JustPearlyThings - November 08, 2023


Modern Women Get DISGRUNTLED with Men when They Do This


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In this episode, we talk about how important it is to communicate with your partner when they are having a bad day. We also talk about the importance of crying to your partner and how it can make or break a relationship.

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00:00:00.000 I feel like most of this leads back to communication.
00:00:04.800 If you want to vent to the guy that you're with, just ask him.
00:00:07.720 There's nothing wrong with that.
00:00:08.580 Same with your friends.
00:00:09.540 Say if I want to vent to my friends, I'll be like,
00:00:11.300 can I open up to you right now?
00:00:12.480 Are you in the right mind frame to hear from me?
00:00:14.780 Type thing.
00:00:15.360 There's nothing wrong with asking for communication.
00:00:16.860 The guy will let you know.
00:00:17.780 And if it's not today, then it might be tomorrow
00:00:19.440 or it might be the day after.
00:00:20.820 Yeah, it's kind of going back to reading the room
00:00:22.680 and being socially aware.
00:00:23.700 You can come to him and know that your partner is like,
00:00:26.140 he's not with it.
00:00:27.320 He needs to chill.
00:00:28.240 Would you, any of you girls,
00:00:30.500 would you mind if your man cried to you?
00:00:32.880 Can't be crying to you?
00:00:33.740 Crying?
00:00:34.260 Yeah.
00:00:34.840 I wouldn't mind.
00:00:35.640 I've had my partner of like nine years cry.
00:00:38.700 I'll be like, yes, my baby needs me.
00:00:41.660 I'll stop cooking.
00:00:43.520 Wait, wait, wait.
00:00:43.980 Who said that?
00:00:44.640 Who said that?
00:00:45.160 You?
00:00:45.480 Yeah, I'll be like, yes, my baby needs me.
00:00:47.600 Wait, your partner of nine years?
00:00:49.020 No, no, no.
00:00:49.880 Who said that?
00:00:50.640 You said that?
00:00:51.080 Yeah, I've been with someone for nine years.
00:00:52.500 Okay, so I have a question.
00:00:54.120 You're not with him anymore?
00:00:55.400 No, I'm not.
00:00:56.140 Who broke up with who?
00:00:57.080 I would say I broke up with him.
00:00:59.240 You should have cried.
00:01:00.820 But every time, every time.
00:01:01.300 No, we wasn't for the crying though.
00:01:02.820 It's not just, look, I know.
00:01:04.540 Stop, stop.
00:01:05.360 I know it's, I know it's like every girl that, it's again, it's not you.
00:01:09.820 Yeah, statistically proven.
00:01:11.200 No, no, I'm just anecdotal.
00:01:13.340 No stats.
00:01:13.800 I've had girl after girl come on my podcast and everyone that says their boyfriend cried
00:01:19.280 to them, I have a second question, who broke up with who, it's always them.
00:01:22.120 But it always depends on what way.
00:01:23.020 He didn't cry in a way of like, he was actually being emotional.
00:01:25.140 I was telling him, listen, I don't know what you're doing right now.
00:01:27.140 I gave him some facts.
00:01:28.060 Basically, a situation happens and I presented him with facts.
00:01:30.420 And I was like, this is what's going on, that's your business.
00:01:32.540 And he, the only way he knew how to communicate was to break down.
00:01:35.680 At this point, the only thing I can do is, you know.
00:01:39.200 Did he cry when you broke up with him?
00:01:40.320 Is that what it was?
00:01:40.680 No, no, no, no.
00:01:41.380 This was before I broke up with him due to the fact that I just feel like where you're
00:01:44.420 trying to go and where I'm going are two different angles now.
00:01:46.300 Before I was on the same train, you jumped off and hanged out the window like, what are you doing?
00:01:49.640 Like, you're doing your own thing.
00:01:50.600 But he cried based on him trying to be emotional and kind of be like, I effed up kind of thing.
00:01:55.580 And he couldn't control his emotions.
00:01:57.280 So his, you know what I'm saying?
00:01:58.500 And how long after did you break up with him?
00:02:00.660 No, it was years.
00:02:01.360 Like, we were, I would say that he cried within the first year or two of us being together
00:02:05.020 and we spent another four years, if not five, together.
00:02:07.920 Do you get it?
00:02:08.300 But he was doing other things.
00:02:09.980 So, that's, that's the reason.
00:02:12.380 I don't know.
00:02:12.660 I just don't think it's a coincidence.
00:02:14.400 But it depends on how you cry though.
00:02:15.660 That's how I'm trying to say that.
00:02:16.540 But I think a lot of times, like women, we don't know what we want. 1.00
00:02:19.100 Because it's like, it's kind of like, how many times can a guy cry till you break?
