JustPearlyThings - October 25, 2023


Modern Women Get PUNISHED for Ruining Everything


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In this episode, we discuss the single motherhood crisis and how to deal with it. We talk about what it means to be a single parent and how it affects our society. We also talk about the importance of a good relationship with your kids and the impact it can have on them.

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00:00:00.000 And it just becomes something that's very natural and very alright, which shows that like...
00:00:06.220 Even in fairy tales, like Cinderella, they never...
00:00:09.320 They never.
00:00:10.320 They never.
00:00:11.320 They always re-marry someone and the step-moms always like, disgusting, but you never really 0.99
00:00:16.660 talk about the mom because you've always passed or something.
00:00:18.880 And it's always like one of those ones where single parents' lifestyle had been pushed,
00:00:23.800 not like directly, but like indirectly, in different ways of like, if you notice it,
00:00:28.800 you notice it, type of thing.
00:00:30.300 I just think that modern women are selfish when it comes to their kids. 1.00
00:00:33.500 They care about themselves more than their kids.
00:00:35.700 And I think it's really sad and I think it actually ruins society.
00:00:39.420 Because when you put yourself before your kids, you put your generation before the next generation.
00:00:44.560 But are there enough, okay, let me backtrack a bit.
00:00:49.100 So to the point of like, people that are not having kids, do you reckon there's enough women 1.00
00:00:56.360 that have passed that point of being able to get pregnant that are actually speaking
00:01:01.300 to younger women and saying, all right, listen. 0.99
00:01:04.100 No.
00:01:04.540 Because that involves swallowing their pride and they don't want to do that.
00:01:06.960 But there's enough guys saying, hey, get your act together.
00:01:09.600 But guys...
00:01:10.160 You know, you need money.
00:01:10.860 You need to do this.
00:01:11.800 You need networks.
00:01:12.360 You need to be able to defend yourself.
00:01:15.140 You need...
00:01:15.480 There's enough...
00:01:15.940 I feel like there's enough guys doing that.
00:01:18.480 I just want to know from the women. 0.99
00:01:19.700 Are there women that are doing that? 1.00
00:01:20.780 No.
00:01:21.300 No.
00:01:21.520 There's a fundamental difference between guys and girls.
00:01:23.560 Guys will give guys genuine advice.
00:01:25.180 Girls won't. 1.00
00:01:25.960 If you heard the whole phrase...
00:01:27.060 Because girls compete with each other. 1.00
00:01:28.780 Because if you're 25 and the girl that's 38, you're competing with her for the same guy.
00:01:33.560 You've heard the phrase, a guy will insult a guy and not mean it.
00:01:37.300 A girl will compliment a girl and not mean it.
00:01:39.120 Yeah.
00:01:39.920 So it's one of those ones where those older girls you would think would give those advice 1.00
00:01:44.120 might say to you, oh, you're so pretty, you should do this.
00:01:46.220 But like, they don't mean it.
00:01:47.440 It's like when you see girls commenting on obese girls' pictures. 0.99
00:01:53.060 Like, beautiful, love it.
00:01:54.560 Like, what are you doing?
00:01:55.520 It's not beautiful.
00:01:56.780 It's not worth it.
00:01:57.120 Why are you encouraging her?
00:02:00.640 Yeah, because I say it like this, yeah.
00:02:03.260 With men, I don't care.
00:02:05.980 Like, you look at even Kevin, yeah.
00:02:08.640 I didn't care about the delivery because he's not talking to me directly.
00:02:11.680 People call up and, you know, they go.
00:02:13.180 Oh, yeah.
00:02:13.460 But if you're not talking to that person directly, you can see the delivery and look
00:02:18.360 at that as entertainment, but you can still take the message.
00:02:21.160 I think with women, it needs to be dissected in a way that makes them feel. 1.00
00:02:23.940 Directly to them, specifically for them.
00:02:26.440 They've got to feel great about it to receive it.
00:02:30.440 Whereas with guys, generally speaking, I would be like, cool.
00:02:33.880 Yeah, what he's saying makes sense.
00:02:35.800 And you move on, yeah.
00:02:36.700 And I apply it or I don't apply it.
00:02:38.740 Do you know what I mean?
00:02:39.120 But I believe there's enough men out there giving that direction.
00:02:42.060 And I think, you know, just from the conversations that we've had here just through on the panel,
00:02:46.540 you know, is it working for you to, if you want, if you know what you want kids and you
00:02:51.180 want this kind of, you want a certain kind of lifestyle, you want things, is the way
00:02:55.120 you're moving working for you?
00:02:57.100 And if there, if it isn't, do you have people in your life that are saying that you can
00:03:01.320 talk to that haven't had kids and they can say, boom, all right, look, you know,
00:03:05.300 time's ticking.
00:03:05.800 It will get to this point and this is how I feel now that I waited and I'm here.
00:03:10.560 Yeah.
00:03:10.960 But you know what it is with that?
00:03:12.640 The biggest enemy to women most times is other women. 1.00
00:03:17.600 So like, you-
00:03:18.440 Because we can't even admit there's a problem.
00:03:20.360 Yeah.
00:03:20.960 Other women are the downfall of women for a lot of the time. 1.00
00:03:23.980 Because they will be the ones who will feed you the stuff that you want to hear on one
00:03:28.160 side, knowing good and damn well that's not the advice you need to hear.
00:03:31.760 And then watch you walk out that door and make that mistake.
00:03:34.360 I'll give you, I'm going to read you guys, I'm going to read you guys some stats.
00:03:39.120 Some of these are from the US.
00:03:40.480 Some of these are from the UK.
00:03:41.740 So, you know, take them with a grain of salt.
00:03:44.440 But one in four women have an STD. 1.00
00:03:46.900 Zoinks. 1.00
00:03:47.480 One in three women have had an abortion.
00:03:49.840 38% of kids are born into single parent homes.
00:03:52.540 The average age of first child is 26 and the average age of first marriage is 30.
00:03:58.120 45% of marriages end in divorce.
