Modern Women Get Schooled For Her Ideology
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Summary
In this episode of After Show, we have a light conversation with Brittany Renner about her experience with hate comments and how she dealt with it. We also talk about how she deals with the hate comments she receives and what she does to deal with them.
Transcript
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Okay. What up, guys? We just had our 100th episode and we had Andrew Tate on. We recorded it. It's not uploaded yet, but we had some of the guests from the panel. We have a special guest, Brittany Renner, and we're just having a light conversation after.
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And we have a lot of these conversations after shows where even where it's like superheated, we'll all sit down and like chat and you guys don't really get to see it. So I decided to do a quick live and just show you guys what happens after shows. So we were just talking about your experience on the show. Yeah, a little miss hate video.
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But I should write you a check for all the money I made off the hate video.
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And then my question to you was, what part of the hate comments resonated with you to where you were like, okay, why does this hurt me?
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And obviously what those men were taking from the episode was that I don't like men. I'm misandrist.
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And they were saying, oh, this is why she'll be single forever.
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And I'm like, I have men, you know, and I love them.
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So it's like, why are you coming from me in that way?
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Like making me feel like I have no value just because I'm talking about my opinions and stuff.
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So I think that's what really got me because I don't want to be seen like I'm anti-men. Do you know what I mean?
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That's not what I'm about. Like, I'm just about women having their rights, women having their autonomy. That's it.
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But men, do your thing. You're kings. We love you. You know, that's kind of what I want to be known for.
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And I think I didn't like that I was seen in that light.
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And it made me think, is it the stuff I said? Are they misconstruing what I said? Do you know what I mean?
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It's definitely what you said and how you said it.
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And I'll tell you why. Because I watched the interview as well.
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And I'll compare myself to you because me and you, I've listened.
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I'm the troublemaker for a reason because I come here and every single time I'm on one of the episodes,
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there's people saying, pa, pa, pa, pa, pa, pa, pa.
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I've had people approach me in life, in real life to say to me, you're basically 30 now and you ain't got a man.
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And they were actually quite intentionally haterrific in my face.
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I really don't care because what I believe is my truth.
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And whatever people are telling me doesn't stick to me because their hate towards me is more sometimes a reflection of themselves.
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Because they cannot understand how Denalva can say all of these things and still feel good about herself.
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I don't really care if somebody's telling me I'm 30, I'm going to be on my own and I don't have a man.
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Because my truth is that if I want to be with somebody, I can work for it.
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But the thing about me is I reflect on myself a lot.
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And if you feel like you're doing something wrong and if a lot of people are saying the same thing, I have to think, wait, am I doing the right thing?
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So I think, obviously, I have self-confidence in myself, yeah, but I also need to reflect and actually think, okay, I know what I believe in.
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But why would you take offense to it if someone's telling you something?
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You can either, if you know yourself, you can be like, okay, they don't know what they're talking about.
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Or you can take it, assess it, take what they said, and then leave the pieces that they're like, yeah, no, that's not me.
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Because when I first came on the show, they didn't like me at all.
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And I was just like, well, I don't know why they don't like me.
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I was like, okay, well, maybe I should listen more.
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Take what they say and say and do things differently or say things differently and understand from them.
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And if they're speaking a little rubbish, I'm like, okay, y'all don't know what you're talking about.
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Everybody going to say whatever they want to say.
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I hear that people always say it's the internet.
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People are killing themselves because of the internet.
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People are killing themselves outside of the internet.
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We need to have a bit of censorship because people just keep saying it's the internet.
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When I came on the show, it was so overwhelming, like so much like.
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Like you were talking most of the show and there's people that come on.
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They don't really know what type of show it is.
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I know, but I'm saying like, if you see the type of environment, you don't like it.
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Like, that's what I was going to leave as soon as like, I was like, okay, this is that type of vibe.
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Then I look back because I'm like, oh, she can't hold her up.
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You could have just been quiet and said, okay, like whatever.
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And then just when a camera moved, just walked out.
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I didn't know the type of environment was, I didn't even know I was coming on the show.
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Eddie reached out to me and I thought I was going on his podcast.
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Obviously, now that I know, that's when you invited me for this episode, I understood what it's about.
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And it's like, okay, don't take anything personal.
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And obviously I have a podcast when I have guests come on my, on my show.
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I'm very like, I care about how they feel because I, I, I'm, I'm a massive believer in protecting people's mental health.
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Like people want to kill themselves because of this stuff.
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And a lot of shows that I've been on, stand up TV.
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And it was just very like, well, but do you realize, do you realize you, no one forced you to say anything.
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So how is, because Pearl didn't reach out to you to see if you were okay because everything happened.
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Like Pearl said, if you, if you didn't want people to come after you, you could have just sat back.
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It doesn't matter if you don't know the followers.
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People are going to come at you no matter what.
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So if you don't want people coming at you, it's just like, okay, sit back, not say anything.
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Like, I just feel like, like when Andrew was talking about how everything in life is your fault, I literally believe that.
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Because it's like, like, you know, when that, when that girl came on and she like got a couple points on me and, and honestly, like, I felt like she was just arguing.
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Like, I just felt she came in like heated, right?
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But like, instead of saying, oh, like she click baited me.
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I'll take my, I'll, I'll let her get her TikTok cloud off of it.
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I think what I take accountability is I should have asked more questions to Eddie.
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So when Eddie was like, oh, you want to come on a YouTube channel?
