JustPearlyThings - Modern Women REVEALED What They Want from Men in the Dating Market

00:00:00.000 she's irredeemably unattractive for some reason can pretty much go out and probably attract 1.00

00:00:06.520 somebody that night you know there's not a problem with guys that's not necessarily the case unless

00:00:10.820 they happen to be either you know top whatever percentile in terms of looks or they have social

00:00:15.020 states or they're famous you know so a lot of guys and a lot of guys sort of who fall below that

00:00:18.920 find it very very hard to break through and then when you add on top of that a sort of a lack of

00:00:24.420 social skills or a lack of confidence a lack of ability uh to sort of overcome some of the other

00:00:29.260 difficulties they might have you know there are guys who are really really finding it very tough

00:00:33.780 and we seem to be coming into this environment now where that's you know the rich get richer the poor

00:00:38.380 get poorer in terms of dating so the guys who are at the top who are getting traction they're they're

00:00:43.420 getting more and more market share if you like and then the guys at the bottom are getting less and

00:00:47.580 less and that's why we've got this issue of guys who are frustrated and there's you know there's sort

00:00:52.380 of the insult thing online and everything like that you know um so i think it's pretty tough out there

00:00:57.280 for for a lot of average sort of dudes i think yeah um one out of three men are either virgins or

00:01:03.460 haven't had sex in the past year oh wow so so in here

00:01:08.800 but so it's it's funny because a lot of girls like think that men are pickier than women but it's

00:01:25.120 actually the opposite women are much pickier than men i mean think about out of every 10 men how many 0.93

00:01:29.520 are you really attracted to who is anyone here would you anyone here say that they're not picky

00:01:34.320 i'm picky i'm definitely picky i think i've become picky over time yeah

00:01:40.500 yeah so then wouldn't you say that men have higher beauty standards they have to live up to 1.00

00:01:47.760 haven't you heard um women say they won't date short men would any of you date a guy shorter than them

00:01:51.840 um no i feel like i'm not quite short as it is so two inches shorter than you any of you doing it

00:02:00.480 and i like to wear heels so it's not gonna work out yeah yeah exactly it's not working out

00:02:08.240 so i think it is tougher for guys i think looks wise it has got tougher for guys and i think you know

00:02:12.080 maybe you could say well we've had it coming because the guys were sort of like for a long time

00:02:16.160 mm-hmm the the looks focus was very much on women but i think now very much on guys really you know

00:02:23.680 again look through instagram dudes with six packs chiseled you know features all the rest of it and

00:02:30.480 the way that social media has has worked and the way that the dating apps has worked has meant that

00:02:34.720 women are now looking at these apps and they're looking at all these like top guys you know top

00:02:38.000 percentile guys are like oh that guy's super hot and then the bloke who who doesn't have those

00:02:42.400 attributes doesn't measure up so she's thinking well i want i want this guy at the top so so now

00:02:46.560 guys are being encouraged to level up you know which is not all altogether a bad thing right

00:02:52.080 because self-improvement's good for everybody you know we should all be doing what we can do to

00:02:55.360 improve ourselves every day right but at the same time i think it is it has got tougher for guys

00:02:59.840 and then in a society like here like in the uk there's a lot of guys who are very thirsty and

00:03:06.400 you know and and they will they they will drop their standards you know yeah yeah

00:03:12.960 sad how so do you ever teach guys to like cold approach women yeah absolutely yeah yeah and

00:03:20.080 what percent of women are receptive would you say to i mean like you've been doing this forever right

00:03:25.600 yeah but there's someone that hasn't um it like he has to go through how many girls to get a number

00:03:32.400 it depends usual caveats it depends where it is you know there are certain places like if you're

00:03:36.880 in like latin america it's a lot more people are maybe italy as well actually i don't know

00:03:41.600 maybe not but you know latin culture is a bit more like open yeah they play the card like you

00:03:45.840 know latin lover yeah but i don't know i think it's difficult though like everywhere but but to

00:03:50.880 one yeah yeah it is but to answer the question um you have to be prepared to go through a lot of

00:03:55.760 rejection you know like if you're an average guy and you're you're going to talk to a woman in a 0.99

00:04:00.960 coffee shop or you know a bar or bookstore or the grocery store whatever it is you know you're all

00:04:05.360 going to go through through rejection um in fact rejection is is the rule and the exception really

