JustPearlyThings - Modern Women Wish They Had Kids Ten Years Ago ｜ Pearl Daily

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00:04:52.080 So, I can't talk enough about the modern women life cycle we have established here on Pearl 1.00

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00:05:03.960 And I think it's fairly accurate.

00:05:05.960 I've sent it to other creators that I know, and they've verified its validity.

00:05:10.960 Now, I can't recap the whole thing here, but go back to my previous episodes of Pearl Daily

00:05:17.400 to hear the whole thing.

00:05:18.320 Today, we're going to be talking about points four and five of the modern women's life cycle, with four being that modern women will wake up between the ages of 33 to 37, rush to have a kid, find a husband, or both. 0.71

00:05:30.900 And number five being modern women will hit their late 30s and early 40s and try to get pregnant, either by a loser or by IVF. 1.00

00:05:40.540 Modern women will rush to have kids, and some of them will get what they want. 1.00

00:05:45.140 They'll find a man who is irresponsible enough to have a kid by or become a single mother and get inseminated by IVF to be a single mother by choice.

00:05:55.960 But when this happens, they end up being older mothers. 1.00

00:05:59.500 Now, many of these women find more fulfillment in parenting than they ever would have found in their careers or schools. 0.98

00:06:07.760 That's when regret starts creeping in.

00:06:10.620 There is a growing group of women that admit they wish they had kids sooner. 0.93

00:06:14.740 They admit that raising a child when they're older has a whole other set of problems that they did not anticipate.

00:06:21.920 That's what we're going to talk about today.

00:06:24.720 Modern women wishing they had kids sooner. 0.99

00:06:30.180 So, okay.

00:06:31.160 Here's an article from BuzzFeed.

00:06:34.880 I don't regret having my son, but I regret what I've given to him by having him later in life.

00:06:43.820 Women who waited until an older age to have kids are sharing their stories. 1.00

00:06:48.200 Nowadays, there are a multitude of reasons why women are choosing to get married or have children at an older age. 0.99

00:06:53.760 In 2019, only 51% of 30-year-olds in the United States had been married compared to in 1962 when 90% of 30-year-olds had been married at least once.

00:07:05.620 In a previous post, dozens of people from the BuzzFeed community shared their reasoning.

00:07:13.700 Next, I want to dive deeper into the kids part.

00:07:17.940 So, I asked people who did wait to become parents at a later age if they're happy with their decision.

00:07:23.140 Or if there was anything they wish they did differently had their circumstances been different.

00:07:27.740 Before sharing their stories, it's worth reiterating that there's no right or wrong timeline to choose to have kids or not have kids.

00:07:34.800 Because everyone is so different.

00:07:36.400 Because it is important to openly talk about this topic because it's nuanced.

00:07:40.760 And full of varying and valid perspectives.

00:07:43.500 You can find several of these perspectives below.

00:07:47.180 So, one couple says, or one woman says, 0.72

00:07:51.560 My husband and I have been married for almost 10 years with little birth control beside the pull-out method.

00:07:57.460 It's a great method.

00:08:00.440 Okay.

00:08:01.120 I was fine with waiting to have kids first when I was 30 and he was 35.

00:08:05.360 We started wanting to have kids since we'd already traveled quite a bit and bought a home.

00:08:08.840 After two years of infertility and one miscarriage, we went through IVF and I had my first daughter at 32 and second daughter at 34.

00:08:16.600 I love them both to pieces.

00:08:18.640 He comes from a large family with lots of siblings.

00:08:22.100 We are both from a culture that values large families.

00:08:24.760 I would have loved to have more kids, but I'm just too tired.

00:08:27.160 Having a kid in your 20s versus your 30s isn't the same.

00:08:30.580 You have so much less energy, or at least that's the case for me.

00:08:33.640 We're done having kids.

00:08:34.740 He had a vasectomy, which was his wish.

00:08:37.080 And I'm kind of sad that I'm never going to go through pregnancy labor and have another addition to the family.

00:08:42.020 We do have one leftover embryo that I keep in the back of my mind just in case.

00:08:48.580 Translation.

00:08:49.380 I'm going to find someone else to make me kid number two.

00:08:52.620 Watch out, husband.

00:08:54.160 Okay.

00:08:54.840 No regrets here, at least not for any of the common reasons mentioned.

00:08:58.440 My regret is that my children's grandparents are older too and that my children will lose them at a younger age than I lost mine.

00:09:04.680 The life, the care, and the wisdom grandparents share is invaluable.

00:09:09.100 Number three, I waited until I found the right partner.

00:09:12.560 We met at 35 and married at 37 and instantly began trying to expand our families.

00:09:18.640 We've gone through multiple miscarriages, failed IVF cycles, and a failed donor egg cycle.

00:09:24.720 I wish I would have been more educated about my body and known how hard it is for a woman of advanced maternal age to try to conceive.

00:09:32.360 Not one OBGYN spoke to me about freezing my eggs.

00:09:36.040 Not one OBGYN ever spoke to me about my eggs and how age affects them.

00:09:41.000 While I was aware that egg quality declines as you age, I was not prepared for the reality that I've now gone through.

00:09:46.840 I never thought to ask questions when I was younger while actively avoiding getting pregnant.

00:09:53.000 It makes me sad that I was never taught about my own body.

00:09:58.340 Okay, she was 37. 1.00

00:10:00.660 Damn. 1.00

00:10:02.360 Okay. 0.99

00:10:02.900 I had my first child one year ago and I'm very happy.

00:10:05.820 I have no problems getting pregnant after 20 years of birth control.

00:10:08.840 It was an easy pregnancy.

00:10:10.360 I have a loving husband who splits child care responsibilities, two sets of retired grandparents who live close by,

00:10:17.580 and allow my husband and I to have a weekly date night.

00:10:19.760 We can afford a nanny, which makes life so much easier.

00:10:23.600 I'm so glad I waited.

00:10:24.780 So she was anonymous and she's 40.

00:10:27.480 So, yeah, you know, again, this is all a roll of the dice, right?

00:10:30.560 The same way when men get married, it's a roll of the dice.

00:10:33.180 Fertility, it's a roll of the dice. 0.82

00:10:34.980 Like 10% of us have, I think it's called endometriosis.

00:10:39.620 Cooked.

00:10:40.540 Done.

00:10:41.500 Nice.

00:10:41.820 Esqui, nada.

00:10:43.740 Really, it's not the worst idea to be tested for that at a young age, you know what I mean?

00:10:49.800 Just to make sure.

00:10:52.280 I didn't end up getting married until 34.

00:10:54.460 Then I got right to work having kids ASAP.

00:10:57.080 I had three kids when I was 36, 38, and 40.

00:10:59.960 Respectively, if I had to do it over again, I would definitely have kids at a younger age.

00:11:03.720 I am now 54 and do not nearly have the same energy I would have if I were younger.

00:11:07.760 I'm also scared of having a major health problem before I can get my kids out of the house and through college.

00:11:12.880 Also, in terms of helping for college, I'll only have a few years left to work before I retire,

00:11:17.460 all while having to help my kids through college.

00:11:19.360 So it's not the best timing.

00:11:21.120 I think ahead to grandchildren as well.

00:11:23.600 Will I have the energy and health to be a good grandma?

00:11:25.640 Will I be able to help my kids out if they need a lot of unknowns?

00:11:30.460 Kelly, 43.

00:11:32.320 Number six.

