JustPearlyThings - July 05, 2023


On Why Men CHEAT


Episode Stats

Length

49 minutes

Words per Minute

214.21619

Word Count

10,563

Sentence Count

1,028

Misogynist Sentences

51

Hate Speech Sentences

36


Summary

In this episode of the King Riches podcast, we discuss the importance of masculinity in society and why it is more important than money for a man's mental health. We also talk about the benefits of being in touch with your masculinity.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Coming up next.
00:00:00.920 What do you think would happen if there wasn't corn?
00:00:02.980 I think society would be very violent, wouldn't it?
00:00:06.880 I think if you get a lot of men, you see it in the animal kingdom, isn't it?
00:00:10.280 It's the same sort of thing, isn't it?
00:00:11.420 That's true.
00:00:11.560 You get, you know, one alpha male that's got all the females,
00:00:14.480 and the others are always fighting them for position.
00:00:16.080 Yeah, that's true.
00:00:16.460 Willing to fight to the death.
00:00:17.360 I think you'd get quite a violent society,
00:00:18.920 and that's one of the reasons why monogamy came about was to stop that,
00:00:22.680 because if you have men that are not having sex
00:00:24.500 and they're not getting that frustration, I guess, out,
00:00:26.540 they're going to take it out on society.
00:00:28.000 I think if you took corn away from men,
00:00:29.680 I think men's mental health would suffer.
00:00:32.420 I just don't feel, I don't see a world where it is a good thing, I can't lie.
00:00:36.060 It's not do or die.
00:00:37.560 You will survive without it.
00:00:39.160 I don't think it's a good thing,
00:00:41.540 but I wonder if men, like the bottom,
00:00:44.620 because they say that in societies that have a large group of sexless men,
00:00:50.220 those men become violent.
00:00:51.920 And so I wonder if corn helps deter men from being violent,
00:00:57.300 because then they have access to sexuality.
00:00:59.680 in a way.
00:01:00.480 Guys, what is more important to you when looking at a guy?
00:01:06.040 Money or looks?
00:01:09.020 I have a third one, I'm not going to lie.
00:01:10.700 You just got to pick one of the two.
00:01:12.480 You got to pick one of the two.
00:01:14.740 Money.
00:01:15.560 Money.
00:01:16.360 Yeah.
00:01:16.600 No, but if I say money,
00:01:19.140 it's going to sound like I'm a gold digger and I'm not.
00:01:21.500 Don't worry about that.
00:01:22.180 No, I don't want to.
00:01:22.860 Just be authentic.
00:01:24.020 People are not authentic.
00:01:25.240 You know what, yeah?
00:01:25.740 I'm going to be real.
00:01:26.680 Let me keep it real, baby.
00:01:28.520 Money.
00:01:29.320 Money.
00:01:30.260 Yeah.
00:01:30.580 Same.
00:01:31.160 Money.
00:01:31.540 Yeah.
00:01:32.780 Money.
00:01:33.700 Money.
00:01:33.980 Shoot.
00:01:34.540 Money.
00:01:35.000 Actually, I think I changed my mind, you know.
00:01:36.880 Wait.
00:01:37.580 No, but.
00:01:38.120 Looks ain't going to pay the bills.
00:01:40.420 They're not going to pay the bills.
00:01:41.720 That's it.
00:01:43.140 Yeah, you're so right.
00:01:44.020 After what I've been through, money.
00:01:45.900 Money.
00:01:46.200 Definitely.
00:01:46.920 So, if you were advising guys, would you tell them to get their money up first or their
00:01:51.220 fitness if they only had time for one?
00:01:53.360 Fitness.
00:01:54.240 Oh, sorry.
00:01:55.280 No money.
00:01:56.320 Fitness.
00:01:56.440 I'm just curious if the results you guys have seen are the same.
00:02:00.180 What's interesting for me, I was bringing this up on the King Riches podcast yesterday,
00:02:03.760 is that I've had tons of broke clients that spent the last of their money on my training
00:02:08.180 and got rock star level results.
00:02:10.980 Like, just getting tons of girls living at home, like, doesn't matter.
00:02:14.560 Like, I've found that money is very, very, very, like, almost irrelevant.
00:02:18.440 Really?
00:02:18.760 As long as the guy's not living in poverty.
00:02:20.320 I know online, like, everyone thinks.
00:02:21.940 That's so true.
00:02:22.260 There's, like, so many Red Pill creators that are, like, get the bag and all this stuff.
00:02:25.920 But in practice, that's total BS.
00:02:28.660 But don't you think money makes a guy more confident and more, like, he's worthy for?
00:02:34.600 I get the other side of the coin, though.
00:02:35.660 I get a lot of, like, millionaire clients.
00:02:37.120 I was telling you before the show, a billionaire client.
00:02:39.960 And they're just trying to lead with that.
00:02:42.040 So, they're like, I'm just going to pick up in the Ferrari.
00:02:43.800 I think a guy being in touch with his masculinity is what makes him attractive.
00:02:49.220 And he doesn't need money for that.
00:02:50.260 I agree.
00:02:51.980 Yeah, he doesn't need money for that.
00:02:53.700 But the question was, money or looks?
00:02:56.000 Yeah.
00:02:56.720 Money, you're into it.
00:02:58.120 Exactly.
00:02:58.660 But one thing also, when, first of all, money can just tell you more about his ambition.
00:03:04.960 That's what I was saying.
00:03:05.620 Yeah.
00:03:06.140 He's up to something.
00:03:07.280 And fitness is more important than money, for sure.
00:03:09.900 Because your body, your health will give you everything.
00:03:13.300 Mental health.
00:03:14.020 You can have your money today.
00:03:15.080 You lose it tomorrow.
00:03:16.240 And you will be left alone with the girl that you picked.
00:03:19.340 And you'll be with the man that you picked.
00:03:21.500 And it's a duty to work a life together.
00:03:24.120 That's a commitment to a relationship.
00:03:25.420 Do you guys agree that if your guy was unemployed, he only has so much time before you would leave?
00:03:31.420 Yes or no?
00:03:32.180 No.
00:03:32.520 Depends on the context.
00:03:33.260 So, like, let's say five years, no job.
00:03:35.660 Oh, that's a bit crazy.
00:03:36.620 No.
00:03:36.920 Like, no job at all.
00:03:38.280 No.
00:03:39.260 I need, I believe that the man is the lead.
00:03:44.940 Like, he is the one that takes charge.
00:03:46.820 And if he doesn't hold that up, I just feel like, I couldn't stay with someone that's just, there needs to be a drive.
00:03:53.980 When you're working, there's a drive.
00:03:55.460 There's a motivation.
00:03:56.560 Like, you're working.
00:03:57.500 I'm working.
00:03:58.200 Like, we're in this together.
00:03:59.860 Like, I couldn't be with a man that's just, that's no motivation.
00:04:02.640 For me, that's just being lazy, if I'm being honest.
00:04:05.120 I think it depends, you know, because it depends if he's willing to work, if he's motivated to work.
00:04:09.920 Whereas if he's not motivated and he's fine, he's just chilling with no job, no money for five years, then it's a bit of a problem.
00:04:15.060 But if he's motivated, he knows what he wants to do, he's just working towards his goals, or he's willing to work towards his goals, then I feel like, that's okay.
00:04:22.700 Like, we've all taken time out for ourselves.
00:04:24.620 Five years.
00:04:25.060 Five years.
00:04:25.880 You don't know what, he might want to be a doctor.
00:04:27.780 You don't know what he wants to do, baby.
00:04:29.480 You don't know what he wants to do.
00:04:30.520 Three months.
00:04:31.080 But, like, obviously, everyone's different.
00:04:32.600 And we're all quite young as well.
00:04:34.140 Like, no.
00:04:34.800 No, five years is a stretch.
00:04:35.900 I don't believe that.
00:04:36.460 Everyone has their own opinion.
00:04:37.640 Like, a side hustle.
00:04:39.620 A hard time job.
00:04:40.880 No job.
00:04:41.580 Would you say a side hustle, Pearl, is...
00:04:45.060 A job.
00:04:45.720 Would you class it as the same thing?
00:04:47.100 A side hustle and a job?
00:04:50.260 So, for example, like, OnlyFans.
00:04:53.360 I mean, it's a job.
00:04:54.740 It's still a job.
00:04:56.340 For a man.
00:04:57.480 For a guy.
00:05:00.000 I think it's a job.
00:05:01.140 It's not a career.
00:05:02.120 Okay, yeah, yeah.
00:05:02.840 It depends on the side hustle.
00:05:04.340 Yeah.
00:05:04.700 It's a broad, you know.
00:05:06.220 Yeah, it's a very broad.
00:05:07.040 Yeah.
00:05:07.840 This is an extreme example, too, right?
00:05:09.440 Like, there's, like, gradients.
00:05:10.760 Like, are you talking about, like, does the guy need to be rich versus, like, have just
00:05:14.540 enough?
00:05:15.260 No.
00:05:15.400 You're talking about, like, unemployed, right?
00:05:16.840 My only point was at some point, if he's not making enough money, we're going to leave.
00:05:21.160 Yeah.
00:05:21.300 That's at some point, right?
00:05:22.760 Yeah.
00:05:23.020 No, I would agree with that.
00:05:23.880 But I'm saying, like, if the guy has, like, his basic needs met, like, I've found it doesn't
00:05:27.980 really make much of a difference if he has, like, a ton of money, except for certain girls.
00:05:31.860 Not in the real world.
