JustPearlyThings - November 10, 2023


Panel REVEALS How Marriage-less The Society is Becoming Because of This


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33 minutes

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100

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65

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In this episode, we discuss why men should get married at a young age and why women should wait until they're in their 30s to get married. We also discuss why it's important to have children at an early age and whether or not you should marry for love or for love.

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00:00:00.000 Oh, you know, so, you know, China, how old are you?
00:00:04.360 I'm just 10, 49.
00:00:05.560 Okay, so you're 39.
00:00:06.700 So I'm seeing this growing number of older men, right?
00:00:10.120 Older, like, around 30 or late 30s, early 40s that have never married.
00:00:15.440 That have been, right?
00:00:16.740 So you're 41, right?
00:00:18.360 You're 30, 47, 39.
00:00:23.280 All of you guys never married.
00:00:24.900 It's interesting, right?
00:00:25.760 I know you married, but you got married later, too.
00:00:28.720 Yeah, I got married at 42.
00:00:30.140 And so, you know, a lot of times they ask the question to the men,
00:00:33.500 why aren't you marrying these women, you know?
00:00:36.160 So why aren't you getting married?
00:00:37.860 And China just had the funniest clip, you know, 0.98
00:00:42.960 where he really answered the question, why aren't the guys marrying?
00:00:47.500 Okay, go ahead.
00:00:48.080 Bye.
00:00:54.360 Married.
00:00:57.500 Married.
00:00:57.540 Married.
00:01:08.220 Why are you married?
00:01:09.640 Why are you married?
00:01:11.420 Why are you married?
00:01:12.500 Why are you married?
00:01:13.480 Why are you married?
00:01:13.760 yeah
00:01:14.760 cause look at what I got to pick for
00:01:16.960 look at you and me
00:01:17.780 why went there a riot
00:01:23.700 why went there a riot
00:01:24.860 that girl spinning around 1.00
00:01:33.800 I think the first time I saw that I
00:02:02.300 cried laughing that was so funny
00:02:04.400 where was that?
00:02:05.400 that was in Brixton
00:02:06.960 in an event called shout out to pod and party noise and banter
00:02:10.880 yeah that was the event and I was a guest and like you said they asked me
00:02:14.880 I got a question bro 0.99
00:02:16.760 how do you have the balls 0.99
00:02:19.040 the balls to do that in a full black 1.00
00:02:22.240 you know what I'm going to say 1.00
00:02:24.660 say it say it 0.99
00:02:25.820 you do that in a full black environment 0.99
00:02:27.880 with a whole bunch of black women in a black community 1.00
00:02:30.200 yeah and have the balls to say that which but she was right 0.98
00:02:33.300 yeah you have some points of what she was making 0.95
00:02:34.920 but that's some balls 0.85
00:02:36.640 that's some balls 1.00
00:02:38.400 I'll be honest with you like like like um 0.98
00:02:40.380 Poe after Poe was like yeah you're going to need some security
00:02:42.320 yeah
00:02:42.720 yeah we're going to need time you know
00:02:44.480 no did you I remember he was saying I should come to the next one
00:02:47.800 I'm like oh god me and you
00:02:49.260 yeah I think
00:02:50.620 Omar is coming 1.00
00:02:51.360 no like yeah Poe needs to come to the next one
00:02:53.760 but 100% yeah we're going to have some security
00:02:55.200 did you expect them to go that mental about it though