00:11:34.060 Doug MPA on the website says,

00:11:36.780 Pearl Reed, women want the wedding and not the marriage. 1.00

00:11:39.420 Modern women want the pregnancy and the birth, but they don't want to be married. 1.00

00:11:43.540 It's sad.

00:11:44.220 I don't even really think they want the kid.

00:11:47.920 Like, I don't think they really want the kid.

00:11:49.480 They just want, um, they, what they want is the, the pregnancy, you know, the clout of being a mom. 0.95

00:12:00.540 That's really important.

00:12:01.500 But being a mom, I don't think they really like that much.

00:12:06.220 Okay.

00:12:06.700 That's not their favorite thing.

00:12:08.980 Okay.

00:12:10.460 Um, I loved having the freedom without kids when I was in my twenties and thirties.

00:12:14.480 I could focus on myself.

00:12:15.740 Now that I'm older, I have the money, the patience, and the time to give my kids a better version of me more than 20 years ago.

00:12:23.200 No regrets.

00:12:25.100 Next.

00:12:25.540 I waited until my career and finances were stable, which took me until the age of 34.

00:12:30.480 Unfortunately, I started developing an eating disorder in my early thirties, which may have significantly inhibited my ability to conceive.

00:12:39.380 My spouse and I are actively trying to get pregnant, but I'm terrified that we completely missed our window.

00:12:45.100 Yeah, you did.

00:12:46.000 Cooked.

00:12:46.880 Cooked.

00:12:47.740 I mean, that's cooked.

00:12:49.860 I mean, I keep saying this on the show because we keep, I mean, we're cooked.

00:12:54.140 Like, I do think like, I don't think the world's going to end.

00:12:58.120 I think like society will be fine relatively for my whole lifetime.

00:13:01.380 But in terms of like the nuclear family, one mom, one dad, and kids cooked.

00:13:06.000 I mean, that's cooked.

00:13:06.860 C-O-O-K, cook, E-D, cooked, cooked, done, nice, naisky, not.

00:13:16.640 Do you know what's funny?

00:13:17.640 I was having a conversation with someone and they were calling me, he was calling me black-pilled, right?

00:13:24.480 And this, and I'm like, and this is a guy that was divorced, right?

00:13:28.720 So he's once divorced, he has a second wife.

00:13:30.600 And I'm talking to him and he's like, how can you have this outlook?

00:13:35.380 Do you not think that like you and your boyfriend could have a, because that's what everyone

00:13:38.760 wants to bring up.

00:13:39.520 They're like, you don't think you guys could have a good relationship?

00:13:42.080 Like you think marriage is dead?

00:13:43.680 And I'm like, you're divorced.

00:13:47.420 Like, how are you?

00:13:48.360 I haven't even given it a go yet.

00:13:50.700 But I'm like, you can't predict the future.

00:13:53.360 Do you know what I mean?

00:13:54.240 Like, I'm like, I'm sure, I'm sure you thought you were going to be married forever.

00:14:02.300 I'm sure I thought that I was going to be with a previous boyfriend forever, right?

00:14:07.380 We all think things, right?

00:14:09.280 But you can't, you know, there's people that think they're going to be at their job forever.

00:14:13.160 They get fired.

00:14:13.840 You can't really control the universe and you certainly can't control another person.

00:14:17.560 So you cannot control if he is going to leave you or she is, right?

00:14:22.480 So cooked, Pearl Ramsey cooked.

00:14:26.060 You're right.

00:14:27.100 That's true.

00:14:32.020 All right, nine.

00:14:39.740 I had my first child with my first husband.

00:14:41.820 I convinced myself and him that we were loved our lives and wanted to be child free.

00:14:47.060 But really, I didn't want kids with him.

00:14:48.820 Oh.

00:14:51.480 Oh.

00:14:52.480 Can you imagine your wife writing this about you?

00:15:01.720 They mean it, though.

00:15:02.880 If a woman's putting off having kids with you, I got bad news for you. 0.95

00:15:08.740 But, well, it doesn't have to be bad news, right?

00:15:10.480 So this is how you got to be, right?

00:15:14.440 If we take her ego out of this, because that is pretty ego killing, right? 0.99

00:15:18.220 To know it's you.

00:15:19.620 She doesn't want to have kids with. 0.99

00:15:21.000 She deems you not worthy of reproducing, right?

00:15:24.700 But, but, but, but, but, um, here's the upside.

00:15:29.740 Okay.

00:15:30.020 Here's like the upside in that.

00:15:33.300 You don't need to pull out because she's going to abort.

00:15:37.800 Do you know?

00:15:38.400 I'm just, I'm trying to, or she'll make sure she's on birth control or whatever. 1.00

00:15:41.580 I'm trying the silver lining.

00:15:43.300 Like, you know, the, the sad thing is you got about seven years with your wife before

00:15:49.040 she leaves you.

00:15:49.760 So the upside is you fellas can always do better, younger, and hotter. 0.55

00:15:55.180 So if you like what you got going, just remember, you can always get better.

00:16:01.140 So, you know, it's not really blackpilled.

00:16:03.460 It's actually pretty, um, I would say happy.

00:16:08.480 It's pretty happy for the men.

00:16:10.580 And the women is kind of happy too.

00:16:12.520 I mean, we love being side chicks, so we can go do that forever. 1.00

00:16:15.800 We love being whores. 0.99

00:16:17.100 Now we get to be our true nature. 0.99

00:16:18.240 So I see this as a win-win.

00:16:21.020 Sorry, fellas.

00:16:22.580 Okay.

00:16:22.860 When I met my second husband, I knew I wanted to have children with him and he felt the same

00:16:26.680 way about me.

00:16:27.200 I got pregnant with her first a month after our wedding.

00:16:29.780 We had our second right after I turned 38 in our neighborhood in Texas.

00:16:32.820 I'm one of the oldest moms with young kids, but it couldn't have worked out any other way.

00:16:38.220 Yeah.

00:16:38.600 That girl has no regrets. 0.99

00:16:40.060 I was set on not having a kid because I didn't want the baby to have an alcoholic father.

00:16:44.600 Yet I chose my husband over a child for 14 years.

00:16:47.040 I do not regret making this choice and waiting to see if he would get sober because he eventually

00:16:51.540 did after 12 years together on his own, on his own.

00:16:54.380 And now we are expecting our first and only in my late thirties, I believe is a much better

00:16:59.020 choice to have a child at a time when they can be raised better.

00:17:02.140 Okay.

00:17:02.320 This is like the only logical reason.

00:17:05.440 Like this is kind of a happy story, right?

00:17:08.580 I mean, maybe you shouldn't date an alcoholic, but she loved him and she was really in it

00:17:13.500 for the ups and the downs, which we love the ups and the downs anyway.

00:17:17.200 So she got what she wanted, right?

00:17:18.680 Which is chaos.

00:17:20.200 And, um, now she gets like, she tamed the bad boy.

00:17:24.300 So now, you know, this is like every woman's, you know, what she dreams of.

00:17:30.020 And then what she can also do is get the, I'm such a good woman clout points where she 0.88

00:17:34.820 can attribute all of his overcoming alcoholism to her, which is going to be great for her.

00:17:42.060 Um, all right.

00:17:43.140 I believe it is a much better choice to have a child at a time when they can be raised better

00:17:47.000 just to have them on a ridiculous timeline that society throws at us and expects us to follow.

00:17:51.540 The average person in their twenties is definitely not suited and ready to have kids because

00:17:55.660 they have them anyway, because they're cuter, because they just got married and it's the

00:18:00.160 next thing to do.

