JustPearlyThings - October 23, 2023


Older Women Deserved to be PUNISHED for Giving Wrong Advice


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Length

39 minutes

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189.06554

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7,397

Sentence count

715

Harmful content

Misogyny

48

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Toxicity

43

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Hate speech

29

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In this episode, we talk about what we would give up for a man and how we would change our appearance to be a better version of ourselves. We also talk about our fears of plastic surgery and the things we would be willing to give up to be with a man.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 Like that, like just scrolling in, you know, wasting my time.
00:00:02.920 I wouldn't even care if I want to delete my Instagram, to be honest.
00:00:06.040 If you're meant to ask for it, you're going to delete it, isn't it?
00:00:07.960 Yeah, 100%. Yeah.
00:00:09.680 What about girls trips? Would you give up girls trips? 0.80
00:00:12.360 100%.
00:00:13.720 They're nice.
00:00:14.320 Yes, but I love my girls trips. 1.00
00:00:16.920 Actually, tonight when I go home, I'm going to ask him.
00:00:20.560 Is it like going on holiday or...?
00:00:22.440 I'm going to ask him if there's one thing he wants me to give up on,
00:00:26.920 what would it be?
00:00:28.080 I don't know. I should ask him.
00:00:29.080 He might come and hold this.
00:00:30.400 I think you should.
00:00:31.400 Yeah, exactly.
00:00:32.400 What if he came back and said, now that you asked?
00:00:35.200 Yeah.
00:00:36.200 I've been thinking this and this and...
00:00:41.360 Well, no, it's actually interesting.
00:00:43.120 You make me kind of like aware of what's going on.
00:00:45.600 What about plastic surgery?
00:00:46.480 Would you get plastic surgery for a guy?
00:00:48.480 If, like I did my boob job because after I had Neda,
00:00:52.680 I just lost the fat because I lost weight and I did it for myself
00:00:57.080 because I hated it and I wanted to do it.
00:00:59.400 But if I had to do it because of him, no, not really, no.
00:01:07.160 I'm scared of plastic surgeries.
00:01:08.560 I mean, I did this 10 years ago, but now I'm getting older.
00:01:11.000 I'm scared of that sort of thing.
00:01:12.720 Okay.
00:01:13.720 Um, did you say what you would give up for a guy?
00:01:16.040 You know what?
00:01:17.040 This actually, this conversation made me think when I was younger.
00:01:20.040 Mm-hmm.
00:01:21.040 We actually, we women, we do that. 1.00
00:01:23.040 We do give up things.
00:01:24.280 We, why do we dress a certain way to, for men to look at us?
00:01:29.680 And I think, you know, I think there was times when I was too conscious of,
00:01:34.920 I want to be a certain way so I can get the attention from men.
00:01:38.920 Mm-hmm.
00:01:39.920 But now that's not the case anymore.
00:01:41.800 That's where I can speak freely about this.
00:01:43.560 Uh, if I would get plastic surgery, no.
00:01:46.920 Uh, giving up things like my social media, my career, yes.
00:01:54.240 But when it comes to, I don't know, this is, it's just.
00:01:58.560 Well, I think it's the age as well because I know I'm thinking when it was about 20, 25 and I had a boyfriend and I fell in love with him and to be honest, I would have done anything, but not now.
00:02:09.560 Were you more in love then?
00:02:11.560 Probably.
00:02:12.560 Okay.
00:02:13.560 So, so it, it sounds like for the, like the right guy you would give up more.
00:02:19.560 Yeah.
00:02:20.560 I mean, I don't know.
00:02:22.560 Is it, is it the age or am I wrong?
00:02:24.560 Is it the age?
00:02:25.560 I don't know.
00:02:26.560 It's just the love.
00:02:27.560 It can't be, it can't be only the guy, it should be your age as well.
00:02:31.560 Yeah.
00:02:32.560 But I think for me it was the opposite.
00:02:33.560 It was, I don't know, maybe like I was raised by a feminist mom and he was like, don't get married, don't have kids, don't do what you want.
00:02:40.560 I know.
00:02:41.560 No, but she's very happy.
00:02:42.560 She's got a granddaughter. 0.65
00:02:43.560 I'm, I'm the only one out of her four kids who's given her a grandchild.
00:02:47.560 Could it be because when you get older, when you get more experience, experience and you get more confident, you kind of feel like, why do I have to do that?
00:02:54.560 Maybe because, maybe because you don't love you that much.
00:02:57.560 If I did have that mindset.
00:02:58.560 I don't call it, I don't, I don't think it's love only.
00:03:01.560 What is it?
00:03:02.560 No.
00:03:03.560 I don't think I should do something because I should do my boob job because I love him and he wants me to do it.
00:03:07.560 I don't call it love.
00:03:08.560 If he would really, truly love me, he would love me the way I look.
00:03:12.560 Yeah.
00:03:13.560 I'm not gonna lie.
00:03:14.560 I've got a second there still.
00:03:15.560 That wouldn't be my ideal man.
00:03:16.560 I've got a second there, you know.
00:03:17.560 Would not want me to have a. 0.97
00:03:18.560 I just don't like all that, any of that stuff anyway, but so.
00:03:21.560 I think I call it my, I'm more mature in terms of making decision rather than just because someone.
00:03:29.560 Like a cougar.
00:03:30.560 Maybe I would have, maybe I would have tell him.
00:03:33.560 Wait, wait, wait.
00:03:34.560 Blessing.
00:03:35.560 I have to give a statement.
00:03:39.560 Um, okay.
00:03:40.560 Is King, is Michael here?
00:03:43.560 Can you see if he'll take the show for like while I go do it?
00:03:46.560 I have to give a police statement, I guess for the lady. 1.00
00:03:48.560 She called the police.
00:03:49.560 Oh, I'm so sorry.
00:03:51.560 Serious.
00:03:52.560 Yeah.
00:03:53.560 But guys, we're going to get King Richie's to take over the show.
00:03:56.560 Yes. 0.94
00:03:58.560 It's ridiculous. 0.98
00:04:00.560 Seriously? 0.98
00:04:01.560 She called the police?
00:04:02.560 Yeah, I guess.
00:04:03.560 She couldn't just.
00:04:04.560 Lord of mercy.
00:04:05.560 Are you sure it's not a crackhead in a police outfit?
00:04:07.560 No.
00:04:11.560 Ah, what's going on?
00:04:12.560 What's going on?
00:04:13.560 Yeah.
