JustPearlyThings - July 12, 2023


Older Women Failed in Their DUTY


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In this episode, we discuss who is to blame for the dating market today? Is it modern women or men? And who is being held accountable for their part in the problem? Who is the bigger baddie?

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00:00:00.920 I actually noticed it on TikTok.
00:00:02.680 Like it would, there was a group of like moms and they did like the mom content and then 0.90
00:00:08.020 one gets divorced and the other gets divorced and the other gets divorced.
00:00:11.040 It's like the whole damn friend group.
00:00:12.560 And it's just like, Miz really, really loves company.
00:00:15.120 They don't want to be alone in their bad decisions.
00:00:16.680 The man has other women around him who look good. 1.00
00:00:20.560 Other women around him that look good or his girlfriend looks good. 0.98
00:00:23.300 He's like pre-qualified.
00:00:24.460 We're just like, oh, he's got a baddie.
00:00:26.500 It in us, it incites like he's pre-qualified.
00:00:28.980 Whereas we care about it.
00:00:31.220 But if we see a good looking guy with like a girl that looks terrible, we're like, he's 0.99
00:00:34.880 probably broke.
00:00:35.600 He's probably this.
00:00:36.340 I wouldn't want him.
00:00:37.400 A man doesn't care about that.
00:00:38.700 All he cares about is quantity.
00:00:39.660 I think men do a much better job of checking each other because men see themselves in younger 0.81
00:00:47.540 men.
00:00:48.500 Women see themselves as younger women. 0.98
00:00:52.860 So a man bars. 0.82
00:00:55.160 Today's topic is, are modern women to blame for relationships today? 0.99
00:01:01.280 Whose fault is the dating market today?
00:01:05.000 So before we get too deep into that, I would like for you guys to define a word that we
00:01:11.280 hear so much about.
00:01:13.060 I'd like for you guys to define accountability.
00:01:15.800 Go here, around, in the second row.
00:01:19.140 Accountability is being ultimately responsible for all of your actions, whether it be positive
00:01:23.800 or negative.
00:01:24.280 Yeah, I would say it is accountability.
00:01:29.100 And then I think it's also owning it to a level where you're fixing it.
00:01:34.280 Like you can take accountability or know that you've done wrong, but like not pointing to
00:01:38.720 the, to others and deflecting, but you're actually reflecting, look in the mirror and say, what
00:01:43.140 can I do to change?
00:01:44.200 Because that's the only person you can, you can change.
00:01:46.780 I think accountability is having introspection and self-reflection.
00:01:50.720 I think it's about understanding who you are and taking responsibility for all of the decisions
00:01:56.180 that you make in your life.
00:01:57.100 Yeah, I would say accountability is admitting what you did right and wrong.
00:02:01.540 And then also accepting the consequences of both.
00:02:05.300 Yeah, I definitely agree.
00:02:06.740 I think taking accountability is very important in life and for self-development as well.
00:02:12.740 I think self-awareness, but also the ability to receive when other people have something
00:02:20.380 to say about you, because as self, we can be jaded to what we don't see about ourselves,
00:02:25.000 but we don't want to hear what other people have to say about us.
00:02:27.960 And that honestly is how we coexist with other people.
00:02:30.760 And we need to be accountable for how others receive us so that we can properly coexist.
00:02:36.700 I think accountability is being honest with yourself and that once you admit you're at
00:02:41.040 fault, you can grow from that.
00:02:42.660 I think that's the most important thing.
00:02:44.560 So who takes more accountability, men or women?
00:02:47.880 Men.
00:02:48.200 Men.
00:02:48.640 Men.
00:02:49.400 Men.
00:02:49.760 Men.
00:02:49.920 Men.
00:02:50.160 Men.
00:02:50.820 What?
00:02:51.440 You're shaking your head.
00:02:52.500 I think women, you know, we easily say sorry. 1.00
00:02:57.000 Men don't say sorry as much as women. 0.86
00:02:58.780 So definitely women. 1.00
00:02:59.940 But men say sorry and then continue to fix it, whereas women can't say sorry and then 1.00
00:03:03.840 continue to make the same mistake.
00:03:05.380 I think women rarely say sorry in a relationship. 0.98
00:03:07.880 Yeah, I was about to say that.
00:03:08.620 Across the board, I've never, most men, one of their biggest gripes is that women, they 1.00
00:03:13.140 will always move the goalposts.
00:03:14.860 Like, if they're wrong, then they will kind of counterpoint on how they, like, how you
00:03:19.760 caused it.
00:03:20.480 Like, even if they cheat, well, you weren't emotionally available.
00:03:23.260 So it's your fault.
00:03:24.600 No matter what happens, there's an excuse.
00:03:26.560 I rarely hear a woman say, I'm sorry, honey.
00:03:28.900 I did wrong.
00:03:29.700 I'm going to work on it.
00:03:30.640 You'll never see me do this again.
00:03:32.240 Please forgive me.
00:03:33.200 Well, I think that's exactly.
00:03:34.820 That's exactly.
00:03:35.340 Women are never wrong. 1.00
00:03:35.920 Not taking accountability.
00:03:36.960 No, we don't be wrong.
00:03:38.820 Uh-oh.
00:03:39.520 You got the right one today, boo.
00:03:41.720 No, you got the right one today, boo.
00:03:43.600 It's time to get active.
00:03:44.800 Woo! 0.99
00:03:45.860 No, no.
00:03:46.160 Did you feel me active?
00:03:47.160 At the point real quick.
00:03:48.100 Okay, what were you going to say?
00:03:49.360 Not in all situations, but I do think women hold their hands up more than men. 0.93
00:03:54.280 Men gaslight. 0.97
00:03:56.220 That's the thing.
00:03:56.920 There's accountability in gaslighting.
00:03:59.180 So I think that there's a difference within our society.
00:04:03.740 I think that women have the privilege in our modern day society today to not be held accountable. 0.94
00:04:08.380 I did a story not too long ago, about a year or so ago, just popped into my head, where
00:04:12.860 a young lady went down the NBA All-Star weekend with not enough money to get back home. 0.99
00:04:17.020 She then goes on GoFundMe in order to get money in order to go back home. 0.98
00:04:20.900 Men cannot do that.
00:04:21.980 Right.
00:04:22.160 Men do not have that type of reach and or access to get free money sent to them if they make
00:04:27.740 a boo-boo. 0.91
00:04:28.580 I don't think so.
00:04:29.540 I think that men...
00:04:30.580 So society in general, just last quick point.
00:04:33.480 But society in general has cushions put in place for women more often than men. 1.00
00:04:39.800 That's why most homeless people in America are men.
00:04:43.580 It's like 90 to 10%.
00:04:45.160 90%.
00:04:45.760 Yeah.
00:04:46.260 I think when you say that, if you go on the modern day TikToks and whatever, right, you'll
00:04:52.320 find videos of women saying, oh, how to apologize to your man, just scoot up to him naked with 0.92
00:04:59.540 your ass out. 0.95
00:05:00.100 And that shows a lot of non-accountability.
00:05:03.800 That shows...
00:05:04.280 When you say that, okay, women are more accountable, it's like, no, that's how they apologize. 1.00
00:05:08.580 They think, okay, if we have sex, then everything's fine.
00:05:11.740 And so, yeah, I think women don't hold themselves accountable a lot. 1.00
00:05:14.920 I think women have a hard time having that introspection. 1.00
00:05:18.260 I think if you do, they try to attack people more so than actually accept that.
00:05:23.520 I think in a time though, well, we live in a time where women don't really need to be 1.00
00:05:29.220 accountable in a way that men are always running around after them, which I think needs to stop.
00:05:34.920 And that's why that they never have to really hold their hands up and say, look, I'm sorry
00:05:39.000 what I've done wrong.
00:05:40.300 I'll try to fix this.
00:05:41.200 Because before it becomes an actual issue, the man's already there trying to fix what
00:05:44.800 they've done.
00:05:46.220 This is so interesting to me because I feel like in America, this is not the stance, right?
00:05:51.660 I feel like the men that I have come across in the dating spectrum, they are very passive.
00:05:57.340 They are not quick to apologize.
00:05:59.120 They are very gaslighting.
00:06:00.980 They don't accept accountability.
00:06:02.320 And to your point about a man not being able to go to Vegas, get stuck, and not make his
00:06:07.080 way back, men these days, because they're in the streets doing whatever, have accumulated 0.97
00:06:11.820 a bunch of women that care for them. 1.00
00:06:13.680 You can paint her a stop story and she's going to send you $100 because she's caring and wants
00:06:18.600 to support you, right?
