JustPearlyThings - Modern Women Gets Blame For Pregnacy

00:00:00.000 sometimes yeah like just because it's very who is to blame for pregnancy men or women

00:00:06.640 or does it take two to tango so i want to go around everyone give your take on that question

00:00:11.840 i feel like it takes two to tango okay yeah definitely um what who's to blame men or women

00:00:18.880 yeah um this might be a um what do they call it a controversial yeah i say women women why because 1.00

00:00:31.360 men don't know that men are probably just there for them both obviously both they're like she's hot 1.00

00:00:36.160 in there yeah they just know so yeah and it's more so you know if you do get pregnant who who who's 1.00

00:00:46.160 more responsive who's more responsible for it who's the one that can have that final decision

00:00:53.280 okay yeah i think women for sure okay yeah because i think sex as an act itself um it's more costly to

00:01:03.440 women than men i think men have a part to play in it as well because you know you know what you're

00:01:10.720 about to do not to believe her um and i think you need to take responsibility for the actions

00:01:16.720 it's whether if i if the person if the guy wanted it or not um yeah she would be to blame if you

00:01:24.960 want to say that okay yeah 50 50. both to blame so why do women call themselves the creators of life 1.00

00:01:35.280 when the pregnancy is wanted oh and the example they use it anyone i don't think they should use that

00:01:41.360 term he got me knocked up you got yourself knocked up like you literally went into it knew that no

00:01:46.080 matter what contraception you're taking is never do everything right and she can still steal the condom 1.00

00:01:51.360 very wealthy men that's actually very common for like people in certain positions most men you're

00:01:56.560 right it's rare it's not for all men but among like super wealthy men that's very common they were

00:02:02.080 misled to think she wasn't taking the pill or something similar i thought the thing expires in like 0.98

00:02:07.360 it was yeah yeah every year but to regular like most of us i feel like it's it takes two to tango to

00:02:16.400 get pregnant and it's i don't know why it's more women's fault yeah like you said uh sorry go ahead 0.98

00:02:24.160 right um it's both we all know people who like there's something there's been some guys that are

00:02:30.320 quite great go pregnant and he wants the baby she doesn't want it she makes the last decision 1.00

00:02:34.000 last decision but who's blamed to get pregnant what i'm saying is i'm just trying to get women

00:02:39.040 pregnant if you strap up who has the final say whether that pregnancy goes on or not no we're not

00:02:44.560 saying who has the final say to give the birth so birth yeah it's a woman but you're pregnant 0.63

00:02:49.280 it's two to blame but she can change that situation but wouldn't you say the woman has more power 1.00

00:02:54.320 in general yes because because the woman has 41 forms of birth control you can require the men that they

00:02:59.120 wear condoms so like what i'm saying is it's more on the woman because we have more power 0.97

00:03:03.920 i would say yeah it's it's i would blame the woman because you know you know when you're ovulating 1.00

00:03:10.400 and he does it and so that's just so much more power that we have where he could wear a condom in

00:03:14.960 a break i just think men are wrecking responsibility so right okay quick question then if a if a girl got 1.00

00:03:20.640 pregnant or for one night both well he's supposed to have called her to say yo is it your time of the

00:03:25.280 mind no but both are to blame because both had sex or it's a bit of a girl's fault too 0.52

00:03:31.680 i'm gonna give him 100 it will be her fault because she doesn't um self give a give a 1.00

00:03:37.520 about what to blame not even 10 blame it's your fault no it's both people no

00:03:44.880 once once the seaman leaves the guy he has no control do you know what i mean so he has no

00:03:49.280 control yeah yeah but control is different from fault like yeah once it leaves you you'll have no

00:03:55.280 control yeah but we pick we pick who has sex yeah you're telling me you should say oh no i 0.54

00:04:04.240 let's like like i mean i just feel like men are programmed to do that i would say women should

00:04:09.680 take more precaution because it will change their life way more if you're having a child but yeah i

00:04:14.880 can i cannot just tell you if your son it's like 10 versus one exactly if i'm no i'm still on her side

00:04:21.040 i still think it's 50 50. yeah if i'm if i'm if i play for the nfl or something then i i i'd know

00:04:26.240 it would probably hurt me more let me ask you being careful as a man if you had a son and he

00:04:31.680 got natural to him so how much would you blame him like what for having sex for getting someone

00:04:37.840 pregnant and being no what do you mean he could okay he could have had condoms on and he broke

00:04:43.840 i don't think it's i agree with you i don't think it's wise to be shooting up in random chicks

00:04:48.400 yeah like that's not wise but the point is we have so much more power than the men that like if i had

