JustPearlyThings - March 31, 2023


Most Men Are NOT In RELATIONSHIPS Because Of THIS


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Length

9 minutes

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213.65584

Word count

2,011

Sentence count

26

Harmful content

Misogyny

18

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Toxicity

2

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Hate speech

12

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Summary

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In this episode of the podcast, we discuss what it means to be a man in modern day society and how to deal with the issues that men deal with. We discuss the importance of a man having a support network and how important it is for a man to have a male role model in his life.

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00:00:00.000 Yeah, that's not what I asked
00:00:01.860 No, but you said what? No, I said why why does society label the man a cheater, but a woman's not satisfied in the relationship? 0.95
00:00:08.760 So why is there an excuse for for the woman, but there's not an excuse? 0.96
00:00:14.940 No, it's an accountability issue agree. It's accountability issue for sure listen at the end of the day
00:00:19.920 one of the things that we open up with is that there's
00:00:23.160 Systems put in place for whatever reason to continue to pander to the modern woman 1.00
00:00:27.780 And I think it's all just kind of just based off of money. I think that if you want to sell ad placements to the
00:00:34.800 The component of the population that makes 80% of the household purchasing decisions
00:00:39.320 You're gonna do so in a way to try to make them feel good and nice inside and avoid all accountability at the end of the day
00:00:46.620 Accountability doesn't feel good having a fix problems doesn't feel good. It's time-intensive
00:00:50.860 And it brings you a dose of reality of the things that you have to do to over encumber that right 1.00
00:00:55.800 Women don't want to do all that shit. They just want to just want to feel good about themselves and let it be the man's issue 1.00
00:01:01.040 Or the man's problem like again, they're not focused on solutions
00:01:05.200 Generally, but that's the thing as well say as a man you need to take accountability for something and say you seem upset or distraught about it
00:01:11.960 There is nothing more disgusting than a dude who doesn't take accountability exactly business. It's nasty get away from me
00:01:17.380 I don't even want guy friends who don't take accountability for me get away from me for me personally as a man
00:01:22.060 Who do you go to to talk to about it because personally? I don't have anyone. I don't know about the other men
00:01:28.880 mentors I
00:01:30.880 People I think of mentors but not people that I would go to emotionally to talk about my problems as as a man
00:01:36.520 You sit there and deal with them yourself, but I know all women mates and my missus mates and so on where if they're in trouble
00:01:43.840 Something went wrong whatever and there's oh my god, and he talked to someone about this
00:01:46.620 Where's your father ten fifteen? Oh father's alive. He's all right. Yeah, why can't you go to your father?
00:01:52.120 I don't know we have this
00:01:54.120 We have no we have a we have a great relationship. He's um
00:01:57.960 He's my role model in some ways, but he has his own problems that I don't want to
00:02:03.120 You don't want to go in bother someone else with your problems
00:02:05.860 No, I know my number one is my pops if things are right like my pops
00:02:12.360 You know, he's my example of what to be a man in modern day society today is especially, you know being a black man in America
00:02:20.040 He is my example and I make sure that big decisions that are within my life of things that I may not know the answers to and I consider myself a
00:02:27.980 Genuinely sometimes most of the times a wise guy, you know
00:02:31.620 But for things that I you know, I just can't quite figure out and make sure that I go to him now
00:02:35.520 I know at the same time there's a lot of young men out there that don't have that father figure and actually
00:02:40.600 I think that's a large degree in a component
00:02:42.420 That's why channels like mine have blown up is because there's a lot of men young men out there that might have been raised in a single-parent household
00:02:48.480 That have questions regarding things that are happening to themselves within their lives that they don't quite have the answer to
00:02:54.880 So I'm actually surprised to hear that your father is as active what he is, but you don't go to him
00:02:59.200 It might be different between England and America
00:03:02.840 But from over where I'm from in Southampton pretty much every guy that I know would say the same as me
00:03:08.940 So maybe it's a I don't know a difference. Do you think culture did you are you saying that culturally men are taught not to say anything then?
00:03:16.500 Growing up in schools. Yeah, I think it was always man up get on and do this sort this out
00:03:21.320 Hmm, and I think that's the struggle men go through and men can actually talk about it
00:03:26.460 That's what it is. What you guys don't understand is that women relate emotionally 0.99
00:03:30.500 Like we can empathize and so when a woman goes through something or she cheats we we feel this
00:03:36.500 We can we try to like bring empathy to what she what's going on with her men are 0.98
00:03:43.040 You know are more logical in their thinking and deductive reasoning
00:03:47.020 This goes into biology and then how men's brains are wired. So
00:03:52.180 Logically women will always try to you know 1.00
00:03:54.500 There's confirmation bias as well because there are other women so like we we wouldn't give an excuse to a woman who sleeps with our husband or our man 1.00
00:04:02.980 And like we got a problem with that
00:04:04.660 But if it's our girlfriend someone we like or someone in the sisterhood
00:04:08.100 There's this kind of like this camaraderie men do it as well men feel a camaraderie for each other
00:04:12.960 So but I will say overall men are much more
