Modern Women STRUGGLE To Grasp This Concept
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about the importance of being kind and respectful to men and how it can make a huge difference in the way they treat you and the way you treat them. We also talk about how we can be better husbands and fathers.
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Oh, I've definitely, cause in my, where I grew up, my, my siblings and I just roast each other.
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Like literally, it's like, yeah, it's just like how I grew up.
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And when I was in, um, a relationship, that's what I realized that I would do.
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There's something I had to like train myself out of.
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Cause I was like, oh no, you can't like men don't see it like that.
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Like it's one thing when it's, you know, your, your sister or whatever, like that's, but
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that's, and that's what I, yeah, it was like, that's what I realized that men like see respect
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Like he's just a really like dominant personality.
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And when we were younger, like me and him just butt heads all the time, you know, he's my
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Like, but what I realized is like the second I started, like, cause one day I just woke up
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and I was like, Adam is actually a really hard worker.
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And I was like, you know what, if I had to bet on one of my siblings being like a really
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rich, like, like super successful, I'm like, I would probably bet on Adam.
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And I was like, maybe I should like take his advice.
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And all of my other sisters did not get along with Adam.
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Cause again, he's the one bossing everyone around telling everyone what to do.
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And then one day I just started saying, you know what, Adam, like, what do you, you know,
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I went with fight from fighting with him all the time to like, I'm probably closer with
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Like when you respect a guy's opinion, it's like, that's like the ultimate form of love
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Like I saw you had, um, what's the fellow you just had on, it was on last night.
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How, like, if you are a hardworking guy and you're really successful and you're doing
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all this for your wife or your girlfriend and you take her on a vacation or do something
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special with her, really all the men want to hear is like, wow, I really appreciate that.
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I see that you put in all this effort and did all of this and I really appreciate it.
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Like if you just do that, like 99% of men are going to treat you like gold.
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If we are just kind and respectful to them and not constantly cutting them off at the knees,
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When we first got together, I had bad habits like that too.
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Um, and we still roast each other like in private for fun because we're, we're both like
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that a little bit, but I never do it in public because when we first got together, I would
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I wasn't trying to be awful to him or anything, but I just realized the impact it had.
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And early on in our dating, he told me that he was like, look, if this is how you behave,
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And at first I was really mad at first I was like, and then it took me about two minutes
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Do I want to be the girl who like throw stuff at him and has a snotty, sarcastic comment
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And then I realized like I had picked that up from, you know, my mom and from other people
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And it's like, did wonders for the relationship.
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And still to this day, if I just am like decent to him and respectful, he's the best husband
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So it's not that hard, but we make it super hard.
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And I think it's because everything caters to women and women's feelings.
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And it's like, it must be that the problems with the man and the man has to understand
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the woman and he has to think about her and how it impacts her.
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And a lot of men will try to talk about something that bothers them or a problem they have.
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And their wife will take it and make it about her.
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You know, my husband says that too, that like, he feels like he sees that a lot with
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Like his friend will say, oh, I'm having a really hard time and struggling at work.
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And the wife will immediately make it about like, well, now I'm worried.
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And he ends up having to comfort her, you know?
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Do you ever have this problem where girls will tell you their relationship problems and
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And it's just like, like, I have this one friend, she's, she's dating like a YouTuber,
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And she's always like whining to me about the stuff he has to do for work.
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And I'm just like, you knew that when you started dating him, I got no sympathy.
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They think they want the really successful guy that makes six figures and is six feet tall
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and has six pack abs, but what they don't realize most women don't actually want that
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because those kinds of men, they don't have a lot of time to give you attention.
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You're not going to have a date night every single week.
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He's not going to be constantly telling you you're pretty.
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He's going to have a ton of demands on his time and attention.
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And you're going to have to be like my husband's this way.
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And if I wasn't a person who's pretty like self-sufficient, happy to be at home doing my
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And for years he had to work like 70 hour weeks so I could stay home.
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Complain that I don't get enough attention or complain that he's not home enough.
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So if you were a girl who that's your priority, you want lots of attention from a man.
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You'd be better off with the type of guy who maybe just works a 40 hour week somewhere
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And you're never going to have a ton of money, but he'll like build you a deck on the back
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Or he'll, you know, make you stuff and build you things and dote on you a little more.
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But don't be going for like ultra successful alpha types if you need attention and time
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And like a lot of times, like, you know, when I look at my parents, I'm like, my, my dad
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So I'm just like, I don't think I'm like, I don't think you women nowadays could be faithful.
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