JustPearlyThings - Mother and Daughter Got Schooled

00:00:00.480 what do you guys think about the phrase i'm a woman that makes you wait for sex isn't worth

00:00:04.880 the wait that's only true if you're that's only true if you're not if she's not a real virgin

00:00:13.760 which i know you can't really you know just you can't really tell but that's that's what i think

00:00:18.560 at least but i think you guys have to be mindful when it comes to sex it's not just sex it's a

00:00:24.560 spiritual ex energy exchange i don't care you guys i have to say this stuff like like honestly

00:00:31.680 it's not it's a big thing so do you really want to just be having sex with anyone and letting

00:00:37.280 any kind of energy into your energy like it's not worth it is it i don't think it's worth it

00:00:41.600 and that's can i just say that for us it is always a spiritual exchange for them it might just be sex

00:00:49.280 and you might be thinking oh this is a spiritual exchange but it's not and that's why i probably

00:00:53.600 could only date spiritual men now now at this point like i think if you thought it was a

00:00:57.520 spiritual exchange you would have waited till you were married no like that's why that's what i mean

00:01:02.400 like why like like men hear the things we say and it doesn't match up with what we do because it's

00:01:06.480 like okay you're 32 you've been dating since you're 18 was every guy you slept with in the last 12 years

00:01:11.360 a spiritual since 28 because i only spent 28 so eric my mindset completely okay do you realize there's like

00:01:17.680 a pattern wait wait wait so there's like a pattern so this is this is like guys when they've dated enough

00:01:22.960 women they start to see like patterns in our behavior and like one thing that they found was 1.00

00:01:27.200 like women tend to like find god around the age of 28 so they kind of like start to rebrand so basically

00:01:32.160 like like basically it's kind of like a red flag when you say around 28 i like found god or found the

00:01:36.400 spiritual journey because it's kind of like okay i spent the first half of my 20s being a hoe and then 0.96

00:01:41.040 now it's like i'm not i'm not saying a hoe but like okay what what is a hoe statistically more than five 0.98

00:01:47.680 partners okay so okay look i don't i don't need to know but but what i'm saying like so a lot of

00:01:54.960 times like women sort of try to rebrand it just doesn't really seem like genuine it's not rebranding

00:01:59.440 it's growth like at the end of the day if you're going to be the same first of your life you're never

00:02:02.640 going to get anywhere it might be but i'm just telling you how like men see it it's kind of like

00:02:06.640 that's not the men for me okay okay okay listen listen but this is this isn't this isn't the men for

00:02:11.760 me i'm telling you this is how like men see it where it's like before the men um i gave this away

00:02:16.720 for free now you pay a premium price and so what that says to the men is you're not genuinely attracted

00:02:23.360 to them because you were genuinely attracted to the first guy because you had sex with him right away

00:02:28.880 but you're not that attracted to the second because you're making him wait and bro i would even i would

00:02:32.960 even say that like you're like again going back to like your body's a temple it's not even just like

00:02:36.560 your body's temple it's also like what food you eat you know how you treat your body like are you

00:02:41.440 working out like are you taking care of yourself like these things are part of that and i think

00:02:46.400 if you're doing all of those things then yeah that both people should wait because that means

00:02:50.800 you're actually you love yourself in an authentic truthful way and you actually care about your

00:02:56.640 body and your beliefs so that that's to me that would show that we should what would show like

00:03:01.440 eating right eating right taking care of your body and also not like having a bunch of tattoos and

00:03:05.600 not and not sleeping with a bunch of people oh okay i see i see so being pure being you know yeah

00:03:09.760 so do you think that um majority of men think that let's say for example before you're 28 you

00:03:14.960 slept around and then after 28 you found god reborn again no i think that's terrible that's just

00:03:20.160 like that's just like a cover-up but who who is that though huh who like is that i don't think

00:03:26.160 everyone's like that but not everyone's like that i'm saying but let's say there's a born again

00:03:29.840 woman at 28. hold on i'm gonna read this some of them i mean let's give them credit some of them

00:03:36.160 could be you can you can find god at the end of the day okay okay this is this is this is from the

00:03:42.480 rational male um i previously described this phase as parallels um all right this this time the

00:03:48.640 epiphany phase this is a precarious time for women usually between the ages of 28 and 30 where she 0.98

