Modern Women PROOFED They're IRRESPONSIBLE
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Summary
In this episode we discuss the importance of being a man of his word and how important it is to have a husband that keeps his word. We also talk about why women should wait to get married before having kids and how to protect and provide for their children.
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They're the ones that are in charge. They're the ones that have to protect you.
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She's going to go downstairs and fight everyone.
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I think she's talking about the people that don't do that.
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So for me, like when you said the protector and the raising, I've always been that person.
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And then what you said where you would choose someone that is going to give you all the things.
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It did not happen. And that's me being such a dream.
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But that's just in my circumstances. Not in general.
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Okay, one at a time. One at a time. Okay, go ahead.
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No, I'm not complaining in any way. And I'm the first person to say, listen, it was not planned and blah, blah, blah.
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But, like, because I went through with that situation.
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Why would you not choose someone that's going to give you these things?
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Like, it probably would have been avoided if you got married first.
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Because then he's putting his money where his mouth is.
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It would have been no difference to my situation except from a fucking messy divorce.
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She needed a ring just to confirm that he was going to be a man of his word.
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Do you know how big of a risk marriage is for men in 2022?
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Do you know how the engagement rings are going to be out this Christmas?
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Guys, do you know how big of a risk the marriage is for men in 2022?
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We leave 70 to 80% of the time, 90% of their college educated.
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They can lose up to 75% of this stuff and take the kids.
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We're talking about a man that didn't keep his word.
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The point that she's making is that you should have waited until marriage to say that he
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If if anything it would have just made a hundred about there was nothing I was would have got gained from it
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I have a question going back to what you said you protect and provide
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Do you not think it would be better if your son had a father in his life or daughter?
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Oh my god, I would love so much for him to have a five if you go like I have a I'm lucky enough to have
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Men and family members that are male in my life to be able to show him that kind of way
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But sometimes I don't think I wish like every day
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I wish I wish I had someone there. Yeah, that showed him that side of it, but I'm quite masculine in that kind of energy
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I'll do mum and dad, but I know what you mean that then it I don't know it's a weird
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We're best friends. Most mums are you follow? No, not me. Get up
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I'm quite I kind of try and make it balanced to do both
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Was there red flags because a lot of women say this year
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But I guarantee there was some kind of signs that he was that guy that doesn't keep his promises
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There was always red flags, but like I said it wasn't planned
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I would not plan to have a child at that point with a person in general
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I'm talking about the commitment side and the keeping his word side. I guarantee there was red flags
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No, that was the question in hand like would you would you not want to get married first? I would have gained nothing from a marriage
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But do you think it would have been different if it was I also said to the guys as well?
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Do you think it changes if a child comes unplanned?
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Yeah, because I feel like that changes the question as well because I feel like if you know you want to have a kid
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Then you can mentally prepare. Okay sick. I'm gonna
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Yeah, I'm gonna provide if this comes unplanned yet if I was a man not to say that I would run out and be like a see you later, bitch, but
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Let's say yeah, we we have been seeing each other for like a year or something. She becomes pregnant
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There for example, I don't want to I don't want to have a kid now. She wants to have the kid. I'll
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I'll help her because I don't want to leave and be the dickhead. That's like bye
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You're eight months in and this child is gonna come in like a month
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Because it changes the combo, you know because you can't mentally prepare and you I still don't say that they should leave
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Never, but I do think it really depends on was this baby planned because that changes
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I mean the idea is like we're a hundred percent in control of birth
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It wasn't his choice. It was yours. No, I we had the conversation. I said right. These are the options
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Do I not do I do it and do it? Are we making a go of it? Like what's happening? We had the full conversation
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Import now like if you want me to get I will do you know what I mean?