00:02:57.980 because it seemed fair enough to me really
00:02:59.460 it seemed fair enough to you said
00:03:00.480 I'll be real with you
00:03:02.140 I was going to answer it completely differently
00:03:03.880 so um um you know
00:03:06.140 another lady on the panel 1.00
00:03:07.840 and she from um from my podcast
00:03:10.440 um from not in them
00:03:12.080 and she actually asked me a question
00:03:13.360 why aren't you married right 0.90
00:03:14.300 and I was trying to explain
00:03:15.000 so I was about to articulate
00:03:16.080 why I'm not married
00:03:17.360 and explain
00:03:17.960 all my friends which are my age range
00:03:20.360 which are doing well
00:03:20.860 which are not married
00:03:21.420 because of obviously what's going on
00:03:22.780 they wouldn't let me do that
00:03:23.960 they started heckling me
00:03:24.940 they started doing that thing
00:03:26.160 in a room full of women 1.00
00:03:27.220 oh so what
00:03:27.980 so then I was like okay
00:03:29.620 well if you want
00:03:30.560 they don't want to get that try
00:03:31.860 they want the menace try
00:03:33.320 so
00:03:33.620 but you went to the ends
00:03:35.320 you went to the ends of Brickson
00:03:36.960 what do you expect
00:03:37.700 well the truth of the matter
00:03:39.580 is we're in a post-marriage society
00:03:41.120 most people just don't know it yet
00:03:42.520 I mean they're predicting 50% of women 0.99
00:03:44.660 um at marrying age
00:03:46.020 are going to be single and childless
00:03:47.500 and then on top of that
00:03:48.440 the 50% of women that do get married 0.52
00:03:50.320 half will divorce
00:03:51.060 so that leaves one in four
00:03:52.320 that'll be with a guy 1.00
00:03:54.020 and their old age
00:03:54.880 what was going to be your other answer
00:03:57.040 um
00:03:58.700 no I've explained it before
00:04:01.440 like end of the day
00:04:02.180 so here's the thing right
00:04:03.180 I can have accountability
00:04:04.620 I've made bad choices in the past
00:04:05.880 with women
00:04:06.200 so that's the first start
00:04:07.780 I think men 0.84
00:04:08.820 you know
00:04:09.460 but also for us men
00:04:11.040 we don't really probably get into marriage
00:04:12.520 mind into your 30s
00:04:13.380 I think
00:04:13.700 you know
00:04:14.660 I was literally
00:04:15.380 don't get into marriage
00:04:16.600 I was literally thinking about
00:04:18.120 this particular um
00:04:19.520 situation
00:04:20.360 you know
00:04:21.260 getting to my 30s
00:04:22.520 and I'm thinking like
00:04:23.140 yo um
00:04:23.700 shouldn't I be having kids
00:04:24.860 should I be married
00:04:25.380 at this moment
00:04:25.740 you know
00:04:26.040 it hits into place
00:04:27.460 but then I think to myself
00:04:28.420 I don't think that
00:04:30.640 marrying for men 0.65
00:04:32.360 for love
00:04:33.180 is the main priority anymore
00:04:35.320 I think that you have to
00:04:36.200 marry for business
00:04:37.200 and once you think
00:04:38.620 marry for business
00:04:39.700 then your perspective changes
00:04:41.080 oh god
00:04:41.200 that's a nice
00:04:41.500 I might not think like that
00:04:42.420 oh man
00:04:42.860 oh god
00:04:43.740 you should have to marry 1.00
00:04:44.340 marrying for business
00:04:45.540 is a bad business
00:04:46.700 you should have to marry for love 1.00
00:04:48.480 you should be able
00:04:50.200 to marry for love
00:04:50.780 but unfortunately
00:04:51.320 I mean it's no surprise
00:04:52.360 is it