00:18:01.700 11.

00:18:02.360 Um, I had my son at 33, which in my area is considered older.

00:18:06.660 I sometimes wish I had done things differently and had them earlier or not at all.

00:18:10.580 Some women aren't meant to be mothers. 1.00

00:18:14.300 I have nothing in common with most of the other moms on his t-ball team because I'm 10

00:18:18.060 years older than most of them.

00:18:20.120 It's hard to make friends.

00:18:21.640 Uh, my friends who do have kids are either much older than my son or they live in another

00:18:26.140 state.

00:18:26.960 I wish I would have been able to have him in my twenties, but then I think I wouldn't

00:18:31.680 have the son I have.

00:18:33.240 I wouldn't have the patience that I have.

00:18:35.000 I think about how exhausted I am when I still have work to do, house to clean, appointments

00:18:38.660 to make and running him to his stuff.

00:18:41.140 It's so drained.

00:18:41.800 You know, it's so crazy.

00:18:44.040 Women in the past had kids in their, like their forties, in their late thirties, right? 0.70

00:18:47.980 Like my grandma did. 0.81

00:18:50.000 But do you know what?

00:18:50.780 She had her ninth kid.

00:18:53.640 Yeah.

00:18:54.600 So do you know what's so funny?

00:18:55.700 My grandma, my grandma, she, she's dead now.

00:18:58.360 She dead.

00:18:59.040 You know, like Jesse Lee Peterson says, sorry, grandma, you know, but I asked her before she

00:19:05.560 died, I asked her, um, I said, is there anything you like, are there any regrets you have in

00:19:10.400 life?

00:19:10.700 And you know what she told me?

00:19:12.000 She said, I wish I had more children.

00:19:14.780 And I'm like, grandma, you had nine kids.

00:19:17.300 How many did you want?

00:19:18.840 Oh, you know, I was on birth control for a few years and I wish I had 12, 12.

00:19:27.100 So that's the thing.

00:19:28.000 It's like funny.

00:19:28.580 Cause the women now are like doing less than the women of the past did. 1.00

00:19:33.020 Cause like my grandma had nine kids, you know, so, but they're exhausted from one.

00:19:38.860 I'm wondering, maybe they had the older kids just like do all the work for them.

00:19:42.900 That's the only, that's the only workaround I've thought about, but by all accounts, it

00:19:47.520 seems like they had harder lives.

00:19:51.440 Um, okay.

00:19:53.340 To be clear though, I love my son.

00:19:54.880 I don't regret him.

00:19:56.540 I, I regret, I, I don't, and don't regret him.

00:20:00.600 I regret what I had given to him by having him later.

00:20:03.380 Okay.

00:20:04.180 RJ said, kids are a gamble.

00:20:06.020 I did it the right way and had three kids in my 20 child.

00:20:09.320 One and two are severely autistic.

00:20:11.000 And at 10 and eight, they do not talk and self-harm one in 30 is terrible odds.

00:20:18.440 Some people just take L's.

00:20:20.440 You know what I mean?

00:20:21.920 I mean, if you had them in your twenties, there's nothing you can do.

00:20:24.940 You had two autistic kids.

00:20:27.240 Dang.

00:20:27.640 All right, Joe, well, there's no offense.

00:20:32.340 I don't mean to call your kid an L, but I can't really walk that back. 0.99

00:20:38.560 Can I?

00:20:39.500 I can't really, I can't really be like, I said it.

00:20:45.140 I'm not a Paul.

00:20:48.040 You know what?

00:20:48.720 I said it.

00:20:49.380 I, I, I said what I said, Joel, there's never a good time to have kids.

00:20:53.760 One makes sacrifices at any age, deal with it and stop complaining girls. 0.99

00:21:00.540 Yeah.

00:21:00.940 Okay.

00:21:01.880 Let me see.

00:21:02.380 If you guys super chat on the normal webs on the YouTube, you can do it too.

00:21:07.600 W grandma.

00:21:09.060 Yeah.

00:21:09.500 I mean, she just kept going.

00:21:11.040 She just was like, pop, pop, pop, pop, pop.

00:21:13.620 It was like with the kids.

00:21:14.500 So she did, we have had kids, like the feminists aren't wrong. 1.00

00:21:18.340 We have had kids into the forties, but remember your body changes when you have kids in your

00:21:24.520 twenties.

00:21:25.300 Right?

00:21:26.060 So by the time in your forties, am I making sense?

00:21:34.040 Like you're more likely to get pregnant again than get pregnant for the first time at 40.

00:21:39.740 That's the catch.

00:21:42.120 That's always like women are like, Oh, my mom had kids up 42. 1.00

00:21:45.520 Yes.

00:21:45.760 So did mine, but she had her sixth kid or her ninth kid, not your first kid with IVF, Diane.

00:21:54.840 Okay.

00:21:55.260 I did things the traditional way.

00:21:56.820 I waited until I was in a good job, stable marriage and big enough house to raise a family.

00:22:00.620 But I regret not having children earlier because I don't have any energy at almost 40 that I

00:22:04.840 had in my twenties from sleepless nights to running around in the ballpark.

00:22:07.720 I'm exhausted and that's running around, rubbing on my child.

00:22:10.940 That's the reason we have decided to only have one child.

00:22:14.100 I'm sure I could physically manage another pregnancy and baby phase.

00:22:17.000 We were planning on having two, but I regret the waiting.

00:22:20.000 My child will be in waiting meant that my child will be an only child 13.

00:22:25.880 I wish I had taken more time to be in shape before getting pregnant.

00:22:28.800 Do you know what?

00:22:31.800 I'm so tired of women blaming, getting, and you're not fat because you had a kid. 1.00

00:22:39.340 I've seen pictures of women from the 1920s, 30s, 40s, 50s. 0.97

00:22:43.960 You're fat because you ate too much.

00:22:46.400 Okay.

00:22:46.540 My mom ran a marathon six months pregnant and my youngest sister is fine.

00:22:51.920 I mean, she's thriving.

00:22:53.100 She's a good kid.

00:22:55.740 Okay.

00:22:56.240 It's been so hard to break 36 years of habits.

00:22:59.040 It's been way harder to get motivated to work out and lose the weight while also working

00:23:02.520 out to keep up with the toddler.

00:23:04.540 All my friends had kids younger.

00:23:06.860 Rachel, 37.

00:23:10.700 My partner and I had just started back in school.

00:23:14.100 Wow.

00:23:14.540 There's a lot of these.

00:23:16.520 Okay.

00:23:17.300 I'm going to do one more before we move on to the next.

00:23:20.160 Let's see where we are.

00:23:20.920 Actually, no, we can go to two more.

00:23:23.780 My partner had just started back in school after taking eight years off.

00:23:27.820 So we put off starting a family until they were done with their degree.

00:23:31.580 Then we waited.

00:23:32.640 We wanted to wait until we were more financially ready.

00:23:35.940 When the time finally seemed right, I was diagnosed with PCOS.

00:23:41.440 After a few rounds of mild fertility treatments failed, we made the decision to not move forward

00:23:46.580 with more aggressive treatments.

00:23:47.760 I wish someone would have told me when I was younger that there was not a right time to

00:23:51.580 stop, start trying.

00:23:53.440 But then, but more than that, I wish someone would have told me that it's okay to stop

00:23:57.600 trying and that feels right too.

00:23:59.640 Infertility is really hard.

00:24:01.100 And finally, being able to stop beating myself up over it, it was very freeing.