00:04:53.840 to blame someone i'm blaming the woman i don't think it's 50 50. even i don't even think it's close

00:04:58.880 to 50 50. we can require they wear condoms or not and it's like we have all of these precautions

00:05:04.480 where the men have won i feel like we just start looking who to blame who to blame because then i

00:05:09.440 could say oh my parents never told me anything i didn't know much it's just my nature and i done it

00:05:13.440 um yeah but there's google like come on no i would say i didn't know many things on my phone no one knew

00:05:19.280 so you know they don't talk nowadays they very push this free movement right and no one said oh save

00:05:25.440 yourself like my parents i had no talk about relationships so i forgot what you have sex same

00:05:32.400 with the guy if if he has unprotected he can't say oh some girl got pregnant i feel like it's 50

00:05:38.160 you got some girl pregnant but i'm gonna tell him that he's irresponsible obviously no i i was 0.61

00:05:43.760 irresponsible for obviously shooting up the club but what's yes that's true i agree you know why do

00:05:50.480 you think there hasn't been male birth control is it not medically like impossible or do you think if

00:05:57.280 they wanted to find it they could have i i i have a hard time believing that they're creating

00:06:02.480 artificial wounds but they couldn't see i asked you guys the question i could i could tell you my

00:06:07.680 opinion after why don't you guys i'm assuming it might be harder to but i'm sure i saw right sorry

00:06:14.560 so i'm just saying assuming it might be harder as there's a lot of a lot of sperm swimming around in

00:06:19.840 there stop all our soldiers running in yeah it might be a bit more tricky it could be also that i

00:06:26.000 don't know um if you were to give main contraceptions would just be you know um what do you think what

00:06:32.960 do you think society how do you think society would change if we gave it would take over they would have

00:06:37.120 all power then i say men already have power they do i agree i feel like yeah that you probably see less

00:06:48.880 of you know um on plant babies because we're more logical i think so um surround because men will 1.00

00:06:58.400 actually be a lot more responsible because they know what's going to happen yeah yeah the effects of

00:07:04.000 their either their promiscuity or do you know what i mean so there would be um a lot more careful

00:07:11.440 about probably who they sleep with or um they'll make sure they actually take the contraceptives or 0.92

00:07:16.960 whatever it is like a reverse role yeah how it is now yeah so i think there'll be less single

00:07:23.120 parents around yeah i agree and probably less children because a lot of men probably don't want 0.68

00:07:28.000 to have children until later on in life so there'd be less children and the society will be probably 0.96

00:07:35.040 like japan where there are one child what did you when you said that men are irresponsible what did you

00:07:42.000 mean by that like if it depends which where you are um and but i think men definitely can because

00:07:50.320 yeah women i'm multitask probably better than men like using your brain and being logical right yeah 0.99

00:07:55.840 can i have an example no can i have an example no there can be demon sexually i don't just want to

00:08:01.600 say that women all women are just complete illogical and that if you do give this power to men they would be 0.98

00:08:08.080 so much more responsible and more logical really i think they'd be much more responsible with this

00:08:12.880 especially with the way the laws are now i mean like you don't want to you don't want to knock up

00:08:17.280 the wrong girl you're gonna be paying for it for 20 years maybe they would be more responsible because 1.00

00:08:24.000 more times the men don't want the child so they probably would be more responsible about it um

00:08:31.680 probably what in regards to taking the contraception but if they're not responsible without it yeah and

00:08:38.800 what would make them more responsible with it because i feel like men just lean on the fact that

00:08:43.280 oh i just need i just have one thing to do and that is only my responsibility nothing else silly to the

00:08:50.640 consequence of yeah exactly no they're not like now it's just like the responsibility is off me yeah it's

00:08:57.840 like i can do whatever i want and you know if as long as i have protection then that's my duty that's

00:09:04.080 my like everything else is not me right now so if you were to reverse the roles they would have to

00:09:10.160 think more oh well i need to do this i need to do this they would have to be more responsible i wouldn't

00:09:15.040 say that men think that it's not me but say for example you are taking contraception we ain't taking

00:09:22.080 condoms and let's say for example we made a woman pregnant we have no power anyway so i wouldn't 1.00

00:09:28.400 say automatically men are like okay cool there's nothing more i i say i'm done it's more like okay

00:09:33.920 this is all i can do yeah because for example if limited if we could equally make a decision whether

00:09:40.080 this child can be born or not i'm pretty sure men will give more input but how many times have you

00:09:45.040 heard men trying to give an opinion and a woman's like nope what i say is what it is yeah it's true 0.99