00:04:12.400 is to get is to get accepted but that's okay you know it's a question of accepting that being okay

00:04:17.680 with that being confident and working on yourself every day in order to be the best possible man that

00:04:21.840 you can be um but yeah a lot of rejection for sure for people uh go ahead i was going to say well at

00:04:28.240 least a man has options i feel like women we are our options are very very limited so even if even if

00:04:33.680 a man's getting rejected at least he knows okay fine i can find another woman who is maybe like a woman 1.00

00:04:38.400 that i'm interested in but for a woman it's very very difficult i feel like the options for men are

00:04:43.200 very very not difficult you just go outside it's true but it's like for me it's not going to be a

00:04:51.520 guy that i i want but whose fault is that isn't that your own fault because it's definitely not my

00:04:57.360 fault i'm not selling for anybody that i'm not attracted to what i don't want absolutely i agree

00:05:02.240 we need better options so yeah i think you should so the men the men need to level up but then don't

00:05:06.880 you think the women need to level up i mean how many women are leveling i'm leveled 1.00

00:05:10.320 what percent of women have cookbooks what percent of women are homemakers what percent of women really 0.99

00:05:16.720 work with kids and can be good mothers but that's a percentage but you just have to find your percentage

00:05:26.400 you have to find your percentage you have to find it there's women out there you just have to find 1.00

00:05:30.320 yeah but is it common but that's for a certain type of man there are some men that like boss babes 0.79

00:05:34.960 who have businesses, who are grinding and stuff like that.

00:05:38.220 They are 100%. 0.98

00:05:39.720 Bums. 0.99

00:05:40.720 Broke men. 0.98

00:05:44.720 If that's what you did, that's what you did.

00:05:47.720 No.

00:05:48.720 So you don't think men like women that are boss babes? 1.00

00:05:50.600 Men don't give a shit about our money. 1.00

00:05:52.600 They literally don't care. 0.99

00:05:53.900 It's like, okay, if this guy ever told you about a shoe collection,

00:05:56.820 and you're like, oh, that's cool, but you don't really care.

00:05:58.700 That's how men view our money. 1.00

00:06:00.320 They don't care.

00:06:00.860 It's nothing to them.

00:06:02.060 But you proved the point of what you said just now, though,

00:06:04.060 because what you're saying is that you could walk out theoretically,

00:06:07.220 you know, hypothetically, you could walk out and get some guy,

00:06:09.320 maybe come and chat you up or whatever,

00:06:10.760 but you're looking for a certain percentile of guy.

00:06:13.100 Yeah.

00:06:13.500 So you're basically saying, oh, you know,

00:06:15.660 this group of guys who might hit on me randomly in West London,

00:06:20.000 I don't care about them because I want this top tier.

00:06:22.820 And that's the thing.

00:06:23.500 And I'm not saying that's a bad.

00:06:24.900 I mean, that's absolutely everyone's prerogative.

00:06:26.960 But at the same time, I think a lot of guys are finding it

00:06:29.700 increasingly difficult in this dating marketplace, you know,

00:06:32.960 because women are the gatekeepers, basically, you know. 1.00

00:06:35.120 Yes.

00:06:35.620 So I'm curious because I hear this a lot.

00:06:38.460 Like, I'm not going to get a guy that's not on my level.

00:06:40.820 Or is that what you said?

00:06:41.900 I don't want to misquote you.

00:06:42.900 Yeah, I just don't want to be with a guy that's just not up to the standard that I want.

00:06:47.400 So when as women do we lower our standards and decide that they're too high? 1.00

00:06:51.160 If we don't, if all the guys we're talking to don't live up to the standards that we want,

00:06:55.320 when do we lower them?

00:06:56.200 When you're getting old and there's no more time, when your body clock is giving up

00:07:00.700 and you can't have children, you just need to settle.

00:07:02.860 So 90% of your eggs are gone by 30.

00:07:05.500 So at what age would you say that women should start lowering their standards? 1.00

00:07:09.200 Because that would be 30 then, if that's the case.

00:07:11.360 Because I need children, do you know what I mean?

00:07:14.240 Because it's geriatric pregnancy starts at 35. 0.99

00:07:16.360 Wow.

00:07:17.360 So I think a lot of times, like women, we think our biological clock is a lot longer than it really is. 0.72

00:07:22.200 You freeze your eggs.

