Only Fans Model Gets Put On The Hot Sit
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Summary
In this episode, I speak to a young woman who has had to work very hard to get where she is today. She talks about how she went from being a care home care worker to running her own business and how she managed to get her life back on track. She also talks about what it was like being in a toxic relationship at a young age and how it affected her life. I hope you enjoy this episode and can't wait to do it again.
Transcript
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Probably about a year and a half when I stopped.
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Yeah, so I was working in the care home and then I started it.
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And I knew that if I started the OF, my ex would leave me alone
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And I knew that he'd really leave me alone because we were so toxic together.
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I haven't come from a big family, haven't come from a stable family at all.
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And for me it was because I was getting £400 a week from the care home.
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And I was working 12-hour shifts and five days a week.
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Okay, so you've been doing it for like three years.
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Yeah, and then I said to my manager, I need to leave work.
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So why did you pick that route instead of like, I don't know, marrying rich?
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So you couldn't have been, I mean, you probably weren't streeting that much if you were with
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I feel like when you're in a young relationship, you don't even know who you are as a person
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You could have got married, ruined someone else's too.
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No, not everyone wants to get married and not everyone wants children.
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I just think it's like a shame because there's a way to utilize female beauty in a different
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Like now you're in a position where it's going to be tough to ever be with a guy long term.
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But maybe I don't want to be with a guy long term.
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Maybe I want to live with three cats at my home with all my cactuses.
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I don't think that far ahead because life is just.
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I've got good family members and I've got friends.
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Like, I don't think women, like, we realize how much we, like, need attention from men.
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But, like, at 40 to 50, women become basically invisible.
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And so if you don't get a husband before then, like, what does life look like?
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Like, if you don't start thinking long-term, like, what does your life look like?
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Because you're in the position you're in already.
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But it's like, you know, if you want to be in a position where you're happier, like,
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wouldn't it make sense to maybe start to put that away?
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I feel like there's so much in my life I'm trying to sort out first, like, my mental health
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and my family issues and a lot of my childhood trauma that I still have to deal with daily.
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So I'm trying to sort that out first because I feel like I can't think straight at the
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You need to go through, like, because I never understand when people say childhood trauma,
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When I was younger, I was SA'd and it was my mum's boyfriend.
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So how long have you been going to therapy for it?
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I was going when I was 16 for a year and then I stopped.
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And then I've only been going for about five months now.
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Well, because it's just the sad thing about therapy is it just seems like they just
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kind of make money off of their patients instead of trying to get you guys out.
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And I think a lot of times that's, like, women doing it.
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I know maybe you had the bad experience with the guy, but it might make sense to try to find
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You know, just because, like, what does your future look like?
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And sometimes there are things that you can't actually get over.
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So looking at it endlessly makes you live in the moment too much.
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Like, I always feel like I wake up and I'm still living in the past still.
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Like, my head just keeps living in the past, you know?
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But, you know, and I've just found that if I focus more on the future, you don't live
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You know, but, like, right now you're not even thinking, like, long term.
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Also, if you had a partner, one that was good for you, not just any old partner, if you
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...and they're focused on you, then you also wouldn't have to.
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I feel like that is why I do hate my job, because I don't glamorise sex work at all.
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I think, don't start it, it does ruin your life, it ruins your mentality, and it ruins
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So, yeah, if I could sit here and regret doing sex work, I probably would regret it.
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Only because of the stuff I put on the internet as well, because that's not me.
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And you shouldn't have to do them things for money to, you know, you're losing your, not
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Yeah, it could have been private, and I feel like, where I was a bit younger, and I was
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getting too excited because of the money, I had no parents to guide me, I kind of lost
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I'm just thinking there's, like, steps you could take to get out of it, because, you
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You're able to make savings, put it away, and learn, like, a...
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...because I'm just thinking, like, you're a pretty girl, there's ways to monetize your beauty
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in a different way, you could start a YouTube channel and do reactions, right?
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Well, it's what's interesting to me, and this is actually something, like I said, when I
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was dating a gal that turned out to be a stripper and, like, a really popular one, apparently,
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what really interested me in her psychology, she was probably the best person I've ever met
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at just reading men and just understand, like, I don't believe that anybody really knows human
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She can look at a guy, and I guarantee it, I've met you, like, two minutes ago, we've
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gone on a show, it's like, she can look at a guy and immediately know how much money
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he has, would he cheat on his wife, and how quickly.
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And, like, and she knows, she would, you know, you know I'm talking about, right?
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Because the gal I was with, she was like, she would look at a guy, she's like, I'm like,
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oh, that guy's my friend, he was married, she's like, oh, he would cheat on his wife
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And I'm like, really, and she would just know, she's like, I know the look, I know,
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I know the feel, I know the energy, like, they just understand that.
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But coming, I know that you did not like sales, and that's fine.
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We had a guy in our company, we had a guy in our company that's like one of our top sales
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people, he used to sell copiers, came to us, he likes his life now.
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But there is something to sales that I think is really, really important tying into this.
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How you feel and, like, all the emotional stuff, I mean, obviously, like, that's a
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battle you have to fight, that's a battle you have to win, it is what it is.
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Everybody has some trauma, not at the same level, you know, we're different, but everybody
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comes, everybody's family is effed up in some way or another.
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And one thing I'm really glad about, like, when I was 20 years old, and I felt like I
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And I think a lot of people, you know, at a young age feel like they're victims.
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Because before I was 20, the internet wasn't, like, a huge thing, which is kind of crazy.
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So we didn't have these podcasts to learn about life, which is why I appreciate what
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Pearl does so much, because, you know, we get to learn about life.
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I was really, really lucky to take a sales position where people probably cared about
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the money I was making, the more than they cared about me.
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But at least the steps that I needed to take to build myself included a significant amount
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of discipline, a significant amount of accountability and being honest with myself, because I didn't
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So I had to be very brutally honest with myself and extremely disciplined.
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But what really helped was getting around another group of people around me that were
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disciplined and growing, and they didn't resent my success.
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They celebrated my success, and I celebrated their success.
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Let's work together to make you better if you want to be better.
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You know, and so one of the things actually we do in our company is, and I think Tate and
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those guys have the war room, people like the war room, and I think that's brilliant.
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I think just giving men a place to meet other ambitious, successful, or striving men.
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Like, we bring guys in, and we literally mold them and work with them to make them more
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Yes, they leave, and they resent it because they don't like to be in an environment where
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And as a man, I'm talking from a man's perspective, you don't have, like, a woman can cry and
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still move into another man's life a couple of years later.
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And if you feel like you're a dude and you're a little bit victimized, it's time to step up
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