JustPearlyThings - November 08, 2023


Modern Women Get PETTY with Men's Leadership Role in The Society


Episode Stats

Length

33 minutes

Words per Minute

213.21268

Word Count

7,068

Sentence Count

732

Misogynist Sentences

86

Hate Speech Sentences

59


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Plus a guy turns around starts rubbernecking, oh yeah, nice one.
00:00:03.800 Rubbernecking is like a saying of like when a guy, you know, breaks his neck to like put jesters at a woman or just throw things out.
00:00:09.000 Throw things out?
00:00:10.000 Yeah, throw things out verbally, like messages, like whether you can say like a wolf whistle.
00:00:14.000 Oh, he catcalls.
00:00:16.000 There's so many different terminologies, but rubbernecking is a terminology, obviously catcalling is another terminology.
00:00:21.000 Wait, what does the catcalling have to do with them?
00:00:23.000 Catcalling is more a vocalization, whereas the rubbernecking is the turning of the neck.
00:00:27.000 Yeah, but it was both, that's my point.
00:00:29.000 It's like when they're like, damn.
00:00:30.000 Yes, that's what I'm trying to say, yeah.
00:00:32.000 Is that bad?
00:00:33.000 No, I'm giving you, I'm trying to land.
00:00:35.000 I'm just asking.
00:00:36.000 Not necessarily that's a bad or a good thing, but the point I'm trying to make is the advert was stating sexual harassment.
00:00:40.000 And they were saying that basically within that situation, let me land quickly, the guy turned around and his friend basically was like to him, like, don't do that.
00:00:47.000 Like, he stepped in and allowed him to like understand that maybe that woman might feel it's inappropriate.
00:00:51.000 Maybe to his mind, he's just like, oh, what's your number? You look nice.
00:00:54.000 Them jeans look tight or whatever he's going to say.
00:00:56.000 Do you feel that's SA?
00:00:57.000 To me personally, I've got a bit of a stronger exterior and interior.
00:01:01.000 So those things don't really phase me depending on how I'm approached.
00:01:04.000 So for myself, no.
00:01:05.000 But for another woman that's a bit more fragile than me, a bit less.
00:01:07.000 Do you think that's confusing for men?
00:01:09.000 It can be at times, but someone would accept that.
00:01:11.000 Because the number one, like even with the workplace, the number one, before dating apps, the number one place that people would meet was work.
00:01:18.000 Mm-hmm.
00:01:19.000 So it's kind of confusing because sometimes girls are into it when their bosses hit on them.
00:01:25.000 This is the thing.
00:01:26.000 And other times, like girls actively seek out their bosses and try to sleep with them.
00:01:30.000 Women are different.
00:01:31.000 But is it not about reading the room?
00:01:32.000 Women are different.
00:01:33.000 Yeah.
00:01:34.000 Read the room.
00:01:35.000 Yeah.
00:01:36.000 What do you mean?
00:01:37.000 For example, if there's a female who's interested in her boss, that's different to a female who the male manager needs to read the room that that colleague is not interested in.
00:01:46.000 Do you think girls ever give mixed signals or flirt for attention?
00:01:51.000 We definitely do.
00:01:52.000 I don't know.
00:01:53.000 Who said we definitely?
00:01:54.000 We definitely do.
00:01:55.000 So do you think that's confusing for men?
00:01:57.000 I feel like women have sexual, sex appeal.
00:02:00.000 Like we have sexual attractions that we can, you know, sometimes put out consciously or unconsciously to male counterparts.
00:02:06.000 And they can take it upon themselves to decide whether it's deliberate or, you know, she just accidentally walked past me and her bum was shaking.
00:02:13.000 Was she shaking her bum when she was walking past me?
00:02:15.000 Right.
00:02:16.000 But I'm saying like one girl, you know, he might turn and say, damn, and one girl might think that's disgusting and be traumatized.
00:02:22.000 And one girl might be like, okay, you know, and so you don't think that's confusing for men?
00:02:26.000 It can be, but I feel like that's where you then break the ice with vocalization.
00:02:30.000 You start vocalizing like, Rah, do you, do you, you know, do you feel comfortable with what I'm saying?
00:02:34.000 Or, you know, you try to break the ice.
00:02:35.000 Some guys don't tend to go into it.
00:02:37.000 They just keep it at that level of, you know, snappiness.
00:02:39.000 Like they're trying to be charming or witty or whatever it is where other guys have a bit more context to them.
00:02:43.000 They will be like, you know, I would like to speak to you or, you know, I thought that comment would be, you know, something that would get your attention.
00:02:48.000 This is why I don't move to girls.
00:02:49.000 I said it before.
00:02:50.000 I say it to Cameron.
00:02:51.000 No, I don't.
00:02:52.000 No, I don't move to girls.
00:02:53.000 I haven't, I haven't moved.
00:02:54.000 Actually, to be fair, to be fair.
00:02:56.000 How do you meet me?
00:02:57.000 I'll tell you.
00:02:58.000 Girls move to me.
00:02:59.000 How did you find your girl?
00:03:00.000 No, so, no, I'm being serious.
00:03:02.000 Girls, like, I'm not joking.
00:03:03.000 Girls move to me.
00:03:04.000 I haven't moved to girls in the longest time.
00:03:06.000 How do you feel about that?
00:03:07.000 Do you feel like you're being sexually harassed or maybe put upon?
00:03:09.000 No, okay.
00:03:10.000 How do they move to you?
00:03:11.000 Grab your fire?
00:03:12.000 No.
00:03:13.000 See, this is, so when you, so when a man moves to you, how does he grab your fire?
00:03:16.000 And some guys have done different actions.
00:03:17.000 But that's not moving to you.
00:03:18.000 Everyone is different.
00:03:19.000 Is it not?
00:03:20.000 That might be in his mind.
00:03:21.000 That might be his level of.
00:03:22.000 Okay.
00:03:23.000 Okay.
00:03:24.000 I think, I think if you don't know how to approach someone, if you have to, if you, if I move
00:03:26.000 up to a girl, I don't know and I'll grab her thigh.