00:07:24.200 That's also an option, yeah.

00:07:26.200 Yeah, but I can't remember the stat off the top of my head,

00:07:30.200 but it doesn't work out for a lot of women. 1.00

00:07:32.700 They kind of sell us that dream.

00:07:34.200 Yeah.

00:07:35.200 I wish I could remember what percent of women actually get pregnant, 1.00

00:07:38.900 but it's not as high as you think after geriatric pregnancy.

00:07:43.200 I think the other way around, it's only about 50% if a guy freezes his sperm.

00:07:48.200 Oh, wow.

00:07:49.200 It's quite, it's, you know, it's like a 50-50 shot basically,

00:07:52.200 whether it's going to work or not.

00:07:55.200 I mean, yeah, it's a bit of a tricky one.

00:07:57.200 I mean, yeah, I don't know.

00:08:01.200 Under...

00:08:03.200 But no one can help who they're attracted to.

00:08:05.200 Exactly.

00:08:06.200 I mean, you can't say to somebody, well, you know, it's very hard to say to somebody,

00:08:11.200 look, you should lower your standards because we are attracted to who we're attracted to,

00:08:16.200 and that's just the reality of it, isn't it?

00:08:18.200 I'm curious.

00:08:19.200 Would you guys rather be, like, so at 60, 65, would you rather be by yourself

00:08:24.200 or be with someone you're not attracted to?

00:08:26.200 Be by myself.

00:08:27.200 Be by myself, yeah.

00:08:28.200 Yeah.

00:08:29.200 Cats?

00:08:30.200 Yeah.

00:08:31.200 Really?

00:08:32.200 No kids?

00:08:34.200 Because to me, it's like, I'd rather be with someone I'm not attracted to than not have children.

00:08:37.200 Yeah, 100%.

00:08:38.200 I definitely want children.

00:08:39.200 I would feel like my life was, like, a failure if I didn't have kids.

00:08:41.200 No, I'm not looking for companionship.

00:08:42.200 No, I definitely want kids.

00:08:43.200 If it's real, it's not.

00:08:44.200 What?

00:08:45.200 If it's real, it's not.

00:08:46.200 What?

00:08:47.200 If it's real, it's not.

00:08:48.200 What were you going to say?

00:08:50.200 You definitely want kids? 0.77

00:08:51.200 Yeah.

00:08:52.200 I know.

00:08:53.200 So I'm asking if you had the two options and you would still pick by yourself.

00:08:56.200 You said at 65.

00:08:57.200 I mean, you just told me the age of 35, so...

00:09:01.200 No, but I'm saying, so in one scenario at 65, you have a husband you're not attracted to

00:09:05.200 and children and a family, and at the other one, you're by yourself.

00:09:08.200 So I'm saying, like, as women, we keep saying we need our standards to be on a certain level,

00:09:12.200 right?

00:09:13.200 And I hear this is super common.

00:09:14.200 It's not just you.

00:09:15.200 So it's like, but when do we start lowering them if the men aren't meeting them?

00:09:19.200 Because what's our other option?

00:09:21.200 Bye, dog.

00:09:22.200 That dog ain't giving you kids, I'll tell you that.

00:09:27.200 I think that's where it goes with the beauty beyond the eye.

00:09:31.200 You see?

00:09:32.200 You start, you know, you don't find them attractive first and you really start liking them after.

00:09:36.200 But you see what I'm saying when I say that?

00:09:38.200 Like, I think that women, men have higher beauty standards than women. 0.89

00:09:42.200 Like, that they have to live up to.

00:09:45.200 Because it's such a small percentage of men that we're even attracted to.

00:09:48.200 Everyone here said they're picky.

00:09:49.200 But don't you feel like it happened to us first as women?

00:09:53.200 We had to level ourselves up to be a certain way.

00:09:57.200 When do you think we had to level ourselves up?

00:10:02.200 I'd say about 20, 30 years ago.

00:10:05.200 I feel like we've gotten worse in the last 20 to 30 years.

00:10:08.200 See? So about 20, 30 years?

00:10:09.200 No, but I don't think we've leveled up. I think women have leveled down. 1.00

00:10:12.200 Yeah, but...

00:10:13.200 I don't agree with that.

00:10:14.200 No, I think you're right.

00:10:16.200 But I think, probably, from my perspective, I reckon what happened was that there was that pressure on women. 0.67

00:10:21.200 To be, you know, you've got to look amazing all the time.