00:04:14.560 I was right when I told her calm down when she spoke to me in a certain time.
00:04:17.560 I saw her and it was getting a bit spicy.
00:04:19.560 She was drunk already.
00:04:20.560 I've got to say.
00:04:21.560 She came here drunk. 1.00
00:04:22.560 No, from my side, I just said calm down and she went. 1.00
00:04:24.560 No, no, I'm just saying that the environment was just real spicy.
00:04:27.560 What?
00:04:28.560 She just.
00:04:29.560 Yeah, she went off, man.
00:04:30.560 And then she was trying to say that I said that domestic abuse was okay.
00:04:34.560 I didn't even say anything like that.
00:04:35.560 I don't know where she got these ideas.
00:04:37.560 I think she was made wrong.
00:04:38.560 The voices in my head.
00:04:40.560 Yeah, I'm with it.
00:04:41.560 She was saying a lot of crazy things.
00:04:42.560 And going off on random tangents as well.
00:04:44.560 And just not even just listening.
00:04:45.560 So how tall are you?
00:04:46.560 I wanted to hear.
00:04:47.560 Before I go.
00:04:48.560 I wanted to hear.
00:04:49.560 So you said you had a feminist mother. 1.00
00:04:50.560 When did you?
00:04:51.560 Because you seem actually pretty based.
00:04:53.560 Yeah.
00:04:54.560 So I'm like, you don't scream like feminism to me. 0.96
00:04:57.560 So I rebelled against my mom.
00:05:00.560 Finally.
00:05:01.560 Well, yeah, I was born 1980.
00:05:04.560 So I grew up in the 90s.
00:05:06.560 And yeah, moving from Iran to Sweden.
00:05:10.560 It was my mom was like, woohoo, freedom.
00:05:13.560 Do what you want.
00:05:14.560 Was your mom a single mother?
00:05:16.560 Yeah, they split up when I was 12.
00:05:19.560 She divorced my dad and had two jobs, two, three jobs. 1.00
00:05:22.560 And, you know, really tried to provide for us.
00:05:24.560 Really good mom.
00:05:25.560 Amazing.
00:05:26.560 I love her.
00:05:27.560 But she really, I said to her, my only complaint was like,
00:05:29.560 you raised me based on ideologies that you had.
00:05:32.560 You know, I never really got you.
00:05:35.560 It was more what you believed in about, you know, being a feminist, 1.00
00:05:38.560 being an atheist.
00:05:40.560 And so, yeah, and I, yeah, I'm definitely not a feminist.
00:05:47.560 So I'm curious, do you feel, did your mom ever get remarried?
00:05:51.560 No, she was with someone for like 20 years, but not, she didn't get remarried.
00:05:56.560 Oh, okay.
00:05:57.560 So I was just wondering if she had a better outcome or not.
00:05:59.560 I've always wondered about that when, sorry, my goodness.
00:06:02.560 No, and that's not direct to you personally, but because I grew up single parent home,
00:06:06.560 but I've always wondered where they told that they were out there working two, three jobs.
00:06:11.560 Yeah.
00:06:12.560 As a single mother and then telling her daughter to go out and do the same. 0.94
00:06:14.560 I just, I don't understand how.
00:06:16.560 Okay, guys.
00:06:17.560 I just don't get it, man.
00:06:18.560 Did not make sense.
00:06:19.560 I mean, I've worked two, three jobs before and it's not fun.
00:06:21.560 Guys, I have to go give a police statement, so.
00:06:23.560 Real mystery.
00:06:24.560 Real mystery.
00:06:25.560 Real mystery.
00:06:26.560 I have to go give a police statement, so I'm going to let you host for a second.
00:06:28.560 Oh, wow.
00:06:29.560 Okay.
00:06:30.560 Yeah.
00:06:31.560 This is King Rich's.
00:06:32.560 He's one of the most talented.
00:06:35.560 Hello.
00:06:36.560 Hi.
00:06:37.560 He has a show.
00:06:39.560 Anyways.
00:06:40.560 We're talking about what would you give up for the right guy.
00:06:44.560 Oh, that work.
00:06:45.560 Them ones.
00:06:46.560 Okay.
00:06:47.560 Okay.
00:06:50.560 Wow.
00:06:51.560 What's going on, people?
00:06:53.560 Hey.
00:06:54.560 So, where am I picking up?
00:06:57.560 Like, what was the current conversation?
00:06:59.560 I heard.
00:07:00.560 What's she going to do?
00:07:01.560 Mandana was saying about how her mother raised her based on ideologies and she never really
00:07:07.560 got her, but then we was talking, this lady right here, this young lady was talking about
00:07:12.560 her experiences with her mother.
00:07:14.560 Oh.
00:07:15.560 Being raised, yeah, as a feminist, so. 1.00
00:07:18.560 Oh, your mum was a feminist? 1.00
00:07:20.560 Yes.
00:07:21.560 And she tried to install that programming into you? 0.53
00:07:23.560 She did.
00:07:24.560 Did you accept it or reject it?
00:07:26.560 Well, I went along with it and growing up, like I was saying, I was, you know, born 1980
00:07:29.560 and then being a teenager in the nineties, Madonna and you know, all of that.
00:07:34.560 She's.
00:07:35.560 Material girl.
00:07:36.560 Yeah.
00:07:37.560 The height of feminism.
00:07:38.560 Yeah.
00:07:39.560 Yeah.
00:07:40.560 Went along with that.
00:07:41.560 And then, you know, someone mentioned neo independent woman, you know, the music on a huge.
00:07:46.560 Yeah.
00:07:47.560 Carmen mentioned that I had a huge impact.
00:07:48.560 And yeah, I thought that was the, the, the right way.
00:07:51.560 So I worked hard.
00:07:52.560 I mean, literally my twenties, I worked like 78 hours a week.
00:07:56.560 I loved my job.
00:07:57.560 Absolutely loved it.
00:07:58.560 Um, and then I did settle down with the guy, but I didn't get married because that wasn't
00:08:04.560 a value.
00:08:05.560 Like my mum was like, don't worry about getting married. 1.00
00:08:07.560 I'll have kids.
00:08:08.560 Just live your life.
00:08:09.560 Maybe not.
00:08:10.560 So your, so what your mum was like, yeah, just go out there, get money and live your movie.
00:08:14.560 Yeah.
00:08:15.560 So like, how do you feel about that now?
00:08:17.560 Um, do you feel like she might have steered you in the wrong direction?
00:08:22.560 Um, you can be real man.
00:08:26.560 She's not here.
00:08:27.560 It's okay.
00:08:28.560 No, I love my mum.
00:08:30.560 And you know, she's a, you can love your mum, but your mum still can be wrong, you know?
00:08:35.560 Yeah, absolutely.
00:08:36.560 And I do tell her that every day, bless her.
00:08:38.560 If you had your time again, would you?
00:08:40.560 No, I would, um, I would get married.
00:08:44.560 I would have gotten married.
00:08:47.560 Um, yeah.
00:08:48.560 Stayed married?
00:08:49.560 And stayed married.
00:08:50.560 Would you have marriage after your daughter's husband? 0.74
