JustPearlyThings - October 28, 2023


Panel Gets OFFENDED with Pearl For Insulting Women


Episode Stats

Length

25 minutes

Words per Minute

186.15471

Word Count

4,748

Sentence Count

482

Misogynist Sentences

78

Hate Speech Sentences

46


Summary

Is there an expiration date where women are considered too old to have a family? Is there an age at which a woman can no longer be considered attractive to a man? And if so, what age should that be?


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Oh, okay.
00:00:02.080 Okay, I guess it's...
00:00:03.940 So, the reason, okay, I guess I'll tell you
00:00:07.260 how I came up with this awesome topic today.
00:00:10.040 So, basically, I tweeted a couple of months ago
00:00:15.380 and I had a very profound and amazing tweet.
00:00:17.640 And I said, 25-year-old women are hotter
00:00:20.420 than 35-year-old women.
00:00:22.700 Now, to me, I just thought this was base.
00:00:24.640 Oh, she's shocked.
00:00:25.500 She's like, oh, no.
00:00:26.140 To me, I just thought this was basic.
00:00:30.520 If water is wet, the sky is blue,
00:00:32.820 younger women tend to be more attractive than older women.
00:00:36.040 And it got me to thinking, you know,
00:00:38.280 is there a date or is there an age where women are over
00:00:42.060 where they're basically considered just for fun for men,
00:00:45.700 where they're too old to start a family with
00:00:47.800 and they would not consider them long-term?
00:00:50.160 I also wondered if there were any exceptions to this,
00:00:53.060 like if she was really hot,
00:00:54.880 like she's 47, but she's an eight.
00:00:58.660 She looks like J-Lo.
00:00:59.760 Was there an exception?
00:01:01.360 I don't know.
00:01:02.300 I thought we would ask the panel today.
00:01:04.060 So, it also was inspired during this video that I saw,
00:01:07.780 which was women documenting their experience, really,
00:01:11.660 with dating after divorce.
00:01:13.500 Let's pull it up.
00:01:18.600 I can't hear it, King.
00:01:20.020 Know that your best years are ahead of you
00:01:24.000 and life has been more fulfilling for me
00:01:26.760 since my mid-30s than it ever was before that.
00:01:29.580 So, just know that your best years are ahead of you
00:01:32.100 and you are never too old and it's never too late.
00:01:34.900 This is probably the loneliest I've ever felt in my life.
00:01:38.380 And I'm in therapy and I'm in a codependency group.
00:01:42.160 I'm so done.
00:01:44.680 You have so much leverage and so many options.
00:01:47.860 I can't even tell you.
00:01:49.220 When the check came, he asked me for $6.
00:01:52.760 Definitely could think that I would stay alone forever.
00:01:55.500 Ever.
00:01:57.140 My God.
00:01:58.600 Jesus Christ.
00:02:00.240 Are we not opening doors anymore?
00:02:01.880 Are we not doing that?
00:02:02.780 Never used a dating app in your life?
00:02:04.820 Well, the good news is you're about to have so much fun.
00:02:12.920 Yeah, so much fun.
00:02:15.100 You see?
00:02:16.020 Yeah, so, there we go.
00:02:18.320 So, my question is,
00:02:19.360 is there an age that women expire at,
00:02:22.000 starting here and then go around?
00:02:23.440 Um, I would say no.
00:02:25.420 Especially, like, this day and age we have TikTok and everything
00:02:27.840 and we see, like, all these older women flaunting,
00:02:30.980 you know, their appearances and everything.
00:02:32.720 I would say, um...
00:02:34.340 Women don't expire.
00:02:35.340 No.
00:02:35.780 Okay.
00:02:36.600 Go ahead.
00:02:37.880 Um, I know we've kind of had this conversation before
00:02:40.720 when I've been on the show before.
00:02:41.860 And you basically told me,
00:02:42.960 after you're 25, you're done.
00:02:44.500 No, I didn't say after you're 25, you're done.
00:02:46.540 Or was it 30?
00:02:47.420 No.
00:02:47.740 It's like, you're basically not worth it.
00:02:49.180 No, no, no.
00:02:50.040 I said it.
00:02:50.580 I said it.
00:02:51.120 I said, no, no, this is what I said.
00:02:52.740 I said, if I was a guy...
00:02:54.540 You wouldn't want to date somebody.
00:02:56.820 Yeah, over 25,
00:02:58.020 because most of the time they're so set in their ways,
00:03:00.540 it's like you can't...
00:03:01.540 The feminism is, like, in the ears and stuff.
00:03:03.940 There's exceptions, though, but most of them, yeah.
00:03:07.380 Go ahead.
