JustPearlyThings - March 27, 2023


Modern Women Want EQUALITY But Can't SUBMIT


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10 minutes

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191.02834

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1,966

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196

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Misogyny

21

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9

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In this episode, we talk about feminism and whether or not women should put their men down on social media. We also talk about the difference between being a female housewife and being a male housewife, and what it means to be a woman in the modern world.

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00:00:00.000 Why do we live in a society where women think they can put their men down on social media? 1.00
00:00:07.100 I'm going to say all women do.
00:00:08.680 I don't think all women do that. 1.00
00:00:10.680 I think it's...
00:00:13.260 Have you ever heard a girl say, oh, you know, he's just an idiot or he's...
00:00:19.440 I've seen it.
00:00:20.980 Yeah, I've seen it.
00:00:22.900 Yeah.
00:00:23.740 Well, there's been this thing, hasn't there, for a long time where guys in the media,
00:00:28.040 like, say, Homer Simpson, guys on adverts, guys in sitcoms, are shown to be the idiot,
00:00:32.920 you know, the do-first, like the fat husband who's useless and blah, blah, blah.
00:00:36.120 And it's almost like a sort of a meme now, isn't it?
00:00:38.420 Where women, it's acceptable for women to say that kind of thing. 1.00
00:00:41.740 But if a guy said something similar to a woman, that would be completely like a no-no, yeah.
00:00:45.960 I think because women are meant to be the mature ones, you know? 1.00
00:00:50.100 That's the...
00:00:50.680 That's the narrative.
00:00:52.200 And it's like, no, a woman can be goofy, she can be a bit immature as well, 1.00
00:00:56.600 and the guy could be mature than her.
00:00:58.480 But we don't see that much, if that makes sense.
00:01:01.260 Yeah.
00:01:01.440 Because like you said, we always see in the media that the guy's a bit stupid
00:01:04.520 and the woman's always like, kind of... 0.92
00:01:07.760 Yeah, yeah.
00:01:08.180 She's always there, like, lecturing him or being like, do this, do that, and yeah.
00:01:12.760 Mm.
00:01:13.380 It's just become acceptable that way around, hasn't it, in Western culture for some reason.
00:01:17.160 I don't think...
00:01:17.900 I don't agree with it.
00:01:18.940 It's not good.
00:01:19.580 I don't think you should put your man down.
00:01:21.020 I think that actually makes you look bad,
00:01:23.420 and I think it says more about you and your character when you do that.
00:01:26.760 What she's saying, she's like, yeah, yeah, I thought your mate was hotter, 0.99
00:01:29.860 but, you know, I kind of settled for you.
00:01:31.540 Yeah.
00:01:32.180 She's basically saying, like, I didn't even really want you in the first place.
00:01:35.880 I'm just here with you.
00:01:37.180 I wanted your friend, but your friend didn't want me.
00:01:39.660 And he died, so.
00:01:40.900 Yeah, and he's dead as well, which is awful.
00:01:42.980 It's just degrading.
00:01:43.860 I didn't like that.
00:01:44.540 Yeah, just, that's awful.
00:01:45.840 I feel like it's extreme feminists, though, that have turned that kind of narrative, 1.00
00:01:50.780 where they've gone, we can say what we want, because we're females, 1.00
00:01:55.100 but really, neither person can say what they want.
00:01:58.660 You have to have, regardless of what gender you are, 0.98
00:02:01.560 you have to have mutual respect.
00:02:02.660 Yeah, and again...
00:02:03.500 But feminists have flipped that, and they've gone, 1.00
00:02:05.680 because they don't want equality.
00:02:08.160 No.