00:04:16.800 You know like they're going to the men are made to to discipline men are made
00:04:21.120 They're not going to get into the emotions of like I don't like my father. I don't care what you felt
00:04:25.800 What did you do like like quit the quit the crying quit the tears?
00:04:30.860 I get it you feel this way, but you have real-world consequences
00:04:36.020 And I think most women are either treated like princesses by their fathers or they don't have accountability growing up 0.58
00:04:42.360 They don't know what it looks like and this is why they're offended by it
00:04:45.540 And if something happens to another woman, we want to be understanding because we automatically
00:04:50.320 Empathy puts us in their shoes like we could see how they feel because we may have felt a certain way
00:04:55.920 Even if we've never done that action, but it doesn't excuse it away. They still need to be held accountable
00:05:00.900 But that's why so many women buck against conversations like this because it's like how dare you say something? 1.00
00:05:06.680 It's all these men and men and women cheat at almost the same rate, but yet it's always men
00:05:11.240 What were you shaking your head at?
00:05:15.360 Yeah, I mean you said a few things there Melanie some I agree with I think we ended up where we agreed
00:05:20.800 But I think ultimately men have the burden of duty and honor put on them that women don't 1.00
00:05:27.860 And so to answer your question as to why a man would be labeled a cheater is because you're supposed to do right where a woman is 0.99
00:05:35.660 Coddled and kind of given well the they're there which I don't agree with we can still empathize and still call it wrong
00:05:44.220 For example back to the other point if I'm speeding through a traffic light because my son is in an accident
00:05:49.660 I'm trying to get to the hospital. I go through a red light. It's still wrong
00:05:52.660 I may explain the reason why but if I have to pay a ticket for it
00:05:56.780 I pay a ticket for it where we are is like oh I understand go ahead and and you know go scot-free
00:06:01.780 So that's what I wanted to say. What are what do you think of this conversation? I I think um
00:06:09.620 No, no, no, no, what were you gonna say? Yeah, I was gonna say a bunch of different things
00:06:13.700 but I you know one of the things that you said is kind of the the empathy of
00:06:18.500 Women and why you guys you know kind of communicate like that and I often think like
00:06:23.780 You know, I you know if I think of like like the entrance of like a therapist is
00:06:26.980 I think I would say a lot more beneficial to most modern women than they are to modern men 0.77
00:06:31.380 Depending upon the type of therapist that you go to I think men should go to male therapists 0.71
00:06:35.300 But the thing is is like the downfall of a lot of modern women today outside of the simps the white knights is other 1.00
00:06:41.300 Modern women that are unwilling to hold them 1.00
00:06:43.860 Accountable and they'll get into these echo chamber circles and just kumbaya around the totally incorrect thing
00:06:51.060 And that's why right like I I suggest and you know kevin used to do it as well to suggest therapy to a lot of modern women
00:06:57.140 Because they can get a third party arbitrator to understand the situation and be like
00:07:02.420 Do you know what I hate to be the bearer in the bad news?
00:07:04.900 However, do you know what's wrong? You know one of the reasons why I do that into?
00:07:09.220 Competition
00:07:10.660 Women see each other as competition 1.00
00:07:12.740 Women never give each other's the keys to the game 1.00
00:07:15.620 Okay, so when older women get older 1.00
00:07:17.620 Right, they never give younger women the game because the older women are actually vying for the same types of men that the younger women are vying for 0.57
00:07:25.380 Right, and so you never ever tell your opponent the key to the game you can console them. Oh, my baby. You're so bad
00:07:32.980 That's what you've done. Oh my god amazing
00:07:35.300 But the same types of men that the older women want is the same types of men that the younger women want 0.92
00:07:39.540 So the older women are never going to give you the game because they see you as competition 1.00
00:07:43.380 Yeah, I want to talk about that earlier pearl and I were talking about that early
00:07:47.060 I want to come back to you baby because you aren't you aren't talking much
00:07:50.900 Do you feel do you have older women in your life that hold you accountable? 0.91
00:07:54.580 Um, well, I actually hold myself accountable. No, no, no, no, you no one can hold you
00:07:58.580 You can't hold yourself accountable because we're our own like if you don't have outside voice
00:08:02.980 We just see ourselves how we see ourselves
00:08:05.300 Accountability comes from someone saying listen accountability hurts. We don't hurt ourselves
00:08:10.420 We don't tell ourselves the things that we need to hear you're dating a guy you like him and an older woman say 0.93
00:08:17.060 I see this is going on
00:08:18.260 I see like this guy is not you know that you can trust and notice she's not competing with you
00:08:23.940 Do you have an older woman in your life? 1.00
00:08:25.620 Yeah, definitely, you know, I'm some of my mom's friends when I was a bit more open with my relationship
00:08:31.940 They would always like throw things at me like oh if he does this
00:08:35.380 Oh, he's probably cheating things like that and it's just I could tell you know
00:08:40.660 They were in competition and they just didn't want me to be happy. So definitely really well
00:08:45.700 So it's like so they actually tried to put your relationship in your man down
00:08:48.820 Did you feel like they were trying to they they their negativity or their negative experiences?
00:08:53.380 They were trying to put on you and him extremely negative
00:08:56.260 They would just it would just always be something and then now i'm very very private with my relationship and just private with my life
00:09:03.300 But like they've never met him. So it's like how how do you have so much to say so
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