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And then we had the import and then it would we came to the conclusion of we will try our best to make a family
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For this child a baby. Yeah, and it did not work
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I'm just I'm just saying like a lot of times like as women yeah, we kind of make it seem like we're a victim
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What right right, but I'm saying I'm just saying I'm saying in general yeah, but like like there are red flags that happened before and we
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We choose to move forward. Yeah, so it's not like a gotcha like he got you. It's like
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Look, I think we've got to put some wholeness on the men as well
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There's two types of man. There's one that lives up to his word and there's one that doesn't as simple as that
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Yeah, but I think you could what's your name sorry in the green
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So basically I think what a lot of people but especially women are missing is the ability to sow seeds
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Right, they don't sow seeds. They don't think long term. They just think like oh, yeah
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Now I feel so this I feel so that but you were saying at 19. Yeah, I wanted one kid now
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It's I don't want nothing your brain's not fully developed
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But there's some studies that say till 25 your brain is still developing
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So there's some shots you're just gonna have to take I was gonna
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Is this a battlefield hold on? Let me just finish if it's a battlefield and you know people are running at you
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There's some shots you're gonna have to take you haven't got a hundred percent accuracy
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You're gonna have to start just licking off licking it off because when you get to 55 like four years ago
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So sometimes you need to think about sowing seeds and don't and be open-minded
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I think a lot of young people sorry to like you're not trying to play it down
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So if one of you in this room proves me wrong or makes me think differently
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I'm gonna allow myself to think and listen but a lot of people are too hard-headed about something
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I wanted to add to what you just said though because
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Obviously I feel like a lot of women I'm not a woman, but I feel like a lot
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Well, I feel like a lot of women will get to a certain like there will be a switch at some point
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Like you'll be playing with your your friend's kid or you'll see a kid a cute baby on
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Instagram or something like that and then you're like
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I want kids when you get past when you get past 35 does come in it's it's it's you
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You don't have a choice anymore or like really as the older you get the choice is goals
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Actually, but it depends on your situation. I have a couple stats for you guys
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Okay, and what do you guys think the average age is of first child
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Can I give a range? I'm gonna have you guys raise your hands so between
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Under the age of 25 first kid is you think okay between 20 25 to 27?
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In 2022 the average age for a woman to give birth is 30 and it's going on and at 30
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Their rate wait wait that now here is let's go with that
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The rate of women giving birth in their 20s has decreased while giving birth in their 30s and 40s has exploded
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11% of women that freeze their eggs end up with a live birth at the end of the process
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Yeah, that's good. And how much how much does freezing eggs cost?
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Around around of ivy and a round of ivf costs around
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$12,000 on average in the united states the price of an ivf at the private you at
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The price of a round of ivf in the uk at a private clinic clinic is about 5,000 pounds
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Guys guys so i'm just curious out of the moment have you ever considered the risks of geriatric pregnancy and did you know those stats so
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Raise your hand if you knew those stats what is that geriatric pregnancy um is pregnancy after 35
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Yeah, I'm my mates mom had her at 40 and she's six and she's perfectly fine
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What do you mean it's not the rules she's still a function human being she ain't got no wrong with you
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So my my parents also have given birth like my parents and their grandparents have given birth late like my both of my grandparents
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No, I understand but I wouldn't bet on it. Why would I bet on that? That's stupid
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Maybe it wasn't your time to have kids yet some people not ready to have kids till they later
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So it's their choice to have kids later in it right right and i'm saying that's fine, but don't complain about the results
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No, but they do like with jennifer aniston jennifer aniston is that's what she she is
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That's just one person and that's what i'm saying no girls do it all the time
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Well, you can't see how many girls you see crying on tick tock about everyone every girl here
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You guys are all pretty enough that you know someone in your friend zone. That's ready to marry you tomorrow
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I don't think that's true though because I want kids
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I want them now, but I just i'm not gonna just have a kid for the sake of it
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I need to when you're ready in love and like I want the family so I think it's unfair to say that it's my choice
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It's not my choice because yeah, I could have a kid with you if I wanted to sorry to pick you out
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But you know I need to be in love with you you know
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I want the whole the whole package. I don't want just a sperm donor because if that's the case i'll go to a bank
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Okay, but it's a choice because there are men i'm sure you have men that want to date you right i'm sure you i mean i'm sure you
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I'm sure you have men that you know are good guys in your friend zone but you know i don't want to fuck them
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It's it's basically like the men you don't want don't want you yep