00:06:19.640 So I think it's a balance of each depending on the circumstances and the person.
00:06:23.140 But I definitely think women can be accountable. 1.00
00:06:25.980 And from my circle and my experiences are more accountable in this generation of men who don't
00:06:31.060 accept accountability, they apologize by actions, right?
00:06:34.620 They just show up.
00:06:35.940 They won't accept accountability for what they did.
00:06:38.100 Specifically, a blanket apology is not an apology if you are not owning, right?
00:06:42.480 That's the definition of lack of accountability.
00:06:44.780 If you, oh, I'm just sorry.
00:06:46.720 But what are we sorry for?
00:06:47.820 What are we making improvements on, right?
00:06:49.800 So I have a question for you.
00:06:51.060 What was the last thing that you apologized for?
00:06:53.400 What was the last thing you took accountability for?
00:06:55.280 Bad communication.
00:06:56.560 Bad communication.
00:06:57.640 Yep.
00:06:57.780 Okay, you had something to say.
00:06:59.000 I think maybe sometimes when I lose my anger, sometimes I'll blame it on other things.
00:07:05.120 But the last thing I took accountability for is when I've gone, no, do you know what?
00:07:08.240 I overreacted with that and I shouldn't have reacted in that way.
00:07:10.640 So I apologize for that.
00:07:12.360 Can we clarify that accountability is not the same as an apology?
00:07:16.600 Right.
00:07:17.080 Because accountability means that there is a consequence after the action.
00:07:22.320 So either that means, okay, you did that.
00:07:24.760 And because of that, this is the consequence.
00:07:27.680 And I believe that is what men have to deal with.
00:07:30.520 I think a lot of times women think just by saying, I'm sorry, I'm accountable. 0.99
00:07:34.860 That is not the same thing.
00:07:36.360 Absolutely.
00:07:36.620 You know, listen, the amount of times that I'm in dating relationships with different women 1.00
00:07:40.760 and listen, they just want to just complain about the problem.
00:07:44.820 I want to fix the problem.
00:07:46.260 Correct.
00:07:46.600 I don't want to continue to listen to you just talk about what happened with you and Marianne
00:07:51.520 in the office, right?
00:07:52.820 If you come to me with an issue, let's talk about solutions, all right?
00:07:56.760 Because you can't just waste my time at the end of the day.
00:07:59.420 Let's talk about solutions.
00:08:00.300 But I find as though a lot of women don't communicate in solutions. 1.00
00:08:03.540 So we talk about accountability.
00:08:05.000 The consequences for that is the solution.
00:08:07.120 If men in general are not accountable, they will not be successful.
00:08:11.040 If women in general are not accountable, they can still be the wife to a CEO. 1.00
00:08:15.960 Or they can go on OnlyFans.
00:08:17.400 Using that analogy, that same woman will complain to you about, you know, what happened at work. 1.00
00:08:23.760 You will say as a man, okay, cool.
00:08:25.520 What are we going to do about it?
00:08:26.640 What are we doing about it?
00:08:27.420 How are we going to fix this?
00:08:28.120 How are we going to fix this?
00:08:29.160 She will say, oh, I just wanted to vent.
00:08:31.080 And then the next week or the next month, she'll be complaining to you about the same thing.
00:08:34.640 So it's like, okay, but how do you hold yourself accountable?
00:08:38.700 Do you want to face this woman or whoever you have a problem with?
00:08:41.480 Do you want to get it out into the air?
00:08:43.580 Do you want to help the situation?
00:08:45.200 No, they just want to vent.
00:08:46.360 So, yeah, women talk a lot, but they don't do a lot. 1.00
00:08:51.060 When somebody commits a crime, do we blame the criminal or do we blame society?
00:08:57.200 It depends on the gender.
00:08:59.020 I think it's both.
00:09:00.360 I think good men can become bad.
00:09:03.420 But usually when you see men that have turned bad, I think they always started out as good men.
00:09:08.300 But being around certain people in society can change them and twist them.
00:09:12.600 So you guys think it's 50-50?
00:09:14.540 I wouldn't say 50-50.
00:09:16.140 Yes, I'm at default.
00:09:17.080 So if you steal something, if you steal something, it's not 50-50.
00:09:20.460 If I go down the street and I steal something, is it my fault or society?
00:09:23.400 No, it's your fault.
00:09:24.280 It's your fault.
00:09:24.860 It's your fault.
00:09:24.880 It's nothing to do with society.
00:09:26.380 Like, if we want to blame the system, then that's the crux of no accountability.
00:09:32.380 Like, if you want to just blame, well, my childhood, my upbringing, I didn't have this, I didn't have that.
00:09:37.940 The same person grew up in the same circumstance as you and they made other choices.
00:09:41.940 So we have to, like, that's not accountability.
00:09:44.340 If it's always somebody else, you know, who caused it because you were raised a certain way.
00:09:51.220 I can show you the example of somebody raised in a worse circumstances who made better choices than you.
00:09:56.220 So is it really society?
00:09:58.320 If we can, if I can point to one person who made a better choice, sorry, if I can point to one person who made a better choice, then, like, you haven't, your excuse is gone.
00:10:09.320 But there's a moral story in that.
00:10:11.460 So, for instance, if you look at people like Robin Hood, right, Robin Hood was born into a poor society, right?
00:10:18.800 And what he chose to do was to rob from the rich and give to the poor, right?
00:10:23.720 So was he, was he wrong?
00:10:25.640 So I have a question.
00:10:26.500 So if a guy cheats, can he blame society?
00:10:29.080 No.
00:10:29.520 No.
00:10:30.360 Absolutely not.
00:10:31.100 No, he has no, no discipline with his tool.
00:10:33.640 Why can't he just blame hookup culture by that logic?
00:10:38.780 No, just leave.
00:10:39.340 If you want to hook up, yeah, be single.
00:10:40.720 Just leave.
00:10:41.300 Just leave.
00:10:41.780 I don't understand that.
00:10:43.260 Yeah, but it also depends.
00:10:44.420 Why cheat?
00:10:44.780 Just leave.
00:10:45.360 But I think it also depends on your, on your end goal.
00:10:47.820 So like I said, with Robin Hood, with the Robin Hood analogy, he robbed from the rich, gave to the poor to try and change society.
00:10:54.940 So women were, they, they, they. 1.00
00:10:57.100 So this woman is getting a lot of his tool and these poor women out here aren't getting enough D. 1.00
00:11:02.280 So he's giving charity D to the streets.
00:11:04.720 I'm not talking about the D.
00:11:05.960 I'm talking about.
00:11:06.540 Because that's essentially what your example is.
00:11:08.680 No, I'm just talking about morally.
00:11:10.040 It depends on, that's why I said it depends.
00:11:11.900 I never said it's 50-50.
00:11:13.060 I said it could also be, the society could also be the individual.
00:11:16.240 I'm just saying.
00:11:16.880 No.
00:11:17.300 I would say it would depend on what you want from society.
00:11:21.120 So people like, if you're trying to change society, for instance, look at Andrew Tate.
00:11:24.560 He's trying to change society, right?
00:11:26.820 But he's deemed as wrong.
00:11:28.860 That's why he's been jailed.
00:11:30.000 Because people don't like to hear the truth.
00:11:30.880 Right, because people don't like to hear the truth.
00:11:31.780 But he's done things wrong as well, if we're honest.
00:11:35.200 But he's done things right.
00:11:36.440 I will say there are moves he's made that people on his side will say, listen, you self-snitched.
00:11:43.540 Like, you should have kept it quiet.
00:11:45.040 There's moves that he needs to make different.
00:11:46.240 Yeah, we're not talking about that.
00:11:47.000 We're talking about whether he's.
00:11:48.320 Is that society's fault if you self-snitch?
00:11:50.520 Is he wrong?
00:11:52.620 For what he's trying to do, is he wrong?
00:11:54.280 If you self-snitch, you have to learn how to move.
00:11:56.720 We're in the world we're in.
00:11:58.120 And I'm not saying he's right or wrong.
00:11:59.520 What I'm saying is, but I'm saying is, but he has to also, does Andrew Tate have to take accountability if he's self-snitched?
00:12:05.960 Well, but if you, if you, you can sing about something in a song or talk about something on social media without it technically being self-snitching.
00:12:12.660 They have to bring evidence that you did those crimes.
00:12:14.340 Exactly.
00:12:14.840 They have no evidence against him.
00:12:16.520 So I agree with you.
00:12:17.420 They have no evidence.
00:12:18.160 So they need to let that go.
00:12:19.180 Their feelings are hurt.
00:12:20.340 So that's why I said society.
