JustPearlyThings - March 16, 2023


Modern Women THOUGHTS On ＂WIFE SCHOOL＂

Topics
wife school chapters
Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
Etiquette Jollof Angie Pearl
Aunty Jenny goes on an Epic Rant Pearl DEBUNKS the ＂PATRIACHY＂ fallacy

Episode Stats


Length

10 minutes

Words per minute

208.25

Word count

2,086

Sentence count

338

Harmful content

Misogyny

14

sentences flagged

Toxicity

12

sentences flagged

Hate speech

3

sentences flagged


Summary

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In this episode, we have special guest, Pearl, join us to talk about what it's like being a wife and mother. We talk about how to be a good wife, how to cook and how to present yourself in the best way possible.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 Do you think how you look affects the type of part of your time?
00:00:03.400 How you look, how you walk, how you present yourself, everything.
00:00:06.800 Of course, of course. 0.94
00:00:07.800 I honestly think I'm a sex object when it comes to things.
00:00:10.400 But do you allow it?
00:00:11.400 Not that I allow it, but at the end of the day, I know that.
00:00:13.800 But if you do it, you allow it.
00:00:15.200 Whether you think it or not, you allow it.
00:00:17.200 Yeah, you allow it. The minute you do it, you allow it.
00:00:19.600 That's your choice, how you present yourself as well.
00:00:21.800 I understand that to you, you may not do it to be a sexual object,
00:00:26.000 but people are going to determine you as what you look like.
00:00:28.600 If people judge a book by its cover, so isn't that in your control?
00:00:31.400 Yeah.
00:00:32.400 I don't think so much as how she looks like.
00:00:34.400 I think it's her behaviour and the way she talks.
00:00:37.000 First impressions as well.
00:00:38.200 Yeah, I think it's her behaviour.
00:00:40.000 Not really first impressions. 0.99
00:00:41.400 We really talk about the ugly man that I'd sleep with.
00:00:45.600 So it's not about first impressions, 0.99
00:00:47.000 because there must be something underneath all of his ugliness for me to sleep with him.
00:00:50.200 So I just think that she can look as she is,
00:00:52.400 but I think you can carry yourself different and you can talk differently.
00:00:55.800 I think that's what it is.
00:00:58.000 Okay.
00:00:58.600 And I'll prove myself right if you put yourself in my hands.
00:01:01.200 Do you want to come on an episode of Wife School? 1.00
00:01:03.600 Yeah.
00:01:04.200 Yeah?
00:01:04.800 Yeah.
00:01:05.200 Wow, we have so many applicants.
00:01:06.400 Wife School? 1.00
00:01:07.800 What?
00:01:08.800 Wife School? 1.00
00:01:09.800 Oh yeah, we do, it's just like wife classes, basically. 1.00
00:01:13.800 So things that...
00:01:14.800 We're basically training Pearl.
00:01:15.800 We were training up Pearl to be wifey material. 1.00
00:01:17.800 She's getting there.
00:01:18.800 Angie didn't think I was wifey enough. 1.00
00:01:19.800 But now she decides that she wants everybody else to come in,
00:01:24.800 because I think she's feeling a bit overwhelmed with it all.
00:01:28.000 She wants company.
00:01:29.000 I needed the bread well.
00:01:31.000 Yeah.
00:01:32.000 Okay?
00:01:33.000 I needed the bread.
00:01:34.000 What did you have to change?
00:01:35.000 Everything.
00:01:36.000 What have you had to change since wife school? 1.00
00:01:37.400 Um, okay, we have, we have different chapters.
00:01:41.600 Okay.
00:01:42.600 This chapter I'm in is cooking.
00:01:43.600 Okay.
00:01:44.600 So I'm really trying to be able to cook healthy food for a family.
00:01:48.600 So, um, I've been feeding my staff.
00:01:51.600 Bless him.
00:01:54.600 Bless him.
00:01:55.600 Are they happy about that?
00:01:57.600 They're working.
00:01:58.600 He's good.
00:01:59.600 No, I'm good.
00:02:00.600 Look, in the beginning, I had some mess ups.
00:02:02.600 I won't lie.
00:02:03.600 But I've actually improved a lot in the last, like, 13.
