JustPearlyThings - May 15, 2023


Multi-Millionaire On How He Red Pills His Employees

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Peterson Dimitri Beast
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In this episode, I sit down with my good friend and business partner, Matt, to talk about how delusional people are and how to get rid of them. We talk about our company, Destroying Delusion, and why you should divorce your delusions from you.

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00:00:00.280 Like, I feel like a lot of times the way that men act is in response to the women.
00:00:04.780 Because, like, if we required marriage before sex, like, then men would wait, like, they would marry us before that.
00:00:10.040 But it's like, it's like, I feel like a lot of the way that men, like, the trad cons will, like, point at the men and be like, you act like this.
00:00:17.520 It's like, well, the women started it. 1.00
00:00:19.840 The problem is it's not, it's not, it's not men or women that are the problem.
00:00:24.440 It's delusional people.
00:00:25.660 Yeah.
00:00:26.140 It's not men or women. 0.52
00:00:26.920 Like, I don't care how much you want to argue biology.
00:00:30.120 You can't negotiate desire.
00:00:31.420 You can't argue biology.
00:00:33.440 Like, and people that, we had this gal on the show yesterday, right?
00:00:36.960 Like, she just had this belief of how things should be.
00:00:39.540 Right.
00:00:40.000 You know, and I sit down with guys in our company that are young, they come in, guys and girls.
00:00:44.500 And the first three lessons, we have a three-part video series they watch their first day at work.
00:00:48.120 And the three-part video series is Destroying Delusion 1, Destroying Delusion 2, and Destroying Delusion 3.
00:00:52.460 And I say, my goal for you when you start working here is to divorce your delusions, right?
00:00:58.400 Divorce your delusions from you.
00:01:00.680 Like, I want to point you to, like, you're going to say, well, this works, this works, this works, but I'm going to show you what actually works.
00:01:05.480 Okay.
00:01:06.120 That's it.
00:01:06.500 And some people go through that and they are thankful.
00:01:08.520 What are the delusions?
00:01:09.900 Oh, there's, like, for example, there's one, let's talk about sales for a second.
00:01:14.020 There's one delusion that, like, knocking on doors and selling doesn't work.
00:01:17.300 Like, oh, people don't buy like that anymore.
00:01:18.880 Everybody just buys on dinner.
00:01:19.900 That's just, like, that's delusional.
00:01:20.860 It's not true.
00:01:21.820 Like, we do millions a month in revenue from cold calling, from knocking on doors.
00:01:27.460 It works.
00:01:27.920 I mean, that's, like, a very rudimentary example, but it's just a fact, right?
00:01:31.000 With men and women, it's like, oh, my God. 1.00
00:01:33.840 Like, I mean, you know this.
00:01:34.900 Look, I'm 40.
00:01:36.160 What that means is that, like, my peer group is also 40.
00:01:38.460 So, I see things from the other side of the fence now.
00:01:40.520 You know what I mean?
00:01:41.220 And it's, like, all these folks that are, like, oh, you know, a woman should, you know, 0.98
00:01:46.140 like, not get married, blah, blah, blah, build a career.
00:01:47.960 It's, like, yeah, you've never met, like, a single 38-year-old woman.
00:01:51.480 You've never, like, I know them.
00:01:53.800 It's, like, who do you think a single 38-year-old woman's dating pool prospects are?
00:01:57.660 Like, you're a 38-year-old woman. 0.88
00:01:59.300 Is a 38-year-old single man going to date you?
00:02:03.080 It's got to be the older, like, 10 to 15 years old.
00:02:05.940 Well, so a 38-year-old man is, like, well, I can get a 25.
00:02:08.460 And it's, like, obviously a man's going to maximize his market for, like, fertility and beauty.
00:02:13.060 Like, that's just biology.
00:02:14.060 I'm not sorry if it's offensive.
00:02:15.100 It's just how it is.
00:02:15.900 We know this from a millennia of human existence.
00:02:18.460 It's, like, okay, so many millennia of human existence.
00:02:21.600 So, it's, like, okay, well, you're a 38-year-old woman.
00:02:24.260 Like, so the guy you're going after, is he divorced?
00:02:27.080 Probably.
00:02:28.400 Like, your market is just, like, divorced guys.
00:02:30.300 And they probably have kids because they're divorced.
00:02:32.060 They're probably a little bitter.
00:02:32.920 And they have some child support payments.
