In this episode of the podcast, we discuss what it means to be a man in modern day society and how to deal with the issues that men deal with. We discuss the importance of a man having a support network and how important it is for a man to have a male role model in his life.
00:00:01.860No, but you said what? No, I said why why does society label the man a cheater, but a woman's not satisfied in the relationship?
00:00:08.760So why is there an excuse for for the woman, but there's not an excuse?
00:00:14.940No, it's an accountability issue agree. It's accountability issue for sure listen at the end of the day
00:00:19.920one of the things that we open up with is that there's
00:00:23.160Systems put in place for whatever reason to continue to pander to the modern woman
00:00:27.780And I think it's all just kind of just based off of money. I think that if you want to sell ad placements to the
00:00:34.800The component of the population that makes 80% of the household purchasing decisions
00:00:39.320You're gonna do so in a way to try to make them feel good and nice inside and avoid all accountability at the end of the day
00:00:46.620Accountability doesn't feel good having a fix problems doesn't feel good. It's time-intensive
00:00:50.860And it brings you a dose of reality of the things that you have to do to over encumber that right
00:00:55.800Women don't want to do all that shit. They just want to just want to feel good about themselves and let it be the man's issue
00:01:01.040Or the man's problem like again, they're not focused on solutions
00:01:05.200Generally, but that's the thing as well say as a man you need to take accountability for something and say you seem upset or distraught about it
00:01:11.960There is nothing more disgusting than a dude who doesn't take accountability exactly business. It's nasty get away from me
00:01:17.380I don't even want guy friends who don't take accountability for me get away from me for me personally as a man
00:01:22.060Who do you go to to talk to about it because personally? I don't have anyone. I don't know about the other men
00:01:54.120We have no we have a we have a great relationship. He's um
00:01:57.960He's my role model in some ways, but he has his own problems that I don't want to
00:02:03.120You don't want to go in bother someone else with your problems
00:02:05.860No, I know my number one is my pops if things are right like my pops
00:02:12.360You know, he's my example of what to be a man in modern day society today is especially, you know being a black man in America
00:02:20.040He is my example and I make sure that big decisions that are within my life of things that I may not know the answers to and I consider myself a
00:02:27.980Genuinely sometimes most of the times a wise guy, you know
00:02:31.620But for things that I you know, I just can't quite figure out and make sure that I go to him now
00:02:35.520I know at the same time there's a lot of young men out there that don't have that father figure and actually
00:02:40.600I think that's a large degree in a component
00:02:42.420That's why channels like mine have blown up is because there's a lot of men young men out there that might have been raised in a single-parent household
00:02:48.480That have questions regarding things that are happening to themselves within their lives that they don't quite have the answer to
00:02:54.880So I'm actually surprised to hear that your father is as active what he is, but you don't go to him
00:02:59.200It might be different between England and America
00:03:02.840But from over where I'm from in Southampton pretty much every guy that I know would say the same as me
00:03:08.940So maybe it's a I don't know a difference. Do you think culture did you are you saying that culturally men are taught not to say anything then?
00:03:16.500Growing up in schools. Yeah, I think it was always man up get on and do this sort this out
00:03:21.320Hmm, and I think that's the struggle men go through and men can actually talk about it
00:03:26.460That's what it is. What you guys don't understand is that women relate emotionally
00:03:30.500Like we can empathize and so when a woman goes through something or she cheats we we feel this
00:03:36.500We can we try to like bring empathy to what she what's going on with her men are
00:03:43.040You know are more logical in their thinking and deductive reasoning
00:03:47.020This goes into biology and then how men's brains are wired. So
00:03:52.180Logically women will always try to you know
00:03:54.500There's confirmation bias as well because there are other women so like we we wouldn't give an excuse to a woman who sleeps with our husband or our man
00:07:17.620Right, they never give younger women the game because the older women are actually vying for the same types of men that the younger women are vying for
00:07:25.380Right, and so you never ever tell your opponent the key to the game you can console them. Oh, my baby. You're so bad
00:07:32.980That's what you've done. Oh my god amazing
00:07:35.300But the same types of men that the older women want is the same types of men that the younger women want
00:07:39.540So the older women are never going to give you the game because they see you as competition
00:07:43.380Yeah, I want to talk about that earlier pearl and I were talking about that early
00:07:47.060I want to come back to you baby because you aren't you aren't talking much
00:07:50.900Do you feel do you have older women in your life that hold you accountable?
00:07:54.580Um, well, I actually hold myself accountable. No, no, no, no, you no one can hold you
00:07:58.580You can't hold yourself accountable because we're our own like if you don't have outside voice
00:08:02.980We just see ourselves how we see ourselves
00:08:05.300Accountability comes from someone saying listen accountability hurts. We don't hurt ourselves
00:08:10.420We don't tell ourselves the things that we need to hear you're dating a guy you like him and an older woman say