00:03:54.160 attempts to reassess the last decade of her life women's um psyche psychological rationalization 0.51

00:04:00.400 engine begins a furious effort to account for and explain her reasonings for not having successfully

00:04:06.080 secured a long-term monogamous commitment from an alpha a man a man her attractiveness could attain 1.00

00:04:11.360 for her even women married prior to this phase will go through some self-doubt or self-pity dealing 0.99

00:04:16.720 with the on are the hyper hypergamic uncertainty of her choice is this really the best i can do

00:04:23.760 it is during this phase that women will make radical shifts in their prior priorization of what 1.00

00:04:30.240 traits qualify as attractive in a man an attempt to turn over a new leaf by changing up their behaviors

00:04:35.280 to allowing to the with this new persona they created themselves for themselves since the physicality

00:04:41.120 sexual prowess and the alpha dominance that made her formal arousal key it's like so more looks a

00:04:46.560 formal arousal cues in men aren't as forthcoming from men when she was in her sexual prime she reprioritizes 1.00

00:04:52.800 them with preferences for more intrinsic male attributes that stress dependability provisioning

00:04:58.480 capacity humor intellect and um esoteric definitions of compatibility and intimacy for the spiritually

00:05:06.800 inclined women this may manifest in a convenient return to the convictions she disregarded since her 1.00

00:05:12.800 adolescence for adolescence for others it may be um a forced celibacy a refusal to have sex under the

00:05:18.960 hype hypergamic i'm like what are these these big words ossip peas of her party years in hopes that a well

00:05:26.400 provisioning male will appreciate her for her prudence so unlike herself and all the other girls who 1.00

00:05:31.840 rejected him the last decade so it's essentially like a rebrand yeah exactly but it said even for married

00:05:39.520 women it said right no that had been married oh well actually maybe wait let me rewrite because i

00:05:45.200 i understood it as even married women go through some sort of shift you might be right you might be 1.00

00:05:53.120 right i'm just trying to find it i understood that too and i think i experienced that as well

00:05:58.240 i didn't divorce until i was 34 but i think that goes back to like emotions how like women act out 1.00

00:06:02.880 of emotions and like i feel like women need to find better ways to deal with their emotions they're 1.00

00:06:07.040 usually stuffing them down that's why there's so much obesity i know or smearing them out like

00:06:11.440 pushing them out uh unsmearing them other people through projection it's it's pretty destructive

00:06:16.560 it's like oh that's fine you can just be born again you can just do that you can just do that and

00:06:20.720 it's like that's not that's not still not truthful and authentic who taught us what who taught us who

00:06:26.240 taught us that i deal with our emotions maybe our parents didn't it's a natural thing no it's not what i

00:06:31.520 think women naturally are emotional no but we don't naturally know how to deal not everyone knows 0.97

00:06:37.360 you don't have to deal with it but you're naturally emotional in it that so whether you know how to

00:06:41.520 do it when we say who taught us it's almost like a way for women like for us to like because i've

00:06:47.440 noticed in our language we like take accountability off of women where it's like we blame our choices 0.51

00:06:52.800 over who taught us where it's like if a guy's in jail they don't say who taught you that they just say

00:06:57.760 you ever notice that for sure no absolutely like i don't think it's like intentional i just think

00:07:02.720 i feel like there's like these little things in conversation where we like take accountability

00:07:06.640 off of women and like put it onto someone else yeah thanks for shining light on that it's our

00:07:10.480 responsibility as adults yeah definitely um okay um i i think i'm gonna read super chats one more time

00:07:21.760 but let me actually i want to go back really quick oh can i add something to the list before i forget

00:07:27.600 thank you thank you sorry if because you were talking about a good woman i think yeah if she

00:07:34.720 how she deals with past mistakes so this is part accountability part admitting to them and as i

00:07:43.760 appreciate her because she said i grew from that and i made better choices so how did she change your

00:07:51.200 behavior after exactly so that's the third component does your behavior change oh maybe if

00:07:57.520 she if he tells her something does it change do you know what i mean like if he says like you're

00:08:02.240 argumentative does it switch or does she do the same thing yeah yeah yeah if he says get out of my 1.00