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If the men you wanted wanted you you would be in a relationship with them i'm not necessarily
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It's like it's like women we don't none of us like we don't settle how do you know that it's the it's the men though
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Like maybe i just don't want anyone maybe no one's like living up to the plate okay
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Okay, well i just think of this there's one of you and there's the whole population of men
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And you know what it is i'm sorry to say but the uk is mid
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No, but i think it's also social media i think people nowadays they meet someone and then they you know he can be
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Um if you're into men like he can be you know the whole package but because of socials
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You're like oh, but he's but he's but he's but so i feel like a lot of people struggle to actually like
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Build something with someone because they're always thinking hmm there might be something better out there
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No, it's because like we're all chasing after the same men women only swipe right and dating apps five percent of the time
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We only we only that's the number one way people are meeting dating apps nowadays we only swipe right which ones i'm gonna download them
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It's true it's true we only swipe right five percent of the time most women rate eighty percent of men is unattractive not just okay
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i've had uh i've had hinged before and i think i've one match
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yeah and so but so to me it's treacherous out there i can't lie
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It is tough the trenches but that's the whole population of men so it it says if you're single over a certain age you're probably too picky
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yeah i am very picky that's what i mean that's what i mean it's like
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let's see okay what percent of men do you think are six foot
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they're not oh i've seen this very low percentage
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i'm 5 10 do you know how many men are taller than me
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so I don't see why I should humble my preference
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the whole point I'm making is women would rather die alone
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that puts him in the top percentage of guys at something
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if you date him that's the best option you had at the time
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time men swipe right on dating i can pull the data for you men swipe right on dating apps 45
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of the time they're done all the women are called all the women saying yeah that they're dating
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below why are the men that you want not committing to you i can't answer that because i can't relate
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to you i don't know because because it's your level that's why it's not but also let me tell
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you why because when you're on my level and i'm now matching you you're going to take offense
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i'm now on par you want to be the next big man you me me my babes and all this so now you want
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someone who's below me who can be like yes babe no babe yes babe yes babe what is this leak this
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leak sounds like it's all old no it's not what it's not what if what if your exes said that about
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you what if your exes they might they might this is this is this is the thing it's guys this is
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delusion no it's not delusion because your delusion is different to mine so why you are not me you
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so your delusion or maybe answer answer answer what why are these men that you're supposedly in your
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league why are they not committing to you no why am i not committing to them guys guys so why is it
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they're not committing to me and not me committing to them yeah that's what i was gonna say but also
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it's not them committing to me because they want me main control commitment that's it no no
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hey hey stop stop if you do that one more time we're gonna sub you out you cannot be over talking
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the host you cannot you cannot be over talking people here um can i say something i feel like
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when we talk about this thing yeah i feel like a lot of girls nothing against no one when i hear you
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talk about leak i feel like it's all based on looks but for me personally yeah i'd rather date a guy
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that's maybe less attractive but he's super sweet you know he has his morals in place he has goals for
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himself he he's good for his family like i'd rather have that than a 10 that has six women on the side
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or whatever he's doing that's what i meant by it that doesn't have his money wait wait go i agree with
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what you're saying which is why i disagree with what you're saying about my exes they have to have
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been in my league because the person they tried to make out they were because the reason why they're
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not in my league isn't just because their their looks is based on things like morals and the person
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they painted themselves out to be was a man of their word and i've got to know them and i realized
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they weren't a man of their word i then realized you're not in my league so therefore what you said
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it's cap because the men i've met they made them themselves out like yeah they were if your league
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is what you can get to commit to you if the man that you can get to commit to you you feel like are
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below your league you're delusional yeah the men the men just because you sleep up doesn't mean they'll
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commit to you but you can't say they're delusional though because it's delusion it's not because everyone's
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different everyone's different you don't know everyone's situation so i was actually engaged about to get
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married and i called it off so i wasn't delusional so i was with someone for six years about to get
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married wedding period of everything yeah that's your level because you're committed to you yeah
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yeah no no yeah yeah i get that what you mean because he's the one who obviously proposed the
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men proposed because they said yeah that's your level i've had people want to do that and i'm like
