JustPearlyThings - June 10, 2023


Modern Women NEED Hear THIS


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Length

10 minutes

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Word count

2,332

Sentence count

134

Harmful content

Misogyny

22

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Hate speech

14

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In this episode, we discuss how to settle within your means and how to be flexible in order to be more attractive to men. We also discuss the benefits of being submissive in the dating world and how it can improve your chances of getting a partner.

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00:00:00.000 please advice or what would you then um advice women to do then so they should just settle within 1.00
00:00:05.360 their means um well i would say okay okay i i have i know what do you say oh you can do you
00:00:13.360 want to you can you can start this is what i do i have i have a couple options so first of all we
00:00:20.080 need to understand what settling is because a lot of women seem to think settling is a problem so 1.00
00:00:24.400 can i explain to you what i think in in my life settling is um for me settling you see for me
00:00:31.840 quality of life is very important and peace is very important and what leads to my peace is my home
00:00:39.200 me being so happy to be there yeah so if i don't feel happy to be there because the quality of my
00:00:45.760 life is not on a certain standards then i'm not at peace so this is what i would say right the first
00:00:52.000 thing i would say is what are your three non-negotiables and you're only allowed three
00:00:56.640 and you everything builds from there so you said the things that are important to you
00:01:01.680 right what are what what you get you get digest that yeah it's true but the things that are
00:01:08.160 important to you right you get three non-negotiables in the man that you're going to choose i know what
00:01:12.080 you're going to do no but i'm just asking but i already know what he's going to do what but what
00:01:16.320 do you think i'm going to do because i'm going to say mention three things right and when i mention
00:01:20.640 them and you say but what if you can get that in a guy that earns 15k no no no no no that's what i'm
00:01:25.440 saying what i was going to say what i was going to say is this right if you have three non-negotiables
00:01:30.400 yeah and you built everything outside of that you have to be flexible in you're asking okay a woman 1.00
00:01:36.000 who's gone through this process she's made mistakes she's here she's got this frame of mind now
00:01:39.200 what does she do this is what she does you have three non-negotiables and everything outside because 0.99
00:01:44.240 because most women they have a list of 10 15 20 things maybe when i'll just keep it a buck right 1.00
00:01:50.800 maybe when you're younger and you have every guy at your disposal you can afford to be that picky
00:01:57.440 but when you get older you've had to experience the way the market is you can't afford to be that
00:02:02.800 picky for most women most women can't yeah but that doesn't mean you shouldn't be able to get a 1.00
00:02:06.800 chance i'm just i'm just as we're just picking each other's brain yeah go for it so like as you're
00:02:11.760 saying now that okay you know in taiwan some there's some guys that do approach you and
00:02:18.880 you're not attracted to them okay so this is this is the second thing you're not feeling forget even
00:02:23.760 the looks that they don't yeah okay so this is this is the second thing right do you always wait for a
00:02:29.840 guy to approach you oh i can't approach you i don't have the ball no no hold on hold on hold on
00:02:34.560 hold on it's not but i'm just asking like if you are only going to choose from the men who come to you
00:02:40.880 and that's okay but then you can't then complain about the lack of oxygen it's like how can you
00:02:46.480 how can you get what you want if you don't go after it exactly in the form and i'm asking in the
00:02:51.360 form of trying to be submissive is it lady like to even approach there is a feminine way right 1.00
00:02:57.120 tell us the feminine way because i would love to know women and men communicate differently men
00:03:00.960 communicate overtly whilst women communicate covertly part of what women do is they they signal so you 0.99
00:03:06.080 can what the look she's you know you know back in the day they used to like they used to drop their 1.00
00:03:10.480 handkerchief yeah yeah yeah we need some handkerchiefs up in here we need some handkerchiefs
00:03:16.000 also also i'm just gonna do a quick plug um we're starting wife a channel called wife school where we bring in 0.93
00:03:22.400 some wives to teach modern women and 304s to be wives oh my god yeah i always see 304s what's 304s
00:03:29.840 uh-huh oh okay
00:03:32.000 you're doing 304 in a calculator so that's okay
00:03:33.920 yeah okay all right anyway so so if you if you feel like you've been in the streets too long