00:08:06.400 house does she leave or stay

00:08:12.480 um it's three months of seeing ask her to make him a coffee ask her to cook on the spot

00:08:17.840 take a guys we could have did a better list i'm not gonna lie i think we could have improved this

00:08:23.920 it's okay you know no no hate but i am hating on the list a little bit take a coffee date date as many

00:08:29.840 women as possible to tell the difference make sure she's not on birth control what is her relationship 0.99

00:08:33.520 like with her family and her dad how does she deal with past mistakes um yeah and if she's feminine all 1.00

00:08:40.720 those i think just being open and honest as well is she open and honest how does she deal with difficult

00:08:45.680 situations because you could talk to a woman oh sorry i didn't write that down earlier yeah you

00:08:50.720 could talk to a woman and tell whether she's being oh like if she's telling you things while she's

00:08:54.720 doing things throughout her day or she's meeting friends or whatever if she's openly communicating

00:08:59.760 with you on a regular basis i think that's that's a healthy part of the relationship you get what i'm

00:09:04.480 saying what do you mean by openly open like i don't know now she's got like just talking to you about

00:09:10.160 things like everything she's doing she's just telling you openly and honestly like you're cool

00:09:15.680 let's say she's met up with friends oh i've done this and and then she might talk about the conversation

00:09:19.840 that they had i don't think my man would be interested to be honest and all that yeah why why why why

00:09:25.040 wouldn't you think that the man's interested i might take up too much of the day that's right

00:09:34.160 if you're in a relationship with someone and you're naturally because at some point you i'm curious what

00:09:39.280 model like did you do you have like are you basing this off of what model i'm like no i'm just curious

00:09:44.880 is there like a relationship model like someone in your life i feel like the the person i've met now

00:09:50.400 we have a strong connection and and bond and openness in our relationship no i meant like growing

00:09:56.480 up is that what you saw oh growing up growing up what as in what do you mean open and relationship i don't

00:10:02.720 know yeah like it's just like the way you speak about relationships just doesn't match up with like

00:10:07.760 what i've seen um in successful relationships so i'm just wondering like where relationships i can't

00:10:13.680 say that i've had a successful relationship i don't know your parents or your grandparents or what my

00:10:18.640 grandparents are still married okay and they're in the caribbean so i do have that my my direct

00:10:24.240 parents or not but i think me growing up that list of what you're saying about going through a lot of

00:10:29.920 people i went through to my teenage age 20 years of not doing a lot of things with girls but i changed a lot

00:10:36.880 of girls regular so i have a lot of understanding of women and i've dealt with a lot of women okay 1.00

00:10:43.280 talking bases not just sleeping with or whatever yeah because i've just i've just found that like

00:10:47.040 men typically don't want to really hear about our problems like they don't know i'm not talking i'm

00:10:51.600 not saying i want to hear your problems i'm just saying your day to an extent not not things about your

00:10:56.160 friends and all that stuff but about if it's about you of course yeah i mean i think but i think they

00:11:00.960 want to like problems that they can solve but not just yeah yeah yeah sure 100 but that's part of

00:11:07.760 the openness and honest of the conversation if you come into me with certain things then i can

00:11:12.160 see how i can help you maneuver that certain situation to the pretty wait for the pretty lady 0.86

00:11:17.120 in the black dress if your ex don't want you i will have you i feel like if you're negative if if

00:11:26.240 you're negative to your partner that's a negative thing like i think you should not i think you should

00:11:29.680 only bring positive to the situation and there's a difference between being like oh my gosh this

00:11:33.360 thing happened to me this thing happened to me then being like oh hey i had this situation how do

00:11:38.080 you how would you work it out or how should i work it out that's so different and that's like also

00:11:42.320 maturity so i think you have to always be positive and always have a positive outlook on life because

00:11:46.880 if you're bringing negativity to anyone they're going to want to distance themselves from you i think

00:11:50.880 that's important some people there's a lot of toxic relationships i don't know there is a there's a

00:11:56.160 direct correlation between these men's posture and their list they submitted coffee is good

00:12:01.040 typically three months typically is wild to wait i wish they would keep stop or they would

00:12:07.040 stop beating around the bush bring back sneeko 0.70

JustPearlyThings - August 15, 2023

Mother and Daughter Got Schooled

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