00:10:24.200 And blokes, like, back in the sort of the 80s and early 90s and stuff, guys didn't really have to make an effort.

00:10:29.200 You know what I mean?

00:10:30.200 It was like, you could have a beer gun, just like, whatever, football shirt on.

00:10:34.200 And just, oh, yeah, she's nice.

00:10:35.200 And, you know, it's very laddy kind of thing.

00:10:36.200 Really?

00:10:37.200 I've seen pictures of guys from, like, the...

00:10:39.200 I saw beach pictures from, like, before the 60s.

00:10:43.200 Everyone was hot back then.

00:10:45.200 I thought they were so much more attractive.

00:10:47.200 I think, well...

00:10:48.200 The men and the women. 0.97

00:10:49.200 They were...

00:10:50.200 I feel like something switched in the food or something.

00:10:52.200 Well, maybe just in England then.

00:10:54.200 But no, I know what you mean, because I've seen pictures in, like, Brazilian stuff, like, from the 70s.

00:10:58.200 No, I'm talking the US, like, California pictures.

00:11:00.200 Oh, really?

00:11:01.200 Yeah.

00:11:02.200 Okay, okay, okay.

00:11:03.200 I don't know.

00:11:04.200 Well, from my perspective, what I've seen, I think that standards for men have got higher in the last sort of 10, 15, 20 years.

00:11:12.200 That's just my sense of it.

00:11:14.200 And maybe women's had to have been higher in the past. 1.00

00:11:16.200 But, like, I don't know.

00:11:20.200 It doesn't really help anybody, does it?

00:11:21.200 Do you know what I mean?

00:11:22.200 Yeah.

00:11:23.200 I think now, because of the thirstiness of guys and the fact that, as we've said, I mean, guys are less selected than women.

00:11:30.200 I think guys are now more, less picky than they were.

00:11:33.200 Do you know what I mean?

00:11:34.200 I think there are many guys who will take a woman who's perhaps less attractive than he would have preferred because he thinks that's his only option.

00:11:42.200 I think, ultimately, it's finding someone you're compatible with.

00:11:46.200 So, all these standards, standards, standards.

00:11:49.200 It's like, what is a standard?

00:11:50.200 If he's a good guy, if he's a good girl, and it's like, you know, it's compatible to you.

00:11:54.200 It's got the same values, same, you know, principles, and you get along well, and you have the same, you know, goals in life.

00:12:00.200 I think that's what can be defined as a, you know.

00:12:03.200 Yeah, I'm curious.

00:12:04.200 What are your standards?

00:12:06.200 Like, what do you guys look for in a guy?

00:12:09.200 I think I'm maybe not the right person.

00:12:12.200 I think, like, lots of women. 1.00

00:12:14.200 No, because it's like...

00:12:15.200 You don't look for anything?

00:12:16.200 No, because I...

00:12:19.200 You go, women? 1.00

00:12:20.200 Women? 1.00

00:12:21.200 Is that your thing?

00:12:22.200 No, because I know that lots of women, they look at just, you know, how much money my man is making, how much, you know, good life you have. 1.00

00:12:30.200 Yeah, you don't have to say money.

00:12:31.200 It could be, like, whatever you look for.

00:12:33.200 For me, it's like having emotional support.

00:12:36.200 Most of everything.

00:12:37.200 And, you know, having someone that, you know, understands my needs, you know, on a mental level.

00:12:42.200 Obviously, you know, we need to, you know, do life together and navigate, you know, challenges and everything.

00:12:48.200 But ultimately, for me, it's about finding that compatible person, which is very difficult to do because, you know, you're going to have always something, you know, that...

00:12:57.200 Some character traits that are not really, you know, men and women are just different.

00:13:02.200 And as much as we want to play this card, oh, I want to be like a man.

00:13:05.200 I'm never going to be a man.

00:13:06.200 I wasn't born a man.

00:13:07.200 And I'm not going to understand what men...

00:13:09.200 So don't you think that asking him to understand your emotional needs is asking a man to be a woman when he's not a woman? 0.66

00:13:15.200 A little bit, yes, but not in a way like, don't get me wrong.

00:13:19.200 Yes, maybe a little bit, yes.

00:13:21.200 But at the same time, I don't want a cold person, you know, in front of me.