00:03:28.000 What do you think is going to happen to me?
00:03:29.000 We're just speaking about this.
00:03:30.000 So that's just, let's just take that away.
00:03:31.000 If you allow.
00:03:32.000 Carl just said a girl might accept that and another girl might not.
00:03:34.000 No, but no man should be.
00:03:35.000 No man.
00:03:36.000 Okay.
00:03:37.000 Guys, let me put in the camera.
00:03:38.000 No.
00:03:39.000 The guys do.
00:03:40.000 Testing the waters.
00:03:41.000 It's some guys, the guys you deal with.
00:03:42.000 I would never go.
00:03:43.000 No, I've never dealt with a guy that's ever done that.
00:03:44.000 Okay.
00:03:45.000 So then, so then who are we talking about?
00:03:46.000 I'm giving experiences and obviously I've been in this lifetime for a while to have experiences
00:03:51.000 and see things.
00:03:52.000 You know, not necessarily every experience is my personal experience.
00:03:54.000 It might be a bad curious experience through someone else's life, you know?
00:03:56.000 But I think, okay.
00:03:57.000 So when we're talking about experience, let's try and keep to what we know, what's happened
00:04:01.000 to us.
00:04:02.000 Because if I say, no, because when I say, okay, for example, when we say women, we say
00:04:10.000 modern women, because we're not speaking about all women.
00:04:12.000 And when we speak-
00:04:13.000 Well, modern men, a lot of modern men are very forward, especially with the lifestyle
00:04:17.000 and living that has been accommodated these days.
00:04:19.000 They're very forward with their personas, should I say, the way they want to move.
00:04:23.000 And I feel like they have to uphold a certain level of interaction to make it make sense in
00:04:28.000 their minds.
00:04:29.000 And they say that it needs to make sense in the actual physicality.
00:04:32.000 In their minds, it looks good.
00:04:33.000 Okay.
00:04:34.000 So let me get back to what I was talking about.
00:04:35.000 I'm not moving to girls.
00:04:36.000 So, especially with the whole Me Too movement.
00:04:37.000 Yeah.
00:04:38.000 What's happening now is yeah.
00:04:39.000 Like this is, I've always been this way before.
00:04:41.000 But I'm going to say to men, the reason why, so we don't know what, for one woman,
00:04:46.000 it's okay to, you know, pull up on and say, yo, do the whole Chris Brown thing.
00:04:49.000 Excuse me, miss.
00:04:50.000 You know?
00:04:51.000 Yeah.
00:04:52.000 The whole nineties R and B, like pull up on the car.
00:04:54.000 But it might be cute for you.
00:04:55.000 For another woman, it might be a red flag.
00:04:57.000 It might be, it might trigger trauma, right?
00:04:58.000 So it's pretty safe for me to say that if you want a man to come up to you, and this
00:05:02.000 is what women used to do of old, you will let a man know.
00:05:05.000 There's a lot of ways that a woman can let a man know that she wants him to come up to
00:05:08.000 us.
00:05:09.000 She can, you know, you, listen, we have all these women here.
00:05:11.000 I'm sure if you want to let a man know to approach you, you know how to do it.
00:05:13.000 Women have been doing this forever, right?
00:05:14.000 You can look at a man, you can smile at a man, you can wink, you could even walk past
00:05:18.000 him and drop something and make him pick it up and make him come to get it.
00:05:20.000 And then you can do that, right?
00:05:22.000 Women know how to make a man know to approach you.
00:05:24.000 That's the difference between a random girl walking past me and me trying to grab up her
00:05:27.000 arm and say excuse.
00:05:28.000 She's like, who are you?
00:05:29.000 She's going about her business.
00:05:30.000 It's called yes and no.
00:05:32.000 What do you mean?
00:05:33.000 It's a simple yes and no.
00:05:34.000 What do you mean?
00:05:35.000 What do I mean?
00:05:36.000 You're saying that a woman lets you know whether she's interested.
00:05:39.000 Yes.
00:05:40.000 Yo, come.
00:05:41.000 No, I'm not interested.
00:05:42.000 It's a simple yes or no.
00:05:43.000 No, no.
00:05:44.000 So as a woman, yeah, as a woman, I don't even have to get to that point.
00:05:46.000 I don't have to approach you.
00:05:47.000 You can literally look at me.
00:05:48.000 And if you look at me in a way that you want to-
00:05:50.000 Okay, so if I give you a look right now, that makes you feel like I like you.
00:05:52.000 What's happening?
00:05:53.000 I'll approach you.
00:05:54.000 Speak to you.
00:05:55.000 Approach me how?
00:05:56.000 What's your approach?
00:05:57.000 What I said, what's your approach?
00:05:58.000 I've winked at you.
00:05:59.000 I don't know.
00:06:00.000 I start licking my lips.
00:06:01.000 I don't know.
00:06:02.000 What do you do?
00:06:03.000 I'll be like, do you need some Vaseline?
00:06:04.000 Clearly I've already got gloss, so is that-
00:06:05.000 No, but you're licking your-
00:06:07.000 No, no, no.
00:06:08.000 No, no.
00:06:09.000 Stop it.
00:06:10.000 Stop it.
00:06:11.000 I feel I'm scared.
00:06:12.000 No, no, no.
00:06:13.000 Pearl, hold on.
00:06:14.000 Hold on a second.
00:06:15.000 We're not on the original topic.
00:06:16.000 We need to move on.
00:06:17.000 Yeah.
00:06:18.000 Okay.
00:06:19.000 Okay.
00:06:20.000 So, what about you?
00:06:21.000 Oh, wait, no.
00:06:22.000 You were next.
00:06:23.000 You were next, right?
00:06:24.000 Did you go?
00:06:25.000 Because we're talking about-
00:06:26.000 Yeah.
00:06:27.000 Okay.
00:06:28.000 What is your overall experience with female leadership compared with male leadership in your industry?
00:06:31.000 I'll be brief.
00:06:32.000 Laudiel.
00:06:33.000 That's how far we went off it.
00:06:36.000 I'll be brief.
00:06:37.000 So far.
00:06:38.000 Wow.
00:06:39.000 I've had both.
00:06:41.000 I enjoy men.
00:06:42.000 I personally respect men's decision making.
00:06:45.000 It's quicker.
00:06:46.000 It's less layers.
00:06:47.000 It's less fuss.
00:06:48.000 I don't care if you can't do something because you're on your period.
00:06:51.000 Let's move.
00:06:52.000 Thank you.