00:05:32.540 I thought he meant, like, jobless.
00:05:34.020 What's the difference?
00:05:35.100 Okay, is it different in the Eastern European countries versus the West?
00:05:39.100 Yes.
00:05:39.620 I mean, in terms of with money.
00:05:41.340 Yeah.
00:05:41.720 I mean, yeah, because most people are poor, right?
00:05:43.200 Like, in Ukraine and Poland, even in Brazil, like, people are making, like, $1,000 a month
00:05:48.560 or less.
00:05:49.560 So, like, you know, it's, like, 10 grand a year, or less than 10 grand a year after taxes.
00:05:53.260 So, I mean, you know, it goes back to those as basic needs met, right?
00:05:59.500 That basic needs are met.
00:06:00.480 I haven't found that it makes much of a difference because I've had so many rich clients that are
00:06:03.540 all clueless.
00:06:04.140 Like, they're all in their, they're, like, millionaire circles and like, hey, we thought
00:06:07.340 this would get us the girls and we got all the money and there's no girls.
00:06:10.380 And then I have clients that have hardly any money that just crush once they're doing things
00:06:15.060 right.
00:06:15.260 And the girl doesn't even know they don't have money.
00:06:17.140 But again, like, we're talking about, like, unemployed, like, completely broke for years versus
00:06:22.160 at least having basic needs met.
00:06:23.880 Like, a lot of guys, like, even if they're not doing super well, what's the statistic?
00:06:27.180 It's, like, 80% of people are living paycheck to paycheck in the U.S., I think, is something
00:06:31.060 like that.
00:06:32.120 Is it that high?
00:06:32.800 Wow.
00:06:33.100 I'm pretty sure, yeah.
00:06:34.000 So, it's, like, if they don't get paid one week, they can't pay the bills.
00:06:36.980 That's, like, almost all guys, right?
00:06:39.280 So, all this, like, focus on, oh, you need to go make a lot of money.
00:06:43.040 There's a lot of creators that say, like, forget dating.
00:06:45.280 Just go focus on making money.
00:06:46.820 When they arrive at the money, if they ever do, most of them don't even get the money.
00:06:51.040 But if they do, it's not like girls just start raining down in their lap, right?
00:06:55.340 Do you guys think that sex is a need that men can't live without?
00:07:00.680 Definitely.
00:07:01.240 I think men use don't say that.
00:07:02.660 I think, yeah, the men use don't say that.
00:07:04.500 Sex is a need that men can't live without.
00:07:07.060 It depends on what you mean, though.
00:07:09.140 What's the time period?
00:07:10.360 I mean, men clearly live without sex and they're just living on corn.
00:07:14.140 What do you think would happen if there wasn't corn?
00:07:17.900 I think society would be very violent, wouldn't it?
00:07:21.760 I think if you get a lot of men, you see it in the animal kingdom, isn't it?
00:07:25.140 It's the same sort of thing, isn't it?
00:07:26.260 That's true.
00:07:26.380 You get, you know, one alpha male that's got all the females and the others are always fighting them for position.
00:07:30.940 Yeah, that's true.
00:07:31.320 Willing to fight to the death.
00:07:32.240 I think you'd get quite a violent society.
00:07:33.820 And that's one of the reasons why monogamy came about was to stop that.
00:07:37.440 Because if you have men that are not having sex and they're not getting that frustration, I guess, out,
00:07:41.420 they're going to take it out on society.
00:07:42.740 I think if you took away corn away from men, I think men's mental health would suffer tremendously, probably more so than women.
00:07:49.260 So is corn a net positive or a net negative?
00:07:52.880 It depends on how you see it.
00:07:54.580 I think it can be a negative because it creates like a false, like a fantasy.
00:08:00.860 And so when, you know, you do go out with guys, they might be like, they might be more forward with sex or certain things because they've seen certain things.
00:08:11.540 They might have that expectation.
00:08:12.940 So I feel like sometimes it can be quite pressuring and it can, I think sometimes as well that corn is sometimes like devaluing women.
00:08:26.120 I don't know.
00:08:26.720 Like it's kind of, it doesn't, it doesn't make sex feel special.
00:08:29.760 I don't think it makes it more, like you were saying earlier, like the intimacy just creates a fantasy.
00:08:35.980 Sometimes I could see where corn is a net negative for guys in an individual level, but I'm just going to play devil's advocate here.
00:08:47.560 I also think it's helped a lot of guys stay faithful in sexless marriages.
00:08:52.420 I was going to say that.
00:08:53.620 I was going to say that.
00:08:54.500 Yeah, 100%.
00:08:55.200 It's so true.
00:08:56.600 I think there's a place for it because imagine you're one of these guys and your wife has had a kid or two kids or whatever.
00:09:01.500 She's just dealing with life.
00:09:02.900 And I personally am a believer in marriage.
00:09:04.780 I mean, we're getting married soon, right?
00:09:06.020 I believe in marriage, right?
00:09:07.600 I believe if that can keep you going through that period, it's better to engage in that than to actually cheat.
00:09:14.800 Cheat, yeah.
00:09:15.500 And you're going to risk a hell of a lot.
00:09:16.960 And I think corn from that point of view is good.
00:09:19.320 But I think too much of it, like anything, is the issue.
00:09:21.760 There's also an issue where guys don't want to go out and do anything because they're so addicted to corn.
00:09:26.280 Yeah, they're addicted to it.
00:09:26.760 It stops them being about their purpose.
00:09:28.880 They've got these unrealistic views of women.
00:09:30.880 And for some men, especially men that are more prone to that, it might make them even more violent because they go out and demand it of women.
00:09:38.380 And some men do it by force.
00:09:39.600 I mean, most sexual assault is men, are the perpetrators of it.
00:09:42.860 And I think how much is corn to blame for that?
00:09:45.200 You know, and I think it's tapping into some ancient biological process of men.
00:09:48.540 You think corn increases sexual assault?
00:09:50.700 I think it – I don't see why it would not because if men are frustrated at home and all they know is just being online, at some point you might want the real thing.
00:09:58.960 I think it's –
00:09:59.360 I would think it would do – I don't know, but I would think it would do the opposite because, like, it gives them a release instead of going out.
00:10:05.680 But you've seen some issues where men have actually assaulted women where they've had this addiction and they want to play out in real life.
00:10:12.560 You see it that often.
00:10:13.760 It's a fantasy.
00:10:13.920 It's a fantasy and they want to play out in real life and they go by the point of –
00:10:17.600 I haven't seen one.
00:10:18.600 Was there something in the news or – I've never seen that.
00:10:21.220 Wasn't that a policeman that actually got done for that – addicted to that?
00:10:24.200 The one that Sarah Edvard –
00:10:25.640 I also had that.
00:10:26.760 I think, yeah, he had a porn addiction, did he not?
00:10:29.680 The one that actually dragged the woman off the streets in Clapham.
00:10:32.880 I think he had an addiction with porn, if I'm not right.
00:10:34.800 I mean, don't –
00:10:35.240 Porn, please, please.
00:10:36.760 Sorry, with porn because, you know, and it's natural, isn't it?
00:10:41.180 If that's all you know is the virtual version of something, at some point it's quite easy to spill over into wanting a real version of it.
00:10:47.340 Do you think it's the same thing with video games?
00:10:49.120 Like, men that play video games are going to be more violent?
00:10:52.040 Because I'm pretty sure the evidence was the opposite with that.
00:10:54.480 I definitely don't play video games.
00:10:56.240 I agree with –
00:10:57.100 I think that is true as well because, for example, I don't know about –
00:11:02.000 not really in the UK, but I heard about a lot of school shootings with, like, young people in America.
00:11:08.360 Like, it's always to do with guns and always to do with, yeah, like, those kind of, like, video games.
00:11:14.080 So, I think that definitely has an impact as well.
00:11:16.700 But then that's, like, everything has an impact with social media and with technology
00:11:21.360 because even what we see online might change the way that we move or we look.
00:11:27.000 So, everything does, I think.
00:11:28.940 But I think it's only going to amplify what's already there.
00:11:31.500 What's already there, yeah.
00:11:33.120 So, if you're someone that's that way inclined, then, yeah, it might amplify.
00:11:35.420 But I think for most people, playing video games is a way to safely indulge in your fantasies.
00:11:40.440 In the same way Korn would be.
00:11:41.780 Yeah, exactly.
00:11:42.420 With Korn, like, you know, like that statistic you cited, it's almost one in three guys.
00:11:46.440 So, it's getting, like, really high.
00:11:47.520 And I think it's, like, still upward trending, right?