00:03:08.060 Do women expire?
00:03:09.020 Wait, what do you think, though?
00:03:10.020 Don't...
00:03:10.260 I didn't ask you what I thought.
00:03:11.820 I was like, how did you dodge this question?
00:03:15.180 What do you think?
00:03:15.840 I have my opinions.
00:03:17.840 Go ahead.
00:03:19.000 Personally, I think 30.
00:03:20.740 30?
00:03:21.420 Okay, women are expired.
00:03:23.220 You're 30, though.
00:03:24.520 Yeah, I'm expired.
00:03:25.520 So you think you've expired?
00:03:27.800 Wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:03:28.940 You just put yourself at the game.
00:03:30.700 Yeah.
00:03:31.260 You put yourself at the game.
00:03:31.640 You put yourself at the game.
00:03:32.600 Did you say you're single as well?
00:03:34.620 Yeah.
00:03:35.760 You just put yourself dirty.
00:03:38.080 There's some humility in this trick.
00:03:39.760 You know, go ahead.
00:03:40.720 When are women expired?
00:03:42.220 I do think it's individual.
00:03:44.040 I'm older than some of the people here today.
00:03:47.000 Okay.
00:03:47.680 And, yeah, I do think it's individual.
00:03:49.320 I think if someone looks after themselves, they look after their appearance, and they're
00:03:52.820 a good person, then, you know.
00:03:55.360 There's no expiration date.
00:03:57.180 No, I do think there is.
00:03:59.080 Okay.
00:03:59.360 But you can push it a bit further.
00:04:00.880 Okay, so when is the expiration date for someone that takes care of themselves?
00:04:05.420 So I don't think I've expired at the age of 40, so that's all I can say.
00:04:08.680 Okay, well, I didn't ask about you.
00:04:10.260 I asked about when do women expire.
00:04:15.280 Let's say give me a girl that takes care of herself and a girl that doesn't.
00:04:19.780 Okay, so a girl that doesn't take care of herself.
00:04:22.140 Well, is she ever in the game if she's not taking care of herself?
00:04:25.400 Is she?
00:04:26.220 Well, I mean, haven't you heard that Patrice O'Neill thing?
00:04:28.960 That where it's like an ugly 18-year-old is still hotter than a hot 30-year-old?
00:04:34.000 No.
00:04:34.740 Yeah, well.
00:04:35.400 No.
00:04:35.920 I don't agree.
00:04:38.100 Well, older women typically don't.
00:04:40.260 No offense.
00:04:42.880 Well, that's it.
00:04:44.740 No, because think about it.
00:04:46.120 It's like at 40 or 45, a guy can't get a kid out of you.
00:04:50.960 The 18-year-old can lose weight.
00:04:53.000 No, I think you can have a child at 40.
00:04:55.120 Yeah, but it's not probable.
00:04:57.700 I think it's doable.
00:04:59.160 If you've looked after yourself.
00:05:00.360 It's not likely.
00:05:01.400 You're on the carnivore diet.
00:05:02.540 You're good.
00:05:03.040 Okay.
00:05:04.600 Okay.
00:05:05.120 So what age does a woman that takes care of herself expire?
00:05:11.160 Maybe she needs to be settled down by 45 at the most.
00:05:16.460 Okay.
00:05:16.840 45.
00:05:17.700 Go ahead.
00:05:18.160 I don't think that women have an expiration date.
00:05:22.600 Just purely because different needs are met at different ages.
00:05:29.300 So I might have been really for someone when I was younger, but really even more for them
00:05:35.440 when I'm older, once I've experienced a few more.
00:05:39.040 So I am over 30, but I don't think I'm expired.
00:05:41.880 Okay.
00:05:42.380 I didn't ask about you.
00:05:44.120 But when do women...
00:05:45.660 Oh, it's me.
00:05:46.420 I said no.
00:05:47.180 No, so they never expire.
00:05:48.920 So at 55, she is equally as wanted on the market as she was at 25.
00:05:54.980 She could be wanted, but it depends on who wants her.
00:05:57.840 This is what I'm saying.
00:05:59.040 So it's like, depends on...
00:06:00.440 Men.
00:06:00.700 So men of what age?
00:06:02.860 So an older man might appreciate the more older woman.
00:06:05.880 He might have had enough of the younger.
00:06:07.320 So I'll tell you what.
00:06:08.240 They surveyed men between the ages of like 20 and 80, and they all found 22-year-olds roughly
00:06:13.460 the most attractive.
00:06:15.040 What?
00:06:15.300 Women?
00:06:16.160 Yeah.
00:06:16.500 22?
00:06:17.200 Yeah.
00:06:17.500 I can see why they're youthful.
00:06:19.780 I remember 22.
00:06:21.140 Yeah, yeah.
00:06:21.960 Sometimes.
00:06:22.480 But it's like, if we don't expire, why do women get Botox to look younger?
