JustPearlyThings - August 04, 2023


Modern Women Gets NUKED With These Questions

Topics
going out dynamics
Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
Darth Sidious Dimitri Lizzo
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Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

181.04

Word count

1,682

Sentence count

203

Harmful content

Misogyny

8

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Toxicity

8

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Hate speech

7

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In this episode, I sit down with my good friend, Lizzo, to talk about accountability in the dating world. We talk about what it means to be an adult in today's society and what it takes to be a responsible adult.

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00:00:00.000 And this is one of the things about your channel.
00:00:01.700 So I've been on the show a couple times, right?
00:00:03.680 And sometimes I peek in the comments to see what people say.
00:00:06.480 And here's what's interesting.
00:00:07.520 And I find this fascinating, right?
00:00:09.440 When I say something to the effect of women should be held accountable and should hold themselves accountable,
00:00:15.040 all the guys are like, Dimitri spitting the facts, whoo, brought the facts, right?
00:00:18.740 The moment I say that men need to hold themselves accountable, you're a simp, you're this, you're that.
00:00:23.640 It's like, no, man.
00:00:25.820 A little bullying, guys, is not a bad thing because it helps you be better.
00:00:29.260 Like, and you owe it to yourself to make promises to yourself that you keep and follow through on.
00:00:35.760 So, yes, women should be more accountable, obviously. 1.00
00:00:38.200 But as men, we should be accountable, too.
00:00:40.540 Yeah, I think, though, it's because the world will show men the truth where women will say Lizzo's at 10. 0.77
00:00:47.380 Not you guys.
00:00:48.220 Yeah, but listen, again, I'm sorry if I'm taking air, like you can cut me off.
00:00:52.380 But, like, even yesterday, like, you asked me a question, like, should, you know, would your daughter marry a bus driver?
00:00:57.740 I'm like, hell no, my daughter's not going to marry a bus driver.
00:00:59.740 It's not going to happen.
00:01:00.600 Like, as her dad, I work way too damn hard.
00:01:02.840 I live in a too nice neighborhood. 0.97
00:01:04.060 I send her to a freaking top. 1.00
00:01:05.980 Like, she goes to an elementary school that has the word college in it.
00:01:08.740 Like, when you're doing that, like, I'm putting her, you know, I'm putting her in classrooms with, like, kids of ambassadors and kids of the guy that runs the stock market in our country.
00:01:16.980 It's like those kind of kids, right?
00:01:18.520 I'm doing it so she doesn't marry a bus driver.
00:01:20.420 And so the men go and they're like, oh, you don't like middle class working men that run society.
00:01:26.160 I'm like, no, that's not what I'm saying.
00:01:27.920 I'm saying is I don't want my daughter to marry a career bus driver because that is not the problem that a 50-year-old man should be solving on how to drive the bus from point A to point B. 0.96
00:01:36.080 By the time you're 50, you should be running the damn organization and taking care of other employees and growing in your career. 0.97
00:01:41.780 That's the point. 0.98
00:01:42.580 Yes, there's nothing wrong with electricians when you're 26, 27 years old.
00:01:46.700 But if you're doing the same thing at 59 that you were at 27, you're solving the wrong problems, right?
00:01:51.880 So that's where the accountability argument comes in is that there's a problem that you solve, but it has to be age appropriate.
00:01:59.480 What do you think, red flag, first date?
00:02:03.120 A woman that's, like, always talking about her ex. 0.99
00:02:07.060 Has that happened before?
00:02:09.580 Yeah, it happened before.
00:02:10.520 On a first date?
00:02:12.440 When you get to know them and they talk about their ex, if their ex is in their life or not,