00:06:53.000 It's extremely exhausting when, especially in a business place, we need to make decisions
00:06:57.000 quick and they need to be innovative.
00:06:59.000 So, with women, I'm not saying they're not these things, but it takes them longer to make
00:07:02.000 that decision to be innovative.
00:07:03.000 It takes them longer to make a decision.
00:07:05.000 The decision keeps changing.
00:07:07.000 I'm not saying men don't have that capacity, but that capacity seems to be shorter, which
00:07:11.000 is what I enjoy more.
00:07:14.000 I've experienced-
00:07:16.000 You feel that way about yourself?
00:07:17.000 What do you mean?
00:07:18.000 What you just said about women leaders.
00:07:20.000 Yeah.
00:07:21.000 I wouldn't-
00:07:22.000 Yep.
00:07:23.000 I wouldn't want to-
00:07:24.000 I would be my own boss if I had to-
00:07:27.000 So much.
00:07:28.000 If I had to lead, I would prefer a male boss.
00:07:32.000 That's just me.
00:07:33.000 Like, I'm just like, I do what I do.
00:07:37.000 You do what you do.
00:07:38.000 I agree with you.
00:07:39.000 I just think they're better at it.
00:07:40.000 Yeah.
00:07:41.000 I just prefer my feminine power to be, I feel like they need me and I need them.
00:07:46.000 I don't even, just because his title is more, I'm like, I'm the underdog.
00:07:52.000 He can't do nothing without me.
00:07:54.000 Okay.
00:07:55.000 This man needs me.
00:07:56.000 Okay.
00:07:57.000 Men need women.
00:07:59.000 I'm so confident in that fact of men needing women.
00:08:02.000 No.
00:08:03.000 I'm chilled.
00:08:04.000 Women need men.
00:08:05.000 I'm chilled.
00:08:06.000 Like, cool.
00:08:07.000 If you need to have, have the title, darling.
00:08:09.000 I don't mind.
00:08:10.000 Is money coming in?
00:08:13.000 Love it.
00:08:14.000 I've had inappropriate on both ends, male and female.
00:08:17.000 The female inappropriateness was the bullying, the patronizing, the being weird with other people and the gossiping.
00:08:25.000 That's what I didn't like.
00:08:26.000 There was a lack of integrity.
00:08:28.000 Like, why are you spreading these beautiful girls business?
00:08:31.000 Isn't that mad?
00:08:32.000 80% of bullying is from women.
00:08:34.000 I believe it.
00:08:35.000 Yeah.
00:08:36.000 When I heard the statistics, it made sense to me.
00:08:37.000 Yeah.
00:08:38.000 That's over 60,000, like 60,000 people took that.
00:08:41.000 I believe that.
00:08:42.000 I genuinely believe that.
00:08:43.000 They just be weird.
00:08:45.000 But inappropriate with the men, it's been flirting.
00:08:48.000 Or sometimes it's just the inappropriateness for me is you're really chilling, like scratching your balls at the top because you're like, I'm the man sort of thing.
00:08:58.000 And I feel like that's inappropriate.
00:09:00.000 What do you mean chilling, scratching their...
00:09:02.000 People at the top work like 80...
00:09:04.000 Like, my dad is one of those CEOs.
00:09:06.000 He works 80 hours a week my whole life.
00:09:08.000 And respect to your dad, but that's your dad.
00:09:11.000 Some people get to the top and start chilling and they just...
00:09:15.000 Like, I'm not saying your job isn't to chill because you've worked your way.
00:09:18.000 It should be smarter, not harder at that point.
00:09:20.000 But I mean, scratching their balls is like taking a way too relaxed approach.
00:09:25.000 Do you know these men and like the 1%, 2%, 3%?
00:09:29.000 What do you mean online?
00:09:30.000 Do you know them personally?
00:09:31.000 Yeah, I've worked for just like two, but the inappropriateness was like one was really relaxed and just taking drugs.
00:09:37.000 Like, drugs.
00:09:39.000 You're going in, buddy.
00:09:41.000 Like, hello.
00:09:42.000 We have a restaurant to run.
00:09:45.000 Hello.
00:09:46.000 Because he's the boss and he's at the top, where I find women to be not more scared, but they would think in way more layers than to do that.
00:09:53.000 Men is just like, I'm risking it for the biscuit.
00:09:55.000 And that's all I have to say.
00:09:56.000 Yeah, men are more risky.
00:09:57.000 I agree with you.
00:09:58.000 Go ahead.
00:09:59.000 Even when you think about FMCG and you go above and a few levels and okay, there are less women there.
00:10:04.000 And they are looked upon.
00:10:05.000 At what?
00:10:06.000 Wait, say that again.
00:10:07.000 Sorry.
00:10:08.000 I don't know what FMC...
00:10:09.000 Sorry.
00:10:10.000 Is that a British thing?
00:10:11.000 This is a British thing.
00:10:12.000 Is it like a business type?
00:10:13.000 Yeah.
00:10:14.000 This is an acronym.
00:10:15.000 I'm sorry.
00:10:16.000 I should put like five pound in a jar to tell everybody.
00:10:18.000 I am the worst person.
00:10:19.000 I do it at work as well.
00:10:20.000 And now I've done it just in front of many people.
00:10:23.000 Fast moving consumer goods.
00:10:25.000 So you have to be able to make decisions quickly.
00:10:27.000 You have to be innovative.
00:10:29.000 I work in that role right now.
00:10:30.000 I just feel like women are getting a really bad bum deal out of this.
00:10:34.000 The harder we work, the higher we go.
00:10:36.000 We're still dicks because we have to behave in the same way, but not the same way.
00:10:40.000 Like, I'm doing it.
00:10:41.000 I'm living it.
00:10:42.000 I really think it's not that deep, guys.
00:10:43.000 Like, it doesn't matter what you have.
00:10:45.000 Just get on with it.
00:10:46.000 JFDI.
00:10:47.000 Just fucking do it.
00:10:48.000 Like, let's go.
00:10:50.000 What do you mean?
00:10:51.000 Like, I just find that this whole dichotomy between men and women and like, if they're
00:10:57.000 a bad boss, they're a bad boss.
00:10:59.000 It doesn't matter.
00:11:00.000 Well, I think what's interesting is that women, men, most men say they don't have a preference.
00:11:05.000 It was like 50-50, where women say they don't like working for women.
00:11:09.000 Yeah.
00:11:10.000 So it's...
00:11:11.000 I don't know.
00:11:12.000 And maybe I have a difficulty with personal experience, but I've had a bad woman boss and
