Modern Women Gets Blame For Pregnacy
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Who is to blame for pregnancy, men or women? Does it take two to tango to get pregnant, or does it take one to tango? Who has the final say in the outcome of pregnancy and who is responsible for it?
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sometimes yeah like just because it's very who is to blame for pregnancy men or women
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or does it take two to tango so i want to go around everyone give your take on that question
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i feel like it takes two to tango okay yeah definitely um what who's to blame men or women
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yeah um this might be a um what do they call it a controversial yeah i say women women why because
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men don't know that men are probably just there for them both obviously both they're like she's hot
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in there yeah they just know so yeah and it's more so you know if you do get pregnant who who who's
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more responsive who's more responsible for it who's the one that can have that final decision
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okay yeah i think women for sure okay yeah because i think sex as an act itself um it's more costly to
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women than men i think men have a part to play in it as well because you know you know what you're
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about to do not to believe her um and i think you need to take responsibility for the actions
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it's whether if i if the person if the guy wanted it or not um yeah she would be to blame if you
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want to say that okay yeah 50 50. both to blame so why do women call themselves the creators of life
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when the pregnancy is wanted oh and the example they use it anyone i don't think they should use that
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term he got me knocked up you got yourself knocked up like you literally went into it knew that no
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matter what contraception you're taking is never do everything right and she can still steal the condom
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very wealthy men that's actually very common for like people in certain positions most men you're
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right it's rare it's not for all men but among like super wealthy men that's very common they were
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misled to think she wasn't taking the pill or something similar i thought the thing expires in like
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it was yeah yeah every year but to regular like most of us i feel like it's it takes two to tango to
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get pregnant and it's i don't know why it's more women's fault yeah like you said uh sorry go ahead
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right um it's both we all know people who like there's something there's been some guys that are
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quite great go pregnant and he wants the baby she doesn't want it she makes the last decision
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last decision but who's blamed to get pregnant what i'm saying is i'm just trying to get women
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pregnant if you strap up who has the final say whether that pregnancy goes on or not no we're not
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saying who has the final say to give the birth so birth yeah it's a woman but you're pregnant
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it's two to blame but she can change that situation but wouldn't you say the woman has more power
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in general yes because because the woman has 41 forms of birth control you can require the men that they
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wear condoms so like what i'm saying is it's more on the woman because we have more power
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i would say yeah it's it's i would blame the woman because you know you know when you're ovulating
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and he does it and so that's just so much more power that we have where he could wear a condom in
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a break i just think men are wrecking responsibility so right okay quick question then if a if a girl got
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pregnant or for one night both well he's supposed to have called her to say yo is it your time of the
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mind no but both are to blame because both had sex or it's a bit of a girl's fault too
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i'm gonna give him 100 it will be her fault because she doesn't um self give a give a
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about what to blame not even 10 blame it's your fault no it's both people no
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once once the seaman leaves the guy he has no control do you know what i mean so he has no
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control yeah yeah but control is different from fault like yeah once it leaves you you'll have no
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control yeah but we pick we pick who has sex yeah you're telling me you should say oh no i
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let's like like i mean i just feel like men are programmed to do that i would say women should
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take more precaution because it will change their life way more if you're having a child but yeah i
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can i cannot just tell you if your son it's like 10 versus one exactly if i'm no i'm still on her side
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i still think it's 50 50. yeah if i'm if i'm if i play for the nfl or something then i i i'd know
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it would probably hurt me more let me ask you being careful as a man if you had a son and he
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got natural to him so how much would you blame him like what for having sex for getting someone
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pregnant and being no what do you mean he could okay he could have had condoms on and he broke
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i don't think it's i agree with you i don't think it's wise to be shooting up in random chicks
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yeah like that's not wise but the point is we have so much more power than the men that like if i had
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to blame someone i'm blaming the woman i don't think it's 50 50. even i don't even think it's close
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to 50 50. we can require they wear condoms or not and it's like we have all of these precautions
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where the men have won i feel like we just start looking who to blame who to blame because then i
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could say oh my parents never told me anything i didn't know much it's just my nature and i done it
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um yeah but there's google like come on no i would say i didn't know many things on my phone no one knew
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so you know they don't talk nowadays they very push this free movement right and no one said oh save
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yourself like my parents i had no talk about relationships so i forgot what you have sex same
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with the guy if if he has unprotected he can't say oh some girl got pregnant i feel like it's 50
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you got some girl pregnant but i'm gonna tell him that he's irresponsible obviously no i i was
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irresponsible for obviously shooting up the club but what's yes that's true i agree you know why do
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you think there hasn't been male birth control is it not medically like impossible or do you think if
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they wanted to find it they could have i i i have a hard time believing that they're creating
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artificial wounds but they couldn't see i asked you guys the question i could i could tell you my
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opinion after why don't you guys i'm assuming it might be harder to but i'm sure i saw right sorry
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so i'm just saying assuming it might be harder as there's a lot of a lot of sperm swimming around in
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there stop all our soldiers running in yeah it might be a bit more tricky it could be also that i