00:13:24.200 No, you know, I want to have someone that is kind of empathic enough, you know, got a little bit of warmness.

00:13:30.200 That doesn't sound too hard to find a warm, a nice guy.

00:13:32.200 You think that's hard?

00:13:34.200 Um...

00:13:35.200 Like what else?

00:13:36.200 There has to be...

00:13:37.200 There's going to be loads...

00:13:38.200 I was like, there has to be more.

00:13:40.200 It can't just be that.

00:13:41.200 Yeah, I mean, there are, but...

00:13:44.200 There's going to be loads of guys in the chat now.

00:13:46.200 I'm a nice guy.

00:13:47.200 I can emotionally support you.

00:13:49.200 No, no.

00:13:51.200 I mean, I want to, you know, I want to say this, like, there are lots of great guys out there.

00:13:56.200 I don't want to be like, oh yeah, man.

00:13:58.200 It's just, I find that this particular time that we're living, guys are like finding very difficult in committing on the long term.

00:14:06.200 Because, you know, a lot of pressure there is in this society.

00:14:08.200 So it's like, I can't provide to my woman because, you know, the bills are going high. 0.59

00:14:12.200 You know, the society is crazy at the moment, you know, and women wants always more, more, more. 1.00

00:14:16.200 The last clothes, the last, you know, trend that is there, you know, I need to satisfy that.

00:14:21.200 And I feel like that it's quite detrimental.

00:14:24.200 So I feel like, yes, you're right.

00:14:26.200 Maybe we can lower a little bit our standards and try trying to be more realistic with what we really, you know, we're going to get.

00:14:33.200 How old would you date?

00:14:35.200 Like, is there an age range?

00:14:36.200 Like, you said you're 37, right?

00:14:38.200 38.

00:14:39.200 38.

00:14:40.200 Okay.

00:14:41.200 So would you date a 21 year old guy?

00:14:42.200 I don't think so.

00:14:43.200 No.

00:14:44.200 Okay.

00:14:45.200 So there's age.

00:14:46.200 Yeah.

00:14:47.200 Because it's a question.

00:14:48.200 I mean, yeah, I don't think so.

00:14:49.200 It has to be like, you know, mature enough for me to, you know, for me to get deep conversation.

00:14:53.200 Oh, what are you talking about?

00:14:54.200 Without scaring him.

00:14:55.200 And I think like when you're 21, you still need to figure out a lot of things.

00:15:00.200 I'm not saying that by 38, you're going to have everything.

00:15:02.200 No.

00:15:03.200 So you date a 55 year old guy?

00:15:04.200 That's okay.

00:15:05.200 No, I don't think so.

00:15:06.200 Okay.

00:15:07.200 No, I don't think so.

00:15:08.200 Okay.

00:15:09.200 So.

00:15:10.200 No, it's like you're the same age.

00:15:11.200 So, you know, maybe, maybe up until 45, I would say.

00:15:15.200 45.

00:15:16.200 Yeah.

00:15:17.200 Okay.

00:15:18.200 Or less.

00:15:19.200 Yeah.

00:15:20.200 Anything else?

00:15:21.200 So he just has to be emotionally available under the age of 45.

00:15:22.200 Funny.

00:15:23.200 Over 30, maybe.

00:15:24.200 Over 30.

00:15:25.200 Yeah.

00:15:26.200 But I'm not doing like an advert out there.

00:15:28.200 No, no, no, no, that's not an advert.

00:15:35.200 Just, as I said, like for me, the emotional support without being too much a woman is very

00:15:42.200 important and to be able to, you know, understand like that.

00:15:48.200 Trying to understand us because as we, as women, we're trying to understand men.

00:15:54.200 And we're trying to get into that masculine energy, which is quite difficult to do.

00:15:59.200 And at the same time, I would love, you know, that the man trying to be a little bit more empathetic

00:16:03.200 and trying to understand without becoming a woman.

00:16:06.200 I mean, it has to be men.

00:16:07.200 It has to be men. 0.96

00:16:08.200 Have you dated guys that weren't emotionally available before or emotionally?

00:16:13.200 I forgot what words you said exactly, but something like that.

00:16:16.200 You just mentioned it a couple of times.

00:16:18.200 I was just wondering.

00:16:19.200 I think there are lots of emotionally unavailable men out there because everything has to do

00:16:25.200 with, I think, traumas and things they've been experiencing in life.