00:11:49.840 So, who knows where that's going to end.
00:11:51.460 But when a guy can just, you know, again, safely, like, go watch Korn and deal with that desire
00:11:56.900 and not have to put himself out there and not get his ego bruised
00:11:59.600 or not face, you know, potential legal consequences or anything like that.
00:12:02.840 Plus, most guys have no idea what to do anyways, right?
00:12:06.020 And what I've noticed with so many of my clients is guys genuinely will put in time and effort,
00:12:10.400 in some cases money, with a lot of these companies that are supposed to help them,
00:12:14.160 and they still fail.
00:12:15.860 And then they're like, well, what now?
00:12:17.620 Isn't it meant to, like, rewire your brain chemistry or something, though?
00:12:21.400 Like, I just don't feel, I don't see a world where it is a good thing, I can't lie.
00:12:25.100 I don't think it's a good thing, though.
00:12:25.760 It's not do or die.
00:12:26.580 You will survive without it.
00:12:28.220 I don't think it's a good thing.
00:12:30.580 But I wonder if men, like, the bottom, because they say that in societies that
00:12:36.020 have a large group of sexless men, those men become violent.
00:12:40.680 And so I wonder if Korn helps deter men from being violent,
00:12:46.420 because then they have access to sexuality, in a way.
00:12:49.780 These men, they need God.
00:12:51.200 That's what they need.
00:12:51.780 Oh, amen.
00:12:52.680 Amen to that.
00:12:53.340 That's what they need.
00:12:54.680 I think it just, I don't know.
00:12:57.440 I just feel like the way that sex is now is not the same.
00:13:03.080 Like, people, it's just not, like, about love and intimacy.
00:13:09.000 It's just not about that.
00:13:10.340 It's just about getting your nut in, like.
00:13:13.520 Well, that's why my question was, is sex a need that men can't live without?
00:13:18.200 Long term, anyways.
00:13:20.140 I don't think it is.
00:13:21.020 I would say so.
00:13:21.660 It depends on the generation.
00:13:23.780 No, okay.
00:13:24.380 I'm not a man regardless of the generation.
00:13:26.220 No, no, because it can be somewhat, no, that's not true.
00:13:29.360 Because there's some men, like, I have a great granddad, yeah.
00:13:33.620 And he, he didn't have no kids, no, he had a partner for a while, but then he went to
00:13:39.900 the war and he just traveled around the world and that was his focus.
00:13:43.260 That was his purpose.
00:13:44.580 So I think sometimes they can shift their purpose.
00:13:47.400 I don't think they need sex.
00:13:47.800 Yeah, I think some men are capable of a lot more restraint when it comes to sex than people.
00:13:51.520 I was about to say, they can.
00:13:52.260 It's just that people don't have the mental toughness anymore.
00:13:54.520 It's like, everything's easy, so you can.
00:13:56.320 There's no discipline.
00:13:56.840 Who doesn't have the mental toughness?
00:13:58.100 Men or women?
00:13:58.900 Are one in three women under 30 virgins?
00:14:00.920 I think, no, both genders don't have the mental toughness anymore right now.
00:14:05.440 What were you going to say?
00:14:06.320 I was going to say, with your scenario, with your granddad, that could just be like, is
00:14:10.660 that out of choice or is it not out of choice?
00:14:12.540 Do you know what I mean?
00:14:13.520 I want to say a joke, though.
00:14:15.000 I actually kind of like, do you know that TikTok one is like, really, I need to, I need
00:14:24.200 to think about it before I actually say, are you sure he's straight?
00:14:28.500 That's what I want to say.
00:14:29.380 No, no, no, no, he's definitely straight, but he's like, but he was all into like,
00:14:34.000 the, um, like wildlife, going for walks.
00:14:37.600 He was just living.
00:14:38.020 I didn't know.
00:14:38.580 He was just out here living, making memories.
00:14:40.720 Yeah, he was living, making his business.
00:14:41.480 But maybe that's his age, because he was like, 90-something, I don't know, towards the
00:14:46.660 end, but he wasn't focused on that.
00:14:49.400 Men can't ultimately be fulfilled.
00:14:51.260 Like, I don't like to live without it.
00:14:52.740 I mean, it sounds like, you know, would the guy kill himself or something like that,
00:14:54.900 but I don't think they can ultimately be fulfilled.
00:14:57.100 Because I've had lots of clients where they have every area of life handled.
00:15:00.300 I'm sure you've seen this a lot of times.
00:15:01.820 If they don't have the girl, that's like, life isn't complete.
00:15:05.520 They're not fulfilled.
00:15:06.280 They're not ultimately happy.
00:15:07.480 Even if they've got the money, the body, like everything, they could have everything
00:15:10.620 going on, but without that partner by their side, they're not ultimately fulfilled.
00:15:13.260 Yeah, that's why he had a companion for years, but he never, like, it wasn't that kind
00:15:19.120 of relationship.
00:15:19.600 It was just like a companion.
00:15:21.360 So I think that can be fulfilled with that loneliness, not necessarily like a sexual drive.
00:15:27.400 That can just be, yeah.
00:15:29.360 Men are not emotional.
00:15:30.460 You think about...
00:15:31.560 Oh, here we go.
00:15:32.420 Men are not emotional.
00:15:33.900 So they can, they, I don't think they can't go without sex, but they don't need that romance.
00:15:38.620 They don't need that affection.
00:15:40.260 They don't need like we do.
00:15:41.920 So if they want to do whatever they're doing in the bedroom, watching whatever they want
00:15:45.720 to watch, then they're happy with it.
00:15:47.980 I think, I think corn is a really, actually, I think it's kind of healthy because I believe
00:15:55.140 like all men, they need sex.
00:15:56.800 Yeah, I agree.
00:15:58.360 It's like a thing that they need, you know?
00:16:00.900 And like, it's good that they at least have corn, you know?
00:16:05.240 At least they have that thing that's like, oh, cool.
00:16:07.880 And it's like what he does in private, at least like, oh, he really, I think it's something
00:16:12.680 natural.
00:16:13.140 I think it shouldn't be like something that have to be banned or, oh, look what these girls
00:16:17.580 are doing here.
00:16:18.580 Like, okay, they chose to do that.
00:16:20.960 They chose to work like that.
00:16:22.820 So that's their problems, you know?
00:16:24.420 Don't look down on that.
00:16:25.440 Yeah.
00:16:25.800 But they're like, oh, because there's type of corn that's like this.
00:16:29.380 There's type of corn that's like that.
00:16:31.680 They have all these types because they have like a public for all these types.
00:16:35.680 Otherwise they wouldn't exist.
00:16:36.800 Yeah.
00:16:37.420 So I think it's like, it's like a necessity for them.
00:16:40.180 But imagine going on your partner's phone, right?
00:16:43.800 Why would you do that?
00:16:45.160 Wait, wait, go on, go on.
00:16:46.220 I'm curious about this.
00:16:47.180 Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:16:48.300 Hear me out.
00:16:49.320 Hear me out.
00:16:50.080 Cool.
00:16:51.040 Imagine going on, okay.
00:16:52.580 Imagine going on your partner's phone and seeing that they search for a certain thing.
00:16:57.640 So it could be, and it's not me.
00:16:59.300 I'm going to be like, baby, she's a ride.
00:17:03.020 Is that an issue for you women?
00:17:04.180 Why are you looking for problems?
00:17:07.020 Hey, I'm not toxic, so let's not just.
00:17:09.100 It's interesting though.
00:17:10.180 Is that an issue for women?
00:17:11.340 What their men.
00:17:12.140 No, no, no.
00:17:12.540 I'm just saying.
00:17:12.960 It can be.
00:17:13.620 I think cold stuff.
00:17:14.900 I've heard that.
00:17:15.820 That's why.
00:17:17.300 What would you do if you saw your.
00:17:18.980 I don't want to know.
00:17:20.440 Exactly.
00:17:21.360 I don't.
00:17:21.820 Are you okay with it?
00:17:23.280 Are women generally okay with their men engaging with corn?
00:17:27.120 Yeah.
00:17:27.480 As long as you don't cheat.
00:17:28.320 And as long as I don't know.
00:17:29.380 Is it seen as cheating?
00:17:30.220 Because I'm women see it as cheating.
00:17:31.000 Yeah, I've gotten yelled at a bunch for it.
00:17:32.720 I'm curious.
00:17:33.460 Out of the girls here, is corn cheating?
00:17:35.480 Yes, raise your hand.
00:17:36.760 No.
00:17:37.180 No.
00:17:38.260 Yes.
00:17:38.760 Yeah?
00:17:39.140 You guys say yes.
00:17:40.680 No, I have a question.
00:17:42.020 Everyone watches it.
00:17:42.300 I don't.
00:17:43.340 What if.
00:17:43.900 What if.
00:17:44.620 So if you think corn is cheating.
00:17:46.700 If you say no to him for sex.
00:17:48.940 Can he then go do corn?
00:17:51.080 Nah.
00:17:51.440 Yeah, but just not with me.
00:17:52.700 But all women are different.
00:17:54.480 Can he go and just.
00:17:55.480 Yeah.
00:17:56.000 But can he go and just sleep with anyone else?
00:17:58.460 You'd rather him sleep with someone else.