00:12:21.500 Because society could deem somebody wrong because they're the ones in the room.
00:12:25.300 So if I have power.
00:12:26.240 My original question was about the, about the stealer.
00:12:29.080 So if I go down and steal, is it my fault or society?
00:12:31.160 It's your fault.
00:12:31.820 Your fault.
00:12:32.260 But let's just think if you're, if you're raised in poverty, you have no money, you're in a circumstance where you have no food and you're raising us and you're living, let's say you're a kid and you have no money, you have no food.
00:12:42.660 You're dependent on parents who are on drugs and, and your, your baby sister needs to eat.
00:12:48.280 Your mother's on crack. 1.00
00:12:49.500 Like there are nuances in this where you have to blame a portion of society that this child has failed because we've let them slip through the system.
00:12:58.500 I disagree.
00:12:59.780 But how would that child eat?
00:13:01.200 How do they eat?
00:13:01.960 Tell me the solutions.
00:13:03.540 If their parents are on crack, their baby sister, their little brothers and sisters are hungry.
00:13:07.940 They can't get a job.
00:13:09.140 They're 13.
00:13:09.820 I personally know of people like this, kids in homeless shelters.
00:13:13.380 This is their situation.
00:13:14.740 Maggie, where are you?
00:13:15.640 Understood, but wrong is still wrong.
00:13:17.720 There may be reasons why this kid is stealing, but we still have to be able to say wrong is wrong.
00:13:23.320 And as a parent, I mean, you hear it even in parenting advice, you know, they tell you, oh, the child is not bad.
00:13:29.540 They just made bad decisions where I grew up in an era where if you were a fool, they called you a fool.
00:13:35.360 Yeah.
00:13:35.560 And I think we need to bring some of that back because it breeds this thing, well, it's not my fault.
00:13:40.740 Sometimes it just has to sit on you and you just have to realize I did that and it was wrong.
00:13:45.320 So is that a moral question then, like when you say wrong is wrong?
00:13:47.840 Because who decides what is wrong and what is right?
00:13:49.700 But then the question is, well, if you are, let's say you're a teenager or young, your mother's on crack.
00:13:54.620 There's a recent story in the U.S. where a mother left her two children, her 14-year-old ran away, her 12-year-old and she has a three-year-old, all three different baby daddies.
00:14:03.300 She left him alone in Texas and Houston for two months through Thanksgiving.
00:14:06.720 She told them, if you tell anybody that I'm leaving, that they're going to take your little three-year-old brother away and you'll never see him again and threatened her.
00:14:15.880 So she was scared to tell anybody what was going on.
00:14:19.340 Her mother was missing for two months or she was running the streets in another state.
00:14:23.440 She was left in the care.
00:14:24.940 She never enrolled these children into school, the oldest one.
00:14:28.760 So she used to have to lie to her father who was working in another state because, of course, she got custody of all the kids, okay?
00:14:36.260 So then she, because she was threatened, because the mother said, I'll never love you or see you and you'll never see your siblings again.
00:14:41.820 This child had to lie to her father and say, can you please get groceries? 0.98
00:14:45.700 Mom is working.
00:14:46.500 He would call the mother and say, yeah, I'm working.
00:14:48.520 Can you please send groceries or food?
00:14:50.100 I'm struggling.
00:14:51.020 But she couldn't tell the truth because she was scared.
00:14:53.300 If that instance, if she didn't have food, didn't have the father who would, who would send the groceries or food to the house and she had to go steal, are we going to say, little 12-year-old, you are now accountable because your mother's for the streets and abandoned you and your, and your little sibling and now you need consequences?
00:15:09.420 I mean, I think there's, you can have empathy for a situation, but the whole idea is wrong is wrong.
00:15:15.260 But you're 12 and your mom leaves you with a three-year-old?
00:15:18.140 And you could say, this is why I did that wrong thing.
00:15:20.580 And like, this is my reason for it, but wrong is still wrong.
00:15:23.880 It doesn't, it doesn't become right just because something happened.
00:15:27.600 Exactly.
00:15:28.100 It doesn't matter.
00:15:29.400 Well, that's tough for me.
00:15:30.180 That one.
00:15:30.720 That's a tough one.
00:15:31.140 I think it's odd.
00:15:31.960 So, for instance, if I got up and slapped you in your face right now, am I wrong?
00:15:36.460 Yes.
00:15:36.660 Absolutely.
00:15:37.580 If you slap me back, are you wrong?
00:15:39.580 Yes.
00:15:40.020 No.
00:15:40.640 No.
00:15:41.380 But remember, you made the decision to slap me.
00:15:43.640 No, because one's in self-defense.
00:15:45.700 All right.
00:15:46.080 If he just slaps you once.
00:15:50.580 And then he just stands there and there's no defense needed.
00:15:53.020 He just slapped you.
00:15:53.840 It's still self-defense though, right?
00:15:55.240 I don't know if he's going to slap me again.
00:15:56.660 What if he slaps you and then go sits back down?
00:16:02.240 It's still a soap, right?
00:16:03.880 It's still a soap.
00:16:04.680 He could stand up and do it again.
00:16:06.860 But what if he doesn't?
00:16:08.140 What if like he's held back?
00:16:09.540 Are you, should you be able to?
00:16:11.600 How would he be held back?
00:16:12.240 Guys, how did we get here from our Women Held Cucked Cannabis Society?
00:16:16.300 I'm like, we've gone in a path.
00:16:17.740 No, I'm just saying it for some more.
00:16:18.900 I think you've gone in a path.
00:16:21.000 I think you've gone in a path.
00:16:22.340 Take accountability, Mel.
00:16:23.160 These examples are a little extreme.
00:16:25.060 Let's reel it in.
00:16:25.920 Your mind's like spaghetti.
00:16:27.220 It's all my fault.
00:16:28.380 Everyone, it's my fault.
00:16:29.600 Why is it that when a man cheats, he's a cheater.
00:16:32.860 But when a woman cheats, she's not satisfied in the relationship? 0.99
00:16:35.840 Because women cheat emotionally and men cheat because there's a hole in the wall, right? 0.99
00:16:44.840 That's why men cheat.
00:16:45.880 Sounds like an excuse to me.
00:16:47.300 No, no.
00:16:47.580 I'm just saying, listen, it's a corn category, right?
00:16:50.880 It's called glory holes.
00:16:52.340 You see men putting their things in. 0.85
00:16:53.940 They don't care who's on the other side.
00:16:55.380 They're just trying to get their rocks off, right?
00:16:57.720 Men can do that. 0.96
00:16:59.620 Men don't care, right? 1.00
00:17:01.080 Women actually, for a woman to cheat on a man, she has to be somewhat emotionally involved. 1.00
00:17:05.780 No, the question's backwards.
00:17:07.000 Or tied to that guy.
00:17:07.740 Men can do it without having any emotional connection whatsoever.
00:17:13.140 No, but the question was different, though.
00:17:15.380 Yeah, that's not what I asked.
00:17:17.100 No, but you said why?
00:17:18.420 No, I said why does society label the man a cheater, but a woman's not satisfied in the relationship? 0.98
00:17:23.800 So why is there an excuse for the woman, but there's not an excuse for the man?
00:17:28.940 Because it's emotional.
00:17:29.580 No, it's an accountability issue.
00:17:31.920 Agree.
00:17:32.300 It's an accountability issue.
00:17:33.440 For sure.
00:17:33.880 Listen, at the end of the day, one of the things that we open up with is that there's systems put in place for whatever reason to continue to pander to the modern woman.
00:17:43.140 And I think it's all just kind of just based off of money.
00:17:45.240 I think that if you want to sell ad placements to the component of the population that makes 80% of the household purchasing decisions, you're going to do so in a way to try to make them feel good and nice inside and avoid all accountability.
00:17:59.740 At the end of the day, accountability doesn't feel good.
00:18:03.040 Having to fix problems doesn't feel good.
00:18:05.120 It's time intensive, and it brings you a dose of reality of the things that you have to do to over encumber that, right?
00:18:11.360 Women don't want to do all that shit. 1.00
00:18:12.860 They just want to feel good about themselves and let it be the man's issue or the man's problem.
00:18:17.760 Like, again, they're not focused on solutions generally.
00:18:21.060 But that's the thing as well.
00:18:22.340 Say as a man, you need to take accountability for something and say you seem upset or distraught about it.
00:18:27.180 There is nothing more disgusting than a dude who doesn't take accountability.
00:18:30.080 Exactly.
00:18:30.740 It's nasty.
00:18:31.780 Get away from me.
00:18:32.420 I don't even want guy friends who don't take accountability.
