plays a factor, sorry, when it comes down to men sleeping with anything.
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Because if a man had earned less money, I feel like he would then go and sleep with anything because he's going for what he can get.
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But once he starts earning the amount that he can to be able to get the type of women that he actually wants to sleep with, he would then go and do that.
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It's like, they say, like, men are only as loyal as their options.
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I mean, guys would be like, you know, playing the moral high card of like, oh, you know, I wouldn't...
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It's an interesting point though, would a guy sleep with anything?
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I think there are some guys who are so thirsty that perhaps they would.
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But at the same time, there is a mechanical thing here.
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You know, like you said, you have to sort of get aroused, otherwise it's not happening.
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And I mean, for me personally, I've always had, for me, fairly high standards.
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I mean, high standards in the sense that if I'm not feeling it, I'm just not going to do it.
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But now, especially, I'd rather go home, have a cup of tea, listen to LBC, you know.
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I'm just not going to go there if I'm not feeling it.
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But I think equally, there are guys who are quite thirsty and they feel they don't have options.
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Like, I always say, where there's money, there's females.
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So there's a difference between being thirsty and just having money.
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I feel like, even when you do have money, there's a particular type of girl that you go for, rather than when you're just thirsty.
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No, not everyone's a 10, but there's a different type of girl.
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You know, where there's money and you go for any type of female, it's kind of, it could be high level.
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And then when you're thirsty, it's just anybody and anyone, the spectrum is so wide.
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When you have money, there's a particular type of girl you go for.
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So I feel like we need to differentiate the, where there's money, there's girls or females.
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And, um, when you're thirsty and you sleep with anything.
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So then, again, it almost seems like men aren't as picky as women, if they'd sleep with anything.
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No, I, I think they are picky because it depends, like I said, it depends on where in the spectrum you fall in.
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Oh, no, I would say, like, the, the top guys are picky.
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Yeah, if you have money, I feel like you're, you're allowed to be picky.
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But it's like, what percent of guys have money?
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So it's like, you're talking about, if we're talking about men in general...
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Because like you said, the percentage hair was lower than when you've had other podcasts.
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But if you look at Leonardo DiCaprio, I mean, it's well documented, isn't it?
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You know, the, the, the chart of his, um, his ex-girlfriends and they're all under 26 or whatever.
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And, um, he's clearly a guy with about as much choice as you could get in the dating market.
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So if you take it to that extreme, um, and yeah, I think that when you come further down the scale,
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guys are going to be less, more thirsty, less picky and whatever.
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I suppose they, they feel they need to, you know, to get, to get some intimacy somehow.
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I think, I think the dating marketplace is, it's kind of a jungle out there, really.
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Um, we can try and dress it up and pretend it isn't and it's all really nice and everything.
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But it, you know, I mean, it's the haves and the have-nots, isn't it, really?
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What do you think is different about dating today than it was ten years ago?
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No, you don't think people date to marry today?
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I feel like it started off as, um, men's and then now it's on the woman.
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Um, because men don't, men always feel like women are trying to finesse them or, you know.
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No, I feel like, for me, it's like, because women are way more accessible.
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So men, at the end of the day, they lose the interest because if that's too accessible, it's like, pfff.
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It's just like, you wanna be, you wanna feel like, you wanna feel like.
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I need to, you know, hound this lady that I'm really interested in.
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Well, it's almost like if men will do anything for sex and we all waited till we were married.
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But, you know, it's the women that aren't waiting till they're married.
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Because didn't the sex have to, like, that's had to be.
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Because before, I'd imagine like 100 years ago, it's more common to wait till you were married.
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Yeah, but the thing is, like, but women, but women, women, some women seek, some women seek partners
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And I feel like it's more so in the hands of the man to an extent.
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So, like, if a guy that I was interested in that was the kind of off guy that I would go for wanted to take things further with me,
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it will be, everything will be progressive and moved by him.