00:02:23.020 Like, you know, you didn't cry that sometimes.
00:02:24.580 That was like once.
00:02:25.180 You're going to, at some point.
00:02:26.460 No, we'll give you once.
00:02:29.220 But if you, but if you, wait, wait.
00:02:30.200 But if you, but if you, wait, come on, that's Cap.
00:02:33.360 If he's crying every day, you're leaving.
00:02:34.860 No, no, no, no.
00:02:35.860 Every day, I'm not this big.
00:02:37.520 That's what I'm saying.
00:02:38.240 Like, every person's different.
00:02:40.360 And so, you know, at some level, like, you're going to leave at some point.
00:02:43.860 No, for me, I feel like if a guy cries, it shows me that you have a level or consciousness of emotion.
00:02:49.140 I mean, I can't be with someone that's heartless, just cold, ruthless, like, you're just being like, I don't cry.
00:02:54.300 Just, what is that?
00:02:55.360 I think it's just human.
00:02:56.440 How would you guys feel, how would you guys feel if your boss started crying?
00:03:00.400 Has that ever happened to you, female boss, male boss?
00:03:02.960 Yeah.
00:03:04.900 Yeah.
00:03:05.400 Nope.
00:03:06.020 No.
00:03:06.820 Yeah.
00:03:07.140 I didn't feel sorry for you.
00:03:10.500 Because you done fucked up.
00:03:13.660 And you been spending too much people damn business in this place.
00:03:17.600 And yeah, what goes around comes around.
00:03:19.320 And I looked at you and threw you a very small napkin because I wanted to see you fold it up and let you be.
00:03:26.160 No, no, that's not what we're about to do.
00:03:28.120 Victim, nope.
00:03:29.080 I've never, I've never seen it.
00:03:30.560 I've just heard that's like a phenomenon.
00:03:32.020 Like, I've just heard like girls in high stress. 0.99
00:03:34.820 Yeah, yeah.
00:03:35.320 From stress.
00:03:35.700 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:03:36.580 It is from stress.
00:03:37.740 I feel my managers break down.
00:03:38.980 I feel like we get emotionally like, what's the word, overwhelmed.
00:03:41.120 Women get overwhelmed, whereas men get angry. 0.94
00:03:43.360 I feel like men cry from a part of their body which they're not used to hitting.
00:03:47.300 Do you know what I mean?
00:03:48.000 That emotion comes from a part of their body they've never hit before.
00:03:49.840 Like, no one's ever hit you there.
00:03:51.020 So you're like, what feeling is this?
00:03:53.200 What feeling is this?
00:03:54.580 It's like bugging out.
00:03:55.580 It's like you start bugging out inside.
00:03:57.000 No, men can cry.
00:03:57.800 No, but men bug out inside before they cry. 0.90
00:04:00.680 Before your body creates those tears, you're bugging out internally trying to understand
00:04:04.420 what am I feeling?
00:04:05.580 And then your body's putting it into perspective.
00:04:07.220 No, but if someone died and he's crying, then that's expressing an emotion.
00:04:11.060 But like, if he's crying because you won't let him hit it, then he's a pussy. 0.99
00:04:16.700 It's kind of like, how many times can he cry?
00:04:20.920 Like, I mean, I think women, I think at some point.
00:04:23.840 You get one a year.
00:04:25.280 Jeez, that's scary.
00:04:27.200 That's a lie.
00:04:28.180 Life is hot.
00:04:29.000 Life is hot.
00:04:29.600 No, but Pearl, for the first time, you've been honest, for the first time, we've got a
00:04:33.520 woman that has said exactly what you can do.
00:04:35.080 You can get one a year.
00:04:36.520 It's like, what tends to happen is women will say you can cry. 0.99
00:04:38.820 I'll give you one every other year.
00:04:40.280 I'd like it.
00:04:40.960 Okay, cool.
00:04:41.600 No, realistically, though, it depends on the topic.
00:04:44.100 Like, it's like, if he's going through a lot and he's going through that emotion and if
00:04:51.820 he's crying, I think vulnerability can be attractive in a way, realistically.
00:04:56.260 But then if he doesn't fix his problems, then he's still crying over it, then he hasn't
00:04:59.340 gone to a therapist.
00:04:59.880 That's what I was going to ask you.
00:05:00.720 I was going to ask you.
00:05:01.360 So if he's crying, like, he's like, oh, the first time he's going through it, then he's
00:05:04.160 crying every month.
00:05:05.980 February's crying, Wednesday's, you know what I mean?
00:05:08.160 March is crying.