00:18:34.900 Get away from me.
00:18:35.820 But me personally, as a man, who do you go to to talk to about it?
00:18:39.680 Because personally, I don't have anyone.
00:18:41.580 I don't know about the other men.
00:18:43.180 You don't have mentors?
00:18:45.540 I have people I think of mentors, but not people that I would go to emotionally to talk about my problems.
00:18:50.900 As a man, you sit there and deal with them yourself.
00:18:53.660 But I know all women mates and my missus mates and so on, where if they're in trouble, something went wrong, whatever.
00:19:00.040 And they're like, oh my God, and he talked to someone about this.
00:19:01.960 Where's your father?
00:19:02.680 They have 5, 10, 15.
00:19:03.820 Oh, my father's alive.
00:19:04.560 He's all right.
00:19:05.000 Yeah.
00:19:05.240 Why can't you go to your father?
00:19:07.460 I don't know.
00:19:07.860 We have this kind of strange relationship.
00:19:09.760 No, we have a great relationship.
00:19:11.980 He is my role model in some ways, but he has his own problems that I don't want to.
00:19:17.840 You don't want to go and bother someone else with your problems.
00:19:21.040 So then it's an issue with you there.
00:19:22.140 No, my number one is my pops.
00:19:24.660 If things are right, like my pops, you know, he's my example of what to be a man in modern
00:19:31.120 day society today is, especially, you know, being a black man in America.
00:19:35.380 He is my example.
00:19:36.220 And I make sure that big decisions that are within my life of things that I may not know
00:19:41.320 the answers to.
00:19:42.140 And I consider myself a genuinely, sometimes, most of the times, a wise guy, you know, but
00:19:46.760 for things that, you know, I just can't quite figure out, I make sure that I go to him.
00:19:50.480 Now, I know at the same time, there's a lot of young men out there that don't have that
00:19:54.420 father figure.
00:19:55.280 And actually, I think that's a large degree and a component.
00:19:57.380 That's the majority.
00:19:57.780 That's why channels like mine have blown up is because there's a lot of men, young men 1.00
00:20:01.160 out there that might've been raised in a single parent household that have questions regarding
00:20:05.640 things that are happening to themselves within their lives that they don't quite have the
00:20:09.120 answer to.
00:20:10.000 So I'm actually surprised to hear that your father is as active as what he is, but you
00:20:13.680 don't go to him.
00:20:14.340 It might be different between England and America, but from over here where I'm from in
00:20:20.120 Southampton, pretty much every guy that I know would say the same as me.
00:20:24.420 So maybe it's, I don't know, a difference there.
00:20:26.820 Do you think culture, are you saying that culturally men are taught not to say anything
00:20:30.540 then?
00:20:31.680 Growing up in schools, yeah.
00:20:33.020 I think it was always man up, get on and do this, sort this out.
00:20:36.980 And I think that's the struggle men go through.
00:20:40.080 And men can actually talk about it.
00:20:41.900 That's what it is.
00:20:42.720 What you guys don't understand is that women relate emotionally.
00:20:46.100 Like we can empathize.
00:20:47.720 And so when a woman goes through something or she cheats, we feel this, we can, we try
00:20:53.460 to like bring empathy to what she, what's going on with her.
00:20:57.180 Men are, you know, are more logical in their thinking and deductive reasoning.
00:21:02.020 This goes into biology and, and how men's brains are wired.
00:21:06.180 So logically women will always try to, you know, there's confirmation bias as well because 1.00
00:21:11.820 there are other women. 1.00
00:21:12.720 Men, so like we, we wouldn't give an excuse to a woman who sleeps with our husband or 1.00
00:21:16.820 our man.
00:21:18.120 And like, we got a problem with that.
00:21:19.880 But if it's our girlfriend, someone we like, or someone in the sisterhood, there's this kind
00:21:24.000 of like this camaraderie.
00:21:25.420 Men do it as well.
00:21:26.280 Men feel a camaraderie for each other.
00:21:28.060 So, but I will say overall, men are much more, you know, like they're going to, men are made
00:21:34.480 to, to discipline.
00:21:35.700 Men are made, they're not going to get into the emotions of like, I don't like my father,
00:21:39.580 I don't care what you felt.
00:21:41.220 What did you do?
00:21:42.380 Like, like quit the, quit the crying, quit the tears.
00:21:46.240 I get it.
00:21:47.320 You feel this way, but you have real world consequences.
00:21:50.900 And I think most women are either treated like princesses by their fathers, or they don't
00:21:56.040 have accountability growing up.
00:21:57.400 They don't know what it looks like.
00:21:58.820 And this is why they're offended by it.
00:22:00.580 And if something happens to another woman, we want to be understanding because we automatically,
00:22:05.540 empathy puts us in their shoes.
00:22:07.340 Like we could see how they feel because we may have felt a certain way, even if we've
00:22:11.680 never done that action, but it doesn't excuse it away.
00:22:14.280 They still need to be held accountable.
00:22:16.280 But that's why so many women buck against conversations like this, because it's like, how dare you say 1.00
00:22:21.360 something?
00:22:21.760 It's all these men and men and women cheat at almost the same rate, but yet it's always men.
00:22:26.280 Well, you know, actually, Maggie, I wonder, what were you shaking your head at?
00:22:30.500 Yeah.
00:22:31.080 I mean, you said a few things there, Melanie, some I agree with.
00:22:34.200 I think we ended up where we agreed, but I think ultimately men have the burden of duty 0.96
00:22:39.940 and honor put on them that women don't. 1.00
00:22:43.500 And so to answer your question as to why a man would be labeled a cheater is because you're
00:22:47.880 supposed to do right.
00:22:49.420 Where a woman is coddled and kind of given the there there, which I don't agree with. 1.00
00:22:55.780 We can still empathize and still call it wrong.
00:22:59.420 For example, back to the other point, if I'm speeding through a traffic light because my
00:23:03.720 son is in an accident, I'm trying to get to the hospital.
00:23:05.660 I go through a red light.
00:23:06.840 It's still wrong.
00:23:08.100 I may explain the reason why, but if I have to pay a ticket for it, I pay a ticket for
00:23:12.820 it.
00:23:13.180 Where we are is like, oh, I understand.
00:23:15.120 Go ahead and, you know, go scot-free.
00:23:17.060 So that's what I wanted to say.
00:23:18.080 What do you think of this conversation?
00:23:20.960 I think.
00:23:24.600 No, no.
00:23:25.800 What were you going to say?
00:23:26.820 Can I?
00:23:27.120 Yeah.
00:23:27.300 I was going to say a bunch of different things, but one of the things that you said is kind
00:23:30.840 of the, the empathy of women and why you guys, you know, kind of communicate like that.
00:23:37.620 And I often think like, you know, I, you know, I think I like, like the entrance of like a
00:23:41.280 therapist is, I would say a lot more beneficial to most modern women than they are to modern 0.99
00:23:46.000 men, depending upon the type of therapist that you go to.
00:23:48.320 I think men should go to male therapist. 0.93
00:23:50.060 But the thing is, is like the downfall of a lot of modern women today outside of the 0.95
00:23:54.240 Sims, the white knights is other modern women that are unwilling to hold them accountable. 1.00
00:23:59.660 And they'll get into these echo chamber circles and just kumbaya around the totally incorrect
00:24:05.700 thing.
00:24:06.300 And that's why, right?
00:24:07.540 Like I suggest, and you know, Kevin used to do it as well to suggest therapy to a lot
00:24:11.520 of modern women because they can get a third party arbitrator to understand the situation 1.00
00:24:16.220 and be like, do you know what?
00:24:18.260 I hate to be the bearer in the bad news.
00:24:19.720 However, do you know what's wrong?
00:24:21.720 You know, one of the reasons why I do that in two competition, women see each other as 1.00
00:24:26.680 competition.
00:24:27.620 Women never give each other's the keys to the game. 1.00
00:24:30.540 Okay.
00:24:30.980 So when older women get older, right, they never give younger women the game because the 1.00
00:24:36.140 older women are actually vying for the same types of men that the younger women are vying 0.99
00:24:39.640 for.
00:24:40.220 Right.
00:24:40.760 And so you never, ever tell your opponent the key to the game.
00:24:44.360 You can console them.
00:24:45.760 Oh my baby.
00:24:46.940 You're so bad.
00:24:47.920 That's what you've done.
00:24:48.980 Oh my God.
00:24:49.720 Amazing.
00:24:50.440 But the same types of men that the older women want is the same types of men that the 0.91
00:24:53.840 younger women want. 1.00
00:24:54.640 So the older women are never going to give you the game because they see you as competition. 1.00
00:24:58.640 Yeah.