00:24:05.740 Sometimes things don't end up the way that you would have always thought, but that does

00:24:09.560 not always have to be a bad thing.

00:24:11.160 A 15, I didn't find the right partner until my 30s and then had problems getting pregnant,

00:24:16.640 which led to us having kids at 38.

00:24:18.500 At first, we enjoyed our financial stability and that we were past our partying years.

00:24:22.800 We were able to be very attentive and present parents.

00:24:26.660 Then my mom died and it devastated me to lose a parent in our 40s.

00:24:30.180 Now, I'm really afraid we won't live to see our grandchildren or really know my children

00:24:34.180 when they're adults.

00:24:35.400 I want to be an active grandparent and that doesn't look like it's going to happen.

00:24:38.820 I'm afraid of being old, frail grandma, or not being here at all, taking care of my

00:24:43.440 aging grandparents and also having very young children.

00:24:46.620 It's tough.

00:24:47.460 And I never thought I'd be in the position and I don't want to burden my kids with that

00:24:51.140 same situation.

00:24:53.260 Anonymous.

00:24:54.860 Okay, so next we have women on TikTok talking about their L's as per usual. 0.99

00:25:00.680 So here are women talking about wishing they had kids earlier. 1.00

00:25:05.820 Y'all, baby, what going on, y'all? 0.99

00:25:12.300 Baby, and absolutely, I love my bugger-nosed kids to death. 0.94

00:25:18.260 I would not trade my children for the world, right? 0.96

00:25:20.800 But again, I would have had my children younger if I had known a little better, okay?

00:25:29.020 And the sad thing about society and the world is, it's like, oh, they tell you, go to school,

00:25:34.860 get your career, get your career, get your career.

00:25:36.920 So as women, sometimes we put off having children in order to pursue that career. 0.96

00:25:42.240 And then when we decide to have children, we ain't got no energy to run after those kids

00:25:47.760 because toddlers, they are a special kind of something.

00:25:50.640 They require, oh, the amount of energy and attention a toddler requires is insane.

00:25:57.900 So as a woman, it's like we have to think between career or children, career or children. 0.77

00:26:06.580 And again, we put off the children.

00:26:09.620 Yeah, we put it off because we don't want to do it.

00:26:12.640 Like, this is what conservative commentators miss.

00:26:17.020 Okay, they completely miss this.

00:26:18.480 There's this idea that women have this innate nature to have children, raise them and be mothers. 1.00

00:26:24.560 I don't believe that's true.

00:26:25.940 Now you think, Pearl, how could that be true?

00:26:28.400 That cannot be true.

00:26:30.160 Women are nurturing. 1.00

00:26:32.000 Women are the givers of life. 1.00

00:26:33.260 That's what I've heard my whole life, right?

00:26:35.180 Well, if we're so nurturing, why have we aborted an eighth of the world population?

00:26:40.440 Why is it that we fought for birth control to push off motherhood as long as humanly possible?

00:26:54.780 No, answer these questions.

00:26:56.400 It's like, okay, if you have a fat person and they're like, I want to get in good shape.

00:27:02.300 And the trainer's like, eat less.

00:27:03.700 And they're like, I don't want to do that.

00:27:05.540 You're like, you don't really want to lose weight, right?

00:27:09.820 You'd rather eat than, and I've been there, right?

00:27:13.500 I used to, you know, I used to be kind of chunky and I didn't want to give up my large caramel lattes.

00:27:20.580 I'd have like three a day.

00:27:21.680 They're so bad for you.

00:27:23.140 I don't want to give it up, you know?

00:27:24.760 I was like, I wanted that more than being thin, I guess.

00:27:28.180 So it's the same concept, right?

00:27:32.000 Yeah, we abort more children each year than die.

00:27:35.760 Yeah, I know.

00:27:36.920 I know.

00:27:37.700 And if we, then we look at like women that have kids. 0.99

00:27:40.380 And did you know when a child is found in a dumpster or dead in the first year of life,

00:27:46.860 the number one suspect is always the mother.

00:27:49.540 It's never the father.

00:27:50.920 So the most likely person to kill a kid is the mom. 1.00

00:27:54.000 Now, I also cross-examined this with the infant mortality rates in the past.

00:28:00.180 So if one out of three women have abortions now, and the infant mortality rate used to be one out of three,

00:28:11.700 I don't know.

00:28:12.860 I can kind of put two and two together, right?

00:28:16.360 Now, they may have fooled the guys in the past, but there were bones found in bathhouses in Greece. 0.92

00:28:23.700 Okay, women have always killed kids. 1.00

00:28:26.100 We're ruthless, okay? 0.98

00:28:27.500 And we had to be ruthless, right?

00:28:29.060 Because what happened was in history, if, okay, so if I'm married, right?

00:28:35.360 So I'm happy.

00:28:36.380 I'm like, I love my husband and my kids.

00:28:38.940 And then someone else came in and killed my husband.

00:28:43.980 Do you know who's getting killed next?

00:28:45.680 My kids.

00:28:46.640 And do you know who I have to fall in love with?

00:28:48.500 That guy that killed my entire, that's what we had to deal with, ladies. 1.00

00:28:53.040 Like, you think life is bad now.

00:28:54.740 In the past, you had to fall in love.

00:28:57.900 And you either had to fall in love or fake it real good.

00:29:00.900 You want to know why we're two-faced?

00:29:03.700 Yeah, because before in the past, if we didn't do that, do you know who was going to be killed next?

00:29:09.740 Us.

00:29:11.500 Do you know who?

00:29:12.260 He just killed the husband and the kids.

00:29:14.280 You don't think we're next?

00:29:15.500 So, of course, now, women, it's like, we like to be desired.

00:29:20.860 Like, we like being the hot girl in the room.

00:29:24.160 But if we really liked being kids, then why are we such terrible mothers?

00:29:29.060 Like, if we really liked the kids, why do we keep using them as a pawn against the father?

00:29:36.860 Like, women don't like being mothers. 1.00

00:29:40.460 Like, I think they like controlling things, right?

00:29:43.560 Like, they like to have the kid to control the guy.

00:29:46.540 I think we like attention and being worshipped, right?

00:29:49.600 So, we like, we want to post the, that, we want to post that we're good mothers, right?

00:29:55.080 Like, that's important to us.

00:29:57.140 We want to use the kid for clout, right? 0.99

00:29:59.860 So, we want to post the children and, like, put them, I mean, we call, I think Ryan Stone calls it a fuck trophy for clout. 0.99

00:30:09.240 Yeah, we love doing that. 0.99

00:30:10.480 We like to say, wow, I, you know, this is my kid.

00:30:16.700 Other things, what else do we like?

00:30:18.320 Like, we like the attention from the baby shower, the attention from the wedding, the attention from the birth.

00:30:23.740 How can you see if a girl likes a guy? 1.00

00:30:25.720 You got to take all that away and see if she sticks around.

00:30:32.020 But then you never really know until she gets what she wants.

00:30:35.320 And I'll tell you what, because, and you guys do this too.

00:30:40.260 Haven't you guys ever been dating a woman, right?

00:30:42.860 You're dating a woman.

00:30:43.820 You think you like her.

00:30:44.960 You're like, this girl's amazing.

00:30:46.940 She's awesome. 0.83

00:30:47.740 And then you smash. 1.00

00:30:49.580 You're like, fuck. 1.00

00:30:52.300 I just, you know, men, it's like they're blinded by their want to smash, right? 1.00

00:30:57.060 Like, they just want to smash.

