Older Women Failed in Their DUTY
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In this episode, we discuss who is to blame for the dating market today? Is it modern women or men? And who is being held accountable for their part in the problem? Who is the bigger baddie?
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Like it would, there was a group of like moms and they did like the mom content and then
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one gets divorced and the other gets divorced and the other gets divorced.
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And it's just like, Miz really, really loves company.
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They don't want to be alone in their bad decisions.
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The man has other women around him who look good.
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Other women around him that look good or his girlfriend looks good.
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But if we see a good looking guy with like a girl that looks terrible, we're like, he's
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I think men do a much better job of checking each other because men see themselves in younger
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Today's topic is, are modern women to blame for relationships today?
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So before we get too deep into that, I would like for you guys to define a word that we
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I'd like for you guys to define accountability.
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Accountability is being ultimately responsible for all of your actions, whether it be positive
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And then I think it's also owning it to a level where you're fixing it.
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Like you can take accountability or know that you've done wrong, but like not pointing to
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the, to others and deflecting, but you're actually reflecting, look in the mirror and say, what
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Because that's the only person you can, you can change.
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I think accountability is having introspection and self-reflection.
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I think it's about understanding who you are and taking responsibility for all of the decisions
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Yeah, I would say accountability is admitting what you did right and wrong.
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And then also accepting the consequences of both.
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I think taking accountability is very important in life and for self-development as well.
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I think self-awareness, but also the ability to receive when other people have something
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to say about you, because as self, we can be jaded to what we don't see about ourselves,
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but we don't want to hear what other people have to say about us.
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And that honestly is how we coexist with other people.
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And we need to be accountable for how others receive us so that we can properly coexist.
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I think accountability is being honest with yourself and that once you admit you're at
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So who takes more accountability, men or women?
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But men say sorry and then continue to fix it, whereas women can't say sorry and then
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I think women rarely say sorry in a relationship.
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Across the board, I've never, most men, one of their biggest gripes is that women, they
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Like, if they're wrong, then they will kind of counterpoint on how they, like, how you
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Like, even if they cheat, well, you weren't emotionally available.
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Not in all situations, but I do think women hold their hands up more than men.
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So I think that there's a difference within our society.
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I think that women have the privilege in our modern day society today to not be held accountable.
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I did a story not too long ago, about a year or so ago, just popped into my head, where
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a young lady went down the NBA All-Star weekend with not enough money to get back home.
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She then goes on GoFundMe in order to get money in order to go back home.
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Men do not have that type of reach and or access to get free money sent to them if they make
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But society in general has cushions put in place for women more often than men.
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That's why most homeless people in America are men.
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I think when you say that, if you go on the modern day TikToks and whatever, right, you'll
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find videos of women saying, oh, how to apologize to your man, just scoot up to him naked with
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When you say that, okay, women are more accountable, it's like, no, that's how they apologize.
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They think, okay, if we have sex, then everything's fine.
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And so, yeah, I think women don't hold themselves accountable a lot.
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I think women have a hard time having that introspection.
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I think if you do, they try to attack people more so than actually accept that.
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I think in a time though, well, we live in a time where women don't really need to be
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accountable in a way that men are always running around after them, which I think needs to stop.
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And that's why that they never have to really hold their hands up and say, look, I'm sorry
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Because before it becomes an actual issue, the man's already there trying to fix what
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This is so interesting to me because I feel like in America, this is not the stance, right?
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I feel like the men that I have come across in the dating spectrum, they are very passive.
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And to your point about a man not being able to go to Vegas, get stuck, and not make his
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way back, men these days, because they're in the streets doing whatever, have accumulated
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You can paint her a stop story and she's going to send you $100 because she's caring and wants
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So I think it's a balance of each depending on the circumstances and the person.
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But I definitely think women can be accountable.
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And from my circle and my experiences are more accountable in this generation of men who don't
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accept accountability, they apologize by actions, right?
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They won't accept accountability for what they did.
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Specifically, a blanket apology is not an apology if you are not owning, right?
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That's the definition of lack of accountability.
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What was the last thing that you apologized for?
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What was the last thing you took accountability for?
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I think maybe sometimes when I lose my anger, sometimes I'll blame it on other things.
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But the last thing I took accountability for is when I've gone, no, do you know what?
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I overreacted with that and I shouldn't have reacted in that way.