00:11:16.000 I've had a bad man boss, but I've had lots of bosses and I've been a boss.
00:11:20.000 And my personal experience is that if you're a dick, you're a dick.
00:11:24.000 It doesn't matter what genitalia you have.
00:11:26.000 You're going to be a dick.
00:11:27.000 Okay.
00:11:28.000 What do you think?
00:11:29.000 Well, yeah, I agree, realistically, on that point.
00:11:32.000 Um, I have very limited personal experience, but, um, I've had, yeah, both.
00:11:38.000 Like, realistically, in my experience, the female, like onsite manager was horrible.
00:11:46.000 Like personal, like going to personal topics.
00:11:49.000 Um, but that was on the situation.
00:11:52.000 To be honest, I think it's just dependent on the person realistically, because there are
00:11:56.000 different experiences from everybody here about a male manager being an appropriate female
00:12:01.000 manager being inappropriate.
00:12:02.000 I know we're generalising, but I just think, yeah, it's dependent on the person realistically.
00:12:07.000 My experience, um, my manager was a male.
00:12:12.000 Um, he was fine, but he was in a relationship.
00:12:15.000 It's very different, like, you know, scenes.
00:12:19.000 But, uh, onsite female manager wasn't great, but it was personal.
00:12:23.000 You know, she was older than me.
00:12:25.000 She was jealous in a way of different experiences.
00:12:28.000 But, I do think if it was a different, um, experience with the...
00:12:33.000 Yeah, well, yeah, it's like, it was, yeah, the experience was very, um, awkward between me and her.
00:12:42.000 It became personal without me wanting it to be at all.
00:12:45.000 But, um, yeah.
00:12:47.000 Some people just, some people just, like, they don't care.
00:12:51.000 Some people just go for it.
00:12:52.000 Hey, um, I need you guys to stop with the side talking.
00:12:55.000 Um, because we can hear it in the mics.
00:12:57.000 Go ahead.
00:12:58.000 Yeah, but realistically, my experience is more, and obviously, my female manager wasn't as good as the male.
00:13:05.000 However, I don't think that can speak for everybody and a general experience of, is male management better than female?
00:13:15.000 You know what I mean?
00:13:16.000 Mm-hmm.
00:13:17.000 Okay.
00:13:18.000 Um, what, what about you?
00:13:20.000 I mean, I don't have much experience, but, like, from what I've experienced, I definitely prefer, like, male leadership for sure.
00:13:26.000 Because I feel, sorry, I feel like it's more of a relaxed environment.
00:13:31.000 Like, with women, it's always, oh, this, this, and this, this, and that.
00:13:35.000 It's like, I don't have time for it.
00:13:36.000 We're all here for £10.50 an hour, like, we're not, like, you know, much different.
00:13:41.000 So, like, like I said, I don't have much experience, but I definitely prefer male leadership.
00:13:44.000 It's more laid back.
00:13:45.000 We can get on with our jobs and that's that.
00:13:47.000 Do you know what I mean?
00:13:48.000 I agree.
00:13:49.000 Do you guys think it's, um, offensive to make general statements about a gender?
00:13:53.000 No.
00:13:54.000 Example?
00:13:55.000 Yeah.
00:13:56.000 Men tend to be better in leadership.
00:13:58.000 I mean, stereotypes are there for a reason.
00:14:00.000 And they come from somewhere, you know.
00:14:01.000 Right.
00:14:02.000 But overall, we are generalizing.
00:14:03.000 And I feel like there's a lot of, like, women bashing right now within the workplace.
00:14:09.000 But if we look at it as well, you know, in history, the women went to work, what, sort
00:14:15.000 of from the 50s and 60s.
00:14:16.000 And whereas we first had, you know, the women being the homeowner, uh, home-maker.
00:14:22.000 Homemaker.
00:14:23.000 Homemaker.
00:14:24.000 That's the word I'm looking for.
00:14:25.000 You also work on, like, the farm, too.
00:14:26.000 Yeah.
00:14:27.000 I'm only US.
00:14:28.000 Sorry, I'm thinking US.
00:14:29.000 Actually, I was thinking about the US, too.
00:14:31.000 That's where I read the statistics from.
00:14:33.000 But basically, when the women went into the workforce, sort of the family side of things
00:14:38.000 struggled.
00:14:39.000 That was also when divorce rates went up by, I think, like, 80% or something crazy like
00:14:43.000 that.
00:14:44.000 But overall...
00:14:45.000 It was also after the development of birth control.
00:14:46.000 Yes.
00:14:47.000 It all came around the same, same time.
00:14:49.000 Yeah.
00:14:50.000 But I mean, um...
00:14:51.000 They're like, bring me back to the street.
00:14:53.000 I think if we're gonna be that particular, like, men are better than leaders, oh, where's
00:15:00.000 this world going?
00:15:01.000 I can't say nothing.
00:15:02.000 I can't just think out loud at this point.
00:15:05.000 Bloody hell.
00:15:06.000 No.
00:15:07.000 So you're saying we should be able to say that?
00:15:09.000 It's just your opinion.
00:15:10.000 Yeah.
00:15:11.000 Exactly.
00:15:12.000 It's not calling anybody, hasn't got any references into anything graphic or inappropriate.
00:15:16.000 Bloody hell.
00:15:17.000 If that's gonna be a problem, I'll arrest me now.
00:15:19.000 Yeah, because I just don't know.
00:15:20.000 We keep saying there are exceptions, and I'm like, I know there are exceptions.
00:15:24.000 But, like, we can make general statements about...
00:15:26.000 To be fair, though, I do think it depends on the topic with generalization.
00:15:31.000 Like, the topics that we had before that were very, like, it can be very, yeah, touchy
00:15:36.000 subjects, generalizing can be too much.
00:15:39.000 Like, when you were both going and talking about, like, the specifics of the numbers you
00:15:43.000 were using, it can be dependent on the topic, really.
00:15:46.000 Generalization, we all do it with everything.
00:15:49.000 But, yeah, with certain subjects, you have to be a bit more particular.
00:15:53.000 I think nowadays, with the rise and evolution of feminism, more women who hear
00:16:05.000 certain generalizations that don't necessarily paint women in a good light, will take umbrage