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don't know um if you were to give main contraceptions would just be you know um what do you think what
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do you think society how do you think society would change if we gave it would take over they would have
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all power then i say men already have power they do i agree i feel like yeah that you probably see less
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of you know um on plant babies because we're more logical i think so um surround because men will
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actually be a lot more responsible because they know what's going to happen yeah yeah the effects of
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their either their promiscuity or do you know what i mean so there would be um a lot more careful
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about probably who they sleep with or um they'll make sure they actually take the contraceptives or
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whatever it is like a reverse role yeah how it is now yeah so i think there'll be less single
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parents around yeah i agree and probably less children because a lot of men probably don't want
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to have children until later on in life so there'd be less children and the society will be probably
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like japan where there are one child what did you when you said that men are irresponsible what did you
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mean by that like if it depends which where you are um and but i think men definitely can because
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yeah women i'm multitask probably better than men like using your brain and being logical right yeah
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can i have an example no can i have an example no there can be demon sexually i don't just want to
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say that women all women are just complete illogical and that if you do give this power to men they would be
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so much more responsible and more logical really i think they'd be much more responsible with this
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especially with the way the laws are now i mean like you don't want to you don't want to knock up
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the wrong girl you're gonna be paying for it for 20 years maybe they would be more responsible because
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more times the men don't want the child so they probably would be more responsible about it um
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probably what in regards to taking the contraception but if they're not responsible without it yeah and
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what would make them more responsible with it because i feel like men just lean on the fact that
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oh i just need i just have one thing to do and that is only my responsibility nothing else silly to the
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consequence of yeah exactly no they're not like now it's just like the responsibility is off me yeah it's
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like i can do whatever i want and you know if as long as i have protection then that's my duty that's
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my like everything else is not me right now so if you were to reverse the roles they would have to
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think more oh well i need to do this i need to do this they would have to be more responsible i wouldn't
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say that men think that it's not me but say for example you are taking contraception we ain't taking
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condoms and let's say for example we made a woman pregnant we have no power anyway so i wouldn't
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say automatically men are like okay cool there's nothing more i i say i'm done it's more like okay
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this is all i can do yeah because for example if limited if we could equally make a decision whether
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this child can be born or not i'm pretty sure men will give more input but how many times have you
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heard men trying to give an opinion and a woman's like nope what i say is what it is yeah it's true
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so i'm saying and also another point i was going to add is it's a lot of the times due to the
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emotional attachment of the baby growing inside you sometimes your decisions may not be for the best
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because as men we don't go through that our brains are always going to think more logically because
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we don't have that attachment so we might i might be like for example my lifestyle right now isn't ready
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for a child where you're like how i feel right now it doesn't make sense to me get this baby because
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i'm gonna i know i'm gonna feel after i'm thinking if we bring this into the world our financial
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situation or our living situation is not beneficial for this child so it's better that we don't have
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this child but that's once you've already conceived how is my life going to change
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do you guys think what she's saying is true just by and large the guys in the room no i i think most
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men do think about the consequences of their actions um it's unfortunate that you know sometimes
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babies are born um but i know speaking for myself i i i think about all the consequences of all the
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actions that i do before i get into anything you know um i'm i try and take responsibility for the
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actions that i take and i try and always preempt what might happen if i engage in a particular act
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no matter what it is so but i don't know i'm just looking from a perspective of like let's say night
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club state i don't think many guys drink and think like oh i might get pregnant they just see a hot ass
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and they go for it also to add to that so if a woman is just as irresponsible as a man is for example
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let's say i'm gonna have sex with someone for example if this woman doesn't really care at all
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about contraception anything then it's like okay if you don't care more times i'm not gonna care but
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you should be very serious about the protection that's gonna make me serious but you should put your
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own life in your hands knowing some strangers do you know what i mean because now you're giving
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your life or your you know how your life is gonna go to some stranger if you're easy i'm easy if you're
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serious then i'm more protected that's you shouldn't do that but then i think the decisions we make are
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based on get pregnant what happens you'll still be i can see move to miami for a new job and you know
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you see a child once a week once a month exactly almost a year or something but you can't so
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yeah but is that okay i'm just saying that that's the risk for them is way less you know
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i think the risk is more for men more yeah you having a kid with the wrong girl it can ruin your
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life you can be on child support for 18 years people commit suicide over not still part to blame
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um i mean i i don't think it's why i have a friend that we know personally and
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he was with his own wife at the time but due to their disagreements for example he is fighting
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fighting hard to get some form of custody over their child but because she is the female she
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gets more priority and he's fighting fighting fighting to the point where he told me how stressed
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he is sleepless nights wanting to see his children but she just like no and then and they're not really
