JustPearlyThings - July 17, 2023


Modern Women Shares Experience After Partner's Cheating


Episode Stats


Length

8 minutes

Words per minute

185.65433

Word count

1,666

Sentence count

1

Harmful content

Misogyny

5

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Toxicity

13

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Hate speech

3

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Summary

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In this episode, we are talking about toxic exes and how to deal with them. We are also talking about how to heal from them and move on from them. We also talk about how we dealt with them and dealt with the toxicity in our lives.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 so so next next question do you guys have you guys ever stayed after cheating yes i've never
00:00:07.680 had that happen to me remember you guys gotta being cheated on yeah yeah yeah being being
00:00:15.100 cheated on no physically physically okay yeah i definitely did but in the 18 year old relationship
00:00:21.800 okay but to be fair we were going through a difficult time where we decided that we weren't
00:00:27.360 going to be together but we were still stuck on each other all the time like we weren't on the
00:00:31.260 same page about where our relationship was supposed to go and whether we were fully together
00:00:35.300 and that created a lot of issues because there was always miscommunications and like 0.97
00:00:39.860 you shouldn't be talking to that bitch but then you know he can though like i can't stop him yeah 1.00
00:00:44.500 so you guys weren't actually together 1.00
00:00:45.900 what was you guys doing like sorry um was you guys in an official relationship was that established
00:00:57.180 we were at first and got tough like i would go into detail but it's like it's really really
00:01:03.520 personal you know like it's really tough and i don't want to put him in a bad spot if he saw this
00:01:08.500 right now because we're actually friends now like we grew so much and actually came together and we're
00:01:15.300 like yo i still got love for you yeah like you're still my homie like you were my best friend at the
00:01:19.580 end of the day and you were the person that was there for me and through every single bad thing that
00:01:23.700 happened we just weren't compatible relationship wise because we didn't know how to communicate
00:01:29.200 we didn't understand what a relationship really meant it wasn't just loving someone hard and like
00:01:34.300 it was actually communicating with each other understanding what our problems were with each
00:01:39.980 other and yeah working through that and untangling each other as a person exactly it's a whole
00:01:44.440 different board game relationship it is do you okay next question okay oh god have you got some 1.00
00:01:51.860 fuck shit have you ever slept with a toxic ex after you guys broke up yeah yep 1.00
00:01:58.940 i'm an even cat make sure you're grabbing part of toxicity is like super high lies high highs really 1.00
00:02:09.020 yes yes hang on to those high highs right and then it's like you're chasing that high high right
00:02:14.740 it's like addiction yeah you're chasing those good times
00:02:17.440 jess is like i got nothing to contribute
00:02:23.020 i got him cheeseburger's name
00:02:25.020 no i should be up yeah have you seen
00:02:29.480 no no no no no that's just what you said i feel like you know i went there i'm going to talk from
00:02:40.540 experience here guys i went there like in terms of like a release type situation and it's like i think
00:02:47.660 you hold this expectation to how it's going to be it doesn't end up it doesn't end up like that but
00:02:53.280 then you'll just you end up being so attached to that person like you want that and it's like
00:02:57.260 do you know what i feel like mental to the point you can you get to an extent you can be like
00:03:00.780 that's all you will expect from them because you know what they're really like like you know the
00:03:04.160 toxicity you've been in that situation you came out of that you dealt with that you moved past that
00:03:08.760 you healed from that but then it's like sexually do you know what yeah you can do that for me 1.00
00:03:13.500 it's like but then i would and it's like jess is like these bitches are crazy 1.00
00:03:19.500 you can actually you can satisfy me on that certain perspective like aspect you can be like you know in that area you're you're great you're actually you're effing 0.96
00:03:40.380 um excuse me you're top tier but then it's like really and truly do i really want that energy inside you so that's why you go there like you're like you know what you are great like it's it's longer to go to a different guy who doesn't know what you like yeah like know how you are yeah he doesn't he hasn't studied your body yeah you haven't slept with who wants to update body count that's another thing
00:03:46.380 there's a lot of aspects so you do go there and you're like oh it's just sex but it's really not like it's really toxic sex like your toxic energy is going inside me now i'm toxic