00:05:08.920 I was just going to say, yeah, like, obviously if they're crying a lot over, like, something
00:05:19.320 small, like, Tracy was being horrible to me at work, fair enough, you know, it's like
00:05:23.040 ridiculous, like, all right, I'm done with this.
00:05:24.960 But in reality, if it's a traumatic experience someone's going through or, like, something's
00:05:29.400 happening and it's a constant and sometimes their reaction is to cry, I don't think that
00:05:35.480 is a sign of weakness and it's sometimes vulnerability of strength.
00:05:38.460 I have a question, I have a question.
00:05:40.520 So let's say he has whatever the situation is, how long can he cry about it?
00:05:46.220 So he cries Monday, can he cry Tuesday, can he cry Wednesday, Thursday?
00:05:50.320 Honestly, yeah, if it's something like, it's like, if you're just crying about it and if
00:05:54.560 you can do something to change it, it's like, yeah, no, pick yourself up.
00:05:58.240 Let's say he's depressed.
00:05:59.820 Yeah.
00:06:00.300 Monday.
00:06:01.220 How many days in a row can he cry?
00:06:03.220 Well, this is the thing, though, I think if it was anybody, if they were relying on me
00:06:07.220 and they were constantly crying to me for something that they're going through internally,
00:06:11.540 I am happy to be someone's shoulder to cry on.
00:06:13.720 However, if you are constantly crying and it's like they, yeah, it's just, it's like, we can
00:06:22.880 do these things to help you.
00:06:24.380 This is a different way of going through it.
00:06:25.980 It's just, if it's only crying, nothing's happening, then it can be difficult on the
00:06:31.220 other person who's having to help them and support them.
00:06:34.060 So objection, listen, where's the camera?
00:06:38.980 This is for men. 0.98
00:06:45.700 A loss in your family, loved one, friends, cool.
00:06:52.340 A movie that hit you deep and your eyes water, okay.
00:06:58.500 That's it.
00:06:59.320 That's a lot of pressure on men.
00:07:03.400 Listen, listen, listen, listen, listen, this is real life.
00:07:10.220 Yeah.
00:07:11.200 You have to be a rock.
00:07:14.740 You must, you must don't ever, ever, ever all due respect, all due respect your lovely
00:07:22.640 girl.
00:07:22.880 We spoke before men do not listen to that. 1.00
00:07:27.700 And, okay, listen to me.
00:07:30.420 Yeah.
00:07:30.780 One second.
00:07:31.300 One second.
00:07:32.020 One second.
00:07:32.820 One second.
00:07:33.360 This is for the men.
00:07:34.360 I'm going to hand it back.
00:07:35.640 I'm not going to talk too much.
00:07:36.720 This is for the men.
00:07:38.020 Real talk.
00:07:38.680 I'm not trying to make people laugh.
00:07:41.200 Life is real.
00:07:43.260 Most of you know that already.
00:07:44.960 You know the struggles.
00:07:46.000 You know what's going on.
00:07:47.300 You know what you got to do.
00:07:48.940 You don't have that time.
00:07:50.340 You can't be doing that.
00:07:52.060 Stay focused.
00:07:53.380 Stay on your purpose.
00:07:55.340 A loss, cool.
00:07:57.760 A sad movie that hit you somewhere, cool.
00:08:01.200 Get back on job.
00:08:03.060 That's it.
00:08:04.100 So I'm going to just, as a man, let me just add on to what another man said.
00:08:07.760 So yeah, guys, like, this is to the men out there.
00:08:10.320 Do not cry to you.
00:08:11.660 Don't cry, bro.
00:08:12.240 Because women, they find it very hard to explain to you what it's okay to cry about. 1.00
00:08:17.780 So the best thing to do is not to cry.
00:08:19.420 So she said you can cry once a year.
00:08:22.020 Pearl said, once every two years.
00:08:24.100 And she basically said, you can cry for about three or four days, but by the fifth day, if
00:08:28.160 you're still crying, I'm not too sure.
00:08:30.120 So this is a lot of mixed signals for men.
00:08:32.380 So the best thing to do is like what Alex says, it's just to be a rock.
00:08:36.200 And I'll be honest with you.
00:08:37.520 I ain't going to cry in no movies because, because, no, no.
00:08:41.420 But he can give that to you.
00:08:42.480 Family, I pray that we don't have to go through that stuff.
00:08:45.360 But at that point, you know, men can show emotion.
00:08:47.680 But I just think it's a lot safer for men.
00:08:50.340 Just not quite bro.
00:08:51.320 Can I say something?
00:08:52.660 Okay, go ahead.
00:08:53.340 I personally think as a man, if you go to a woman and you're crying, me, I'll lose respect 1.00
00:08:59.160 for you.
