JustPearlyThings - May 07, 2023


Only Fans Manager Shares His Thoughts On Born Again Virgins


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In this episode, the lads discuss whether or not to be a born-again virgin, and how to deal with being a virgin in today's society. They also discuss the difference between a virgin and a born again virgin and why it's important to be honest about it.

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00:00:00.000 What do you think of born-again virgins? 1.00
00:00:03.420 What'd you say, born-again?
00:00:04.200 Yeah, like a girl that has had sex and then makes him wait later. 1.00
00:00:07.820 What kind of bullshit is that?
00:00:09.040 That's savage.
00:00:09.860 What kind of BS is that?
00:00:10.940 Yeah, I agree.
00:00:13.100 That's just evil.
00:00:13.720 Once you get sewed up and that gets a title.
00:00:15.360 Yeah, no, girls do that. 1.00
00:00:16.660 They'll go to church and then decide they're going to wait.
00:00:19.220 Never, never, never.
00:00:20.180 You can't just repent for that, you stupid.
00:00:22.560 You got the guy that ever wants a virgin, or that's it.
00:00:25.080 I think any guy that signs up for that is naive and probably kind of simpy.
00:00:28.620 How can you be born again?
00:00:29.720 And you were a virgin once, and you can never be a virgin again.
00:00:32.760 How can you be born again?
00:00:33.860 Maybe I should do that.
00:00:34.540 It makes no sense.
00:00:36.640 We'll just be honest with you.
00:00:37.680 Actually, oh my gosh, can I do that for a YouTube video?
00:00:40.480 That'd be so funny.
00:00:42.760 Tell them your body count, and then say, but I've decided I've changed.
00:00:47.360 I've changed, girls. 0.99
00:00:48.580 Please accept me.
00:00:51.920 We can do that.
00:00:52.920 I just want to see how that would go.
00:00:55.160 Probably get ripped to pieces, but I have already, so.
00:00:57.700 There'd be a lot of people that respect you, though, for doing that.
00:01:01.780 That's what I mean.
00:01:02.480 Do you know what I mean?
00:01:03.480 Because a lot of girls might hide it, and they actually feel insecure about it. 0.93
00:01:08.140 It was even like when I was on X on the beach, I got disrespected a lot when I was on there.
00:01:12.800 And both guys I was on there with, they just didn't respect me at all.
00:01:18.380 Why?
00:01:19.040 Because of my reputation.
00:01:20.580 Did you tell them what your body count was?
00:01:23.040 No, but it's almost like...
00:01:24.040 Did you sleep with more than one of them?
00:01:25.420 No, only ever one, but I think it's because they knew my history, so I was like, well,
00:01:30.100 what's the point respecting her?
00:01:31.560 Oh, I see.
00:01:32.020 Because of what she's done in the past, and men that she's slept with, and how many. 1.00
00:01:36.500 It's like it always reflects on me, whatever I do, but I was honest about it, and I was
00:01:40.680 like, so what's the point?
00:01:42.140 Yeah.
00:01:42.300 Like, what?
00:01:42.820 Do you know what's mad, though?
00:01:43.660 You're one of the nicest girls that I've ever met, and do you know what I mean?
00:01:47.620 Yeah.
00:01:47.720 Like, just, people should look beyond that.
00:01:50.440 Beyond that, yeah.
00:01:51.200 Because you are generally the most kindest, genuine, sweetheart.
00:01:55.040 But they're not judging them as...
00:01:56.300 Wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:01:56.580 But it's like, if you're going to apply for a job, and the job is being loyal, and she has
00:02:01.080 no history of it, how can he?
00:02:03.220 Because you kind of have to look at, like, you know, the same way you would look, is she
00:02:05.780 good with kids?
00:02:06.760 Like, how much time does she spend with children? 1.00
00:02:09.140 Like, you would take that into account.
00:02:10.880 And it's not to say you're not a good person.
