JustPearlyThings - Modern Women Gets Schooled on Pregnancy

00:00:00.000 do you think if woman's not ready to have a child she should still have it oh yeah i mean my mom got 0.97

00:00:05.640 pregnant when she was 17 but she she did the right thing where she had it and gave it up for adoption 0.98

00:00:10.440 i think i think it's incredibly selfish but i don't know a lot of statistics women already 0.98

00:00:14.920 they have a child and they drug abuse the alcohol and then the child turns out to be a killer but

00:00:19.600 you can give it up for adoption it's not easy it's not it's not it's not easy it's an incredibly

00:00:27.360 hard choice and it's incredibly hard i saw my mom i saw my i saw i saw my mom go through it but but

00:00:34.680 the thing is like she she understood that she made her bed lie in it yeah and so if you chose you can

00:00:39.600 be abstinent it's a different situation than getting pregnant for just a guy what if it was completely

00:00:44.820 the woman was great you know that's different it's always but that's always like the exception that 0.94

00:00:55.900 women bring up when it's only 0.01 of of all cases of abortions are great well if she and so and so 1.00

00:01:02.440 it's like we bring up that exception to make the rule but it's not the rule but i could say the same

00:01:06.440 when you said your mom is pregnant at 17 my mom's pregnant at 15 and i can't obviously disclose what

00:01:12.480 happened but she decided to keep my brother obviously and i feel like you think it's an exception

00:01:19.620 to keep it i don't i don't think that she i think she was far too young

00:01:24.660 you mentioned about giving the child over adoption it's not every country or every continent

00:01:31.980 that has that right but see now you're moving the goalposts we're in the west all of my

00:01:35.900 conversations are about the west when i'm bringing up abortion statistics like this is about the west

00:01:41.260 okay exactly but let's say so i'm saying but i'm saying no no no no the united states is the

00:01:44.680 flagship country right i'm saying we're in the west we're talking about the west we're not going to

00:01:48.840 move we're not going to move the goalposts to not talk about the west the point i'm trying to make

00:01:52.000 is whatever decisions uh whatever laws come into the united states we we generally think that it's

00:01:56.620 just going to blow down right every i don't generally think that i just i'm not going to have a

00:02:00.880 whole conversation about a country that i don't i'm not there so like i don't know about

00:02:06.040 like why would i like like i'll give you you you said nigeria earlier why would i have a

00:02:10.900 conversation about nigeria when i've never been to nigeria i have no idea what the laws are about

00:02:14.640 there i just but women get pregnant in nigeria right i mean you could say yeah women get pregnant

00:02:19.520 everywhere but like we're talking about the west and you can come on my show and say let's talk about

00:02:24.180 the rest of the world but that's not how it works like we're talking about the west yeah i get you

00:02:29.860 okay um so i'm gonna read super chats for a second i know we had some wi-fi issues at the

00:02:36.040 beginning of the show um so we'll we'll see how these are going thank you for for sticking with

00:02:43.340 us through these i know this move has been kind of wild um okay so lover 41 hero to all rip robin

00:02:51.140 williams and the judge said all said all the money but he shortened it to alimony the man had a lifetime

00:02:57.160 of alimony debt over half a million for 26 i didn't know that for 26 years oh my gosh that's

00:03:05.440 crazy alimony not even child support um handyman one zero one zero one the birth rate is not at

00:03:12.880 replacement levels in the west want your society to die empower women let them vote no vote more 1.00

00:03:17.940 babies lover 41 hero to all robin williams got married more than once so it's no wondering why he

00:03:24.460 worked so hard till he he roped and his body didn't fight back doug mpa um pearl explain to

00:03:31.980 these women what misandries mean these women are just assuming that men don't want their kids and 1.00

00:03:36.460 it's blatant misand misandry stop it john the baptist why is it that so many chill children child

00:03:43.860 like adults male and females fighting to be less responsible um lover 41 hero to all remember if

00:03:50.360 remember if einstein couldn't keep a woman will smith magic mike channing tatum johnny dot michael b

00:03:56.840 borden or chris brown or chris brown what chance i got i i don't know yeah i can't remember oh wait

00:04:09.600 there's two more um al pearl your new name is the top she now the top g is gone keep enlightening the

00:04:15.780 blind the dumb deaf and the blind sentience do you think if a woman is not ready for a child she 0.99

00:04:20.840 should have it as an adult you don't know that you don't know that if you open your legs that you

00:04:25.100 could possibly get pregnant how about you just not sleep with anyone who you don't want a child with 0.94

00:04:29.460 accountability um okay i think that's all of them anyone want to speak their piece any comments

00:04:36.020 i like that last one if you if you don't want to have a child with someone just don't sleep with

00:04:40.960 them like at the end of the day we all know even protection nothing the only thing that's 100 is