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giving him a time of day do you not think in that situation i've seen a lot of women know the man
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very well they know how to push the buttons and the man just doesn't know how to control that woman
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like sometimes if you just give a woman silence she'll come to you and say oh can you see the child
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or something like that you know so i feel like those men they're not maybe as equipped or mentally they're
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just going the wrong route you know where the woman has all the power and you just keep begging her or
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you know but then why does he have to beg to see his child no if he stops she will come after yes
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say can you see the can you guarantee that because not every woman may think like some women you need
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to try some women are just spiteful i think but it's like that shouldn't be legal yeah yeah it's very
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wrong because it's the other way around i'm pretty sure the same energy that's being pulled towards him
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wouldn't be i think it takes a strong man to control a woman and not have that baby drama
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but there's a way you can do it what do you what do you guys think yeah yeah there's a plan you can do
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it yeah i mean like do you think it's easy to control baby mamas no there's a way but there's a way but
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it's difficult it's possible it just depends on your situation yeah it is possible yeah what do you guys
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think yeah no the issue i have here is the whole point of it's got to be a strong man to control a
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woman but then the same way you still be criticizing the man for not feeling his role as a father so
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it's like i have a way as a man it's like i feel like why does every man have to be strong to be able
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to have it's hard to be a man to their child so i'm saying yeah it can be a hard life for man i feel
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like right from the start of the problems if she starts giving problem referring to the baby mama
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uh i don't like seeing baby mama the mother of your child and stuff yeah you gotta give that
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impression that you're ready to walk away and it's a lot of the time if you if you give that
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impression that you're ready to walk and mean it yeah trust me things gonna go your way when she
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knows you're staying and you're gonna be there and chase chase she's gonna make it harder that's my
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what i think see but all that's trauma for my child that's trauma and then if i do walk away
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thinking that it might work you can come back as a father you ain't doing right by your child it's like
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it doesn't matter your child will know when you grow up you can tell well i know there's damage
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but you know you can walk away for yeah i swear she's gonna come back and say can you see your
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child once she might she might not this is all assumptions right now yeah but okay you said that
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you know there might be damage to the child but what about you you've missed a year of your child's
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life like yeah maybe the child in the future won't remember they might but well and the first four
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years the first four years of life that's when the most development happens exactly like i i know
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um a decent amount about adoption and like this relates to this but yeah because my parents adopted
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three teenagers but a lot of times like even if you adopt a four or five year old and they don't
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remember like before they're they're so psychologically damaged from like going from different caretakers
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that like i have a friend um that i knew through church and like she had um a brother that was just
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like so damaged from the first four years of his life being in so in being with inconsistent caretakers
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that it damaged him for life and he was always like the problem kid in the family i mean it is unfair
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um the the power between women and men when there's you know they're not together and there's a child is
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just a lot of disadvantages it's very unfair um especially even less no matter how much you end it
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should be like a cutoff point i feel like it should be 50 50 custody like off the bat i don't know why
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women are like even if the man doesn't want 50 50 uh the child would have to live with the father 50.
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well i mean if he doesn't want to be in the life i guess not no he wants let's say but he doesn't want
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the child staying like four days he wants like one day i think off the back it should i think off the
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bat they should start with 50 50 custody and they can work it out between them right like the government
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should say you both have to yeah like 50 50. that makes sense yeah because i don't know why women
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are just assumed to be better parents when they're more likely to abuse a child they're more violent
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towards their children oh are they true i've seen it my own eyes yeah what have you seen um so
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you can go supermarkets you can hear the mom shine at the child um i had um i had a couple aunties
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that were like that and it's like i've even got some friends that were like that and i know a couple
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of times i've been like why are you shining like that so much sometimes obviously it's not as much
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prevalent as it is now but back in the day there was a lot of beating as well so but what the way
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i grew up all my friends me the dad is the one you know shouting or beating or you know the mom is
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not the one but that's that's with the parents but could it be that it's because the moms are around
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the kids more yes because you know when you are around the child more they frustrate you more yeah
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like if you're just coming like if you're even not in the picture or uh if you are but like you work
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a long hours and you only see your children for like a little short time if the mom is with them
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like pretty much 24 7 they're gonna drive her crazy i think i'm gonna disagree on that one
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i think women are just more emotional yeah true yes like like you know women are more likely to wage
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war to do what to do to wage war like percentage-wise like i know more men have because more men have
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been in power but women are actually more likely to do it when they're in power what's we wage war
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like start war oh go to war oh like go to fight like yeah just i think like i just think we get
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pissed off i've seen a lot of women trying to fight men thinking what you're doing so yeah
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because even in my household i love you i lived with both parents yeah and if i compared the two
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my mom did way more shouting than what i did like he knew ways to can not say control us but to keep us
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obedient that did beating that did beating as in the early early stages yes but even then as many of
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