Modern Women Get OFFENDED with These Trad-Wife
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss how to deal with criticism from family, friends and partners. We talk about how we deal with it, how we handle it and what we do to cope with it. We also talk about our own personal experiences with criticism and how we dealt with it in our relationships.
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Accept criticism a lot better than women because you know, it was hard for him
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Women in that in the bedroom. They're just like how dare you do you not get offended if your mom was picking something
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Yeah in the bedroom. Yeah, which is why I felt really bad when she told me that story because it made me think you know
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What I did that to someone and I didn't mean it in a malicious way. No, well, you should have
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Question he asked me the truth. He said I don't really I don't really felt like I thought I thought yeah, I just think four or five
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Yeah, I didn't just come out with it in a very blunt way. I was diplomatic. Yeah, but I don't really need
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Really honest is spiritually attacked me as well. It didn't it didn't just get me physically it made me feel
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When I'm the kind of person when I'm involved with someone I take on everything like their emotions that all right like I feel
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I just want to ask so was you've not attracted to him anymore because of that, but when you got together you said this is what
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He was like so surely you would know I was attracted to him
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It was painful to have sex with him. Oh because of his hip bones
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Sorry, I thought you said you wasn't finding it attractive. Sorry. Okay. It's it's also the it wasn't sexy. Yeah
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That so what's the longest I'm waiting to hear from everybody else she's five months
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No, no, I mean each person what's the longest each person I can't know two days
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That's what I meant because if you're in a relationship
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Do you know what? Yeah, it depends on the person
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I think if you start, no, I think if you used to a close
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Me personally after a couple of days, I'm like what's wrong?
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I think it's easy. I think it's easier to go longer if when you're not living together
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Like me and my partner wasn't living together. So yeah, that's why it probably had that
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But if we were living together, I 100% believe it would have been sooner. Yeah, so I can I answer your question though
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You know when you said our if your man commented on your body in the bedroom, wouldn't you be offended? I wouldn't
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Oh, no, I mean I wouldn't like I just do something about it
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It depends on what they say though and how they say it
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And I think it's also the heart behind it as well. Well, no yours as as well as the heart
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As well as the heart because I trust my husband so anything that he says I know it's not like malicious
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But also my husband is a bit of an enemy of my progress because I want to lose weight and he's very like oh, but you look amazing
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But sometimes I just feel like if your partner says oh, yeah, I'd love if you like toned up
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It gives you that extra motivation to go tone up. Do you know what I mean?
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I think there's a there's a way of going around it
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It's not like the person when you was when we was doing this and I felt this
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Yeah, there's a there's ways around it. My mama just say you're fat. You've got a buddy. Do think about it
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I was just gonna say I think it's all down to approach how yeah are said
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I agree with you because if let's say you're getting busy with your guy and you're saying oh, you're a bit heavy today
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Imagine you're in the moment and all of a sudden you're a bit heavy today
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No, I was just saying like if let's say you're in the moment, you know your mind's in a different universe and all of a sudden you hear silly comment like
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Like what does it matter how he says it? If it's true, it's true
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Personally in the moment, I don't think that matters if it's true or not
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I said I think it's important that you date guys that like your body type
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I probably would be more motivated to lose weight quicker
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There are a lot of men who still expect their women to
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Even if she doesn't look exactly like how they met before kids
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They still expect their women to look somewhat the same
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And there are a lot of women that feel offended by it
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Because it's like oh well I've pushed out this baby
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Well I just think sometimes men feel like they can't say things that are true to us
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And like we want them to communicate it in a feminine way
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So when you say like it's how you say it it's very confusing to guys
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I think men are required to be gentle with women
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So I think in the same way we should not expect men to deliver
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They need to recognize that they're not speaking to a male
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So yes I feel like men should be able to be truthful
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I just think that women need to grow a backbone
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If you've got to put on weight you've got to put on weight
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Because we're just quite straightforward and blunt
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And she's like no I don't really feel like I need you
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They don't want to put their kid at every statistical disadvantage
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It's like if they step out and you never find out
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Because you're not doing the things that they ask them to do
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No I know someone that said because he has a child
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But if he's unhappy he will go about his business behind her back
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Not because he fears that she would keep him away from him
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It's because he doesn't want his son to grow up
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I think there should be some kind of mutual agreement between the two parents
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No because she can get infected by what she doesn't know might hurt her
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He's gonna care so much about his wife's vagina
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Do you guys believe a man can love you but still cheat?