00:04:52.680 that dudes are getting married less 0.91
00:04:53.980 I mean look at
00:04:54.480 look at the laws
00:04:55.300 look at
00:04:55.640 look at how
00:04:56.220 look at how
00:04:56.800 look at how
00:04:57.440 set against guys it is
00:04:59.100 and we take away
00:04:59.780 and the other thing as well
00:05:01.220 is that
00:05:02.020 let's be frank
00:05:03.120 guys are programmed
00:05:04.520 biologically
00:05:05.120 to want to spread their seed
00:05:06.520 okay
00:05:06.940 now I don't think
00:05:08.260 I don't think
00:05:10.260 that that goes away
00:05:10.980 with age
00:05:11.440 personally
00:05:12.060 so you've got to be very sure
00:05:13.860 that the person
00:05:14.320 that you're married to
00:05:15.080 no no seriously
00:05:15.800 seriously
00:05:16.260 no seriously
00:05:16.980 seriously Matt
00:05:17.500 well you know
00:05:18.340 me at 16
00:05:20.220 was completely different
00:05:21.180 than me at 30
00:05:21.940 me at 16
00:05:22.820 I'm 47
00:05:24.100 exactly the same
00:05:25.100 but I feel like
00:05:28.140 a lot of my friends
00:05:29.540 want to get married
00:05:30.180 like you know me
00:05:30.840 I started this journey
00:05:32.080 very you know
00:05:33.100 like I said
00:05:33.920 my three sisters are married
00:05:35.060 my brother's married
00:05:35.620 my parents married
00:05:36.160 for over 40 years
00:05:36.920 that's your culture right
00:05:37.820 yeah that's my culture
00:05:38.680 where you from
00:05:39.140 Cameroon
00:05:39.840 I want to be married
00:05:41.200 it's something
00:05:41.740 it's an ideal for me
00:05:43.640 I won't have babies
00:05:44.420 out of wedlock
00:05:45.000 I don't do baby mamas 1.00
00:05:46.560 I put that out there
00:05:47.960 right
00:05:48.180 and I've
00:05:49.740 I've governed my choices
00:05:50.700 by that
00:05:51.180 but at the same time
00:05:52.380 I also understand
00:05:53.340 like
00:05:53.800 see
00:05:54.780 I
00:05:55.180 men actually want to 0.99
00:05:56.720 marry for love
00:05:57.320 and that's what
00:05:58.380 really messes us up
00:05:59.300 yeah yeah
00:05:59.700 like because we actually
00:06:00.720 want to marry for love
00:06:01.660 bro you're 100% correct
00:06:03.440 but then when it comes
00:06:04.840 down to the situation
00:06:05.680 you're sitting there
00:06:06.280 you're looking
00:06:06.700 you're like
00:06:07.040 after majority of
00:06:08.560 men get married
00:06:09.260 and then the divorce
00:06:09.960 happens
00:06:10.400 it all comes down
00:06:11.680 to the business
00:06:12.220 oh I own this house
00:06:13.760 you own that
00:06:14.400 the bank account
00:06:15.040 now it's business
00:06:15.900 so that's why I say
00:06:16.800 you have to marry 1.00
00:06:17.960 for business
00:06:18.580 you can't marry 0.91
00:06:19.340 for love
00:06:19.820 or you'll lose
00:06:20.740 you mean like
00:06:21.300 marry with a business
00:06:22.140 head
00:06:22.700 if you're going
00:06:23.320 if you're going
00:06:23.860 to marry somebody
00:06:24.620 I would assume
00:06:25.600 that the best way
00:06:26.220 at this moment in time
00:06:27.200 because trial and error
00:06:28.640 most of the guys
00:06:29.380 who sit down
00:06:29.880 and get married
00:06:30.460 at any age
00:06:31.500 at this moment in time
00:06:32.100 once the divorce happens
00:06:33.240 it's like lawyers
00:06:34.520 why are you thinking
00:06:35.300 about divorce
00:06:35.640 yeah but what
00:06:36.200 if a woman says that
00:06:37.220 then the woman
00:06:37.440 takes everything