00:09:50.000 so i'm saying and also another point i was going to add is it's a lot of the times due to the

00:09:55.520 emotional attachment of the baby growing inside you sometimes your decisions may not be for the best

00:10:00.800 because as men we don't go through that our brains are always going to think more logically because

00:10:04.480 we don't have that attachment so we might i might be like for example my lifestyle right now isn't ready

00:10:09.040 for a child where you're like how i feel right now it doesn't make sense to me get this baby because

00:10:12.880 i'm gonna i know i'm gonna feel after i'm thinking if we bring this into the world our financial

00:10:18.080 situation or our living situation is not beneficial for this child so it's better that we don't have

00:10:22.160 this child but that's once you've already conceived how is my life going to change

00:10:30.080 do you guys think what she's saying is true just by and large the guys in the room no i i think most

00:10:35.760 men do think about the consequences of their actions um it's unfortunate that you know sometimes

00:10:43.040 babies are born um but i know speaking for myself i i i think about all the consequences of all the

00:10:50.560 actions that i do before i get into anything you know um i'm i try and take responsibility for the

00:10:56.240 actions that i take and i try and always preempt what might happen if i engage in a particular act

00:11:02.400 no matter what it is so but i don't know i'm just looking from a perspective of like let's say night 0.98

00:11:09.280 club state i don't think many guys drink and think like oh i might get pregnant they just see a hot ass 1.00

00:11:14.480 and they go for it also to add to that so if a woman is just as irresponsible as a man is for example 0.99

00:11:23.440 let's say i'm gonna have sex with someone for example if this woman doesn't really care at all 1.00

00:11:29.280 about contraception anything then it's like okay if you don't care more times i'm not gonna care but

00:11:33.120 you should be very serious about the protection that's gonna make me serious but you should put your

00:11:38.480 own life in your hands knowing some strangers do you know what i mean because now you're giving

00:11:42.320 your life or your you know how your life is gonna go to some stranger if you're easy i'm easy if you're

00:11:46.640 serious then i'm more protected that's you shouldn't do that but then i think the decisions we make are

00:11:52.320 based on get pregnant what happens you'll still be i can see move to miami for a new job and you know 1.00

00:11:57.680 you see a child once a week once a month exactly almost a year or something but you can't so

00:12:01.520 yeah but is that okay i'm just saying that that's the risk for them is way less you know

00:12:07.920 i think the risk is more for men more yeah you having a kid with the wrong girl it can ruin your

00:12:14.080 life you can be on child support for 18 years people commit suicide over not still part to blame

00:12:20.160 um i mean i i don't think it's why i have a friend that we know personally and

00:12:24.560 he was with his own wife at the time but due to their disagreements for example he is fighting

00:12:33.040 fighting hard to get some form of custody over their child but because she is the female she 0.99

00:12:39.280 gets more priority and he's fighting fighting fighting to the point where he told me how stressed

00:12:43.920 he is sleepless nights wanting to see his children but she just like no and then and they're not really

00:12:49.280 giving him a time of day do you not think in that situation i've seen a lot of women know the man 1.00

00:12:56.320 very well they know how to push the buttons and the man just doesn't know how to control that woman 1.00

00:13:01.600 like sometimes if you just give a woman silence she'll come to you and say oh can you see the child

00:13:07.600 or something like that you know so i feel like those men they're not maybe as equipped or mentally they're

00:13:14.800 just going the wrong route you know where the woman has all the power and you just keep begging her or 1.00

00:13:19.520 you know but then why does he have to beg to see his child no if he stops she will come after yes

00:13:24.880 say can you see the can you guarantee that because not every woman may think like some women you need

00:13:30.000 to try some women are just spiteful i think but it's like that shouldn't be legal yeah yeah it's very 1.00

00:13:36.560 wrong because it's the other way around i'm pretty sure the same energy that's being pulled towards him

00:13:41.040 wouldn't be i think it takes a strong man to control a woman and not have that baby drama 1.00

00:13:46.240 but there's a way you can do it what do you what do you guys think yeah yeah there's a plan you can do

00:13:53.040 it yeah i mean like do you think it's easy to control baby mamas no there's a way but there's a way but 0.96

00:14:00.240 it's difficult it's possible it just depends on your situation yeah it is possible yeah what do you guys

00:14:06.560 think yeah no the issue i have here is the whole point of it's got to be a strong man to control a

00:14:12.640 woman but then the same way you still be criticizing the man for not feeling his role as a father so

00:14:16.960 it's like i have a way as a man it's like i feel like why does every man have to be strong to be able