00:30:58.280 So, like, they'll think a girl is, like, a good person. 1.00

00:31:01.400 They'll think she's a nice person.

00:31:02.980 They'll think she's likable. 1.00

00:31:04.300 But then, you know, in hindsight, they'll be like, I just liked the sex.

00:31:09.060 Now, we have the same thing, but after we have the kid.

00:31:13.340 And this isn't my experience, right, because I haven't had a kid.

00:31:16.420 But they figured this out in the forums years ago, where women, they have the kid or the wedding, whatever the hell that woman wanted. 1.00

00:31:24.540 Now, she has to look in front of her and say, do I even like this guy?

00:31:28.060 Unfortunately, what we have seen is two things.

00:31:32.260 And these are the two uncomfortable truths nobody wants to talk about.

00:31:36.320 I am the bad guy for talking about this.

00:31:38.620 Women don't want to be mothers as much as we thought. 1.00

00:31:42.100 And women don't like men. 1.00

00:31:44.800 And it's not personal, guys.

00:31:46.540 We don't like anybody.

00:31:47.500 We don't like each other.

00:31:48.460 We don't like ourselves.

00:31:49.620 So, it's not like it's a shocker we don't like you either, right?

00:31:56.940 Like, we don't even, we don't like ourselves.

00:31:59.560 We don't like our kids.

00:32:00.540 We don't like anything.

00:32:01.600 Like, we're just, we are just like chaos, right?

00:32:05.220 So, Pearl, there's no excuse for abortion. 0.99

00:32:08.400 100% of babies put up for adoption are snapped up by couples who want them.

00:32:13.560 Now, I'll tell you what happens.

00:32:14.740 So, that's true.

00:32:16.280 When you have a kid that's given up for adoption as a baby, it's pretty much you'll find a home.

00:32:24.120 What happens is when a kid's given up for adoption by a crackhead, that's when nobody wants it, right?

00:32:32.200 Because who wants a crack kid? 0.99

00:32:34.940 You know, I mean, at that point, the kid's messed up.

00:32:37.320 It's like, you know, I've been on both sides of adoption where my parents gave up a kid and got a kid.

00:32:42.300 And a lot of it's nature, okay?

00:32:44.280 A lot of it, I'll tell you what.

00:32:45.440 So, I had a brother.

00:32:47.080 When I was 22, I found out I had another brother.

00:32:50.180 Long story.

00:32:51.060 Parents got pregnant young. 0.95

00:32:52.600 And at 22, they sat me down.

00:32:54.180 They said, you had a brother.

00:32:55.420 And I personally, I thought they were lying.

00:32:57.480 And he was real.

00:32:58.620 And so, I met him when I was like 23, I think, the next year.

00:33:02.440 And it was crazy.

00:33:03.260 He was just like us, even though we'd never met him.

00:33:05.480 Like, literally, we never met him until I was like 23.

00:33:08.920 And he was, I couldn't believe it.

00:33:11.180 Like, he walked like us.

00:33:12.620 I had the same major.

00:33:13.920 I was an economics major in college.

00:33:15.640 So was he.

00:33:16.880 Like, it was like this.

00:33:19.060 It was a million things.

00:33:20.280 He was in the same industry.

00:33:21.960 His parents never left their hometown.

00:33:23.680 My family grew up traveling.

00:33:25.040 He had like a sailboat company.

00:33:27.000 Like, it was just really cool.

00:33:28.040 And he was probably more similar than the teenagers that we adopted.

00:33:34.640 Now, to be fair, they were teenagers.

00:33:36.780 But like, you could still say, you know, we had some influence.

00:33:40.900 And that's when I realized before then, because of how badly single mothers like F up their kids. 1.00

00:33:47.040 You know what I mean? 0.97

00:33:47.580 Like, these crackheads. 0.87

00:33:49.200 I mean, the kids will go to jail.

00:33:51.260 I always thought it was nature or nurture, right?

00:33:54.660 Because the single mother home stats were so bad. 0.95

00:33:57.520 But when I found out, when I met my brother, I was like, oh, this is nature too.

00:34:02.720 So maybe the single mothers are single mothers because they just got some effed up genes. 1.00

00:34:07.440 You know, maybe they're just born that way.

00:34:09.400 I don't know.

00:34:10.440 But my point is there's, we're going back to this.

00:34:14.420 I know I want a little tangent.

00:34:16.000 Women don't want to be mothers. 1.00

00:34:18.500 And we got to stop. 1.00

00:34:20.680 We got, women want, women want to be whores. 1.00

00:34:23.180 Women don't want to be mothers. 1.00

00:34:25.140 And women don't like their kids that much. 1.00

00:34:27.060 And women don't like men that much.

00:34:30.260 Because if you look at what we do as a group, because I know, they always bring it back to me.

00:34:33.920 But what about you, Pearl?

00:34:35.100 Are you going to abort your kid?

00:34:36.060 Look, I've never done that.

00:34:38.300 I have no plans to do that, right?

00:34:40.320 But I have to look, like, at what we do in groups, in masses, in order to come to, like, a conclusion about society. 0.98

00:34:49.320 Like, for example, when I look at the, like, women that men have crushes on, they have big tits, big ass, and a symmetrical face, and they're, like, 22. 1.00

00:34:58.280 So we can, like, the leads in, like, James Bond movies and all, does that make sense? 0.99

00:35:04.300 So we can come to a conclusion that men like young, hot women with big boobs and tits, right? 0.99

00:35:09.900 But for some reason, we can't come to that same conclusion when women try to sleep with men at concerts, and they throw them, like, when they're underage, throwing themselves at of-age adults. 0.99

00:35:21.320 Or, like, they sleep with celebrities, sending nudes, they're getting naked in public. 0.99

00:35:26.400 Like, for some reason, we can't accept the fact that, like, female nature is kind of whore, right? 1.00

00:35:33.380 Like, that, like, for society, like, we can accept that men are dogs, but we can't accept that women are sluts. 1.00

00:35:40.260 Like, I don't know what it is about society. 0.99

00:35:42.540 One, we can fully be like, yeah, men are going to, if they think they can get away with it, she'll never find out, they're just going to do it, unfortunately.

00:35:51.320 Um, but, yeah, so, society, they will accept the unflattering truths about men easily, right?

00:36:02.220 They'll say men are dogs, um, men are stubborn, um, you know, I mean, the list goes on. 0.99

00:36:10.180 Men are cheaters, da-da-da-da-da. 0.99

00:36:11.700 I mean, even the abuse, men aren't even abusive, it's women that are abusive, but they'll say men are violent, 0.99

00:36:19.260 which, to me, I think that's just projection. 0.69

00:36:23.760 I think women are the abusive, violent ones, but whatever, right? 1.00

00:36:28.680 But when we're going to go to the women, we can't accept the whore nature, right? 1.00

00:36:33.600 And we can't accept the hype, like, the women are always going to try to do better if they can. 1.00

00:36:40.120 We can't accept that nature.

00:36:42.460 And we can't, we also can't accept the women, like, cloud is a drug, you know. 1.00

00:36:47.480 Men kind of do know this, but we can't say this publicly.

00:36:50.420 So, all right, so, let me see if anyone else wanted to read on the website.

00:36:55.520 Remember, you get unlimited super chats on the website.

00:36:58.180 You just go and put Pearl Reed, 10 bucks a month, all you want.

00:37:01.980 Okay, kids are, wait, wait, there's never a good time to have kids.

00:37:12.360 One makes sacrifices at any age.