00:17:59.740 I don't rather him.
00:18:01.180 It's.
00:18:01.620 It's.
00:18:02.100 I'd rather not know about it.
00:18:03.840 Do whatever you want to do.
00:18:04.920 If you're going to sleep with someone.
00:18:06.300 That person.
00:18:07.260 You.
00:18:07.480 I'd rather you pay that person.
00:18:09.180 And you never cheat on someone that I personally know.
00:18:12.460 So I can just like.
00:18:13.780 At least and get to that situation.
00:18:15.520 But I'd rather not know.
00:18:16.580 So.
00:18:16.840 Is it cheating?
00:18:18.120 Wait, wait.
00:18:18.760 Actually, I have a question.
00:18:19.420 Honestly.
00:18:20.260 But that's why I just.
00:18:21.640 It's so complicated.
00:18:23.040 It's not that easy.
00:18:24.020 That's why I really don't want to know.
00:18:26.260 Are you okay with that in your relationship?
00:18:28.580 What?
00:18:28.960 Like cheating as long as you don't know?
00:18:30.540 As long as you don't know.
00:18:31.740 No.
00:18:32.780 No.
00:18:33.540 She's thinking.
00:18:34.100 If I know.
00:18:34.680 I would.
00:18:36.880 Cut the mic.
00:18:37.820 That.
00:18:38.220 Exactly.
00:18:39.180 If I know.
00:18:41.160 I want.
00:18:42.280 Ignorance is good.
00:18:43.020 I want to do.
00:18:44.020 But ignorance.
00:18:44.700 Exactly.
00:18:45.300 I honor that.
00:18:46.320 So you just don't look.
00:18:47.800 You don't ever look for it.
00:18:49.260 Yes.
00:18:50.400 Almost.
00:18:51.300 Unless there's something kind of.
00:18:52.360 For me cheating is immoral.
00:18:54.060 If my partner was okay with it.
00:18:55.780 I'd almost look at you less.
00:18:57.760 Yes.
00:18:58.500 What do you mean?
00:18:59.160 Because that's a judgment.
00:19:00.140 That's his character.
00:19:01.180 Yeah.
00:19:01.400 Yeah.
00:19:01.600 But listen.
00:19:02.900 If you're going to turn up to.
00:19:04.440 Why do you use the word partner?
00:19:05.820 I like.
00:19:06.200 It's so common out here.
00:19:07.880 And I'm just like.
00:19:08.420 I don't want to date a partner.
00:19:10.680 No.
00:19:10.800 But it's just a figure of speech.
00:19:12.020 Isn't it?
00:19:12.580 It's fiance.
00:19:13.020 It's fiance.
00:19:13.780 Partner.
00:19:14.180 No.
00:19:14.520 Here's the thing about partnership.
00:19:15.920 Right.
00:19:16.200 Because we think boyfriend.
00:19:18.120 Girlfriend.
00:19:18.660 Blah.
00:19:18.800 Blah.
00:19:18.960 Blah.
00:19:19.140 All of that.
00:19:19.880 With time.
00:19:21.080 Partnership lasts.
00:19:22.420 Longer.
00:19:22.700 Because you love your boyfriend.
00:19:24.680 You're attracted to him today.
00:19:26.160 Tomorrow is changing.
00:19:27.700 Your body is changing.
00:19:28.660 His body is changing.
00:19:29.660 Partnership is.
00:19:29.960 Partnership is.
00:19:30.520 But that seems like it's 50-50.
00:19:32.840 It is.
00:19:33.180 And to me.
00:19:33.580 I don't want to.
00:19:34.400 Okay.
00:19:34.740 If you like 50-50 relationships.
00:19:37.060 I prefer relationships that are a little bit in more traditional roles.
00:19:40.640 Where I can like trust my husband's decision making.
00:19:42.660 Right.
00:19:42.780 But that would still be a partnership.
00:19:44.140 But that's 50-50 as well.
00:19:44.600 Imagine you had a business partnership.
00:19:46.160 And his interest in your business was 20%.
00:19:48.540 It's still technically a partner.
00:19:50.080 I think for me.
00:19:50.700 Partnership just means.
00:19:51.720 Someone willing to work with you.
00:19:53.280 Through the ups and the downs.
00:19:54.540 Through the good and the bad.
00:19:55.340 That's partnership.
00:19:56.620 See.
00:19:57.100 But partnership.
00:19:58.040 It sounds like you have the same roles.
00:20:00.080 And the same input of decision making.
00:20:02.540 Where when it's a husband and a wife.
00:20:04.220 That's very clear.
00:20:04.820 It's like different roles.
00:20:05.540 Yeah.
00:20:05.760 Like the man's at the head.
00:20:06.900 Yeah.
00:20:07.000 No.
00:20:07.060 But here's the thing.
00:20:08.240 Right.
00:20:08.460 And I've seen it happen to my mom.
00:20:10.480 What if your husband is making the roles today.
00:20:14.040 But he can't make them tomorrow because he's sick.
00:20:16.140 He got a stroke.
00:20:16.880 So you have to step up in his shoes and continue the journey.
00:20:20.740 Yeah.
00:20:21.060 I mean.
00:20:21.420 In honor of him.
00:20:22.760 That's partnership.
00:20:23.300 I mean.
00:20:23.660 We could talk about exceptions.
00:20:25.020 But I'm talking about the role.
00:20:26.480 Which is like most people are healthy together.
00:20:28.480 This is it.
00:20:28.860 Yeah.
00:20:29.220 It's for better, worse.
00:20:30.620 Sickness and health.
00:20:31.520 That's partnership.
00:20:32.160 Yeah.
00:20:32.720 Yeah.
00:20:33.960 To me.
00:20:34.600 It's just.
00:20:34.960 When I hear partnership.
00:20:36.400 It just sounds like 50-50.
00:20:37.940 I just don't like the word.
00:20:39.500 So I just wonder why it's so common here.
00:20:41.540 Because to me it's like I don't want a husband.
00:20:43.540 I don't want a partner.
00:20:44.320 I get you.
00:20:44.560 I think it's just more figure of speech.
00:20:46.280 You just need anything to say.
00:20:47.240 British thing.
00:20:48.280 Partner.
00:20:48.420 Yeah.
00:20:49.700 Can I ask about the one-sided?
00:20:51.880 Yeah.
00:20:52.080 Yeah.
00:20:52.280 Okay.
00:20:52.740 Yeah.
00:20:52.960 Sure.
00:20:53.320 Okay.
00:20:53.700 So you guys do a little bit unconventional of a relationship, right?
00:20:58.320 Yeah.
00:20:58.520 Totally.
00:20:59.120 Can you tell me about it?
00:21:00.340 So yeah.
00:21:00.860 So in the beginning, you know, I'll admit it.
00:21:03.340 You're going to make me sound like a dick.
00:21:04.640 But in the beginning, like I was like seeing girls behind her back.
00:21:07.980 And then eventually we came to terms with the fact that, you know,
00:21:10.880 what made it work the best was that I'm just fully upfront and honest about all of it.
00:21:15.260 And then we have like certain rules.
00:21:17.240 So like I don't have girls sleep over.
00:21:19.260 I don't go out on dates with girls.
00:21:21.440 I shower if I see a girl, you know, I shower afterwards and stuff like that.
00:21:25.800 But I'll let you speak to it because it was like a big process in the beginning.
00:21:29.140 I mean, it's definitely not normal.
00:21:31.520 No, it was like step by step, you know?
00:21:34.500 Like I used to like before, I've always liked girls.
00:21:40.480 So it wasn't like a big deal for me, like be actually attracted for girls.
00:21:45.800 So, and I don't think it was like a trend, like for me at the time,
00:21:50.080 because like I would look different.
00:21:52.580 So, uh, to girls, that's what I mean.
00:21:55.780 And it was like step by step.
00:21:58.000 So first thing, like, uh, actually we started our relationship really fast.
00:22:02.520 It was like, we started like dating for real, like in two, three weeks.
00:22:07.460 It was like super, super fast.
00:22:09.840 And it was like one thing at the time, one thing at the time.
00:22:13.080 I wasn't like okay with everything.
00:22:14.760 But like, I think the way that we build this thing, this like relationship with a lot of
00:22:19.880 like, um, um, like, uh, rules or like try and error was like, I decided to stay through
00:22:28.620 all of that.
00:22:29.700 And we were really happy now, but it was like, of course it's not like all perfect.
00:22:33.640 She had never had a threesome.
00:22:35.500 Prior to, prior to dating me, she'd never had a threesome.
00:22:37.680 And now she's had like over 75, right?
00:22:40.080 So like, like even last night, right?
00:22:42.380 Like we, we go to the ministry of sound, we see a girl we like, and then she approaches,
00:22:47.320 the girl likes us.
00:22:47.960 She comes back with us and it's cool.
00:22:49.720 But like, it's more just like a fun thing for us, but I also see girls on the side by
00:22:53.560 myself, right?
00:22:54.880 But all the like love and affection and companionship is with her and other girls are more just for
00:23:01.100 fun.
00:23:01.680 Didn't you guys do like, you had multiple girls living in the house?
00:23:05.100 Yeah.
00:23:05.400 In 2021, um, we moved two girls in and then we moved to third girl and we had, there
00:23:10.520 was like some rotating girls in living for periods of time, but at the height of it, there
00:23:15.060 was like three girls besides her and it got to be too much for her and she left.
00:23:19.820 And like, I lasted like another week after that.
00:23:22.520 And I just kicked the other girls out and moved her back in and said like, let's not live
00:23:25.920 with girls anymore.
00:23:26.680 I was going to ask if, how do you not get jealous?
00:23:29.140 Cause I'm like, I would be so jealous.
00:23:30.400 Cause two of the girls fell in love with me and it was like a big, it was like, it was like
00:23:33.740 nonstop drama.
00:23:34.480 I was trying to basically try what Hugh Hefner was doing where he was living with
00:23:37.940 like, like on the girls next door.
