JustPearlyThings - August 26, 2023


Modern Women Keep Dodging Accountability


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10 minutes

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Word count

2,089

Sentence count

278

Harmful content

Misogyny

29

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Toxicity

26

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Hate speech

20

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In this episode, the guys and girls talk about women and sex. Why do women like soft guys? How do men like soft girls? Why does a woman like a man who is emotionally available? What is the difference between a woman and a man that is emotionally unavailable? And why is it that women like guys who are emotionally unavailable and men who are not?

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00:00:00.000 What hardest you've simped for a woman? 0.98
00:00:02.760 I made like a whole plan to get someone back once.
00:00:07.380 Yeah, I wrote like a whole note
00:00:09.840 and it was like week by week. 0.99
00:00:12.580 But that's why I don't really fuck with women right now 1.00
00:00:16.140 because you lot suck. 1.00
00:00:18.620 So what do you fuck with? 1.00
00:00:20.240 You lot just suck, you lot are heartbreakers. 1.00
00:00:23.360 Why do we suck? 1.00
00:00:25.600 That's a good question. 1.00
00:00:27.200 Is it because we keep driving?
00:00:30.000 Or voting.
00:00:32.160 I think that's the one, I think you lot should just stop.
00:00:35.500 No, it's just like the more you give to a woman, 0.94
00:00:39.380 the less they want you so I just do the opposite now
00:00:43.620 and it kind of works.
00:00:45.280 Okay, I disagree.
00:00:46.680 Very disagree.
00:00:47.960 You would say that.
00:00:49.020 Disagree.
00:00:50.020 You would say that.
00:00:51.020 But you lot don't get the psychology
00:00:53.280 because you're the woman.
00:00:54.360 But why would you think...
00:00:56.260 You're in the vehicle.
00:00:59.200 Why would you think it's not a good idea
00:01:01.040 to actually share that soft side of you with somebody?
00:01:05.700 Because then women automatically think 1.00
00:01:08.000 that you're too emotional and you're not a man
00:01:12.720 and that's not attractive to women. 1.00
00:01:14.040 It is.
00:01:14.820 It is attractive.
00:01:15.580 Very much.
00:01:16.180 Stop lying.
00:01:16.920 It is.
00:01:17.920 I like a man that's going to send flowers, you know.
00:01:23.420 Okay, I'm a guy.
00:01:24.420 You don't get such an ick.
00:01:25.720 That's an ick.
00:01:26.720 That's an ick.
00:01:27.720 All right.
00:01:28.720 Tell me.
00:01:29.720 Guys, guys.
00:01:30.720 Is this true or false?
00:01:31.720 Women always like the men that don't like them back. 1.00
00:01:34.720 Yeah, that's kind of true.
00:01:36.720 That's kind of true.
00:01:37.720 I have to admit.
00:01:38.720 But then when they find the...
00:01:41.560 I think it's like more of a challenge.
00:01:42.860 Like in life, you kind of want challenges, right?
00:01:44.940 Yeah.
00:01:45.260 So when you do get the guy that you like
00:01:46.960 and you've challenged yourself
00:01:48.240 and he eventually takes note of you,
00:01:50.920 then it's like you kind of then want him to soften up.
00:01:55.120 So you want to see...
00:01:55.900 Right, can I push you?
00:01:56.460 Yeah, and then you like leave.
00:01:57.680 And then you leave.
00:01:57.980 And then you leave.
00:01:59.480 I will never leave you.
00:02:00.120 This is the problem.
00:02:00.980 Leave you. 0.93
00:02:01.560 This is why nothing lasts anymore.