00:08:51.560 I was, I was with my daughter's dad for 12 years.
00:08:54.560 Um.
00:08:55.560 Do you think he should have been your husband?
00:08:58.560 Do you know, like in the beginning, like when he mentioned marriage, I thought, I don't
00:09:01.560 want to get married, forget that.
00:09:02.560 Like.
00:09:03.560 Oh snap.
00:09:04.560 Yeah.
00:09:05.560 And, um, I never really understood like the, the value in getting married, but I think like
00:09:09.560 actually giving your word, giving your word that you are going to stick with this
00:09:13.560 person.
00:09:14.560 I think that will make a bigger difference in actually making it work.
00:09:19.560 Do you think, do you, would you agree that a lot of times, a lot of older women give younger
00:09:24.560 women bad advice? 1.00
00:09:25.560 A hundred percent.
00:09:26.560 One thousand percent.
00:09:27.560 What do you lot, what do you lot think about that?
00:09:29.560 A hundred percent.
00:09:30.560 I do agree with that.
00:09:31.560 A hundred percent.
00:09:32.560 That's what makes the market.
00:09:33.560 That's what got kicked out basically.
00:09:34.560 That's what I was saying to her.
00:09:35.560 I'm like, but why?
00:09:36.560 She was the oldest one here mate.
00:09:38.560 Yeah. 0.83
00:09:39.560 Crazy.
00:09:40.560 I think it just depends on, like you said, the programming, what programming did that
00:09:44.560 older woman receive? 0.76
00:09:45.560 The software.
00:09:46.560 What kind of software was installed?
00:09:48.560 Exactly.
00:09:49.560 So if you, if you've got the corrupt, if you've got the malware, you can only hand down
00:09:52.560 malware.
00:09:53.560 You know, like that.
00:09:54.560 If you get, if you come from a two parent household, then you're more likely to still,
00:09:59.560 yeah, you should come, you should, a two parent household should come from you because 0.99
00:10:02.560 you came from a two parent household.
00:10:03.560 But if you come from a single parent household and it's the mum saying, yeah, well, I would 0.96
00:10:07.560 had to work two, three jobs.
00:10:08.560 So I don't, maybe they say they don't want that for her, but what is for their child?
00:10:12.560 Yeah.
00:10:13.560 But the reason is that, that, that men are bad in it.
00:10:15.560 Like you can't find a good man basically.
00:10:17.560 I'm like, my dad wasn't the best.
00:10:19.560 I loved him.
00:10:20.560 Like to me, he did his best, but as a husband and how he treated my mom in certain ways.
00:10:29.560 But I also, you know, I think a lot of women don't take responsibility for their part. 0.97
00:10:35.560 They don't see the psychological abuse.
00:10:37.560 They just don't see it.
00:10:38.560 Like constantly making a man wrong. 0.99
00:10:40.560 Like the way women can make a man feel like shit is women don't really see that. 0.99
00:10:47.560 So what do you think about, you know, feminism? 1.00
00:10:51.560 What do you think about it though? 1.00
00:10:52.560 I think it's bullshit. 1.00
00:10:53.560 It's like set us back, like way back. 1.00
00:10:56.560 And the way the, oh, don't get me started.
00:11:00.560 I'm sorry.
00:11:01.560 I prefer it way back.
00:11:02.560 I think what I, what I noticed in like, when I really look at like the society and the media, especially like, if you notice a lot of media kind of, it kind of installed that programming as well.
00:11:15.560 Because like, for instance, when you watch like a lot, even cartoons, you might watch the Simpsons or family guy. 0.98
00:11:21.560 The dad is always like an idiot. 1.00
00:11:23.560 He's always like a fumbling. 1.00
00:11:25.560 And the mom has to be the one controlled, the one that's level headed where the, where the dad is just like an idiot. 1.00
00:11:30.560 And you know, it's subtle, but it is actually quite significant. 0.99
00:11:35.560 Cause everybody watches the Simpsons.
00:11:37.560 Everyone watches family guy.
00:11:38.560 Family guy.
00:11:39.560 Yeah.
00:11:40.560 And it's just like, yeah, I think that society, um, the media, it really pushes for like, you know, men are incapable.
00:11:47.560 Women have to take the, the, the reins of everything can like girl power kind of thing. 1.00
00:11:51.560 What do you not think about that?
00:11:52.560 I agree.
00:11:53.560 What's the consequences of it?
00:11:54.560 What's the consequences of it?
00:11:55.560 Yeah.
00:11:56.560 Men are emasculated.
00:11:57.560 Yeah.
00:11:58.560 Men are emasculated.
00:11:59.560 Women, women are not to say women shouldn't feel like, you know, they can make decisions, but at the end of the day, most women will want a man that is a leader, a man that is competent, a man that is confident, the man that, you know, she can rely on and look to, you know, in times of need where they don't want to, they don't want to couple up with Homer Simpson.
00:12:19.560 Yeah.
00:12:20.560 They don't want to couple up with Peter Griffin.
00:12:21.560 Yeah.
00:12:22.560 How do you think?
00:12:23.560 I said, I was saying that earlier.
00:12:24.560 Sorry.
00:12:25.560 How do you think we can change the situation?
00:12:27.560 I think it's every man's duty personally to be the best version of himself.
00:12:31.560 I think that every man should, uh, strive to get financial power, physical power, you know, be, you know, in best physical shape he can.
00:12:41.560 Yeah.
00:12:42.560 Mental power. 1.00
00:12:43.560 He, he cannot afford to be ignorant. 1.00
00:12:44.560 You just can't. 0.99
00:12:45.560 Come on bro.
00:12:46.560 Yeah. 1.00
00:12:47.560 And as women, we have to empower those men because I, I just talk to women a lot and I'm like, you talk so much shit about men. 0.97
00:12:53.560 How do you expect to meet a nice man? 0.99
00:12:54.560 Law of attraction.
00:12:55.560 And, and, um, the other thing is, um, sorry, I lost my, I saw power coming in, I lost my, um, got starstruck.
00:13:06.560 Yes.
00:13:07.560 Got starstruck.
00:13:08.560 Especially cause you called me based.
00:13:10.560 Thank you.
00:13:11.560 Thank you.
00:13:12.560 Thank you.
00:13:13.560 It was a quick statement.
00:13:14.560 Oh, good.
00:13:15.560 It was.
00:13:16.560 You okay?
00:13:17.560 Good, good.
00:13:18.560 I don't know.
00:13:19.560 Oh yeah.
00:13:20.560 This is what I was going to say.
00:13:21.560 How we, how we, how, what we do about it is shut down people like her. 1.00