00:37:14.280 Deal with it and stop complaining, girls.

00:37:16.640 Pearl, we had ours at 30 and 34, we're 48 now.

00:37:19.640 We realized we were way better parents by waiting until we were more mature and less selfish.

00:37:23.500 Look, some people are happy they waited, some aren't.

00:37:26.640 It just depends.

00:37:29.980 Never forget that the woman's body tends to dump toxins into the child's pregnancy by breastfeeding. 1.00

00:37:35.240 Detox is a must at these times, unfortunately.

00:37:48.620 There's no excuse for an abortion. 0.99

00:37:50.500 100% of our babies are put up for adoption.

00:37:52.660 Okay, yeah, yeah.

00:37:54.080 Oh, and I never wanted children.

00:37:55.900 I got unintentionally pregnant and planned on having him, but unfortunately had a miscarriage,

00:38:00.800 even though I didn't make it past my first trimester.

00:38:02.860 As soon as I became pregnant, I changed.

00:38:04.420 I was so attached to this life and immediately went into mom mode.

00:38:07.680 All I cared about was preparing for and protecting my child.

00:38:10.540 I share this only to say after my experience, I don't understand how anyone could choose to terminate.

00:38:15.640 I was always pro-life, but just didn't want to have my own.

00:38:19.700 That experience made me passionately pro-life.

00:38:21.940 It doesn't matter. 0.96

00:38:23.140 In the right situation, you'd kill a kid, too. 1.00

00:38:25.680 All women would. 0.98

00:38:26.580 Look, it's, and I hate saying this, but we don't, you don't know what your morals are

00:38:34.160 until you have the, you're in a situation where you can do the wrong thing.

00:38:39.180 Okay, because, you know, and I hate, I hate saying this, Anna, I am sure that guy was good 0.93

00:38:46.400 enough to reproduce with if you kept the kid, but if it was the most loser guy you've ever 0.98

00:38:51.840 slept with, and please don't give me the bullshit if I've never slept with a loser, I don't believe 0.98

00:38:57.020 you, but I'm just being honest here when most women and men in the right situation would do 0.99

00:39:05.700 the wrong thing, right?

00:39:06.660 Like, it's like the billionaire who starts cheating on his wife.

00:39:10.160 Well, he always wanted to cheat, but now he just gets the choice.

00:39:14.480 Or, you know, the guy who gets rich and starts doing drugs and partying.

00:39:18.620 He always wanted to do it.

00:39:19.660 But he just gets the choice now.

00:39:23.320 So, Anna says, F you, that was so unnecessary.

00:39:27.580 Well, then get out of the chat.

00:39:29.120 It's like women. 1.00

00:39:30.120 I mean, what, you're going to tone police me on my show?

00:39:33.820 Okay, see ya.

00:39:35.260 All right, Ben, you should review Matthew Hussey's new video, finally forced to address the male

00:39:40.260 struggle.

00:39:41.280 Now it's truly affecting woman.

00:39:44.020 Would love your thoughts.

00:39:45.780 All right, I'm going to continue.

00:39:47.120 Some of us, we put off children till later on.

00:39:50.220 And shout out to the women who don't want kids here, because some women don't want children. 1.00

00:39:53.800 So sometimes we hear shaming women, oh, you ain't got kids. 1.00

00:39:56.160 They don't want none.

00:39:58.220 They don't.

00:39:59.220 And that's the, I had this thought too.

00:40:01.580 I thought in the beginning, I thought, hmm.

00:40:05.820 I thought, that can't be right.

00:40:09.900 That can't be, that can't be right.

00:40:13.700 But then I got to know women more and I was like, that is right.

00:40:17.120 Pro Reed, this happened to me so much overseas.

00:40:19.480 They don't have, have the option to abort their children.

00:40:22.540 Yeah.

00:40:23.780 Every woman probably would in the worst situation. 1.00

00:40:26.400 I'm sure some women have morals, but that guy in the Bible said he met a thousand women 1.00

00:40:30.560 and he never met one good one.

00:40:33.560 So if this, I think it was Paul or something.

00:40:35.520 So if the guy in the Bible says this, who am I to think that like, I am better or other

00:40:44.740 women are better, right? 1.00

00:40:46.560 It's, it just is what it is.

00:40:48.160 And good for you, okay?

00:40:50.660 But all I'm saying is if I could go back 37 with a three-year-old.

00:40:56.240 Okay.

00:40:56.640 You actually had women supporting you, but now you're just a rage beard.

00:41:00.700 I'll cancel your membership.

00:41:02.080 I don't care, Anna.

00:41:03.080 I'll cancel it for you.

00:41:05.440 Do you know what?

00:41:05.900 This is like women. 1.00

00:41:06.820 They can't take jokes.

00:41:08.120 Like this is, oh my God.

00:41:10.240 Not all, not all, not all.

00:41:11.420 But they just nag. 1.00

00:41:12.320 It's like, they just get in my chat and nag and nag and nag and nag. 1.00

00:41:17.760 All right.

00:41:20.540 So I wouldn't do it.

00:41:22.060 It's ghetto.

00:41:22.760 I won't do it.

00:41:23.860 It is ghetto to be 37 with a toddler.

00:41:26.580 I won't.

00:41:27.780 All right.

00:41:28.420 So women explains why she had kids. 1.00

00:41:31.080 I was asked, when did I have kids and why did I choose to have them at that time?

00:41:35.720 And kind of, what was it like?

00:41:36.960 I grew up in a household that wasn't necessarily happy.

00:41:39.740 You know, our parents did their very best.

00:41:41.400 They tried to provide their very best for us, but they had a really difficult relationship

00:41:45.340 and it did not make me keen on getting married and having kids.

00:41:49.000 I was actually much more desperate to have something of my own because I watched my mom 0.77

00:41:53.360 struggling, not being able to leave, even though he was cheating.

00:41:56.620 That kind of thing always stuck to me.

00:41:58.160 Like I was seven years apart from my sister.

00:42:00.180 So we weren't close.

00:42:01.340 We weren't good friends.

00:42:02.300 We didn't really get along.

00:42:03.340 I always longed for a family to sit around the dinner table, to talk like you see in the

00:42:08.660 movies.

00:42:09.000 I wanted to be very settled when I had kids.

00:42:12.160 So when I met John and we finally got married, you know, I was already like 34 and we wanted

00:42:16.860 to travel.

00:42:17.460 We wanted to buy a house.

00:42:18.400 We wanted to be really settled.

00:42:20.000 And for some reason, I really wasn't scared about it.

00:42:21.880 I wasn't nervous that I wouldn't get pregnant.

00:42:23.560 It wasn't something that I was, again, desperate for.

00:42:26.540 I actually had kids at 38 and 40.

00:42:29.080 I was very lucky.

00:42:30.060 They were both healthy.

00:42:30.960 I was very grateful.

00:42:32.380 We knew two was probably all we could handle.

00:42:34.440 We always wanted a huge family.

00:42:35.580 The reality of having a baby, nobody tells you the truth.

00:42:39.560 So when you finally have kids, you realize, oh, okay, that's a lot harder than I thought

00:42:43.800 it was.

00:42:44.380 We had been married for at least four years.

00:42:46.520 So I could.

00:42:46.660 You know what's so funny?

00:42:47.380 Women will always say, this is so much harder than I thought.

00:42:49.940 And men will say, this is easier than I thought.

00:42:54.400 Isn't that hilarious?

00:42:55.720 The men will be like, this is like the easiest.