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no because you're not my guy you're not and if he committed to you that's your level yeah but it's
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clearly not that's clearly not because i'm saying no because you're not that guy i'm still waiting for an answer
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to what what was the why these men that you're supposedly on the level that you're on are not
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committing i didn't say i was on a level i'm saying you got dating within your lane no you said you
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didn't you said you delayed you you dated below no i didn't say i did i said people date below just
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because they want to try something different all right so why did the people that are dating below
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why why can't they get them in on their level because the ones they're trying to be on their level
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with is not working for them so you think so you think so you're telling me every single girl you've
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dated it's always been the same no but i'm not saying that i'm just going off what you said no and i'm
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telling you what i've said okay okay i have a question i have a question okay what how would
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you know what your level is if it's if it's not the guy committing to you because if it's not the
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guy committing to you what would you go off of what else would you go off of the guys you're sleeping
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with guys that like your pictures on instagram someone who is in my league personally would be
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someone that even if things didn't work out because of chemistry because of maybe small things
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that we're not into i can still look at and say you know i respect him yeah even and he has the
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same mutual respect for me i say he's on my level so okay i have a question did he commit yes okay so
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again it goes back to your level is what you can get to commit to you but you said that men that are
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that are tens sometimes or eight sometimes date sixes so that means the six is not how can that work if
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going by your people because women women are hypergamous women date up women do you know what i think
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that's the actual okay i think that's the literal opposite opposite i'm pretty sure men date up women
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date down there's there's facts that's what i'm saying i have a question just just raise of hands um do you
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guys want someone that makes more or less money than you i'm not bothered more i'm talking okay okay okay
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okay if you had to pick more or less like raise your hand raise your hand if it's more raise your hand if it's more
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raise your hand if you prefer someone that makes less i'm not prefer okay okay
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i'm asking you a question do you want someone that dates makes more or less you don't get to pick
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the questions i picked more or less okay okay what would your preference be i didn't say you wouldn't
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go down i'm saying what would your preference would you want do you guys want someone taller or shorter
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taller do you want someone stronger than you or skinnier than you oh i like a skinny man
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hands up if you prefer guys skinnier than you you prefer i used to no no no hands up hands
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i'm on the fence i'm on the fence okay okay okay hands up if you prefer guys more muscular than you
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it depends on how okay okay okay guys just in general this is this is the point this is the point
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we date up when i'm talking about when i'm talking about specifically dating up i'm talking about
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looks specifically only men like let's look at like just let's base it on celebrities for example
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okay celebrity men crap they date they date up they date pretty little things that are pretty skinny
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but there's a reason for that can we can we can we not use maybe there is that's completely fine
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but i'm still just stating the fact celebrity celebrities are the like that that's hollywood okay
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but let's let's look at the everyday okay okay wait wait let's let's let's let's stop stop
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interrupting me okay let's look at the everyday person the everyday person on a dating app men swipe
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right 45 of the time women swipe right five percent on the time dating apps we would agree is mostly
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about looks right mostly look so who is the pickier sex the women okay can i say something though i don't
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answer go ahead um just like from perspective at the minute i go to a lot of events okay every event i
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go to probably 90 of the women are beautiful pretty they've got something big bum nice lips the
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the percentage of men that are attractive at these events compared to the percentage of women
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i mean i'm talking for my whole friendship group there might be like a couple of guys in there that oh
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you're sweet okay i'm just i'm just i'm just i just want to do an experiment here just an experiment
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i want everyone to rate themselves one to ten honestly yeah yeah yeah to be fair to be fair
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i'm gonna start i give myself a five go ahead wow go ahead i think it's time for subs
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go ahead i would say like a seven seven okay i would say a good like a good eight eight okay yeah i'd say
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that an eight because i'll put some weight on eight okay ten ten okay yeah oh sorry go ahead men
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two men two oh uh nine with a trim nine with a seven without a trim seven without a trim okay seven
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point five seven point five that what five and a half five and a half six okay humble seven okay
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eight with a true okay okay so all right all right all right all right outside of me everyone here
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rated themselves that's a girl above average do you think women looks only yes so what's the average
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no one looks oh no okay yeah same sorry okay all right all right looks looks so i think you
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understood the question yeah right okay yeah yeah okay i don't know i just feel like everyone's got
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preferences okay it's awkward as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized
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