00:23:39.760 And it sounded good in theory, but in practice, you know, people, there's like so much drama
00:23:44.580 every day about every little thing.
00:23:46.640 So it's like lots of stress, lots of BS.
00:23:49.220 I think the jealousy part is like about like, I was okay.
00:23:53.400 Like living with the girls, but like the part is when you put a bunch of people together
00:23:57.940 to live together, like the real world kind of thing.
00:24:00.400 It's like, it's like those TV shows, like those shitty shows, you know, that people start
00:24:06.400 like arguing for nothing.
00:24:08.040 It's like so much drama all the time.
00:24:10.500 And it was like, make me like really bad.
00:24:13.720 It's like, it was like for nothing.
00:24:16.400 Like for example, Oh, I want a apple juice and someone said, Oh, but you should take
00:24:21.120 orange juice.
00:24:21.860 And then, no, no, I'm going to take it.
00:24:23.700 Oh my God.
00:24:24.440 Did you see that?
00:24:25.060 She said that.
00:24:25.860 Oh my God.
00:24:26.780 It's like everything.
00:24:28.320 Every little thing is like, you know, but the part about me not getting jealous is because
00:24:32.960 I don't know.
00:24:34.260 I just don't like, uh, like my first relationship, like I started like my relationship with when
00:24:40.120 I was 18, it lasts almost three years.
00:24:42.040 Right.
00:24:42.640 And in the end of like my relationship, like I was with such a nice guy, but it was like
00:24:47.820 truly, truly nice, you know?
00:24:49.240 And I was, he was really, really cool.
00:24:52.240 And like, in the end of our, my relationship with him, like I tried to help him like to be
00:24:57.500 with other girl, you know, that was like a friend of him that he had a crush before.
00:25:01.460 And she was like really cool.
00:25:03.080 She was like so sweet.
00:25:04.240 And it was like, no, you guys should be together now, you know, and like that thing about jealousy
00:25:10.460 is something that doesn't bother me.
00:25:12.280 So it was like this, because I think it's natural for the men to have other women.
00:25:18.080 So you, you were more annoyed with the girls in the house.
00:25:21.240 You weren't even jealous.
00:25:22.840 No, whether it was jealous, not jealous, but like super mad is like the amount of bullshit
00:25:28.560 that happens every day for nothing.
00:25:30.900 Girls in the house.
00:25:31.580 Yeah.
00:25:31.600 Because like, I used, like I used to work, I was like doing my like engineer job.
00:25:36.440 I'm like civil engineer.
00:25:37.380 I used to work and they would come back home and they would treat me like the boss.
00:25:41.380 For example, all the girls would come with me with problems.
00:25:44.340 And like, since like John works a lot, I always took like the part of the house as my responsibility.
00:25:50.700 So I hate, for example, imagine like a lamp is not working, right?
00:25:55.860 It's like, I don't, I won't even go to him like to say, oh, that's not working.
00:26:00.580 Let's fix.
00:26:01.060 No, I'll go there.
00:26:01.940 Try to fix.
00:26:02.680 When he has to come to me to say, oh, that wasn't working.
00:26:05.720 I feel like I failed on that because like I took that part for me, you know?
00:26:09.160 So it was like, I would come to the house and one of the girls, oh, did you see that the
00:26:13.800 maid didn't do that?
00:26:15.060 Oh, but she was supposed to do that.
00:26:16.560 And so it was like, dude, you could have solved that.
00:26:20.160 Why are you making this a thing?
00:26:22.820 You know, go there, talk to the person, talk to the maid, like, like, you don't need me
00:26:27.960 to like, to come to see what's going on.
00:26:29.980 And then I would take one part, one side, like, oh, I think it's better.
00:26:34.060 But then the other part would be like, is the, is the, would you say the culture in
00:26:39.000 Brazil is a bit different?
00:26:40.480 Is that why you're more open?
00:26:41.640 Yeah.
00:26:41.940 Like most girls are bisexual.
00:26:43.140 Like most girls are kind of like sexually liberated.
00:26:46.020 Um, like we would go out to the clubs together.
00:26:48.460 We'd end up bringing home, like, you know, two other groups of girls, a lot of nights.
00:26:52.220 And we had like a stripper pole in the house.
00:26:53.420 So there'd be a lot of nights where we get back to the house.
00:26:55.000 There's like 10 Brazilian girls like running around naked in the house.
00:26:57.480 I'm like the only guy.
00:26:58.180 Yeah.
00:26:58.340 I think we are more open.
00:27:00.360 How does it work the other way around?
00:27:01.660 So if she brings back a dude, well, that's not allowed.
00:27:05.220 I've got a question about this as well, because this is, I've never come across anyone that
00:27:08.940 has this set up.
00:27:10.420 Do you think that you're okay with how you're living because he meets your other needs?
00:27:14.560 Like, does he meet your needs emotionally?
00:27:16.900 So is that, does that make it okay?
00:27:19.120 Because like when, like what I like when he goes out, like to the other place to bang is like
00:27:25.180 he comes back happy.
00:27:26.620 If he's happy, my life, it like becomes like so much easier, you know, like if it comes
00:27:32.940 like, if it comes back of a smile, oh, it's okay.
00:27:35.920 I always ask, how was your bang?
00:27:37.520 Oh, it's okay.
00:27:38.220 Cool.
00:27:38.500 Nice.
00:27:38.720 She always says have a nice banging before I go.
00:27:43.620 Because I have a second place now.
00:27:44.840 Like we were doing it like in the same house and I got to be too much.
00:27:47.300 Like there was literally, and this is like quality problems.
00:27:49.280 There was like periods of time when those three girls live in the house where I was still
00:27:52.600 having other girls over all the time.
00:27:54.460 And the three girls would like be in their room while I'd have other girls in the house.
00:27:57.560 Because we had like two floors place.
00:28:01.080 So it was like easier because the up floor was like a setup like with food, nice stuff,
00:28:07.720 the bar, you know.
00:28:10.120 So it would like use the other, but it's like, it was too much of that time.
00:28:13.820 So then why, why do you think that you need more women?
00:28:16.620 Is it because you can't live without sex?
00:28:18.200 Which is what we're talking about.
00:28:19.160 No, I just like, like I devoted my whole life towards like, you know, the dating game and
00:28:23.540 I just enjoy like going through the whole process and stuff like that.
00:28:26.860 And if you look like, you know, back in history, like monogamy isn't natural anyways.
00:28:30.480 It was mostly imposed by, by the church and the state to have familial units and stuff like
00:28:35.100 that.
00:28:35.340 It's not natural at all.
00:28:36.620 If you look at the animal kingdom and stuff like that, right.
00:28:38.820 There's like a tribal leader, like in monkeys, for instance, and that sleeps with all the
00:28:42.760 different females and that the females are all attracted to that tribal leader, but
00:28:46.740 they'll go to other tribes and try to sleep with the alpha leader of that tribe.
00:28:50.200 Right.
00:28:50.660 And then there'll be like fights and stuff like that.
00:28:52.500 But don't you think that's like a self-esteem thing though?
00:28:56.260 Cause I'm trying to look at the, I'm trying to get deep.
00:28:59.520 Also you're not a monkey.
00:29:00.480 Because, yeah, because I'm thinking, cause I'm from a Caribbean culture and African culture.
00:29:06.540 I've got both sides and I'm telling you right now, I, I don't know.
00:29:13.720 I'm too, no, it just could not happen.
00:29:17.100 Like it could not happen.
00:29:18.920 And I think also in the UK, like what she's saying.
00:29:21.700 Have you ever been in a, have you ever been in a situation ship?
00:29:25.760 Yeah.
00:29:26.360 So you're sharing a guy anyway.
00:29:27.740 Without knowing.
00:29:28.740 Yeah.
00:29:28.880 I've been in a relationship and the man's been for the streets, but yeah, no, I hear that.
00:29:33.620 I hear that, but actually like.
00:29:36.680 Co-sign it.
00:29:37.360 Yeah.
00:29:37.820 And allowing it to be like part of the lifestyle.
00:29:39.860 And then I can't bring it on.
00:29:40.980 Would you rather they lie to you and you just don't know?
00:29:43.100 Could you be okay with it if you didn't know?
00:29:45.580 Wait, would I, no, I wouldn't be with that person.
00:29:49.100 But you wouldn't know.
00:29:49.760 Yeah, but they don't know.
00:29:51.080 Yeah, that's true.
00:29:51.460 That's the thing.
00:29:52.200 What I value most is like the truth, you know?
00:29:55.060 Yeah, exactly.
00:29:55.820 It's like the thing is about like, he can be like sure.
00:29:59.200 Like he sits by my side and he opens his mouth like to tell me anything.
00:30:05.340 He can be sure.
00:30:06.200 The truth, 100%.
00:30:07.200 There's no lies, you know?