00:42:58.340 This is what you guys have been doing the whole time.

00:43:00.380 You should get a job.

00:43:01.800 And the women will say, it's the hardest thing you could ever do.

00:43:05.140 Look.

00:43:06.200 So I kind of knew what I was dealing with.

00:43:08.020 We were able to invest in a home.

00:43:10.320 So we were a little bit more stable and not stressed out all the time about money.

00:43:13.820 I was old enough and mature enough to be home, but more okay with making that sacrifice.

00:43:20.460 Yeah.

00:43:23.000 Women had kids in her late thirties. 1.00

00:43:25.240 We got another one.

00:43:26.140 So I had my first child when I was 37 and then my second, when I was 39, waited, waited, 1.00

00:43:40.340 not on purpose, but did the corporate shit. 1.00

00:43:45.400 Okay. 0.99

00:43:46.280 And what no one tells you about waiting later to have kids is that you might be menopausal

00:43:54.360 menopausal, sorry, lost some people there.

00:43:57.420 You might become menopausal when your kid is going through puberty.

00:44:05.300 Say what? 1.00

00:44:06.720 It's for reference, it's not happening yet, but I'm anticipating some bullshit. 0.99

00:44:12.180 It's going to be thrown down in the next few years. 0.97

00:44:14.640 Also, also no one tells you that your parents, when you have little toddlers, little kids who

00:44:23.920 are in elementary school, no one tells you that this is when your parents start acting

00:44:28.900 cray cray. 1.00

00:44:30.760 When your parents start acting stupid and you're like, am I, what are we doing here? 1.00

00:44:38.260 What do we, I have these guys to worry about. 0.99

00:44:42.120 And now you're making me, am I worrying about you as well?

00:44:45.280 Or, and this is, this is on a sadder note. 0.98

00:44:49.260 I have a lot of friends who have little kids who are also going through some shit with their 0.98

00:44:53.880 parents aging. 0.98

00:44:56.000 So wowza, have kids, wait, wait, have kids when you're older, you're more mature, you're

00:45:02.600 more ready.

00:45:03.460 You've done life.

00:45:05.820 However, and then play this video. 0.99

00:45:08.440 However, other things to think about, roll the fucking beautiful bean footage. 0.98

00:45:12.920 Yeah, so here you go. 0.99

00:45:20.680 Now you got another woman. 0.79

00:45:22.360 And this is the thing.

00:45:23.660 We'll always rationalize our bad behavior.

00:45:27.060 Always rationalize it.

00:45:29.920 Women talks about how horrible it was getting pregnant when she was older. 1.00

00:45:33.580 The other thing about women that I can always take is that when women say that something 1.00

00:45:37.640 is horrible, I can always count that it's not that horrible.

00:45:41.600 Do you know what I mean?

00:45:42.100 Like, they say this is like the worst thing ever.

00:45:44.560 Like, what, Diane?

00:45:45.460 Did they get your order wrong at the restaurant?

00:45:48.280 Now in the chat, they're arguing in this chat.

00:45:50.320 See, if you guys want the drama, go to theaudacitynetwork.com.

00:45:54.160 Said, Pearl wasn't being malicious, da-da-da-da-da-da.

00:45:58.000 You actually had a woman supporting you, but you're just a rage bait.

00:46:01.780 Do you know what's so funny?

00:46:02.820 Women support you.

00:46:03.720 This is why I'm like, whenever I let women into the chat, I just know it's a matter of 0.99

00:46:07.460 time before they crash out.

00:46:09.760 I'll tell you this.

00:46:10.740 This is just a matter of time.

00:46:12.340 Because they want to support you, but they only want to support you in the way that they

00:46:16.020 want, right?

00:46:16.840 So it's like, I support what you're doing, but only when you say the words that I want.

00:46:22.180 And, well, then I guess go to the other female, there's 10 other female influencers that'll 1.00

00:46:32.580 talk in the PG tone you're looking for.

00:46:35.980 Don't worry, Anna.

00:46:39.460 Okay, so Women Talks about how horrible, for the record, it was my boyfriend, now husband

00:46:44.360 that it happened with.

00:46:45.760 So you just proved my point.

00:46:47.720 Oh my God, you just proved my point.

00:46:49.820 I said, this is what I, so I told this lady earlier, I said, you didn't have bad genes. 0.99

00:46:55.980 The guy that you got pregnant by, like, if she got pregnant by a loser, then it would have 0.93

00:47:03.000 been a different situation. 0.68

00:47:04.980 This is a guy that she stayed with.

00:47:06.980 It's like, she backs up my point.

00:47:09.300 So crazy.

00:47:10.320 Women talk about how horrible it was getting pregnant when she was older. 1.00

00:47:14.780 Let's.

00:47:18.340 Hi, mommies.

00:47:19.160 Good morning.

00:47:20.020 It's time to slather on the makeup.

00:47:23.760 So this is actually, it's like a French cream.

00:47:27.240 It's more of, um, it's not something. 0.95

00:47:30.400 OMG, she proved pearl corrupt. 1.00

00:47:32.300 I know. 0.98

00:47:32.980 I know.

00:47:34.000 I hate talking about makeup. 0.99

00:47:35.660 It's not, it's not so much a concealer as it is a fucking sunblock. 0.99

00:47:38.560 Okay. 0.99

00:47:39.180 To answer this person's question.

00:47:41.300 Yeah, dude. 0.99

00:47:42.320 I'm old as shit. 0.99

00:47:43.060 Um, I had my first kid when I was 38. 0.99

00:47:45.640 My second kid of 42.

00:47:48.660 Horrible to do physically.

00:47:50.980 Um, if I had, if I had a parallel pearl, I had, it was a grandfather at 50 and had a lot

00:47:56.760 of energy to spend in some very good times and grow road trips with my oldest grandchild.

00:48:01.180 Think about grandparents.

00:48:02.360 Think about the grandparents when you wait until 40 to have kids.

00:48:09.040 Parallel universe where I had like a really cool supportive family and a mom.

00:48:14.340 Dude, I would have had babies at like 18, 18, because physically your body is meant to do 0.73

00:48:22.640 that at 18 years old. 0.99

00:48:24.460 Like you just, when I was 18, I could like drink a pack of Zima and eat fucking cheeseburgers and 0.99

00:48:31.720 go to bed and not gain a pound. 1.00

00:48:33.180 And your body is just tight.

00:48:34.960 Like you're going to snap back.

00:48:36.180 Now I'm not advocating teen pregnancy. 0.58

00:48:39.460 I was actually thinking about this the other day, teen pregnancy.

00:48:42.380 Is it the worst thing in the world?

00:48:48.940 Cause you know, you can be done with the whole kids part of your life by the time you're 40.

00:48:54.080 I know a couple of people that did that.

00:48:56.320 Right.

00:48:56.640 And they're, they're like a, they're 40, right?

00:48:59.000 They had their first kid.

00:48:59.940 It was like 15 or 16.

00:49:01.940 I mean, you're like done, you know, and see where am I, but if you have a cool mom that 0.99

00:49:07.880 can raise the kid for you when you're, you know, 18, like,

00:49:12.380 why not?

00:49:13.740 And then you get your life back at 36 when that kid is themselves 18.

00:49:18.440 See that math.

00:49:19.440 Now, that being said, having kids older is kind of the jam.

00:49:24.340 If you want to have a career, if you want to do stuff before you have children, I highly

00:49:30.340 recommend that.