00:04:46.360 abstinence so if you do then you can't be mad at the other person if you do have if you end up

00:04:53.500 pregnant like because you knew it was a risk well and the other thing is like we only get pregnant 0.99

00:04:58.600 like four days in the month you're up so it's like and and we have 41 forms of birth control you

00:05:06.260 couldn't try one like we have so many options to not get pregnant you can get an iud of a 99 0.99

00:05:11.320 point something percent chance but would you not say a lot of young women get pregnant because we're

00:05:16.140 not really taught i didn't know to to get on anything you know i don't know if a lot of women 1.00

00:05:21.040 went through that here we're taught from a young age i mean i just think i think 10 11 12 did you

00:05:28.540 have a choice you could have go to doctor and get the pill just like that with your mom maybe

00:05:31.940 consent i just i think that's just a lack of accountability um i'm sorry if you're if you're

00:05:37.120 born in the age of the internet you don't have an excuse no like you you can google what like what

00:05:41.840 happened i'm sorry you can't tell me any 15 14 year old doesn't know that if you have sex you can 0.51

00:05:46.920 get no you know but but you just don't care and you make that choice anyway that's that's

00:05:50.940 that's your own fault i feel like when parents don't talk about sex and and anything school is

00:05:55.560 not enough you might feel shy asking your parents anything so you might risk i mean i i disagree i

00:06:00.440 did 12 years of catholic school i i grew up in like and we had no teen pregnancies in my high school

00:06:05.960 except me there actually there might have been one but she was kind of not i don't know if she's

00:06:10.400 telling that there may there maybe was one but like no no confirmed

00:06:15.720 was it a girl's school or girls no it was girls and guys it was like a mix but i just i just i think

00:06:25.280 that a lack of of knowledge is just an excuse like i don't know how you can get to be 14 15 and not

00:06:31.460 know if you have sex you you get pregnant yeah you know but but you just don't care 1.00

00:06:36.560 you're not mature enough to fully understand the risk you know what could happen but

00:06:43.400 okay so if someone if someone's 14 15 and they shoot somebody you don't think they know what's

00:06:49.100 going to happen they know but they don't i just feel like they're not mature that stage someone

00:06:53.100 needs to be more in control of them too much media for that they they definitely know yeah

00:06:57.340 i think they know that maybe not thinking about the long run and their future but you still know

00:07:05.000 whether you decide to think about your future or not whatever you're doing at a young age you still

00:07:11.480 know what can happen what the consequences will be i feel that's too much too heavy to put on a 14

00:07:16.880 year old yeah do you know what i mean maybe sex is there's a reason why if you were to mess with a

00:07:22.180 14 year old you go to jail because they really can make that sort of the state kids but i understand

00:07:27.600 with parents they should you know from i don't know like you said your your parents uh you got to

00:07:32.580 have a conception from 12 or 13 or so yeah that's why they should you know do that but to expect the

00:07:39.300 14 year old to you know you have to expect to say mom let's go to doctor i want contraception it's it's a

00:07:45.420 lot i mean it's an uncomfortable conversation but but the parents should say okay

00:07:52.020 you know maybe we should get you something maybe before even oh god no you want me to put my kid

00:07:56.860 on hormones at 13 15 i would just start the conversation but you should know your child

00:08:04.360 when they might be having or you know they're going parties you just you as a parent i feel

00:08:08.740 like it's more of a responsibility for you than a 14 year old to say mom let's get me contraception

00:08:13.700 i'm doing it you know it's interesting the more contraception um like the more they put sex ed

00:08:21.360 in schools like the more people have sex so the more you talk about kids with sex like like like

00:08:26.200 before they started putting that in schools like there's a large proportion of high school students

00:08:30.800 that graduated as virgins yeah i don't agree talking a lot and so even that point about when

00:08:36.880 she said about um parents giving contraception the legal age isn't even 14 50 years so you shouldn't be

00:08:43.200 having sex anyway yeah it's probably going to go to their parents because they know that they shouldn't 0.65

00:08:47.200 be doing it because it's not legal and also i was going to say is that especially when it comes to

00:08:51.920 um learning about contraception i don't have a conversation from my parents i think it depends

00:08:56.640 on your household yeah because i'm saying so you have people you can actually talk to you again this

00:09:01.280 is a very media driven society living right now so you can find something on the internet yeah it

00:09:05.760 depends on like i said your household because i was close to my mom i'm close to my mom yeah yeah there's

00:09:11.440 not a lot of people like that so in your case it's cool but there's a lot of people that yeah especially

00:09:15.040 at the age of 14 15 you shouldn't be having it at that age because it's illegal no yeah you shouldn't

00:09:19.760 yeah you're in trouble for that so you're really going to go to your parents and say oh i'm having

00:09:23.840 sex at this age also i suppose if it's your if if you're a boy it might be a bit more it might not be

