JustPearlyThings - March 16, 2023


Panel Choose Over Experience On SEX Or APPERANCE

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Aunty Jenny goes on an Epic Rant Pearl DEBUNKS the ＂PATRIACHY＂ fallacy

Episode Stats


Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

193.53

Word count

1,867

Sentence count

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Harmful content

Misogyny

1

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Toxicity

11

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Hate speech

5

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Summary

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In this episode, we discuss what we look for in a man, what we want in a partner and what we would do if we were in a relationship with a man who was not good in bed. We also talk about the difference between a good and bad in bed and how to choose the right one for you.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 sorry um I feel like just we were talking about loads of that couple seconds ago but like I feel
00:00:05.740 like women always say they want to experience someone who's experienced but will cry if they 1.00
00:00:11.520 find out who they've been in those experiences with and how many body count there is can I just
00:00:16.280 say it because I could say and be like I want someone who's so experienced that's gonna do this
00:00:19.880 that's gonna do that and make me feel this type of way but then as soon as okay cool that happens
00:00:24.000 and they're like okay cool like what's your body count who have you been in for the past they're
00:00:26.760 gonna start crying and it's kind of like choose choose whether you want him to be experienced and
00:00:31.740 and like is that common a hundred percent just don't just don't answer them I just want to hear
00:00:37.980 if you didn't ask her the question about what she wants in the man oh yeah what do you look for
00:00:42.120 what do I look for in a man yes um I feel like even though I'm quite small I'd say like five eight
00:00:49.200 how tall are you sorry I'm like five three do you want two little people
00:00:53.880 normally I feel short next to pearl I feel tall today
00:01:00.360 um I like a man that's family very big on like family um big family I like chivalry
00:01:11.760 I don't really have like a time like physically so he's got to be five eight and he likes his
00:01:18.060 family and chivalry well he's nice yeah he's got a good family anti-chivalry what about money
00:01:22.920 any minimum what if he's unemployed are you paying the bills till till he figures it just it depends
00:01:29.700 on how much passion he has and what he's doing that's not paying bills is that money a big thing
00:01:35.460 usually unemployed people don't have passion typically so are we all gonna say like money
00:01:44.460 is a big thing in relationship going into relationship right now like yeah money is a
00:01:48.480 big thing I've heard everybody mention everything and for me all I want is a man that's working that's
00:01:57.120 gonna treat me the same way he'd like to be treated and he's got to be good in bed I ain't gonna have
00:02:03.060 number nine I don't care what you look like I don't care how tall you are if you're not good
00:02:07.500 in bed it ain't happening I don't care how much money you've got either if you know and everybody's
00:02:11.900 talking talking about this fanny fluttering that fanny fluttering and nobody said about sex what 0.84
00:02:17.380 but so your fanny can flutter and the man's gonna turn around you ain't gonna be good in bed what 0.99
00:02:20.840 you're gonna do then he's got everything else that's in the shopping trolley except that because 0.85
00:02:24.920 I see you put that you need to put that in the shopping trolley I missed that off but that is
00:02:28.220 vital absolutely would you guys rather have a guy that you weren't physically attracted to that's
00:02:33.040 good in bed or a guy that you were very physically attracted to but he was bad in bed give me the
00:02:37.580 one that I'm not physical oh yeah I don't mind cuz I feel like if you're not good in bed I can
00:02:43.480 always do that kind of bit myself working for me so you you would take the hot guy yeah you take the
00:02:50.120 hot guy what about you I think I think I'd have to be attracted to him to some degree to be able to
00:02:56.920 lay down so I'd have to teach I think rather than not have an attractive man there's no this isn't
00:03:01.560 build a man I mean I think that's important for me they would have to be good in bed so but then I 1.00
00:03:27.120 I wouldn't be able to lay with somebody if I didn't find them attractive so it's difficult
00:03:30.660 just pick one
00:03:31.660 pick one
00:03:32.420 I can't pick one
00:03:33.320 you have to 1.00
00:03:33.960 I think ugly and good in bed and good looking and rubbish 1.00
00:03:38.420 are you didn't tell me they can't go out of an ugly man 1.00
00:03:42.200 is that how superficial you are what about all the ugly men out there that are under the pressure 0.97
00:03:48.740 I think um it's tough I can't answer see I never got that cuz I always think if you get an ugly man 0.98
00:03:59.120 nobody's gonna want him you got a whole man for yourself yeah but then he's not making my fanny
00:04:03.920 flutter so then it's not doing it for me so I think I would have to yeah maybe but then I have to look
00:04:10.060 at him it's a good looking I have to look it has to be attractive to me and how many hours a day are