00:08:59.700 It depends what you're crying about.
00:09:00.980 Like, if it's a loss or something really bad, like of someone dying, then yeah.
00:09:06.220 But as a man, I feel like it takes you off of your purpose when you spend too much time
00:09:10.860 crying about things that you're just wasting time and energy.
00:09:14.000 And I think men really value respect.
00:09:16.300 And if my man's crying often, I'm going to lose respect for him.
00:09:20.780 I don't feel like that's a real man.
00:09:23.100 Don't cry to me about it all the time.
00:09:25.540 But that goes towards both genders, realistically.
00:09:28.340 Don't sit and cry about everything all the time.
00:09:30.040 No, I'm not going to cry.
00:09:31.340 Women are emotional. 1.00
00:09:32.460 Women cry all the time over everything. 1.00
00:09:35.040 Yeah, but if that's all you're doing for it.
00:09:37.720 Where do you outlet other than the gym and the performance?
00:09:41.340 Where are you going to let these people go?
00:09:42.300 That's what I was going to say.
00:09:43.220 It's not helpful.
00:09:44.120 Wait, wait, wait.
00:09:45.060 Men can talk to other men.
00:09:47.560 They're not going to cry for other men.
00:09:49.080 And men don't really care if their girl's crying over stupid shit. 0.98
00:09:53.840 Like, they're kind of used to it.
00:09:54.920 We cry over dumb shit.
00:09:56.260 I cry over dumb shit all the time.
00:09:58.040 I don't think, can men tell me where the outlet is?
00:10:01.140 This is where I struggle.
00:10:02.340 As somebody, I personally, I'm a little bit hesitant with men when it comes to outlet.
00:10:09.620 Like, I just think it's other men.
00:10:12.980 Like, I think men should go to other men. 0.95
00:10:14.340 And I think, like, women try to be men. 1.00
00:10:15.860 That's you and your woman minds, which I appreciate.
00:10:18.400 And it's a beautiful place.
00:10:19.060 I could tell you.
00:10:20.720 Where is a man going to outlet other than the gym? 0.97
00:10:23.800 No.
00:10:24.420 Where's Alex going?
00:10:25.320 Alex is going to go to me.
00:10:26.840 And this is what's going to happen.
00:10:29.240 And then if I don't feel like I can speak to Alex, I'm going to speak to Bless.
00:10:32.440 And then Blessing don't feel like he can speak to me.
00:10:34.940 He's going to speak to Devontae.
00:10:35.840 The idea of this is we're not supposed to speak to every single man or cry to every single man.
00:10:40.240 But if Alex comes and cries to me, I know this is a very serious situation because he's never cried and men don't cry at that.
00:10:49.480 So I won't look at it like how you look at it.
00:10:51.600 I will look at it as my boy's got to a level where he's crying to me.
00:10:55.580 Now we need to figure out what's going on.
00:10:57.260 We need to come to a resolution.
00:10:59.000 So crying to women, I will not lose respect for him.
00:11:02.940 In actual fact, I'm going to gain so much more respect for him because I know he's showing me emotion he's never saw.
00:11:07.560 What we've gotten from you guys is that he can cry, but he has to know when to cry and he can't cry too much.
00:11:14.780 And if he cries too much, he needs to.
00:11:16.220 So that's too many slight caveats for him.
00:11:18.640 You're right.
00:11:18.940 I just got to be able to cry to you and you can't tell me what I can cry about and how long I can cry about.
00:11:23.280 If you tell me I can be emotional to you, you don't get to tell me what I can be emotional about.
00:11:26.720 This is why I just say, just don't cry, bro.
00:11:29.180 Alex, you can cry to me.
00:11:30.120 Talking, talking, sorry, just quickly.
00:11:32.020 Sorry, just talking about earlier, we were talking about leadership and 50-50 and bosses and this, that and the other.
00:11:38.220 If you're, if you're a man and you cry over, you know, not a loss or what I said before to your partner,
00:11:49.000 you've demonstrated the, the inability to be stable.
00:11:54.220 You've demonstrated that you can't be trusted.
00:11:56.200 You've demonstrated that you can't be a leader.
00:11:58.500 You can't be followed because if I'm, if, if, if you're being, if you're being followed and then it gets peak and then you're depressed or whatever the situation is and you're crying.
00:12:11.660 How can someone follow?
00:12:13.380 How can someone follow?
00:12:14.160 We don't, we don't see, we don't see presidents crying.
00:12:17.720 Like you don't see leadership.
00:12:19.160 You don't see the CEO of a company crying.
00:12:21.040 Well, unless it's a woman. 1.00
00:12:22.020 It doesn't mean he doesn't, because you don't, because you don't see it doesn't mean they're not crying.