00:02:34.020 And so, your entire dating pool is basically reduced, like, divorced 50-plus.
00:02:39.260 That's a tough pill to swallow when you're 38, isn't it?
00:02:42.100 Yeah.
00:02:42.680 So, you know, again, when I talk about delusion, and especially, like, in our company, I'm, like,
00:02:46.600 I'm just going to show you how things are.
00:02:48.020 I'm going to show you data and statistics and actual outcomes.
00:02:51.380 You can make your own choices in life.
00:02:52.660 I'm not going to make you make a choice.
00:02:54.820 Can I have an example of one that you give to the guy?
00:02:57.180 Like, this is the delusion.
00:02:58.820 This is the stat.
00:02:59.880 This is the outcome.
00:03:00.820 I'll tell you a really, really simple one.
00:03:02.400 I'll tell you an anecdotal one because I think it's going to connect better with people that
00:03:05.360 are, like, in that zone.
00:03:06.160 So, I tell young guys in our company, you're going to start in our company.
00:03:08.480 You're 22, 23 years old.
00:03:09.620 You're going to be working 60, 70 hours a week for a couple years.
00:03:12.040 And your girlfriend has never seen you work 60 or 70 hours a week because you've been
00:03:15.040 together until you're 20 or 21.
00:03:17.080 She just expects you to be home every night to watch movies and take care of her. 0.98
00:03:19.940 At some point, your girlfriend's going to come to you and say, pick me or the job. 1.00
00:03:24.240 That's what's going to happen.
00:03:25.800 Wow.
00:03:26.120 Because, again, when they got into a relationship with that guy, that guy was, like, in school.
00:03:29.860 He had all the time in the world to talk to her 17 times a day, to text her back, blah,
00:03:32.840 blah, blah, blah, blah.
00:03:33.580 And now you're going to be working 60, 70 hours a week.
00:03:35.600 And you're going to be in meetings where you can't pick up the phone because you're in
00:03:37.560 a client meeting.
00:03:38.200 You're pitching a deal, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, right?
00:03:40.120 Sometimes you have to go in on a weekend to close a deal.
00:03:41.940 That's just what we do because we're, you know, successful men don't work 40 hours a week,
00:03:44.880 right?
00:03:45.080 Nobody gets rich working nine to five.
00:03:46.960 And I tell our people, like, you come to this company to work your ass off, build a business, get
00:03:50.080 rich.
00:03:50.300 You're not going to get rich working nine to five.
00:03:52.040 Like, you know what I mean?
00:03:52.600 They're not going to do flipping burgers.
00:03:53.920 You're going to do it building something significant.
00:03:55.780 Okay.
00:03:56.660 So when your woman comes to you with that choice, if you pick her over the job, you will lose 0.94
00:04:02.460 both.
00:04:04.100 If you pick your woman over your job, you will lose both. 0.98
00:04:07.640 Because then she thinks she can control you. 0.99
00:04:09.540 Well, here's how it actualizes.
00:04:11.540 It's scary.
00:04:12.140 So here's what happened.
00:04:12.780 They go, okay.
00:04:13.560 So I cut back my hours.
00:04:14.760 Now I'm being out-competed by younger, hungrier sharks in the company who are getting all
00:04:18.240 the sweet deals because who do I, who do we as a company want to give the best deals
00:04:21.620 to?
00:04:21.800 The people that will be available to pick up the phone 24 hours a day and close that
00:04:24.900 deal to make us the most revenue.
00:04:26.340 That's who the deals go to, right?
00:04:27.880 So now the deals are going to somebody else.
00:04:29.440 So now you're losing substantial portions of potential for income.
00:04:33.560 And then the last two times that I've had this guy in my company, different guys in my
00:04:38.640 company, both times they picked a woman.
00:04:40.620 And within a year, the woman left him for another guy.
00:04:43.620 Wow.
00:04:44.000 And you know who she left him for?
00:04:45.300 She left him for the guy who didn't give up his job over his woman. 0.98
00:04:48.240 She left him for an older, wealthier guy who at that age was just like, no, I'm going
00:04:52.280 to focus on myself and build myself more.
00:04:54.740 A woman doesn't leave her man for a poor, lazier man. 1.00
00:04:57.700 Right. 0.88
00:04:58.160 Why would you leave your man for a poor, lazier man? 0.97
00:05:00.500 Okay.
00:05:01.000 So out of 10 guys that come in with a girlfriend, how many does this happen to and how many pick
00:05:06.080 the girl?