00:14:21.920 to have it's hard to be a man to their child so i'm saying yeah it can be a hard life for man i feel

00:14:27.520 like right from the start of the problems if she starts giving problem referring to the baby mama 0.99

00:14:32.240 uh i don't like seeing baby mama the mother of your child and stuff yeah you gotta give that 0.99

00:14:37.440 impression that you're ready to walk away and it's a lot of the time if you if you give that

00:14:42.000 impression that you're ready to walk and mean it yeah trust me things gonna go your way when she

00:14:46.960 knows you're staying and you're gonna be there and chase chase she's gonna make it harder that's my 0.96

00:14:51.200 what i think see but all that's trauma for my child that's trauma and then if i do walk away

00:14:56.160 thinking that it might work you can come back as a father you ain't doing right by your child it's like

00:15:00.880 it doesn't matter your child will know when you grow up you can tell well i know there's damage

00:15:04.960 but you know you can walk away for yeah i swear she's gonna come back and say can you see your 1.00

00:15:11.360 child once she might she might not this is all assumptions right now yeah but okay you said that

00:15:16.480 you know there might be damage to the child but what about you you've missed a year of your child's

00:15:20.960 life like yeah maybe the child in the future won't remember they might but well and the first four

00:15:26.960 years the first four years of life that's when the most development happens exactly like i i know

00:15:32.160 um a decent amount about adoption and like this relates to this but yeah because my parents adopted

00:15:37.280 three teenagers but a lot of times like even if you adopt a four or five year old and they don't

00:15:41.680 remember like before they're they're so psychologically damaged from like going from different caretakers

00:15:47.600 that like i have a friend um that i knew through church and like she had um a brother that was just

00:15:53.760 like so damaged from the first four years of his life being in so in being with inconsistent caretakers

00:15:59.920 that it damaged him for life and he was always like the problem kid in the family i mean it is unfair

00:16:06.400 um the the power between women and men when there's you know they're not together and there's a child is

00:16:12.400 just a lot of disadvantages it's very unfair um especially even less no matter how much you end it

00:16:19.120 should be like a cutoff point i feel like it should be 50 50 custody like off the bat i don't know why

00:16:24.640 women are like even if the man doesn't want 50 50 uh the child would have to live with the father 50. 1.00

00:16:30.720 well i mean if he doesn't want to be in the life i guess not no he wants let's say but he doesn't want

00:16:36.720 the child staying like four days he wants like one day i think off the back it should i think off the

00:16:42.240 bat they should start with 50 50 custody and they can work it out between them right like the government

00:16:47.680 should say you both have to yeah like 50 50. that makes sense yeah because i don't know why women 1.00

00:16:52.560 are just assumed to be better parents when they're more likely to abuse a child they're more violent

00:16:56.960 towards their children oh are they true i've seen it my own eyes yeah what have you seen um so

00:17:05.600 you can go supermarkets you can hear the mom shine at the child um i had um i had a couple aunties

00:17:11.600 that were like that and it's like i've even got some friends that were like that and i know a couple

00:17:16.560 of times i've been like why are you shining like that so much sometimes obviously it's not as much

00:17:22.000 prevalent as it is now but back in the day there was a lot of beating as well so but what the way

00:17:26.720 i grew up all my friends me the dad is the one you know shouting or beating or you know the mom is

00:17:32.160 not the one but that's that's with the parents but could it be that it's because the moms are around

00:17:40.480 the kids more yes because you know when you are around the child more they frustrate you more yeah

00:17:45.760 like if you're just coming like if you're even not in the picture or uh if you are but like you work

00:17:53.360 a long hours and you only see your children for like a little short time if the mom is with them

00:17:58.560 like pretty much 24 7 they're gonna drive her crazy i think i'm gonna disagree on that one

00:18:02.880 i think women are just more emotional yeah true yes like like you know women are more likely to wage 1.00

00:18:07.520 war to do what to do to wage war like percentage-wise like i know more men have because more men have

00:18:14.640 been in power but women are actually more likely to do it when they're in power what's we wage war 1.00

00:18:19.840 like start war oh go to war oh like go to fight like yeah just i think like i just think we get

00:18:26.880 pissed off i've seen a lot of women trying to fight men thinking what you're doing so yeah 1.00

00:18:33.520 because even in my household i love you i lived with both parents yeah and if i compared the two 0.77

00:18:39.520 my mom did way more shouting than what i did like he knew ways to can not say control us but to keep us 0.70

00:18:46.000 obedient that did beating that did beating as in the early early stages yes but even then as many of

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JustPearlyThings - December 28, 2022

Modern Women Gets Blame For Pregnacy

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