00:30:09.360 Because men are going to do what they want anyway.
00:30:11.180 And that's why it's better for communication, which I understand.
00:30:14.040 I think it's so authentic.
00:30:16.600 It is.
00:30:17.000 I'll tell you something though.
00:30:18.800 And I all do respect to you, right?
00:30:22.180 But men will find it, at least the men that I'm surrounded by, and I'm 32 and I'm surrounded
00:30:28.200 by loads of men, especially how quality men coaches, blah, blah, blah.
00:30:30.900 But anyway, men will find it very difficult to get married to a prostitute.
00:30:35.240 Just because of her work, period.
00:30:39.200 And other way around, I think woman is the same, right?
00:30:42.940 Some men will marry a prostitute, but on the promise of like, okay, she will change her
00:30:46.760 job, blah, blah, blah.
00:30:47.640 But you will find it very difficult for a man to settle down with a prostitute.
00:30:51.740 I've dated a lot of strippers, for instance, like they were like reversing it.
00:30:55.160 But did you get married to them?
00:30:56.220 No, but like I had a lot of stripper girlfriends in different places.
00:30:58.600 Yeah, girlfriends is different when you're married and having children to a stripper or a
00:31:03.260 prostitute.
00:31:03.620 Now, listen, there's a lot of prostitutes that are amazing girls, then they're out there
00:31:09.200 doing that job to support their families and their circumstances is just different.
00:31:13.220 They can cook them clean better than me.
00:31:14.320 100%.
00:31:14.720 Now, but they do get pushed down or like not looked at because they're prostitutes or strippers.
00:31:20.900 It's the same for men, the quality of men.
00:31:23.320 And he can make a lot of money, whatever it is.
00:31:24.960 Wait, you think it's the same for men when they've slept around?
00:31:27.640 When they slept around and openly sharing about it.
00:31:31.100 And it's just everyone knows about it.
00:31:32.500 I have a question.
00:31:33.220 Are women skeptical and reluctant to sleep with Drake?
00:31:41.380 Now, here is the thing, right?
00:31:43.720 This is the thing.
00:31:46.260 Definitely.
00:31:46.880 I will just answer the question.
00:31:47.960 It's a no-no, right?
00:31:49.700 They're not.
00:31:50.600 Yes.
00:31:51.160 What about, I'm going to ask you another thing.
00:31:52.400 What about rappers, ballers?
00:31:53.760 Nick Cannon.
00:31:54.300 Look at Nick Cannon.
00:31:55.000 He's got all the baby ones.
00:31:56.000 But here's the thing.
00:31:57.000 Who are they going for?
00:31:58.540 Yeah.
00:31:59.020 Listen, if they're going for a certain type of girls that's like unknown, they earn less
00:32:05.160 than them, kind of like structure, yeah, they will not hesitate in two seconds.
00:32:13.160 And Drake had a kid with a stripper.
00:32:16.100 But high quality women will definitely not sleep with Drake and so many other rappers.
00:32:21.100 And they'd be ducking him.
00:32:22.140 I don't know if I would agree.
00:32:23.680 I agree.
00:32:24.600 You don't have to.
00:32:25.680 You don't have to.
00:32:26.560 High quality women, like, let's say.
00:32:29.120 What is, but that's the thing, like, what is a high quality woman?
00:32:31.200 I will tell you, like, I'm sorry.
00:32:32.820 I'm just like, people from the parliament, people in the, in the, in the politicians, they
00:32:38.320 won't do that.
00:32:39.100 They don't want their names associated with.
00:32:41.000 No, no, no, they just keep it low-key.
00:32:42.480 I disagree.
00:32:43.000 They keep it low-key.
00:32:44.440 But here's the thing.
00:32:45.200 The other men, they keep it low-key.
00:32:46.980 You, there's a respect, put respect on the name.
00:32:49.560 You realize, like, envy.
00:32:50.480 You brought the respect on my name as well.
00:32:52.020 NBA players have women that, like, actively pursue them to the point they'll, like, buy
00:32:56.660 hotel rooms, like, at the places, look to, look for where they hang out, and also, like,
00:33:02.320 know everything about, like, they literally pursue them.
00:33:05.400 No, no, no.
00:33:05.420 This is what they do.
00:33:06.480 I'll tell you what they do, right?
00:33:09.220 Watch out this info.
00:33:10.800 Because I, okay, cool.
00:33:11.980 I know, I know about this info because I have personal assist, a lot of influencers and some
00:33:19.080 celebs in the UK.
00:33:20.360 So I've seen some behind the scenes of what goes on.
00:33:23.800 And how it works is that, I don't know, like, an artist or an NBA player, I've never worked
00:33:31.060 with an NBA player, but I'm just saying, someone of that status will go through someone else
00:33:36.820 and say, I'm requesting a girl that's this age, this, and this.
00:33:40.480 They will scout for the girl.
00:33:42.100 Oh, yeah.
00:33:42.400 They will say, cool, this person wants you for the night.
00:33:46.600 They require X, Y, and Z, and that's how it works.
00:33:50.200 It's not even always, it wouldn't be just Drake himself.
00:33:53.180 They all do it.
00:33:54.400 They all do it.
00:33:55.580 Contracts and all that, right?
00:33:56.780 There's so many contracts.
00:33:57.920 And that contract will have an NBA to not mention their names.
00:34:00.580 That's what I'm saying.
00:34:01.220 Yeah.
00:34:01.680 But this is what I'm saying about it.
00:34:03.440 Sharing about it openly does damage your partner name and their, you know, quality of who they
00:34:08.500 are.
00:34:09.140 Now, not necessarily, it depends on your lane, right?
00:34:13.060 But if you're going to so many serious, I would say, position, it will impact you.
00:34:20.200 You know, I'm not saying men don't cheat, women cheat.
00:34:22.720 Most of the time, you don't know about it.
00:34:24.520 And just life keep going on and you honor your partner.
00:34:27.120 But you said you're okay with that, right?
00:34:28.280 Like, not to like use him as an example, but like, if he were to cheat and you didn't know
00:34:31.740 about it, would you be okay with it?
00:34:32.920 Would I?
00:34:33.340 Listen, logically, right?
00:34:34.960 I come from a culture when men do cheat, right?
00:34:39.360 I would, I'll be angry if I knew.
00:34:41.200 But like, I will accept it.
00:34:43.160 I will accept it.
00:34:44.080 I have to say, there's so much qualities about my partner.
00:34:47.640 If he done one mistake in so many years, I'll just keep a blind eye.
00:34:52.380 I get one pass.
00:34:53.240 Can I ask you a question?
00:34:54.000 Do you feel like, do you feel like you respect your, I don't know how long ago your previous
00:35:01.360 girlfriends were when you was living together, but do you think you respect them the same
00:35:05.300 as you do your now girlfriend?
00:35:07.140 Yeah.
00:35:07.560 Why?
00:35:07.840 No, her a lot more.
00:35:09.500 Okay.
00:35:10.780 What's changed?
00:35:11.640 She's like, everything I'm looking for, like in terms of, you know, like she's very intelligent.
00:35:16.720 She's hyper analytical like me.
00:35:18.060 So are these other girls just fantasies?
00:35:19.960 Sorry, babe.
00:35:20.440 You're not going on.
00:35:20.720 Are these other girls just fantasies?
00:35:23.160 Like your playground?
00:35:26.240 Oh, the side girls?
00:35:27.400 Yeah.
00:35:27.980 Yeah.
00:35:28.360 Because I enjoy going through almost like someone that got good at chess and it sounds weird.
00:35:32.020 I just have one question for you.
00:35:33.500 Yeah.
00:35:33.680 When you was looking for a wife, did you want to be with someone that was bisexual to allow
00:35:40.120 those things?
00:35:41.040 Yes.
00:35:41.280 That's a requirement.
00:35:42.280 Yeah.
00:35:42.480 That was like your requirement.
00:35:44.420 There's like a whole list of, it has to come from a good family.
00:35:46.900 And then that's why it works.
00:35:48.300 So if you're happy.
00:35:49.180 Yeah.
00:35:49.420 And I was up front with it and she could have left.
00:35:51.880 Yeah.
00:35:52.500 I like the fact that you're up front with it.
00:35:54.000 A hundred.
00:35:54.400 I really rate you.
00:35:55.620 I think everyone's relationship is going to work for them.
00:35:58.140 I just wonder how it would work.
00:35:59.320 Sorry.
00:36:00.420 I'm curious, girls, who would sign up for something like that?
00:36:04.240 Anyone?
00:36:05.160 I personally wouldn't in that exact dynamic, but I would like to say I respect you so much
00:36:10.600 because you had to, in a way, lower your ego to be able to have him happy.
00:36:15.980 If he's happy, then that's what makes you happy.
00:36:17.960 And I feel like in our society now, that's women's problem, including myself, the fact
00:36:23.080 that we don't want to lower our ego in order to make our partner or our boyfriend or our
00:36:28.400 husband happy because we're always trying to level up.
00:36:31.420 If it be on the same level as them, I'll be even higher.
00:36:33.420 And that's ruining our relationship.
00:36:35.980 For me, it's not like lowering my ego.
00:36:38.280 I don't see it like that.