00:02:03.060 Well, I mean...
00:02:03.720 I think we're looking for balance.
00:02:05.140 There's no balance.
00:02:05.940 You guys are both single,
00:02:07.220 so you left every guy you've been with.
00:02:11.260 So these emotionally available guys,
00:02:13.580 where are they?
00:02:14.180 Yeah, that's true.
00:02:14.800 That's true.
00:02:16.300 Oh, no, I like that.
00:02:16.740 They got the ick and left.
00:02:18.200 That was it.
00:02:18.960 I grew up.
00:02:19.820 I learned.
00:02:20.420 I learned the hard way.
00:02:21.860 I mean, when I was younger,
00:02:24.040 yeah, I wanted, you know, a bit of edge.
00:02:25.860 But now I like...
00:02:26.860 I want soft life, baby.
00:02:28.120 Do you know what the problem is?
00:02:29.760 Instagram and social media.
00:02:31.080 There's too many options out there for people.
00:02:32.720 I feel like it's a lot of room to be deceived going on.
00:02:36.640 Like, a lot of deception is going on,
00:02:39.040 especially when it comes to social media.
00:02:41.240 Yeah, but you have too many options.
00:02:43.220 So you're like,
00:02:44.120 oh, don't worry if that don't work out,
00:02:45.780 this next one.
00:02:46.480 But don't you?
00:02:46.940 That's why girls get the ick so quick. 1.00
00:02:48.480 But don't you?
00:02:49.120 No.
00:02:49.820 Me.
00:02:50.320 Don't you have a lot of options?
00:02:51.580 Me?
00:02:51.840 Listen, I'm just focusing on me.
00:02:53.600 I can admit I'm confused.
00:02:55.220 Do you know what I mean?
00:02:55.720 Well, most men don't have a lot of options.
00:02:57.980 One out of three men are either virgins
00:02:59.480 or haven't had sex in the past year.
00:03:01.120 Really?
00:03:01.340 Yeah, I'm going to I actually I'm going to get to you,
00:03:04.380 but I kind of want to show you guys something.
00:03:06.280 You're going to get to the virgins. 0.93
00:03:07.200 Okay.
00:03:11.080 Okay.
00:03:11.840 So we got, all right,
00:03:14.360 we're going to get the women here. 1.00
00:03:16.680 Oh, my God.
00:03:27.340 Okay.
00:03:28.340 Here's the guy.
00:03:38.920 All right.
00:03:39.540 So I'm going to show you guys the dating.
00:03:42.700 All right.
00:03:44.520 So would you guys agree that you want someone in general
00:03:47.160 that makes more money than you in general?
00:03:49.120 Of course.
00:03:49.680 Yeah.
00:03:49.780 Okay.
00:03:49.980 Would you agree that you want someone taller than you?
00:03:52.380 Yeah.
00:03:52.740 Absolutely.
00:03:53.100 Okay.
00:03:53.620 Would you agree that you want someone smarter than you?
00:03:56.640 Yeah.
00:03:56.940 Yeah.
00:03:57.120 In general.
00:03:57.840 Okay.
00:03:58.120 So now the problem is we all do.
00:04:01.260 So here's here's the date. 0.95
00:04:03.720 This is going to be the lines are going to be sex 0.93
00:04:06.420 because we're not getting married anymore. 0.98
00:04:08.400 So this is just sex. 0.99
00:04:09.700 So, you know, they have sex. 1.00
00:04:12.160 They have sex. 1.00
00:04:13.720 They have sex. 1.00
00:04:15.420 I'm going to add another. 0.99
00:04:18.800 Yeah.
00:04:19.240 So this is the dating market
00:04:21.200 because women date across and up hierarchies 1.00
00:04:24.080 because we want someone taller, stronger. 0.98
00:04:26.400 So basically, we're just all screwing these guys. 0.88
00:04:30.260 Them ones get left behind. 0.96
00:04:31.080 Yeah.
00:04:31.380 And these guys are virgins.
00:04:33.380 So it used to be.
00:04:34.760 Well, they might get lucky sometimes.
00:04:36.380 They might get lucky.
00:04:36.880 They might get lucky.
00:04:37.480 Here or there.