00:04:14.380 you looking at each other versus how many hours a day you sleeping with each other if you're working
00:04:19.840 if you're going out together you see it you it's yeah now how many days how many hours a day do you
00:04:25.000 work about eight how many hours a day do you sleep about eight that's what you've got to think about
00:04:29.500 so you're gonna see him before and depending on sexual positions you don't even have to look at him
00:04:33.880 I think I'd have to go with with the good-looking guy that's superficial isn't it but I think I would
00:04:47.000 have to yeah most women would though yeah I think okay would anyone take the app the not so good 0.98
00:04:53.740 looking guy but good in bed me you two and then you would take the hot guy yeah I've actually been
00:05:00.040 with someone that's not good-looking but it was good in bed and then after a while it's like my
00:05:04.200 mind just started saying to me they're good-looking it's all right makes up for it in the beds no I go
00:05:13.800 for the person that's unattractive but good in bed because you can learn to love someone's appearance
00:05:18.540 even if they don't change you can just gradually learn to love it whereas sex is quite an intimate
00:05:22.960 part of relationship so even though it's not as important for women as it is for men generally
00:05:28.180 um it's that'll still be a part of your relationship missing how many relationships have you guys
00:05:37.100 ended and why I've only been in one so and it's not ended so zero three three three and why'd you end 1.00
00:05:47.700 them um it just wasn't good towards me all violent all violent you dated three violent men yeah stupid 0.99
00:05:55.520 please first time it's okay like you wonder like okay yeah it happens to anyone second time I should 0.99
00:06:04.120 have seen the red flags but I didn't and now the third time I just feel like I need to write mug on
00:06:08.340 my forehead yeah do you know men that aren't violent no I do I know a lot of men which are my friends
00:06:13.800 it just makes no sense I just go for the ones that they show they're nice at first and then it's like
00:06:18.780 once they grab hold of me they don't want me to go so they will do anything in any type of force
00:06:25.680 I and you saw no red flags in the beginning a couple two of them yes one of them no I just like
00:06:35.020 wonder because if I was a guy listening to this I'd be like why would I be nice to you because you
00:06:39.540 don't like like you know the nice guys but you don't pick them you just keep um if anything like
00:06:43.580 it would incentivize them to be abusive see that's the thing I think like normally like
00:06:50.420 I would feel like a guy would come to me thinking oh she's been in three relationships that have just
00:06:56.180 been violent but I've actually had nothing but good guys to come towards me since I just I've been
00:07:02.180 taking my time whether I want to be in a relationship with someone or not because I really don't want
00:07:07.040 to go to a fourth time and that's it I will be getting mug tattooed on my forehead what about
00:07:17.280 you you're only 19 yeah um have I ended I have ended one um and I think I ended it just because
00:07:24.900 I think I just wasn't I wasn't ready for the commitment um yeah fickle I think I just wasn't
00:07:34.240 already I think it was kind of like I was just like yeah nah and it kind of just shut me off
00:07:39.760 completely like other after that it was kind of like I don't know why I did it nothing it's just
00:07:44.500 completely cut off and it was like I didn't feel the same way anymore and that was literally the end
00:07:50.160 of it is there's no more to that than it than I'm saying but yeah I think we you said you had two
00:07:56.920 relationships and you ended one no no I didn't know they ended both I'm more of a stay in a
00:08:04.420 relationship make it work kind of person and jump off and give up but having said that the first person
00:08:11.800 wasn't a great person so once he left and he had made that choice it was taken away from me so then
00:08:20.580 I could then go and be happy so I was actually grateful that he ended it and that's why I didn't
00:08:25.760 let him come back I actually understand that thinking because when it's like if they break
00:08:30.380 up with you you don't really have a choice in it so you don't have to like guess if it was the right
00:08:33.740 choice because it wasn't your choice I feel like it's easier to detach when someone else breaks up
00:08:37.540 with you than it is for you to break up with them do you think women ever try to get guys to break up 0.55
00:08:42.860 with them yeah 100% yeah all the time I feel like that happens all the time I feel like if you're in a
00:08:49.280 relationship where you just feel like it's kind of like he's sometimes maybe a bit more committed
00:08:53.880 but maybe not in the way that you want it to be you're probably going to do everything in your
00:08:57.220 power for him to be like yeah I'm not trying like you're doing madness whereas that's not actually
00:09:02.960 you but it's kind of like you're provoking that because it's just like you don't it's kind of
00:09:08.300 like you see it but then at the same time you don't and it's like it's easier like I can't call
00:09:12.740 it off because he has valid points so therefore I'm going to provoke whatever situation it is to make
00:09:17.580 him break up with me so that I can just be like cool you broke up with me now leave it as it is
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