00:03:56.380 um okay pause really quick so we have two super chats thank you so much guys all donations are going towards eight sets of mics we have four mics now and i really want to make it eight so i need another soundboard
00:04:12.380 um okay pause really quick so we have two super chats thank you so much guys all donations are going towards eight sets of mics we have four mics now and i really want to make it eight so i need another soundboard which is my own guys
00:04:27.380 so so i need another soundboard which is about five hundred dollars and then each of these mics is about 150 so if it's about donate donate donate anyway send donations so i'm gonna i'm gonna i'm gonna i'm gonna i'm gonna
00:04:50.380 today you'll be a shout out on the youtube channel so i'm gonna um i'm gonna read the super chat so hl hls the beast relationship status and ages so everyone go around so i am 25 and i'm single i'm looking slide into my dm
00:05:05.380 23 in a relationship 22 it's complicated
00:05:12.820 it's complicated it's complicated i'm technically single so oh not look not really looking though
00:05:20.160 yeah fair enough 24 and single
00:05:23.560 27 and
00:05:27.780 that's all i'm gonna say that's all i'm gonna say
00:05:30.920 make it what you want make it what you want
00:05:35.440 how long now has it been
00:05:37.740 it'll be going on two months
00:05:40.060 okay so they're at the cutoff
00:05:41.400 oh really
00:05:42.000 they're at least close to the cutoff
00:05:43.460 you know how they say like relationships like you know after like a year
00:05:48.060 nah she's like i know at two months that's my 1.00
00:05:50.320 yeah two months two months is my cutoff
00:05:52.060 two months is my cutoff so it's just like
00:05:53.680 i'm shocked about this one just saying
00:05:56.080 look i keep my stuff private private
00:05:58.740 yeah i'm shocked too
00:06:00.880 ain't nobody gonna know
00:06:03.440 you can be open without detail
00:06:06.860 okay next next super chat pearl you've had your mom on the channel a few times her advice was to listen to your man and always say yes to him sexually curious to see if the panel would take that advice 0.99
00:06:26.860 okay listen listen listen my mom always said one of the reasons so my parents have been married close to 30 years we i have nine siblings clearly
00:06:36.860 she was saying yes all the time
00:06:39.860 and that's and that's one of the things she told me she like
00:06:43.680 like it's awkward right it's my mom but
00:06:46.200 she was like to make like i asked her like what are the keys to like a long healthy marriage and she said what are the keys like if you don't want your husband to like step out is to just always say yes because men have like a higher sex drive than us
00:06:56.260 okay that is true but what if like one night you're just tired and he like hey babe let's get it on
00:07:00.900 you just like you could go yes and you're just like
00:07:03.160 because that's where there's like mutual respect factor though like yeah like you need to know like
00:07:08.540 when's the time to please your man and do a thing for him but like vice versa 0.94
00:07:12.940 yeah if you don't want it like that then it shouldn't be a fucking conversation it shouldn't be a 0.94
00:07:17.540 like it should be no fucking big yeah 0.99
00:07:19.620 i don't want to do that stuff if you're with someone that has gone through sexual abuse in 0.98
00:07:24.640 their life intimacy is a lot different it's not just as simple as let's have sex sometimes you
00:07:30.240 know you have bad days you have good days so you need to be with a part of you like personally i was
00:07:36.160 sexually abused like with like in many different facets so like my partner has to be very understanding
00:07:42.380 with me yeah so and patient like i have a friend who's mormon right so i don't know if your your mom
00:07:49.280 is specifically like catholic catholic yeah i know you were but i don't know like she's mormon her mom
00:07:54.380 told her the same thing told her the same thing and she got into a situation where some things happened
00:07:59.980 with her man that she wasn't you know i'm not gonna yeah yeah yeah but you get what i'm saying it's
00:08:05.880 like you have to have boundaries for yourself as a woman like our body is like this is our
00:08:11.820 temple this is our and it's sacred like if you don't want it to be touched if you don't want it
00:08:17.500 right no well it's not but it's not but it's not in a way like like she does it because she has to
00:08:22.340 like she loves my dad yeah yeah but that's the key though is that she's okay with that if she doesn't
00:08:29.260 feel violated then it's okay but i don't mean she could do that as much as she wants but me speaking
00:08:35.700 as somebody who's also been sexually abused like i've been in that position where it's like
00:08:39.580 i feel obligated to please my partner but i'm not comfortable with it and it's like they can
00:08:45.880 clearly see the discomfort in me and not respect that then you start to wonder if they just see you
00:08:52.460 as a sexual being if they just see you as a toy rather than an actual person that experienced something
00:08:57.420 so terrible