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I think sometimes they just fall under some stripper
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And he reckons all men cheat in a certain type of way
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He calls it like a transfer window like a window
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I think so but not like a long term relationship with a whole other family
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I really think guys can love two women at the same time
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You're gonna tell me that throughout all of history when it's 17
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It's one man reproduced for every 17 women that none of them loved their wives
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There's more men than women so technically like
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I think historically 80% of women have reproduced historically where only 40% of men have
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I think sometimes you find out who's who when you go to funerals and you find out who's that
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And that's when you find out sometime that the man had a whole family that nobody knew about
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I'm just saying that's how the world's always been
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I think it happens more with people older than me than now
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It seems to be like for the old people I'd say like 60 and 70
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They have somebody down the road they got a whole other family
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I think men are women God has made us differently
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You know that's what we want from a relationship
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Whereas for men they're more protectors providers
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They're more you know go out there and do the hard jobs that type of thing
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So for them what they want is to put it bluntly spread their seed
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Sorry do you think that he can love all his wives equally?
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Well yeah I mean that's one of the constraints in Islam
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If you're getting married to more than one wife you must treat her
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Both of them or four of them all four of them equally
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So if you buy this one a car you need to get four cars
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So if you can't if you're not that top guy that can do that
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You settle and you stay loyal to your one woman
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Because when they say I think people get mixed up when they say
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So you can have four wives you have to be able to afford four wives
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And the people the men that I've known that got other families
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And you find that the reason why they don't want to leave the wife
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Is because they've been together years and pension houses and children and college and everything
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But I've known people that have a secret family tucked away
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Because exactly what those kids are getting is exactly what those kids are getting
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Wow this is a lot different than the last show I did
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Who wants a man that everybody else is gonna want
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What is it called when people are in those open relationships
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They need to stay with the people that agree with that
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Okay I'm gonna take a second and read Super Chats
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Guys thank you for all the Super Chats this show
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The new show schedule is Thursdays and Saturdays
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So that is gonna be the show schedule moving forward
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The only exception to that is the last weekend of this month
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Men are required to be gentle with women because they're not the same
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While the current Western ideologues disagree with Transformers
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Children making those self-sterilizing decisions
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And let's not forget women demanding men read their minds
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I'm gonna have to wait until I'm at work later to watch and listen
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Willful cooperation aka submission comes from a position of power
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And remember paying for safety is a heavy price
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Modern women will deny their hot girl summer is limited not only by virtue of them aging
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A whole flock of single mothers saying they wouldn't accept a man with a second wife
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He's already accepting that he'd be your second husband
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You're saying you won't be feminine until someone brings that out of you
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It's like saying that I'm going to wear a dress and makeup until I find someone that brings out my masculine side
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Did you ever consider that you must be take care of a bull?
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The definition of modern woman is zero self-reflection
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You've helped me see the men's point of view and I'm so grateful
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Could you guys respect a man that you make more money than?
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I wouldn't respect a man that I make more money than
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And all I've got to do is pop a couple of utes out
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I don't think that's the typical stay at home mom's experience
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You could still be a stay at home wife on a more normal salary
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It just means cutting off like going down in lifestyle
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And do everything that you know I would be working to provide half of
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Because to be honest you know I am a working woman
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You know that morning rush to get that little four year old ready
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And I've got a rush I get her in the car drop her off
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I've done a whole shift before I've gone to work
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And then I've got to deal with people that I work with
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Oh don't put any meetings in her diary after five o'clock
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And there's that stigma that you've got to deal with
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I would not leave an opportunity to make more money
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So essentially if I brought more money into the house
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But as long as I can give myself the space to do the extra
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If my whole life was just at home with the kids
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Only because I had a lifestyle before getting married that I liked
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And so I think here I have the best of both worlds
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Could you respect a man that you make more than?
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He has to be someone that gets up in the morning
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Is he the kind of guy that wakes up and plays video games
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But how many girls are on social media for hours?
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But I know he's not like the richest guy in the world
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So how do you know that you earn more than him?
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So this is why when guys say like you're healing
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It took me a long time to even go on a date with someone
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Right but you told me you were healing earlier in Australia
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And now you're telling me you met the guy in Australia
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But they're not denying what you're saying though
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I just think that you need professional healing
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I tell you from the day that I broke up with him
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The universe just keeps giving you the same person in different forms
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So you need to be alone and happy within yourself
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And then something that you obviously think is for you
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So that's why the world isn't bringing you someone
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Is saying actually I need to be back in something
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How did you know his company by him just saying hi though?
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Did you have that with the last person who was your friend
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Okay, where were we in the room with the money question?
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I'm not really materialistic about stuff like that
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Yeah, if he's unemployed for two years, I'm out
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But how much you'd like him to bring him a movie for a month?
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