JustPearlyThings - June 16, 2023


Modern Women Learn This When Its Too Late

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
Drop Daniel
Pearl EXPOSES Her Toxic Trait In Her Last Relationship The Panel Reacts To Andrew Tate Livestream

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Length

8 minutes

Words per minute

203.1

Word count

1,727

Sentence count

37

Harmful content

Misogyny

14

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Toxicity

5

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Hate speech

10

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Summary

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In this episode, we discuss the importance of a traditional mindset when it comes to a relationship with a partner and how to deal with a man who doesn't share the same values as you do. We also talk about the benefits of being in a 50/50 relationship and what it takes to be a good partner.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 Think that they have all these options because naturally when they go for a break-up with a man or they go through stuff
00:00:04.240 They've got loads of men for in the DMS, but women are quite naive. They really think that these men are gonna marry 1.00
00:00:14.120 Have you watched me say that a fresh and fit
00:00:20.220 Like yeah, look who this in my DM. I'm like, yeah, he wants to smash just wants it. Yes, exactly
00:00:23.760 No, yeah, don't have as many options. You think they know leave you man. That's good for you
00:00:26.880 That's how that was you might it was a good man for you initially you might be going through some stuff
00:00:30.420 You leave him and now you wonder why you've got 30 buddies and it's not even that you want to sleep with these people
00:00:34.260 You're just getting sold a dream and you're too naive to distinguish what's right and what's wrong if a man has a good intentions gonna marry you
00:00:39.000 Yeah, and that's that's what he says is a thousand percent correct because these girls think like all these dudes are after me 0.99
00:00:45.660 And each dude is like my choice of a perfect relationship is like no the majority of these guys
00:00:52.200 I would bet ninety five percent of these guys just want to hit it and get out of yeah, you know
00:00:59.060 But they they're so delusional because we lived in this narcissistic culture and this is not in a diss on women
00:01:05.200 But it just the reality of the situation is pretty true. You have social media. You have the government you have movies
00:01:11.980 You have music you have video games telling women 0.99
00:01:16.820 24 7 365
00:01:18.820 You're amazing you can do whatever you want. There's no consequences what you can do
00:01:22.840 Mainly because you're a woman 1.00
00:01:24.780 So I feel sorry for these girls because they believe this shit and they think like oh, yeah 1.00
00:01:28.320 I just have all these infinite options next thing. You know they wake up they're 35 and they're crying on tiktok because they're single 1.00
00:01:33.640 This is why this is why this is why I invest so much into you know cosmetics
00:01:38.100 Well, I just think it's either we're equal or we're not. Yeah, like you either think you're an equal
00:01:42.920 So behave like an equal you don't need child support. You don't need alimony. You're you're an equal
00:01:48.620 You're a man
00:01:49.380 They're equal
00:01:50.640 Well, what percent actually pay 50% of the bills you're equal. That's your partner, right?
00:01:56.400 That's what everyone says here. This is my partner
00:01:58.280 I've seen a number of articles recently though by older women who've who've divorced their husband, you know 0.99
00:02:03.520 And then it's like 10 years later and they're like oh shit. I shouldn't have done that 0.98
00:02:06.340 You know like I thought I thought the pastures were greener and actually now I'm on my own
00:02:10.140 You know, the grass is not greener on the other side of the fence at the grass is greener where you water it
00:02:16.760 Endure
00:02:17.800 Endure
00:02:19.800 I have a question for the ladies 1.00
00:02:23.960 Should you listen to your husband point-blank period yes or no?