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Can we clarify that accountability is not the same as an apology?
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Because accountability means that there is a consequence after the action.
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And I believe that is what men have to deal with.
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I think a lot of times women think just by saying, I'm sorry, I'm accountable.
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You know, listen, the amount of times that I'm in dating relationships with different women
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and listen, they just want to just complain about the problem.
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I don't want to continue to listen to you just talk about what happened with you and Marianne
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If you come to me with an issue, let's talk about solutions, all right?
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Because you can't just waste my time at the end of the day.
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But I find as though a lot of women don't communicate in solutions.
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If men in general are not accountable, they will not be successful.
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If women in general are not accountable, they can still be the wife to a CEO.
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Using that analogy, that same woman will complain to you about, you know, what happened at work.
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And then the next week or the next month, she'll be complaining to you about the same thing.
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So it's like, okay, but how do you hold yourself accountable?
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Do you want to face this woman or whoever you have a problem with?
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So, yeah, women talk a lot, but they don't do a lot.
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When somebody commits a crime, do we blame the criminal or do we blame society?
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But usually when you see men that have turned bad, I think they always started out as good men.
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But being around certain people in society can change them and twist them.
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So if you steal something, if you steal something, it's not 50-50.
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If I go down the street and I steal something, is it my fault or society?
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Like, if we want to blame the system, then that's the crux of no accountability.
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Like, if you want to just blame, well, my childhood, my upbringing, I didn't have this, I didn't have that.
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The same person grew up in the same circumstance as you and they made other choices.
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So we have to, like, that's not accountability.
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If it's always somebody else, you know, who caused it because you were raised a certain way.
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I can show you the example of somebody raised in a worse circumstances who made better choices than you.
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If we can, if I can point to one person who made a better choice, sorry, if I can point to one person who made a better choice, then, like, you haven't, your excuse is gone.
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So, for instance, if you look at people like Robin Hood, right, Robin Hood was born into a poor society, right?
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And what he chose to do was to rob from the rich and give to the poor, right?
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Why can't he just blame hookup culture by that logic?
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But I think it also depends on your, on your end goal.
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So like I said, with Robin Hood, with the Robin Hood analogy, he robbed from the rich, gave to the poor to try and change society.
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So this woman is getting a lot of his tool and these poor women out here aren't getting enough D.
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Because that's essentially what your example is.
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I said it could also be, the society could also be the individual.
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I would say it would depend on what you want from society.
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So people like, if you're trying to change society, for instance, look at Andrew Tate.
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Right, because people don't like to hear the truth.
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But he's done things wrong as well, if we're honest.
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I will say there are moves he's made that people on his side will say, listen, you self-snitched.
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If you self-snitch, you have to learn how to move.
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What I'm saying is, but I'm saying is, but he has to also, does Andrew Tate have to take accountability if he's self-snitched?
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Well, but if you, if you, you can sing about something in a song or talk about something on social media without it technically being self-snitching.
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They have to bring evidence that you did those crimes.
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Because society could deem somebody wrong because they're the ones in the room.
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My original question was about the, about the stealer.
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So if I go down and steal, is it my fault or society?
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But let's just think if you're, if you're raised in poverty, you have no money, you're in a circumstance where you have no food and you're raising us and you're living, let's say you're a kid and you have no money, you have no food.
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You're dependent on parents who are on drugs and, and your, your baby sister needs to eat.
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Like there are nuances in this where you have to blame a portion of society that this child has failed because we've let them slip through the system.
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If their parents are on crack, their baby sister, their little brothers and sisters are hungry.
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I personally know of people like this, kids in homeless shelters.
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There may be reasons why this kid is stealing, but we still have to be able to say wrong is wrong.
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And as a parent, I mean, you hear it even in parenting advice, you know, they tell you, oh, the child is not bad.
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They just made bad decisions where I grew up in an era where if you were a fool, they called you a fool.
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And I think we need to bring some of that back because it breeds this thing, well, it's not my fault.
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Sometimes it just has to sit on you and you just have to realize I did that and it was wrong.
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So is that a moral question then, like when you say wrong is wrong?
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Because who decides what is wrong and what is right?
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But then the question is, well, if you are, let's say you're a teenager or young, your mother's on crack.
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There's a recent story in the U.S. where a mother left her two children, her 14-year-old ran away, her 12-year-old and she has a three-year-old, all three different baby daddies.
