Mother and Daughter Got Schooled
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Summary
In this episode, we dive deep into the topic of virginity and sex. We talk about the difference between being a virgin and being a virgins, and why sex is a spiritual exchange and why you should wait to have sex until you re a virgin.
Transcript
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what do you guys think about the phrase i'm a woman that makes you wait for sex isn't worth
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the wait that's only true if you're that's only true if you're not if she's not a real virgin
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which i know you can't really you know just you can't really tell but that's that's what i think
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at least but i think you guys have to be mindful when it comes to sex it's not just sex it's a
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spiritual ex energy exchange i don't care you guys i have to say this stuff like like honestly
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it's not it's a big thing so do you really want to just be having sex with anyone and letting
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any kind of energy into your energy like it's not worth it is it i don't think it's worth it
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and that's can i just say that for us it is always a spiritual exchange for them it might just be sex
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and you might be thinking oh this is a spiritual exchange but it's not and that's why i probably
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could only date spiritual men now now at this point like i think if you thought it was a
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spiritual exchange you would have waited till you were married no like that's why that's what i mean
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like why like like men hear the things we say and it doesn't match up with what we do because it's
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like okay you're 32 you've been dating since you're 18 was every guy you slept with in the last 12 years
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a spiritual since 28 because i only spent 28 so eric my mindset completely okay do you realize there's like
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a pattern wait wait wait so there's like a pattern so this is this is like guys when they've dated enough
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women they start to see like patterns in our behavior and like one thing that they found was
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like women tend to like find god around the age of 28 so they kind of like start to rebrand so basically
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like like basically it's kind of like a red flag when you say around 28 i like found god or found the
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spiritual journey because it's kind of like okay i spent the first half of my 20s being a hoe and then
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now it's like i'm not i'm not saying a hoe but like okay what what is a hoe statistically more than five
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partners okay so okay look i don't i don't need to know but but what i'm saying like so a lot of
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times like women sort of try to rebrand it just doesn't really seem like genuine it's not rebranding
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it's growth like at the end of the day if you're going to be the same first of your life you're never
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going to get anywhere it might be but i'm just telling you how like men see it it's kind of like
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that's not the men for me okay okay okay listen listen but this is this isn't this isn't the men for
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me i'm telling you this is how like men see it where it's like before the men um i gave this away
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for free now you pay a premium price and so what that says to the men is you're not genuinely attracted
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to them because you were genuinely attracted to the first guy because you had sex with him right away
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but you're not that attracted to the second because you're making him wait and bro i would even i would
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even say that like you're like again going back to like your body's a temple it's not even just like
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your body's temple it's also like what food you eat you know how you treat your body like are you
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working out like are you taking care of yourself like these things are part of that and i think
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if you're doing all of those things then yeah that both people should wait because that means
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you're actually you love yourself in an authentic truthful way and you actually care about your
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body and your beliefs so that that's to me that would show that we should what would show like
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eating right eating right taking care of your body and also not like having a bunch of tattoos and
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not and not sleeping with a bunch of people oh okay i see i see so being pure being you know yeah
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so do you think that um majority of men think that let's say for example before you're 28 you
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slept around and then after 28 you found god reborn again no i think that's terrible that's just
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like that's just like a cover-up but who who is that though huh who like is that i don't think
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everyone's like that but not everyone's like that i'm saying but let's say there's a born again
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woman at 28. hold on i'm gonna read this some of them i mean let's give them credit some of them
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could be you can you can find god at the end of the day okay okay this is this is this is from the
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rational male um i previously described this phase as parallels um all right this this time the
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epiphany phase this is a precarious time for women usually between the ages of 28 and 30 where she
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attempts to reassess the last decade of her life women's um psyche psychological rationalization
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engine begins a furious effort to account for and explain her reasonings for not having successfully
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secured a long-term monogamous commitment from an alpha a man a man her attractiveness could attain
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for her even women married prior to this phase will go through some self-doubt or self-pity dealing
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with the on are the hyper hypergamic uncertainty of her choice is this really the best i can do
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it is during this phase that women will make radical shifts in their prior priorization of what
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traits qualify as attractive in a man an attempt to turn over a new leaf by changing up their behaviors
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to allowing to the with this new persona they created themselves for themselves since the physicality
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sexual prowess and the alpha dominance that made her formal arousal key it's like so more looks a
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formal arousal cues in men aren't as forthcoming from men when she was in her sexual prime she reprioritizes
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them with preferences for more intrinsic male attributes that stress dependability provisioning
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capacity humor intellect and um esoteric definitions of compatibility and intimacy for the spiritually
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inclined women this may manifest in a convenient return to the convictions she disregarded since her
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adolescence for adolescence for others it may be um a forced celibacy a refusal to have sex under the
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hype hypergamic i'm like what are these these big words ossip peas of her party years in hopes that a well
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provisioning male will appreciate her for her prudence so unlike herself and all the other girls who
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rejected him the last decade so it's essentially like a rebrand yeah exactly but it said even for married
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women it said right no that had been married oh well actually maybe wait let me rewrite because i
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i understood it as even married women go through some sort of shift you might be right you might be
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right i'm just trying to find it i understood that too and i think i experienced that as well