00:06:37.980 because
00:06:38.200 I'll actually
00:06:39.620 I'll actually tell you
00:06:40.860 why they think
00:06:41.580 about divorce
00:06:42.200 because you know
00:06:43.320 the divorce rate
00:06:44.020 is between 40 and 50 percent
00:06:46.040 dating courtship
00:06:47.980 before marriage
00:06:48.880 has extended
00:06:49.680 from average
00:06:50.460 six months
00:06:51.180 a hundred years ago
00:06:52.400 to three years today
00:06:53.400 so it takes you
00:06:54.060 three years to get a ring
00:06:55.160 on average
00:06:56.580 according to Pew data
00:06:58.220 63 percent of men
00:06:59.440 under 30
00:07:00.080 are single
00:07:01.020 and roughly
00:07:01.900 half of them
00:07:02.900 have given up
00:07:03.440 on relationships
00:07:04.180 and in divorce
00:07:05.340 women get custody 1.00
00:07:06.160 90 percent of the time
00:07:07.360 only 20 percent
00:07:08.500 of dads
00:07:08.940 get weekly visitation
00:07:10.140 27 percent of dads
00:07:11.560 get no visitation rights
00:07:12.940 yeah so
00:07:14.440 yeah
00:07:15.220 the reason why
00:07:17.340 it takes longer
00:07:18.260 for the courtship phase
00:07:19.100 now
00:07:19.460 is because guys know
00:07:20.480 that they've got to vet
00:07:21.180 more properly
00:07:22.000 because back in the day
00:07:22.920 you know
00:07:23.700 like when my parents
00:07:24.520 got married
00:07:24.940 it was pretty much
00:07:25.840 you know
00:07:26.840 a fait accompli
00:07:27.620 you get married
00:07:28.120 you're going to stay together
00:07:28.760 that's it kind of thing
00:07:29.620 or certainly my grandparents
00:07:30.640 these days
00:07:31.620 because the divorce rate
00:07:32.800 is so high
00:07:33.420 and because of the way
00:07:34.020 the laws are
00:07:34.680 the guy's got to be
00:07:35.840 very sure
00:07:36.500 that he's with the right
00:07:37.160 right woman
00:07:37.560 so he's going to spend
00:07:38.060 a lot more time
00:07:39.060 with that woman 0.76
00:07:39.960 and do women divorce 0.99
00:07:41.260 for good reasons
00:07:42.400 typically
00:07:42.960 no
00:07:43.540 so i'm going to tell you
00:07:44.960 i'm going to tell you
00:07:45.460 the most frequently cited
00:07:47.180 reasons are trivial
00:07:48.180 they include
00:07:48.900 things like
00:07:49.800 emotional disconnect
00:07:51.420 irreconcilable differences
00:07:53.540 and lack of time
00:07:54.560 together
00:07:55.080 you only give away
00:07:56.080 seven reasons though
00:07:57.240 while they're
00:07:58.060 in marriage
00:07:59.260 you only get seven reasons
00:08:00.480 why you could divorce someone
00:08:01.620 yeah and you would think
00:08:02.740 they would be like
00:08:03.560 you know
00:08:03.900 the big things
00:08:04.640 like adultery
00:08:05.400 abuse
00:08:06.260 you know
00:08:06.600 oh you know
00:08:07.200 i saw that
00:08:07.940 i saw the clip
00:08:08.500 when you were on
00:08:09.220 piers yesterday
00:08:10.060 what was that
00:08:11.000 one of the women 0.77
00:08:12.020 told a story
00:08:12.820 about somebody
00:08:13.280 who was 60
00:08:13.960 and she divorced 0.99
00:08:14.780 her husband
00:08:15.220 because she was like
00:08:16.520 oh i haven't lived my life
00:08:17.660 i've only experienced
00:08:18.260 life as a married wife
00:08:19.320 and as a mother
00:08:20.500 and now i want to go out
00:08:22.080 and experience life
00:08:22.880 differently as a woman
00:08:23.580 i thought that was
00:08:24.360 an incredibly sad story
00:08:25.740 because she's got to 60
