JustPearlyThings - June 24, 2023


Obese Man Claims That He Is Healthy


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Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

202.18027

Word count

1,867

Sentence count

1

Harmful content

Misogyny

3

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In this episode I am joined by a good friend of mine and we talk all things fat and fat positivity. We talk about obesity, body positivity and why it s so important to be kinder to people of all shapes and sizes.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 not just to you guys personally but the fat in general it's not are you blaming other people
00:00:04.880 for calling you guys out or do you want to take some personal responsibility and say hey it's on
00:00:09.560 me to lose weight i'll take on i'm not delusional if someone says you're big you're unhealthy i'm
00:00:16.020 like i just tell them look man i try and i'm unhealthy and it is what it is and that's why
00:00:21.640 i say kindness matters so much because you can actually be you can influence someone to lose
00:00:28.180 weight just by being kind and the reason i just think but i think that was true then we would
00:00:35.800 see more body positive people lose i'm sorry gyms are scary do you know what gyms do big muscle men
00:00:42.140 and skinny withy men that exercise and they're fast and they can probably poke you they actually laugh
00:00:49.880 that they actually laugh they take the piece but really when you're in the gym you're meant to be
00:00:54.580 like yeah come on you can do it and not actually make someone a certain way you want to hear some
00:00:59.260 ask a skill will actually tell you something worse than a human you know that sorry a skill will tell
00:01:03.640 you something worse than a human like saying numbers don't lie your numbers don't lie a skill will
00:01:09.300 speak will speak more like please turn to you than a human but you know i'm not saying like again
00:01:16.680 i'm not promoting eating unhealthy i'm promoting don't exercise wouldn't you say if someone says
00:01:21.460 you're fat it's the same thing as if you're tall it's just a fact pearl it's true i don't want to
00:01:27.500 get too personal but i do have health issues and that's why i that's why to encourage myself i do the
00:01:33.080 tick tock dancing i actually go out i'm active i i went surfing in cornwall i um went recycling and
00:01:41.500 plastic i actually do no that's my way of exercise because when i go to the gym and when i put too much
00:01:47.920 i have other issues and my body hurts and and my obesity is starting from childhood i got you three
00:01:53.240 trainers right here that can go through everything do you spend money to do these things you have
00:01:57.340 to spend money to go cornwall okay all right for a tree for a train spend money for uh surfing my
00:02:03.000 issue started is the same way you could spend money on uh nutrition one one day i will share my story
00:02:09.160 but my my i've a lot of things like just and i was unfortunate within life and that's why i always
00:02:16.640 live a positive life and i tell people be healthy eat healthy exercise and i and i will share my story
00:02:23.640 one day but that's the thing i don't want to be a story i don't want to be that person he's big and now
00:02:29.160 he's talking about this he's talking about that no i'm not going to be that person because that's what
00:02:34.400 people think that's what people think a plus-sized man is they're just basically there for there but
00:02:40.500 no i actually want to push myself i've got that push in life and that's what i'm doing and and along
00:02:47.200 with that push because it was so hard all my life that's why i spread love and positivity because
00:02:53.540 people were just damn right nasty can you can you say though can you say though conversations like
00:02:59.260 this are probably better than the positive body positivity movement isn't it but like i said when
00:03:04.540 i talk about body positivity i say it's about accepting yourself finish this sentence no i was
00:03:09.600 just saying it wouldn't you say talking openly about it is better than not just saying hey now i'm happy
00:03:16.100 and comfortable with my own way and i'm positive i need to protect my mindset but actually having
00:03:20.420 we're civil we get a long sugar puff i'm like we're not going at each other everything's all friendly
00:03:25.300 enjoying listening because educational isn't that isn't that better than the body positivity movement
00:03:30.900 do you know what it's just i see when i look at the pearl well sorry i need to remember your name
00:03:37.720 john john when i look at people i look into their eyes and easy i look at their face expressions
00:03:46.200 and sometimes i see people and i see and it's with any size or any shape or anybody i see sometimes i
00:03:55.060 see people have had a hard life and they're trying to keep it going and they smile and that's why i
00:04:01.500 don't see people in their way or the way they look because people have more to them and the thing is
00:04:07.320 i'm all about like i don't think you're answering his question though no but that's no okay the reason
00:04:13.300 the way i'm answering it is what i'm saying is i see people's soul and that's why for me weight
00:04:18.940 whether you're skinny fat small i don't i literally see people's soul and the worst and and and the crazy
00:04:24.960 thing is i'm usually right like i can i can look at someone and that's why sometimes when i know people
00:04:31.980 have when i know when i can tell people have just they go through stuff every day day to day i'm not