00:13:25.560 Let's get, let's get, let's get a little round of applause.
00:13:27.560 Thank you for King Riches.
00:13:28.560 Yay.
00:13:29.560 Yay.
00:13:30.560 They don't need any statements from us, right?
00:13:31.560 And shout out security.
00:13:32.560 Yay.
00:13:33.560 My security.
00:13:34.560 You can take the gloves off now.
00:13:36.560 Secure in the building.
00:13:38.560 And you're the one, she was telling you why you're not smiling.
00:13:41.560 Do you remember?
00:13:42.560 That's why he wasn't smiling.
00:13:43.560 She was so desperate to make him smile.
00:13:45.560 It's just there for a long time.
00:13:46.560 She had a thing for you bro.
00:13:48.560 Yeah.
00:13:49.560 What were you guys talking about?
00:13:50.560 Well, um, we were saying like how, sorry.
00:13:52.560 To, you know, the situation with feminism.
00:13:55.560 Oh, men being demasculated.
00:13:56.560 Like, um, Gary was saying, so like, what do we do about that?
00:13:59.560 And I'm like, you're shutting down people like that.
00:14:00.560 Like, like exact, like, this is what has got to stop. 0.99
00:14:04.560 Like, women talking shit about men is going on and on and on. 0.99
00:14:09.560 And I just shut it down as much as I can. 1.00
00:14:12.560 And yeah, sometimes I do get into arguments with my girlfriends.
00:14:15.560 But, so what?
00:14:17.560 Did your, did your mom do that to you? 0.92
00:14:19.560 Because you said, you said your mom was a feminist. 1.00
00:14:21.560 Did she talk shit about men? 1.00
00:14:22.560 Yeah, yeah, yeah. 1.00
00:14:23.560 And I shut, I, I, yeah, I shut her down immediately. 1.00
00:14:26.560 When was your like red pill moment that switched?
00:14:28.560 Cause I, no, cause I, I'd imagine at some point, like, I mean,
00:14:32.560 if she was talking like this when you were a kid,
00:14:34.560 you can't believe what your parents say for a while.
00:14:36.560 Yeah, yeah, yeah, absolutely.
00:14:37.560 But, um, it was in my relationship.
00:14:40.560 Um, when I was having arguments with my ex-partner,
00:14:44.560 it was like I could just, afterwards, I was like,
00:14:47.560 those were not my opinions.
00:14:49.560 It's like I can hear my mom's voice in my head.
00:14:51.560 But like I said, it got to a point where it kind of got a bit too late
00:14:56.560 to, to be able to like save that relationship.
00:15:00.560 It just got to a point.
00:15:01.560 It could have gotten abusive from both sides.
00:15:04.560 Um, but yeah, that it was, it was not that long ago.
00:15:09.560 Um, and one of the questions I was going to ask you,
00:15:13.560 like what, what would you do now to like compete for a guy?
00:15:17.560 Compete?
00:15:18.560 Yeah. I mean, it's always, love is competition.
00:15:20.560 You don't think.
00:15:21.560 What would I do to compete?
00:15:23.560 That's a good question.
00:15:26.560 What does that mean?
00:15:27.560 Yeah.
00:15:28.560 Like, okay.
00:15:29.560 Would you, would you agree that most women go for the same types of guys?
00:15:34.560 Yeah.
00:15:35.560 And in, in terms of there's a list of things that women want, 1.00
00:15:38.560 and there's only a small percentage of men that fit that,
00:15:40.560 that have good enough jobs, that are good enough looking,
00:15:42.560 that are tall enough.
00:15:43.560 I think you're right.
00:15:44.560 There's not enough men that we want to go around.
00:15:47.560 There's enough men to go around, but not that, that women. 1.00
00:15:50.560 I would, I would, um, I am starting to learn to listen to the man,
00:15:58.560 and shut my mouth a bit more, finding it difficult.
00:16:02.560 I'm not succeeding every time.
00:16:04.560 So, but that's, yeah, that's what I would really take on,
00:16:08.560 is, is to be a lot more feminine now,
00:16:11.560 because I did take on being masculine and, and.
00:16:16.560 You're an athlete though.
00:16:17.560 Right?
00:16:18.560 Yes.
00:16:19.560 And my GP thinks my testosterone is high, so.
00:16:22.560 No, I think it's a thing.
00:16:23.560 I can like tell when women play sports, like from a young age. 1.00
00:16:27.560 I don't know what it is, but it's like I can.
00:16:29.560 Because you're an athlete.
00:16:30.560 No, no, I, it's me too.
00:16:32.560 But I'm like, I think I've heard it imbalances our hormones.
00:16:35.560 It does.
00:16:36.560 That's what my, my doctor was saying, well,
00:16:37.560 all the sports you're doing and all this is not helping.
00:16:40.560 Really?
00:16:41.560 What did he say?
00:16:42.560 I'm so curious.
00:16:43.560 That's what he said.
00:16:44.560 It goes that my testosterone is high.
00:16:45.560 And he said, and I was doing like kickboxing at some point.
00:16:48.560 He was like, well, that's not going to help you be feminine. 0.71
00:16:50.560 Why don't you start dancing?
00:16:52.560 I actually really, yes.
00:16:55.560 Thank you.
00:16:56.560 I really want to start dancing.
00:16:57.560 Yeah.
00:16:58.560 And yes, I will get in touch with you about that.
00:17:00.560 Let's do it. 0.99
00:17:01.560 Because my coordination when it comes to dancing is crap. 0.98
00:17:04.560 But if you play football, you already must have some fancy footwork. 0.99
00:17:07.560 I have that, but when it comes to dancing, I'm the same way.
00:17:10.560 I can't even do like Zumba classes.
00:17:12.560 I'm like, what are they doing?
00:17:13.560 Like I can't do like classes like that.
00:17:15.560 It's the coordination.
00:17:16.560 It's so different than sport.
00:17:18.560 I know exactly what you're talking about.
00:17:20.560 I mean, I wasn't soccer.
00:17:22.560 I couldn't do the feet stuff.
00:17:24.560 We call it football here.
00:17:25.560 I'm sorry.
00:17:26.560 You've been here long enough.
00:17:27.560 I just can't.
00:17:28.560 I just can't.
00:17:29.560 I can't.
00:17:30.560 It's soccer to me.
00:17:31.560 It's okay.
00:17:32.560 Yes.
00:17:33.560 So, yeah, I would compete in, yeah, keeping myself fit.
00:17:37.560 I'm in my forties now, so I can't afford to let myself go.
00:17:41.560 Yeah, keep myself fit and really like being more submissive and feminine.
00:17:46.560 Because, yeah, most women. 1.00
00:17:48.560 Do you think you could be in the top 1% of listeners to keep the man that you're saying that you want?
00:17:52.560 Yeah, let's go for that, mate.
00:17:54.560 Do you, have you ever like sought out to learn certain skills for a guy?