00:04:00.660 The average number of sexual partners for a woman is between four and eight.
00:04:05.100 And after women have slept with more than five people, she has a 20% chance of having 1.00
00:04:09.620 a happy marriage after 10 years.
00:04:11.160 If men get divorced, they can be financially ruined and their kids can be taken from them.
00:04:17.740 70% of women are overweight. 0.80
00:04:19.740 90% of women have used contraceptives at some point in their reproductive years.
00:04:24.080 And most have used more than one method throughout their lifetime.
00:04:26.980 So it's like, how do we look at these numbers and say we're doing well as a whole?
00:04:32.380 You know?
00:04:33.620 And I'm not saying, you know, that, like, because they'll always say, what about them?
00:04:38.880 I'm not saying men don't have issues too.
00:04:40.340 But it's like, we can't even talk about our problems without people always having to point
00:04:43.820 out the men.
00:04:44.820 Like, we can never even just have a conversation about the issues that we have as women without 0.51
00:04:48.820 simps or women coming in saying, but men have problems too. 0.91
00:04:52.900 Like, we can't even have one conversation about it.
00:04:54.980 Whereas back in the day, women used to actually sit down together and discuss things. 1.00
00:05:00.120 Or they'd say, you're not dressed well, you're not, like, you need to, like, leave.
00:05:03.920 We used to actually, like, catch each other up on stuff.
00:05:06.720 Like, you know, oh, you're showing too much.
00:05:08.700 Like, you're presenting yourself this way.
00:05:10.420 Or, you know, even something silly, like, you didn't brush your hair.
00:05:13.460 Like, I feel like nowadays, like, girls sort of tiptoe around each other and they don't 0.99
00:05:17.560 even want to, like, tell their friend, like, oh.
00:05:19.340 It depends what type of girl you are, though, if I'm completely honest.
00:05:21.760 Because I think if you're insecure and you're unhappy with what you're doing yourself,
00:05:25.420 then you're going to be a bit too to other people.
00:05:27.200 If you're happy and content, you've got to support.
00:05:29.480 Do you know what I mean?
00:05:30.420 So I think it's the individual.
00:05:31.460 I don't think supporting, I think real supporting is being honest.
00:05:37.320 Yeah, but that's what I mean.
00:05:38.220 Like she said, you might not tell your friend if they haven't brushed you up.
00:05:41.600 I would tell my friend.
00:05:42.460 Yeah, no, I would as well, but some girls wouldn't. 1.00
00:05:44.800 But that's because they're like, oh, well, I'm going to look better than you.
00:05:47.040 Yeah, they kind of want to see you.
00:05:48.220 Do you know what I mean?
00:05:48.880 Fail, almost.
00:05:49.720 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:05:50.200 Because they're unhappy with themselves.
00:05:51.580 Which goes back to what I said.
00:05:53.200 A lot of times a woman's worst enemy is another woman. 1.00
00:05:55.920 Yeah.
00:05:56.120 Because a guy would point out the fact that, uh, your shirt's kind of inside out.
00:06:00.300 Yeah.
00:06:02.200 I believe, like, chastising someone in public is different.
00:06:05.860 Like, I don't think you should do that in front of other people.
00:06:08.060 Yeah, of course not.
00:06:08.580 But you should take, if that's your real friend, they should be able to take them to the side and say, hey, you know what?
00:06:12.240 Hey, man.
00:06:12.660 Yeah.
00:06:12.960 Fix up.
00:06:13.400 Fix up.
00:06:13.820 Fix up.
00:06:14.140 Fix up.
00:06:14.200 Fix up.
00:06:14.260 Fix up.
00:06:14.600 And we can respect that.
00:06:16.020 And we won't look at that as, like, you being bitchy. 0.98
00:06:17.940 It's like, you know when you eat something, you've got something, your teeth are, please, tell me.
00:06:21.640 Please tell me.
00:06:22.200 Tell me.
00:06:22.560 Yeah.
00:06:22.740 Please tell me.
00:06:24.140 Like, even if you go, just tell me, you know what I mean?
00:06:27.540 So, I think, you know.
00:06:28.960 Because even at the beginning of my relationship with my girl now, I had to tell her, we had a conversation where I was like, if there's an issue that you see, please just tell me right there and then.
00:06:38.040 I don't want this whole passive-aggressive thinking about it for two weeks, don't bring it up, and then vixing, talking to your girlfriends about it behind my back, and this whole fucking month period, I had no idea this whole, this is an issue that you had.
00:06:49.800 All right, with that, are you able to accept the delivery of her problem in any form?
00:06:56.920 Yeah, I don't care about delivery.
00:06:58.020 It's just about what gets said.
00:07:00.060 Because if, with me, it's like, if I disagree with what you're saying, then we have a discussion about what I disagree with.
00:07:06.560 But, like, delivery is one of those things.
00:07:07.760 I get an example, right?
00:07:08.840 Let's say, for instance, it's in the bedroom, something that's sensitive, right?
00:07:11.500 Something like, boom.
00:07:12.740 Ah, you're not doing this, right?
00:07:15.300 If she thinks about it, and then she kind of, let's say you're having a stressful week at work or whatever, and then she kind of puts that into her mind and thinks, all right, cool, maybe I approach it in this way, as opposed to just being like, oh, you can't do this.
00:07:30.560 Like, you know, if she expresses the frustrations then and there without thinking about it at all or seeking some kind of advice, then do you not think that can have some kind of detriment to how you're able to get over that?
00:07:42.360 Or are you saying that regardless of how she comes at you, with whatever she comes at you, you're going to be able to swallow it and move on as normal?
00:07:48.600 Kind of.
00:07:49.220 I get where you're coming from, but then I have to equate that to, like, all right, let's talk about, like, equate that to, like, football.
00:07:55.840 If your manager says you need to be there, you're going to be upset with him because, ah, my mind, ah, I'm having a really bad week at home, so my manager has to talk to me a certain type of way.
00:08:06.240 If the information with me, per se, and I know I'm a very black sheep when it comes to this.