00:09:29.120 as bad as if you're a female saying i'm having sex with a guy yeah at that age but at the same time 0.65

00:09:34.160 it's the same as smoking a cigarette you're never gonna go to a parent say that so i think with sex

00:09:38.560 none of us will go to our parents and say is this safe enough even if i'm 17 it's i think smoking is

00:09:43.760 a bit different because or drinking alcohol well it's illegal okay it's a bit different because

00:09:49.280 there's the what can come from it is the impact of drinking alcohol at 14 and smoking a cigarette

00:09:57.040 is different from having sex and getting pregnant but parents it's very taboo like sex parents treat

00:10:02.720 sex like if it was illegal like cigarette you can't come even if you're 17 talk to them i think it 0.70

00:10:08.160 depends on the generation yeah some parents also you've got some parents that might not be able

00:10:12.800 to relay the information to their child so they understand it because think about if you for example

00:10:18.640 if you had your first child at 14 15 you may not be able to relay that message to your child

00:10:23.440 effectively because you might not learn something so some people may not be able to go to their child

00:10:29.280 in the same xyz so so i'm saying yes i have a question do you guys think that a parent should

00:10:36.720 let their kid transition from like a boy to a girl a girl to a boy depends like at 14 15 16. no

00:10:47.040 i'll say i'll say no and the reason the reason why i'll say no is because i think it is a very touchy

00:10:53.360 trust me but um it needs to be said i think that um a kid is still developing at that age and

00:11:04.000 talking to your kid about transitioning basically changing from one sex to the other

00:11:12.960 is a huge thing you know um so many things will happen and i think the parent needs to

00:11:19.920 let the child to really get to understand their body for what it is and then later on in life they

00:11:26.480 can then decide if if they want to then they can then decide to do that but i think that's a very

00:11:31.280 amazing encouraging a child to basically change things i'm seeing yeah so does everyone generally

00:11:41.200 say no did anyone yeah so generally yeah i'll let my child know they should do that when they're not

00:11:46.240 okay okay anyone no no yeses in here okay so why do we let girls go on birth control which changes 1.00

00:11:52.880 their body from a young age like 15 16 and can and you can have your hormones can be changed forever 0.58

00:11:59.200 and never go back is that with every form of bed control um even even copper it has negative effects

00:12:06.000 on your uterus so you are effectively changing their body what's the hormonal change yeah um like for

00:12:13.440 example it changes who you're attracted to a lot of girls will go on birth control and develop like 1.00

00:12:18.480 different conditions with their hormones where they can't regulate them effectively after like

00:12:22.320 five ten years um makes you gain a lot of weight go ahead you said life is about trade-offs right so

00:12:28.240 would you if you don't go contraception would you want to take the risk of the birth changes your body a lot

00:12:34.560 yeah i understand that i understand that but the point is that you're putting a kid on it

00:12:40.720 they're 14 15 16 years old like that's what i'm saying like what he was saying but i wouldn't expect

00:12:45.520 my 14 15 year old to be talking about sex right but that's that's what i'm saying is like it's very

00:12:50.560 common for girls to get on birth control at 15 16 that's not uncommon and that what's the safe age 0.99

00:12:57.440 to to get on birth control i'm not a fan of birth control like i i yeah i don't like really i wouldn't

00:13:05.200 put my kid on birth control ever any form whatsoever no i think as well though um birth can like the

00:13:12.240 effects of birth control aren't really publicized i i didn't even know that i didn't know that it had

00:13:17.120 hormonal changes in in women i i actually didn't know that so no wow so i think it's not i might be

00:13:26.240 the only one yeah but i don't think it's well for me i don't think it was publicized enough um to

00:13:33.760 really know that it had such an effect on women so it does but that's non-hormonal what what's the big

00:13:45.680 like the negative are you talking about yeah like copper coil um i've just heard that's bad for you

00:13:51.520 i'm not i'm not i'm not gonna pretend i'm like a scientist on here and i know the ins and outs of

00:13:55.680 every birth control my only point was that it changes their body possibly forever and you as a

00:14:01.120 parent are helping them make that decision so why is one allowed i feel like i rather risk that than

00:14:06.320 getting uh her pregnant early is that is that changing from a young age or an older age what do you

00:14:13.920 mean the the marina the hormone does it change more when you're younger or yeah um i think i heard

00:14:21.760 if you i'm on the marina i don't know what that is is that the pill the copper no the copper one

00:14:28.160 and i think it's done wonders for me the i've heard that's like better than the other ones yeah it's

00:14:33.600 non-hormonal but they say that but they say it's bad for like if you want to have kids later yeah that's

00:14:38.800 like that it makes it slightly it makes it harder for you but i think you know i think there's a

00:14:44.080 lot of stigma in in birth control that is like the um the injection the uh what do they call it uh