00:04:38.400 They might pick.
00:04:39.560 They might pick.
00:04:39.580 Yeah.
00:04:40.860 Yeah.
00:04:40.940 Yeah.
00:04:41.280 They might pick like this.
00:04:42.840 Like this chick might be like, 0.91
00:04:44.160 all right, fine.
00:04:45.800 But he'll get her like once and then she's done.
00:04:48.240 And she's like, I'm going back.
00:04:49.700 I'm going back because women, it's so funny. 1.00
00:04:52.600 We would rather share.
00:04:54.440 We would rather be the king's concubine 0.99
00:04:56.580 rather than the peasant's wife. 1.00
00:04:58.400 Throughout all of time.
00:05:00.220 Yeah.
00:05:00.500 If a stronger guy came in
00:05:02.500 and we're like in a tribe, we're all together.
00:05:05.360 And then, you know, my bouncer comes in 0.92
00:05:07.820 and kills these guys, 0.87
00:05:08.920 then boom, now we belong to the bouncer. 0.99
00:05:10.680 You see what I mean?
00:05:11.800 Yeah.
00:05:12.340 So.
00:05:12.500 The bouncer.
00:05:13.380 Yeah.
00:05:14.160 Yeah.
00:05:14.560 Because basically like if a guy,
00:05:16.320 if a guy like bigger, stronger,
00:05:18.680 richer, whatever came in,
00:05:20.100 you just, you were forced to.
00:05:21.700 Yeah.
00:05:21.900 So that's why women were kind of heartless. 1.00
00:05:23.980 We just leave after, no offense,
00:05:25.380 but after 19 years, you know.
00:05:28.500 And yeah.
00:05:30.260 So, and the other problem is then.
00:05:32.000 Can I say something?
00:05:32.500 Yeah.
00:05:32.600 Go ahead.
00:05:32.880 Go ahead.
00:05:33.760 When I was with him, he was down there.
00:05:35.480 Oh.
00:05:36.000 Okay.
00:05:36.300 How tall was he?
00:05:37.740 He's not that much taller than me.
00:05:39.020 I'm quite tall.
00:05:39.520 Okay.
00:05:39.820 So.
00:05:40.240 But he was about six foot.
00:05:42.000 Okay.
00:05:42.460 So that's top 15% of men.
00:05:44.540 Okay.
00:05:46.020 Okay.
00:05:46.380 How much,
00:05:46.820 how much money did he make?
00:05:48.020 I mean,
00:05:48.460 we were teenagers.
00:05:50.660 So nothing.
00:05:51.060 No,
00:05:51.280 now.
00:05:51.660 Like after the 19 years,
00:05:53.040 like roughly.
00:05:53.680 After the 19.
00:05:54.700 I mean,
00:05:55.120 he,
00:05:55.540 he made the most money in between.
00:05:58.540 I think.
00:05:59.140 I think he,
00:05:59.780 I think I make more money than him now.
00:06:01.140 Okay.
00:06:02.060 Okay.
00:06:02.520 Well,
00:06:02.920 that's usually when women leave. 1.00
00:06:04.320 So thank you for,
00:06:05.320 I had a suspicion.
00:06:06.880 Okay.
00:06:07.300 So,
00:06:07.820 so how,
00:06:08.780 how much money did he make roughly?
00:06:11.220 When?
00:06:11.700 Which month?
00:06:12.320 When you were together,
00:06:13.360 just give me a rough salary.
00:06:14.460 So we started from,
00:06:15.640 started from the bottom now.
00:06:16.720 We're here.
00:06:17.220 No,
00:06:17.460 he still started.
00:06:18.260 No,
00:06:18.380 he still started here.
00:06:20.040 If he was top 15% of height.
00:06:22.180 Okay.
00:06:22.420 Okay.
00:06:22.500 At least.
00:06:23.520 So then how much money did he make?
00:06:26.620 What in between?
00:06:27.540 Oh my God.
00:06:28.260 Just,
00:06:28.440 just,
00:06:28.820 you know,
00:06:29.060 just say 20 to 25 a year.
00:06:30.840 I mean,
00:06:31.100 no one wage,
00:06:32.000 nothing.
00:06:32.480 Okay.
00:06:33.080 25.
00:06:33.520 25 grams a year.
00:06:34.560 Okay.
00:06:34.980 Okay.
00:06:35.380 So a normal.
00:06:36.540 So,
00:06:36.780 okay.
00:06:36.980 But he was still above average in height.
00:06:39.060 Yeah.
00:06:39.360 He was muscly and okay.