00:36:39.180 I see like, I don't, I don't, I'm sorry if I don't understand you properly, but I don't
00:36:44.420 see this as lowering my ego whatsoever because it's like, I'm seriously okay.
00:36:50.540 It's like, because I believe that for men, that's my concept.
00:36:55.780 That's my belief.
00:36:56.680 I believe for men like, oh, go, you like to bang, go bang.
00:37:00.940 That makes you happy.
00:37:02.060 So go be happy.
00:37:03.280 She's like very selfless as well.
00:37:04.800 It's not something that it's going to be like, oh my God is, oh, you are talking to.
00:37:10.180 No, sometimes like, like you see a girl, like a beautiful girl walking and say, oh my God,
00:37:15.280 she's so beautiful.
00:37:16.820 It's like, I think sometimes it's like, uh, we miss empathy.
00:37:22.180 It's like, you know, when you go like to nightclubs and like someone is like doing bad, like
00:37:27.880 he's in a bad moment.
00:37:29.280 I always see like something that I like to see.
00:37:31.600 I always see like girls coming up to that person and say, Hey dude, are you fine?
00:37:35.120 Yeah.
00:37:35.420 Hey, can I get you something or someone in the bathroom?
00:37:37.880 Oh, can you know?
00:37:39.220 And like you see in that environment because people are like, relax, you know?
00:37:43.860 And so when I say like, oh, go be happy.
00:37:47.240 It's not that I'm trying to like learn my ego, but it's like, I believe like if you're
00:37:53.120 both like in the same page, like what do you like?
00:37:56.100 We can like do things together and keep like easy because I think like the world outside
00:38:01.980 is already so hard.
00:38:03.520 It's like it's already going to try to beat you, to beat you so much.
00:38:06.980 If you cannot get home and like be with a person that like truly like, like understands
00:38:12.460 you, like have you by your side, you know, to be like peaceful is going to be really hard.
00:38:18.300 You know, I think you can be like more like empathic like this, you know?
00:38:21.920 So if he, if he was banging other girls and accidentally he maybe got one impregnated,
00:38:30.460 how would you feel?
00:38:30.880 I have a vasectomy.
00:38:31.940 Oh, okay.
00:38:32.740 Since 2014, so almost 10 years.
00:38:34.400 Okay.
00:38:34.960 Question answered.
00:38:35.700 That solves that problem.
00:38:36.920 Yeah.
00:38:37.400 STDs.
00:38:38.380 Oh, that's cool.
00:38:39.040 I mean, I've run, you know, like most of the guys I know that I've been, you know,
00:38:41.840 with a lot of girls, like usually it's like chlamydia, like one to five times or something.
00:38:44.860 I'm not like bragging about it, but like gone in a week with a pill, not that big of a deal.
00:38:49.000 I've done videos on STDs.
00:38:50.100 One in two people get that.
00:38:51.580 Yeah.
00:38:51.960 It's pretty common.
00:38:53.040 But like she also gets like turned on, like hearing about me with girls and she wants to
00:38:56.880 see like what would the girl look like and stuff like that.
00:39:00.120 I think the way you've gone about it, I say more power to, you know, I think there's a
00:39:03.960 lot of men will be watching this thinking this guy's the luckiest man on planet.
00:39:08.260 He found a good one.
00:39:09.880 Really the honesty and coming to terms with like the rules and stuff like that.
00:39:13.900 Like I'm not getting emotionally attached with these other girls.
00:39:16.300 Yeah.
00:39:16.560 I'm not taking them out.
00:39:17.360 How do you stop that though?
00:39:18.260 What if you just meet someone that's incredible and you really...
00:39:20.800 No, but men can easily detach.
00:39:22.840 They're not there.
00:39:23.260 No, but people think that men don't have emotions.
00:39:25.420 You do.
00:39:25.620 What if you just met someone and you just thought, I just want to spend time with her more and
00:39:28.320 more?
00:39:29.080 We've had that happen a couple of times.
00:39:31.160 Oh, it has.
00:39:31.580 It has done.
00:39:32.120 There was an Argentinian girl that was like, she was like Argentinian, Polish, and Ukraine.
00:39:36.460 Ukrainian.
00:39:37.300 So like Eastern European with the South American.
00:39:39.160 Yeah, she was like great.
00:39:40.400 So you fell in love with her?
00:39:41.440 No.
00:39:41.780 I didn't fall in love, but like I was like seeing her a bunch and like she got jealous
00:39:46.320 of Liz because she liked me a lot.
00:39:48.000 Yeah.
00:39:48.180 The thing is, usually they get jealous of me, not me getting jealous.
00:39:51.900 I open my house.
00:39:53.280 It's like, you want to come?
00:39:54.260 You're the main.
00:39:54.780 Like, yeah, it's like, no, not because of this, because I believe like, dude, if they
00:39:59.760 are both cool, so okay.
00:40:01.980 You're very powerful.
00:40:03.160 You've clearly done a hell of work on yourself to be that powerful emotionally.
00:40:07.980 And then like she got there and I was like, okay, like, but she knows at the end of the
00:40:12.180 day, like, like we have, we have like a very loving relationship and like all this stuff
00:40:15.920 that you'd expect, like from a partner.
00:40:17.740 We have all that.
00:40:18.940 And there's just like this other thing on the side, but it's not, but it doesn't really
00:40:21.160 detract.
00:40:21.880 It's just like something.
00:40:22.860 It's a special circumstance.
00:40:23.900 It's my job.
00:40:24.940 Yeah.
00:40:25.400 I am just so curious though.
00:40:27.380 What if she said I had a personal trainer, started to like him and she did want to engage
00:40:32.500 with him.
00:40:33.680 What is it about the rules that would stop you allowing her to be the guy?
00:40:37.080 It's just like a hundred percent off limits from my side.
00:40:39.140 But why?
00:40:40.360 It's just how it is.
00:40:41.140 I get it as a bloke.
00:40:42.040 I tell them, I tell them why.
00:40:44.260 I'm not sounding with him, Michael.
00:40:45.400 I don't want some guy banging my chick.
00:40:47.060 Yeah.
00:40:47.420 I get it.
00:40:47.840 And you might think it's double standards.
00:40:49.280 I'd say it's a double standard.
00:40:50.540 I'm just wondering.
00:40:51.180 But even as women, like, do you want to bang a bunch of dudes?
00:40:54.440 No.
00:40:54.800 No.
00:40:55.160 That's the thing we don't want to do.
00:40:56.340 Sometimes it's like, I can say like, oh, sometimes like John arrives and then, oh, let's, you know,
00:41:04.200 let's have sex.
00:41:05.160 Sometimes I'm like so tired.
00:41:06.940 Then it's like, oh, can you like, you know, so I, I, I, I'm fine.
00:41:12.060 If I say like, oh, not tonight, you know, because I know he's going to be fine.
00:41:16.120 And I'm not like, you know, cutting him like so, you know, and it's not like something that's like, I feel I need so much because I'm, there's so many activities that I want to do.
00:41:27.740 But that's the truth, there's so many things that I want to do that, I want to do that, I want to do that.
00:41:32.860 So when he goes and bangs and like come back happy, it's like, oh, this is, this is done, check.
00:41:39.260 So this is fine.
00:41:40.480 And then also I can do my stuff.
00:41:41.780 So we have like this thing together, you know, like we want help each other.
00:41:46.920 Like, you know, when I say activities, I say like stupid shit, like painting.
00:41:50.200 I love painting.
00:41:50.940 Every guy wants to be done right now.
00:41:52.700 But I do want to know, how does he help you?
00:41:54.860 So you help a lot.
00:41:56.040 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:41:56.480 You're very open.
00:41:57.380 How does he point to you?
00:41:58.360 No, he is awesome.
00:41:59.580 He's like, he's really happy.
00:42:01.320 Does he help you financially?
00:42:03.160 Yes.
00:42:03.940 Like I used to have a job and it was like that thing.
00:42:08.020 They don't make much in Brazil, right?
00:42:09.560 I love my job.
00:42:10.040 I do.
00:42:10.640 She was like a high-end engineer.
00:42:12.100 Right.
00:42:12.260 I did love my job.
00:42:13.660 Seriously, I love my job.
00:42:14.860 But the problem is being inside of my job and having to take care of like the house.
00:42:20.200 John, like the dogs, it was like, just like too much for me.
00:42:24.820 Why?
00:42:25.160 Because like, I would do everything like kind of, and I hate that feeling because it like
00:42:30.820 really starts to like, stress me out.
00:42:33.880 So, and then he was like, dude, you can like do these little things here and this.
00:42:39.140 So because he provides you give back in that way.
00:42:42.160 Exactly.
00:42:42.760 Like, I understand now.
00:42:44.300 Yeah.
00:42:44.560 So it's like, it's not hard.
00:42:46.440 Privilege.
00:42:47.020 Yeah.
00:42:47.520 It's not, it's not like a hard thing, you know, babe, but we need that.
00:42:51.700 Okay.
00:42:51.900 So God forbid he lost his job.
00:42:53.740 He's going to have to get back to monogamy real quick.
00:42:58.900 But it's like, when I first met him, to be honest, like today we have like our maids,