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But like, what was stopping you when you got here and you realized it wasn't his podcast from like Googling the podcast you were on?
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I know, I know, but I'm saying, I'm saying you could, you usually get like a half hour before the show starts.
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People like, we'll chill out, hang out, whatever.
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You could see the titles within five minutes of research.
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And this is why I will never accept any invitation to any show, any podcast until I know exactly what I'm walking around.
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But here's the thing, like I would, I would, I just, I didn't.
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If you, if you would have never came on, you wouldn't be sitting here.
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If you would have left, you wouldn't be sitting here.
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Every single time, especially when it comes to the internet, you know, one thing, there'll be people that like you.
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Especially if you now have an opinion that is strong, whatever that opinion is, be ready to face the backlash.
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When I went on his show, I knew that there was a possibility that people go against me because I come with a different personality.
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The moment the camera is on, I know the consequences of my actions.
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So there is no excuse to go somewhere and be like, the camera is on and now your haters are, your followers are haters.
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Wait, actually, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
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If anything, if anything, Brittany has more of a reason to hate me than anyone here.
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I felt like because Pearl is not in my situation, I feel like it's easy to be like, oh, well, you know, you made a mistake.
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Because let's go back to what she said during the podcast, which was we were talking about the kids stuff.
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I can see how you feel that way, but, like, let me try to break it down for you so you can understand.
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It's like if you're not, it's all fun and games until it's you.
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So that's where, for me, like, it's not even like, oh, she's coming for me.
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I'm just trying to explain to her this is my perspective.
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Because at the end of the day, I open my legs and I can have a baby or not, but I can't have a baby without cement.
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So, yeah, I didn't feel like, I feel like Pearl's in her style, too.
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Before I actually, like, really, like the past few days, did like a deep dive watching all of you guys, like really getting into it.
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Like, I felt like there was this unlikable quality to her because she wasn't, she was not going to say her personal experience, but she's going to ask a question that you're like, girl, you're a woman.
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But, like, I feel like it still poses for good conversation.
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And when I watched her wife's school, when I really, like, was talking to her outside of it, I'm like, I could see her personality.
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So I feel like understanding her personality and then when it comes time in here to interview, you're going to get a little bit of a different person.
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But it's also your responsibility to do your due diligence, too.
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The last thing on my mind is, oh, this is going to be our talk.
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Let me stop it for two seconds because this is the truth.
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What I don't like and what I will not stand for is somebody that actually had the exact same experience as me.
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Be upset because you could not handle it with the substance of the woman that you are.
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Pearl and anybody on this podcast, what they did to you that night is they won.
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And this is the problem that they had with you then because you're not willing to listen to where you went wrong.
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You went wrong because you were not strong enough in your opinion.
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All the super chats, every single comment on there is about denial of how she delusional.
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In fact, on that same day that I came, Sarah came for me.
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A man came for me and he told me a lot of things and I held my own.
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Because as a woman, I stand on my own two feet.
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I believe my truth and there ain't no thing that nobody can tell me, one or two that can make me change my mind because I know who I am.
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If you're coming on the internet and you're going to put your voice out there, be sure that you know who you are because people will come to you.
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And if you doubt yourself, that's why it goes wrong.
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Your problem was that you were weak to come here.
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I thought we were all just talking about our opinions.
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But what if someone doesn't agree with your opinion?
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Because if you look at it, because I was sitting there and you were talking, if you look at it and you listen to what you're saying and how you say you believe this way, you went one place and you changed your whole belief system.
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It's like, how can you be this and then go somewhere instantly change it because of you saying that sitting in this seat right here, it gave other people a perspective that you weren't strong enough in your faith to go to another place to where it was a different environment, different religion, different everything to be able to stay strong in that as soon as you got there or not as soon as you got there, but when you got there, it changed.
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So from the words that came out of your mouth, it gave other people a perspective and that's what they were saying to you.
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But you gotta think, we're on a podcast with lots of people talking.
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What I was trying to explain is, that's how it started.
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It was because I just started reflecting on life.
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So I'm not saying I literally just went to China and my faith just changed.
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Even this, what you're doing right now is emotional response to something that you can just say,
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To me, it's not really something I want to talk about.
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But you don't benefit from reacting like this and putting something out there...
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If you didn't want to talk about it, you went on another podcast and talked about it.
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I spoke about it because when are we walking...
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Do you know Eddie orchestrated the whole thing, right?
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I'm ready to move on from it because it is just what it is.
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Personally, I don't agree with that way of conducting.
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Unless people know what they're going into, we need to have a level of censorship.
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If we had censorship, then who's the one that's going to control that?
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Because if we have censorship, according to Pearl's followers, I should be shut down immediately.
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But Danava, what I'm trying to say is not everyone is you.
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The whole point is if you ain't like me, don't go and talk like you like me.
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This is the reason why you got into the trouble that you got into.
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And I am very much more entitled to finish my thought.
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When you come on the internet, wherever you go, you think you got a voice.
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You don't take it back and get upset because somebody didn't agree with you.
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I've had a lot more rejection and a lot more reactions against me than you have had.
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And the reason why it didn't stick to me is because I am not weak.
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If you are not a woman that can speak in her truth, do not put yourself against people that go against you.
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Because I don't get why you are so hyped about it.
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In fact, I argue with Pearl way more than you do.
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I've been on this show way more times than you have.
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I've faced Auntie Jenny way more times than you have.
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As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok.
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And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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