00:08:11.280 My girlfriend always says to me, you have the emotional capacity of a wooden spoon because I don't really care about, like, emotions too tough.
00:08:16.880 If the information is necessary, please tell me and I will do the same.
00:08:20.400 Yeah, but he's talking sexually.
00:08:21.960 You mean you ain't fully pleasing a woman, right?
00:08:24.860 And then the worst thing with a woman, a woman would tell you, a lot of women talk with each other about their sex. 1.00
00:08:30.980 That's why I want to go first.
00:08:32.060 And the size of their partner's this and what that partner's doing and what you're not doing.
00:08:36.040 And then that girl, your partner would bring that in the bedroom and go, oh, well, my friend tried this and blah, blah, blah.
00:08:41.380 And if you ain't satisfying her in a certain way, if you come at me in, like, an aggressive kind of way, like, it will hurt my feelings.
00:08:49.940 Because remember this, when you're having sex with someone, you're completely vulnerable with each other.
00:08:56.040 Okay, which hurts more?
00:08:59.020 So when you're talking about, like, when you met your partner and you always said, oh, like, no matter what, just tell me whatever.
00:09:07.980 Like, you can tell me, but you need to, if it's sexually, like, you need to tell me in a certain way because I feel like I'm doing the best I can do.
00:09:15.200 So if I'm not doing the best I can do, let me ask a question, which would hurt more?
00:09:23.760 Her directly saying, you need to do this better because you're not really doing that that much?
00:09:27.620 Or her going through all of her friends and eventually saying to you nicely.
00:09:30.940 She gonna go through her friends regardless.
00:09:33.240 Eventually her saying it to you nicely, but now you know, all of her friends know.
00:09:38.060 Before you.
00:09:39.100 Remember this, sex is a thing where people, where girls talk, bro. 0.82
00:09:43.180 Exactly.
00:09:43.620 So it's like, if you didn't fulfill her fantasy the first time, she already told her friend.
00:09:47.160 So she probably told her friend first, and then she's already come to you.
00:09:50.760 Her friends already know.
00:09:51.940 That's what I'm saying.
00:09:52.660 I want to be the first to know.
00:09:54.440 Yeah, but it's too late because girls talk. 1.00
00:09:56.520 She already told her friend when you messed up the first time.
00:09:58.940 That's why you bring up a relationship where they tell straight out.
00:10:01.560 You don't know that.
00:10:01.840 You're not in control of that.
00:10:02.760 A woman's in control of that. 1.00
00:10:03.740 Of course.
00:10:04.160 Women talk. 1.00
00:10:05.020 You're not in no control of what a woman thinks and the way she talk.
00:10:09.260 Women talk. 1.00
00:10:09.880 No matter what you do, you could be the best guy, the best at whatever you're doing.
00:10:13.820 They are going to talk.
00:10:14.540 You need to listen to my man because he's been in them rooms.
00:10:16.220 I know.
00:10:17.280 I'm talking from experience.
00:10:18.940 I know.
00:10:19.520 I'm talking from experience because, listen, me, I would only do certain things on birthdays,
00:10:23.920 Valentine's Days, and Christmas.
00:10:25.560 Anyone that's been with me knows what I'm talking about.
00:10:28.160 Now, if your friend or whatever gets it whenever, once a week, like, it's a downfall.
00:10:35.500 And I'll be like, yeah, but you know, like, I do the best I can do on a certain, on a celebration.
00:10:40.820 Like, it's something you look forward to.
00:10:42.360 And you bring out the roses and the petals and the whipped cream and the chocolate sauce.
00:10:46.260 Blah, blah, blah.
00:10:47.100 I'm going to take a second to read Super Chats for a second.
00:10:55.480 Guys, make sure you like the video.
00:10:57.040 We're almost to 500 likes on this chat, so make sure you hit the like button.
00:11:04.580 That's making noise.
00:11:05.380 Okay, also, guys, make sure you send them to our Google form.
00:11:11.420 That should be in the chat for the events that we're going to do in the U.S.
00:11:16.600 Aaron, Pearl and Blondie are spitting so much fire right now.
00:11:20.040 It's crazy that you're both laying out common sense, but that's so controversial these days.
00:11:24.180 Clown World, Baby, I see young boys walking home from high school with these girls just
00:11:29.860 yelling, waltzing, talking, acting 304s.
00:11:32.700 It's damaging to a boy's psyche.
00:11:34.660 Glenn, Bible tells the husbands to love their wives like Christ loves the church.
00:11:39.020 It also tells wives to submit in respect to their husbands.
00:11:42.220 Nowadays, wives love husbands, and husbands submit in respect wives. 0.99
00:11:49.940 Winter, wait, am I missing something?
00:11:51.780 Did the woman do wrong? 1.00
00:11:52.820 She won the lottery, and then she got sued.
00:11:54.880 Baby, there is no partnership in a relationship.
00:11:58.020 A team can only have one leader.
00:12:00.400 Divided leadership always fails.
00:12:02.080 Also, men are more in touch with reality.
00:12:05.940 Hi, Donovan.
00:12:07.900 Women only refer to God when they're talking about what they won't do for a man. 1.00
00:12:13.940 Go subscribe to Donovan's channel.
00:12:15.760 He does reactions to my stuff all the time.
00:12:18.620 Barrett, churches are starting to become a part of the world.
00:12:21.620 Oh, I read that one already.
00:12:22.780 I'm going to refresh it real quick.
00:12:28.640 Okay.
00:12:30.440 Do you want to do the next video, Blessing?
00:12:32.900 Would you tell me, please, who is the boss of your house?
00:12:47.120 I'm the boss.
00:12:47.940 What do you think?
00:12:48.620 You're his wife, are you?
00:12:50.640 What did you say?
00:12:51.560 I said, who is the boss?
00:12:52.560 My husband.
00:12:53.540 What is your nationality?
00:12:54.820 Greek.
00:12:55.220 I'm Greek.
00:12:55.680 Is it always that way in Greek households, the husband is the boss? 1.00
00:12:58.380 Yes.