00:12:25.180 No, you're right.
00:12:25.880 But that's what I'm saying.
00:12:26.740 They don't do it in front of the people they're leading.
00:12:28.920 Men are supposed to.
00:12:29.620 Wait, wait, wait, men are supposed to lead women.
00:12:33.080 So you don't, you don't see the CEO going to a company meeting and start crying.
00:12:36.760 It's the same thing with like, if you're, if you know, I know some people do the 50-50 thing,
00:12:41.140 but if you, if you want to be in a more traditional relationship where you follow the man you're with,
00:12:45.120 then he shouldn't go to the people, the person he's leading and cry.
00:12:48.720 Of course not.
00:12:49.420 I wouldn't agree.
00:12:50.020 I 100% understand your point.
00:12:52.300 But I feel like she was saying like, you're allowed to be vulnerable until it's time.
00:12:56.380 Yeah, you're human.
00:12:56.900 You're human.
00:12:57.260 Until it's time for you to pick yourself up.
00:12:59.140 Like I feel like in a relationship depending on yours and guys's, you know, boundaries,
00:13:02.920 obviously like if you follow more traditional methods and et cetera, et cetera,
00:13:05.540 like you're allowed to be vulnerable.
00:13:08.060 If your partner says that's okay with you, you can be vulnerable for that time being.
00:13:12.300 And then pick yourself up.
00:13:13.200 Like it's cool.
00:13:14.120 Yeah, but the whole point is, wait, the whole point is that each girl is different.
00:13:19.320 And so it's kind of like rolling the dice.
00:13:21.320 Like look at this from a guy's perspective.
00:13:23.080 You know, me, I said every two years, she said, you know, you could do it three days,
00:13:27.380 four days, whatever, whatever it is.
00:13:28.940 But wait, but every girl is different. 0.92
00:13:32.140 And so it's like for one girl, you know, she might be okay with it this long.
00:13:35.760 For another girl, she might be okay with it this long.
00:13:37.700 So it's like, why risk it?
00:13:40.060 Even the girls that say it's okay. 0.99
00:13:43.420 Listen, that sounds nice.
00:13:46.120 That sounds nice.
00:13:46.980 And it's very emotionally intelligent and it's beautiful.
00:13:51.800 The girls don't even know that they've lost something for you. 0.70
00:13:56.360 They've lost the attraction.
00:13:59.120 They get the ick.
00:13:59.660 Yeah, they get the ick.
00:14:00.920 Whatever that thing is that made them feel comfortable in your leadership or your presence
00:14:06.800 or your even partnership, whatever.
00:14:09.260 Whatever that thing is, they've lost it.
00:14:11.520 They didn't even know it happened.
00:14:13.800 Men, stay focused on your purpose.
00:14:17.780 You can cry.
00:14:18.620 He tied his sew lace with a bunny ear, bunny ear over like a baby does it. 0.55
00:14:23.060 And I'm just like, ick, he's never coming near me.
00:14:25.020 So now you see the problem we have, right?
00:14:26.380 So like, it's both ways.
00:14:29.020 But why would he risk that?
00:14:30.500 Like, why wouldn't he just say, you know what, in general, I'm going to try not to cry in front of her.
00:14:34.280 If it happens, it happens.
00:14:35.460 But in general, unless it's super serious, I'm just, I'm not going to.
00:14:38.640 I think generally we all have that rule.
00:14:40.320 Like, I don't walk into a room expecting to be upset and cry.
00:14:43.360 I just think if it happens, it happens.
00:14:45.240 It's just like, you know, if someone pees themselves, you don't make a big deal.
00:14:47.840 You're like, go off of there.
00:14:49.460 You can cry.
00:14:50.360 Just suddenly it consumes you realistically.
00:14:52.760 And that's where communication comes in again.
00:14:54.620 You can literally discuss this before you go through it.
00:14:56.820 But the problem is women don't know what they want. 1.00
00:14:59.220 I know exactly what they want.
00:15:00.180 But a woman that does, and a woman that's got her, you know, priority straight, can communicate that with a man. 0.98
00:15:05.780 And obviously, if that's not the case, then that's not the case.
00:15:07.860 Guys, I have just a quick question for the men.
00:15:09.760 Do you think women know what they want in general? 1.00
00:15:12.180 No.
00:15:12.540 How many women have you dated?
00:15:14.520 Is it over or under 20?
00:15:16.400 Over or under?
00:15:17.340 No, over or over.
00:15:17.960 Okay, okay, over or under.
00:15:18.980 So I'm just, the only reason, because the next question is, what type of women do you date? 0.99
00:15:22.640 At least 20.
