JustPearlyThings - Old Lady Schools Modern Women On Female Nature

00:00:00.000 is a woman being bisexual is that a plus for you sometimes there's only room for one degenerate 1.00

00:00:09.520 in this relationship and that's me so in a wife is that is that a plus no no no no no for me no

00:00:15.960 no it's it's it's it's seen as cheating so i was in a relationship i was in love before i was

00:00:21.060 married i was in love and um we were out all night i had some friends home and it was an after party

00:00:29.720 just chilling out i went to bed and uh my girlfriend at the time was just hanging out with some friends

00:00:34.320 and then she wandered in with a girl i was just i was just half asleep looked up and they just sat

00:00:41.260 on top of the bed and they started kissing and i was so upset haram

00:00:46.180 the crazy things i look back i look back like oh my god i missed such fun you know i could have so

00:00:55.800 much fun there but in the moment if i'm love in love with her she's cheating doesn't matter who it is 1.00

00:01:00.500 i couldn't do it did she think you were going to be into it and did you freak out yeah i said get

00:01:06.620 get the hell out of here you kick them out that's how you could have at least jumped in first and then 0.90

00:01:15.240 so i have a video i wanted to show you guys um of two girls kissing you no no no not that sorry

00:01:22.840 this is actually from a woman who um talks about like the mindset you have to have in a traditional

00:01:27.360 marriage so um do you want to pull up the video this is called the transformed wife for anyone who wants

00:01:33.120 to you know follow her on youtube oh my god she's ancient oh damn that was from a woman that was 1.00

00:01:39.780 from a woman just starting it out there female sexual competition coming i think she's been married 1.00

00:01:45.900 for a long time how would you open there's a theory out there even among christians that our husbands

00:01:52.620 are supposed to meet our emotional needs now you can't find that scripturally there to be our

00:01:59.600 spiritual leaders they're to wash us with the word and if we have a question at church we're to ask

00:02:05.760 them at home so they're definitely our spiritual leaders their head over us we're to submit to their

00:02:11.560 leadership they are an authority over us they are to protect us nourish and cherish us as ephesians 5 says

00:02:21.800 and they are to provide for us if any man does not provide for his family he is worse than an infidel 0.95

00:02:29.460 but none of these verses there's no verse in the bible that says that our husbands are supposed to

00:02:37.100 meet our emotional needs what are they even you know to me that's such a that's not something you can

00:02:44.340 grab a hold of you can grab a hold of being the spiritual leader you know washing us with the word

00:02:50.100 reading the word reading the word to us rebuking us teaching us we can define what providing for us

00:02:55.980 me means meeting our physical needs our need for clothing and for food and shelter you can define

00:03:06.740 what protection means to protect us from harm and injury or when we're injured they'll help us

00:03:15.300 but you can't really clearly define what our emotional needs are and this is why in fact i just

00:03:24.820 studied yesterday i wrote a post about it yesterday i'll link it below but the term emotional needs didn't

00:03:30.320 even come into existence until the 80s and it was pop psychology and it caused us to look inward and think

00:03:39.480 about us and what we need and define what our emotional needs we all get to define what our

00:03:45.620 emotional needs are we don't define those other needs the spiritual the being protected the being

00:03:51.640 provided for this you know our husbands being our spiritual leader those are defined in scripture

00:03:58.620 but our emotional needs we get to define what those are and so they become what this article said is

00:04:05.940 it's narcissists it's thinking about ourselves and what we want yes we were created emotional beings

00:04:12.600 we cry we laugh we grieve we mourn we praise the lord you know but god tells us over and over again

00:04:23.080 that we are to be joyful and thankful to take every thought captive to the obedience of christ

00:04:28.920 to renew our minds to renew our minds with god's word all of our emotions come from our thoughts

00:04:36.020 and we alone are the only ones who control our thoughts i used to use my emotions continually

00:04:44.220 in the early years of my marriage to manipulate my husband and it was ugly you know and women will 1.00

00:04:53.140 use their emotions all the time to manipulate others we use our emotions after before we're going to

00:04:59.800 start our period and and we get in bad moods and we're sour and we're we can justify that because

00:05:05.360 we're going to start our period or when we're sick and i had to learn when i was sick for many years

00:05:12.120 that just because i was miserable i wasn't going to make other people miserable there's no way my husband

00:05:18.720 could have met all of my emotional needs of despair and and pain and suffering and um almost falling