00:05:07.620 Probably, well, here's what I sell.
00:05:09.200 I'm like, look, you're going to have to have the conversation before you start that this
00:05:12.040 is how things are going to look.
00:05:13.340 And there's going to be a time to make a choice.
00:05:15.000 So when I married, before I married my wife, started dating my wife, I told her up front,
00:05:18.640 I was like, I work a lot.
00:05:20.260 I'm always on the road.
00:05:21.300 I'm busy all the time.
00:05:22.640 This is the ride that you're signing up for.
00:05:25.020 And I cannot, I'm young enough that I'm going to have options for the next 20, 25 years.
00:05:29.160 Because I'm not going to, if you, if you come between me and my ambitions, then you become
00:05:33.680 a problem and I need you to be a solution.
00:05:35.160 And that's just something you have to get on board with, or I'm going to let you know 1.00
00:05:37.520 right now, we can just stay, you know, fuck buddies. 1.00
00:05:41.400 Because, because if you sign up for this and you become a problem between me and my career, 1.00
00:05:44.900 I'm going to pick career first.
00:05:46.540 That's the conversation.
00:05:47.380 I'm like, you're going to have to have a conversation with your girl about that too.
00:05:50.060 How many it happens with?
00:05:51.060 Probably seven out of 10 will pick the job.
00:05:53.160 And there, and now the reason that is...
00:05:54.720 That's pretty good, actually.
00:05:55.660 Seven out of 10 pick the job over the girl. 0.99
00:05:57.600 Yes.
00:05:57.800 I'm surprised it said hi.
00:05:58.920 Well, what happened is now we have very concrete examples of, before it was just me saying
00:06:03.160 it, but now we have other people, we have over 100 people in our company.
00:06:05.720 So now we have other guys that are like, hey, listen to Dimitri on this one, because
00:06:08.680 I've seen it happen where this dude picked the girl and then a year later she left him
00:06:12.720 for a different guy.
00:06:13.300 She leaves.
00:06:13.900 So now other people are backing up what I was saying.
00:06:15.820 And how long does it take till the, does the girl usually, if he doesn't pick her, leave 0.99
00:06:20.420 or no?
00:06:22.160 No.
00:06:23.080 No.
00:06:23.240 If he, if he, if he, if he picks the job, she'll stay. 0.94
00:06:25.480 She'll stay.
00:06:25.960 Yeah.
00:06:26.240 Until he decides that she's in his way.
00:06:27.740 If that, if that's what happens.
00:06:28.960 I don't know.
00:06:29.240 I mean, I don't want to common individual relationships.
00:06:31.160 No.
00:06:31.600 Usually the, usually if the woman sees her man has like a high ambition and a high potential
00:06:36.140 future, a woman will generally be complicit to like, to like being a part of that plan. 0.94
00:06:41.260 And that's what kind of changed my kind of idea on relation of just observing it.
00:06:44.260 Like, and again, this is going to kind of be very red pilly, but like usually a woman 1.00
00:06:48.800 is like really, really happy to comply to a powerful man.
00:06:51.420 And I'm not saying be coerced.
00:06:53.400 This is not coercion because she could leave at any time.
00:06:55.380 It's 80% of women that leave relationships, right? 1.00
00:06:57.380 But if a man is ambitious and if a man is on a mission, usually a woman is so thankful
00:07:02.100 to comply with that because she gets to be a part of that, which will piss off a lot
00:07:06.040 of people.
00:07:06.500 Sorry.
00:07:06.900 Can you give me another one?
00:07:07.920 That was so interesting.
00:07:09.320 The.
00:07:10.540 Divorcing delusion from reality.
00:07:11.780 Yeah.
00:07:12.180 Yeah.
00:07:12.460 I know.
00:07:13.020 I have to rewatch my own videos because it's like, it's like a three hour lecture.
00:07:16.020 Yeah.
00:07:16.300 This is so interesting.
00:07:18.640 Can I ask you, do you remember any of the delusion stuff or how we talk about it?
00:07:25.160 Yeah.
00:07:26.240 So one that stuck with me was when you told me that the job is not a job.
00:07:33.480 It's a lifestyle that you.
00:07:34.900 Ah, that's a huge one.
00:07:36.020 Yeah.
00:07:36.660 We talk about this a lot.
00:07:37.920 So anybody that becomes successful at anything, there's no successful people with a job.
00:07:41.500 They have a lifestyle.