00:16:14.000 to those generalizations.
00:16:16.000 And then those will be...
00:16:17.000 They will be the ones to say something, you know, get triggered and want to kind of dispute
00:16:22.000 it or...
00:16:23.000 Even if it's a factual thing, they will still say, I don't agree.
00:16:28.000 You can still fudge the numbers, though.
00:16:30.000 So, statistically, there are more men in the workforce.
00:16:33.000 Therefore, the statistics will lean better into their favor.
00:16:36.000 So, in order to say that men are better leaders, numerically, they are better leaders
00:16:41.000 because they are more in the workforce.
00:16:42.000 No, because they asked women.
00:16:44.000 The study I was saying was they picked female-led industries.
00:16:49.000 What were the female-led industries?
00:16:51.000 You have to be very careful.
00:16:52.000 I can read it.
00:16:53.000 You have to be very careful, pearly things.
00:16:56.000 Why?
00:16:57.000 About statistics.
00:16:58.000 Why?
00:16:59.000 Because...
00:17:00.000 What should we go off?
00:17:01.000 Wait, wait, wait.
00:17:02.000 What should...
00:17:03.000 Wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:17:04.000 Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:17:06.000 What should...
00:17:07.000 Guys, guys.
00:17:08.000 What should...
00:17:09.000 Guys, who's laughing in the mic?
00:17:10.000 It's me.
00:17:11.000 I'm sorry.
00:17:12.000 I apologize.
00:17:13.000 What should we go off our feelings?
00:17:14.000 If we don't go off of stats, what are we going to go off of?
00:17:16.000 I can...
00:17:17.000 Like, who wrote these statistics?
00:17:18.000 Who funded these statistics?
00:17:19.000 Who filled them in?
00:17:20.000 Thank you.
00:17:21.000 The...
00:17:22.000 Let's see.
00:17:23.000 The...
00:17:24.000 A new study, UCLA.
00:17:25.000 Okay.
00:17:26.000 Any more information?
00:17:27.000 Any more information?
00:17:28.000 Yeah, I know the...
00:17:29.000 I know the university.
00:17:30.000 Thank you.
00:17:31.000 Yeah, it says a...
00:17:32.000 We've taught at UCLA.
00:17:33.000 Um...
00:17:34.000 UCLA.
00:17:35.000 A much smaller survey by UCLA law firm staff.
00:17:39.000 UCLA?
00:17:40.000 Yeah, it's a college.
00:17:41.000 This is an American.
00:17:42.000 Mm-hmm.
00:17:43.000 So it's not UCLA.
00:17:44.000 No, they took stats from the UK too, I think.
00:17:49.000 No, no, this is American.
00:17:50.000 Oh, it's American.
00:17:51.000 Yeah.
00:17:52.000 Interesting.
00:17:53.000 I think what she's trying to say...
00:17:54.000 Thank you.
00:17:55.000 ...is just how many people would actually fill out stuff to do with this.
00:18:01.000 And then those demographical people...
00:18:04.000 I don't care for what I'm actually saying.
00:18:06.000 I'm just trying to reference what she's saying.
00:18:07.000 So those people that would fill out a survey versus people that wouldn't fill out a survey.
00:18:11.000 This is juice.
00:18:12.000 It's just...
00:18:13.000 I just feel like sometimes we jump through hoops whenever women...
00:18:16.000 I'm okay.
00:18:17.000 I just feel like sometimes...
00:18:18.000 I feel like we jump through hoops whenever women look bad.
00:18:22.000 Like to somehow change the narrative for us not to look bad.
00:18:25.000 But we can say women run the world and nobody even pushes back on that.
00:18:29.000 Okay.
00:18:30.000 Great.
00:18:31.000 So it's like, you have to understand, we can always...
00:18:34.000 With statistics, okay, so men lie, women lie, numbers don't lie.
00:18:38.000 But numbers can be manipulated depending on who's looking at them and what they wanted to say.
00:18:41.000 So we can say that, right?
00:18:43.000 But if we look generally how the world since the beginning of time has done censuses,
00:18:48.000 then we take the majority or we take a slice of it and then we generalize, right?
00:18:53.000 If we don't do that, we will never ever able to come to some type of like general, you know, decision on something.
00:19:00.000 So we have to do that.
00:19:01.000 It might not be perfect.
00:19:02.000 Sometimes some people might get roped into it.
00:19:04.000 Some people might get left out.
00:19:05.000 Some people might get left out.
00:19:06.000 But this is the best that we have.
00:19:08.000 At the moment.
00:19:09.000 And this is what the world has been using since the beginning of time.
00:19:12.000 From when Pontius Pilate had to go do censuses and go...
00:19:16.000 Literally from them times there, from when the Passover was happening
00:19:19.000 and they wanted to know how many people were inside each...
00:19:21.000 From them times there, they'd be taking numbers down, yeah?
00:19:23.000 So unless one of you guys can give me...
00:19:25.000 I was going to say, I can.
00:19:27.000 Go on, give me one.
00:19:28.000 On that note.
00:19:29.000 Because you're speaking about before the dawn of time.
00:19:31.000 Before the dawn of time, it was a man's world.
00:19:33.000 That's the saying that a lot of people like to bring up from back in the day.
00:19:35.000 Like it's a man's world.
00:19:36.000 Everything's very man-made.
00:19:37.000 That's basically...
00:19:38.000 Because men built the world.
00:19:39.000 Yeah, but for me it's like condition of the mind.
00:19:41.000 See it from my perspective.
00:19:42.000 I did psychology.
00:19:43.000 So I believe that everything is like some form of like interjectory.
00:19:46.000 It's like planting a seed.
00:19:47.000 It's going to grow.
00:19:48.000 If I'm always surrounded by male counterparts in power.
00:19:50.000 If I'm always being told that a male is the one that's meant to hold me down.
00:19:53.000 You know, protect me.
00:19:54.000 Like a male is meant to be, you know, my version of God essentially.
00:19:58.000 Because he's meant to be my everything at this point.
00:20:00.000 This is the society that they built up on.
00:20:01.000 We've created a modernized...
00:20:02.000 But women couldn't do it.
00:20:03.000 There's no society...
00:20:04.000 Not to say that we couldn't.