00:02:31.800 No, I mean it's a yes or no only
00:02:34.620 Your husband says do something you don't want to know I just refer back to you just said that we're supposed to be equal
00:02:41.960 So you're gonna pay off the bills you're gonna find that you're gonna find the burglar when he comes in the house
00:02:47.820 The last guy I
00:02:49.820 Stopped the last guy you got to go down there
00:02:52.640 Do you want to be in like a 50 50 partnership is that your ideal relationship? 0.87
00:02:57.200 No
00:03:03.200 Traditional relationship with a 50 50 mindset no, it's not a 50 50 mindset. I just understand there's certain things where
00:03:11.520 We have a saying it's the man is the head, but the woman is the neck you need both to to to you know to turn around 0.99
00:03:19.680 It's not just the head. That's like feminist Christian. No, no, it's not about feminists 0.73
00:03:24.960 But what I'm saying is it takes two to tango. Okay. I'll give you a different one. It takes two to tango
00:03:29.440 So it doesn't matter who leads if the other one doesn't move you don't get in the right direction
00:03:34.840 So I believe that there are certain things where my man will stamp his foot and if it's important to him
00:03:40.120 I will respect him and I will take his decision, but
00:03:43.780 Sometimes there will be things that are equally important to me where I would like to find a counterpart
00:03:49.680 Who understands me and says this is important to her and therefore
00:03:53.280 She's the one in charge 1.00
00:03:54.680 But that's still a 50 50 mindset because a traditional mindset is he has the final say no matter what yes, but it's not to say
00:04:01.820 He'll never give you your way, but it's still his choice
00:04:04.100 Like that's a traditional mindset if you look at writings of women like 150 years ago 1.00
00:04:08.080 Like the answer would just be yes this whole do I need to listen to my voice of course
00:04:12.560 Of course, it's a conflicted, you know, I'm still 34. I grew up in a very different society, but I'm still here
00:04:19.460 I'm still here today. So of course, I'm absorbing but I'm learning what works for me to be honest
00:04:24.360 Like I've listened to everyone I agree with pretty much everyone says because everyone has a point
00:04:28.680 But for me like say my biological dad didn't stay with my mom
00:04:33.560 He didn't he left us but my stepdad and I call him dad
00:04:37.640 They've been together for 33 years and thriving
00:04:40.600 I'm still matching clothes never been away from another they travel the whole hands and that's what I want and when I was 25
00:04:48.080 Unfortunately, I lost my fiance to cancer. So after that I've been through this
00:04:52.360 I still want to have that what I've envisioned maybe as a
00:04:56.000 As a young girl as a teenager and I still believe it's possible
00:04:59.920 But of course, I still adopt and I'm still here today
00:05:02.920 I don't live in the past and I'm not trying to be this new
00:05:06.800 DM slide kind of woman either. Do you know who said that quote? 0.99
00:05:12.240 The which one man is head with the woman his neck 0.88
00:05:15.540 Tell me who said that there's a Canadian actress named like a Nia Vardalos
00:05:20.580 Basically, it's very popular in Russia. We say that as a
00:05:23.460 Can we dissect that phrase for a second? I've been I've been sitting here. She's a divorced feminist actress 1.00
00:05:28.940 Of course
00:05:29.380 Oh, really?
00:05:30.380 Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait
00:05:34.380 The brain is still
00:05:35.580 I was literally saying yeah, that was about my point
00:05:38.380 The brain is still in the head
00:05:39.380 The brain is still in the head
00:05:41.380 You should take the biblical perspective, which is
00:05:44.300 But I've already changed that to tango
00:05:46.540 It's about the movement
00:05:47.540 The woman is the crown on a man's head 1.00
00:05:50.720 It's an accessory
00:05:52.540 Even with the tango
00:05:54.240 Oh, wow
00:05:54.740 Because if you just look at society
00:05:56.840 If you just look at society
00:05:58.620 Listen, because it's like a game of chess, right?
00:06:00.900 The game of chess, the game of life