00:16:28.200 So if a man is emotionally unavailable, it's just because it went maybe through something

00:16:34.200 that is not capable of.

00:16:36.200 You might feel something, but it's just not capable to just put everything out there.

00:16:40.200 I'm not saying that everyone is like that, but I think a lot of people, I mean, again,

00:16:45.200 talking with a lot of friends and people, they are all saying men, they don't want to commit.

00:16:50.200 You know, they don't want to see the long term.

00:16:52.200 They always.

00:16:53.200 But I feel also like maybe we need to look at ourselves and say, like, what's wrong with me?

00:16:58.200 Why is this not working and trying to fix things?

00:17:02.200 What about you?

00:17:04.200 What do you look for in a guy?

00:17:06.200 What are you?

00:17:07.200 Ambition.

00:17:08.200 Again, emotional support as well.

00:17:10.200 Because I feel like a lot of men do not know how to give emotional support.

00:17:14.200 And when you do question it, they end up arguing with you or backing away.

00:17:19.200 Again, like she said, because of traumas and stuff that goes like wrong in their life.

00:17:26.200 And then they bring it into the relationship from past experiences or being cheated on.

00:17:31.200 So I think it is.

00:17:33.200 It's very tough to find that.

00:17:36.200 So what else?

00:17:38.200 Someone.

00:17:39.200 So you said ambitious.

00:17:40.200 Can we put a dollar amount to it?

00:17:42.200 Is there a money?

00:17:43.200 How much?

00:17:44.200 Because how old did you say you were?

00:17:46.200 32.

00:17:47.200 32.

00:17:48.200 So what old is the guy roughly?

00:17:50.200 How old?

00:17:51.200 Yeah.

00:17:52.200 Do you want him to be?

00:17:53.200 My age and I would say up to the age of 40.

00:17:57.200 Okay.

00:17:58.200 So let's say he's 40.

00:17:59.200 Okay.

00:18:00.200 How much does he have to be making roughly?

00:18:04.200 I just think he just needs to be able to be a provider.

00:18:08.200 Especially if you're going into a relationship.

00:18:11.200 Because I'm quite old school.

00:18:13.200 So I think a woman should play their role and a man should play their role. 0.98

00:18:17.200 So if you're able to provide and, you know, pay, sorry, run the household, then it's okay.

00:18:25.200 I don't think it...

00:18:26.200 How much does that cost?

00:18:28.200 Well, that depends on where you're living.

00:18:30.200 You could be living outside of London, inside of London.

00:18:33.200 That all depends.

00:18:35.200 How many bedrooms you have.

00:18:38.200 Yeah, it really all depends.

00:18:40.200 A rough...

00:18:41.200 Could I get a rough number?

00:18:43.200 I don't have a number.

00:18:47.200 Maybe about 40,000 a year.

00:18:50.200 Okay, 40,000.

00:18:51.200 That's like 50.

00:18:52.200 I'm American.

00:18:53.200 So 55,000.

00:18:54.200 That's like average salary, right?

00:18:55.200 Yeah.

00:18:56.200 Okay, that's not bad.

00:18:57.200 So average salary, what else?

00:18:59.200 40...

00:19:00.200 30 to 40 roughly is what you said.

00:19:03.200 Yeah.

00:19:04.200 Your age, your average salary, what else?

00:19:07.200 Yeah, so you need to be able to support me emotionally as well.

00:19:12.200 Again, you need to have some sort of attraction there.

00:19:18.200 That's it, really.

00:19:21.200 What about height?

00:19:22.200 How tall?

00:19:23.200 Oh, you need to be taller than me.

00:19:25.200 How tall are you?

00:19:26.200 I'm 5'6.

00:19:27.200 Okay, so 5'6 is good?

00:19:29.200 About 5'7 and above.

00:19:31.200 5'7 and above.

00:19:32.200 Okay.

00:19:33.200 Yeah.

00:19:34.200 So that's it?

00:19:35.200 It doesn't sound that hard to find.

00:19:37.200 It doesn't sound that hard to find.

00:19:38.200 No, but it is really difficult.

00:19:39.200 A 5'7 guy making $40,000 a year.

00:19:42.200 Yeah.

00:19:43.200 That's emotionally available.

00:19:45.200 It doesn't seem that hard.

00:19:46.200 It is very hard.