00:05:26.340 into a pit of depression when i was so ill for so many years i had to learn to take my thoughts

00:05:32.380 continually captive to the obedience of christ i went to renew my minds you can pause it women it's 0.93

00:05:39.100 your job to be in control of your emotion so is your husband supposed to meet your emotional needs

00:05:47.160 she's right she makes she makes it she makes a really good point doesn't she because this is

00:05:54.760 kind of what i was less articulately trying to say in the sense that we emotional needs is a very

00:06:00.080 nebulous term right what does it actually mean you know it's hard to grab hold of right like she says

00:06:04.400 but the problem is that marriage is now predicated on that so a woman will say well he didn't meet my

00:06:10.760 emotional needs so therefore i'm gonna divorce him and i'm gonna go and travel the caribbean for five

00:06:16.020 years and you know find myself whatever but it's like it's an ever-shifting thing isn't it emotional

00:06:21.500 needs it can change on the on the you know the on the turn of a coin really and um that's that that's

00:06:27.980 the problem that we have in marriage today and certainly in formalizing marriage into a into a

00:06:34.820 contract and trying to bind people with that contract when it's based in emotion which is which

00:06:39.840 is changeable i mean if you are gonna base your life your business your diet program whatever on

00:06:47.700 emotionalism you're gonna fail like imagine you go to google and you're like hey like what is the

00:06:53.200 capital of india and it's like sorry we don't feel like answering that right now would google be the

00:06:57.240 number one search provider in the world no right if you're gonna base your life upon how you feel

00:07:03.220 it is an absolute guarantee that you are gonna be a failure but this is where there's always a

00:07:09.260 clash i feel between men and women because women are by nature and it's the beauty of them they're

00:07:13.540 emotional creatures where men are very logical and i feel like sometimes you have to understand

00:07:17.920 and have patience with each other and understand because sometimes this this is a like women will 1.00

00:07:24.000 say um i just need a man that understands me yeah i need a man that's understanding but then

00:07:29.220 we don't even we don't even understand ourselves i need a man that's understanding and understands me

00:07:36.000 and then they'll be in a mood i won't tell you why and they just expect you to know like we're geniuses

00:07:40.160 but that's the beauty of women though and they'll leave the relationship to find themselves 1.00

00:07:43.720 do you know what i mean it's true to the black if you knew yourself why'd you have to find yourself

00:07:47.500 exactly and how many times men yeah we've been in a relationship and your missus will come back

00:07:51.900 and she's got she's she's modest she's not speaking what's up no nothing yeah you want me

00:07:57.660 to be understanding i don't know what i wish i'm with and they they get angry i was like why why do

00:08:03.440 we not understand them but we're very easy to understand we're the most plain straight down the

00:08:07.400 line okay i'm upset about this women they don't but that's the beauty of them men and women are

00:08:11.060 different silent doesn't that link to like a boredom theory so i heard this theory right and

00:08:15.800 stick with me this might be this might be a little long-winded thing so boredom theory that i saw

00:08:20.520 online it's essentially saying that we now live in a world right that all the essential things that

00:08:26.140 needed to be done are done so people are now so bored with reality that they are finding things to

00:08:32.240 argue about think about like this in medieval times when they had to worry about famine and where their

00:08:37.640 water's coming from women's rights and emotional back and emotion and the husband's being the emotional 0.90

00:08:43.140 rock was never a thing yeah back when back in um mongolian days when when all these guys are doing 1.00

00:08:50.140 the emotional needs of a marriage was never brought up but it is now why is it different now

00:08:55.440 to back then what is different the thing that is different now is now human race has got

00:09:00.440 most of their shit in order and now it's about feelings it's not about duty that's what i'm saying 0.67

00:09:05.620 about if you feel like and that's a western centric problem you know like if you're just about to

00:09:10.080 say this as well if you look at the east okay india divorce rate one percent vietnam divorce rate

00:09:17.020 does anybody know the vietnam divorce rate in vietnam no no seven percent okay look at all the

00:09:23.740 philippines divorce do you guys know divorce rate in philippines it's very low my fiance's filipino

00:09:28.540 zero because it's illegal they don't oh yeah it is it is

00:09:33.320 there you go there you go i'm insane don't don't oh you know what's funny you know what's funny as

00:09:42.600 well guess what else is illegal and you'll be very happy about this abortion and he's gonna

00:09:47.160 Paul's moving to manila

JustPearlyThings - June 16, 2023

Old Lady Schools Modern Women On Female Nature

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