00:02:08.480 They want to be better at this.
00:02:09.920 I'm not.
00:02:10.900 I'm equality.
00:02:12.740 Everyone should be equal.
00:02:13.980 But in retrospect,
00:02:15.280 so you should only...
00:02:17.200 It's like saying a goldfish should do the same test as a bear.
00:02:21.720 Like, a goldfish can't climb a tree.
00:02:24.120 You know what I mean?
00:02:26.020 It doesn't make sense.
00:02:26.640 Being equal doesn't necessarily mean that you're going to do the same things
00:02:30.740 or be able to be tested on the same things.
00:02:33.160 But feminists, they want to switch the whole narrative around. 1.00
00:02:36.420 I think men and women can't ever be equal, because we're not.
00:02:38.760 I agree.
00:02:39.100 No, but biologically, we're totally different.
00:02:41.500 Totally different.
00:02:42.380 So when they say, oh, we want equality,
00:02:43.820 it's like, what does equality look like?
00:02:45.460 Do you want to do half of the bricklaying,
00:02:46.800 half of the plumbing,
00:02:47.620 half of the electric?
00:02:48.760 Yeah, but some of the women do that. 1.00
00:02:50.880 No, they don't.
00:02:51.280 They're doing loads of sewage rebuilding, aren't they,
00:02:53.020 in London at the moment.
00:02:54.060 So maybe women could get on board with that. 1.00
00:02:55.780 Oh, yeah.
00:02:57.180 No, thanks.
00:02:58.080 I'll sit in the kitchen cooking.
00:03:00.380 I'll do three meals.
00:03:01.500 I used to work in construction.
00:03:03.280 The majority of the employees are men.
00:03:05.720 It's like, it's like, I think it's 98% men in all those fields.
00:03:10.600 Yeah.
00:03:11.500 The women usually take on the admin rules. 1.00
00:03:13.780 It's not usually the hard labor,
00:03:15.800 which they're more,
00:03:17.800 most of them are more than able to do it,
00:03:20.680 but they don't want to.
00:03:21.880 I quite like that women. 1.00
00:03:23.120 Which is where feminism comes from. 1.00
00:03:24.500 Yeah.
00:03:25.560 Sorry.
00:03:26.440 No, it's fine, darling.
00:03:28.220 I quite like that women can have this independence in a way, 1.00
00:03:34.240 but then I kind of,
00:03:35.680 but like I still agree with,
00:03:37.780 you know,
00:03:40.300 being that wife and staying at home. 1.00
00:03:43.680 The housewife.
00:03:44.360 But personally, to some extent,
00:03:48.140 I like to work as well
00:03:50.720 and obviously earn money.
00:03:54.460 And realistically,
00:03:55.260 the man is always going to be making more,
00:03:58.580 you know,
00:03:59.080 and I'm not on about like job wise or anything,
00:04:01.960 because it is equal.
00:04:03.480 I'm on about,
00:04:04.720 you know,
00:04:04.900 like I've said before,
00:04:05.780 like when I do have kids,
00:04:08.280 I won't be working.
00:04:09.620 He'll be working,
00:04:10.680 you know,
00:04:11.400 so.
00:04:12.880 The other thing,
00:04:13.920 would you guys submit to a guy in a 50-50 relationship?
00:04:19.820 Submit.
00:04:20.780 So what he says goes,
00:04:22.620 you're not going out tonight.
00:04:24.380 No argument.
00:04:25.200 If it's 50-50.
00:04:26.920 Yeah.
00:04:28.260 Sacrifice.
00:04:29.940 I'm not being submitted.
00:04:30.540 There's sacrifice,
00:04:31.480 but then there's submission.
00:04:32.700 Submission isn't sacrifice.
00:04:33.920 I'm not.
00:04:35.200 So it's not,
00:04:36.480 it's not even that.
00:04:37.400 It's just,
00:04:37.760 I feel like I'm a wife.
00:04:39.800 Do you know what I mean?
00:04:40.200 So I'm,
00:04:40.560 I'm,
00:04:40.800 I'm going to do what he says,
00:04:43.100 but the respect isn't always going to be there for him because it's just 50-50.
00:04:48.360 Why are you asking me to bring 50%?
00:04:51.700 Like you're telling me you're not capable of,
00:04:54.920 you know,
00:04:55.400 you need my help basically.
00:04:56.840 And that's not attractive to women when men say that.
00:04:59.920 Here we go.
00:05:00.380 It's the,