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She left him alone in Texas and Houston for two months through Thanksgiving.
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She told them, if you tell anybody that I'm leaving, that they're going to take your little three-year-old brother away and you'll never see him again and threatened her.
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So she was scared to tell anybody what was going on.
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Her mother was missing for two months or she was running the streets in another state.
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She never enrolled these children into school, the oldest one.
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So she used to have to lie to her father who was working in another state because, of course, she got custody of all the kids, okay?
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So then she, because she was threatened, because the mother said, I'll never love you or see you and you'll never see your siblings again.
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This child had to lie to her father and say, can you please get groceries?
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He would call the mother and say, yeah, I'm working.
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But she couldn't tell the truth because she was scared.
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If that instance, if she didn't have food, didn't have the father who would, who would send the groceries or food to the house and she had to go steal, are we going to say, little 12-year-old, you are now accountable because your mother's for the streets and abandoned you and your, and your little sibling and now you need consequences?
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I mean, I think there's, you can have empathy for a situation, but the whole idea is wrong is wrong.
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But you're 12 and your mom leaves you with a three-year-old?
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And you could say, this is why I did that wrong thing.
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And like, this is my reason for it, but wrong is still wrong.
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It doesn't, it doesn't become right just because something happened.
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So, for instance, if I got up and slapped you in your face right now, am I wrong?
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But remember, you made the decision to slap me.
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And then he just stands there and there's no defense needed.
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What if he slaps you and then go sits back down?
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Guys, how did we get here from our Women Held Cucked Cannabis Society?
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Why is it that when a man cheats, he's a cheater.
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But when a woman cheats, she's not satisfied in the relationship?
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Because women cheat emotionally and men cheat because there's a hole in the wall, right?
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I'm just saying, listen, it's a corn category, right?
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They're just trying to get their rocks off, right?
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Women actually, for a woman to cheat on a man, she has to be somewhat emotionally involved.
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Men can do it without having any emotional connection whatsoever.
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No, I said why does society label the man a cheater, but a woman's not satisfied in the relationship?
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So why is there an excuse for the woman, but there's not an excuse for the man?
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Listen, at the end of the day, one of the things that we open up with is that there's systems put in place for whatever reason to continue to pander to the modern woman.
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And I think it's all just kind of just based off of money.
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I think that if you want to sell ad placements to the component of the population that makes 80% of the household purchasing decisions, you're going to do so in a way to try to make them feel good and nice inside and avoid all accountability.
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At the end of the day, accountability doesn't feel good.
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It's time intensive, and it brings you a dose of reality of the things that you have to do to over encumber that, right?
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They just want to feel good about themselves and let it be the man's issue or the man's problem.
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Like, again, they're not focused on solutions generally.
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Say as a man, you need to take accountability for something and say you seem upset or distraught about it.
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There is nothing more disgusting than a dude who doesn't take accountability.
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I don't even want guy friends who don't take accountability.
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But me personally, as a man, who do you go to to talk to about it?
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I have people I think of mentors, but not people that I would go to emotionally to talk about my problems.
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As a man, you sit there and deal with them yourself.
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But I know all women mates and my missus mates and so on, where if they're in trouble, something went wrong, whatever.
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And they're like, oh my God, and he talked to someone about this.
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He is my role model in some ways, but he has his own problems that I don't want to.
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You don't want to go and bother someone else with your problems.
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If things are right, like my pops, you know, he's my example of what to be a man in modern
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day society today is, especially, you know, being a black man in America.
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And I make sure that big decisions that are within my life of things that I may not know
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And I consider myself a genuinely, sometimes, most of the times, a wise guy, you know, but
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for things that, you know, I just can't quite figure out, I make sure that I go to him.
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Now, I know at the same time, there's a lot of young men out there that don't have that
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And actually, I think that's a large degree and a component.
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That's why channels like mine have blown up is because there's a lot of men, young men
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out there that might've been raised in a single parent household that have questions regarding
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things that are happening to themselves within their lives that they don't quite have the
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So I'm actually surprised to hear that your father is as active as what he is, but you
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It might be different between England and America, but from over here where I'm from in
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Southampton, pretty much every guy that I know would say the same as me.
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So maybe it's, I don't know, a difference there.