00:06:26.720 I don't know.
00:06:28.680 I don't know.
00:06:29.440 They want to be more youthful, reminiscing.
00:06:32.140 Right.
00:06:32.480 But it's like, we almost know that we do because we all try to look young.
00:06:36.200 Yeah, it's true.
00:06:37.620 Okay.
00:06:38.100 So we do expire.
00:06:39.360 What age?
00:06:40.660 I don't think we expire.
00:06:42.380 I don't think we expire just because we want to be youthful.
00:06:45.620 Just because we want to be youthful doesn't mean that women expire.
00:06:48.820 Women do not expire.
00:06:50.140 Okay.
00:06:50.460 Women are...
00:06:51.260 Okay.
00:06:51.460 Go ahead.
00:06:51.840 What about you?
00:06:53.780 Expiration dates.
00:06:54.940 Wow.
00:06:55.100 It depends on what exactly what she said of the fact that who, again, men, but what's
00:07:01.960 the purpose?
00:07:03.180 So milk can go off, but I'm sure once it's off, you can use it for something else.
00:07:07.120 Well, yeah, that's when they become...
00:07:08.560 That's when, like, side chicks, for sure.
00:07:10.260 No.
00:07:10.680 Not necessarily.
00:07:11.300 You can get 50-year-old side chicks.
00:07:15.920 No, I know.
00:07:16.540 I agree with you.
00:07:17.320 They tend to...
00:07:18.520 Women tend to accept that when they're older.
00:07:21.280 No.
00:07:22.020 They do.
00:07:23.640 I mean, again, I think it depends on what it is that you want out of the person.
00:07:28.940 Well, I would say for a long-term relationship or marriage.
00:07:32.900 When are women...
00:07:33.580 Long-term.
00:07:34.400 If you pass middle age, what is long-term?
00:07:36.860 Long-term these days can be two years.
00:07:39.840 Long-term can be...
00:07:41.160 Okay, so, but when a man is looking for a woman to settle down with, is there an age
00:07:46.580 where women typically are expired just based on their age they're too old?
00:07:50.840 Biologically, yes.
00:07:51.700 Again, if you look after yourself or not, I'd hope that a woman that's looked after themselves
00:07:55.760 biologically, hopefully the clock can push to 40-plus.
00:08:00.520 Okay, 40-40.
00:08:02.480 Plus.
00:08:03.380 Okay, so 50, is she expired?
00:08:07.500 Biologically, perhaps.
00:08:08.660 Okay, thank you.
00:08:09.460 I'm actually going to do the men's second.
00:08:11.300 So I'm going to go Christine, and then I'm going to ask the guys.
00:08:15.580 I mean, we're talking about the dating market here.
00:08:18.760 So we're talking about the general rule.
00:08:20.400 Of course, there are exceptions.
00:08:22.300 I mean, someone like Rachel, you don't look 40, right?
00:08:25.140 Truth is, most 40-year-olds don't look like you.
00:08:27.120 So if we're talking the majority, I would say 27, 28.
00:08:34.340 27, 28 expired.
00:08:36.900 Okay, let's go to the men.
00:08:38.980 When do women expire for you for long-term prospects?
00:08:43.360 I'll make this loud and clear.
00:08:44.500 Women do expire.
00:08:46.140 You get to about 30 years old, and there's no point in getting married.
00:08:51.260 There's no point in having kids and stuff like that.
00:08:52.980 Imagine having a kid at 40 years old, and then being 50 with a 10-year-old.
00:08:57.440 Yeah.
00:08:58.160 That's kind of crazy.
00:08:59.440 So for you, over 30, you're kind of done.
00:09:01.780 Over 30, there's no hope in a long-term relationship and planning marriage and all that kind of stuff.
00:09:06.960 I'll say over 30, it's just...
00:09:09.920 So I have a question.
00:09:11.020 What if she's 30, but she looks like J-Lo at 30?
00:09:13.940 Would you make an exception?
00:09:15.400 For me, me personally, it's a smash and dab.
00:09:18.520 You're still...
00:09:19.220 It doesn't matter what she looks like, 30?
00:09:21.300 Okay.
00:09:21.960 What about you?
00:09:23.920 I just think it's...
00:09:25.640 The terminology expiration for me is a bit harsh.
00:09:29.860 So I don't really want to talk on it on that sense of using that terminology.
00:09:33.700 But what I will say is, I don't think there's an expiration date.
00:09:38.300 It is what it is.
00:09:39.220 So...
00:09:39.540 Your own individuality.
00:09:40.860 But I'm asking for you.
00:09:42.980 For...
00:09:43.380 Regarding women.
00:09:44.200 Yeah.
00:09:44.480 So when you...
00:09:45.160 You're dating a woman...
00:09:45.800 I don't think that.
00:09:46.120 If I'm dating somebody and their head's screwed on, and we're both getting it together,