00:17:59.560 So like cooking, cleaning, I don't know.
00:18:01.560 My ex taught me how to cook.
00:18:02.560 Okay.
00:18:03.560 Jeez.
00:18:04.560 Yeah.
00:18:05.560 Have you ever thought about reconciling?
00:18:06.560 Could you ever?
00:18:07.560 No, I don't.
00:18:10.560 Is he still single?
00:18:12.560 He might be now.
00:18:14.560 I don't want to talk about his business.
00:18:15.560 Okay.
00:18:16.560 Okay.
00:18:17.560 Yeah.
00:18:18.560 No, I think we're past that.
00:18:19.560 We get on.
00:18:20.560 We get on.
00:18:21.560 But I can't get into like the personal stuff, but there, no, there are certain differences
00:18:30.560 that I can't.
00:18:34.560 It's not by choice.
00:18:35.560 There are certain things that just can't.
00:18:38.560 Okay.
00:18:39.560 What about the guys?
00:18:40.560 Have you ever sought out to learn a certain skill to get women? 0.92
00:18:43.560 Not really.
00:18:44.560 No.
00:18:45.560 The women always just came to you. 1.00
00:18:46.560 I think just for me, they fall in place.
00:18:49.560 What?
00:18:50.560 With me.
00:18:51.560 I mean, for me, women fall in place. 1.00
00:18:53.560 I don't need to, you know, really learn anything.
00:18:56.560 If you're all right, look how tall you are.
00:18:58.560 You're all right.
00:18:59.560 Six, five.
00:19:00.560 Yeah.
00:19:01.560 You're nice.
00:19:02.560 Dunking on man.
00:19:03.560 I was like late teens, early twenties.
00:19:05.560 Now it's like, cool.
00:19:06.560 Like I need to make sure I got a job.
00:19:08.560 So I have a little bit of money.
00:19:09.560 So I can say, okay, let's go to the cinema or something.
00:19:12.560 I need to, I was working out a lot more because it's like, all right, cool up.
00:19:16.560 No girl. 0.99
00:19:17.560 Don't want no fat guy. 0.99
00:19:18.560 I'm already short.
00:19:19.560 So like, let me try and work on, there's loads of things I've tried to work on to be.
00:19:24.560 I'm not six, but I'm not six nothing.
00:19:27.560 I'm not either, but I'm close.
00:19:29.560 But there's loads of things that I tried to work on to try and be more appealing because
00:19:34.560 I, I didn't, I feel like for me personally, it was a lot more to do with my self image,
00:19:40.560 where I didn't view myself as the most attractive.
00:19:43.560 So maybe that came across to the women that I was talking to at the time.
00:19:48.560 Whereas now I have a lot more self confidence.
00:19:52.560 So like I can engage in conversation more and be more successful in just having general
00:19:58.560 conversations where I wasn't at that point.
00:20:00.560 And I thought if I did these things, I would be more successful when it really just should
00:20:04.560 have worked on myself.
00:20:05.560 Did you actively like study how to talk to women, how to approach women?
00:20:08.560 No.
00:20:09.560 No, none of that stuff.
00:20:10.560 I don't know if you were a pickup guy.
00:20:12.560 No, no.
00:20:13.560 But I thought if, well, if I have the, cause I was already fine with like telling jokes and
00:20:17.560 stuff like that.
00:20:18.560 But it was just like, I felt like if I had the look, if I had the, if I had a blackberry,
00:20:22.560 if I had like the right clothes, if I made sure I always had a haircut.
00:20:27.560 To like have a dress.
00:20:28.560 Yeah.
00:20:29.560 Like other little things.
00:20:30.560 I thought I could make it work.
00:20:31.560 Yeah.
00:20:32.560 Yeah.
00:20:33.560 Yeah.
00:20:34.560 I've definitely sort it out.
00:20:35.560 I think that I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
00:20:38.560 It's all about self improvement at the end of the day.
00:20:40.560 And yes, it's worked on my benefit, man.
00:20:43.560 It's made me on each side of myself.
00:20:45.560 I didn't know I had, you know, walk around confident, happy within myself.
00:20:50.560 I'm not the, I don't look the ideal way I want to look, but I'm working towards it.
00:20:54.560 And whilst I'm working towards it, I just believe I'm that guy, man.
00:20:58.560 And that's it.
00:20:59.560 You know, I think that's what the, the main thing is just confidence.
00:21:04.560 Yeah, man.
00:21:05.560 For men in, in, in general, from your confidence, it, it, it doesn't matter.
00:21:10.560 Cause even today we all came in, didn't know each other, was all sat down, just talking.
00:21:15.560 And everyone was able to get along.
00:21:18.560 Whereas if there was any lack.
00:21:19.560 Well, well.
00:21:20.560 I'm shy as you are.
00:21:21.560 Well.
00:21:22.560 I think before we came in, as soon as that camera went on, boy.
00:21:26.560 Yeah.
00:21:27.560 But I knew, I knew she was going to be.
00:21:28.560 Oh, even before that, she was, um, she never really listened to anyone.
00:21:32.560 She was just very much me, me, me, just talked about herself.
00:21:35.560 And that's why she's in a situation she's in now.
00:21:37.560 Yeah.
00:21:38.560 By herself.
00:21:39.560 The police is coming upstairs.
00:21:40.560 So we need to close the show for a while.
00:21:42.560 Oh, what are they?
00:21:43.560 Wait, witness.
00:21:44.560 I was going, I was actually going to ask if I needed to take a statement.
00:21:48.560 She's not going to let it go.
00:21:49.560 She's not going to let it go.
00:21:50.560 Wow.
00:21:51.560 Okay.
00:21:52.560 Okay.
00:21:53.560 Does everyone know their story?
00:21:55.560 Wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:21:57.560 Wait, hold on, hold on.
00:21:58.560 Um, wait, who do they need statements from?
00:22:00.560 Everyone?
00:22:01.560 Everybody in the room?
00:22:02.560 Oh, okay.
00:22:03.560 Okay.
00:22:04.560 Oh my gosh.
00:22:05.560 What about if people don't want to stay, should want to talk, don't want to say nothing?
00:22:09.560 I'd talk to the fans.
00:22:10.560 I guess you could say no to stay.
00:22:12.560 I don't know.
00:22:13.560 No comment.
00:22:14.560 Oh.
00:22:15.560 I don't know.
00:22:16.560 I don't, I don't, I don't really deal with the police that much.
00:22:19.560 I don't know.
00:22:20.560 This is crazy.
00:22:21.560 Yeah.
00:22:22.560 I don't think I've ever.
00:22:23.560 This would have been different America. 0.80
00:22:24.560 America.
00:22:25.560 No, I mean, they'll come, but I actually think they come fast.
00:22:29.560 No, actually they came pretty fast today.
00:22:32.560 Everyone always says here that they don't come fast.