00:03:40.720 i can't believe this
00:03:41.840 if you're like i'm a modern woman i don't know what to do and you're like all these red pill channels they 0.75
00:03:48.480 never come up with solutions but here we're solution-minded we're gonna bring we're gonna
00:03:53.520 bring in wives to teach you how to cook i've to teach you how to clean oh shameless plug 1.00
00:03:58.000 what follow my channel i'll give you solutions that's what i do
00:04:02.080 that's what my challenge is all about i can't
00:04:03.920 you're gonna be featured on wife school he's gonna teach you he's gonna he's gonna 0.98
00:04:08.800 how do you're gonna teach women how to approach you okay 0.99
00:04:12.080 stop it we're gonna we're gonna we're gonna teach you're
00:04:14.480 You're going to teach women how to approach men, right? 1.00
00:04:17.040 Very true.
00:04:17.460 Okay, tell us.
00:04:18.300 Tell us.
00:04:18.660 I would love a little lesson now.
00:04:21.860 Okay, so situation.
00:04:24.120 This is a standard situation.
00:04:25.160 You're at a bar.
00:04:26.180 You're with your girlfriends.
00:04:27.040 You see a guy you like.
00:04:28.180 First off, you being with your girlfriends, right?
00:04:30.340 99% of men are not approaching you because to him, you're just like a pack of wolves.
00:04:35.280 It's not happening.
00:04:35.920 So the first thing you have to do is you have to separate yourself from the group.
00:04:40.080 Right?
00:04:40.720 And there's a point that you separate yourself from the group.
00:04:42.860 Now, while you're in the group, right, you see the guy you like, it's very important you make eye contact.
00:04:48.640 Now, here's the thing.
00:04:49.820 When you're out and about, everyone makes eye contact, right?
00:04:52.140 You might look at us once or twice, right?
00:04:54.460 But you need to maintain that eye contact, right?
00:04:57.160 So you see him, he sees you, right?
00:05:00.360 The next thing you do, right, if you do that and he acknowledges you, that's cool.
00:05:05.520 Next time you do it, you give a smile.
00:05:08.400 It's quite nice.
00:05:09.560 You give a smile.
00:05:10.940 We're all taking it.
00:05:12.060 You give a smile.
00:05:13.260 Right in notes.
00:05:14.020 Because all it is about, right?
00:05:15.780 Because the thing is, if you're an attractive woman, if you're an attractive woman, 80% of guys want to approach you in that club. 1.00
00:05:20.780 But the truth is, 79% feel they don't have the permission to.
00:05:24.660 So by you doing this, it's giving him the permission to approach you.
00:05:29.000 Once you've done and you've sent these signals, you have to separate yourself from the group.
00:05:33.360 So maybe, like, you go, oh, to be fair, girls go to the toilet all the time. 1.00
00:05:37.760 So maybe not the toilet, but maybe you're like, okay, I'm going to go get a drink at this side of the bar where I'm by myself.
00:05:42.120 Mm-hmm.
00:05:43.120 Can you give him the opportunity?
00:05:45.020 Now, here's the thing.
00:05:46.420 If it's a man who is with his well with all, he's got a level of emotional intelligence, right?
00:05:50.860 And he finds you attractive, and there's a level of confidence, which I assume is the kind of man you want, he's going to take that chance.
00:05:56.340 And if he doesn't, let's say he doesn't, right?
00:06:00.080 And you're like, I didn't take a chance, but he'll come back.
00:06:02.780 If you see him at the bar, right, and I've said this to my clients, and this has worked several times,
00:06:08.560 all you're saying is, hey, can you help me try and get a drink?
00:06:11.260 I've been trying to get a drink for ages, and they've not been seen to me.
00:06:14.300 What if there's, like, no one in the bar?
00:06:17.140 You're at a shit bar if there's no one at the bar.
00:06:20.060 Well, then you know that's definitely the signal, then, if there's no one at the bar.
00:06:23.220 Because all you're doing is you're just opening the door.
00:06:25.140 And nine times out of ten, right, nine times out of ten, a guy's going to go,
00:06:29.360 because the guy wants to feel like the man, so he's going, don't worry, man, let me get us a drink.
00:06:33.460 Right?
00:06:33.940 And then you start a conversation, and that is literally half the battle of meeting him.
00:06:37.700 I'm coming to you with your friends.
00:06:39.220 I was about to say, my husband would have approached me with the friends and taken me away.
00:06:44.420 That's cool, but like, you're a 1% man if you can do that, because most people can't do that.
00:06:48.660 The cold approach is diet.
00:06:50.880 Men haven't, they don't practice the skill of the cold approach anymore.
00:06:54.200 Of course.
00:06:54.480 I grew up doing that stuff, so what you're saying makes complete sense.
00:06:57.760 You grew up?
00:06:58.820 Yeah.
00:06:59.200 100%.
00:06:59.620 I grew up drafting, having to draw a galley.
00:07:02.700 I'll be honest, I used to do that.
00:07:03.720 I don't do that anymore.
00:07:04.460 Blood, sweat, and rejection is what I used to call it.