00:09:50.380 then I'm not looking at her in that aspect of an expiration date.
00:09:54.260 Do you want kids and, like, a family?
00:09:56.060 Oh, I've got kids.
00:09:56.860 Okay.
00:09:57.120 You've got kids.
00:09:57.700 I'm single, but I've got kids.
00:09:58.800 But I would love to...
00:09:59.640 I'm a family man.
00:10:00.560 You understand?
00:10:00.920 So I could...
00:10:02.300 I'm 36.
00:10:02.800 I could see someone that's 40 or so forth.
00:10:05.200 I'm not going to say she's expired.
00:10:06.820 Okay.
00:10:07.100 My mindset is...
00:10:07.660 So 40.
00:10:08.220 But what about 50?
00:10:09.880 I don't want to say the word expiration.
00:10:11.960 Maybe...
00:10:12.380 Maybe we've got to a point of...
00:10:14.060 Okay.
00:10:14.540 We've got to a point of...
00:10:15.760 It's coming to your time.
00:10:17.660 Okay.
00:10:18.320 And in a respectful way.
00:10:20.140 But, yeah.
00:10:21.220 Okay.
00:10:21.620 So roughly for you, 50.
00:10:23.340 I'd say, yeah.
00:10:24.360 What about 45?
00:10:25.480 That's cool for me.
00:10:26.400 45 and under.
00:10:27.440 Yeah.
00:10:27.580 Okay.
00:10:28.060 He doesn't discriminate.
00:10:29.140 No, I don't.
00:10:29.900 Sterling, what about you?
00:10:31.160 So the same age that I think women will start to pay a lot more attention to themselves
00:10:38.200 and put a lot more effort and work in to being beautiful is the same age where I cut
00:10:43.600 her off, and that's 24.
00:10:45.180 24.
00:10:46.100 That's very good.
00:10:47.020 And what's the difference?
00:10:49.120 Like, what makes you pick 24?
00:10:52.460 Typically less indoctrination, like less feminism, more feminine, because they've got less years
00:10:59.500 in the workforce being in, like, their masculine energy, kind of having that drilled into them
00:11:04.680 all the time.
00:11:06.300 Yeah.
00:11:07.120 The primary reason is there's a lot more runway for making a family.
00:11:10.580 Like, there's a lot more years on the clock.
00:11:12.500 I want a lot of kids.
00:11:13.400 I want a big family.
00:11:14.640 You can really only crank out, like, one a year.
00:11:16.380 She needs some time off.
00:11:17.860 Right?
00:11:18.540 Maybe if she's got twins in the family, maybe twins are in the family.
00:11:21.480 Cool.
00:11:21.620 We can crank out two a year.
00:11:22.300 Everyone loves to buy one, get one free.
00:11:24.140 Right?
00:11:26.460 If that's coming out, if she's guaranteeing twins, we can push that time frame up a little
00:11:30.500 bit.
00:11:30.700 But the womb needs to rest.
00:11:31.500 Yeah.
00:11:31.980 Like, you know, I want a lot of kids, so we're going to need some runway.
00:11:36.020 And, like, the younger a woman has kids, the older she can actually keep having kids until.
00:11:43.380 The danger becomes when a woman has her first kid in, like, the later years of her life,
00:11:48.540 that's when you get things like geriatric pregnancy.
00:11:51.000 You have to have C-sections, otherwise there's serious dangers there.
00:11:55.420 Like, my mother, she had me, she's the exception of the rule, she had me at, like, 37.
00:11:59.220 She was worried I was going to have Down syndrome because that's one of the complications
00:12:03.480 of a geriatric pregnancy, like, more likely and stuff like that.
00:12:06.760 So there's a risk for them.
00:12:08.640 Okay.
00:12:09.180 So I want to go through a woman's life here.
00:12:12.020 So under 25, 30, 30 to 35, 35 plus.
00:12:18.420 Okay.
00:12:18.960 So I want to say, is there ever an age where a woman should consider, you know, like,
00:12:24.840 take marriage off the table?
00:12:26.400 Like, marriage is, you know, marriage is no longer for you.
00:12:30.660 I don't think...
00:12:31.040 The average age of first marriage is 31 in the UK, I would say.
00:12:35.020 So at what age would it be easier if a woman took marriage off the table?
00:12:41.000 I don't think women should take marriage off the table.
00:12:43.180 Never.
00:12:43.820 Never.
00:12:44.340 Okay.
00:12:47.080 That's women.
00:12:48.220 Men might have a different answer to that, but marriage, yeah, no.
00:12:51.000 I'm going to, I'm going to want some hands here.
00:12:54.580 All right.
00:12:55.220 So if a woman is 50, should she take marriage off the table?
00:12:58.660 Raise your hand.
00:13:00.220 Who wants to marry a 50-year-old?