00:07:42.120 Like you, you don't have a job.
00:07:44.000 Your job is your life.
00:07:45.060 Is it not your lifestyle?
00:07:46.240 Yeah, it is.
00:07:47.140 Like, like, so what happens is the most unsuccessful, and we work with over 15,000 multi, multi, multi,
00:07:52.660 multi-millionaires and ultra high net worth people.
00:07:54.360 It's our client base.
00:07:54.920 We're 15,000.
00:07:55.720 Right.
00:07:55.920 So people that are unsuccessful tend to have a very separate work and life.
00:08:01.520 Right.
00:08:01.840 So they're like, I have my balance.
00:08:03.100 They call it the balance.
00:08:04.260 What does that mean?
00:08:05.020 So I'm in at nine.
00:08:06.060 I'm out by four or five.
00:08:07.820 And then I have my family time.
00:08:09.080 And so job and life for unsuccessful, meaning financially and like, and like business people that are not financially
00:08:14.580 successful, their life and their job are totally separate.
00:08:17.600 Like they have a life and then they have a job.
00:08:19.660 And then they say things like, I want balance or my boss can't call me at home.
00:08:23.420 And it's like, okay, I won't.
00:08:24.340 I don't need to call you at home.
00:08:25.360 Right.
00:08:25.480 Like there's somebody more ambitious than you that's calling me at 10 p.m. saying, can you help me?
00:08:29.760 Right.
00:08:30.300 You know, the more successful people become, the more their life and their job become intertwined and married.
00:08:34.920 That's so true.
00:08:37.160 Mr. Beast like lives in his, I mean, I do too, but he literally lives in his office.
00:08:42.480 Do you know what I did?
00:08:43.200 True story.
00:08:43.940 When I was in Calgary, which is where I was living for six years building the office in Calgary in Canada, I had an office in the 12th floor of a building.
00:08:52.860 I ended up buying the 22nd floor two-story penthouse of that building to make it my home.
00:08:57.320 And so I lived on the 22nd story penthouse and I took the elevator down 10 floors to go in my office every day.
00:09:02.300 So that way I can just like integrate my life.
00:09:04.100 Because sometimes on a Saturday I need to pop by the office.
00:09:05.900 I don't want to drive 20 minutes. 0.99
00:09:07.080 I get in the elevator, I go down 10 floors into my office, I get my shit done.
00:09:10.520 And so everything became interesting. 0.62
00:09:11.580 So my wife knows, like for example, I just went to Asia.
00:09:14.740 I needed to visit my Hong Kong office.
00:09:16.000 So I took my whole family with me.
00:09:17.140 I ended up going to Thailand for two weeks.
00:09:18.280 I worked from there.
00:09:19.160 So my work and my life, so how do you see your family and kids?
00:09:21.220 I take them on trips.
00:09:21.900 I took my wife to Croatia and Hawaii last year, this year.
00:09:24.840 I have a business trip coming up.
00:09:26.100 Actually, a really funny one.
00:09:26.980 You know the guy, the meme, Hide Your Pain Herald?
00:09:30.100 He does the smile.
00:09:31.820 It's a very famous meme.
00:09:33.520 And I'm doing suits for that guy.
00:09:34.680 And he lives in Hungary.
00:09:35.440 So I'm taking my wife to Hungary.
00:09:37.140 I'm meeting Dr. Peterson in Bulgaria for a quick meeting.
00:09:41.800 I'm taking my wife to Bulgaria for the weekend.
00:09:43.680 So life and work just become intertwined.
00:09:45.560 Like it's just one thing.
00:09:46.560 Like for me, life and work don't have a separation.
00:09:48.960 And that's what I tell these guys as well.
00:09:50.100 It's like the more successful you want to be, integrate your life into your work.
00:09:53.180 It's not about working hours.
00:09:54.840 It's about results.
00:09:56.100 It's always about results.
00:09:58.160 Yeah, that reminds me of how I grew up.
00:09:59.880 Because like we grew up, like I feel like I grew up with a lot of the people that my dad worked with.
00:10:04.980 Like it's kind of, it kind of feels like they're like an aunt or something.
00:10:08.620 Like the people that literally worked for my family.
00:10:10.960 And we like went to India too to like see.
00:10:14.360 Because they had like a whole office in India.
00:10:16.300 Oh yeah, IT guys, right?
00:10:17.560 Yeah.
00:10:17.940 I'm going to India next week.
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