00:24:58.960 We talked about that earlier.
00:25:00.540 Pearl and I were talking about that earlier.
00:25:02.080 I want to come back to you, baby, because you aren't, you aren't talking much.
00:25:06.080 Do you feel, do you have older women in your life that hold you accountable? 0.94
00:25:10.060 Well, I actually hold myself accountable.
00:25:12.300 No, no, no, no.
00:25:12.800 No one can hold you.
00:25:13.700 You can't hold yourself accountable because we're our own.
00:25:16.120 Like if you don't have outside voice, we just see ourselves how we see ourselves.
00:25:20.640 Accountability comes from someone saying, listen, accountability hurts.
00:25:24.480 We don't hurt ourselves.
00:25:25.540 We don't tell ourselves the things that we need to hear.
00:25:28.420 You're dating a guy.
00:25:29.200 You like him.
00:25:29.820 And an older woman say, I see this is going on.
00:25:33.480 I see like this guy is not, you know, that you can trust and know that she's not competing
00:25:38.080 with you.
00:25:38.860 Do you have an older woman in your life? 1.00
00:25:40.680 Yeah, definitely.
00:25:41.780 You know, some of my mom's friends, when I was a bit more open with my relationship,
00:25:46.940 they would always like throw things at me like, oh, if he does this, oh, he's probably
00:25:51.380 cheating, things like that.
00:25:53.220 And it's just, I could tell, you know, they were in competition and they just didn't want
00:25:57.620 me to be happy.
00:25:59.000 So definitely.
00:26:00.240 Really?
00:26:00.660 Well, so it's like, so they actually tried to put your relationship and your man down.
00:26:03.940 Did you feel like they were trying to, their negativity or their negative experiences they
00:26:08.580 were trying to put on you and him?
00:26:10.400 Extremely negative.
00:26:11.420 They would just, it would just always be something.
00:26:13.740 And then now I'm very, very private with my relationship.
00:26:16.980 I'm just private with my life.
00:26:18.540 But like, they've never met him.
00:26:20.260 So it's like, how, how do you have so much to say?
00:26:23.180 So do you have anybody, do you have anybody, a woman, an older woman who says, I love you.
00:26:28.980 The only thing I want is the best for you.
00:26:31.080 They're not in competition.
00:26:32.040 They're not trying to put negativity.
00:26:33.860 They want to hear what you have to say.
00:26:35.220 They want to meet him, love on him and actually get the real thing.
00:26:38.340 Do you have any woman in your life like that? 0.98
00:26:40.100 That's older.
00:26:41.300 Okay.
00:26:41.680 So this is a failure.
00:26:43.820 Maggie, what we talked about just on her podcast we did yesterday, older women, we have
00:26:49.980 failed younger women like her.
00:26:52.060 I'm 41.
00:26:53.320 You just, you're about to turn 21.
00:26:55.100 Yeah.
00:26:55.380 Like we're a 20 year difference.
00:26:56.860 You know, like mothers as well.
00:26:59.000 I sometimes feel like mothers in competition with their daughters.
00:27:02.200 Absolutely.
00:27:03.040 Yeah.
00:27:03.780 We just talked about, do you feel as though, and I don't want to put your mother on the 1.00
00:27:07.300 spot or anything, you can talk in general, but do you find like with your friends or your
00:27:10.680 experience that the moms, they put like a competition. 1.00
00:27:14.680 They don't want you to win because they failed.
00:27:17.700 Yeah.
00:27:18.140 Yeah.
00:27:18.740 And they, and they will talk you into failure.
00:27:21.240 Right.
00:27:21.580 Don't, don't worry about it.
00:27:22.620 They will console you though.
00:27:23.860 Right.
00:27:24.220 But, but they'll talk you into failure.
00:27:25.880 And then once you fail, they'll be like, oh, it's okay, baby.
00:27:27.980 And like I said, it's for, it's a, if in my personal point of view is for competition
00:27:31.560 about men, because the same man that is going for the 21 year old, that will sleep 21 year
00:27:36.020 old, he will sleep with you too, Melanie.
00:27:38.100 Right.
00:27:38.640 He will sleep with you too.
00:27:39.480 And misery loves company.
00:27:41.500 It's like when you, when you fail a test, what, what's the best feeling in the world
00:27:45.060 when you turn to someone and they're like, I failed too.
00:27:48.580 If you're the only one in the class that failed or the only one in your circle that failed,
00:27:53.820 I actually noticed it on Tik TOK.
00:27:55.280 Like it would, there was a group of like moms and they did like the mom content and then 0.90
00:28:00.820 one gets divorced and the other gets divorced and the other gets to, it's like the whole
00:28:04.480 damn friend group.
00:28:05.260 And it's just like misery really, really loves company.
00:28:07.920 They don't want to be alone in their bad decisions.
00:28:09.600 Single women keep single women single, right? 1.00
00:28:12.000 Right.
00:28:12.300 If the older women have not kept their own relationship together, then it's really hard 0.99
00:28:17.000 to wish that a blessing on someone else.
00:28:20.140 So I think you have to be very selective and find someone that is in a relationship that
00:28:24.920 you actually admire and they're secure in that relationship.
00:28:28.040 I think if you're trying to get advice from older single women, that's where it can really
00:28:32.380 go.
00:28:33.020 But sometimes married women as well, because how many married women do we know wish they could 1.00
00:28:37.140 be back in the streets, right?
00:28:38.440 They're miserable in their marriage.
00:28:40.240 I know so many who are just like, they see the glamour of being flown to Dubai and they
00:28:46.380 don't know, they're getting flown, these single women get flown to Dubai because they're laying 1.00
00:28:50.220 down with a camel.
00:28:51.100 They're getting flown and blown.
00:28:52.280 No, no, no.
00:28:52.780 They're flown and blown.
00:28:54.120 That is what is going on.
00:28:55.540 They're actually selling, but we don't, because what happens is younger guys that you may be,
00:29:00.320 what's the oldest guy you've dated?
00:29:02.420 Well, this is my second boyfriend and he's 23.
00:29:07.480 Okay.
00:29:07.800 Yeah.
00:29:08.040 So he's not that much older, but that same 23 year old will try to, will sleep with and
00:29:14.500 go after someone my age.
00:29:16.460 Is he serious?
00:29:18.300 This happens every day, but I say to myself, like, so what happens is these older women 1.00
00:29:23.220 will feel like, okay, well that little 20 something year old, she can't do nothing for you, boo. 1.00
00:29:28.060 Let's come over here and I'm going to do this.
00:29:29.860 I'm going to put it on you.
00:29:30.940 She's not grown.
00:29:31.920 She's immature.
00:29:33.100 This is how these older women are thinking these cougars. 1.00
00:29:36.120 And so they see you as competition instead of loving on you and wanting you to win.
00:29:40.480 Or they'll use shaming language, like calling the dude a pedo when it's just like, no, he
00:29:45.300 just likes younger women. 0.95
00:29:46.680 Yeah.
00:29:47.000 It's, and, but when they were younger, I don't know a single older woman who, when she was 0.99
00:29:53.160 younger, did not date an older guy.
00:29:54.680 But once they get older, it's like, oh, well, I was naive then I didn't know and all this
00:29:59.100 other stuff.
00:29:59.840 So like, yeah, I date an older guy, but it's, it, it really was abusive.
00:30:03.680 And I'm just thinking to myself, were you really abused dating an older guy?
00:30:07.700 They'll say financial abuse.
00:30:09.980 Abuse, right.
00:30:10.420 You want to give him his credit card.
00:30:11.540 Right.
00:30:12.020 They feel that way.
00:30:13.200 And, and, and that's why I wanted to talk to her because I said, as a younger woman, like,
00:30:17.620 you know, this is our whole conversation, Maggie.
00:30:20.760 We were talking about this yesterday about older women are competing for the same men.
00:30:26.180 They don't realize that the older women think, cause these men will, your boyfriend, I'm not 0.99
00:30:31.600 saying he is, but your boyfriend will sleep with a woman who's older. 0.61
00:30:35.060 And so they think they're in competition with you and they have to prove this, but they should
00:30:38.920 have been out the game a long time ago.
00:30:40.840 You can see it in the TikTok videos, right?
00:30:42.660 When you see like mother and daughters, right?
00:30:44.380 And the mother looks quite young and the daughter looks quite young and they're all, they're
00:30:47.780 all dancing together.
00:30:48.500 I'm like, that's your competition right there.
00:30:50.980 And it's like the mother's trying to keep up with her.
00:30:53.580 Yes.