00:12:58.860 Don't the women, the wives, have anything to say about it? 1.00
00:13:01.480 No.
00:13:01.760 So, this is an older video.
00:13:07.220 How do you think social media has changed that dynamic?
00:13:14.980 Podcasts.
00:13:18.440 If you ask a girl and a guy the same question that they asked there, the answer will be 100% different.
00:13:27.320 Because if you ask, who is the leader of the household?
00:13:29.060 The amount of times you will hear either the woman say, me, or say, he thinks he is, but it's not actually.
00:13:37.060 Oh, right.
00:13:39.060 It was something along those lines.
00:13:41.320 You know what the saying is?
00:13:42.200 Yeah.
00:13:42.640 Guys will get on TV and be like, oh, happy wife, happy life.
00:13:45.220 That's the one.
00:13:45.980 That's what they say.
00:13:46.600 Anything along those lines.
00:13:50.200 And it's like, but like, you should have some sort of leader.
00:13:54.600 Back then, that's how it was.
00:13:56.040 Back then, this is what.
00:13:57.280 The man just.
00:13:58.220 A simpler time.
00:13:59.120 It was easier.
00:14:00.280 You say back then.
00:14:01.400 No, no.
00:14:01.660 This way that we're living now is the new norm for like the entirety of mankind.
00:14:07.400 You understand that, right?
00:14:08.860 It's not back then.
00:14:09.860 It was for the entirety of man's existence up until about 30 years ago.
00:14:15.320 Guys, this is how we were living.
00:14:17.260 But I don't think there's like, you know, let's say for instance there's a decision to
00:14:20.700 make in the household.
00:14:22.380 You know, you've got the final say as the man.
00:14:24.440 Are you?
00:14:25.680 I think the lines get crossed in terms of like having any kind of conversation with
00:14:31.060 the pros and cons of a situation with your woman.
00:14:33.080 I don't feel like women just get like your opinion and your mindset and everything you 1.00
00:14:37.260 bring to it.
00:14:37.820 It should just be wiped out.
00:14:39.220 I think a conversation can happen.
00:14:41.000 Yeah.
00:14:41.460 I do believe that, you know, you've got to trust someone to lead.
00:14:44.600 You know what I mean?
00:14:44.900 If he needs a, if he's going to ask a question or run something, you know, yeah.
00:14:49.020 And you're going back and forth, then cool.
00:14:50.700 But, you know, I think sometimes women will hear this men need to lead and just
00:14:54.560 think, okay, all my education is out of the window and they put so much into
00:14:58.720 their education that they can't even fathom the thought of Rod.
00:15:01.360 This isn't even valuable in this relationship.
00:15:04.040 Yeah.
00:15:04.520 And marriages would last longer back then.
00:15:06.740 Like my grandparents, my grandma had no say.
00:15:10.720 Less options though.
00:15:11.340 You know what I mean?
00:15:12.120 Less options.
00:15:13.460 No, but I mean marriages last longer. 0.98
00:15:15.140 So it worked.
00:15:15.900 It worked in their time.
00:15:17.060 Maybe that's what it is though.
00:15:18.080 What you said about education.
00:15:19.880 You said, you've said it before about women who have been to university
00:15:24.440 and more likely to leave.
00:15:25.660 More likely.
00:15:26.080 Maybe it's not.
00:15:26.980 It's 90, you're 90% likely to leave in a divorce.
00:15:29.700 Maybe it's not a direct correlation between education, but rather something to do with
00:15:34.140 like pride.
00:15:35.060 Because if you've done that education, that's a commitment and a sacrifice to do something
00:15:39.700 for yourself.
00:15:40.680 And then when you get into a relationship, maybe it's like, oh, you don't want to let
00:15:44.980 the man be the leader because you feel like you've done something, worked hard at something.
00:15:51.200 I don't think it's to do with the fact that you've got an educator because I've been to
00:15:54.540 uni and stuff like that and I don't feel, I haven't got pride because of that.
00:15:58.160 I think it's more to do with if you've got knowledge and wisdom to talk about, then you
00:16:03.660 should be able to talk about it.
00:16:04.660 But he would know that surely.
00:16:05.920 And he would, so like for example, I have a law degree.
00:16:07.720 So if my partner ever had any kind of legal question, he was dealing with something
00:16:11.880 with his insurance, like he will, he will ask me questions.
00:16:14.580 So I feel like it's more of a case where if they need you, they will ask.
00:16:18.380 But what I'm saying is I feel like a lot of women perhaps want to know more because they
00:16:23.440 have this knowledge, wisdom, whatever.
00:16:25.700 So they want to be able to exercise that.
00:16:28.960 And what I'm saying is I don't really think that's necessary.
00:16:31.220 And perhaps going to uni and getting it, I mean, I hate to say it, but it is a fact that
00:16:38.700 marriages lasted longer when women weren't doing that. 1.00
00:16:41.820 So I'm just questioning why that is, because it is factual that.
00:16:44.880 I hear it.
00:16:45.300 It's actually inverse, like college and kids.
00:16:48.540 So it's like the more education a woman has, the less kids she has. 1.00
00:16:52.380 Yeah.
00:16:52.600 So like what is that?
00:16:53.960 No, it's because it seems like when women get money, they don't want men. 0.98
00:16:57.920 Like they don't want a man unless it's like the man she wants. 0.59
00:17:01.060 Yeah.
00:17:02.040 Just think about it.
00:17:02.700 When guys become millionaires, they go for most, if not any girl. 0.96
00:17:06.380 When a girl becomes a millionaire, she's looking for someone who's making more millions than 1.00
00:17:10.420 she is.
00:17:11.740 Right.
00:17:12.280 Or if she's smart in a certain aspect, then she's looking for someone who is better than
00:17:17.000 her in whatever aspect it is.
00:17:18.700 That's true.
00:17:19.060 Or more.
00:17:19.340 Eve.
00:17:19.840 Eve.
00:17:20.280 Eve done the same thing. 0.89
00:17:21.660 She went with a billionaire.