00:15:23.220 That's a good sample size.
00:15:24.140 Do you think, in general, women know what they want? 0.98
00:15:27.140 No.
00:15:27.360 Do you think they cap about what they want?
00:15:28.800 Yeah.
00:15:29.160 Okay, that's my only point.
00:15:30.720 I'm not saying as a whole, though, like, as in what every woman wants.
00:15:33.760 Or, like, I'm not saying I know what I want.
00:15:35.520 But in terms of certain scenarios and situations, like, I feel like I could let a man confide in me and, like, let me know when there's something up.
00:15:42.440 Do you know what I mean?
00:15:43.560 Maybe I'm not saying, like, all the time or, like, every single day.
00:15:46.300 But, like, at least, you know, you can tell me if there's something up, whether you cry or not.
00:15:50.320 I understand what you're saying.
00:15:52.220 And, like, I agree to some extent.
00:15:54.200 But, again, it's, like, for them, it's a roll of the dice.
00:15:56.840 And they don't know which girl is going to be turned off by it.
00:15:59.800 And, like, sometimes a girl will say, I won't be, but she'll still leave. 0.79
00:16:03.260 The game's the game at the end of the day.
00:16:04.880 Okay, that's fine.
00:16:06.260 Do you know what I mean?
00:16:07.040 So, Pearl, I just sat here and I literally didn't hear one person explain to me what it was okay to cry.
00:16:13.320 So, all I wanted to hear was...
00:16:14.520 No, 100%.
00:16:15.160 I was being facetious earlier.
00:16:17.100 But, like, you can cry.
00:16:18.280 You can cry whatever you want.
00:16:18.800 I just want to hear you say to me, you know what?
00:16:21.020 You know what?
00:16:21.660 It doesn't matter.
00:16:22.120 Just come to me about anything.
00:16:23.660 Exactly.
00:16:23.860 Like, Alex will say to me, come to me, Chai, and I won't look at you different.
00:16:27.440 But I haven't heard one person say that to me.
00:16:29.100 It's about respect, communication, consent, and boundaries.
00:16:32.880 And those are the four things that you need to come into any relationship with.
00:16:36.180 It's man, man, woman, woman, they, them, he, ex, whatever it is.
00:16:40.500 And if you feel like you're in a place where you have to cry.
00:16:43.160 So, why is it okay if he's at that place where he's about to break down?
00:16:48.040 He can only come to you.
00:16:49.420 Like, there are lots of other people on this planet that he could, should feel comfortable.
00:16:54.420 As long as they're men.
00:16:55.620 But that's the thing.
00:16:56.920 Exactly.
00:16:57.560 All right, okay, fair enough.
00:16:59.100 Let's not, let's say, biologically, we are intrinsically reactionary and just get the ick when men cry, right?
00:17:08.300 But you could still be my friend.
00:17:10.920 You might not be tapping it.
00:17:11.900 There are so many other ways.
00:17:13.100 I think it's just, if you cry to me, you've cried and there's no particular ick.
00:17:17.960 If you cried during sex, maybe.
00:17:19.680 But, like, if you've cried because there's a general reason that you're upset, cool, let's talk about it.
00:17:26.460 I just, I've been through some really hard times in my life, yeah.
00:17:28.980 And the one thing that I would never do is let my mum see me cry, let my mum see me, for my mum to see her son cry, do you know what that would do to this Africa? 1.00
00:17:38.300 She would actually contemplate her whole existence about what's going on.
00:17:40.940 So, a lot of times, us men, we have to keep things together just for you guys, because by you seeing your man cry, then it can completely destroy everything.
00:17:49.600 And that's just something that I just take personally.
00:17:51.340 Well, I personally go through life not expecting that.
00:17:54.980 So, again, like, just say, I'm so laid back, like, what are we doing?
00:17:59.760 Like, it's not that deep.
00:18:01.220 Okay, I'm going to take a second to read Super Chats, and then we're going to do final thoughts, and you guys can plug any social media, and we're going to close out the show.
00:18:10.080 Okay, guys, we have, what, 3,200 people watching, so make sure you like the video, subscribe to the channel.
00:18:17.080 Okay, our pain, it's none of your effing business where we cry, men do not cry over issues to women, PX, Shaman, my dad died, I couldn't call it off, my best dog, I couldn't call off my best dog on Christmas, life is real, none of you women are over a 5, silly sausage. 0.99
00:18:38.100 We just wanted not to not have to read your mind, if you want to vent, that's fine, if you want a solution, perfectly fine, just let us know, witch, before you rant about how Sarah's boyfriend's cousin's niece is a slag. 0.99
00:18:50.360 C. Matherson, Pearl, please buy a neon sign that says men don't care about your strong and your strong-empowered women with jobs.