00:02:06.800 But if you can cook.
00:02:07.800 Can I just ask a question, Pearl?
00:02:08.800 Yeah.
00:02:09.800 Can I ask everybody what's their, um, their favorite meal to cook?
00:02:11.800 What meal?
00:02:12.800 If you had 15 minutes to cook.
00:02:14.800 15.
00:02:15.800 What would you cook?
00:02:16.800 15 minutes.
00:02:17.800 1-5.
00:02:18.800 1-5.
00:02:19.800 15.
00:02:20.800 What would you cook off the top of your head?
00:02:21.800 What kind of pasta and what?
00:02:22.800 About bolognese.
00:02:23.800 Okay.
00:02:24.800 What would you cook?
00:02:25.800 Steak. 1.00
00:02:26.800 Damn you. 1.00
00:02:27.800 You took mine. 1.00
00:02:28.800 A sort of, like, chicken pasta with some cream cheese, something like that.
00:02:34.000 Okay.
00:02:35.000 What would you cook, young lady? 0.94
00:02:36.000 Just 15 minutes.
00:02:38.000 Yeah.
00:02:39.000 Oh, my partner likes corned beef hash and beetroot, so it's pretty easy.
00:02:42.000 15 minutes, literally.
00:02:43.000 Steak and eggs.
00:02:44.000 Okay.
00:02:45.000 Steak in 15 minutes?
00:02:47.000 Steak takes less, though.
00:02:48.000 It takes me six minutes to cook my steak.
00:02:51.000 No, if you have it blue, it's even less.
00:02:53.000 I like my pink.
00:02:54.000 I like it.
00:02:55.000 I do like it blue.
00:02:56.000 I do like it blue sometimes.
00:02:58.000 I'm pink.
00:02:59.000 So what would you cook, young lady? 0.98
00:03:01.000 Oh, sorry.
00:03:02.000 I'd probably make fried rice in 15 minutes.
00:03:04.000 That's probably what I can make with a bit of chicken in it. 0.73
00:03:06.000 Vegetables, peas.
00:03:07.000 Okay.
00:03:08.000 I think we did.
00:03:09.000 Okay.
00:03:10.000 And you.
00:03:11.000 I would do...
00:03:12.000 Okay, I'm torn.
00:03:13.000 I either want to do the sushi bowl or the jollof rice, but I just started doing the jollof
00:03:17.000 rice, so I'm like, I don't know if I can get it in 15 minutes.
00:03:19.000 Jollof rice?
00:03:20.000 In 15 minutes.
00:03:21.000 You could cook jollof rice.
00:03:22.000 No, no, no.
00:03:23.000 What?
00:03:24.000 I'm trying to teach you how to do it in 15 minutes.
00:03:27.000 You can do it in a rice cooker for 15 minutes.
00:03:29.000 Yeah.
00:03:30.000 Not the real way.
00:03:31.000 I've done the real way.
00:03:32.000 That takes a lot longer.
00:03:33.000 15 minutes.
00:03:34.000 The cheat way.
00:03:35.000 What is your favorite thing to make?
00:03:38.000 Cookies.
00:03:39.000 I have a family like recipe that my grandma taught my mom.
00:03:45.000 My mom taught me and it's like cookies from scratch.
00:03:47.000 I like that.
00:03:48.000 I'm a really big dessert person.
00:03:49.000 It's not good.
00:03:50.000 But Auntie also just taught me a cake that I really like making too.
00:03:53.000 That's all the things that are not good for her.
00:03:55.000 Yeah.
00:03:56.000 Oh yeah.
00:03:57.000 Tell me about it.
00:03:58.000 I had to stop baking when I started losing weight.
00:04:00.000 It was like, well, I can make a Victoria sponge or I can lose no weight.
00:04:04.000 So it's going to be one or the other.
00:04:06.000 Yeah.
00:04:07.000 I've had the same realization recently.
00:04:09.000 Yeah.
00:04:10.000 When you get a phone, when you get a text at two o'clock in the morning, where are the
00:04:12.000 cookies?
00:04:13.000 There's no sugar in the house.
00:04:14.000 Oh my gosh.
00:04:15.000 That was fun.
00:04:16.000 But.
00:04:17.000 Yeah.
00:04:18.000 And then the next episode, or next month, what are we doing?
00:04:22.000 Fashion.
00:04:23.000 We're doing fashion.
00:04:24.000 Yeah.
00:04:25.000 And then the month, cause I've always been a tomboy.
00:04:27.000 I've always really like, I've just been such a tomboy.
00:04:29.000 I've just never cared.
00:04:30.000 You want to dress right now.
00:04:31.000 I know.
00:04:32.000 It's big for me.
00:04:33.000 You just did my videos a year ago.
00:04:34.000 I was in sweats every time.