00:17:22.920 JLo, I think, done the same thing.
00:17:24.660 Before went with a billionaire.
00:17:26.140 Them lot are millionaires.
00:17:27.700 But Ja Rule's with his, was it, is it Ja Rule?
00:17:30.200 One of them is with the same girlfriend that they were with before.
00:17:32.840 Was it T.I.?
00:17:33.380 T.I.
00:17:33.840 T.I.
00:17:34.460 Snoop Dog.
00:17:35.200 Yeah, they're all with the same original girl.
00:17:37.520 They're with the same original girl.
00:17:38.900 But all these other millionaire women got the money and upgraded, quote on quote, because 1.00
00:17:44.540 you can't settle, quote on quote, because settling has to do with your bank accounts and not
00:17:48.760 your mental aspect nowadays.
00:17:50.900 Whereas to men, like something, I feel like something like your education, if you continue 0.99
00:17:56.860 it doesn't matter.
00:17:57.800 Doesn't matter.
00:17:58.120 Do I get along with you?
00:17:58.900 In the same way as your salary doesn't really matter either.
00:18:01.000 Do you know what's mad important and valuable are kind of looking in relationships to help
00:18:06.020 out?
00:18:06.620 You know, if you've been with a woman who's like a nurse, nutritionist, like, you know
00:18:13.160 that kind of nurture stuff that guys do not put any energy into whatsoever, right?
00:18:17.820 But those kind of things are really a way where guys will want to lean on their guilt and be
00:18:23.980 in those circumstances.
00:18:25.260 Do you know what I mean?
00:18:25.680 When the car breaks down, other than with someone, oh no, I was watching something else
00:18:31.160 where someone said they can fix BMWs.
00:18:32.780 I think that was another problem.
00:18:34.320 But like, other than that, it was like, you know, there's certain things that the guy
00:18:39.080 might not necessarily need your input at that time.
00:18:41.340 And you might have so much to give him.
00:18:42.540 And you might be thinking, Ra, why don't you value my opinion?
00:18:45.640 Or why would you go on a podcast and act like you don't care about my opinion?
00:18:49.280 But, you know, you need to kind of focus on things that are going to get you what you
00:18:53.060 want.
00:18:53.360 And I think sometimes our parents push realities onto us.
00:18:56.580 But maybe just leave that at work.
00:18:58.160 You got to learn when you come home, put on a different hat.
00:19:01.400 Unwarned, yeah.
00:19:02.020 You know what I mean?
00:19:03.740 I think we're going to close out the show, guys.
00:19:06.760 Cool.
00:19:06.940 So we're going to do final thoughts.
00:19:09.280 So any, like, final thoughts, Instagram you want to shout out, you can do that now.
00:19:13.600 Starting here and then go around.
00:19:15.420 Hello, it's Ashton again.
00:19:17.200 So the Instagram is, it's Ashton Maria.
00:19:20.660 And just final thoughts.
00:19:22.840 You know how you were talking about guys and the car breaking down and a woman really wouldn't 1.00
00:19:27.520 know what to do?
00:19:28.480 I was in a situation quite recently where there was, my friend was driving us and there
00:19:32.460 was three, four, yeah, four of us in the car, girls.
00:19:35.140 And it was the girls that sorted the car situation.
00:19:38.700 Because my friend was like, oh, you need to jumpstart the car.
00:19:40.980 My other friend was like, oh, let me call like the AA or just an insurance company.
00:19:45.100 Whereas he was very calm, handled the situation fine.
00:19:48.700 But it wasn't him who got the final output.
00:19:52.080 And if that makes sense.
00:19:53.300 Did he, did he, did the girls know what to do?
00:19:55.840 Yeah, more than him.
00:19:57.080 Interesting.
00:19:57.620 Okay, cool.
00:19:58.260 That's, yeah.
00:19:59.060 What's your, like, what's your take on that?
00:20:01.440 I just think girls can do anything, really, to be honest. 1.00
00:20:04.260 I'm all about girls.
00:20:05.000 No, I agree.
00:20:05.460 Women are super, women are super powers. 1.00
00:20:07.640 Like, super powers.
00:20:08.380 Like, you lot are achieving, you lot.
00:20:09.760 To me, a woman can achieve, not to put men down, but like a woman, to me, I don't think
00:20:15.800 a woman needs a man. 1.00
00:20:17.100 To me, I think a woman is so empowering and can do anything they put their mind to. 1.00
00:20:20.880 And they can work six days a week, seven days a week, raise a family, run a mortgage.
00:20:26.200 Like, they can be everything.
00:20:28.420 And I think women are just a different kind of human being compared to a man. 1.00
00:20:32.640 And that's where I stand in it.
00:20:33.860 Probably because I have so much respect for my mother.
00:20:36.240 Um, and seeing what I've seen from my mother who had me at 20 and my dad being 27 and just
00:20:42.100 seeing my mum run the whole thing.
00:20:44.480 Like, you lot are, you lot are crazy.
00:20:46.660 Like, I can't mess with you lot.
00:20:49.040 I think we're brilliant.
00:20:50.440 Honestly.
00:20:50.740 I agree.
00:20:52.760 Hmm.
00:20:53.960 I listen to it because I'm just like, okay, cool.
00:20:57.940 Um, so the women, I'm not saying that women can't, um, you know, fix a car or, you know, 1.00
00:21:02.760 change a tie and stuff like that.
00:21:04.120 I guess you, you, you said that he was quite calm and he handled the situation.
00:21:07.660 I guess you were still looking for him to delegate or say, I guess you were still looking for
00:21:11.240 him to have some kind of input in that, right?
00:21:13.880 Or no?
00:21:14.280 I mean, to be fair.
00:21:15.120 Or would you just like, step aside, the girls have got this. 1.00
00:21:17.060 Do you know what it was for me?
00:21:18.560 What I found attractive with it was how he handled the situation.
00:21:21.740 He didn't panic.
00:21:22.760 He didn't stress.
00:21:23.520 He didn't kick off.
00:21:24.200 He didn't have a tantrum.