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Do you think culture, are you saying that culturally men are taught not to say anything
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I think it was always man up, get on and do this, sort this out.
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And I think that's the struggle men go through.
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What you guys don't understand is that women relate emotionally.
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And so when a woman goes through something or she cheats, we feel this, we can, we try
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to like bring empathy to what she, what's going on with her.
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Men are, you know, are more logical in their thinking and deductive reasoning.
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This goes into biology and, and how men's brains are wired.
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So logically women will always try to, you know, there's confirmation bias as well because
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Men, so like we, we wouldn't give an excuse to a woman who sleeps with our husband or
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But if it's our girlfriend, someone we like, or someone in the sisterhood, there's this kind
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So, but I will say overall, men are much more, you know, like they're going to, men are made
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Men are made, they're not going to get into the emotions of like, I don't like my father,
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Like, like quit the, quit the crying, quit the tears.
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You feel this way, but you have real world consequences.
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And I think most women are either treated like princesses by their fathers, or they don't
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And if something happens to another woman, we want to be understanding because we automatically,
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Like we could see how they feel because we may have felt a certain way, even if we've
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never done that action, but it doesn't excuse it away.
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But that's why so many women buck against conversations like this, because it's like, how dare you say
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It's all these men and men and women cheat at almost the same rate, but yet it's always men.
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Well, you know, actually, Maggie, I wonder, what were you shaking your head at?
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I mean, you said a few things there, Melanie, some I agree with.
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I think we ended up where we agreed, but I think ultimately men have the burden of duty
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And so to answer your question as to why a man would be labeled a cheater is because you're
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Where a woman is coddled and kind of given the there there, which I don't agree with.
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We can still empathize and still call it wrong.
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For example, back to the other point, if I'm speeding through a traffic light because my
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son is in an accident, I'm trying to get to the hospital.
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I may explain the reason why, but if I have to pay a ticket for it, I pay a ticket for
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I was going to say a bunch of different things, but one of the things that you said is kind
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of the, the empathy of women and why you guys, you know, kind of communicate like that.
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And I often think like, you know, I, you know, I think I like, like the entrance of like a
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therapist is, I would say a lot more beneficial to most modern women than they are to modern
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men, depending upon the type of therapist that you go to.
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But the thing is, is like the downfall of a lot of modern women today outside of the
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Sims, the white knights is other modern women that are unwilling to hold them accountable.
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And they'll get into these echo chamber circles and just kumbaya around the totally incorrect
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Like I suggest, and you know, Kevin used to do it as well to suggest therapy to a lot
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of modern women because they can get a third party arbitrator to understand the situation
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You know, one of the reasons why I do that in two competition, women see each other as
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Women never give each other's the keys to the game.
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So when older women get older, right, they never give younger women the game because the
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older women are actually vying for the same types of men that the younger women are vying
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And so you never, ever tell your opponent the key to the game.
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But the same types of men that the older women want is the same types of men that the
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So the older women are never going to give you the game because they see you as competition.
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I want to come back to you, baby, because you aren't, you aren't talking much.
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Do you feel, do you have older women in your life that hold you accountable?
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You can't hold yourself accountable because we're our own.
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Like if you don't have outside voice, we just see ourselves how we see ourselves.
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Accountability comes from someone saying, listen, accountability hurts.
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We don't tell ourselves the things that we need to hear.
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And an older woman say, I see this is going on.
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I see like this guy is not, you know, that you can trust and know that she's not competing
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You know, some of my mom's friends, when I was a bit more open with my relationship,
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they would always like throw things at me like, oh, if he does this, oh, he's probably
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And it's just, I could tell, you know, they were in competition and they just didn't want
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Well, so it's like, so they actually tried to put your relationship and your man down.
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Did you feel like they were trying to, their negativity or their negative experiences they
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They would just, it would just always be something.
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And then now I'm very, very private with my relationship.
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So it's like, how, how do you have so much to say?
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So do you have anybody, do you have anybody, a woman, an older woman who says, I love you.
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They want to meet him, love on him and actually get the real thing.
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Maggie, what we talked about just on her podcast we did yesterday, older women, we have
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I sometimes feel like mothers in competition with their daughters.
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We just talked about, do you feel as though, and I don't want to put your mother on the
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spot or anything, you can talk in general, but do you find like with your friends or your
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experience that the moms, they put like a competition.