00:30:54.080 But on the flip side, men like MTR, men like myself, right?
00:30:57.980 We may be older.
00:30:58.760 We're trying to give younger men the game.
00:31:00.140 We're trying to say, look, young guys, this is what you do.
00:31:02.580 This is what you don't do.
00:31:03.580 Right.
00:31:05.640 Older guys, what I've realized is older guys don't mind giving younger guys a game.
00:31:09.320 They don't mind telling them where they went wrong.
00:31:11.360 I don't mind telling a younger guy where I went wrong.
00:31:14.260 Do you know what I mean?
00:31:14.900 Well, and generally, generally dudes, if you're in competition with another dude, usually it's
00:31:20.880 more brute strength, you know, in competition physically or downright to fighting status,
00:31:28.520 financials.
00:31:29.520 Generally women compete utilizing manipulation, innuendo, reputation destruction, not giving you 1.00
00:31:37.080 the keys to whatever it is that you're trying to do.
00:31:39.260 Right.
00:31:39.860 Because women don't generally fight just based off of, right, like physical power S, but 1.00
00:31:45.660 there's other things that they do.
00:31:47.020 Wonder, right?
00:31:48.160 Women aren't holding each other accountable, but it also sounds like we aren't holding men 0.61
00:31:51.620 accountable, right?
00:31:52.540 That they are able to go and do these things with multiple women and attract to that.
00:31:57.340 Right.
00:31:57.520 So why are we, why is that our standard?
00:31:59.500 I have a question.
00:32:00.200 So are you aware that one, one in three men are either virgins or haven't had sex in the
00:32:04.880 past year?
00:32:05.960 Yes.
00:32:06.380 Given the weight that women date and things like that. 1.00
00:32:08.500 Yep.
00:32:09.020 What percent of men do you think are sexually active and sleeping with multiple women?
00:32:13.700 Hmm.
00:32:13.980 I think it's like 30 or 40% or something like that.
00:32:19.660 It's like, it's five to 10%.
00:32:21.940 Yeah.
00:32:22.440 So it's like, you're going to put five to 10% of men's decisions on all of all, on all 0.60
00:32:28.300 of men when really it's like 80% of women that are sleeping with them.
00:32:32.020 Amen.
00:32:32.560 That's it.
00:32:33.280 So I'm saying women need to take the accountability, right? 0.97
00:32:35.680 So, so it's who, who's it more on?
00:32:37.680 Women for sure. 1.00
00:32:38.320 That's what I was posing that women aren't holding women accountable, but the men, the 0.99
00:32:42.420 five to 10% of men that are doing that, they're doing it with all of the 80, 10% and we aren't
00:32:47.020 holding them accountable either.
00:32:48.200 But the women should they be? 1.00
00:32:49.380 Because the women are throwing themselves at them. 1.00
00:32:51.020 Right.
00:32:51.320 Like Drake.
00:32:52.200 Like what?
00:32:52.720 These girls are, these girls are waiting for them. 0.95
00:32:54.960 Well, back to the question.
00:32:56.340 Wrong is wrong, right?
00:32:57.480 So if we're holding one party accountable, we need to hold the other people accountable too.
00:33:01.500 But how are you, listen, you can't hold men wrong for developing themselves to be as best
00:33:08.160 as what they positively and ultimately can be.
00:33:10.800 And then they get all of this coochie thrown at them.
00:33:13.140 Okay.
00:33:14.420 The concept, the concept of groupie is a strictly female term. 1.00
00:33:19.460 It's not on the flip side.
00:33:21.260 Right.
00:33:21.540 So like, I think like, listen, at the end of the day, there's a whole media engine put in
00:33:26.300 the place to hold men accountable.
00:33:28.400 I don't want no scrubs.
00:33:30.380 Scrub is a guy.
00:33:31.340 Can't get no love from me.
00:33:33.540 Hanging on the passenger side of a best friend's ride.
00:33:36.300 Trying to holler at me.
00:33:38.160 Come on.
00:33:39.380 Come on.
00:33:40.420 And on top of that, on the flip side, they got the women singing about being misindependent.
00:33:43.900 I don't cook.
00:33:44.460 I don't clean.
00:33:45.220 All of these things that don't hold them accountable for being a good marriageable wife. 1.00
00:33:50.280 That's my thing.
00:33:50.960 I get these questions all day.
00:33:52.360 The same women, though, are actually wives or want to be wise, but they're telling us, 0.95
00:33:57.640 like, I don't cook.
00:33:59.140 I don't clean.
00:33:59.680 I'm for the street city girls. 0.99
00:34:01.340 The city girls are talking about we're independent, but then you're so desperate for a man. 1.00
00:34:05.420 They want the benefits of being modern and not the consequences of being modern.
00:34:10.000 They want the benefits of being modern and the benefits of being conservative or traditional
00:34:14.360 at the same damn time.
00:34:15.820 While a whole media engine has been holding men accountable since TV was TV, since Love
00:34:22.840 Connection was on the goddamn TV screen, and all up until today.
00:34:27.620 The music, the TV, not YouTube, because we hold them accountable over here, and every
00:34:33.780 other forms of media.
00:34:34.700 The movies, the Disney.
00:34:35.780 They've been holding guys accountable since the beginning of time.
00:34:39.020 The talk shows, shout out to Steve Harvey.
00:34:41.200 Shout out to the Derek Jacksons.
00:34:42.780 Y'all been holding guys accountable.
00:34:44.380 Now we have platforms today where men can hold women accountable, and y'all get mad at
00:34:49.300 us.
00:34:49.660 Who do you think's in control of sex? 1.00
00:34:51.460 You're a so genius.
00:34:51.860 Who do you think's in control of sex, men or women? 1.00
00:34:54.320 Oh, women. 1.00
00:34:55.240 So then wouldn't you say it's women's fault for giving out sex for free? 1.00
00:34:59.140 So let's not get this confused.
00:35:01.580 I am 100% that women are not being held accountable at all, right?
00:35:06.420 But there's a balancing factor.
00:35:08.760 Why can that coexist?
00:35:10.140 Yes, we aren't holding each other accountable or things like that, but there's still a standard
00:35:13.840 of men allowing that, that we aren't holding accountable.
00:35:16.060 That's the only thing that I'm saying.
00:35:17.580 That's the only thing I'm saying.
00:35:18.580 But what we've already proven is that it's not the majority of men.
00:35:22.300 It is a 5% to 10% that women are choosing to give their bodies to and lay down with. 0.97
00:35:26.600 Do you know there are, between 18 and 30, there are, I think the number's three times
00:35:32.660 the number of men who are virgins than there are women who are virgins.
00:35:37.540 Women can run through body count and run through, I did a video where I talked about how I read 0.98
00:35:43.940 women's body counts. 1.00
00:35:45.280 Like women anonymously, business women, these were not women, they were strippers and for 1.00
00:35:50.020 the street, they actually gave their body count.
00:35:52.380 There was a 29-year-old woman that had 150 plus and she said, I wish it was higher.
00:35:58.900 Oh my gosh.
00:35:59.280 And even women who had low body count, low numbers of men, they said it should be higher.
00:36:04.240 They actually feel embarrassed.
00:36:05.420 Like I should be living little and I used to feel, there was, there's no shame about it.
00:36:10.400 If you ask the same men, unless they are certain looks, they have a certain amount of looks
00:36:14.740 or money in status, they can't get, the average woman, if all of us women went outside right 1.00
00:36:21.300 now and was just like, listen, come back to the crib, let's go to the car, let's go to
00:36:25.640 the alley, I'm going to bust it down for you. 0.86
00:36:27.240 They would happen straight away.
00:36:28.140 We can rack up the whole city.
00:36:31.100 We can rack up all of London in one night if we chose, but a men, if they can go outside, 0.96
00:36:37.260 even if they look good, even if they have a status, they still have a level of work.
00:36:41.040 They, they may be on a good night can maybe get two if they are just really, really, really.
00:36:50.140 Women have sex with who they want, men have sex with who they can. 0.99
00:36:54.100 And only one of them changes to the outcome of their relationships in the future.
00:36:58.120 I mean, I'm not, I'm not going to say that it has no impact, but which one has significantly
00:37:02.920 more?