00:22:34.560 They don't come fast.
00:22:35.560 I don't know.
00:22:36.560 But this was pretty quick, right?
00:22:37.560 This was quite quick.
00:22:38.560 Has this ever happened before?
00:22:39.560 Has this ever happened before?
00:22:40.560 Has this happened on the show before?
00:22:41.560 No.
00:22:42.560 I mean, I've kicked people.
00:22:43.560 I think I've kicked what, either two or three people off.
00:22:46.560 But the police.
00:22:47.560 No, the police.
00:22:48.560 Fresh and fit.
00:22:49.560 Yeah.
00:22:50.560 Yeah, the police.
00:22:51.560 That's the, this is a first.
00:22:52.560 She actually called the police.
00:22:53.560 Wow.
00:22:54.560 For what though?
00:22:55.560 For the security guard doing his job?
00:22:57.560 Right.
00:22:58.560 What'd I tell you at the start?
00:22:59.560 She's gone.
00:23:00.560 She's gone.
00:23:01.560 There was an energy and a vibe and I was like, this show gonna be interesting.
00:23:04.560 That's what I knew.
00:23:05.560 I didn't know it was gonna get to this level, but.
00:23:07.560 It's crazy.
00:23:08.560 You know?
00:23:09.560 It get a little crazy sometimes.
00:23:11.560 It's crazy.
00:23:12.560 I have a video for us to react to, but I don't know.
00:23:17.560 What?
00:23:18.560 I should have a way to react to the video.
00:23:21.560 Yeah.
00:23:22.560 Yeah.
00:23:23.560 Paul.
00:23:24.560 Just jump up.
00:23:25.560 I would like to learn how to bake.
00:23:26.560 That is something I would like to.
00:23:28.560 I can, I can teach you how to make cookies.
00:23:30.560 Would you?
00:23:31.560 From scratch.
00:23:32.560 Would you?
00:23:33.560 Seriously?
00:23:34.560 Yeah.
00:23:35.560 Can I sample them?
00:23:36.560 Give back my feedback.
00:23:37.560 That's like, I'm not saying I can, I can bake everything, but I do make good cookies.
00:23:40.560 I do.
00:23:41.560 Yeah.
00:23:42.560 I can't even make cookies.
00:23:43.560 Chocolate chip.
00:23:44.560 We could do a wife school episode where I teach something. 1.00
00:23:47.560 Okay.
00:23:48.560 For a change.
00:23:49.560 I usually, I usually am the one being taught.
00:23:51.560 Yeah.
00:23:52.560 You can teach me.
00:23:53.560 That'd be cool.
00:23:54.560 I'm curious, um, guys, has dating changed?
00:23:56.560 Um, you're in your, you said you're almost 40.
00:23:59.560 No, I am in my forties.
00:24:00.560 Oh, you are in your forties.
00:24:01.560 You look, you look younger than that, by the way.
00:24:03.560 Thank you so much.
00:24:04.560 You look amazing.
00:24:05.560 Um, and you're in your third.
00:24:06.560 42.
00:24:07.560 Oh, you're 42.
00:24:08.560 Has, is, what is the difference between dating in your forties than in your third?
00:24:11.560 thirties and in your twenties.
00:24:12.560 I don't really date.
00:24:13.560 You don't date.
00:24:14.560 She's too busy playing football.
00:24:16.560 Well, it depends.
00:24:17.560 What outcome do you want?
00:24:18.560 You want to, you want to.
00:24:19.560 It depends what you mean by that.
00:24:20.560 Okay.
00:24:21.560 I am socially awkward.
00:24:22.560 Yeah, I mean.
00:24:23.560 You're not that awkward.
00:24:24.560 I'm talking to you.
00:24:25.560 Is she that awkward?
00:24:26.560 I don't think so.
00:24:27.560 No, you're not.
00:24:28.560 No.
00:24:29.560 Oh, the police here.
00:24:30.560 Thank you.
00:24:31.560 Oh, okay.
00:24:32.560 One at a time.
00:24:33.560 It's live, baby.
00:24:34.560 Line up and give your statements.
00:24:35.560 Okay.
00:24:36.560 Talk to everyone outside.
00:24:37.560 Wow.
00:24:38.560 Yeah.
00:24:39.560 Yeah.
00:24:40.560 Yeah.
00:24:41.560 No.
00:24:42.560 So what are they doing?
00:24:43.560 But they can come inside.
00:24:44.560 Yeah.
00:24:45.560 Just tell them to come.
00:24:46.560 Obviously pull up a chair.
00:24:47.560 We've got a spare mic.
00:24:48.560 Yeah.
00:24:49.560 Hey, they sit next to me, bro.
00:24:50.560 Yeah, they sit here, bro.
00:24:51.560 One on either side.
00:24:52.560 No.
00:24:53.560 There's a space over there.
00:24:54.560 Nah, gee. 0.71
00:24:55.560 Another lady's like, men in uniform. 0.99
00:24:56.560 You don't have to have your faces on the camera.
00:24:57.560 Not those uniforms.
00:24:58.560 I wear a man to date.
00:24:59.560 Snitch.
00:25:00.560 Yeah, I strike a good image in my Smith blues.
00:25:02.560 This is real, isn't it?
00:25:03.560 Wow.
00:25:04.560 What's going on?
00:25:05.560 What?
00:25:06.560 What?
00:25:07.560 What?
00:25:08.560 What?
00:25:09.560 What?
00:25:10.560 What?
00:25:11.560 What?
00:25:12.560 What?
00:25:13.560 What?
00:25:14.560 What?
00:25:15.560 What?
00:25:16.560 What?
00:25:17.560 What?
00:25:18.560 What?
00:25:19.560 What's happening?
00:25:20.560 What's going on?
00:25:21.560 Wow.
00:25:22.560 The Super Chat's supposed to be going crazy.
00:25:25.560 Trust me.
00:25:26.560 Yeah, I'll read Super Chats.
00:25:27.560 That's a good idea.
00:25:28.560 Show them some love, man.
00:25:29.560 I was trying to figure out what to do right now.
00:25:30.560 Show them some love out there.
00:25:31.560 Show them some love out there.
00:25:32.560 So, guys, the police are here.
00:25:34.560 I guess they're taking some sweat.
00:25:36.560 Fed.
00:25:37.560 The feds?
00:25:38.560 The feds are here.
00:25:39.560 The feds are here.
00:25:40.560 The feds are here.
00:25:41.560 The feds are here.
00:25:42.560 The feds are here.
00:25:43.560 The feds are here.
00:25:44.560 The feds are on Super Chat.
00:25:45.560 The feds.
00:25:46.560 Oh, okay.
00:25:47.560 From Scotland Yard to Pelz Yard.
00:25:50.560 Trust.
00:25:51.560 Yeah.
00:25:52.560 So, guys, send Super Chat.
00:25:57.560 And it's very nice of you guys to send Super Chats.
00:26:00.560 How sweet of you.
00:26:01.560 Alright.
00:26:02.560 Moral for all.
00:26:03.560 All you gotta do is play the video back.
00:26:05.560 I should just send them the link.
00:26:08.560 C. Dumbledorf.
00:26:09.560 IG was engineered to feed women's addiction to attention and made them worth $1 trillion. 0.98
00:26:15.560 But now the damage is done to women. 1.00
00:26:17.560 It's showing it's lost half of its value.
00:26:20.560 It's made women attentionholics. 1.00
00:26:22.560 You're drunkards. 1.00
00:26:23.560 Anthony Baker. 0.99
00:26:24.560 Here's $10 for security.
00:26:26.560 The Clue channel.
00:26:27.560 This one's for security.
00:26:29.560 Lou Casely.
00:26:30.560 Shout out to Pearl's security detail.