00:49:31.240 Cause then you have the resources, um, to afford help, which I need, cause I don't have

00:49:37.380 relatives.

00:49:39.680 Um, and yeah, and you're also more emotionally stable.

00:49:42.500 And if you have the energy and the health, have babies later.

00:49:47.280 It's all good.

00:49:48.320 And I, this person asking, don't, don't worry.

00:49:51.440 38 is very young.

00:49:53.120 Yeah.

00:49:53.480 That's a lie.

00:49:54.660 So it's not looking too good.

00:49:57.120 You, you could, it could work out for you, but there's going to be a lot of people it

00:50:02.040 doesn't work out for.

00:50:06.000 Yeah.

00:50:06.520 Do you remember old maid used to be like 25. 0.99

00:50:09.300 They used to think you were done.

00:50:11.180 Neskinata. 0.99

00:50:11.500 Um, it's like I said, if you've got the energy and the health, fucking go for it. 0.98

00:50:15.260 But when I got married, I was 32 years old and Tom and I were poor, poor, poor, poor, 0.98

00:50:22.880 poor, poor, poor.

00:50:23.380 So I didn't want to bring children into the world until we could, you know, afford it.

00:50:27.220 38 is not that old. 0.97

00:50:28.500 38 is only old in like the Midwest, but on the coasts, that's when bitches start having 1.00

00:50:34.160 babies. 0.99

00:50:34.820 So pump that kid out, bro.

00:50:36.760 Do what you got.

00:50:37.280 That's true.

00:50:37.900 So it is a later timeframe when you're in like New York and those places.

00:50:46.260 Here's another cope.

00:50:48.080 45 when my daughter was born, um, not 40.

00:50:50.460 I want to address some of the common criticisms that older moms sometimes get. 0.99

00:50:55.180 First of all, women having babies in their forties, isn't a new thing. 1.00

00:50:58.020 Childbearing years span decades.

00:50:59.900 So why this is shocking to.

00:51:01.360 Okay.

00:51:01.720 It's not a new thing, but like my grandma, I think she started at 16 and stopped at like

00:51:07.560 43.

00:51:09.800 It's not a new thing, but, but they start earlier, right?

00:51:14.280 They, they pop, they pop the first one out young.

00:51:17.780 To some people is beyond me.

00:51:19.160 I know so many older moms both now. 0.54

00:51:20.980 And also when I was, I know it, this is the future, right?

00:51:23.620 They're not completely wrong. 1.00

00:51:26.000 Women are going to keep pushing that shit off. 1.00

00:51:28.200 They're going to keep trying to use their youth and beauty on themselves and spend as 1.00

00:51:32.680 little as possible on their husband and their families.

00:51:35.040 They're going to keep pushing it off.

00:51:36.380 Okay.

00:51:37.400 So she's not wrong per se.

00:51:40.320 Okay.

00:51:41.840 But it's, it's probably not a great thing, but you know, it is what it is growing up.

00:51:48.580 One of the most common criticisms that I see online is that it's not fair to have children

00:51:51.980 in your forties because those children won't have as much time with you as they would if

00:51:55.820 you had them when you were younger.

00:51:56.840 The truth is nobody knows how much time they have, but let's say for the sake of the argument

00:52:00.340 that we all get the same number of years and we all expire on the same exact day.

00:52:03.580 Does that mean that we owe it to the next generation to give birth to them as young as possible?

00:52:08.100 Not everyone is ready or willing to have a baby in their teens or twenties.

00:52:11.560 Even if you do feel ready, sometimes finding the right partner can take some time and some

00:52:15.100 people like to become financially stable or reach other goals.

00:52:18.360 So this is the thing when women are unsure about a decision, they rationalize it. 1.00

00:52:23.260 They have to explain it.

00:52:24.720 When you're sure you're making the right decision, do you guys have to explain it?

00:52:28.920 No.

00:52:29.020 First, it's also really common for people to experience infertility or in my case, secondary

00:52:33.640 infertility.

00:52:34.540 I planned on having our last child in my thirties, but when I was in my thirties, I had miscarriages.

00:52:38.860 The most carefully made plans can be completely out of our control.

00:52:41.720 That's completely in your control.

00:52:43.960 Most people don't have miscarriages in their twenties.

00:52:46.920 That's like, that's like the result of your actions.

00:52:49.920 And it's not saying it's wrong to make that choice, but you got to account like that.

00:52:56.080 That was your choice.

00:52:56.820 It's mind boggling to me that anyone could think a child has more or less right to exist

00:53:01.240 based on the age of her mother.

00:53:03.140 Another common concern is the increased risk of chromosomal abnormalities with advancing

00:53:07.340 maternal age.

00:53:08.140 The numbers vary a little bit according.

00:53:09.520 No.

00:53:09.920 So that they're going to, she's going to rationalize that like you won't have autistic kids, the 1.00

00:53:14.720 older you wait, but they're just going to abort the autistic ones anyway. 0.95

00:53:20.940 So she's kind of right in a way because women are going to get those testing done. 1.00

00:53:25.940 And if it's not what they want, they'll just, sorry, fellas.

00:53:29.420 It's not your choice.

00:53:30.560 It's theirs. 0.95

00:53:31.420 Women are the, women are the ultimate eugenicists. 1.00

00:53:33.940 I'm going to bring to the source, but a recent one that I read said that at age 30, a pregnant

00:53:38.360 woman has a 0.1% chance of a baby with Down syndrome.

00:53:41.440 And then by age 40, it increases to 1%.

00:53:44.080 By the time I conceived my daughter at age 44, I had about a 2.5% chance of having a baby

00:53:50.180 with Down syndrome.

00:53:51.680 Conversely, I had a greater than 97% chance of having a baby with typical chromosomes who was

00:53:56.820 perfectly healthy.

00:53:57.680 More than half of people with Down syndrome were born to young moms under 35.

00:54:01.220 Lastly, the idea that older moms have less energy. 1.00

00:54:04.180 I've had babies both in my 20s and in my 40s, and this hasn't been true for me.

00:54:07.640 And I really believe that while there are genetic factors that are out of our control, our overall

00:54:12.260 fitness and lifestyle choices have more to do with our mental and physical health than

00:54:17.380 our age does.

00:54:18.040 Those are my thoughts, but I'm happy to continue the conversation in the comments.

00:54:23.480 Yeah, this is her and her husband.

00:54:25.840 When you're spending every day on your own, and here it goes, I just...

00:54:33.600 Okay, wait, they've been together since high school.

00:54:35.780 Why did they wait so long?

00:54:38.260 She was hot, right? 0.99

00:54:40.780 She was hot back in the day.

00:54:44.020 She was a dime. 0.94

00:54:45.440 Kid and wife is a nightmare. 1.00

00:54:48.760 Yeah, okay.

00:54:49.440 All right, well, that's all I got today.

00:54:54.220 I guess I also pissed off a woman in the chat. 1.00

00:54:58.280 I can't say I'm shocked.

00:55:00.800 It is what it is.

00:55:02.920 Anyways, guys, let me know what you think in the comments.

00:55:06.420 What age did you guys have kids, and are you happy that you had them at that age?

00:55:13.480 Top comments I'm going to like, pin, and reply to, so I'll make sure to do that.

00:55:17.560 Go to theaudacitynetwork.com, and you do get unlimited chats on the website.

00:55:22.480 Like the video, subscribe to the channel, and I'll see you guys next time.

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JustPearlyThings - April 10, 2025

Modern Women Wish They Had Kids Ten Years Ago ｜ Pearl Daily

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