JustPearlyThings - Modern Women Need TO INVEST On ETIQUTTE

00:00:00.080 sometimes your gestures are a bit masculine okay and i don't know if it's like the sport thing like

00:00:05.520 you do like you talk with your hands oh i do is that masculine it can be it's a little bit all

00:00:11.520 over the place and so it's not as um well like yesterday you may or may not remember when you

00:00:17.440 were cutting the steak and you were talking to me with the fork and you were kind of like

00:00:20.400 i'm stabbing the air oh no no okay i'm done i'm done i thought you did mine no no it's okay i i

00:00:30.240 do i i know actually did i say what i what you thought i was gonna say yeah the swearing the

00:00:35.040 swearing the swear i try to tackle one thing at a time good because i get overwhelmed if i go after

00:00:41.360 like too many things at once so my steps is right now cooking okay the next thing is fashion okay

00:00:48.240 he's coming okay i'm not gonna lie the swearing is gonna be last because i just like that hey

00:00:53.920 hey you know what all i'm saying do you you know share your body count drop the f-bombs it's just

00:01:00.000 okay we're not gonna go down it's just every now and then a good f-bomb i understand but it's gonna

00:01:06.240 it's gonna go it's gonna go i mean you can say it in you know a company of people that you trust but

00:01:12.960 when you say it to random strangers they're like man pearl has a potty mouth and you just would hate

00:01:17.680 for people to have that as a first impression one in all seriousness y'all i mean the only reason i

00:01:22.880 mean pearl is absolutely completely genuine and super sweet and i am so grateful to be here and i'm

00:01:29.120 not you know blowing smoke but um i remember i i'm sharing this with you because i had to go through

00:01:35.120 that and my ex-husband was like i don't like you using that language and i stopped so and you take a

00:01:42.480 you take feedback really really well so that's one of those things that once you're already kind

00:01:47.360 of mindful of it it's like yeah i know i do that i need to stop as opposed to we can film here

00:01:56.960 oh i'm so irritated yeah yeah yeah so that's it but you've um the fact that you are aware the fact

00:02:05.440 that you are trying and you are moving with intention is huge especially at your age because a lot of women

00:02:11.280 waste their 20s i was married at 25 but a lot of women waste their 20s and then they get to this age 1.00

00:02:16.640 and then they're scrambling and you see that panic so i'm really proud of you that you're being mindful

00:02:21.760 of what you can get better at no none of the stuff you said surprises me okay that's how it was like

00:02:27.040 the feedback i could you know because most of the stuff i sort of have plans like to to work on you

00:02:33.440 know but i have to do one at a time otherwise i get overwhelmed no i agree with you one at a time is

00:02:38.160 good one at a time is good you have a goal you're getting incrementally better and that's fine you

00:02:43.120 don't have to be perfect how did you work on the scatterbrain thing uh okay so with the communication

00:02:50.960 so some of the work that i do has a lot of communication and then going to graduate school

00:02:55.760 and having to present and just always thinking about what i'm saying how the audience is going to

00:03:01.040 receive it and that audience could be work people or it could be you know my guy or it could be my

00:03:06.480 children and i'm not perfect at it but i try to think of the end in mind so at the end of this talk

00:03:12.480 what do i want you to take away with that take away from that and then i try to walk it back honestly a

00:03:17.920 lot of it comes with maturity too so don't put too much pressure on yourself i mean you're 26 right

00:03:23.280 i'm 47 so it's totally fine but just being mindful of it another big thing what you do here with youtube

00:03:30.640 um that's helped me a lot having a youtube channel uh being in zoom meetings i've taken a lot of

00:03:36.320 etiquette and elegance classes so i've had to invest in making sure that i show up a certain way getting

00:03:42.160 that feedback seeing yourself recording yourself and saying wow i'm a little bit all over the place

00:03:47.840 and just being mindful and taking the steps to change where did you take etiquette classes because

00:03:52.160 we were trying to find some but i was having a hard time finding some that weren't like five grand for

00:03:59.120 etiquette they they are expensive it is an investment and actually i heard of one from kevin samuels so i

00:04:04.960 did anna bay's signature program i've done emma dupont signature program um oh goodness business

00:04:11.600 communication um actually i'm enrolled in her international etiquette course but it's kind of like

00:04:16.640 you go down a rabbit hole i've done um jamila musayeva's uh programs i bought her uh programs

00:04:23.680 for me i can nerd out on this stuff because i really like it because again as a boy mom with no sisters

00:04:30.800 working in a masculine environment i have to be very mindful that doesn't come on me because you can start