00:08:27.180 you know
00:08:28.340 she spent a lifetime
00:08:29.240 with her husband
00:08:29.760 and then she's just like
00:08:30.400 oh i want to do
00:08:31.400 the eat pray love thing
00:08:32.220 oh it's common
00:08:33.100 it's not
00:08:33.840 oh i'll say
00:08:34.500 it's not uncommon
00:08:35.380 i mean a lot of them
00:08:36.300 just did the separation
00:08:37.340 they didn't like divorce
00:08:38.380 on paper
00:08:38.980 but there's a reason
00:08:40.260 we're in this mess
00:08:41.180 there's a reason like
00:08:41.940 why the younger women 0.99
00:08:42.920 are so lost
00:08:43.760 it's because
00:08:44.220 i really think
00:08:45.100 there's been two generations 1.00
00:08:46.120 of shitty wives 1.00
00:08:47.020 bad wives 1.00
00:08:48.340 bad mothers 1.00
00:08:49.280 yeah
00:08:49.700 yeah because
00:08:51.080 because um
00:08:51.860 what i see
00:08:52.540 in the generation
00:08:53.780 above us
00:08:55.060 is they had very little
00:08:56.900 wife skills
00:08:57.560 a lot of them tended to work
00:08:58.860 none of them really believed
00:08:59.860 in obeying and submitting
00:09:00.840 to their husband
00:09:01.500 so it's like us
00:09:02.420 we don't know anything
00:09:03.300 then the generation
00:09:04.360 before that
00:09:05.340 tends to be women 1.00
00:09:06.660 that stayed married
00:09:07.500 they might know how to sew
00:09:08.440 how to cook
00:09:08.940 but they didn't have
00:09:09.580 the right mindset
00:09:10.280 because the propaganda
00:09:11.180 started really heavy
00:09:12.240 in the 50s and 60s
00:09:13.520 and so they taught
00:09:14.540 their daughters
00:09:15.140 no you always have to
00:09:15.880 have a backup plan
00:09:16.640 you have to work
00:09:17.480 and so you see
00:09:18.740 like the generation 1.00
00:09:19.700 above us
00:09:20.420 which i would say
00:09:20.940 like 40 to 60 year old
00:09:22.100 women i call them 1.00
00:09:22.960 the generation of shitty wives 1.00
00:09:24.280 and the 60 to 80 year old 1.00
00:09:28.000 women stayed married 0.94
00:09:29.040 more so
00:09:30.100 but they just passed on
00:09:31.240 like the bad mindset
00:09:32.220 to their daughters
00:09:33.060 and when i've interviewed
00:09:34.740 80 to 100 year old women 0.98
00:09:36.600 which are less
00:09:37.200 you know they die
00:09:37.840 so they're less and less
00:09:38.760 but but but they seem
00:09:41.280 to be a lot more like
00:09:42.500 they believe in obeying
00:09:43.820 their husbands
00:09:44.360 so it seems like
00:09:45.240 we've actually had
00:09:45.920 not one not two
00:09:46.820 but three generations 1.00
00:09:47.740 of shitty wives 1.00
00:09:48.400 no wonder none of us 1.00
00:09:49.560 are making it down the aisle
00:09:50.640 but as well
00:09:51.560 as well
00:09:51.980 if you're gonna get
00:09:53.040 shacked up
00:09:53.460 if you were to marry somebody
00:09:54.540 you know the whole thing
00:09:55.220 that the track on thing
00:09:56.100 that gets thrown at people
00:09:57.000 when they argue
00:09:57.600 against marriage a lot
00:09:58.460 is like
00:09:58.900 well you're gonna die alone 1.00
00:09:59.860 you're gonna be miserable 1.00
00:10:00.580 you're gonna be in a deathbed 0.99
00:10:01.740 and you're not gonna have
00:10:02.400 anybody there
00:10:02.880 and all of that
00:10:03.380 but the thing is
00:10:04.140 if i marry somebody
00:10:04.900 and then at 60
00:10:05.580 she thinks
00:10:06.820 oh sod that
00:10:07.460 i want to go and
00:10:08.160 you know