00:02:12.300 Like, you're super sweet.
00:02:13.580 But it's different when you're applying for a job.
00:02:16.100 Like, I think a wife is a job. 1.00
00:02:17.680 Yeah.
00:02:17.940 No, 100%.
00:02:18.500 I think, yeah.
00:02:19.720 But it's like, for example, it's like all these people that are super educated and go
00:02:23.760 to, like, the best schools.
00:02:24.880 But that doesn't make them a better person, or better able for that job than someone who
00:02:29.220 hasn't had that.
00:02:29.960 Yes, it does.
00:02:30.000 Yes, it does.
00:02:30.580 Not necessarily.
00:02:31.360 Yeah, it does.
00:02:32.380 Do you reckon?
00:02:32.780 Yeah, I mean, I think, not all the time, not 100%.
00:02:36.100 But I would say, would you rather have a doctor operating on you that went to the best schools
00:02:44.720 than the worst schools, right?
00:02:46.080 Oh, 100%.
00:02:46.660 I think it's different for different things.
00:02:48.640 Like, for example, I'd be a great lawyer.
00:02:51.620 Like, I'd be so good.
00:02:53.020 I'd definitely have you as well.
00:02:54.180 Do you know what I mean?
00:02:54.840 But I'm not educated in that aspect.
00:02:57.840 I'm just not educated.
00:02:58.940 So how would they know you would be a good lawyer if you have no work experience?
00:03:02.060 Because I think when someone is put in a certain room, and they are able to deliver a certain
00:03:07.640 job, and they're still good at it, then it doesn't matter whether you've got, this person's
00:03:11.900 got more qualifications or not.
00:03:13.980 Do you know what I'm trying to say?
00:03:16.260 No.
00:03:17.040 Okay.
00:03:18.820 No, I genuinely think you have to have the skills to be good at a job.
00:03:22.560 But skills isn't education, though.
00:03:24.120 No, but...
00:03:25.120 It kind of is.
00:03:26.480 I'm a candidate to myself a little bit.
00:03:27.560 It kind of is.
00:03:29.040 And with being a wife, I think having the skills to be a wife with this purity, which
00:03:33.380 is typically purity, youth, good with kids, can cook, manage a household.
00:03:38.920 There's actual skills that are good to have.
00:03:41.840 Yeah.
00:03:42.060 I'm not saying every guy cares about every one of them.
00:03:45.040 Femininity, purity, and then when a girl has a high body count, she loses that purity. 1.00
00:03:50.180 She loses that naivety.
00:03:51.460 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:03:52.740 So she becomes more like, not damaged, but more experienced.
00:03:57.000 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:03:57.420 Less pure.
00:03:58.340 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:03:59.580 You become more fussy as well.
00:04:01.780 Yeah.
00:04:02.300 Let's say girls that are like 17, 18, 19, 20, that young, yeah, that are virgins.
00:04:08.540 They all love dogs more, love kids more.
00:04:11.860 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:04:12.700 Because they're pure.
00:04:14.300 But once they go through that trauma, that damagedness, do you know what I'm saying?
00:04:17.260 I've been damaged, though, and I'm great with kids.
00:04:20.380 I'm fantastic.
00:04:21.200 Kids love me.
00:04:22.340 Really?
00:04:23.080 Yeah.
00:04:23.700 Yeah.
00:04:24.240 That shouldn't affect how you are in a relationship.
00:04:25.460 Yeah, but it affects how you are in a relationship, because you bring that damage into future relationships.
00:04:30.800 I think the damage that you've got is your responsibility to go away and heal from it.
00:04:35.960 I agree with you, but what's better, a girl that's not damaged or a girl that is?
00:04:41.920 I do understand what you're saying, but say if you got married and then a guy damaged you within that marriage, even though you've only slept with that person, you would still be damaged.
00:04:52.640 Right, but there are problems, not other people's problems.