00:43:03.980 we have people to offer the dogs, we have everything.
00:43:06.420 But when I first met him and you have everything that we can buy and you don't care about so
00:43:12.140 many, uh, expensive shit.
00:43:14.560 So for us, it's easy, you know, like we, uh, he makes some amount that we don't even have
00:43:20.960 time to spend.
00:43:21.760 Like, let's say like that.
00:43:23.100 So it's easy.
00:43:23.900 It's not like, oh, but like when I first met him, like three years ago, he wasn't rich.
00:43:29.380 He didn't have like that much money and then he was like, he did this stuff.
00:43:33.840 Like we always try to help and it wasn't like, Liz, you have to do this.
00:43:37.940 You have to do that.
00:43:38.880 No, it was like, uh, I can do this so you can do that.
00:43:43.660 I can do this.
00:43:44.560 You can do that.
00:43:45.400 There was a point that like his company was doing bad and I was like my job.
00:43:49.300 And I was just thinking, dude, if it goes bad, because like, he likes some stuff, but
00:43:55.260 I was just saying, oh, am I able to take us with my wage for some time and I was to say,
00:44:02.820 okay, so I need to work a little bit more here.
00:44:05.120 So I was willing to do that because like I chose for it's, it's like for his mind, you
00:44:10.820 know, I think his mind is really fascinating for me.
00:44:13.780 Well, I found, I found that the girls that say like, he has to, he has to earn my submission
00:44:19.020 or he has to make him a bunch of money.
00:44:20.460 They're just keeping score.
00:44:21.660 Yeah.
00:44:22.660 Like relationships aren't good if you're keeping score of what he's doing for you and what you're
00:44:25.620 doing for him.
00:44:26.620 Yeah.
00:44:27.620 Should be natural.
00:44:28.620 I'm curious from the girls.
00:44:30.680 Okay.
00:44:31.680 Would you rather date a guy you don't, all right, this is for a lifetime.
00:44:35.680 Okay.
00:44:36.680 One guy you don't really like, so I don't know, think of the last guy you dated that you just,
00:44:41.780 you're kind of into him, kind of not everyone got someone in their head.
00:44:45.100 Okay.
00:44:46.100 Now, or the guy you liked the most.
00:44:53.120 So the guy you're the most in love with would do anything.
00:44:55.680 Yeah.
00:44:56.680 Got him in your head.
00:44:57.680 Now, would you rather share the guy you liked the most ever and this sort of, maybe not as,
00:45:04.220 you know, maybe it's not his job to screw other girls, but every now and then he's going
00:45:07.460 to get some strange, but you're the main, you're the main.
00:45:10.600 Or stay with the guy that you, eh, kind of liked for life.
00:45:13.600 Kind of liked.
00:45:14.600 Kind of liked.
00:45:15.600 Kind of liked.
00:45:16.600 Kind of liked.
00:45:17.600 Can I just say something?
00:45:18.600 I won't share the guy that I liked the most, but I'll share the guy that I don't like the
00:45:22.060 most.
00:45:23.060 So if I like you that much, I want you to be mine.
00:45:25.060 If I don't like you, I'm happy to.
00:45:27.100 Yeah.
00:45:28.100 If you provide for me, we have an agreement, there you go.
00:45:31.180 Go do whatever you want.
00:45:32.180 I don't give two Fs.
00:45:33.600 Okay.
00:45:34.600 What about you?
00:45:35.600 I mean, I'd rather just stay single, but if I had to pick one, it'd probably be the
00:45:39.600 guy that I don't really like, because if I really like someone, I am jealous and I am
00:45:44.600 petty as well.
00:45:45.600 Yeah.
00:45:46.600 I would rather be with someone that I love and be happy.
00:45:47.600 So.
00:45:48.600 But my, do you guys think that most men, do you think that most men, do you think the
00:45:53.600 most, if I like you and you're not mine?
00:45:55.600 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:45:56.600 So that's my answer.
00:45:57.600 Okay.
00:45:58.600 What about you?
00:45:59.600 It's a difficult one, because if you're living with someone that you don't like, you're
00:46:00.600 going to be very miserable and very unhappy.
00:46:03.600 So would you rather just build yourself to a confidence where you don't mind?
00:46:06.600 And like, I see she's so confident and she's happy.
00:46:10.600 And be happy.
00:46:11.600 So.
00:46:12.600 But, but my, do you guys think that most men shit or no?
00:46:17.600 Yeah.
00:46:18.600 Yeah.
00:46:19.600 Depends where you can get him from.
00:46:20.600 So why would it be different with you?
00:46:22.600 Like in your case would be like, oh, my guy wants shit on me.
00:46:25.600 He's going to change for me.
00:46:26.600 It's the same thing.
00:46:27.600 It's just the respect, you know, I definitely, it's the respect.
00:46:32.600 I salute you.
00:46:33.600 And I think you're like, I can sense you guys are both are great people, you know, and you're
00:46:38.600 like really subtle chore of you, who you are.
00:46:40.600 And it takes a lot of work to do that.
00:46:43.600 But there is also a red line.
00:46:45.600 I think that just boundaries.
00:46:48.600 If you want to create children, healthy relationship, because it's easier.
00:46:52.600 You have to work way harder than I have to work.
00:46:55.600 I'm like, I know my boundaries.
00:46:56.600 He knows his boundaries.
00:46:58.600 Things might slip out of balance.
00:46:59.600 We just like forgive, forget, blah, blah, blah, work them out.
00:47:03.600 But the work that you both have to do, and maybe you're naturally, I can, I can sense
00:47:07.600 that you naturally are not jealous person.
00:47:09.600 You know, you naturally are way more open minded than a lot of women.
00:47:13.600 But she also met him doing that.
00:47:15.600 Yes.
00:47:16.600 But I think also in the future, when you have kids, things might get out of balance.
00:47:19.600 It's harder work.
00:47:21.600 I think, you know, if you just see relationship, traditional relationship, the most successful
00:47:26.600 relationship was just stay with your woman.
00:47:28.600 If you cheated, don't ever let her know.
00:47:30.600 Same.
00:47:31.600 I tried that.
00:47:32.600 I tried that in the beginning.
00:47:33.600 Right.
00:47:34.600 Yeah.
00:47:35.600 And there was like times where like she came over and like there was like, she came over
00:47:37.600 early or maybe not even early, but I was like sloppy and she like arrived and I was
00:47:40.600 with a girl.
00:47:41.600 Yeah.
00:47:42.600 And it's like giant fight.
00:47:43.600 Right.
00:47:44.600 But we keep, we keep like the emotional stuff like segmented.
00:47:46.600 Separate.
00:47:47.600 Yeah.
00:47:48.600 Like the love and the affection and stuff just with her.
00:47:49.600 Yeah.
00:47:50.600 That's a lot of work.
00:47:51.600 No.
00:47:52.600 Do you want kids together?
00:47:53.600 Potentially, but we're not sure yet.
00:47:54.600 Are you going to carry on doing this when you have kids?
00:47:56.600 With chat GPT out, I don't know about how much longer the world will be normal.
00:48:01.600 But no, I mean, we're, we're pretty happy with the three dogs we have.
00:48:04.600 It still allows flexibility to travel and do all these.
00:48:06.600 Yeah.
00:48:07.600 It's interesting.
00:48:08.600 Well, I'm curious because you guys going to get older.
00:48:09.600 There's, there is like a reduce of your sexual needs.
00:48:12.600 You probably won't even need to have as much.
00:48:16.600 How old are you guys?
00:48:17.600 I don't know about that.
00:48:18.600 I'm going to turn 40 in October.
00:48:19.600 Yeah.
00:48:20.600 But I, but I take like supplemental testosterone to an endocrinologist.
00:48:23.600 I still take like Maka and the different libido supplements.
00:48:25.600 So I still have.
00:48:26.600 But my point is, if that is what brings you fulfillment right, right now at this point,
00:48:31.600 what would bring you fulfillment in the future?
00:48:33.600 I don't know.
00:48:34.600 I mean, like I come from an interesting background.
00:48:36.600 Like the reason why I went and slept with 1600 girls, like I came from like a pretty verbal
00:48:40.600 abusive childhood where like my parents are really nice people, but they're always saying
00:48:43.600 like, you're going to be nothing.
00:48:44.600 You're going to be a failure.
00:48:45.600 You're going to be this like that.
00:48:47.600 And when I like sleep with a new girl, it makes me like feel like, oh, I'm not like that.
00:48:52.600 Yeah.
00:48:53.600 I don't know if it's compensating, but it's, it's definitely like, you know, I wouldn't
00:48:58.600 have gone and done this had I not come from that background.
00:49:00.600 Like people like a lot of like the best UFC fighters, they're bullied for instance, as
00:49:04.600 a kid.
00:49:05.600 And they were like, I'm going to become the best fighter in the world.
00:49:07.600 So like, I think my mom like stripped all the like validation for me, like routinely
00:49:12.600 over, over all this period of time.
00:49:13.600 And the way you come back is to sleep with women to make up for that trauma.
00:49:17.600 Thank you.