00:04:36.000 They should see what you was wearing that day when I cut your trousers up.
00:04:39.000 Oh yeah.
00:04:40.000 Yeah.
00:04:41.000 Auntie, like, um, she cut my jeans. 0.99
00:04:43.000 Wow.
00:04:44.000 Yeah. 0.89
00:04:45.000 Because she felt like they were ugly. 0.73
00:04:46.000 I'm pretty laid.
00:04:47.000 I'm pretty laid back.
00:04:48.000 I was like, go ahead.
00:04:49.000 They're beautiful.
00:04:50.000 They're really nice shorts.
00:04:52.000 Um, and then after that, what are we doing?
00:04:54.000 Etiquette?
00:04:55.000 Yeah.
00:04:56.000 Etiquette.
00:04:57.000 Yeah, that's going to be hard.
00:04:58.000 And then dance. 0.92
00:04:59.000 That's going to be hard.
00:05:00.000 Um, and then dance. 0.92
00:05:01.000 And then, I don't know what.
00:05:02.000 Oh wow.
00:05:03.000 Dance as well.
00:05:04.000 Yeah.
00:05:05.000 Who's, are you teaching dance?
00:05:06.000 No, we'll probably get like a-
00:05:07.000 I don't want to step on my foot.
00:05:08.000 We'll probably-
00:05:09.000 How are you going to do me like that?
00:05:11.000 We'll probably get like an instructor or something.
00:05:14.000 I don't know.
00:05:15.000 She's been at dancing already, but she won't-
00:05:16.000 Are you going to teach her how to wine?
00:05:17.000 She's been at dancing already, but she won't post it.
00:05:19.000 Oh.
00:05:20.000 She went 60s go-go dancing.
00:05:21.000 Oh, no.
00:05:22.000 I always, I keep forgetting to send it to the editors.
00:05:23.000 Oh, I'm sure you do.
00:05:26.000 I'll set her up.
00:05:27.000 I'll set her up.
00:05:28.000 I'll set her up to a dance class. 0.98
00:05:29.000 And when she got there, she realized what it was for.
00:05:30.000 Yeah.
00:05:31.000 Love that.
00:05:32.000 No, I didn't know what go-go dancing was.
00:05:33.000 It was like a whole community.
00:05:34.000 They're like obsessed with the sixties.
00:05:35.000 Yeah.
00:05:36.000 And I was like, they're like, what do you love about the sixties?
00:05:37.000 I'm like, nothing.
00:05:38.000 What about your youngest person there?
00:05:39.000 I guess, I guess this class.
00:05:40.000 No, they were young actually.
00:05:41.000 Most people I would say were like twenties and thirties.
00:05:42.000 There was like only one or two older ladies. 1.00
00:05:43.000 Wow.
00:05:44.000 Yeah.
00:05:45.000 Yeah.
00:05:46.000 Yeah.
00:05:47.000 They were mostly.
00:05:48.000 Anyone else taken an L?
00:05:49.000 Anyone else in relationships?
00:05:50.000 Yeah.
00:05:51.000 Lost a tooth.
00:05:52.000 That was the L I took from the relationship.
00:05:53.000 Okay.
00:05:54.000 I meant, you were, you look back and you say that you, you lost.
00:05:57.000 Like you were not the winner. 0.90
00:05:58.000 You were the loser.
00:05:59.000 I think I've dumped every man that I've ever been with. 0.99
00:06:00.000 And I've always won.
00:06:01.000 I'm glad.
00:06:02.000 Yeah.
00:06:03.000 That's good.
00:06:04.000 No one else.
00:06:05.000 Really?
00:06:06.000 Wow.
00:06:07.000 I don't feel like I've lost in a relationship.
00:06:08.000 I mean, you're only 19.
00:06:09.000 Yeah.
00:06:10.000 I'm not.
00:06:11.000 I'm not.
00:06:12.000 I'm not.
00:06:13.000 I'm not.
00:06:14.000 You were, you look back and you say that you, you lost.
00:06:16.000 Like you were not the winner. 0.98
00:06:17.000 You were the loser.
00:06:19.000 I think I've dumped every man that I've ever been with and I've always won. 0.99
00:06:22.000 I'm glad.
00:06:23.000 Yeah.
00:06:24.000 That's good.
00:06:25.000 No one else.
00:06:27.000 Really?
00:06:28.000 Wow.
00:06:29.000 I don't feel like I've lost in a relationship.
00:06:32.000 I mean, you're only 19.
00:06:35.000 Yeah.
00:06:36.000 Yeah.
00:06:37.000 But yeah, I don't.
00:06:38.000 Yeah.
00:06:39.000 The thing is I don't have too much to lose.
00:06:40.000 Right.
00:06:41.000 Do you get it?
00:06:42.000 Like other than emotional damage, probably like drama, probably like daily routine.
00:06:47.000 I don't really have much to lose compared to other people.