00:02:16.280 if they ever had a kid or they're talking about their ex and saying how they broke up and things like that.
00:02:23.780 Will you ghost or will you send them a text and be like, stop talking about the ex, goodbye forever?
00:02:30.920 I feel like for men it's not even ghosting, though, because if you don't reach out, they're not even going to, you know what I mean?
00:02:36.580 It's not like ghosting.
00:02:37.360 It's like you're just kind of choosing to end the dialogue.
00:02:41.000 Really?
00:02:41.560 Yeah.
00:02:41.880 Women will never reach out? 1.00
00:02:43.780 Rare.
00:02:44.400 It's rare.
00:02:44.880 They have to be bold.
00:02:47.320 Do you know, guys, sorry about this, but real quick, do you know what happens when you don't ghosting?
00:02:50.860 You've probably experienced this.
00:02:51.660 When you're like, hey, listen, you're really cool, but I see that you have some feelings and you're trying to escalate the relationship.
00:02:55.640 I just want to let you know that this is not going to be a serious relationship for me and you have to deal with it.
00:02:59.740 She just gets more attracted to you.
00:03:01.780 And then she's like, what are you doing?
00:03:03.460 I literally just told you who I am.
00:03:04.900 Why?
00:03:06.220 Have you found that to be true, too?
00:03:07.860 If you guys put a girl in the friends with benefits zone, she wants you more. 0.97
00:03:13.000 Yes.
00:03:13.520 Yes.
00:03:13.780 Definitely.
00:03:15.420 And do you find that if you try to commit to her, she wants you less?
00:03:19.560 Yes.
00:03:20.140 Yes.
00:03:22.620 Maybe it's both.
00:03:23.640 Yeah.
00:03:23.920 What do you guys have to say about that?
00:03:25.640 Why do we do that?
00:03:28.620 Do you guys find that you guys want guys you can't have?
00:03:32.200 It's interesting.
00:03:33.440 It's like, why don't you want me?
00:03:35.600 Like, why don't you?
00:03:36.660 You want to know why they don't want you.
00:03:38.840 Yeah.
00:03:39.060 Because, yeah.
00:03:41.180 What if they said, like, you're annoying?
00:03:45.840 It's big.
00:03:48.180 What can I say?
00:03:49.280 Would you, would you, would you, would you then stop chasing?
00:03:55.300 Me personally, I was, I'll ask them why.
00:03:58.200 No, no, no.
00:03:59.280 What I'm saying, they say you're annoying.
00:04:00.660 Then what?
00:04:02.720 It's the end of the conversation.
00:04:04.520 I'll stop.
00:04:05.420 But I just want to know, why do you think I'm annoying?
00:04:08.040 That's annoying.
00:04:08.720 I dig too deep.
00:04:14.100 That's why.
00:04:16.160 What made, oh, I have a question for you.
00:04:17.960 You're engaged, right?
00:04:19.160 What made your fiance different than guys you dated in the past?
00:04:24.240 He doesn't, he doesn't go out.
00:04:28.140 We're two completely different people.
00:04:30.420 So he doesn't go out, but I go out a lot.
00:04:33.860 As in raving?
00:04:34.860 Clubbing?
00:04:35.440 Yeah.
00:04:36.020 Wow.
00:04:37.580 Them dynamics are crazy.
00:04:39.280 I'm a sociable person.
00:04:41.160 I've always been at that.
00:04:42.080 I like to socialize.
00:04:44.280 As I said, I'm a girl's girl.
00:04:46.320 So yeah, I'm out a lot.
00:04:49.660 Yes, he doesn't like that.
00:04:51.580 So I try to minimize it.
00:04:53.680 But I just don't think I could be with someone that is also outside as well.
00:04:59.480 You have a lot of double standards.
00:05:00.760 Yeah, that's crazy.
00:05:02.280 That's crazy.
00:05:03.320 It wouldn't work.
00:05:04.120 I know that it wouldn't work.
00:05:05.340 It would be a very...
00:05:06.180 Why wouldn't you want him to go out?
00:05:09.680 I just feel like any guys that I kind of meet outside or in a party environment, like
00:05:18.820 just looking at them and how they carry themselves and how they're moving, how they're approaching
00:05:22.880 to females, what they're doing just doesn't appeal to me. 1.00
00:05:26.820 Can I ask a question?
00:05:28.360 Yeah, go ahead.
00:05:29.040 So how do you move when you're out?
00:05:31.000 Who may?
00:05:31.540 No, no.
00:05:32.220 Oh.
00:05:33.140 I'm reserved.
00:05:33.620 So what if it's to meet somebody that's reserved, move the same way that you do, out in a club?