00:18:58.420 Daniel, they appreciate logical and direct decision-making of a man, but crucified China for being logical and direct. 0.90
00:19:04.320 P.S., the woman in the blue onesie is laying.
00:19:06.960 C. Matherson, these women are about to get replaced by Brazilian and Filipino women. 1.00
00:19:14.340 That's already started, go follow, oh my god, I can't remember the account name, but there's a guy that went to Brazil and he has really good content.
00:19:24.220 Keith, the chef, we have been fed a lie, it's to break up the nuclear family, the people who tax us get to, 0.93
00:19:32.280 tax us get to keep the alphas who usually challenge arbitrary authority, confused and busy with chaos, wake up.
00:19:39.660 Doug MPA, if men win, everyone wins, if women win, women win.
00:19:42.880 Keith, the chief, it's our job as men to train them, weak men can't.
00:19:47.280 Keith, the show, Pearl is doing everyone a favor, do a U.S. live show, we didn't know this is the female archetype. 1.00
00:19:53.160 You saved my relationship because I now understand how she sees the world, thank you.
00:19:58.300 C. Matherson, men can get an essay claim, or an essay claim just for looking at a woman, oh, essay, I get it. 0.78
00:20:05.600 A quick bae, on the point of jobs, we as men just cannot get up and get better jobs whenever we want.
00:20:12.120 Your body count is a choice that you can control.
00:20:15.040 Tell 9265, dang, autocorrect, I meant red dress.
00:20:18.800 The UK economist, would the guests want their, oh, I read this already, let me refresh it, just make sure there's no more super chats,
00:20:24.920 and then we'll close out the show.
00:20:26.760 Like the video, guys, subscribe to the channel.
00:20:28.800 Okay, Woke is Panther, why do women see men that don't emote like women as being cold and emotionless?
00:20:35.900 C. Matherson, why is it that women treat their men like subhuman unless they want them crying, 0.83
00:20:41.380 and then suddenly he's a full-blown human?
00:20:43.800 Okay, final thoughts, any social media you want to plug?
00:20:50.700 My social media is, let me bring it closer, my social media is Pink Kush, that's my Instagram.
00:20:55.840 You can write it, spell it as P-I-N-K-K-U-S-H-E-M-Z, so Kushim's on the end. 0.99
00:21:02.760 I do a bit of everything, I'm a social, creative person, so yeah, hit me up.
00:21:08.960 And my final thoughts is that's just like general, yeah, I feel like today was a very good day overall,
00:21:14.960 and I met a lot of different dynamics of peoples, and I'm grateful to be a part of such a, you know, growing community.
00:21:20.740 My social media is bexylucyx, and my website is bexylucy.com.
00:21:30.200 I've got e-books, and I also do coaching on femininity and mindset.
00:21:36.400 And today, it was good to hear different opinions from different women. 0.98
00:21:42.420 I like to listen to gain more knowledge, but me personally, I've agreed mostly with what Chyna and Pearl have said,
00:21:51.600 and my goals at the moment are to find a husband, get married, and it's not focused on my career, it's on making a family.
00:22:01.340 So yeah, when that time comes, that's what I'm ready for.
00:22:05.300 Hi, so my Instagram is shortydevi, which is S-H-O-R-T-Y-D-E-V-I underscore.
00:22:17.000 I'm a coach, a life coach, a conscious parenting coach.
00:22:20.640 I help people live their best lives, basically.
00:22:25.100 Thank you for having me here.
00:22:26.940 It's been really interesting.
00:22:28.440 There have definitely been some views that I haven't agreed on,
00:22:30.720 but it's always really interesting to have a healthy debate about everything, and yeah, thanks.
00:22:38.320 Hey, so my final thoughts, terrifyingly, is that feminism might actually be dead. 1.00
00:22:44.080 I have a lot to think about retrospectively after hearing a lot of opinions that I thought were maybe slightly outdated.
00:22:52.760 I feel a little bit sad that women took such a bash this evening for wanting to be leaders,
00:22:58.740 to do innovative things, and to say and do what they need to say and do without being criticized for it.
00:23:04.820 So I think that women make strong leaders, men make strong leaders.
00:23:08.780 It's how you wield that power.
00:23:10.640 And my name is Cleo, and I'm not really on the socials, so I won't say it,
00:23:16.220 because I left it specifically so that I could have some peace,
00:23:19.860 then came on a podcast, so check me out.
00:23:23.000 But yeah.
00:23:24.780 Hi, Tanya.
00:23:26.340 So same reason as Cleo.