00:14:51.200 implant it no no where you get injected every three months oh there's a name for it i don't know

00:14:58.560 it's a form of birth control and a lot of my friends have been on it and they've come off of it

00:15:03.120 and it's made me fat it's made me depressed i was on it the baby will make you more fat

00:15:09.520 because there's a lot of women that have get pregnant and go right back to their 1.00

00:15:12.560 i think is the is that not my knowledge yeah no they used to i think like women are just fat today 1.00

00:15:21.120 which is nice which women like which most women like to be fat rather than slim now you think they 1.00

00:15:27.120 like i don't think they like being fat yeah we like the big thick thighs yeah but that's not they

00:15:31.280 like they like okay a big butt with a small waist that's not fat yeah you can't have a big butt 0.98

00:15:35.760 with a small waist without surgery but this one here she's got a great shape she's she's got big 1.00

00:15:41.600 butt small waist naturally is is it depends on your state you wouldn't say she's flat though so 1.00

00:15:49.040 but i mean most women like to be bigger now nowadays rather than deem skinny maybe they pretend 1.00

00:15:55.600 they're happy because there's body positivity i'm happy big girl's life you mean as big as lisa or

00:16:02.400 yeah she's happy she's happy okay let me let me ask you let me let me she's making money 0.95

00:16:08.720 one to ten what do you rank lizzo one to ten ten ten based on no based on money

00:16:16.560 okay okay okay no no okay one at a time okay she's so confident she's so confident

00:16:21.920 do you really think she's she's cries on instagram live oh i don't know that much about her i just

00:16:27.280 know i see her and she's happy are you going to do you genuinely okay do you genuinely think she's

00:16:32.080 happy at like 300 pounds how could one be happy does she not look happy or no i think she looks

00:16:39.600 i don't know i don't know her personally so i but from what i can see i feel like she's looks wise

00:16:44.880 what do you what do you rank social media is very deceptive okay okay okay so so one to ten you

00:16:51.200 would trade your body with hers 0.93

00:16:52.880 like why do you lie let me let me finish let me finish you said she had a good figure 0.80

00:17:13.120 yeah she would be offended if you said she looks like lizzo would you be offended if i said you

00:17:18.080 look fat like lizzo

00:17:23.360 but do you think that's just what it's that's like she has a good figure because she's skinny 1.00

00:17:28.000 who's skinny i think women trying to be nice i would prefer lizzo than a really skinny skinny 1.00

00:17:32.720 woman yeah but you're kind of extreme again no no but it's the same thing you said really skinny 0.98

00:17:36.560 okay no i would i would take no i would take no but no boobs really then over lizzo yes yes if she 1.00

00:17:45.360 would really wanted to she couldn't you know and still no i think if she wanted to she'd do it she 0.93

00:17:50.160 had those she was on tiktok like on the treadmill and i don't go i don't have tiktok i don't you see a

00:17:55.120 whole different side of lizzo i don't have a question prior though you gave her a 10 what

00:18:00.960 what's your metric because she's confident with it so anybody that's confident i think yeah women 1.00

00:18:07.680 raised with feeling not logic it comes with with how you feel that's what i can see i was big and i'd

00:18:16.080 liked it but i was big small what made you like it because i was different and i couldn't i don't go

00:18:21.280 gym i i hate gym i hate anything healthy i eat everything not healthy but i liked it then and

00:18:27.920 i like it now i and i'm very confident do you not do you not think there's universal standards of beauty

00:18:34.400 so when everyone walks into the room where everyone can kind of what okay when when everyone walks into

00:18:40.080 the room you don't think everyone has a general perception of who's more beautiful and less beautiful

00:18:45.520 i don't know these days no i'm not i'm not talking about these days in general

00:18:53.120 yeah and okay even even even take us in the room you don't think most of us like they could say who's

00:18:58.960 more beautiful and less beautiful and i'm not i'm not trying to put us against each other i'm not saying

00:19:02.960 to be rated but like i'm saying like you don't think in general you know who the pretty friend in

00:19:07.280 your friend group is yeah i think what she's doing she's she's thinking of a like you say always

00:19:12.000 women's perspective so if a man is a bit ugly but he has a lot of confidence in the woman's eye he

00:19:17.600 becomes more yeah so that's how women view other women okay because she confident is more attractive 1.00

00:19:22.960 but men don't look at women like that they just because she confident she doesn't become more

00:19:27.520 attractive actually we see her weight you see how let's ask him let's ask him how many points does

00:19:33.440 confidence give a woman let's go around three three three points so girls are five is an eight one 1.00

00:19:45.520 don't you like a shy girl though i don't mind a shy girl men like shy girls no okay as many of you know

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JustPearlyThings - December 29, 2022

Modern Women Gets Schooled on Pregnancy

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