00:05:00.600 it's the burden of performance again,
00:05:01.760 isn't it?
00:05:02.300 The guy's got to be stepping up.
00:05:03.360 I feel as a woman,
00:05:04.080 when a guy says like,
00:05:05.280 Oh,
00:05:05.520 I need you to help me with this.
00:05:06.960 It's a bit like,
00:05:08.460 Oh,
00:05:08.640 you haven't got it then.
00:05:09.480 But it's also the one thing,
00:05:11.380 the one thing that was in the long run,
00:05:12.780 most women aren't going to want to work the same when they're older. 1.00
00:05:15.360 Yeah.
00:05:15.700 So it's like,
00:05:16.180 okay,
00:05:16.920 you know,
00:05:17.480 let's just say you're in your thirties,
00:05:18.980 you're single,
00:05:19.640 right?
00:05:20.220 We're not bringing the same youth and fertility that we used to bring.
00:05:23.360 So how can we expect them to take over a hundred percent of the bills?
00:05:27.040 And it's like,
00:05:27.900 okay,
00:05:28.520 the next,
00:05:29.040 you're going to be with him the next 50 years.
00:05:30.520 Maybe you only work the next 20 and 30.
00:05:33.360 But he's probably going to work longer than you.
00:05:36.880 Yeah.
00:05:38.200 But I just,
00:05:38.780 I just think.
00:05:39.320 What was the question?
00:05:39.820 Sorry.
00:05:40.300 Would you submit if it's 50,
00:05:41.780 50?
00:05:45.260 I don't think I would.
00:05:47.220 I don't,
00:05:48.000 but submit as in like,
00:05:49.200 do what he says or.
00:05:50.920 Submit is like a boss.
00:05:52.760 Okay.
00:05:53.220 So when you go to work,
00:05:54.360 right?
00:05:54.740 I don't know what you do for work.
00:05:56.300 I don't know if you work for yourself,
00:05:57.240 but you've had a boss at some point,
00:05:58.760 or I think of it like a coach,
00:06:00.340 right?
00:06:00.940 I pick which coach I want.
00:06:02.880 Right.
00:06:03.620 So,
00:06:04.000 and what he says goes,
00:06:05.300 I have to listen to him at the end of the day.
00:06:07.620 You know,
00:06:07.980 I might make a case occasionally,
00:06:09.500 but you really can't do that too much.
00:06:11.280 Otherwise they're going to kick you off the team or they're going to fire you.
00:06:13.440 It's not your job.
00:06:15.040 It's not your role to boss him around.
00:06:17.440 Yeah.
00:06:17.900 But the boss is,
00:06:19.040 the boss has given me,
00:06:20.400 you know,
00:06:21.480 a full salary.
00:06:22.880 So of course I'm going to listen to him.
00:06:25.440 And I feel like that when,
00:06:27.000 when you're married,
00:06:28.120 it's like,
00:06:28.720 if he's showing you that he's going out and working hard and taking care of you,
00:06:33.300 then you're like,
00:06:33.860 yes,
00:06:34.100 boss.
00:06:34.520 Yes.
00:06:35.100 Yes.
00:06:35.260 Yes.
00:06:35.460 Leader.
00:06:35.980 Yes.
00:06:36.260 Leader.
00:06:36.540 Yes.
00:06:36.880 Leader.
00:06:37.000 Yes.
00:06:37.060 Leader.
00:06:37.500 Yes.
00:06:38.000 My king.
00:06:38.500 Yes.
00:06:39.000 My king.
00:06:39.500 I will cook for you.
00:06:40.000 I will feed you.
00:06:40.660 I'll wash your clothes.
00:06:41.720 If he's doing a hundred percent of the bills,
00:06:49.400 I'll do three meals.
00:06:50.400 There we go.
00:06:50.900 That's my 10%.
00:06:52.740 But I just,
00:06:54.040 I think this is like the mentality that's going to leave a lot of women single and half of us probably. 1.00
00:06:59.060 Because,
00:06:59.420 yeah,
00:06:59.820 because I mean,
00:07:00.820 there's only so many like guys that can take over a hundred percent of the bills.
00:07:04.840 We're in a modern time.
00:07:06.040 Like,
00:07:06.500 how can we expect them to take over a hundred percent of the bills if we're not,
00:07:09.280 we're not virgins anymore.
00:07:10.740 We're not young anymore.
00:07:11.980 Yeah.
00:07:12.400 I mean,
00:07:12.640 well,
00:07:12.760 she still is,
00:07:13.560 but,
00:07:13.700 but,
00:07:14.820 you know,
00:07:15.400 like the average,