00:23:28.700 Oh, yeah, Michael, of course.
00:23:29.960 Great. Thank you.
00:23:31.780 Same reason as Cleo.
00:23:34.640 No socials at the moment for a piece of reasons,
00:23:37.040 but I think today's just been more observed,
00:23:40.500 so I just want to reflect back on what everyone said
00:23:42.860 and kind of moving forward to see how I feel about certain things.
00:23:47.860 Yeah, my name is Chyna, the mandem's voice.
00:23:51.880 Just thank you to everybody that's come to the show today.
00:23:53.960 It was a full cast.
00:23:55.340 I really enjoyed having, hearing all the different opinions and things as well.
00:24:01.780 Yeah, make sure you follow me on socials at my name is Chyna,
00:24:04.600 that's with a Y on TikTok and Instagram.
00:24:06.420 I want to give a shout out to, obviously, the live of the chat guys.
00:24:10.720 It was Doug MP and the rest of them.
00:24:12.020 Like, I really appreciate it because my YouTube has been getting more
00:24:15.720 and the views are getting more,
00:24:16.540 and that's happening because of all of you guys.
00:24:17.880 So I just want to thank you.
00:24:18.780 And obviously, always thank Pearl for having me on as a returning guest.
00:24:22.040 Yeah.
00:24:24.940 Final thoughts?
00:24:26.220 Just thanks for having me on the show.
00:24:29.080 I haven't got any socials that I'd necessarily want to share.
00:24:32.180 But yeah, I really appreciate listening to, like, Diverse Thought, really.
00:24:35.720 Thank you, Pearl.
00:24:42.480 Thank you, everyone.
00:24:43.260 Thank you, all the people in the back that you can't see.
00:24:45.780 Thank you, Chyna.
00:24:46.460 Thank you to everybody.
00:24:48.940 Social media, Instagram, sweet, sweet, underscore, juice.
00:24:53.180 And final thought is...
00:24:57.080 Poor men.
00:25:01.840 So my name is Jasmine Bruce.
00:25:04.080 On all platforms, realistically, J-A-Z-M-I-N-E-B-R-U-C-E. 1.00
00:25:08.880 Final thoughts, realistically, I'm glad to hear in one of the comments
00:25:14.940 that this has helped hear different views and stuff
00:25:19.880 and really changed them.
00:25:22.000 So I'm glad to hear that.
00:25:23.180 I just want to say thank you for having me.
00:25:25.560 Yeah.
00:25:27.640 Final thoughts.
00:25:28.880 I want to reiterate one of the super chats that said,
00:25:32.100 when men win, men and women win.
00:25:36.160 When the woman wins, the woman wins. 0.99
00:25:38.360 I just want to reiterate that
00:25:40.460 because we skipped over that too quickly.
00:25:42.940 We need to take that one in.
00:25:46.040 Go and check out 100% interviews on YouTube.
00:25:50.060 Go and follow the socials.
00:25:52.040 One hundred nine underscores
00:25:54.700 because that's what I could find.
00:25:56.280 And then the word percent.
00:25:57.920 Okay?
00:25:59.060 Love.
00:26:01.980 Hi, guys.
00:26:02.960 Thanks for having me.
00:26:03.960 My name's Jess.
00:26:04.900 I'm on Instagram.
00:26:05.980 I do R&B music.
00:26:07.100 You can follow me.
00:26:08.360 And it's Jessica, K-U-K-A, with another A on the end.
00:26:12.260 So, yeah, run that up.
00:26:13.400 And thanks, guys, for having me.
00:26:14.360 I think it's helpful to talk about these things
00:26:16.100 because, you know, everyone's got different opinions.
00:26:18.460 So it's refreshing to hear, Artie.
00:26:20.720 We had one or two more super chats and final thoughts.
00:26:25.100 So Q-Dub, a woman's job is to put you in a compromising position 1.00
00:26:30.500 to find out if she has the best guy.
00:26:33.060 Don't cry.
00:26:34.020 If you do so, it must be an emergency only.
00:26:37.180 Estelle Asala, my man cried in front of me 0.98
00:26:39.900 and we had the best night ever.
00:26:41.260 Four years.
00:26:41.820 I have never seen him down.
00:26:44.100 This one got me to melt and love him more.
00:26:46.620 Woke as panther.
00:26:47.780 Why do women... 1.00
00:26:48.540 Oh, I read that.
00:26:49.120 Okay.
00:26:49.760 Okay.
00:26:50.820 Thank you guys for liking the video.
00:26:53.100 Let's get 3,000 likes on this video.
00:26:55.260 We had over 3,000 people in the chat,
00:26:57.060 so I think we should have at least 3,000 likes.
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