00:21:25.520 He just got on with it.
00:21:26.860 And that's what I thought was attractive because that was a man kind of just having control
00:21:31.420 of the situation.
00:21:31.900 Okay, cool.
00:21:32.380 Do you know what I mean?
00:21:32.840 Yeah, yeah.
00:21:33.560 That's what I found attractive.
00:21:34.180 Yeah, that's an amazing input because it didn't mean that women weren't capable of changing. 1.00
00:21:39.000 Yeah, and it didn't mean that the men wasn't capable of.
00:21:39.960 It's okay.
00:21:39.980 I think most women aren't capable of doing that. 1.00
00:21:41.900 Yeah, like, yeah, yeah, you know.
00:21:43.940 Yeah, I hear it, but not every man is capable of changing.
00:21:46.620 Of remaining.
00:21:47.240 I think significantly more than women. 0.92
00:21:49.640 Yeah.
00:21:49.860 I think stereotypically, yeah.
00:21:51.280 Yeah.
00:21:51.520 It might not always be true, though.
00:21:53.040 Yeah, but we got to talk in, like, most of the time.
00:21:55.580 And numbers.
00:21:55.920 You know, so if I say, like, most men are more masculine than women, there's exceptions,
00:22:00.920 but.
00:22:01.540 I think this day and age, though, I mean, guys are very catering now.
00:22:05.320 That's tough.
00:22:05.420 Like, they'll go to the salon and, you know, they'll get their eyebrows done and their nose done
00:22:09.060 and everything, whereas back in the day, that wasn't as much of a thing.
00:22:11.600 I have a lot of friends.
00:22:13.980 I have a lot of different friends.
00:22:15.060 Were you on the verge of seeing today, nowadays, guys are more, girls are more masculine than 0.98
00:22:20.240 guys?
00:22:20.580 Is that where this is going?
00:22:21.480 No, but I think there's a lot of girls that are more masculine energy. 1.00
00:22:26.300 Yeah.
00:22:26.600 And there's a lot of guys that are more feminine energy.
00:22:28.700 I think I agree with you, though, because I know there's a lot of guys out there getting
00:22:31.420 pedicures and all these kind of things.
00:22:33.320 Do you know what I mean?
00:22:33.340 I don't agree with all that.
00:22:34.640 I don't think it's a bad thing.
00:22:36.020 I know there's a lot of guys doing all that stuff.
00:22:36.340 I don't think it's a bad thing.
00:22:36.360 I see it on social media.
00:22:38.420 I see it on social media.
00:22:40.100 I think men are supposed to be men.
00:22:41.840 I don't think there's anything wrong with a man getting all pedicure.
00:22:44.240 There's nothing wrong with it, but I think it lets down your masculinity a bit.
00:22:47.420 I saw a man painting his toes in the chair.
00:22:51.940 But then men, so where do you stop it?
00:22:54.560 Men take men all putting on makeup. 0.98
00:22:56.480 Is that okay?
00:22:57.720 If they want to, yeah.
00:22:59.500 Of course it is.
00:23:00.160 We should have stopped it before having a tan as the face of Tampax.
00:23:05.680 Yeah, I was going to bring that up, but I don't think we have time to.
00:23:08.860 Men are supposed to be men. 0.62
00:23:10.400 I haven't seen that.
00:23:11.760 I actually haven't seen that.
00:23:12.360 Do them all veining.
00:23:12.920 Do them all veining.
00:23:15.080 Let's not get into it.
00:23:16.240 Yeah, I was going to say, let's not.
00:23:17.280 Let's not.
00:23:17.840 That's a whole nother thing.
00:23:19.980 Okay, so yeah, you guys can follow me, my Instagram, Tishana Talks.
00:23:25.280 My YouTube channel is the same.
00:23:27.480 Tishana Talks, I talk about faith and my journey with God mainly.
00:23:32.060 And final thoughts, I think I got checked about the whole submitting thing.
00:23:37.880 I think that the comments, some of the comments checked me, but it was a very thought provoking conversation.
00:23:43.660 And it's definitely made me think, you know, more about how I'm going to move in marriage.
00:23:49.160 It was just a learning experience.
00:23:51.080 So, yeah, amazing.
00:23:51.880 Thank you.
00:23:52.320 Yeah.
00:23:52.780 Thanks for coming.
00:23:53.960 That's a good reaction.
00:23:55.160 Some girls get mad. 1.00
00:23:56.320 But see, I actually like it when people can sit and think and like, you know.
00:23:59.340 Yeah, I was definitely like, sometimes.
00:24:01.060 But no, that comment about it's just his position as being the man of the house.
00:24:05.420 But my thing is, in terms of the man that I choose, it's everything in terms of like what I'm thinking.
00:24:11.140 It's going to start before we walk down the aisle.
00:24:13.000 I'm going to look at your character.
00:24:14.000 I'm going to look at your values.
00:24:15.840 I'm going to look at everything before I even get to that point of being at the aisle.
00:24:19.880 So, yeah, I'm going to be with someone that is wise.
00:24:22.340 And that's what it should be like.
00:24:23.720 But it's so weird how like even that mind frame even seems weird in today's day and age.
00:24:30.280 But you have to look at someone's personality before you sleep with them or before you get into situations that you can't undo.
00:24:36.980 Like how many people have you heard of that like feel pregnant with someone that they've had four conversations with or stuff like that.
00:24:44.640 And like it's not pushed.
00:24:46.020 I think it's planned.
00:24:47.500 Yeah, that's what I'm saying.
00:24:49.180 Like your mindset is so refreshing, especially today.
00:24:54.260 Especially today in today's day and age.
00:24:56.740 Because a lot of people don't have that mindset of wanting to get to know someone before you move on to the next step.
00:25:02.840 A lot of people are thinking flesh first and then mind later.
00:25:05.120 But mind and mind, body and soul later, flesh first.
00:25:08.260 It's always head first and then flesh.
00:25:11.100 But can I just say like some of what we spoke about, it was like a very black and white situation.