00:37:03.500 If a man sleeps with a hundred, a hundred women, can he settle down? 0.99
00:37:06.700 I would argue still probably, but if a woman sleeps with a hundred men, she, men, she can't. 1.00
00:37:12.200 Women, men care about quantity. 1.00
00:37:14.800 Women care about quality of the women. 1.00
00:37:17.560 So if I see, I'm like, that's your ex-girlfriend. 0.56
00:37:20.520 That's who you slept with. 1.00
00:37:21.720 Like, if she's like a bust down or I know she's a known hoe or the dude just slept with 1.00
00:37:26.760 processes, we would be upset as women. 0.99
00:37:29.520 A man will care about the number of men that she has slept with. 1.00
00:37:34.440 We care about the quality because they're almost like, that's why, that's why if a, if a man 0.84
00:37:40.280 has other women around him who look good, other women around him that look good, or his
00:37:45.220 girlfriend looks good.
00:37:46.200 He's like pre-qualified.
00:37:47.380 We're just like, oh, he's got a baddie.
00:37:49.300 In us, it incites, like he's pre-qualified.
00:37:52.520 Whereas we care about it.
00:37:54.140 But if we see a good looking guy with like a girl that looks terrible, we're like, he's 0.99
00:37:57.800 probably broke.
00:37:58.540 He's probably this.
00:37:59.260 I won't want him.
00:38:00.300 A man doesn't care about that.
00:38:01.640 All he cares about is quantity.
00:38:02.720 What were you going to say?
00:38:03.500 But to the point, right?
00:38:05.040 It's 80% of women who are out here doing these things. 1.00
00:38:07.760 It's five to 10% of men who are sleeping with them. 0.72
00:38:09.800 But they are running through the 80% of women. 0.93
00:38:12.640 And now they are disqualifying them from being good, good wives. 0.98
00:38:15.900 So it first needs to start.
00:38:17.240 That's their choice.
00:38:17.880 It first needs to start.
00:38:18.460 But the women are opening their legs. 1.00
00:38:20.160 The women hold them accountable. 1.00
00:38:22.440 The women are opening their legs. 1.00
00:38:24.500 You just said that women control sex. 1.00
00:38:27.180 How are the 80% of men just running through these women? 0.96
00:38:29.780 Are you saying it's not constitutional?
00:38:31.360 The accountability needs to start with women and locking that down and not doing that. 1.00
00:38:34.780 So then the 5% to 10% of men who are running have no place to go.
00:38:38.940 That is where the care is.
00:38:40.200 But there's no accountability.
00:38:41.180 That's where it shifts at.
00:38:42.080 It's all the accountability because all the women are sleeping with that 5% to 10%. 1.00
00:38:46.440 So women need the accountability. 1.00
00:38:49.320 The 5% to 10%. 0.97
00:38:50.560 It's a shared response.
00:38:52.960 No, I'm sorry.
00:38:53.980 The majority of men do not have those.
00:38:55.680 That's not being accountable.
00:38:55.920 That's not.
00:38:56.700 Women, if 80% of women are choosing these 5% to 10%, ma'am, you have not you, sweetheart. 0.56
00:39:01.640 I'm just talking in general.
00:39:02.520 No, when I say ma'am, I'm just talking.
00:39:03.860 So I'm just saying, how are we going to blame men when it's 5% to 10% that's getting 80% of the women out here?
00:39:13.200 It's us women. 0.99
00:39:14.740 If 5% to 10% of women were choosing to sleep with those 5% to 10% men, let them go off and do their thing. 0.82
00:39:21.200 But we have women in mass, the majority of women that are giving themselves to these low-quality Tyrones, Pookies, and Ray Rays that don't care when there's good men that are right around you, 1.00
00:39:33.220 but you don't want him because he's corny.
00:39:34.700 And only one influences the outcome of your relationship.
00:39:37.800 Like, the man sleeping with multiple women is not going to influence the outcome of his relationship,
00:39:42.260 but it sure as hell is going to influence the outcome of hers for her future husband.
00:39:46.000 Absolutely.
00:39:46.800 So that makes it okay, though?
00:39:48.080 But we live in a time where we can watch all of these TikTok videos with these street interviews,
00:39:52.280 and the guys are asking girls about, what have you done?
00:39:54.800 What have you got to confess?
00:39:56.460 And these girls are saying they've been ran through.
00:39:58.040 They've had five guys in one night.
00:39:59.560 And we've now got to the point.
00:40:01.040 Yeah, we've got to the point.
00:40:01.980 Do you believe that sex outside of marriage is wrong?
00:40:07.340 So, yes, but do you still partake?
00:40:11.380 Yes, right?
00:40:12.200 So, in modern culture, it's relevant, right?
00:40:15.100 I think you're blaming culture.
00:40:16.500 I'm not blaming culture.
00:40:17.560 That's the reality of it, right?
00:40:19.160 No, it's not.
00:40:19.660 That's a fact that people are having sex. 0.64
00:40:21.020 Right, but that's yours.
00:40:21.920 You're as an individual.
00:40:22.700 You have individual accountability.
00:40:24.280 So, I don't care what culture is doing.
00:40:26.000 I make a choice with my box.
00:40:27.680 Culture is not going to give me STD.
00:40:29.740 Absolutely.
00:40:29.980 Culture is not going to take care of when I'm an unwed mother. 1.00
00:40:35.980 Culture is not going to take care of those things.
00:40:38.040 I am responsible for my body, who I give my body to, who I have soul ties to.
00:40:43.460 If you choose to spread your legs open in these streets, society did not make you do that.
00:40:48.460 You made the choice to lay down with all of those men.
00:40:51.400 And putting it on, men need to take accountability.
00:40:54.480 You chose to bust it open for that F-boy or that Pookie. 1.00
00:40:58.320 That is your choice.
00:40:59.580 However, I'll say this.
00:41:02.520 Go off.
00:41:02.980 When your society tells you that something is okay.
00:41:05.660 So, what we've seen within the past 10 years is a spike in people that are calling themselves non-binary and trans, right?
00:41:12.340 We've seen a spike in it.
00:41:14.080 Why?
00:41:14.680 Because the society has said it's okay to be that way.
00:41:18.320 That's still their choice.
00:41:19.240 It is their choice.
00:41:20.860 But I'm saying we have to understand that when society says something is okay, it has an impact on individuals.
00:41:27.480 That's just the reality.
00:41:28.640 Because there's a reason why you don't allow your children to watch certain things on TV, right?
00:41:32.860 But you can't control society.
00:41:34.300 But society impacts you.
00:41:36.960 You live in society every single day.
00:41:38.880 It has to be.
00:41:39.640 But hang on.
00:41:40.180 There's a reason why you don't allow your children to watch certain things on TV.
00:41:43.060 There's a reason why you don't allow your children to go around certain people.
00:41:45.880 Why?
00:41:46.320 Because as much as you could teach your child and say, don't do this.
00:41:49.360 That's wrong, right?
00:41:50.900 Your child can still be influenced, right?
00:41:53.480 By a certain group of people.
00:41:54.980 But it's still your choice, even as a child.
00:41:56.280 It's your choice who you surround yourself with.
00:41:58.380 Like, I remember being like a kid and thinking these girls were mad. 1.00
00:42:01.760 And thinking these girls were crazy.
00:42:03.600 And it's like, even as a child, you have some accountability for the friends you choose to surround yourself with.
00:42:08.820 But where does accountability come from?
00:42:10.900 It comes from the influences.
00:42:12.360 It comes from our society.
00:42:13.660 And all I'm saying is we can't discredit the evidence of society.
00:42:17.960 Accountability is against you.
00:42:19.020 You can't do that.
00:42:20.060 I think accountability comes from yourself and the ability to take ownership.
00:42:23.920 Where is that shape from, though?
00:42:25.440 But listen, how do you know what is good or what you should decide?
00:42:28.120 Listen, every woman that has laid down with the 5% to 10% man, there is another woman who was raised in some of the circumstances or worse that made a different decision.
00:42:37.280 So that's where your accountability is.
00:42:39.360 Because you can have all the excuses, society, everybody, all of this.
00:42:43.740 But there is another person out there that made a different and a better choice.
00:42:47.860 Just because you were born in that, then you have to say, why did they make a better choice and I chose to do this?
00:42:54.360 So if one person in the world made a better choice than you, then you have to say society didn't influence them, society didn't do this.
00:43:02.280 Why am I so weak?
00:43:04.740 Why am I so unaccountable that I want to blame everyone else?
00:43:08.520 If one person has made a better choice than you, then you need to rise to the cream of the crop.
00:43:13.500 But so many of us are at the bottom.
00:43:15.420 We want to be like everybody else.
00:43:16.920 We want to be regular.
00:43:18.480 We want to be below average.
00:43:20.520 And we don't strive for excellence in anything that we do.
00:43:23.400 Who creates society? 0.91
00:43:24.600 I think we're missing something.
00:43:25.840 The 1% of men do.