00:13:02.060 Really?
00:13:02.660 50?
00:13:03.360 Okay.
00:13:04.080 All right.
00:13:04.820 35, should she take marriage off the table?
00:13:08.320 35?
00:13:09.340 Okay.
00:13:09.900 Then, all right.
00:13:10.960 So basically the women think marriage is on the table forever.
00:13:14.400 Why would a man marry a woman that's over the age of 35?
00:13:19.260 For what purpose?
00:13:20.060 Because you've got an eternal illness.
00:13:26.300 Wow.
00:13:28.100 What value does a guy get from a woman over the age of 35?
00:13:32.940 Companionship.
00:13:33.720 If you was with that individual for a substantial amount of time, that's okay.
00:13:37.640 If you met somebody randomly, it's a bit iffy, buddy.
00:13:40.880 No, no.
00:13:41.620 She's, you met her 35 plus.
00:13:43.900 That's, well, 35, there's no problem with that at all.
00:13:47.080 Okay.
00:13:47.420 50 odd.
00:13:49.140 Do you know what?
00:13:50.320 For me, this is a bit mad.
00:13:52.380 If you meet someone that's 50, and you like them, and you have a connection with them,
00:13:57.040 and companionship, why would you not want to marry a woman?
00:14:00.360 Well, what's the purpose of marriage?
00:14:02.520 Say it again, sorry?
00:14:02.980 Family, kids.
00:14:04.280 Disagree.
00:14:05.000 Agree.
00:14:05.640 You're not going to get none of that.
00:14:06.980 And that's it.
00:14:07.980 But what if both partitions don't want that?
00:14:10.300 They don't want kids?
00:14:11.100 You get enough headaches for 30, 20-year-olds.
00:14:11.900 I would say, what's the point of marriage?
00:14:13.400 Yeah, zero point.
00:14:14.300 But I think marriage is different for 50-year-olds than it would be for a 30-year-old.
00:14:17.980 30-year-old, yeah.
00:14:18.540 I think it's completely different.
00:14:20.540 Their mindset of marriage is completely different.
00:14:22.060 Different, yeah.
00:14:22.880 Well, I would say that at that point, you know, just be in a long-term relationship, what's
00:14:27.000 the point of marriage?
00:14:29.140 That's why I say, when does it go off the table?
00:14:31.280 Because it benefits the women, and the women's going to get something.
00:14:34.220 You say never.
00:14:35.420 You say never.
00:14:36.400 It's never off the table.
00:14:37.520 You guys, when did you, when should, Sterling, when do you think?
00:14:40.760 Well, I'm like, under 25 to 30.
00:14:43.040 Under 25 is the kind of woman I would ask to marry me.
00:14:45.920 Okay.
00:14:46.420 Above that, again, like I said before, I don't see the runway there.
00:14:50.620 Like, the time, there's not enough time.
00:14:53.680 So you wouldn't marry anybody over 25?
00:14:55.660 I'm going to go with 25 as well.
00:14:57.280 I'd only go with 30 if I've been over for a while.
00:15:02.760 He's like, let me bargain with it, you get it?
00:15:05.180 Okay, so all the, and you say under 45.
00:15:08.140 Yeah, 50 is pushing it, but like around the 40 mark, cool, we're good.
00:15:11.980 All right, so I'm going to wait.
00:15:14.620 50 should be gone before I'm gone.
00:15:16.080 All right, who here thinks women should never take marriage off the table?
00:15:25.680 Wow.
00:15:26.840 We love selling dreams.
00:15:29.200 Yeah, let them be happy.
00:15:31.060 Let them go get their little marriage thing.
00:15:32.620 No, you know what your chance, if you, after you're the age of 35,
00:15:35.640 is of getting a ring, ladies?
00:15:37.100 Who wants to know?
00:15:37.940 It's like 5%.
00:15:38.940 Higher than that.
00:15:40.500 Oh, okay.
00:15:42.380 It's 15% over the age of 35.
00:15:44.940 They get a ring.
00:15:46.920 They get married, and that's, that's the previous generation.
00:15:49.980 So I would guess if you're not married after 35 in this generation,
00:15:53.620 where marriage is less common, it's probably going to go down.
00:15:55.440 I was going to say this generation probably never get married.
00:15:57.460 I think we're just setting ourselves up for failure at this point.
00:16:00.240 At the end of the day, if we say we're never taking marriage off the table,
00:16:03.000 you're ultimately setting yourself up to fail.
00:16:05.240 Because I think realistically, if you're not actually, you know,
00:16:08.220 married or engaged by 25, chances are it's probably never going to happen.
00:16:11.700 And if you tell yourself one day it's going to happen, one day it's going to happen,