00:20:05.000 We wasn't given a chance to.
00:20:06.000 No, we were.
00:20:07.000 That we could have done it just like the men did it.
00:20:08.000 But like, no, but wait, wait, but no, but no society that stood...
00:20:11.000 Wait, wait, wait.
00:20:12.000 Stop.
00:20:13.000 Do not interrupt me.
00:20:14.000 No, no society that has stood the test of time was run by women.
00:20:18.000 Women had just as much opportunity as men.
00:20:20.000 I believe they might have not.
00:20:22.000 And men still run the world.
00:20:23.000 I mean, they run our whole infrastructure.
00:20:25.000 If men disappeared tomorrow, like the lights would go out.
00:20:28.000 The plumbing would stop.
00:20:29.000 Where if women disappeared, they would be fine.
00:20:31.000 It's possible to an extent.
00:20:33.000 But the point I'm trying to make is that imagine if you're only being surrounded by male energy.
00:20:39.000 You're not going to know any difference to them.
00:20:41.000 Yeah, but I want to know.
00:20:42.000 I want to know.
00:20:43.000 That's why the statistics.
00:20:44.000 Yeah.
00:20:45.000 Given more prominent male.
00:20:46.000 Do you get it?
00:20:47.000 Because everyone's been surrounded by males.
00:20:48.000 No.
00:20:49.000 If you were forced to be in a female, you know.
00:20:51.000 I am.
00:20:52.000 Okay, so.
00:20:53.000 Management wise.
00:20:54.000 We're talking about management.
00:20:55.000 No, but I'm talking about consensus.
00:20:56.000 I'm talking about census and getting a demographic of people.
00:20:58.000 I want to know how the fact that men, like men are there.
00:21:01.000 Like what you say makes 60,000 women or the census say that actually working for women creates more problems.
00:21:06.000 I want to know what has men done to make women say actually if I work for women, I don't actually like it as much.
00:21:12.000 60,000.
00:21:13.000 60,000.
00:21:14.000 Men are attracted to women.
00:21:16.000 So of course women are going to have a better working experience working for men.
00:21:22.000 Women are attracted to men.
00:21:25.000 And the sky is blue.
00:21:30.000 And the statistic supports that that says that women prefer having a male as a boss.
00:21:36.000 Yeah, but I'm saying it's equal.
00:21:37.000 It's equal.
00:21:38.000 But the only difference is that women, women don't like working for women.
00:21:41.000 They like working for men.
00:21:42.000 Men say I don't care.
00:21:43.000 Do you know what?
00:21:44.000 I feel like men have a certain approach like we were saying.
00:21:46.000 Women and men are very different in the workplace.
00:21:47.000 And I feel like their approaches are different.
00:21:49.000 So maybe males tend to like interact with women and they're more like, you know, they understand the nature of women.
00:21:54.000 Hiring people has actually like kind of put me like understand like why there's more men and leadership positions and positions of power.
00:22:04.000 Because I found like the best paid jobs and the high like jobs like women don't want to do because it's they're stressful.
00:22:11.000 So like, so I'll give you an example.
00:22:14.000 So my recruiting, my recruiter, like that's probably one of the highest paid jobs I have.
00:22:19.000 That's a really hard job to get that many people in like what I need 20 to 50 girls four days a week.
00:22:26.000 That's really hard and it's stressful because if you don't get me guests like the whole show fails.
00:22:30.000 So it's it's paid well, but it's also high stress.
00:22:33.000 But I had my roommate just I said you would make way more money.
00:22:38.000 You can do this job.
00:22:39.000 She did it for a week.
00:22:40.000 She said you can't pay me to do this.
00:22:41.000 This sucks.
00:22:42.000 And when I and when I I brought the job to my team, no one on my team wanted to do it.
00:22:46.000 And it's like they could make double what they're making at their jobs that they do.
00:22:49.000 But it's hard.
00:22:50.000 Are you sure does?
00:22:51.000 I agree.
00:22:52.000 But that may be a little bit of law of average as well.
00:22:55.000 Yeah.
00:22:56.000 What do you mean?
00:22:57.000 Law of average of like obviously it would have been a waste of time and money.
00:23:00.000 That's why you wouldn't have gone the route of law on average.
00:23:02.000 But if you tried more and more girls, you would have stumbled across one that could handle it.
00:23:07.000 You didn't like them as you chose.
00:23:09.000 I'm not saying that like no women can do it.
00:23:11.000 That's not what I'm saying.
00:23:12.000 No, I know you're not saying that.
00:23:13.000 I would kill.
00:23:14.000 I used to do recruiting.
00:23:16.000 I would kill.
00:23:17.000 Oh my God.
00:23:18.000 I would kill the recruiting.
00:23:19.000 But like I just think in general women don't want to do those jobs.
00:23:22.000 Like across the board.
00:23:24.000 Like women don't want the super high stress jobs.
00:23:27.000 No, I don't want a plum.
00:23:28.000 Nope.
00:23:29.000 But see.
00:23:30.000 And even like oil rigs.
00:23:31.000 Right?
00:23:32.000 Like that's a six figure job you can do right away.
00:23:34.000 How many of y'all want to go work on an oil rig?
00:23:36.000 No.
00:23:37.000 Yeah, yeah.
00:23:38.000 You could have paid me.
00:23:39.000 They could pay me 300k a year.
00:23:41.000 You would not catch me on an oil rig.
00:23:43.000 But that goes back to like it's a men's world.
00:23:44.000 A lot of things were started from men doing a lot of, you know what I'm saying?
00:23:48.000 No.
00:23:49.000 I think women just don't want to do hard jobs.
00:23:53.000 I feel like we just don't want to do something that doesn't serve us well.
00:23:56.000 I feel like for myself, I don't mind doing a job that can be a bit, you know, intense,
00:24:00.000 but it needs to serve me well.
00:24:02.000 I feel like some women they feel like they've been served well.
00:24:04.000 So a hundred grads.
00:24:05.000 So you could work, you could work on the nights on a train, engineering on a train,
00:24:08.000 you know, guys in the orange and that.