00:43:27.580 No, I'm saying like, who passes on culture in a family?
00:43:30.540 Exactly.
00:43:31.340 And that's the one thing that we're missing.
00:43:33.340 We're talking about the individual and we're talking about society.
00:43:37.420 We have completely neglected the home and the family because I would argue that if an older woman had told this younger lady or any younger lady that this is how boys see you, if you do that, you would act differently if someone had told you that.
00:43:53.320 I think men do a much better job of checking each other because men see themselves in younger men.
00:44:02.180 Women see themselves as younger women. 0.98
00:44:06.440 So a man.
00:44:08.380 Bars. 0.86
00:44:10.120 She's good.
00:44:10.520 You better teach.
00:44:13.160 Sorry, continue, continue, continue.
00:44:15.100 A man looks at his life in phases. 0.58
00:44:18.200 He knew he was a boy.
00:44:19.660 He knew he was a young man.
00:44:21.080 He knew he was, you know, a bachelor.
00:44:23.380 And then he's like, I'm ready to set it down.
00:44:25.580 A woman doesn't do that. 1.00
00:44:27.300 A woman still thinks, even though I'm 40 or 50 or whatever, I can still twerk like a little girl.
00:44:32.760 I can still wear revealing clothing.
00:44:34.880 I think there's something.
00:44:36.020 Sierra.
00:44:36.800 Sorry, go ahead.
00:44:37.320 My goodness.
00:44:38.040 Savannah Jane.
00:44:38.980 Let's talk about Savannah Jane.
00:44:40.640 Wouldn't you guys agree that women pass on the culture in a family? 0.98
00:44:45.220 Yes.
00:44:46.200 It depends on the race women, pal. 1.00
00:44:50.460 What?
00:44:50.660 I would say men build societies.
00:44:54.140 Women pass on the culture typically. 1.00
00:44:55.940 Yes, they do.
00:44:57.240 And so by that logic, if the culture's bad, whose fault is it?
00:45:01.660 The women. 0.81
00:45:02.480 And who's breaking up homes? 0.79
00:45:03.960 Men or women? 0.78
00:45:04.260 You said a whole word right there, Maggie.
00:45:06.040 So, and if we're growing up in a family that doesn't, in a society that doesn't value family,
00:45:12.100 whose fault is it?
00:45:12.860 No, I think that's women. 1.00
00:45:13.740 I agree.
00:45:14.420 They're breaking up the homes.
00:45:15.240 We actually done something on that.
00:45:16.500 And I actually said, if the woman's not right, because she's the first teacher of children,
00:45:21.660 right?
00:45:21.960 So, if the woman's not right, the society's not going to be right. 1.00
00:45:24.820 Because if you're the first teacher of the children, as women, you spend most of the time 1.00
00:45:28.600 with the children.
00:45:29.440 So, if you are the one that is constantly and consistently around the children, then the
00:45:34.580 child's not going to be right.
00:45:35.400 And the child's are the ones that go out into society and do that.
00:45:39.220 I think I actually heard you say it, Pearl, before.
00:45:41.480 That's the thing.
00:45:41.980 In single mother homes, that's when kids do bad. 1.00
00:45:45.260 You always need a father figure in the home to be able to coach and teach the child how
00:45:50.200 to be disciplined and accountable in life.
00:45:53.320 There are some, though, in single mothers, we have these outliers, like LeBron James,
00:45:57.720 single mother, you know, family.
00:46:00.500 And even his wife, Savannah James.
00:46:02.060 I'm sorry, I brought her up.
00:46:03.840 If you saw her, a picture of Sierra, and you put a picture of Savannah James at the
00:46:08.400 Oscars, Savannah James, every woman across the board, like people are talking about, that's 0.77
00:46:13.400 my wedding dress.
00:46:14.300 Like, she's inspired me.
00:46:15.440 She is gold.
00:46:17.120 She is it.
00:46:18.000 She was a single mother very young.
00:46:19.860 She was raised by a single mother, LeBron James.
00:46:22.380 So, even if you were raised a single mother, poverty, all your circumstances, look at people
00:46:28.080 who made different choices.
00:46:29.480 If they made other choices, you have no excuse.
00:46:32.380 If somebody else came out of your situation, and let's be honest right now, ladies and
00:46:36.620 gentlemen, everything we're talking about right now is very lightweight and weak.
00:46:40.860 If we look at history and what people have gone through in real struggle and what we call,
00:46:46.200 you know, hardship and it's not my choice.
00:46:49.880 Look, I mean, you look at the society as a whole throughout, you know, all of Europe, Africa
00:46:55.380 and everywhere, we are living in a time of absolute privilege.
00:46:59.700 And so, when we, when we, and the accountability that they had to take, it is just, even this
00:47:05.680 conversation is, is, is spoiled and it is, is privileged and it is very, we don't know
00:47:11.900 hard work.
00:47:12.560 We don't know what it's like to really struggle.
00:47:14.820 So, we can even have the luxury of having these conversations like this.
00:47:19.700 And, and, and, and it's, it's, it was life and death for a woman to lose her virginity 0.95
00:47:24.620 to the streets.
00:47:25.620 Okay.
00:47:26.040 It was life and death.
00:47:27.140 It means you would be a destitute.
00:47:28.620 You were actually sent to the brothels. 0.90
00:47:30.000 If you aged out, you know, because you did not marry at a certain age, you were sent to
00:47:35.940 work in the, in the brothel house.
00:47:37.960 And that's long changed.
00:47:39.000 Right.
00:47:39.280 And so, now it's OnlyFans.
00:47:41.120 And so, and, and, and, and Instagram.
00:47:43.520 So, what we're saying is even these conversations, we really, as a society now, don't know accountability.
00:47:49.900 And, I mean, if we really want to go there, but overall, I would say absolutely the onus
00:47:55.780 is on the women to pass down the culture, teach the young women.
00:47:59.080 Our young women are out of pocket, struggling, because the older women are for the streets, 1.00
00:48:04.340 many of them.
00:48:05.460 You have women who are in their 40s still being IG models, getting bust down and flew out, 1.00
00:48:10.700 flew, flewed out is what they call it.
00:48:13.840 And just doing the most and looking like strippers.
00:48:16.600 What we call even cute outfits today, sexy.
00:48:19.760 This is what, you know, I don't know, I don't want to say the word, but like women of, ladies 1.00
00:48:26.060 of the night would wear in old times.
00:48:27.980 And there's no accountability.
00:48:29.560 You're 45 years old, ma'am.
00:48:31.320 And you're dressing like your daughter doing TikTok and trying to show how thick you are
00:48:35.520 because you want that same 30-year-old man.
00:48:38.760 Because as your daughter can get, you can get the same man.
00:48:41.640 He'll be in, let's say he's 33, you're 40, your daughter's 20.
00:48:45.400 He's 30.
00:48:46.680 You're trying to get that man because you're so lost and so consumed into yourself.
00:48:51.800 You have nothing to teach, but old box.
00:48:54.480 But I think that's the reason why men are supposed to be the ones leading society. 0.96
00:48:58.280 Exactly.
00:48:58.800 Right?
00:48:59.120 And I think that's the reason why, because we, like I said, discussed earlier on, women 1.00
00:49:03.520 are not going to give younger women the keys to the game.
00:49:05.480 They're just not going to do it.
00:49:06.660 It's competition.
00:49:07.380 They're not going to do it.
00:49:08.300 Sitting around asking and expecting them to do it, you'll be waiting a long time for them
00:49:12.260 to do that, right?
00:49:13.020 So it's for men to lead society. 0.95
00:49:14.280 So when you talk about society, but society has been fragmented and it's been broken.
00:49:18.400 So now men can be women and women can be men and the whole thing's topsy-turvy and upside 0.95
00:49:22.020 down.
00:49:22.540 And so the reason for society being this way is because men aren't allowed to lead. 0.59
00:49:26.640 Men like TMR, men like myself, we get called misogynistic.
00:49:30.820 Do you know what I mean?
00:49:31.260 When we try to lead, we get called all types of, oh, if you're broke, then say so.
00:49:34.580 If you're dusty, then say so.
00:49:36.260 If you're gay, then say so. 1.00
00:49:37.680 We get shamed for trying to be leaders.
00:49:40.800 Do you get what I'm saying?
00:49:41.500 So the society, going back to who leads society, I would say there's a part of, like I said,
00:49:47.780 those 1% of men, whoever they are, those 1%, the same people that put Andrew Tate in jail,
00:49:54.100 those men are the ones that are trying to cultivate society and show people that if you step out
00:50:00.220 of line, like Andrew Tate, then they'll try and put you back in check.