00:19:48.200 I just feel like, yeah, a lot of guys are just not there anymore.

00:19:51.200 They're just very big in their minds elsewhere, to be honest.

00:19:56.200 It's just interesting.

00:19:58.200 40...

00:20:00.200 You said you're old school, right?

00:20:02.200 Yeah.

00:20:03.200 Do you think that women should be virgins the same way that men should be providers?

00:20:07.200 No.

00:20:08.200 Why?

00:20:09.200 Isn't that a double standard?

00:20:11.200 Because if we expect them to be traditional providers, shouldn't we be traditional virgins? 0.97

00:20:16.200 Yeah, but again, I am old school, but you have to know that this is the modern world as well.

00:20:22.200 So that's not really going to happen.

00:20:24.200 So wouldn't you say the same thing with that provider guy?

00:20:27.200 Like, it's not going to happen.

00:20:29.200 You need two incomes to survive.

00:20:31.200 To a certain aspect.

00:20:32.200 Yeah.

00:20:33.200 Yeah.

00:20:34.200 Okay.

00:20:35.200 What do you look for?

00:20:36.200 Go ahead.

00:20:37.200 A man that can support me like I can support him.

00:20:40.200 And that doesn't just mean money.

00:20:42.200 I'm talking about generally and stuff that I like to do.

00:20:45.200 Support me in what I like to do.

00:20:48.200 And I'm very big on supporting a man as well.

00:20:51.200 Like, I love to give them the encouragement and be their cheerleader.

00:20:56.200 And I just want the same.

00:20:57.200 And being able to see a future with that person and us having the same goals, which means a family, building a house together.

00:21:10.200 Would he be a great father figure?

00:21:11.200 I wouldn't know unless he has kids already.

00:21:12.200 Loving me.

00:21:13.200 Just having a lovable home.

00:21:14.200 Yes, he has to work.

00:21:15.200 Because I'm not having a man that doesn't work.

00:21:16.200 Because I work.

00:21:17.200 So we both have to work.

00:21:18.200 And I'm not really bothered about, I'm happy to go 50-50 if I have to.

00:21:33.200 You know?

00:21:34.200 I mean, you can pay the mortgage and I could pay for the gas and electric.

00:21:37.200 You know, I'm all right with that too.

00:21:39.200 But that's what I want.

00:21:41.200 And emotional support.

00:21:42.200 Yeah, we do need emotional support.

00:21:44.200 Because a lot of men these days, which you don't realize, they need emotional support.

00:21:48.200 So why can't we get it?

00:21:50.200 Who do you think is more emotionally unstable?

00:21:52.200 Men or women? 0.78

00:21:53.200 I think men are now. 0.81

00:21:55.200 I would have said women before.

00:21:56.200 But I feel like...

00:21:57.200 Women. 0.81

00:21:58.200 Maybe.

00:21:59.200 Women. 0.81

00:22:00.200 Sorry, go ahead.

00:22:01.200 Go ahead.

00:22:02.200 Yeah, I think women. 1.00

00:22:03.200 Oh my gosh.

00:22:04.200 I feel like men are now. 0.97

00:22:06.200 No.

00:22:07.200 You see TikTok?

00:22:09.200 That's all it is.

00:22:10.200 It's emotionally unstable women. 1.00

00:22:12.200 All these girls crying on TikTok.

00:22:15.200 I'm like, what is going on?

00:22:17.200 I haven't seen a guy crying on TikTok.

00:22:19.200 Yeah, could they do it behind closed doors?

00:22:21.200 I feel like men hide their feelings as well.

00:22:24.200 Yeah, men don't really like to show how they're feeling compared to women.

00:22:28.200 But don't you think that's just how men process emotions?

00:22:30.200 Like they process emotions differently than women? 1.00

00:22:32.200 Yeah, they do.

00:22:33.200 But not all men.

00:22:34.200 But in general, right?

00:22:36.200 Because we always make it sound like a bad thing that men don't like talk to each other

00:22:40.200 or like talk to us about their emotions.

00:22:42.200 But I just think they process emotions differently.

00:22:44.200 Differently.

00:22:45.200 Yeah, they do.

00:22:46.200 Compared to women. 1.00

00:22:47.200 But it's like sometimes we try to make them into women by being like process the emotions.

00:22:51.200 Like I process the emotions.

00:22:52.200 True.