00:04:38.160 acting like a dude because that's what you're around all the time and so i'm just very intentional

00:04:43.840 about watching how men behave and doing the opposite so no i think that's something that's

00:04:49.520 definitely rubbed off on me just because just because i grew up between so i was i grew up with

00:04:54.160 six i have ten total but i was yeah it's kind of a long story um my mom gave up one kid for adoption

00:05:01.200 when she was 17. so it's the same parents but they just started five years later like they were young

00:05:07.040 and then three we adopted as teenagers so i didn't grow up with four of them so that yeah they adopted like

00:05:12.240 three 15 year olds but they were you can speak to the blended family wow yeah but it was um like

00:05:17.760 two came after i left for college and one came when i was a year old wow you see so and she had moved

00:05:24.000 out when i was i think she moved out when i was two or something so oh wow yeah i was i think she might

00:05:29.680 have come before i was so young but when i was in the house there was six does that make sense it does

00:05:35.280 there was no blended it was just me and my siblings gotcha okay i grew up between two boys

00:05:42.000 so and my next youngest sister was five years younger than me and we just didn't we didn't really

00:05:47.120 get along when we were younger so um it was kind of like i was just friends with the boys and then

00:05:53.600 you're playing volleyball which is around girls but it's not really a feminine environment right right 1.00

00:05:59.120 um and same with basketball and like track like you know i mean you're around girls but it's really

00:06:06.000 not conducive for like femininity right right and then when i worked i was in corporate i was also

00:06:12.160 i was the only girl at the office yeah so i definitely can see how that stuff can rub off on you because

00:06:17.840 there's definitely like stuff that like in terms of being girly i just get frustrated because i'm like

00:06:23.920 they're like oh it's so nice you don't wear a lot of makeup i even had someone accuse me of like

00:06:29.440 not it's so funny he said i um i don't do my hair and makeup because of my brand and like i have to

00:06:36.000 come off as like the girl next door who just doesn't know and i was thinking of like i wish i knew how to

00:06:42.240 curl my hair i wish i knew how to do makeup i'm like i just genuinely don't know how to do it and so

00:06:49.680 like a lot of times i would just get super frustrated because i would try to be like this is so bad

00:06:54.400 yeah well don't beat yourself up about it i mean one of the things that i understand you with the

00:06:59.200 sports you know there's a good side of that competition but just knowing that being competitive

00:07:04.480 you know is a little bit masculine so you just have to kind of work to offset it if that's something you

00:07:09.360 want to do when it comes to that beauty routine um one of the things that i would do when i would have

00:07:14.640 someone do my hair or makeup i would ask them teach me show me what you do sometimes we just sit in the

00:07:20.720 chair oh i love it and we go because you know like we talked about that maintenance with the nails and

00:07:26.320 the eyelashes and all that i have to be able to do it myself you know i wear very light makeup i do like

00:07:32.480 a red lip some mascara and that's it like i'm not contouring i put red polish on when it chips i get

00:07:38.320 it repainted that's pretty much my signature look and it's something that i can do on my own so you

00:07:44.480 start small and you find something that you can maintain and find something that your guy likes and

00:07:50.320 you just go with that so you don't have to act like you're going to be on the runway just you know

00:07:55.040 incremental progress okay we got the marriages let's you ready to watch some kevin samuels let's

00:08:04.640 do it let's watch some kevin oh dear so what i'm good at is i'm coachable you are my cooking is coming

00:08:13.040 yes you fed the the crew yesterday i actually feed them a decent amount i feel like it's good

00:08:18.480 practice actually practice having them around so i'll just like it depends on the day because

00:08:24.160 sometimes it's like i'll run out of food too quick but um i i do give them food a lot because i'm

00:08:32.640 like i get feedback and i can see what is good and what is it and so it's kind of like a family

00:08:37.760 you know so it's sort of is good practice that's another thing you do really well at you actually

00:08:42.880 seek out feedback because i noticed y'all yesterday when pearl was cooking and she made a whole like

00:08:48.480 days worth of food she asked everybody after they ate okay rate me on a scale of one to ten

00:08:54.000 and she got some really high marks but even if it was nine or 9.5 she's like what do i need to do

00:08:59.760 to make it a 10 and i was like whoa pearl wants that perfect score and that's a good thing you know

00:09:06.400 that that try that want to that drive i think that's good as many of you know i was just banned on tick

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JustPearlyThings - March 17, 2023

Modern Women Need TO INVEST On ETIQUTTE

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