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And if a guy's not doing that, then how is the woman the blame?
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Because, wouldn't you say that she's not, like, a high enough quality?
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Like, if a man doesn't get laid, we put it on the men, right?
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So we'll say, we'll say, the men, it's your fault you're not getting laid.
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You should go make more money, go to the gym, do this, do this.
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But for women, it's like, if we're not getting into relationships, isn't that our own fault that we should be better?
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I definitely feel like we definitely, if you want to get married, you want to communicate with a guy and tell him.
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I feel like it's important for a woman to let a man know when you start that relationship, this is what I want in a man.
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Because when I go and get into a relationship, I let them know, I want to have kids, but I want to be married first.
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My question was, if you're a girl and you can't get in relationships, isn't that your own fault?
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Like, if a man can't get laid, isn't that his fault?
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Like, he should go to the gym, he should make more money.
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Like, no guy that's a billionaire isn't getting laid, right?
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Yeah, but there's other things that attract people to him.
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Wouldn't you say, so you don't think it's his own fault if he doesn't get laid?
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I'm saying, like, if a man doesn't get laid, we tell that man to improve, right?
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Go to the gym, learn to talk to girls, et cetera, et cetera.
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So if a woman's not getting in relationships, that's the equivalent, right?
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Because men try to get sex, women try to get relationships.
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So if we can't get relationships, isn't that on the woman?
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Because she's not bringing enough to the table that makes men want to get in relationships with her.
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I get what you're saying, but I don't think it's on the woman.
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Okay, there's a girl I went to college with, right?
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And this girl was just raised super traditional.
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Like, she was one of the most traditional women I've ever met.
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She just had that personality that men, like, loved.
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Like, she was very good about, like, catering to guys.
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You know those people that just make you feel very, like, warm and comforting, like, at home?
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And, like, she never had a problem getting in relationships.
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Like, any guy she slept with would date her because she was just so feminine.
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And so it's like, if you're a woman and you sleep with a guy and he doesn't want to be a woman,
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I think maybe you're just not bringing your attentions across.
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That's why they just sleep with you and just...
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And I'm not saying, like, you should just sleep with anything, you know.
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But for her, like, she just was so feminine that, like, every guy...
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She was just the girl at our college that every guy wanted to date.
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So, which means that beauty is not that important, then, after all.
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So, they want a girl that's, like, over, like, a six.
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Like, guys will go down and looks for femininity.
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And what you said, that's just sort of emphasize what I was trying to articulate earlier,
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And I suppose another word for pleasant is feminine, really.
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You know, you've got to feel that nice energy when you're with her.
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And some women have that, and some women don't.
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There's this idea that for somebody that you're thinking of marrying, looks, even for a guy,
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I'm not saying I agree with this, but that you should almost, you know,
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drop down the scale of looks for the woman you're going to marry.
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Because you don't want to be married to some sort of super high-maintenance kind of nine
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who's like super bitchy and she's going to go and fuck the poor boy, you know,
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I think femininity and pleasantness is such an important thing.
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Have you guys ever tried self-improvement as a woman?
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I'm still, you know, every day there is something to face and something to improve.
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I don't believe there is anyone that is completely, you know, 100% perfect in everything.
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It took me a while to realize that because I've been coming from a background that I wanted
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always to be perfect, you know, not showing my, you know, fragilities, insecurities.
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But then, as I grew older, I understood that, you know, actually, that's just, you know,
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a mask and we are all fragile in a way and we need just to work out what is wrong with us
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Did you go to therapy, like, after a bad relationship or...?
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Also, but also, like, you know, it was a very particular time when I was...
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So, it was quite difficult for me that transition.
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So, it's like, it was like, you know, mix of things that made me, you know, make that choice
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Um, and then I, you know, I try every day to listen, trying to be a better listener.
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I talk a lot and I've been learning during the years that actually I need to just shut
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my mouth and also listen other people when they talk and trying to...
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