00:06:42.160 So he was hot.
00:06:43.060 He was a hottie.
00:06:44.020 All right.
00:06:44.540 I made him into a hottie.
00:06:45.560 Now we get to the root of this.
00:06:49.400 Yeah.
00:06:49.940 And so maybe he'll be watching this thinking,
00:06:52.220 why is she talking?
00:06:53.140 This is what the women like, 1.00
00:06:54.580 this is what we do.
00:06:55.360 We usually go for the hot guys when we're younger.
00:06:57.640 Yeah.
00:06:57.920 And then later we're like, 0.99
00:06:58.940 oh shit, 0.99
00:06:59.360 I want to like have a better lifestyle. 0.99
00:07:01.220 So I'm either going to make money myself and leave,
00:07:04.180 or I'm going to,
00:07:05.820 I'm going to find a guy that's richer.
00:07:07.460 These are trends.
00:07:08.360 It's not every chick.
00:07:09.340 What about.
00:07:10.000 You want to find yourself.
00:07:11.780 Well.
00:07:12.160 So many years with a man,
00:07:13.640 you forgot about yourself.
00:07:15.400 So this is the problem.
00:07:17.040 I'll tell you,
00:07:17.500 I'll tell you finding my,
00:07:18.780 this is what I found.
00:07:19.820 So here's Instagram.
00:07:21.720 Okay.
00:07:22.260 That really spins a little bit as well.
00:07:24.040 So here's Instagram.
00:07:25.000 So the problem with Instagram is they make all these chicks over here think they're hotter than they are. 1.00
00:07:31.020 Oh,
00:07:31.040 trust me.
00:07:31.560 So they think,
00:07:32.240 so we,
00:07:32.920 we have this thing where we just like believe Instagram.
00:07:35.820 So I've seen the trend of finding yourself.
00:07:38.740 It's like these chicks do these Tik Toks, 1.00
00:07:40.740 like leaving their boyfriends and like moving to a new country or something.
00:07:43.780 Yeah.
00:07:44.280 I've seen this.
00:07:45.660 And yeah,
00:07:46.660 Instagram is like,
00:07:47.880 yes,
00:07:48.200 the streets are super fun.
00:07:49.880 And so the women that are married here, 1.00
00:07:52.480 right.
00:07:53.180 And they,
00:07:53.740 maybe,
00:07:54.040 maybe she snagged this might, 0.61
00:07:55.680 you know,
00:07:55.900 maybe she snagged this guy or this guy.
00:07:57.800 She was like,
00:07:58.200 all right,
00:07:58.460 I can't,
00:07:58.880 these guys keep pumping and dumping.
00:08:00.180 So I got to stop here.
00:08:01.280 And so now they get married here,
00:08:04.860 right.
00:08:05.220 But Instagram comes in and basically,
00:08:08.300 and convinces her that she can get this guy now where this guy,
00:08:12.260 or maybe she starts to make more money than usually thinks she can do better or just make enough money to live without him. 0.95
00:08:18.500 And so basically when women don't need men, 1.00
00:08:22.540 we tend to leave them for whatever reason.
00:08:24.980 We just tend to go.
00:08:26.560 Yep.
00:08:26.840 Leave them for more money. 0.98
00:08:28.200 Is that our fault?
00:08:28.940 Or is that them?
00:08:29.700 I would say it's our fault for leaving.
00:08:31.500 Yeah.
00:08:32.020 Yeah.
00:08:32.740 Do you know what?
00:08:33.480 Yeah.
00:08:34.160 Old school relationships used to actually work on the issues and their problems and communicate.
00:08:39.320 They stuck it out.
00:08:40.920 This is why we shouldn't vote.
00:08:43.480 So what if the man stops leading a woman?
00:08:46.540 So what happens then?
00:08:47.300 If he stops leading on which a man is typically supposed to do.
00:08:50.760 Well,
00:08:51.000 did you,
00:08:51.500 well,
00:08:51.940 did you,
00:08:52.320 did you stop following?
00:08:54.000 Why is it always leading?
00:08:55.220 Well,
00:08:56.140 I think,