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They don't want you to win because they failed.
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And then once you fail, they'll be like, oh, it's okay, baby.
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And like I said, it's for, it's a, if in my personal point of view is for competition
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about men, because the same man that is going for the 21 year old, that will sleep 21 year
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It's like when you, when you fail a test, what, what's the best feeling in the world
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when you turn to someone and they're like, I failed too.
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If you're the only one in the class that failed or the only one in your circle that failed,
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Like it would, there was a group of like moms and they did like the mom content and then
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one gets divorced and the other gets divorced and the other gets to, it's like the whole
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And it's just like misery really, really loves company.
00:28:07.920
They don't want to be alone in their bad decisions.
00:28:12.300
If the older women have not kept their own relationship together, then it's really hard
00:28:20.140
So I think you have to be very selective and find someone that is in a relationship that
00:28:24.920
you actually admire and they're secure in that relationship.
00:28:28.040
I think if you're trying to get advice from older single women, that's where it can really
00:28:33.020
But sometimes married women as well, because how many married women do we know wish they could
00:28:40.240
I know so many who are just like, they see the glamour of being flown to Dubai and they
00:28:46.380
don't know, they're getting flown, these single women get flown to Dubai because they're laying
00:28:55.540
They're actually selling, but we don't, because what happens is younger guys that you may be,
00:29:08.040
So he's not that much older, but that same 23 year old will try to, will sleep with and
00:29:18.300
This happens every day, but I say to myself, like, so what happens is these older women
00:29:23.220
will feel like, okay, well that little 20 something year old, she can't do nothing for you, boo.
00:29:33.100
This is how these older women are thinking these cougars.
00:29:36.120
And so they see you as competition instead of loving on you and wanting you to win.
00:29:40.480
Or they'll use shaming language, like calling the dude a pedo when it's just like, no, he
00:29:47.000
It's, and, but when they were younger, I don't know a single older woman who, when she was
00:29:54.680
But once they get older, it's like, oh, well, I was naive then I didn't know and all this
00:29:59.840
So like, yeah, I date an older guy, but it's, it, it really was abusive.
00:30:03.680
And I'm just thinking to myself, were you really abused dating an older guy?
00:30:13.200
And, and, and that's why I wanted to talk to her because I said, as a younger woman, like,
00:30:17.620
you know, this is our whole conversation, Maggie.
00:30:20.760
We were talking about this yesterday about older women are competing for the same men.
00:30:26.180
They don't realize that the older women think, cause these men will, your boyfriend, I'm not
00:30:31.600
saying he is, but your boyfriend will sleep with a woman who's older.
00:30:35.060
And so they think they're in competition with you and they have to prove this, but they should
00:30:44.380
And the mother looks quite young and the daughter looks quite young and they're all, they're
00:30:50.980
And it's like the mother's trying to keep up with her.
00:30:54.080
But on the flip side, men like MTR, men like myself, right?
00:31:00.140
We're trying to say, look, young guys, this is what you do.
00:31:05.640
Older guys, what I've realized is older guys don't mind giving younger guys a game.
00:31:09.320
They don't mind telling them where they went wrong.
00:31:11.360
I don't mind telling a younger guy where I went wrong.
00:31:14.900
Well, and generally, generally dudes, if you're in competition with another dude, usually it's
00:31:20.880
more brute strength, you know, in competition physically or downright to fighting status,
00:31:29.520
Generally women compete utilizing manipulation, innuendo, reputation destruction, not giving you
00:31:37.080
the keys to whatever it is that you're trying to do.
00:31:39.860
Because women don't generally fight just based off of, right, like physical power S, but
00:31:48.160
Women aren't holding each other accountable, but it also sounds like we aren't holding men
00:31:52.540
That they are able to go and do these things with multiple women and attract to that.
00:32:00.200
So are you aware that one, one in three men are either virgins or haven't had sex in the
00:32:06.380
Given the weight that women date and things like that.
00:32:09.020
What percent of men do you think are sexually active and sleeping with multiple women?
00:32:13.980
I think it's like 30 or 40% or something like that.
00:32:22.440
So it's like, you're going to put five to 10% of men's decisions on all of all, on all
00:32:28.300
of men when really it's like 80% of women that are sleeping with them.
00:32:33.280
So I'm saying women need to take the accountability, right?