00:05:40.960 Wouldn't it be the exact same?
00:05:42.460 Yeah.
00:05:42.720 Like, okay, so if I met somebody that's out at the back, you know, keeping themselves to
00:05:48.380 themselves, then, yeah, I could, I would think about it, like I would, I would, it would
00:05:54.360 be an option to speak to, like I would, yeah, I would talk to you or I would get to try and
00:05:58.520 get to know you.
00:05:59.280 But my preference is, I like a guy that's at home.
00:06:04.280 So what would you do if your current boyfriend says he wants you to stop going out?
00:06:11.120 Chale. 0.99
00:06:14.260 And I'm asking that because if he's watching, I'm giving him ideas.
00:06:19.080 My man.
00:06:20.000 Bravo.
00:06:21.260 My man.
00:06:22.300 Like, we have a lot, that's, we don't argue a lot, but most of the arguments are
00:06:28.940 about, you know, you're going out too much.
00:06:32.120 But when you met me, I was going out too much.
00:06:35.620 Yes, I understand that in relationships, you should change certain things, you know, like
00:06:41.500 if your partner doesn't agree on certain things, you should work and work around it and compromise,
00:06:46.780 which I have, and I've actually, don't go out as much as I used to.
00:06:51.080 I would say I go out probably.
00:06:55.540 A lot.
00:06:57.660 You go out a lot.
00:06:58.540 Yeah, I don't know.
00:06:59.600 How would you, how would you feel if your boyfriend went out to a party where every
00:07:04.960 single girl he met wanted to sleep with him? 0.96
00:07:09.180 Then, that, yeah, that would, that's crazy.
00:07:13.420 That would hurt me.
00:07:15.240 But, but guys. 0.99
00:07:16.760 I remember earlier when we said men will fuck out with anything. 0.99
00:07:21.500 Gotcha. 0.99
00:07:21.980 It's true.
00:07:25.540 Yeah.
00:07:26.180 I can't say anything about that.
00:07:28.400 But yeah, he, yeah, he doesn't go out.
00:07:31.500 He doesn't, his phone barely rings.
00:07:34.240 Like he goes to work.
00:07:35.500 He's an electrician.
00:07:36.320 So he goes to work.
00:07:37.120 He comes home.
00:07:38.320 We have a daughter together as well.
00:07:40.960 And he's a good man.
00:07:41.980 He sounds very safe.
00:07:43.040 Yeah.
00:07:43.320 He's like, I have, I've never had any problems.
00:07:45.960 Like his phone doesn't even have a password.
00:07:48.980 Like it's not.
00:07:49.780 What do you think the role of a wife is? 1.00
00:07:52.520 Um, a role of a wife. 1.00
00:07:53.800 Um, I would say to look after the household, um, obviously to raise the children in the
00:08:03.340 right way and to cater to your man, like to cater to him, make sure his, um, work clothes
00:08:11.880 are washed, make sure his, he's got a hot meal on his, um, on the table when he comes
00:08:16.560 home from work.
00:08:17.400 But I wouldn't say that.
00:08:18.840 Sorry.
00:08:19.200 That is what I think.
00:08:20.500 Yeah.
00:08:20.740 But I, yeah, I don't do that.
00:08:22.600 Oh my God.
00:08:23.520 I don't do that every day.
00:08:29.200 I do that every day.
00:08:31.520 I don't.
00:08:31.800 She's striving.
00:08:32.820 I don't.
00:08:33.220 What?
00:08:33.540 So women, I'm insecure for their husband every day. 0.99
00:08:36.160 Is that?
00:08:37.080 Sorry.
00:08:37.460 What's your question?
00:08:38.460 Wait, wait.
00:08:39.100 I have a question.
00:08:40.000 Wouldn't catering to your man be like listening to what he says?
00:08:45.700 Do you believe that wives should listen to their husbands? 1.00
00:08:49.780 Yeah.
00:08:50.120 Yeah.
00:08:50.580 Okay.
00:08:50.960 So if he told you, you just now.
00:08:52.900 It's very, very, uh, not obedience.
00:09:00.220 So, you know, there's a, that Star Wars saying like he could pity is what is it?
00:09:03.800 Ironic.
00:09:04.260 He could solve him, save himself from dying.
00:09:06.600 No, he could save others from dying, but not himself.
00:09:09.380 Darth, Darth Sidious.
00:09:10.180 There's like ironic.
00:09:11.140 He could fix short circuits, but not his own.
00:09:14.800 That's great.
00:09:16.460 Great.
00:09:16.520 Great.
00:09:16.580 Have a good time.