00:26:35.560 A Scott in Bradley.
00:26:37.560 Men only argue with the women that they love. 0.82
00:26:40.560 If they don't love them, they say screw it.
00:26:43.560 Not worth it.
00:26:44.560 A Scout in Bradley.
00:26:45.560 Pearl.
00:26:46.560 Please explain the wall to them.
00:26:47.560 D.
00:26:48.560 Manny. 0.94
00:26:49.560 This is a request to mute her mic.
00:26:51.560 Please.
00:26:52.560 We did do one more than that.
00:26:55.560 Manny F. 0.52
00:26:56.560 Are you good?
00:27:01.560 Manny F. 0.52
00:27:02.560 Do you agree that if a woman chooses to become anorexic, it's okay because she chooses a lifestyle? 0.79
00:27:09.560 D.A.B.N.X.
00:27:10.560 I'm 1701.
00:27:11.560 Pearl.
00:27:12.560 Why did you invite that woman? 1.00
00:27:14.560 Sinner man. 0.98
00:27:15.560 Final thought.
00:27:16.560 Compromising between the couple isn't weak.
00:27:17.560 It's when women forget about the compromise because they're used to availability and options 1.00
00:27:23.560 to get the attention of belittling men. 0.89
00:27:26.560 Moral for all.
00:27:27.560 I need Jay.
00:27:28.560 Oh, wait.
00:27:29.560 I read that one already.
00:27:31.560 Or that's from last show.
00:27:33.560 Let me refresh it real quick.
00:27:34.560 Thank you guys for the super chats.
00:27:36.560 Really appreciate it.
00:27:38.560 You know.
00:27:39.560 All right.
00:27:40.560 I think we're done.
00:27:42.560 Security goes hard out here.
00:27:45.560 Stole walk professional.
00:27:48.560 What?
00:27:49.560 Stole walk professional.
00:27:50.560 Yeah.
00:27:51.560 Yeah.
00:27:52.560 Might handle that well.
00:27:53.560 Yeah.
00:27:54.560 Wow.
00:27:55.560 Okay.
00:27:56.560 Are they taking statements from Helen now?
00:28:01.560 Oh, okay.
00:28:02.560 So then what are they going to do us all one by one?
00:28:04.560 Oh, okay.
00:28:05.560 So they don't have to take all of our statements.
00:28:07.560 That's good.
00:28:08.560 I mean, I don't know.
00:28:09.560 How do you deal with the police here?
00:28:10.560 Yeah.
00:28:11.560 Okay.
00:28:12.560 You just, you tell me.
00:28:13.560 I don't, I don't know how to deal with the police here.
00:28:15.560 Send them the video.
00:28:16.560 Literally.
00:28:17.560 Oh, okay.
00:28:18.560 So then they don't have to take all of our statements.
00:28:21.560 That's good.
00:28:22.560 I mean, I don't know.
00:28:23.560 How do you deal with the police here?
00:28:25.560 Yeah.
00:28:26.560 Okay.
00:28:27.560 You just, you tell me.
00:28:28.560 I don't, I don't know how to deal with the police here.
00:28:31.560 Send them the video.
00:28:32.560 Literally.
00:28:34.560 Okay.
00:28:35.560 Well, I'm actually going to, um, so dating between your forties and your twenties, any different?
00:28:39.560 any different like I said I don't really date you don't really do I don't I mean
00:28:46.700 split up with my ex what two years ago focus on my daughter and I get approached
00:28:55.320 by a lot of younger younger guys it's not it's not my cup of tea I don't like
00:29:05.960 online day I've never done online dating have you found it's harder to date men
00:29:10.760 your own age when you're older I haven't really tried maybe I should try have you
00:29:19.160 actually put yourself out in the market or not in the market like do you want to
00:29:24.500 in the future yeah I would love to I would love to be in a relationship so
00:29:30.140 it's what's stopping you I need to work on myself like I said I I don't know if I
00:29:39.080 could put a man through what I already put a man through because in my head it's
00:29:44.240 like how would you get better at listening wouldn't you have to be with
00:29:46.760 a man to practice listening yes which is okay but I'm just I'm just wondering how
00:29:54.900 you would get there yes Paul this is getting very personal yes I would have
00:30:05.100 to put myself in that situation but who knows maybe I know a guy you know look
00:30:11.280 it what do they they got my statement I mean I can give okay all right I'm gonna go
00:30:22.700 give a statement I guess chat amongst yourselves so yeah so as Paul was saying
00:30:28.400 now yeah wouldn't you have to practice maybe if you had like a male friend that 0.98
00:30:33.620 could be a bestie and you just practice listening to his trials and tribulations
00:30:39.140 and then you'll know okay there is a guy that I like okay
00:30:43.040 yeah it's coming out and I keep messing up with him so how so like what do you what do
00:30:48.140 you mean by messing up like I said like I have my ways like does he say like oh how
00:30:53.480 are you doing and you're like this is why no no no I'm definitely not like that I
00:30:59.960 just um yeah like my reactions sometimes and he just doesn't have it which is what I 0.98
00:31:10.460 really like about him that it doesn't like pop with my shit be strong are you bossy and tough do 0.98
00:31:16.520 you are you trying to say you're bossy and you're trying not to no it's not even that I'm do you are 0.98
00:31:23.000 you one of those women where because of the way that you are you want someone to be able to be like 1.00
00:31:27.680 no mandana don't do that all right don't talk to me like that I have a certain tone and the way I
00:31:36.020 can just react without thinking mm-hmm you need to put you need to put you in your place that's what
00:31:41.960 you like yeah that's what you want mm-hmm yeah that's okay that's okay that's absolutely okay and
00:31:49.280 that's not a bad thing and I do really like him and I think I've just messed up one too many times so
00:31:54.800 he's but do you still talk to him yeah he's fed up if you're still me in my place if you still talk
00:32:00.020 to him I'm sure God give me some advice or should no I was thinking you also you you think that you've
00:32:05.060 messed up one too many times but you still talk to him yeah if I to my mind if he was really wasn't
00:32:09.920 interested he wouldn't talk to anymore okay so I agree with you yeah I'm sure if he's still talking to
00:32:16.640 you even do you think you messed up a lot of times he's very interested maybe he wants to go to prep
00:32:22.020 tomorrow and get a cool coffee and coffee and croissant but um you're gonna make an excuse
00:32:27.660 now I want to talk about it no talk about it but no but he okay so yes he's somebody that I could
