Most Women Don't Know THIS
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Summary
This week we're talking about a woman who can't have children because she's not a good mother because she doesn't want to have children. We also talk about how to balance a career and a family and how to deal with the pressures of being a wife and mother.
Transcript
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It's actually really quite sad to see that because it's a giant cope.
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Happiness is not the same as fulfillment, right?
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Happy, especially a lot of women, will just chase this negative rabbit hole of happiness,
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endless happiness, stimulation, stimulation, stimulation, right?
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And I think women do not have any greater fulfillment in their life than when they have a family,
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And every woman I've seen who is a grandmother, a great-grandmother, they are so fulfilled.
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They're all so happy, but more importantly, they're fulfilled because they can look around
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a room and see all of the human beings that came because of their sacrifice, because being
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a mother is a sacrifice, but that is because of them, right?
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And the second thing, it's really sad that this woman feels like she has to propagate
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the brainwashing that she received that led to her demise, that led to her leaving such
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And I genuinely feel sorry for her because she bought the lie, but the problem is that
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now she feels inclined to perpetuate the lie again and again and again, and can try to
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convince herself through public approval and public attention that her bad decisions weren't
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No, I know, but like, do you know, like it's so hard to think what one person might feel
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like if they feel inadequate and because a woman's job is to have children, like, you know,
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I mean, I know someone that can't have kids and I would say she does feel inadequate and
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it was devastating and it was probably like the worst news she probably ever could have
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But like, when I see that, like, and I do feel the same, I feel sorry because it does
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look like she's projecting that, but it's like, if that's her coping mechanism, baby,
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You know, like some women are born without the ability to conceive.
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So there's always going to be someone who gets the raw end of the deal.
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Can a woman pursue a career in a family at the same time without making sacrifices?
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I think even the women, us modern women that are doing it now, it's just, it's a huge sacrifice.
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Back then, I think it was a thing where you're a mother, you're a wife.
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That's just like, that should be your number one priority.
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I can't afford to live like that anymore, though.
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But then again, that's the situation we found ourselves in.
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And in this day and age, you can either do one or you can do both.
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You can either just stick to the olden days, be the woman at home or whatever, or you can try to do both.
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But doing both, you are going to sacrifice a lot of time, energy, money, and stuff.
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You're going to have to, you're going to have to, you can't do equally the same for both.
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I was at uni and I decided to like work on the side as well because I got a really good job.
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But the career that I wanted to go into was selling property.
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So I got that job and I had one last year of uni and I had a child.
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So I thought I could do all three, which was silly of me.
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But then I found that my son at the age of two spent like long hours in nursery and that costs like a thousand pounds a month alone.
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And then I got to a point I'm like, wait, you're actually being silly.
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So obviously I had to stop the job, even though it was like the last thing that I'd rather, I wanted to give up.
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That's why it took me so long and I sacrificed so much.
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But I'm like, I'm not even enjoying the job anymore because I'm not choosing the things that as a woman I should be prioritizing.
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So when I gave that up, I was a bit more like happier.
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I could spend more time with my son, focus more on my uni, get the grades that I needed.
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I would say I'll put my hands up and say that's something that I had to go through to know, to understand, because I just thought, you know what?
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Yeah, this age that he is, his friends are in nursery and stuff.
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But I realized that the week that I stopped working and I spent more time with him, I realized stuff that I never really acknowledged.
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And you don't know who's influencing your kids.
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That's where you get, like, even I have a little sister and, like, I come from a pretty conservative background.
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And she came out like a raging liberal out of high school because she had some, it was like a horseback riding teacher that was like this hippie.
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Because at that point, I realized that, oh, actually, someone else is raising my son, even though to society and this day and age, it's like, oh, he's a nursery.
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But no, I'd rather actually be the typical woman at home that takes care of my child.
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So then I know that I have a part in him being raised and what's going into his head.
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He started speaking, saying the words that I've never heard him speak about, certain conversations we're having after.
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I could sadly say that I did not know my child.
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Basically, they were raising him with that small £1,000 a month.
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Do you not think that having diverse friendship groups is important for a child to grow?
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Because don't you reckon, like, when we travel the world, right, I love that you're, like, shaking your head, ready, and like, oh, I'm ready.
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And in that has meant that our personality and our person has grown.
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Then why can't you teach all of that to your child?
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You don't need a million different influencers to tell them what to do.
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But part of that comes from playing with other friends.
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And, you know, having experiences from working.
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Like, having your child having friends is totally, totally different from the state.
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As in, you know, schools or nannies or, you know, whatever, like, these examples we've given.
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It's very different from them influencing your child with a certain doctrine and a certain worldview and certain values.
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Because you want your child to have the whole, ideally, I would hope, wholesome values that you and your partner believe in.
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Because at the end of the day, that's your child.
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Because if you don't protect your children in certain specific ways when they're growing up, even if they end up being fucked up or being influenced by something, even slightly so small, that's your child that is fucked, not them.
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So I would say that I'm really glad I didn't grow up to be like my mum.
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I'm just going to say that with all the love to her.
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Would you want your kids to grow up to be like you?
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I'd like them to make their own choices, to a degree.
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You think it can't just make their own choices?
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But if my kid's like, fuck you, I don't want to stay at home, I don't want to do this kind of like education.
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I think that's a bit of a sweeping generalization.
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So you said you want your kids to make your own choices.
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So I'm saying a 12-year-old wants to make his own choice.
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So I think what the container might be is like we're worried that it's going to be a completely different upbringing.
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Like we're going to bring in wholesome values and then the kid's going to go off and go, oh, I'm going to go do tattoos or I'm going to go in like...
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Why do you think like there'll be conservative Christian parents if they come home with these liberal-ass kids?
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No, I would say she struggled more with mental health than any of my other siblings.
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Do you think that's like correlation or causation?
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I think my sister was a baby loving, wanted to be a nurse, wanted all these, like, she's
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probably more naturally, like motherly than any of the girls.
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I would say she's a better cook than all of us.
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She's like the most natural mother and the liberals got her.
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