00:16:14.760 you're constantly living in hope and expectation.
00:16:17.420 So then when it doesn't happen, and you're on your deathbed,
00:16:19.480 and you're not married, you're going to be thinking,
00:16:20.980 oh, I've not, I've not found love.
00:16:23.020 But it's like, if you put it out your mind,
00:16:25.820 if you just say, like, by the time I'm 25, if I'm not married,
00:16:28.900 I'm going to put it out of my mind.
00:16:30.320 If it happens, great.
00:16:32.420 But then if it doesn't, at least then you're not going to be upset that you didn't get it.
00:16:36.600 Well, we've been sold a lie that women deserve a husband,
00:16:40.780 and that all women are going to get them,
00:16:42.340 when the truth of the matter is most women will not have a happy ending.
00:16:46.920 Like most, if you look at the stats,
00:16:48.320 half of women aren't going to have kids or a husband.
00:16:50.820 Out of the half that do have kids, if they get married,
00:16:54.380 so maybe, let's say the other half gets married, half will fail.
00:16:58.380 So you have one in four women that will stay married, if that.
00:17:01.340 And I'd argue it's even lower because you have to account for women that had kids
00:17:05.260 and didn't get married.
00:17:06.520 There's a big thing here as well.
00:17:07.880 Like a big part of why I set that age range so low
00:17:12.140 is because the higher up that ladder you go,
00:17:15.220 the more entitlement women tend to have.
00:17:18.860 Like if you look at that video we watched before,
00:17:21.200 there was at least one of those women in that clip.
00:17:22.740 She was like, why don't men open doors anymore?
00:17:25.140 That's just one little example.
00:17:26.820 You'll see lots of clips like that on TikTok of women who are, you know,
00:17:30.080 in their 30s, not just in that clip,
00:17:32.880 but there's this, the level of entitlement seems to stack up
00:17:37.120 the longer they have waited for someone to pop the question.
00:17:41.100 Do you think men shouldn't open doors?
00:17:43.280 I think they absolutely should open doors, 100%.
00:17:45.680 I was going to say, so you feel like women feel more entitled after 25?
00:17:49.560 Yeah, because they haven't got what they were promised.
00:17:52.120 Like Pearl just said, there's this level of,
00:17:53.860 they've been promised, they've been sold this dream their whole life
00:17:56.640 since they were a young girl.
00:17:57.960 Like, you're a princess, you're going to find your prince charming.
00:18:00.080 This is going to happen.
00:18:01.160 And it hasn't happened yet.
00:18:02.420 It hasn't happened yet.
00:18:03.100 It hasn't happened yet.
00:18:03.680 That expectation is building up and up and up,
00:18:05.480 and that builds that entitlement along with it.
00:18:08.060 But if we're raising young girls to believe that they deserve prince charming,
00:18:13.060 are we raising our sons to be prince charming?
00:18:16.880 No, we're not.
00:18:18.180 So how do you expect to expect something if it's not even been brought forward?
00:18:24.420 Wait, are you, can you explain that more?
00:18:25.940 Are we raising our sons to be prince charming?
00:18:27.840 No, so if you, he said, you know,
00:18:29.680 the entitlement is almost installed in you from a young girl.
00:18:32.840 You're a princess, you deserve this.
00:18:34.520 So when you don't get it past 25, the entitlement's already a part of you.
00:18:38.640 Yeah.
00:18:38.940 So touch whatever age.
00:18:40.540 But so is this supposed prince charming that we've raised her.
00:18:43.920 If we have a son, are we raising him to be the perfect gentleman
00:18:46.980 that we expect for someone's daughter?
00:18:48.980 Because if someone's son...
00:18:50.880 Right, but who is he being a gentleman for?
00:18:52.720 No, but that's my whole point.
00:18:54.720 If we're raising her to have expectations,
00:18:57.480 I mean, somebody has a son.
00:18:59.060 Are you raising your son to be a prince charming as a young woman,
00:19:02.220 as a wife or a mother?
00:19:03.720 Well, I would say women don't reward prince charmings.
00:19:07.980 They don't, they don't, women do not reward good behavior in general.
00:19:12.140 Not at all.
00:19:12.400 I would say if women did reward good behavior and chivalry,
00:19:15.840 then you would see more of it because men will do anything to get sex.