00:07:16.560 but the average age of first marriage used to be like 22.
00:07:19.440 It's 31 now here.
00:07:22.980 But,
00:07:23.660 um,
00:07:24.200 I quite like being equal,
00:07:26.440 you know,
00:07:26.940 like how that sense of power,
00:07:28.620 um,
00:07:29.760 as well as the guy.
00:07:32.120 But,
00:07:32.740 um,
00:07:34.220 if you think of it in a deeper way,
00:07:36.940 we,
00:07:37.700 I don't know.
00:07:39.460 I kind of jumped from one side to,
00:07:41.300 I think,
00:07:41.860 I think what you're saying is when you have children,
00:07:44.000 you don't want to be equal.
00:07:45.740 That's what you're saying,
00:07:46.560 isn't it?
00:07:46.980 Obviously you can.
00:07:47.960 Oh no.
00:07:48.420 When,
00:07:48.620 when,
00:07:48.860 when,
00:07:49.420 when it comes to children and obviously like,
00:07:53.180 if I'm a stay at home mom and like,
00:07:54.940 it just depends on the situation.
00:07:56.300 And it's like either way I'm the mother and you're the father.
00:08:01.960 And I think I wouldn't just listen to him if he says this goes,
00:08:08.820 but you wouldn't,
00:08:09.820 you wouldn't listen to him if he says something goes about my child.
00:08:13.860 No.
00:08:14.400 Cause it's our child.
00:08:15.620 If that makes sense.
00:08:16.300 But so it's 50% his DNA,
00:08:18.700 50% your DNA,
00:08:19.740 right?
00:08:20.460 Yeah.
00:08:20.740 So if there's a big decision,
00:08:22.860 how do you,
00:08:23.940 and you guys disagree,
00:08:24.960 how do you make it?
00:08:26.420 Again,
00:08:26.900 it depends on the situation,
00:08:29.160 but I'd always want to.
00:08:33.360 Like someone has to give in.
00:08:35.060 Do you expect him to give in?
00:08:36.440 Or are you going to give in?
00:08:39.300 Good question.
00:08:40.660 I always give in.
00:08:41.560 Um,
00:08:42.520 I think just like,
00:08:45.080 do good,
00:08:45.620 do good wives submit to their husband's authority. 0.71
00:08:48.520 I don't think necessarily like if you're a good wife or a good husband,
00:08:52.540 um,
00:08:53.720 I think building that foundation of communicating well.
00:08:58.280 So if it comes through a issue of anything,
00:09:01.120 and obviously we're talking about children,
00:09:02.920 I think it's just stating the facts and then solving it.
00:09:08.240 So you both stated your facts and you both disagree.
00:09:11.980 Who,
00:09:12.620 who gives in?
00:09:13.380 Happy wife,
00:09:15.760 happy life.
00:09:18.540 No,
00:09:19.120 you know,
00:09:19.440 it's funny.
00:09:20.380 You're not wrong.
00:09:21.220 I mean,
00:09:21.420 that's,
00:09:21.660 I mean,
00:09:21.860 that's,
00:09:22.160 that happens all the time.
00:09:23.160 How many women wear the pants in relationships nowadays? 1.00
00:09:25.340 I was about to say,
00:09:26.040 there's a lot of men who would literally just do what their wife says.
00:09:28.720 And are those women happy with them? 1.00
00:09:31.020 Do they usually?
00:09:31.540 Not always.
00:09:31.880 Not always.
00:09:33.120 They don't really like pushovers though.
00:09:34.520 We are never happy.
00:09:35.360 Sometimes we kind of want someone to put us in our pit.
00:09:37.260 As much as we want to say.
00:09:38.820 Wait,
00:09:38.980 wait,
00:09:39.220 go ahead.
00:09:39.840 Say what you were going to say.
00:09:40.940 Go ahead.
00:09:41.300 Say,
00:09:41.660 say,
00:09:41.700 say,
00:09:41.920 okay.
00:09:42.140 As much as we want to be like,
00:09:44.140 yeah,
00:09:45.180 um,
00:09:45.700 I want to have a say and stuff that there's times where sometimes you,
00:09:49.200 you want someone to put you in your place.
00:09:51.000 Like I feel like.
00:09:51.800 So it doesn't,
00:09:52.280 it makes sense for us to give in then.
00:09:54.500 Yeah.
00:09:54.720 I can't,
00:09:55.200 I give in as much as I give in.
00:09:57.360 I've switched her.
00:09:58.320 Yes.
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