00:32:38.320
That's what I was posing that women aren't holding women accountable, but the men, the
00:32:42.420
five to 10% of men that are doing that, they're doing it with all of the 80, 10% and we aren't
00:32:49.380
Because the women are throwing themselves at them.
00:32:52.720
These girls are, these girls are waiting for them.
00:32:57.480
So if we're holding one party accountable, we need to hold the other people accountable too.
00:33:01.500
But how are you, listen, you can't hold men wrong for developing themselves to be as best
00:33:10.800
And then they get all of this coochie thrown at them.
00:33:14.420
The concept, the concept of groupie is a strictly female term.
00:33:21.540
So like, I think like, listen, at the end of the day, there's a whole media engine put in
00:33:33.540
Hanging on the passenger side of a best friend's ride.
00:33:40.420
And on top of that, on the flip side, they got the women singing about being misindependent.
00:33:45.220
All of these things that don't hold them accountable for being a good marriageable wife.
00:33:52.360
The same women, though, are actually wives or want to be wise, but they're telling us,
00:34:01.340
The city girls are talking about we're independent, but then you're so desperate for a man.
00:34:05.420
They want the benefits of being modern and not the consequences of being modern.
00:34:10.000
They want the benefits of being modern and the benefits of being conservative or traditional
00:34:15.820
While a whole media engine has been holding men accountable since TV was TV, since Love
00:34:22.840
Connection was on the goddamn TV screen, and all up until today.
00:34:27.620
The music, the TV, not YouTube, because we hold them accountable over here, and every
00:34:35.780
They've been holding guys accountable since the beginning of time.
00:34:44.380
Now we have platforms today where men can hold women accountable, and y'all get mad at
00:34:51.860
Who do you think's in control of sex, men or women?
00:34:55.240
So then wouldn't you say it's women's fault for giving out sex for free?
00:35:01.580
I am 100% that women are not being held accountable at all, right?
00:35:10.140
Yes, we aren't holding each other accountable or things like that, but there's still a standard
00:35:13.840
of men allowing that, that we aren't holding accountable.
00:35:18.580
But what we've already proven is that it's not the majority of men.
00:35:22.300
It is a 5% to 10% that women are choosing to give their bodies to and lay down with.
00:35:26.600
Do you know there are, between 18 and 30, there are, I think the number's three times
00:35:32.660
the number of men who are virgins than there are women who are virgins.
00:35:37.540
Women can run through body count and run through, I did a video where I talked about how I read
00:35:45.280
Like women anonymously, business women, these were not women, they were strippers and for
00:35:50.020
the street, they actually gave their body count.
00:35:52.380
There was a 29-year-old woman that had 150 plus and she said, I wish it was higher.
00:35:59.280
And even women who had low body count, low numbers of men, they said it should be higher.
00:36:05.420
Like I should be living little and I used to feel, there was, there's no shame about it.
00:36:10.400
If you ask the same men, unless they are certain looks, they have a certain amount of looks
00:36:14.740
or money in status, they can't get, the average woman, if all of us women went outside right
00:36:21.300
now and was just like, listen, come back to the crib, let's go to the car, let's go to
00:36:31.100
We can rack up all of London in one night if we chose, but a men, if they can go outside,
00:36:37.260
even if they look good, even if they have a status, they still have a level of work.
00:36:41.040
They, they may be on a good night can maybe get two if they are just really, really, really.
00:36:50.140
Women have sex with who they want, men have sex with who they can.
00:36:54.100
And only one of them changes to the outcome of their relationships in the future.
00:36:58.120
I mean, I'm not, I'm not going to say that it has no impact, but which one has significantly
00:37:03.500
If a man sleeps with a hundred, a hundred women, can he settle down?
00:37:06.700
I would argue still probably, but if a woman sleeps with a hundred men, she, men, she can't.
00:37:17.560
So if I see, I'm like, that's your ex-girlfriend.
00:37:21.720
Like, if she's like a bust down or I know she's a known hoe or the dude just slept with
00:37:29.520
A man will care about the number of men that she has slept with.
00:37:34.440
We care about the quality because they're almost like, that's why, that's why if a, if a man
00:37:40.280
has other women around him who look good, other women around him that look good, or his
00:37:54.140
But if we see a good looking guy with like a girl that looks terrible, we're like, he's
00:38:05.040
It's 80% of women who are out here doing these things.