00:19:19.240 But if we don't reward it,
00:19:20.180 how can we be mad when they don't do it?
00:19:23.640 So who's entitled?
00:19:25.700 Women.
00:19:26.500 Oh.
00:19:27.160 Women, because...
00:19:28.100 Not because they want a reward for being,
00:19:30.760 having decency and manners and courtesy and chivalry.
00:19:34.240 Women, women, no, because they, because,
00:19:36.460 because they're not, we're not traditional.
00:19:38.560 Exactly.
00:19:39.260 That's the point.
00:19:40.160 So it's like we're asking for traditional.
00:19:42.640 A 25-year-old was probably,
00:19:44.440 if a 24-year-old was born not that long ago,
00:19:48.520 24 years ago,
00:19:49.760 we're in a society where this is not a part of their norm.
00:19:54.480 What isn't a part of the norm?
00:19:55.860 To be traditional.
00:19:58.060 Right.
00:19:58.480 So you are raised,
00:20:00.320 she's being raised to be a part of a masculine world
00:20:05.160 that is what the norm is now.
00:20:06.940 Right.
00:20:07.360 So a more traditional woman is probably going to be older,
00:20:10.180 but unfortunately she's been cut off because she's expired.
00:20:12.760 No, I would say more traditional women are going to be married.
00:20:17.500 Is traditional?
00:20:18.280 Right.
00:20:18.540 Because traditional women get married before the age of 25, typically.
00:20:22.460 Perhaps.
00:20:22.940 Yeah.
00:20:23.300 So, so I would say, no,
00:20:25.500 the older women that are still single,
00:20:27.200 like they have a term for it.
00:20:28.140 It's called leftover.
00:20:29.500 In China,
00:20:30.080 they call women over,
00:20:33.940 and I think it's over the age of 30 or maybe even 27, 28,
00:20:37.960 and they just call them leftover.
00:20:39.480 Because like,
00:20:40.460 if the product's amazing,
00:20:42.160 wouldn't someone have bought it?
00:20:45.960 Notice in the language you're using as well,
00:20:48.300 it's like it's,
00:20:50.440 it's all always what does she deserve?
00:20:53.600 It's not what has she earned?
00:20:56.700 That's what,
00:20:57.240 that's what I'm saying about the entitlement,
00:20:58.560 right?
00:20:58.700 That's what entitlement means.
00:20:59.980 Yeah,
00:21:00.100 exactly.
00:21:00.500 That's what I'm,
00:21:01.120 I'm just elaborating,
00:21:02.140 right?
00:21:02.800 It's not,
00:21:03.840 we're not teaching young women like,
00:21:05.400 oh,
00:21:05.620 you need to earn your Prince Charming.
00:21:08.240 You need to earn a good man,
00:21:09.820 a good husband.
00:21:10.420 You should just be given.
00:21:11.480 You should,
00:21:11.780 you're entitled to it,
00:21:12.640 and it should just come to you one day.
00:21:14.420 And that's the,
00:21:14.780 magically from the sky.
00:21:16.140 Without you actually like sitting down and saying,
00:21:19.720 you know what?
00:21:20.140 I,
00:21:20.440 I,
00:21:20.900 here's,
00:21:21.160 here's when I want to get married by.
00:21:22.340 I want to get,
00:21:22.680 and I'm going to put it at a reasonable age because I'm,
00:21:24.620 I,
00:21:24.820 I know that it's a competition because everything's competition in life.
00:21:28.540 Right.
00:21:29.580 And so I'm going to take my dating decisions a lot more seriously.
00:21:35.520 Right.
00:21:36.000 Then,
00:21:36.500 then most women tend to do at a younger age.
00:21:39.980 Okay.
00:21:40.500 So,
00:21:41.540 all right,
00:21:41.800 would you have a question?
00:21:42.400 Go ahead.
00:21:42.540 I'm just wondering what a woman at 24 has done to earn a good man.
00:21:46.140 Because at that point in life,
00:21:47.480 you probably haven't had a secure career.
00:21:49.940 You're still young.
00:21:50.780 You haven't stacked up that expectation.
00:21:52.840 I don't care about a career.
00:21:54.520 Don't care.
00:21:55.120 I make,
00:21:55.860 I make more than enough for,
00:21:56.960 So you,
00:21:57.580 you aren't looking for necessarily a partner.
00:21:59.440 You're more so looking for a wife.
00:22:01.200 A wife.
00:22:01.480 She,
00:22:01.820 she,
00:22:02.100 the part of it,
00:22:03.040 it's complimentary,
00:22:04.360 right?
00:22:04.560 I don't need another me.
00:22:05.840 Yeah.
00:22:06.160 I don't need someone to replicate what I'm doing and not as good as I do it either.
00:22:09.140 Yeah.
00:22:09.300 Like I make more than enough money for both of us.
00:22:11.640 Oh,