00:04:39.100 gonna lie that that's what makes me laugh that's what makes me happy because i want to encourage
00:04:42.460 but what conversations more productive i think that for us this is a productive conversation so
00:04:48.600 we're three people that have come here we know what the topic is we know what we're talking about
00:04:52.120 and we're willing to sit here on a challenge with a million subscribers and talk about it i think most
00:04:57.020 fat people wouldn't do that you know i don't think i don't think a lot of people even plus size
00:05:01.920 models i know personally would not be comfortable to sit here and defend the body positivity movement 1.00
00:05:06.380 and so it's easy for me to say well yeah this is a great conversation we're going on really well
00:05:10.260 but do i think that this would make some of my fat friends break down and cry because they don't
00:05:13.980 want to acknowledge the fact that um they're having a terrible time but maybe maybe they'll cry
00:05:19.280 and then start to lose weight sometimes it starts i'm telling you
00:05:23.840 you brought up edelle earlier let me tell you edelle went through a breakup she did not eat that's how sad 0.99
00:05:31.400 she lost weight all right all right all right i i i think it could be the first step you know i i'm
00:05:38.760 serious when the guys at my work they had this conversation about how women over 200 whatever
00:05:44.340 were so fat i went in the bathroom and i cried and then i ran a marathon and then i lost
00:05:49.200 that's great yeah and i i just think like instead of getting emotional about it we should think about
00:05:55.740 solutions but perl and i'm going to say different people have different mechanisms i'm just going to say i'm not going to lose sleep if someone is crying
00:06:03.300 uh when people are just telling the truth if perl is saying it helps it doesn't matter like you can't just
00:06:10.180 not say what you want to say because you're scared you're going to hurt someone's feelings
00:06:14.080 you know at the end of the day if it's the truth and someone is on the way to where it's unhealthy
00:06:18.700 they've got to deal with the reality you can't just say oh let's just protect them
00:06:21.660 guys it's just why people have different coping mechanisms as well please understand
00:06:26.520 like let them go would you rather your friend tell you or would you rather a scale tell you
00:06:31.460 i'd rather my scale and my friend tell me so i know to actually try actively be active
00:06:37.340 you turn that into motivation why not
00:06:39.340 why not take yeah exactly take that motivation i do need to lose weight i just think it's a very
00:06:46.340 personal thing where like if my boyfriend came to me and like me and my boyfriend have had this
00:06:50.920 conversation where i've been like i want to be healthier i need you to help me and he's like okay
00:06:55.620 well like my boyfriend has a sweet tooth but he's a very skinny guy and like he's like okay i won't eat
00:07:00.840 cake around you i don't want to tempt you you know and we've had those conversations but they're very
00:07:04.220 vulnerable conversations with people very close to you i don't think that we should be telling people in
00:07:07.920 general like about that and i think what and i think this is the problem i think as a society
00:07:12.780 we're too soft no i'm sure i do tell people have you ever had a conversation with like a 70 or 80
00:07:19.900 year old and you this is what i mean when i go to my grandma's house at christmas and they're just
00:07:24.020 like yeah you're fat i don't i don't i don't tell my friends that they're fat but i tell them look
00:07:27.900 it's unhealthy i'm not saying you do that to a stranger on the street but i i think in your social
00:07:32.360 circle at least somebody should tell i have a question if someone if um you know person a is
00:07:38.760 overweight and people whether it's strangers or their nearest and dearest tell them in whatever
00:07:44.440 way kindness first we hope that they are unhealthy and that you know i love you you're unhealthy you
00:07:51.340 need to get into the gym and i'll even come with you that person cries but then harms themselves
00:07:57.260 maybe on their lives themselves yeah a is that the person or the people who told them to lose
00:08:04.040 weight is that their fault and b if not is that just darwinism is that like survival of the fittest
00:08:10.360 yeah like the weakest just go because not only are you weak in body but you're also weak in mind
00:08:15.480 you're looking at a very minute example yeah okay that doesn't happen very often i wasn't giving an
00:08:20.320 example if that was a hypothetical if that was to happen for example i've got a fat mate how many times 0.94
00:08:26.400 we heard this i've got a fat friend okay i love the fat but i've got a fat i've got a fat friend
00:08:31.920 shout out to calca when he gets overweight we pull him aside we don't pull him aside we actually
00:08:37.200 our mates as a group together mate you're getting pudgy time to lose weight what's the new year's
00:08:41.520 resolution this year giving up maltesers again like we're just we dream up it's to a point if he's
00:08:47.200 going to go and harm himself again that's not on that's not on the group of friends that are jovially
00:08:53.800 have banter with him and encouraging him to lose weight that's just again pearl said society's gone
00:08:59.900 too soft i think it's a
00:09:01.020 you know
00:09:04.200 kinda
00:09:05.960 could happen
00:09:08.860 yeah
00:09:10.520 it's so
00:09:12.960 you