00:06:03.980 Is to win
00:06:05.860 And sometimes
00:06:07.520 The queen is the strongest piece on the board 0.97
00:06:11.740 Yeah?
00:06:12.480 Do you play chess?
00:06:13.280 She is the strongest, yeah
00:06:14.520 But the game isn't over if the queen dies
00:06:16.540 Yeah
00:06:17.100 Sometimes you gotta sacrifice the queen to make a win
00:06:19.360 And then you can take a pawn
00:06:20.360 And get him to the other side
00:06:21.940 And then she can become a queen 1.00
00:06:23.420 Yeah, but we take it
00:06:24.660 I'm talking about couple dynamics
00:06:26.380 When two people merge together
00:06:28.120 I'm not talking about the rest of the world
00:06:29.920 Of course, he died
00:06:31.140 I'm still alive
00:06:31.780 I'm still living
00:06:32.480 I'm not talking about
00:06:33.240 I'm not talking about
00:06:34.140 Your particular situation
00:06:35.920 My only point
00:06:37.220 I'm not talking about your situation
00:06:39.080 But I'm saying what you said
00:06:40.720 When I said
00:06:41.240 Should you listen to your husband
00:06:42.540 If it's not a yes
00:06:43.900 That's not a traditional mindset
00:06:46.060 It's fine
00:06:47.280 No, and I'm not saying that's wrong
00:06:49.160 I'm just saying
00:06:49.640 You said you would prefer
00:06:50.600 A traditional relationship
00:06:51.880 So I'm just asking
00:06:53.300 How you would get
00:06:53.900 No, that's not what I said
00:06:55.080 I just said that
00:06:56.000 I would still
00:06:57.600 You didn't like the 50-50 1.00
00:06:58.840 Yeah, I don't like the 50-50 0.99
00:07:00.720 But that doesn't mean
00:07:01.700 That I'm sitting around
00:07:02.700 And expecting for things
00:07:04.460 And I'm entitled
00:07:05.280 No, I didn't say you were entitled
00:07:06.940 No, no, I know, I know
00:07:07.740 I'm just trying to explain
00:07:09.340 Yeah, yeah
00:07:10.200 I totally get you
00:07:10.980 I totally get all of you guys
00:07:12.520 And I love the fact
00:07:13.620 That we're actually talking about it
00:07:14.960 Because, you know
00:07:15.940 Sometimes you're so sure
00:07:17.100 About what you picture for yourself
00:07:18.820 Or what you think of
00:07:20.500 And then you listen to another opinion
00:07:22.180 And you understand them
00:07:23.380 And then you refer back to yourself
00:07:25.160 And you think
00:07:25.960 Wait a second
00:07:27.080 But
00:07:27.420 And what do you think now
00:07:29.380 And
00:07:29.940 I don't know
00:07:31.180 But I believe that
00:07:32.160 Once again
00:07:32.940 There is no one clear rule
00:07:34.880 Of what to say
00:07:35.900 Or how to do
00:07:36.920 Or how to behave
00:07:37.860 Well
00:07:38.200 Something that doesn't work
00:07:39.800 In one relationship
00:07:41.120 May work in another
00:07:42.280 But fundamentally
00:07:43.720 Fundamentally
00:07:45.040 Should you
00:07:45.700 Should you
00:07:46.560 It goes back to the question
00:07:48.280 Should you endure
00:07:49.220 Once you've made that commitment
00:07:50.520 In a marriage or not
00:07:51.420 That's the fundamental question
00:07:52.700 Isn't it
00:07:53.060 Yes
00:07:53.480 Also
00:07:55.280 If we're going to go back
00:07:58.260 To the tango thing
00:07:59.120 I've been holding on to this
00:07:59.940 For a while
00:08:00.300 Because it's one of those
00:08:01.380 Things that's in my head
00:08:01.960 Drop it Daniel
00:08:02.580 I'm like
00:08:03.000 Drop it
00:08:03.820 Drop it
00:08:04.060 Because it's like
00:08:04.520 You use the
00:08:05.220 It takes two to tango
00:08:06.520 Sure
00:08:07.120 You're right
00:08:08.280 But even in a tango
00:08:09.660 One person leads
00:08:10.940 One person follows
00:08:12.060 Even in any two man dance
00:08:14.560 One person leads
00:08:15.460 One person follows
00:08:16.100 When people use that
00:08:17.060 It takes two to tango thing
00:08:18.540 It always gets me
00:08:19.500 Because it's like
00:08:19.960 You're skipping a question
00:08:21.040 The question is
00:08:21.620 Would you lead
00:08:22.300 Would you follow his lead
00:08:23.740 And we're using two to tango
00:08:25.560 Which has one leader
00:08:26.600 And one follower
00:08:27.220 But which one are you
00:08:29.140 Are you the leader
00:08:29.600 Are you the
00:08:29.980 Yeah