00:06:50.000 Like money's not involved in it.
00:06:51.000 Family's not involved in it.
00:06:53.000 Friends, barely, you know.
00:06:56.000 So to be fair, I don't feel like I've lost in a relationship.
00:06:59.000 Why do you have a relationship?
00:07:01.000 What is it about a relationship?
00:07:02.000 Why do you go into a relationship at such a young age?
00:07:06.000 I think I like having someone there that I can confide in.
00:07:11.000 Why not get a dog or a teddy bear?
00:07:14.000 I think mostly because I like someone that can add on to my lifestyle.
00:07:19.000 I like someone that I can, at the end of the day, go back and be like, this is like, this is my person, kind of like my best friend.
00:07:26.000 Yeah.
00:07:27.000 How's that working for you?
00:07:28.000 Great.
00:07:29.000 Are you in a relationship now?
00:07:32.000 It's complicated.
00:07:33.000 But it's still great.
00:07:35.000 That means no.
00:07:36.000 It's either yes or no.
00:07:38.000 Nothing's complicated or situationships.
00:07:40.000 I'm tired of situationships.
00:07:42.000 Complicated.
00:07:43.000 No.
00:07:44.000 Are you in a relationship?
00:07:45.000 Yes or no?
00:07:46.000 Okay.
00:07:47.000 I am not in a relationship.
00:07:48.000 I am in a partnership, which we're still figuring stuff out.
00:07:51.000 Yeah.
00:07:52.000 I recently just tried to cut him off.
00:07:57.000 Did he beg?
00:07:58.000 No.
00:08:00.000 Nah.
00:08:01.000 So I think it was more so we kind of went, cool.
00:08:04.000 Like, this is what I saw.
00:08:05.000 Maybe it was a bit of a hasty decision.
00:08:07.000 So we can stay in until we try to figure out what's up.
00:08:11.000 And if it's not meant to be, it's not meant to be.
00:08:13.000 But yeah.
00:08:14.000 That's a lot for such a young age.
00:08:17.000 Yeah.
00:08:18.000 I feel like a lot of younger generation feel like they need to be in a relationship.
00:08:23.000 That's 100%.
00:08:24.000 I've got two girls. 0.95
00:08:27.000 And my youngest feels like she needs to be in a relationship.
00:08:30.000 And I don't, I don't get it.
00:08:32.000 But, and where my job and where I work with children, a lot of young teenagers and adolescents
00:08:40.000 feel like they need to be in a relationship.
00:08:43.000 It's quite scary.
00:08:45.000 I think, I think more so than being in a relationship.
00:08:48.000 I think it's more so that you don't want to lose that person.
00:08:50.000 So the only way you don't lose someone is kind of if you kind of go, cool, I understand that relationship.
00:08:54.000 I'm not saying that's the, that applies to me right now, but that's kind of like what I think the general mindset is.
00:09:00.000 Can I give you a bit of advice?
00:09:01.000 Sure.
00:09:02.000 My mum always said to me, you know, you said you always want somebody to be there.
00:09:05.000 You don't want to be on your own.
00:09:06.000 Yeah.
00:09:07.000 My mum would say, you're not a twin.
00:09:09.000 Yeah.
00:09:10.000 100%.
00:09:11.000 So if you're not a twin, you should be used to being on your own.
00:09:13.000 Only twins need somebody, they will miss someone.
00:09:15.000 So get over your loneliness and get out there and get a hobby and stop getting a man.
00:09:19.000 I will admit that I can, I do struggle to be alone.
00:09:22.000 I will openly admit that.
00:09:24.000 And I think more times right now I've practiced being alone.
00:09:28.000 I think I don't need that validation from someone else to be like, I can do this.
00:09:31.000 I can do that.
00:09:32.000 But do you think that's a big responsibility to put on somebody else to not make you feel
00:09:37.000 alone and to bring you that kind of happiness inside?
00:09:40.000 No, because I would never be like, I would never approach someone and be like, yeah, like, I need you to be there for me.
00:09:45.000 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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