00:22:53.200 I think they need to because there is a lot of men that have mental health at the moment.

00:22:57.200 So I think they do need to be able to talk about their feelings.

00:23:01.200 Yeah, but not with women. 0.95

00:23:02.200 Yeah.

00:23:03.200 But why not?

00:23:04.200 Why not?

00:23:05.200 Yeah, why not?

00:23:06.200 Honestly, because women throw stuff in your face later. 1.00

00:23:09.200 I agree.

00:23:10.200 Yeah, that's true.

00:23:11.200 And then what they do, what they do is they'll throw something in your face and then they'll

00:23:15.200 add lies to it.

00:23:16.200 So it'll be kind of true, but kind of not true.

00:23:18.200 Yeah, but not all women.

00:23:19.200 Not all women, yeah.

00:23:20.200 I mean, I didn't say 100% of women, but I'm just saying if I had a balance of probabilities 0.97

00:23:24.200 and I had 10 guys and 10 girls, I would say that women are more likely to do that. 1.00

00:23:28.200 Yeah.

00:23:29.200 The other problem is I don't think women find it very attractive when guys are emotionally 0.98

00:23:33.200 vulnerable, to be honest.

00:23:34.200 I mean, I think because when I was growing up, it was said, you know, people were starting

00:23:38.200 to say, oh, you know, just be open with your feelings, be vulnerable, be emotional with

00:23:41.200 her and everything like that. 0.98

00:23:42.200 But actually the reality out there is that I don't think women really, you know.

00:23:46.200 I feel like it depends.

00:23:47.200 For example, me personally, I would want a guy to open up to me and let me know how they're

00:23:51.200 feeling.

00:23:52.200 What if he was crying every night?

00:23:53.200 No.

00:23:54.200 Not every night.

00:23:55.200 Yeah, that's a bit much.

00:23:56.200 Maybe.

00:23:57.200 That's why it's like confusing to men because we'll be like, be open with us.

00:24:00.200 Oh, but not too open.

00:24:01.200 Yeah. 1.00

00:24:02.200 So if you want to cry every day, put that, put that, take that shit away. 0.99

00:24:07.200 So it's kind of like what, at what point with each girl is emotionally available enough, 0.99

00:24:12.200 emotionally open enough?

00:24:14.200 I feel like it depends.

00:24:18.200 If I was to be in a relationship with a guy and we've gotten to that level where we're

00:24:22.200 comfortable, to open up to each other, then I don't think it would be an issue for him

00:24:26.200 to, if he was to cry to me every night, you know.

00:24:29.200 Maybe there could be something I can do to help him.

00:24:31.200 Me personally anyways, I don't see that.

00:24:32.200 For how long?

00:24:33.200 A year?

00:24:34.200 A year is too much.

00:24:36.200 I mean, that would be too much for a man or a woman though. 0.64

00:24:40.200 And I feel like realistically, a man's not going to cry to you for a year.

00:24:43.200 You know?

00:24:44.200 I feel like that would be too much either way.

00:24:46.200 If it's a man that's crying for a year, that's a problem.

00:24:48.200 If it's a woman that's crying for a year, that's a problem. 1.00

00:24:50.200 I think a month straight, that would be too much for me.

00:24:53.200 Don't stop crying.

00:24:55.200 But being real, to think of a guy in that manner, that's not really sexy, is it?

00:25:03.200 No.

00:25:04.200 Do you know what I mean?

00:25:05.200 I think there's a time and a place.

00:25:06.200 It depends where you're at.

00:25:07.200 If that's your partner, that's your person, you've been together for a long amount of time,

00:25:11.200 then his problem is your problem.

00:25:13.200 I can't meet you on day one and you're telling me about your emotional self.

00:25:16.200 I don't want to hear it.

00:25:17.200 And that's happened to me before and I was put off and I didn't want to speak to him.

00:25:20.200 I'm so sorry.

00:25:21.200 Yeah, yeah.

00:25:22.200 You can't tell me on day one what's going on emotionally because I'm not even telling you and I'm the woman.

00:25:25.200 Yeah.

00:25:26.200 Sorry.

00:25:27.200 Definitely.

00:25:31.200 See, I feel like this is why guys don't want to open up.

00:25:34.200 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok.

00:25:37.200 And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.

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JustPearlyThings - October 12, 2023

Modern Women REVEALED What They Want from Men in the Dating Market

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