00:38:07.760
It's five to 10% of men who are sleeping with them.
00:38:12.640
And now they are disqualifying them from being good, good wives.
00:38:27.180
How are the 80% of men just running through these women?
00:38:31.360
The accountability needs to start with women and locking that down and not doing that.
00:38:34.780
So then the 5% to 10% of men who are running have no place to go.
00:38:42.080
It's all the accountability because all the women are sleeping with that 5% to 10%.
00:38:56.700
Women, if 80% of women are choosing these 5% to 10%, ma'am, you have not you, sweetheart.
00:39:03.860
So I'm just saying, how are we going to blame men when it's 5% to 10% that's getting 80% of the women out here?
00:39:14.740
If 5% to 10% of women were choosing to sleep with those 5% to 10% men, let them go off and do their thing.
00:39:21.200
But we have women in mass, the majority of women that are giving themselves to these low-quality Tyrones, Pookies, and Ray Rays that don't care when there's good men that are right around you,
00:39:34.700
And only one influences the outcome of your relationship.
00:39:37.800
Like, the man sleeping with multiple women is not going to influence the outcome of his relationship,
00:39:42.260
but it sure as hell is going to influence the outcome of hers for her future husband.
00:39:48.080
But we live in a time where we can watch all of these TikTok videos with these street interviews,
00:39:52.280
and the guys are asking girls about, what have you done?
00:39:56.460
And these girls are saying they've been ran through.
00:40:01.980
Do you believe that sex outside of marriage is wrong?
00:40:29.980
Culture is not going to take care of when I'm an unwed mother.
00:40:35.980
Culture is not going to take care of those things.
00:40:38.040
I am responsible for my body, who I give my body to, who I have soul ties to.
00:40:43.460
If you choose to spread your legs open in these streets, society did not make you do that.
00:40:48.460
You made the choice to lay down with all of those men.
00:40:51.400
And putting it on, men need to take accountability.
00:40:54.480
You chose to bust it open for that F-boy or that Pookie.
00:41:02.980
When your society tells you that something is okay.
00:41:05.660
So, what we've seen within the past 10 years is a spike in people that are calling themselves non-binary and trans, right?
00:41:14.680
Because the society has said it's okay to be that way.
00:41:20.860
But I'm saying we have to understand that when society says something is okay, it has an impact on individuals.
00:41:28.640
Because there's a reason why you don't allow your children to watch certain things on TV, right?
00:41:40.180
There's a reason why you don't allow your children to watch certain things on TV.
00:41:43.060
There's a reason why you don't allow your children to go around certain people.
00:41:46.320
Because as much as you could teach your child and say, don't do this.
00:41:56.280
It's your choice who you surround yourself with.
00:41:58.380
Like, I remember being like a kid and thinking these girls were mad.
00:42:03.600
And it's like, even as a child, you have some accountability for the friends you choose to surround yourself with.
00:42:13.660
And all I'm saying is we can't discredit the evidence of society.
00:42:20.060
I think accountability comes from yourself and the ability to take ownership.
00:42:25.440
But listen, how do you know what is good or what you should decide?
00:42:28.120
Listen, every woman that has laid down with the 5% to 10% man, there is another woman who was raised in some of the circumstances or worse that made a different decision.
00:42:39.360
Because you can have all the excuses, society, everybody, all of this.
00:42:43.740
But there is another person out there that made a different and a better choice.
00:42:47.860
Just because you were born in that, then you have to say, why did they make a better choice and I chose to do this?
00:42:54.360
So if one person in the world made a better choice than you, then you have to say society didn't influence them, society didn't do this.
00:43:04.740
Why am I so unaccountable that I want to blame everyone else?
00:43:08.520
If one person has made a better choice than you, then you need to rise to the cream of the crop.
00:43:20.520
And we don't strive for excellence in anything that we do.
00:43:27.580
No, I'm saying like, who passes on culture in a family?
00:43:33.340
We're talking about the individual and we're talking about society.
00:43:37.420
We have completely neglected the home and the family because I would argue that if an older woman had told this younger lady or any younger lady that this is how boys see you, if you do that, you would act differently if someone had told you that.
00:43:53.320
I think men do a much better job of checking each other because men see themselves in younger men.
00:44:27.300
A woman still thinks, even though I'm 40 or 50 or whatever, I can still twerk like a little girl.