00:10:08.400 sow my wild oats
00:10:09.160 for the next couple of decades
00:10:10.540 i'm gonna die alone anyway
00:10:11.760 so what was the point of it
00:10:13.100 so when everyone laughed
00:10:14.120 when i said
00:10:14.640 oh you know
00:10:15.100 everyone got up and uprored
00:10:16.160 oh my god
00:10:16.580 he said
00:10:16.900 you know
00:10:17.720 who wants to marry you 0.96
00:10:18.860 but essentially
00:10:19.720 they thought that
00:10:21.060 i was talking about the room
00:10:22.140 see the room represents
00:10:23.780 what's actually out there
00:10:25.140 a bunch of baby mommas 1.00
00:10:26.420 were in there
00:10:26.880 and they didn't like
00:10:27.560 the fact that i was telling them
00:10:28.540 that yeah
00:10:28.860 but you are right
00:10:29.660 and it's gonna affect
00:10:30.440 what's going on right
00:10:31.240 then there's a bunch of women 1.00
00:10:32.560 that are screaming
00:10:33.240 and they're heckling me
00:10:34.020 when i'm a guest
00:10:34.660 and i'm trying to speak
00:10:35.560 these are all rude things
00:10:36.880 these are very masculine
00:10:37.620 unfeminine things right
00:10:38.740 well yeah
00:10:39.440 so when i'm saying to them
00:10:40.560 that oh
00:10:41.560 you
00:10:42.620 i'm not saying
00:10:43.540 it's because
00:10:43.980 this room represents
00:10:45.320 some of the women
00:10:46.100 and for me
00:10:47.340 i'm seeing the women 0.97
00:10:48.420 that i would want to be
00:10:49.220 with a lot of
00:10:49.860 beautiful women in that room 1.00
00:10:50.960 yeah yeah
00:10:51.400 when you attach the attitude
00:10:52.620 or attach all of
00:10:53.400 i'm like
00:10:54.100 i'm a guest speaker
00:10:55.480 i shouldn't be getting this energy
00:10:56.800 but i will give the energy back
00:10:58.360 and because
00:10:59.060 and because they're giving
00:11:00.740 all of that energy
00:11:01.680 it just makes you
00:11:02.380 just want to just
00:11:02.940 send it right back
00:11:03.800 and you send it back
00:11:04.600 in such a way
00:11:05.160 that everyone's like
00:11:05.580 wow
00:11:05.920 and they feel it inside
00:11:06.860 because yes
00:11:07.460 nobody wants to marry you 0.96
00:11:09.080 because we don't want
00:11:10.120 to deal with this
00:11:10.800 and me as a man
00:11:11.760 i would rather be
00:11:12.560 like
00:11:13.000 i would rather be
00:11:13.920 a 47 year old man
00:11:15.040 that's got my stuff together
00:11:15.980 with no kids
00:11:16.600 and no baby mom
00:11:17.200 well you have to understand
00:11:18.120 a hundred years ago
00:11:19.180 the average guy got a virgin 0.91
00:11:21.280 that was roughly 120 pounds
00:11:23.620 that typically could help him
00:11:25.780 maybe like 100 150 years ago
00:11:27.880 but typically was like
00:11:28.820 helping on the farm
00:11:29.920 so she helped him with housework
00:11:31.980 she had all these recipes
00:11:33.180 from scratch
00:11:34.160 where it's like
00:11:35.320 you know
00:11:36.460 today the average woman's 1.00
00:11:37.780 170 pounds
00:11:39.040 it's like we can't even do the like
00:11:42.920 not fat thing
00:11:44.380 you know
00:11:44.800 like we can't even
00:11:45.800 that's like the bear
00:11:46.840 and then it's like
00:11:47.540 the average woman slept with it 1.00
00:11:49.040 between five and eight partners
00:11:50.540 and this is
00:11:51.180 you know
00:11:51.800 and everyone says
00:11:52.520 that's low
00:11:53.100 so let's be honest
00:11:53.980 it's probably a bit higher
00:11:55.240 you know