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i didn't divorce until i was 34 but i think that goes back to like emotions how like women act out
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of emotions and like i feel like women need to find better ways to deal with their emotions they're
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usually stuffing them down that's why there's so much obesity i know or smearing them out like
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pushing them out uh unsmearing them other people through projection it's it's pretty destructive
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it's like oh that's fine you can just be born again you can just do that you can just do that and
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it's like that's not that's not still not truthful and authentic who taught us what who taught us who
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taught us that i deal with our emotions maybe our parents didn't it's a natural thing no it's not what i
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think women naturally are emotional no but we don't naturally know how to deal not everyone knows
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you don't have to deal with it but you're naturally emotional in it that so whether you know how to
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do it when we say who taught us it's almost like a way for women like for us to like because i've
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noticed in our language we like take accountability off of women where it's like we blame our choices
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over who taught us where it's like if a guy's in jail they don't say who taught you that they just say
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you ever notice that for sure no absolutely like i don't think it's like intentional i just think
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i feel like there's like these little things in conversation where we like take accountability
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off of women and like put it onto someone else yeah thanks for shining light on that it's our
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responsibility as adults yeah definitely um okay um i i think i'm gonna read super chats one more time
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but let me actually i want to go back really quick oh can i add something to the list before i forget
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thank you thank you sorry if because you were talking about a good woman i think yeah if she
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how she deals with past mistakes so this is part accountability part admitting to them and as i
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appreciate her because she said i grew from that and i made better choices so how did she change your
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behavior after exactly so that's the third component does your behavior change oh maybe if
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she if he tells her something does it change do you know what i mean like if he says like you're
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argumentative does it switch or does she do the same thing yeah yeah yeah if he says get out of my
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um it's three months of seeing ask her to make him a coffee ask her to cook on the spot
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take a guys we could have did a better list i'm not gonna lie i think we could have improved this
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it's okay you know no no hate but i am hating on the list a little bit take a coffee date date as many
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women as possible to tell the difference make sure she's not on birth control what is her relationship
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like with her family and her dad how does she deal with past mistakes um yeah and if she's feminine all
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those i think just being open and honest as well is she open and honest how does she deal with difficult
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situations because you could talk to a woman oh sorry i didn't write that down earlier yeah you
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could talk to a woman and tell whether she's being oh like if she's telling you things while she's
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doing things throughout her day or she's meeting friends or whatever if she's openly communicating
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with you on a regular basis i think that's that's a healthy part of the relationship you get what i'm
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saying what do you mean by openly open like i don't know now she's got like just talking to you about
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things like everything she's doing she's just telling you openly and honestly like you're cool
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let's say she's met up with friends oh i've done this and and then she might talk about the conversation
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that they had i don't think my man would be interested to be honest and all that yeah why why why why
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wouldn't you think that the man's interested i might take up too much of the day that's right
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if you're in a relationship with someone and you're naturally because at some point you i'm curious what
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model like did you do you have like are you basing this off of what model i'm like no i'm just curious
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is there like a relationship model like someone in your life i feel like the the person i've met now
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we have a strong connection and and bond and openness in our relationship no i meant like growing
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up is that what you saw oh growing up growing up what as in what do you mean open and relationship i don't
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know yeah like it's just like the way you speak about relationships just doesn't match up with like
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what i've seen um in successful relationships so i'm just wondering like where relationships i can't
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say that i've had a successful relationship i don't know your parents or your grandparents or what my
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grandparents are still married okay and they're in the caribbean so i do have that my my direct
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parents or not but i think me growing up that list of what you're saying about going through a lot of
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people i went through to my teenage age 20 years of not doing a lot of things with girls but i changed a lot
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of girls regular so i have a lot of understanding of women and i've dealt with a lot of women okay
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talking bases not just sleeping with or whatever yeah because i've just i've just found that like
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men typically don't want to really hear about our problems like they don't know i'm not talking i'm
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not saying i want to hear your problems i'm just saying your day to an extent not not things about your
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friends and all that stuff but about if it's about you of course yeah i mean i think but i think they
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want to like problems that they can solve but not just yeah yeah yeah sure 100 but that's part of
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the openness and honest of the conversation if you come into me with certain things then i can
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see how i can help you maneuver that certain situation to the pretty wait for the pretty lady
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in the black dress if your ex don't want you i will have you i feel like if you're negative if if
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you're negative to your partner that's a negative thing like i think you should not i think you should
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only bring positive to the situation and there's a difference between being like oh my gosh this
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thing happened to me this thing happened to me then being like oh hey i had this situation how do
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you how would you work it out or how should i work it out that's so different and that's like also
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maturity so i think you have to always be positive and always have a positive outlook on life because
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if you're bringing negativity to anyone they're going to want to distance themselves from you i think
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that's important some people there's a lot of toxic relationships i don't know there is a there's a
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direct correlation between these men's posture and their list they submitted coffee is good
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typically three months typically is wild to wait i wish they would keep stop or they would