00:22:11.680 what's the problem?
00:22:12.160 I want a woman who's going to be feminine,
00:22:13.820 who wants to be a mother,
00:22:14.520 who's going to have provide that nurturing energy.
00:22:16.800 You look after her.
00:22:17.500 Right.
00:22:18.240 And yeah,
00:22:18.820 someone,
00:22:19.100 someone to look after my kids,
00:22:20.200 someone to look after me,
00:22:21.240 like in,
00:22:21.900 in the aspect that she can,
00:22:23.420 and it's my job to keep us all alive.
00:22:25.380 Yeah.
00:22:26.260 And be the man.
00:22:27.120 Yeah.
00:22:27.700 We've got different roles,
00:22:28.640 complimentary.
00:22:29.120 And you asked what value a girl at 24 brings.
00:22:32.540 I mean,
00:22:32.880 typically they're thinner.
00:22:34.080 Typically they're more pure.
00:22:35.480 Typically they're more youthful.
00:22:36.620 Typically they have less baggage.
00:22:37.840 So I would say like,
00:22:39.900 those are the things that men select for.
00:22:42.160 Okay.
00:22:42.920 It just,
00:22:43.500 it just sounds like we're comparing tools or pieces,
00:22:46.320 not women with,
00:22:47.740 you know.
00:22:49.340 But do we,
00:22:50.160 sorry.
00:22:51.060 Are we looking at also what your foundation is?
00:22:55.320 So a lot of people,
00:22:56.180 maybe it's religious or something like that.
00:22:58.560 Those are things that are installed in young boys and young girls to value certain things.
00:23:03.080 And whether it's Christianity or Islam,
00:23:05.620 like you hold yourself in a certain manner and then it becomes what is valued to you.
00:23:11.440 So if you don't have these things at home,
00:23:13.340 I'm not saying only religion does it because you don't have to be under a certain religion to do it.
00:23:17.240 But if your fundamental foundations with your parents or whether you're,
00:23:21.180 however you're raising a child,
00:23:22.420 if that's not installed in them from a young age,
00:23:26.020 as they're growing,
00:23:27.020 why would they know to value it?
00:23:28.660 How would they know to value yourself as a woman?
00:23:31.760 They wouldn't know.
00:23:32.380 So it all comes back to what your,
00:23:34.140 that entitlement and your teachings.
00:23:35.460 So if a guy was raised by drug dealers and then he chooses to deal drugs,
00:23:39.620 should he not go to jail?
00:23:41.480 For sure.
00:23:42.240 He should still go to jail,
00:23:43.160 right?
00:23:43.880 That's the point.
00:23:44.560 Even if you were raised by bad parents and you don't know how to be a wife and you make certain decisions,
00:23:48.820 like it doesn't alleviate you from the consequences of those decisions.
00:23:55.020 So,
00:23:55.460 so I'm curious.
00:23:58.420 Now I kind of wanted to go into this.
00:24:00.220 All right.
00:24:00.520 I wanted to,
00:24:01.100 I had some ideas.
00:24:02.980 What could,
00:24:03.980 if you found a woman that was over the age that you typically date for,
00:24:08.100 for this,
00:24:08.520 for the guys,
00:24:10.160 well,
00:24:10.480 she's 32,
00:24:12.040 let's just say,
00:24:13.120 except for you,
00:24:13.860 50.
00:24:14.200 but she has,
00:24:21.740 that makes up for it.
00:24:23.920 What does she have?
00:24:24.500 Yeah.
00:24:24.700 Yeah.
00:24:24.920 Because there's something that a girl could do if she's over a certain age to make up for the fact that she's old.
00:24:29.740 company,
00:24:31.960 home-cooked food,
00:24:33.660 house queen,
00:24:34.640 there when I get home,
00:24:37.920 not going out partying,
00:24:40.080 respect for my parents.
00:24:41.780 Okay.
00:24:42.400 So you would,
00:24:43.680 you would,
00:24:43.960 if she was really respectful,
00:24:45.120 you would date a 32 year old if she had all that stuff?
00:24:47.700 I need to come home to peace without someone complaining about something or someone, you know, whinging about her friends or gossiping.
00:24:55.740 I don't need all of that.
00:24:56.540 You know what I mean?
00:24:57.040 I just need to know that I'm comfortable when I get home.
00:24:59.620 As long as she's bringing me comfort and peace,
00:25:02.860 yeah,
00:25:03.180 that's all right.
00:25:03.680 But then I would normally go for someone a lot younger.
00:25:06.720 I probably wouldn't even pay attention to her at first.
00:25:08.760 Okay.
00:25:09.920 So no.
00:25:13.500 Okay.
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