00:44:40.640
Wouldn't you guys agree that women pass on the culture in a family?
00:44:57.240
And so by that logic, if the culture's bad, whose fault is it?
00:45:06.040
So, and if we're growing up in a family that doesn't, in a society that doesn't value family,
00:45:16.500
And I actually said, if the woman's not right, because she's the first teacher of children,
00:45:21.960
So, if the woman's not right, the society's not going to be right.
00:45:24.820
Because if you're the first teacher of the children, as women, you spend most of the time
00:45:29.440
So, if you are the one that is constantly and consistently around the children, then the
00:45:35.400
And the child's are the ones that go out into society and do that.
00:45:39.220
I think I actually heard you say it, Pearl, before.
00:45:41.980
In single mother homes, that's when kids do bad.
00:45:45.260
You always need a father figure in the home to be able to coach and teach the child how
00:45:53.320
There are some, though, in single mothers, we have these outliers, like LeBron James,
00:46:03.840
If you saw her, a picture of Sierra, and you put a picture of Savannah James at the
00:46:08.400
Oscars, Savannah James, every woman across the board, like people are talking about, that's
00:46:19.860
She was raised by a single mother, LeBron James.
00:46:22.380
So, even if you were raised a single mother, poverty, all your circumstances, look at people
00:46:29.480
If they made other choices, you have no excuse.
00:46:32.380
If somebody else came out of your situation, and let's be honest right now, ladies and
00:46:36.620
gentlemen, everything we're talking about right now is very lightweight and weak.
00:46:40.860
If we look at history and what people have gone through in real struggle and what we call,
00:46:49.880
Look, I mean, you look at the society as a whole throughout, you know, all of Europe, Africa
00:46:55.380
and everywhere, we are living in a time of absolute privilege.
00:46:59.700
And so, when we, when we, and the accountability that they had to take, it is just, even this
00:47:05.680
conversation is, is, is spoiled and it is, is privileged and it is very, we don't know
00:47:12.560
We don't know what it's like to really struggle.
00:47:14.820
So, we can even have the luxury of having these conversations like this.
00:47:19.700
And, and, and, and it's, it's, it was life and death for a woman to lose her virginity
00:47:30.000
If you aged out, you know, because you did not marry at a certain age, you were sent to
00:47:43.520
So, what we're saying is even these conversations, we really, as a society now, don't know accountability.
00:47:49.900
And, I mean, if we really want to go there, but overall, I would say absolutely the onus
00:47:55.780
is on the women to pass down the culture, teach the young women.
00:47:59.080
Our young women are out of pocket, struggling, because the older women are for the streets,
00:48:05.460
You have women who are in their 40s still being IG models, getting bust down and flew out,
00:48:13.840
And just doing the most and looking like strippers.
00:48:19.760
This is what, you know, I don't know, I don't want to say the word, but like women of, ladies
00:48:31.320
And you're dressing like your daughter doing TikTok and trying to show how thick you are
00:48:38.760
Because as your daughter can get, you can get the same man.
00:48:41.640
He'll be in, let's say he's 33, you're 40, your daughter's 20.
00:48:46.680
You're trying to get that man because you're so lost and so consumed into yourself.
00:48:54.480
But I think that's the reason why men are supposed to be the ones leading society.
00:48:59.120
And I think that's the reason why, because we, like I said, discussed earlier on, women
00:49:03.520
are not going to give younger women the keys to the game.
00:49:08.300
Sitting around asking and expecting them to do it, you'll be waiting a long time for them
00:49:14.280
So when you talk about society, but society has been fragmented and it's been broken.
00:49:18.400
So now men can be women and women can be men and the whole thing's topsy-turvy and upside
00:49:22.540
And so the reason for society being this way is because men aren't allowed to lead.
00:49:26.640
Men like TMR, men like myself, we get called misogynistic.
00:49:31.260
When we try to lead, we get called all types of, oh, if you're broke, then say so.
00:49:41.500
So the society, going back to who leads society, I would say there's a part of, like I said,
00:49:47.780
those 1% of men, whoever they are, those 1%, the same people that put Andrew Tate in jail,
00:49:54.100
those men are the ones that are trying to cultivate society and show people that if you step out
00:50:00.220
of line, like Andrew Tate, then they'll try and put you back in check.