00:32:33.540 practice with being more feminine or whatever but he's not somebody who wants to be in a relationship
00:32:38.940 who wants to commit so it wouldn't be the right person for me okay but maybe things could change well
00:32:47.700 we could live in hope yeah you could live in life but it's but it's um do you live in hope or do you
00:32:54.300 just take someone's word for it when they say what they want or what they don't want so they got it 0.98
00:32:58.980 out of me what happened oh keep me in the know also the police also the police I just asked the
00:33:06.480 questions the police left that's great yeah yeah bye bye pigs um oh sorry I think yeah shout out to the
00:33:17.080 London to police and police department for doing a great job yeah um what is he talking about your
00:33:23.640 ex no it's so different there's a different guy it's someone that she likes because she was saying
00:33:28.720 about practicing to listen to be the type of woman that a top 20 or whatever percentage of men would go
00:33:34.780 for and I was saying also like you're saying about having to be with a man in order to practice those
00:33:41.800 things she said that she has a friend that she likes and that she does do those things with but
00:33:47.980 she feels like she's messed up too many times but I said do you still speak to him she said yes so I
00:33:52.180 was saying in response to that if you still speak to him that it's highly unlikely to my mind that you
00:33:57.820 have messed up too many times because you still speak to him so you never know but then she then
00:34:01.240 rebutted that by saying that he has said that she he doesn't want to be in a relationship oh so but
00:34:08.140 then I'll say that you never know because yeah so he said so he basically thinks women are a headache
00:34:14.440 he doesn't want the headache and he's kind of my age mm-hmm one year younger than me and um so yeah
00:34:21.940 and basically what I've done is show him that yes we are a headache have have you have you ever been in a
00:34:28.420 situation where a guy didn't want to date you and then wanted to date you me personally that's never
00:34:35.200 happened yeah if it was a no it did I never turned into a yes well this is the thing we started off
00:34:43.300 casual so I thought after my ex yes I'm single like after 12 years you know like just listening to my
00:34:51.040 friends yeah have fun whatever so that's how he started mm-hmm but um the new one I mean as women 0.99
00:34:56.860 we always yeah yeah yeah and you know yeah yeah totally and then I caught feelings but he's really
00:35:02.860 like I mean you're supposed to you're a woman like yeah but he's also like really nice and treated and
00:35:08.200 treated me nice and whatever and then I showed my messed up side and he put me in my place and
00:35:14.320 I think um maybe that's why you're interested because he put you in the right place 100% because 0.98
00:35:21.580 he is yeah he takes no shit is that toxic is that that you showed your messed up side he's put you in 0.95
00:35:28.660 your place not in a not in a like aggressive toxic on her side that's the thing he's really calm he's 0.99
00:35:33.880 really calm he's really calm he's really calm he doesn't like argue with me but it's still an alpha
00:35:38.080 he's calm but it's still an alpha sorry he's definitely alpha yeah so wait question um when
00:35:44.440 is the when's the last time you saw him last night I did see him today at the gym okay okay so you're
00:35:55.540 still seeing him it's okay oh my god what if he watches this it's okay you're not you're not being
00:36:01.660 disrespectful no I know you're not do you think you're the only girl like come on I know but I I'm
00:36:08.080 like I wasn't prepared to talk about it publicly but hey so yeah so question um when did he how long
00:36:14.740 ago did he tell you that he wasn't looking for anything from the beginning we were both kind of
00:36:19.180 like yeah clear about I'm not looking for a relationship and did you tell him your feelings changed
00:36:23.320 uh kind of yes not to the extent that I am feeling feelings but yeah pretty much how long have you
00:36:34.580 been um do you love him oh my god wait no wait but how long have you been how long has this
00:36:40.100 situation been taking place I don't know I'm not one of those get one minute I'd have to I know you
00:36:46.380 know six months but tell him tell him tell him you love him well then you know
00:36:56.840 you do love him then was it like close okay okay all right confessions she's getting excited
00:37:06.920 I think it's sweet I think it's cute too much it is nice because this reaction to my mind this reaction
00:37:15.260 is the reaction that should come from genuine feeling yeah yes no ladies yeah I mean I do listen
00:37:21.920 I do really like him and I have uh yeah I do have feelings for him and but but yeah it's the rejection
00:37:30.380 thing it's like he's already told me that yeah try again keep pushing should I keep pushing I'm a big
00:37:38.720 believer in like going after what you want yeah and I feel like if you want it go after it and if
00:37:43.880 that's why I coach people and now I'm in that situation I'm like wow and so if you're not what he
00:37:49.520 wants what he wants figure out why see if you can fix it and if it's not something that can be fixed if
00:37:54.480 you won't ever change then you move on okay but yeah yeah all right I don't know I'm I'm just a
00:38:00.120 shooter I'm just a shooter I'm like a shooter shoot you know mm-hmm so you got to man yeah I I
00:38:07.320 yeah I am usually and I I've not been in this situation I feel like in you know I've been in
00:38:13.320 three or four serious relationships um and I feel like I was was just chosen I've not like
00:38:20.760 chosen the guy I want to be with and then going through this oh do you feel like it would have
00:38:28.260 been better if you had been the chooser instead of the choosy yeah like yeah like sometimes I think
00:38:35.040 I just kind of gave it not give it I definitely loved my ex like attracted to him loved him all of
00:38:41.520 that but it was yeah it was more like him making the effort and I was all okay so as many of you know
00:38:52.140 I was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform if you want to
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