00:24:09.000 Yeah.
00:24:10.000 You can, there's nothing stopping you from doing that job.
00:24:12.000 Nothing from, you can make a hundred K doing that job.
00:24:14.000 Yeah.
00:24:15.000 It doesn't, how can a hundred K not serve you well?
00:24:17.000 Not to say that a hundred K is not serving me well, but do I want to be bending and straining
00:24:21.000 my back long term for how many years that's going to give me a long term, you know,
00:24:25.000 health difference.
00:24:26.000 Right.
00:24:27.000 But men don't have a choice.
00:24:28.000 Right.
00:24:29.000 Right.
00:24:30.000 Right.
00:24:31.000 Okay.
00:24:32.000 But if we, but if we don't do, okay, wait, so let me do that.
00:24:34.000 No, no, no, no, no, no, no.
00:24:35.000 But if we don't do that job, if we don't do that job, you cannot catch a train.
00:24:39.000 Wait, wait, wait, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
00:24:42.000 Cause this is what you're doing.
00:24:43.000 There's another guy that will, but you won't do it.
00:24:45.000 So, so, but you could, but you won't.
00:24:47.000 I would do something else.
00:24:48.000 No, but this is, this is, this is, this is, this is the point.
00:24:53.000 When I said like met, like women don't want to build the world.
00:24:56.000 Hmm.
00:24:57.000 Because like even.
00:24:58.000 No, no, no, no, no.
00:24:59.000 I'm saying like you said, stop, stop.
00:25:01.000 This is what I'm saying.
00:25:02.000 Like in society, like you were saying it, it's cultural.
00:25:05.000 Right.
00:25:06.000 And like, like, because women didn't see like women in positions of power, it's all influence.
00:25:09.000 But I'm even today when we have every opportunity, women still don't want to do it.
00:25:12.000 They don't want to do the hardest jobs, which, which put your body on the line.
00:25:16.000 Of course, like I said.
00:25:17.000 Yeah.
00:25:18.000 That's, that was one of the things that I did say.
00:25:19.000 And even, even, I used to, I used to interview, there was, there was a point, there, there
00:25:24.000 was a point where I interviewed top executives.
00:25:27.000 I just decided I wanted more rich friends.
00:25:29.000 And it's kind of funny.
00:25:30.000 You can call them up.
00:25:31.000 Girl, Pearl.
00:25:32.000 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:25:33.000 I just, I was like my friend group too broke.
00:25:35.000 And so what I did was I like to network.
00:25:38.000 This is when I was 22.
00:25:39.000 I just called them up and said, I'm 22.
00:25:41.000 I want to learn dah, dah, dah, dah, dah, dah.
00:25:42.000 And like, I talked to like top executives at billion dollar companies and you get to see
00:25:47.000 the toll, like, cause they've been working 80, no on their face.
00:25:50.000 Seriously.
00:25:51.000 They look so tired.
00:25:52.000 They look so burned out because they've been working 80 hours a week for 30, 40 years.
00:25:56.000 Who wants to do that?
00:25:57.000 You couldn't pay me to work that much.
00:25:59.000 Oh, I think subconsciously.
00:26:00.000 Can I just quickly say very, like, I think it's also, we need to acknowledge that it's sort
00:26:06.000 of like a generational trauma thing because if you saw your dad working 80 hours and your,
00:26:12.000 you know, that your granddad did that, and then that's the generation that you came from.
00:26:16.000 No, there's no trauma.
00:26:17.000 No trauma.
00:26:18.000 My dad loves it.
00:26:19.000 He still works.
00:26:20.000 My dad wouldn't be who he was without working.
00:26:21.000 Maybe not, not generational trauma, just a generational pattern, shall we say.
00:26:25.000 But when you see, you know, because we lead by example as parents, so we sort of are conditioned,
00:26:30.000 whether it's negatively or positively, to sort of go into the same sort of roles as our parents.
00:26:37.000 It's when we break those patterns and go off and do different things that that's like a little bit strange.
00:26:41.000 No, no, it's just I make observations.
00:26:43.000 And I just, I, like, again, my dad has friends that are in similar fields and him, like, do as well as he does.
00:26:49.000 And I'm just saying women, I promise women don't want to do these roles.
00:26:53.000 Because the women don't see it.
00:26:54.000 Exactly.
00:26:55.000 I agree with you on that.
00:26:56.000 Because, again, they've seen their generations of patterns with maybe, you know, the, the home.
00:27:03.000 What was the word?
00:27:04.000 Homemakers.
00:27:05.000 You know, they've seen the homemakers or they've seen, you know, their, their, the women in their family in certain roles.
00:27:12.000 And then because they've been, you know, again, like learning from.
00:27:15.000 How old are these people?
00:27:17.000 We've been, we've had, been able to work since the seventies.
00:27:20.000 Like, actually, if they say that it takes like two decades for like a change to be implemented in society, like fully.
00:27:27.000 So I do still think we are changing the gender.
00:27:30.000 They started entering the workforce at World War Two.
00:27:32.000 Sorry, go ahead.
00:27:33.000 Go ahead.
00:27:34.000 I just think that it's going to take more time if women want these big jobs.
00:27:43.000 And they probably won't want the more physical ones that they're not possible, you know, able to do.
00:27:48.000 But I think it will just take longer for women to have those higher roles, maybe.
00:27:54.000 So why is it, why is it that when countries where women have more choice, the pay gap increases?
00:27:59.000 It doesn't decrease.
00:28:01.000 So if you, if you make a list of countries, so like, let's say Saudi Arabia, women have less choice.
00:28:06.000 And we say in more, what is it?
00:28:09.000 It's Eastern Europe?
00:28:11.000 Eastern European?
00:28:12.000 No, no, not Eastern European.
00:28:14.000 It's, um, there's one country where it's like, but okay, let's take the US.
00:28:18.000 There's more free.
00:28:19.000 They're more free, right?
00:28:20.000 So when you look at countries that are more free, the pay gap increases, it doesn't decrease.