00:25:17.600 Like it was just very like this is the situation.
00:25:20.100 What do you think?
00:25:20.960 But I think that there's a lot of different factors that like we didn't discuss.
00:25:24.680 And so like for me in marriage, I want to be with somebody that's godly.
00:25:28.920 I want to be with somebody that loves Christ.
00:25:30.560 I want to be with somebody that I respect and all of those things.
00:25:32.980 And of course, it's going to be easy to submit to somebody like that.
00:25:36.200 Somebody that puts God first and somebody that, you know.
00:25:39.580 I don't think it will be easy.
00:25:40.860 I think marriage is hard.
00:25:42.120 I think marriage is hard.
00:25:43.540 I think if you talk to any woman that's been married for 20, 30, 40 years, they're going to tell you it was not easy to submit all the time.
00:25:50.360 Yeah, no, and I do, yeah, I do agree with that.
00:25:53.740 I do agree that marriage is difficult, but.
00:25:55.760 Do you have an Instagram or anything you want to shout out?
00:25:58.700 Yeah.
00:25:58.980 We looked at it earlier.
00:25:59.680 Oh, yeah.
00:26:00.280 Yeah, Tashana Talks. 1.00
00:26:02.100 Just Tashana Talks.
00:26:03.440 Yeah.
00:26:04.340 Go ahead.
00:26:05.040 Thanks for having me back.
00:26:06.840 I like coming on here because, you know, it's always a good conversation.
00:26:11.260 The chat loves you.
00:26:12.840 Yeah.
00:26:13.120 Thank you.
00:26:15.120 My Instagram is Christine Grace Smith, all traditional spelling.
00:26:19.960 That's it.
00:26:20.960 Cool.
00:26:21.760 Yeah.
00:26:22.700 I had something I wanted to bring to the chat, just quickly ending.
00:26:25.940 I really like divulging into the dating experience.
00:26:29.760 So I kind of wanted to know, like, especially from the women, like, how do you feel dates go? 0.99
00:26:35.940 And do you feel like they go in the right direction?
00:26:37.680 I'm talking like first dates.
00:26:38.700 Do you reckon they're kind of, on average, this is something that you get nervous about?
00:26:42.860 Is it something that you think guys kind of have down pat?
00:26:46.840 Like, what is that experience like for you guys?
00:26:49.600 That first date?
00:26:51.820 Like going into it?
00:26:54.580 Anyone?
00:26:56.680 I'll speak.
00:26:57.560 I think, for me, I always get really, really nervous before a first date.
00:27:02.480 I want to be with somebody that's, like, a leader that, like, has things planned.
00:27:06.780 And, like, if he's coming with this energy of just, like, oh, like, what do you want to do?
00:27:10.500 Like, be taking me to the movies, like, that's not a date in my eyes.
00:27:13.680 Because I don't feel like you're really getting to know the person.
00:27:16.340 I think it should be an opportunity for you guys to talk and get to know each other.
00:27:20.100 And so, yeah.
00:27:22.260 And, you know, I recently had this issue about, like, paying on the first date.
00:27:25.800 But that would just open up the whole conversation.
00:27:28.860 What do you believe?
00:27:29.280 I think the guy should pay.
00:27:30.780 I think the guy should pay.
00:27:31.720 Even if it's you that said, let's go on a date.
00:27:36.720 I wouldn't.
00:27:37.860 I don't think I would ask a guy to go on a date with me.
00:27:41.140 But I think if a man is pursuing me and asking me out on a date, I think that he should cover that, I think.
00:27:47.400 Believing in being a gentleman.
00:27:48.480 I think for girls, just going off of what we were saying about, like, contraception and everything.
00:27:58.760 Like, if you're not on birth control, I would say always aim for a date where alcohol isn't involved.
00:28:05.840 Because we were talking about, you said something that triggered my mind where you said about a girl having lots of sexual partners.
00:28:14.080 Or she might have just had a bad experience, fallen for a bad guy, whatever.
00:28:17.700 A couple of times.
00:28:18.760 If that's how we women are, which is fair enough to say, because we're emotional beings, be careful. 0.99
00:28:25.380 So don't drink when you go on a first date.
00:28:27.440 And then you probably, hopefully, might not make a silly choice.
00:28:31.760 Interesting.
00:28:32.680 And yourself?
00:28:35.000 Me?
00:28:35.460 Yeah.
00:28:36.400 Do you know what?
00:28:37.120 I actually don't go on that many dates, to be honest.
00:28:39.580 I kind of like to know the person before it got to that.
00:28:43.100 Because I'm not a not good person, and I can chat for days, and I can get on with anyone.
00:28:50.140 But for me, it takes, I'm a very confident person, so I would want my mind to be very confident.
00:28:56.700 Because I kind of naturally do lead.
00:28:58.380 I'm a natural leader.
00:28:59.240 So it would be nice for someone to put me in my place.
00:29:01.700 Do you know what I mean?
00:29:02.400 I just kind of take the reins and kind of just have things sorted out.
00:29:05.980 Yeah.
00:29:06.600 Yeah.
00:29:07.100 I'd probably like him to have things planned, and he'd put this, and do you know what I mean?
00:29:11.680 Interesting.
00:29:11.960 What about you?
00:29:13.100 How do you feel about first dates?
00:29:17.160 Do you feel like guys have that kind of down pack?
00:29:19.680 Do you feel nervous going on a first date?
00:29:21.760 Like, what is your biggest anxiety?
00:29:23.980 Like, conversation, this, like, what is your thought process?
00:29:29.940 Usually, if I go on a date, I already know him from somewhere.
00:29:33.060 Um, I guess, what's my biggest anxiety?
00:29:38.620 I don't really get anxious before dates.
00:29:40.220 Mm-hmm.
00:29:40.720 Okay, cool.
00:29:41.220 Yeah.
00:29:41.720 Okay.
00:29:42.880 So it's kind of just like someone that you usually kind of know, and it's just like, you're just meeting up.
00:29:46.260 Mm-hmm.
00:29:46.680 It's kind of casual.