00:08:57.260 you know,
00:08:57.700 I think that's kind of an excuse because I think when you think of the most docile feminine women, 1.00
00:09:03.020 I'm not saying it's me,
00:09:04.120 but I'm saying like,
00:09:04.940 when we think of like the most docile women, 1.00
00:09:07.360 they're going to be led,
00:09:08.260 even if a guy isn't like the strongest lead,
00:09:11.200 how guys naturally lead.
00:09:12.820 That's part of who they are.
00:09:13.800 That's what I mean,
00:09:14.120 but what if they naturally stop leading?
00:09:16.040 Okay.
00:09:16.200 What does that mean?
00:09:17.280 Stop leading?
00:09:18.340 Stop being a man.
00:09:19.380 Okay.
00:09:19.600 What does that mean?
00:09:20.640 Just fall back.
00:09:21.440 This is what I find.
00:09:22.620 I find that usually,
00:09:24.040 okay,
00:09:24.240 it'll start man because God are above the men and then the women. 1.00
00:09:28.780 This is just my beliefs.
00:09:29.960 Okay.
00:09:30.180 So,
00:09:30.560 you know,
00:09:30.740 take this or leave it.
00:09:31.820 But I think usually when I hear that,
00:09:33.760 it means she's a really argumentative domineering woman that, 1.00
00:09:37.320 you know, 1.00
00:09:38.040 basically made his life hell for 20 years and he just got tired of like listening to her bitch. 1.00
00:09:43.360 So he just gave up. 0.99
00:09:44.640 I'm not saying it to you.
00:09:45.720 I don't know.
00:09:46.380 Of course it's not me.
00:09:47.020 This is just,
00:09:47.260 this is just one of the way because like usually a guy will tell you something and do you listen or do you accuse him of not leading?
00:09:55.720 You know,
00:09:56.020 this is,
00:09:56.440 it depends what he says.
00:09:57.120 Well,
00:09:57.880 see,
00:09:58.160 that means you can't follow.
00:09:59.220 Well,
00:09:59.500 he does.
00:10:00.180 See,
00:10:00.420 but it shouldn't depend.
00:10:01.820 This shouldn't depend.
00:10:02.980 When you're,
00:10:03.280 when you tell your kids something,
00:10:04.580 do you say,
00:10:05.020 do they say it depends when I'm going to listen?
00:10:07.640 No,
00:10:08.020 I mean,
00:10:08.300 no,
00:10:08.520 they're,
00:10:08.740 they're just supposed to listen.
00:10:10.160 Cause they're below.
00:10:11.560 There he got,
00:10:12.720 ah,
00:10:13.300 so you're saying the woman is below the man.
00:10:15.620 So she should just listen.
00:10:16.600 Yeah,
00:10:16.720 that's the hierarchy.
00:10:17.320 What he says,
00:10:18.160 if he says,
00:10:18.820 um,
00:10:19.320 you know,
00:10:19.700 just jump off a cliff.
00:10:21.000 Well,
00:10:21.340 I think if he tells you,
00:10:22.620 I think,
00:10:23.120 you know,
00:10:23.500 I think there are some extremes.
00:10:25.180 Right.
00:10:25.620 I'll give you an example when I,
00:10:27.200 I'll give you an example.
00:10:29.520 I'll give you an example when I,
00:10:30.880 I don't believe in birth control.
00:10:32.300 So I wouldn't,
00:10:33.440 if a guy told me go on birth control,
00:10:34.960 I'd be like,
00:10:35.420 look,
00:10:35.620 I think that's against,
00:10:36.420 that's true.
00:10:37.280 Against.
00:10:37.640 Yeah.
00:10:38.980 So,
00:10:39.720 so,
00:10:40.120 you know,
00:10:41.220 but that's,
00:10:41.920 what is it?
00:10:42.200 The pullout method?
00:10:43.740 What do you mean?
00:10:45.060 What do you look?
00:10:45.720 I don't know what the pullout method is.
00:10:47.040 I think when you get married,
00:10:48.240 you should just,
00:10:49.100 yeah.
00:10:49.500 All right.
00:10:50.060 I think you just,
00:10:51.640 you know,
00:10:51.980 see what happens.