00:11:55.680 like just based on
00:11:56.940 what everyone says
00:11:57.760 you know china
00:11:58.280 you made a really great point
00:11:59.560 you know
00:11:59.900 about those particular
00:12:00.780 character traits
00:12:01.400 and those particular women 0.61
00:12:02.280 the hackling
00:12:03.180 the disrespect
00:12:03.780 towards your masculinity
00:12:04.920 and that particular presence
00:12:06.040 when in that video
00:12:07.040 was dominantly female
00:12:08.260 there
00:12:08.560 but you chose
00:12:10.720 that particular area
00:12:11.720 you know
00:12:12.340 you knew going to bricks
00:12:13.360 then you knew
00:12:13.880 that these particular type of
00:12:15.060 I wouldn't say
00:12:16.120 100%
00:12:17.020 then that means
00:12:17.760 that you like
00:12:18.780 more of a
00:12:19.480 if I was to give a perfect type
00:12:21.300 of new modern day woman
00:12:22.480 of a
00:12:23.000 you know
00:12:23.440 not traditional
00:12:24.680 but like a new modern day woman 0.97
00:12:25.980 would be like Beyonce
00:12:26.880 see
00:12:28.020 oh please sorry
00:12:28.700 that's not an example
00:12:29.420 I think Beyonce's a perfect example
00:12:31.280 I think Beyonce's
00:12:32.400 I'll be real
00:12:32.840 I didn't see no Beyonce's in there
00:12:34.880 let's come back to reality
00:12:36.960 no no no
00:12:38.040 let's come back to reality
00:12:39.080 so you don't think
00:12:40.980 there are independent women 0.77
00:12:41.960 who are actually intellectual
00:12:42.980 who can hold
00:12:43.560 what does independent mean for you
00:12:44.200 first of all
00:12:44.720 explain what independence means
00:12:46.060 for me as a guy
00:12:47.040 for you
00:12:47.380 in your perspective
00:12:48.340 because we're all talking
00:12:49.180 from our own expectors
00:12:50.180 I can explain
00:12:52.080 for me as a guy
00:12:53.080 when I look at a female 1.00
00:12:54.020 one of the things
00:12:54.860 that matters to me is
00:12:56.080 on my worst day
00:12:57.520 can she be there for me
00:12:59.140 you're talking from self
00:13:00.880 yeah as a guy
00:13:02.180 like I said
00:13:02.640 for me as a guy
00:13:03.800 when I look for a woman 1.00
00:13:06.000 or I think about a woman
00:13:06.900 I need to know
00:13:08.020 is she thinking about the future
00:13:09.680 or is she thinking about
00:13:10.380 her emotional now
00:13:11.180 on my worst day
00:13:12.000 can she be there for me
00:13:13.040 and if I want to say
00:13:14.080 oh I want to build
00:13:14.660 this corporation
00:13:15.380 is she going to say
00:13:15.940 good luck
00:13:16.320 or she say
00:13:16.620 well what's the first
00:13:17.240 couple steps
00:13:17.800 there's a different type
00:13:18.860 of mentality of women
00:13:19.800 and when I reference
00:13:20.900 Beyonce
00:13:21.320 I'm not talking about
00:13:22.060 her star power
00:13:22.720 I'm talking about
00:13:23.540 how she can look 0.99
00:13:24.220 at a corporation
00:13:24.980 or a business
00:13:25.540 and say
00:13:25.920 you want to own title
00:13:27.180 Jay-Z
00:13:27.520 well this is what
00:13:28.160 we're going to do
00:13:28.600 I know a couple
00:13:29.160 of artists
00:13:29.540 we can bring them here
00:13:30.340 and work with you
00:13:31.300 to actually become
00:13:32.120 that massive
00:13:34.180 male masculine figure
00:13:35.660 that's the type of woman 1.00
00:13:36.760 that I believe
00:13:37.380 in this modern day
00:13:38.260 generation
00:13:38.800 is outshined
00:13:41.600 I would say