00:28:24.000 And you get more women, like you get more women being nurses and more men being doctors.
00:28:28.000 Rather than decreasing.
00:28:30.000 Why do you think that is?
00:28:31.000 If, if, if it's like a generational thing?
00:28:33.000 Subconsciously for me, I have, I don't have kids, but I already feel like that's going to be the hardest job on earth.
00:28:39.000 So I'm just like, I'm going to let the men do the rest.
00:28:45.000 Cause, um, carry what?
00:28:48.000 Do what?
00:28:50.000 No, my titty.
00:28:52.000 So I'm happy to be on this side of stuff.
00:28:58.000 I'm happy.
00:28:59.000 I'm, I'm, I'm okay.
00:29:00.000 I can dip my toe in over there.
00:29:02.000 You know, I can carry a little one.
00:29:04.000 Oh, darling.
00:29:05.000 Sorry.
00:29:06.000 I can carry a one thing for you.
00:29:07.000 I can help.
00:29:08.000 But like, I think subconsciously, whether I'm conditioned or not, I just feel like giving birth and being a mum, that is for life.
00:29:19.000 I'm, I don't know, but I feel like that's going to be harder.
00:29:23.000 That's the job that holds the time.
00:29:24.000 Like I'm, I'm the physical portal to the physical.
00:29:30.000 And okay, guys, you can take over.
00:29:33.000 Thank you.
00:29:34.000 Half of women in our generation aren't going to have kids.
00:29:37.000 50% of women that are, um, hit 30 are single and childless.
00:29:40.000 And they're predicting that 40, 40, 45% of, um, women between the ages of 25 and 45 aren't going to have kids.
00:29:48.000 Why is that?
00:29:49.000 Because, because feminism's on the rise.
00:29:51.000 Because, because, um, I don't, I think women, they can't find a guy they want to, they can't get a guy that they want to have kids with.
00:29:59.000 Interesting.
00:30:00.000 I think it's, I think it's because, I think it's because feminism's on the rise.
00:30:04.000 I think that's a part of it.
00:30:05.000 I think that the not having kids and the, the title of this, this question, in fact, can modern women be, be men?
00:30:14.000 It's all due to the rise of feminism.
00:30:17.000 There are so many reasons though.
00:30:19.000 Yeah, I was going to say.
00:30:20.000 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:30:21.000 I think, but I think all of those reasons are connected to the rise of the, the, of feminism.
00:30:26.000 What would the other reasons be that are connected to feminism?
00:30:30.000 Well, whoever.
00:30:31.000 Apart from feminism, why else are women not having children from 24?
00:30:35.000 They can't afford it in a lot of places.
00:30:36.000 No, they're, they're predicting between 25 to 45 and 50% of women that, wait, and 50% of women that hit 30 are single and childless.
00:30:43.000 Because it's okay to not want to.
00:30:46.000 Yeah, except the women over the ages of 45 with no kids or family are the, rated the least happy.
00:30:53.000 Well, maybe we're catching up.
00:30:55.000 We're catching up.
00:30:56.000 Yeah, but can I just say something, but that probably goes down to when you see older guys getting with younger girls, because, is that because they're miserable?
00:31:03.000 That's because they don't want to date women their age.
00:31:05.000 That means what?
00:31:06.000 Because, because the women their age are miserable.
00:31:08.000 I mean, wonderful.
00:31:09.000 So, so, so, so, so, so, so, so I, I spoke about this.
00:31:15.000 I spoke about this last week to be fair.
00:31:17.000 Yeah.
00:31:18.000 Um, so, so a lot of women.
00:31:20.000 So, so you have, from 18 to 28, you have, let's say 10 years.
00:31:23.000 Those are your prime years.
00:31:24.000 Um, those years when you're going outside, the world moves for you.
00:31:27.000 You go into places, you know, I'm trying to say, you get in, you get free entry.
00:31:30.000 Um, the top guys, you get, you know, you're literally, it's your best time of your life, right?
00:31:35.000 Everyone sees you.
00:31:36.000 Between 18 to 20 is when no one really sees us, man.
00:31:39.000 These are when we have to create our value.
00:31:41.000 So women are born with value.
00:31:42.000 Men inherently, we have to create our value.
00:31:44.000 So a lot of times is you at 18 to 28, you can pick a guy that's studying.
00:31:48.000 You can pick a guy that's just trying to, trying to come up.
00:31:50.000 That's an ordinary guy.
00:31:51.000 But what you tend to do is you don't tend to pick these guys.
00:31:54.000 You tend to go for the top 20% of guys that have access to multiple women.
00:31:57.000 So now we have 100% of women going for 20% of guys.
00:32:00.000 And so you spend 18 to 28 dating bad boys.
00:32:03.000 Dating, as we like to call them, Chad and Tyrone and running up your body.
00:32:06.000 I'm dead.
00:32:07.000 So yeah, Chad and Tyrone and running up your body count.
00:32:10.000 So then what tends to happen as you get to 28 is when women start to get a little bit, um, oh my God.
00:32:14.000 They start to see the guys they didn't see.
00:32:16.000 But now these guys that you didn't see, they recognize you didn't see them.
00:32:19.000 And there's a new set of women.
00:32:20.000 So while you're outside now and you're 28 or 30, there's a whole new set of women now.
00:32:25.000 But you feel as if that the men in their thirties should be speaking to you, but, um, they're not.
00:32:31.000 So a lot of the times what women say is, oh, men are trying to find young girls so they can manipulate them.
00:32:35.000 So they can do all these types of things.
00:32:36.000 What they're trying to do is they're trying to make it fair because then it's now competition.
00:32:40.000 But when we was 18 and 20 and 20, 21, 23, and the women were jumping out of the big cars in West End, all the guys popping the bottles.
00:32:48.000 Like we said, the sparklers, we had to feel it.
00:32:50.000 It was not nice.
00:32:51.000 We had to feel the bitter, but you girls didn't care.
00:32:53.000 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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