00:04:56.140 And the issue is you're bringing other people's problems into your relationship.
00:04:59.740 Yeah, which is then why you would need to go away and work on yourself.
00:05:03.300 No, which is why you should have less partners before you get married. 1.00
00:05:06.540 Which is why we should try to remain as pure as possible before we get married.
00:05:11.300 Like, why would you want more experience before getting married?
00:05:15.240 I do.
00:05:15.600 Why would you?
00:05:16.220 What value does that bring to a husband? 1.00
00:05:18.340 I've just thought, you know, like that time when you're little, oh, you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you get your prince.
00:05:23.560 I think that's a bad saying.
00:05:25.300 I think that's very misleading.
00:05:26.060 But that's what we've grown up on, though.
00:05:28.540 So that's when I'm saying, as girls, I personally wasn't told by anyone, oh, if you sleep with a lot of people, your value as a woman is going to go down. 0.89
00:05:37.720 If I was told that.
00:05:39.000 Do you think that a father figure has an important role in that?
00:05:42.360 To be fair, yeah, actually, maybe.
00:05:44.140 But then my mom didn't say that either.
00:05:46.620 But women, we know this on some level because the first thing you do when you don't like a girl is you call her a whore. 0.92
00:05:52.320 Or maybe not you personally, but you know women do that. 1.00
00:05:55.840 So I think we know on some level that purity is important to men.
00:05:58.980 I don't think when you're 16, 17, though, I don't think you think about that at all.
00:06:03.760 At all.
00:06:04.400 Did you guys have no guidance from your parents?
00:06:07.640 No, my mom didn't talk about sex with me at all. 0.97
00:06:10.520 Did you?
00:06:11.060 Was your dad in your life?
00:06:12.420 Yeah, yeah, both parents.
00:06:13.440 And they never spoke to you about sex, ever?
00:06:15.920 No, never.
00:06:16.900 Maybe they should.
00:06:17.640 I do think they should have definitely because I'm not saying that I would go back and change things because I do feel like even through breakups and bad breakups, you out from the other side of the end of the tunnel, you become a better person anyway.
00:06:32.860 Because you've I feel like I think I think you become a worse person.
00:06:35.920 But as a human experience, being a human on the planet, having a human experience, they say that to have a full experience as a human, you have to go through ups and downs.
00:06:45.740 That's not just in relationships.
00:06:46.860 That's experiences in general.
00:06:49.120 Yeah.
00:06:49.320 So you should go through them with your husband.
00:06:51.760 But why?
00:06:52.240 True.
00:06:52.600 I feel that's different with you men and women. 0.97
00:06:54.160 But I would rather go through, I'm not on about just relationships, but as an experience, I would rather go through that on my own.
00:07:00.680 So then when I'm with my husband, I've already learned all of that.
00:07:03.180 It's not good enough, girl. 1.00
00:07:04.020 It's not good enough.
00:07:04.780 No, no, I agree with you, Ashley.
00:07:06.440 But why would you not want to know?
00:07:07.740 Listen, listen, let's agree on this.
00:07:09.200 Let me learn, let me learn, let me learn.
00:07:10.480 Go on, go on.
00:07:11.400 As an individual on the planet, as an individual going through your own life, surely you would want to know everything about yourself, everything that triggers you, everything that you've learned from and all of that,
00:07:21.600 and then have a husband that you can build even more on. 0.82
00:07:24.820 Because you're not going to go wrong.
00:07:25.320 Because why would you want to be in a marriage not knowing yourself?
00:07:27.620 Yeah, 100%.
00:07:28.320 Like, why would you want to do that?
00:07:30.100 Yeah, but from the dawn of time, like from the ancient times, girls have gotten married at a young age. 0.98
00:07:35.240 I don't agree with that, though.
00:07:36.180 They didn't get married at 30.
00:07:38.160 Girls got married at 16, 17, 18.
00:07:40.020 That was just something that just happened.