00:07:06.120 Because back in them days, you just had to grind.
00:07:08.440 We used to do a numbers game.
00:07:09.380 Me and my boy would go to a certain location.
00:07:11.140 Numbers game.
00:07:12.080 And we'd spend all day drawing the girls.
00:07:13.180 Let's see we get ten numbers.
00:07:14.260 Wow.
00:07:14.580 Freedom at reply, you might be able to top one.
00:07:16.540 I'll be honest.
00:07:16.920 You were one of them ones.
00:07:18.280 I used to do the same thing.
00:07:19.100 But the reason I don't do that now, and I don't advocate for men to do that now, is because
00:07:22.340 ain't no one looking for a sexual harassment charge.
00:07:24.420 No, no, no, no, no, no.
00:07:25.200 I ain't about it.
00:07:25.620 But do you think is, and the reason I say it's important whilst you're younger, is because
00:07:29.820 you learn how to communicate with people effectively at that age.
00:07:32.900 So at that time, and that's when you learn to pick up social cues, because women will 1.00
00:07:36.680 signal.
00:07:37.440 And where most men fail, they're not attuned to those signals.
00:07:40.900 So like you said, with the look, like you said, with the separation of the friends,
00:07:43.500 with the smile, most guys will still see all those signals and still think, fuck that.
00:07:47.000 I don't want to get turned down.
00:07:48.620 It's true.
00:07:48.960 But for me, that's a heightened approach.
00:07:51.200 If you give me all those signals, it's long.
00:07:53.420 By the time I spun you, it's game over.
00:07:55.260 I hear that.
00:07:55.760 But like I said, that's a 1% man thing. 0.98
00:07:58.020 Most guys aren't going to do that.
00:07:59.080 No, that's true.
00:07:59.800 And I've noticed that as well.
00:08:01.020 Like when I was younger, a lot of guys would like come up, well, I'm not like figuring
00:08:05.140 myself out, but you know, like guys generally, like they had so much more confidence.
00:08:09.800 Whereas nowadays, I just feel like they never approach you.
00:08:12.740 As a feminist, do you think that you can go to a guy? 1.00
00:08:16.800 Yeah.
00:08:17.400 I've all, like not always, but yeah, there's been a lot of times where I have approached
00:08:21.300 a guy.
00:08:21.760 To be fair, I have been drunk.
00:08:25.040 Right.
00:08:26.080 It is harder.
00:08:27.140 Like when you're sober, I don't know, like I don't have as much confidence, but yeah.
00:08:31.020 Like, I like that.
00:08:32.220 What do you say?
00:08:34.800 Oh, okay.
00:08:37.180 This is a bit strong and bear in mind, I was drunk, right?
00:08:41.680 But in one scenario, I said, are you going to get me a drink?
00:08:45.020 Okay.
00:08:45.380 That's all right.
00:08:45.960 But I say it in like a feminine way.
00:08:47.660 I smile.
00:08:48.140 Do you know what I mean?
00:08:48.560 Like there's like body language to this as well.
00:08:51.140 It's not like, are you going to get me a drink?
00:08:52.260 I don't think we're important.
00:08:52.920 Yeah.
00:08:53.180 Honestly, it's because it might come across.
00:08:54.800 With that one.
00:08:55.380 Yeah.
00:08:55.980 For sure.
00:08:56.340 It might come across you trying to finesse me.
00:08:57.680 Because for me, I only really like to buy a girl drink only when we're having great 1.00
00:09:01.700 interactions.
00:09:02.720 Because a lot of guys, where they go wrong is that that's their approach.
00:09:06.280 Yeah.
00:09:06.480 Here's a drink happening.
00:09:07.760 And to me, that's sleazy and it shows you've got no decor.
00:09:10.080 Nah, girls will finesse you for that though. 1.00
00:09:11.700 Exactly.
00:09:12.080 A drink.
00:09:12.960 Oh.
00:09:13.540 100%.
00:09:13.800 Mate, do you know how?
00:09:14.520 Come on, you guys have had it.
00:09:15.560 Like how many girls go out? 0.97
00:09:16.520 They're like, they don't even spend a penny, but they get wasted.
00:09:19.620 Oh yeah, there's some girls, they don't come out of their person. 1.00
00:09:21.720 They don't come out of their person, your confidence is real.
00:09:24.080 I heard a girl do that once. 1.00
00:09:25.080 One guy's approached me saying, I want to chat to your friend.
00:09:26.880 I said, brother, go do your thing.
00:09:28.060 She'd come back to me with free drinks.
00:09:29.660 Wow.
00:09:31.100 I'll be honest.
00:09:32.620 Maybe I shouldn't admit this.
00:09:33.560 I'll be honest.
00:09:33.940 I've been out with a girl that I was dating, right?
00:09:35.920 And she was standing, she gets hit on all the time by guys.
00:09:38.780 And she'll be like, let me go get her some drinks. 1.00
00:09:41.180 And she'll just go get a guy to buy a couple of drinks. 1.00
00:09:43.360 She'll be like, oh, can you buy a drink for me and my friend?
00:09:45.000 Not knowing it's for me.
00:09:46.280 Wow.
00:09:47.780 I'll be like, listen, if you're a teen, you use what each other has got, boy.
00:09:51.260 It's true.
00:09:52.080 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok.
00:09:55.580 And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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