00:29:47.260 Okay, cool.
00:29:48.760 Cool.
00:29:49.020 Yeah, no, I ask.
00:29:49.760 I know I can't even extend it to the guys as well.
00:29:52.380 But I ask because, um, you know, sometimes people have like really bad experiences or really good ones.
00:29:57.840 I like to, um, I feel like there's a way in which you can kind of break the ice, make the person feel confident.
00:30:04.900 And, um, that'll be something that I'm going to start venturing into, um, this year.
00:30:09.680 So focus on that and follow me at 90 Ranks.
00:30:13.060 And I'll kind of be spending more time on that.
00:30:16.500 The plug.
00:30:17.160 Wow.
00:30:17.500 Yeah.
00:30:17.700 I like that.
00:30:18.520 That little advert.
00:30:19.680 Yeah.
00:30:22.760 Yeah.
00:30:23.420 No, I like that, man.
00:30:24.440 I like that.
00:30:24.980 My thing's different with dates anyway, because I just kind of say,
00:30:27.300 let's just go vibe and see how it goes.
00:30:29.240 That's my thing.
00:30:30.120 Because I feel like dates and putting a label on certain things just adds pressure and people react.
00:30:35.340 Most people drink on dates because it loosens them up or whatever.
00:30:38.000 I just kind of want you to be your natural self, vice versa.
00:30:41.300 So I feel like if I say, look, let's just go vibe.
00:30:43.620 Where do you want to go vibe?
00:30:44.880 Let's go to this cocktail bar in Elephant Castle.
00:30:47.480 Cool, let's go.
00:30:48.040 What time are you going to go there?
00:30:48.980 I'll be there for about five.
00:30:50.060 Cool.
00:30:50.380 I roll up about 4.45.
00:30:51.720 I'll be outside waiting.
00:30:52.920 There's no pressure on either side.
00:30:54.920 Yeah.
00:30:55.040 That's kind of where I'm at in my early 30s.
00:30:58.440 That's where I'm at anyway.
00:30:59.580 But yeah.
00:31:01.540 Wayne Alain, if you want vibes, my Instagram is EOPositiveVibes.
00:31:06.760 That's Energy of Positive Vibes.
00:31:09.300 Zed at the end. 0.56
00:31:12.040 Cool.
00:31:12.680 Cool.
00:31:14.260 Yeah.
00:31:14.660 Every time I've come on these podcasts, I've always had quite a lot of fun.
00:31:21.240 My leaving point, my lasting point is everyone needs to understand the nuances of what they do and why they do what they do.
00:31:31.520 Understand the psychology of why you make the actions that you make.
00:31:35.420 Because a lot of the things that you do in life is a third party putting that in your mind in some way, shape or form, right?
00:31:43.460 So we always have to really, really, really be careful when we look at the actions we take and why we take them.
00:31:48.880 Because I understand the psychology of why we take those steps lets us better understand what kind of person we are, what kind of person we want to be, the things that we find attractive and why.
00:32:00.980 And it can help you better understand yourself.
00:32:03.900 So that's just like a tangent that means nothing.
00:32:08.220 But like, it's just anyone who's watching, just please understand the psychology of your own mind.
00:32:13.300 Understand the psychology of the people who are around.
00:32:15.480 So then you can understand how to take steps in this world, right?
00:32:20.180 And social media, I don't really use social media, but you can follow me on DionneScortFranklin1.
00:32:25.960 If enough people message saying that they want a YouTube channel, I will make one.
00:32:30.080 I guess.
00:32:30.760 Thank you guys all for coming.
00:32:35.740 A couple announcements, guys, before we end the show.
00:32:38.520 Again, I will not have shows for, I don't know, until like second week of June or something.
00:32:44.460 So I'm gone for a minute.
00:32:45.840 But we're going to do meetups in, I think, Santa Barbara, maybe L.A., Miami, Vegas, Nashville, and maybe D.C.
00:32:57.560 Those are the, I think those are the six cities we're going to.
00:32:59.940 So sign up to our Google form.
00:33:01.980 That should be in the chat and maybe pinned in the comments.
00:33:05.820 Follow my Instagram if you have topics you want to see me cover.
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00:33:12.940 What up, guys?
00:33:18.660 Welcome to the Just Pearly Things YouTube channel and welcome to the pregame.
00:33:22.580 Yo, what's going on, people?
00:33:25.480 King Richie is back again with another podcast.
00:33:27.640 Good evening and hi and welcome to Auntie Jenny's Village, Auntie Jenny's podcast.
00:33:31.980 It's your boy, the Fresh Prince of Zomone.
00:33:35.680 But I've been coffee-free for four months, okay?
00:33:38.560 I got to say that.
00:33:39.420 How can everyone have someone out there for them when there's more women than men? 1.00
00:33:43.560 Like, I'm not saying you have to be submissive to every old waste man walking around. 1.00
00:33:47.400 I'm just saying that it would be femininity would be in your nature. 1.00
00:33:50.420 Breaking it is to find somebody that you're compatible with, that you like.
00:33:53.300 Not just of your same generation and that likes the same things that you do.
00:33:57.540 Going out, having fun.
00:33:58.760 Then get out.
00:33:59.780 Okay, okay.
00:34:01.040 Then, then, then get out.
00:34:02.460 Then get out.
00:34:02.900 I'm so tired.
00:34:03.760 Aster, Aster, then get out.
00:34:05.140 I'm not here to get cancelled today.
00:34:06.720 Most men want a woman that has some degree of femininity where they feel like they're taking care of, taking care of.
00:34:11.940 I'm ladylike.
00:34:12.740 I'm submissive.
00:34:13.800 And you'd be surprised because I will say what I want to say now and I'll say what I want to say with my man.
00:34:18.540 But my demeanor doesn't change.
00:34:20.280 And I'm going to look down on him because at the end of the day, whoever you're with is a reflection of you.
00:34:24.820 What has happened to society that has made the normal man a waste man?
00:34:30.260 I would feel so bad asking a guy to buy her like a $3,000 bag. 0.73
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