00:07:41.620 No, it's from the whole of time, like from ages ago.
00:07:44.700 It's a new thing to get married at 30, 32, 33.
00:07:46.040 But maybe sometimes they didn't actually have a choice.
00:07:48.560 Yeah, but it's not that.
00:07:49.900 It was a tradition.
00:07:51.060 Sorry about that.
00:07:52.140 Tradition to get married at 80, 60, 70.
00:07:54.920 Tradition for everyone across the world, even England.
00:07:57.220 But why do we have to follow that?
00:07:58.560 Because it's in our DNA.
00:08:00.240 No, okay, okay.
00:08:01.120 I'll give you, because we look at what works.
00:08:03.620 And like, let's look at the outcomes.
00:08:05.300 Are women happier waiting to get married, right? 1.00
00:08:08.080 The average age of first marriage is 31.
00:08:09.820 100 years ago, it was around 20, 21, something like that.
00:08:13.060 And women are more on antidepressants. 0.99
00:08:15.420 We're more depressed than ever.
00:08:17.020 We're on what, Tinder?
00:08:18.140 Our average body count is like, what, 8, 10?
00:08:20.800 And like, I genuinely think it's probably higher than that, if we're being honest.
00:08:25.420 You know, we're not happy.
00:08:28.600 Women are not happy waiting to get married and then getting married. 1.00
00:08:31.700 I think happiness is a choice, though.
00:08:33.520 I think...
00:08:34.000 I do think happiness is a choice.
00:08:35.660 But I do think we can look at outcomes.
00:08:37.420 Yeah, I completely understand where you're coming from.
00:08:40.700 But again, I think it's so important to take the time away and focus on yourself.
00:08:44.700 Ashton, Ashton, what do you think the difference between happiness for a woman is and happiness for a man is?
00:08:50.460 What do you think?
00:08:51.220 Freedom.
00:08:53.180 Be more, break it down for me.
00:08:54.780 Wait, let's say, what's the difference between the happiness for a man and happiness for a woman?
00:09:00.220 What's the difference?
00:09:02.300 I think when you're both happy, I think that's when you can be completely happy.
00:09:06.120 Yeah, but what I'm asking you is that for a woman, what makes a woman happy, like happy, like proper happy and fulfilled, and what makes a man happy and fulfilled?
00:09:13.880 I think it's personal preference.
00:09:15.420 Yeah, personal preference, 100%.
00:09:16.640 Everyone is different.
00:09:18.340 Everyone is different, but to generalise it, I think for a man, it's having a woman who...
00:09:24.880 This is going to sound so politically wrong, but I know that guys can cheat and be and still love someone.
00:09:31.820 Yeah, yes, ma'am.
00:09:32.340 And then if they were to then go back to that woman and that woman takes them back, it would give him status because look how much my woman loves me, she's taking me back. 1.00
00:09:39.440 He wouldn't tell no one.
00:09:40.200 Why doesn't he tell anyone?
00:09:41.580 That's a bitch boy. 1.00
00:09:42.380 Why would he tell anyone?
00:09:42.960 What do you mean?
00:09:43.580 He doesn't have to...
00:09:44.500 That's not status, bro.
00:09:45.300 I think she's saying it's a thought process.
00:09:46.760 That's not status.
00:09:47.800 What do you mean?
00:09:48.840 Boasting about, oh, his girl taking him back, this and that.
00:09:51.780 But some guys do do that, though.
00:09:52.980 That's not status.
00:09:53.300 I've heard...
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00:10:09.200 Love you.
00:10:11.820 See you next time.
00:10:14.700 She's got your point, though.
00:10:18.860 I would like to try to believe in this space.
00:10:20.520 That's how I was doing.
00:10:22.320 I don't like my.
00:10:24.380 My name is much longer.
00:10:26.680 Oh, yeah.
00:10:27.880 I don't know.
00:10:28.680 I don't know.
00:10:30.300 I don't know.