00:13:42.100 at this moment in time
00:13:42.800 so it's not like
00:13:43.820 oh it's not realistic
00:13:45.120 no there are women 1.00
00:13:46.120 out here
00:13:46.540 in this world
00:13:47.120 but you just have to
00:13:48.060 you're not going to
00:13:48.820 find them
00:13:49.080 I'm not saying
00:14:01.400 I'm not saying
00:14:02.020 you're in London right now
00:14:03.740 hold on
00:14:05.700 hold on
00:14:05.980 hold on
00:14:06.480 the girls 0.99
00:14:08.500 the girls that 0.94
00:14:09.160 I'm saying
00:14:09.800 the girls that 0.94
00:14:10.580 are chilling
00:14:11.280 and hanging out
00:14:12.160 the girls that 0.94
00:14:13.000 have this type
00:14:13.600 of character trait
00:14:14.180 they're not going to
00:14:14.520 be sitting on a block
00:14:15.300 in Brixton
00:14:15.660 they're going to be
00:14:16.140 in different environments
00:14:16.720 let me just
00:14:18.980 let me just speak
00:14:19.840 on behalf of the girls
00:14:20.820 in Brixton
00:14:21.200 because I love the girls 0.95
00:14:21.980 in Brixton
00:14:22.320 shout out to the girls 1.00
00:14:23.160 in Brixton
00:14:23.500 where is Brixton
00:14:25.000 South London
00:14:25.580 South London
00:14:26.500 South London
00:14:27.140 like what
00:14:28.340 so you know
00:14:29.280 what it is
00:14:29.660 yeah
00:14:29.840 they're not chilling
00:14:30.440 on the ends
00:14:31.000 alright so
00:14:31.420 okay so
00:14:32.420 you know what I mean
00:14:33.560 okay so
00:14:35.000 what I would
00:14:35.800 what's wrong
00:14:36.560 with Brixton
00:14:37.160 not as long
00:14:38.120 it's not wrong
00:14:41.520 with Brixton
00:14:41.860 we're just talking
00:14:42.380 about like
00:14:42.800 babies you're from 0.99
00:14:43.600 the US
00:14:43.960 you can't come
00:14:44.480 in London right now
00:14:45.200 so
00:14:45.440 we're talking
00:14:46.240 about the demographic
00:14:46.720 so what he's done
00:14:48.420 is right
00:14:48.700 he's seen
00:14:49.160 he's seen all the
00:14:49.940 women right 1.00
00:14:50.420 and it seems
00:14:51.120 like it seems
00:14:51.940 very loud
00:14:52.700 it's like a lot
00:14:53.560 of people said
00:14:54.000 I can't believe
00:14:54.460 you was there
00:14:54.900 like I don't know
00:14:55.500 how you handled it
00:14:56.120 I felt bad for you
00:14:56.560 yeah yeah
00:14:56.980 a lot of people
00:14:57.400 did say that to me
00:14:58.160 right
00:14:58.400 and I get it
00:14:59.200 and I get it
00:14:59.680 right
00:14:59.900 but part of what
00:15:00.940 I'm doing
00:15:01.220 as the mandem's
00:15:01.820 voice is I believe
00:15:02.820 that like in the UK
00:15:04.380 not a lot of people
00:15:05.400 there's a lot
00:15:05.820 it's like crabs
00:15:07.340 crabs in a bucket
00:15:08.220 I don't know
00:15:09.220 how it is over there
00:15:09.980 you chose an environment
00:15:11.400 where there's a lot
00:15:12.000 of females
00:15:12.420 having fun
00:15:13.000 but on podcast spaces
00:15:14.260 there tends to be
00:15:15.080 this very this thing
00:15:15.940 where people like
00:15:16.580 to keep their
00:15:17.100 like what I like
00:15:18.200 about Pearl
00:15:18.700 is Pearl puts
00:15:19.400 people together
00:15:20.000 and sit people
00:15:20.480 together not
00:15:20.960 necessarily that
00:15:21.580 you might not
00:15:22.220 sit with right
00:15:22.800 so what I do
00:15:24.560 is Pearl's got
00:15:25.060 a very big platform
00:15:25.820 and I also feel
00:15:27.280 as a black content
00:15:28.160 creator
00:15:28.460 that I like to
00:15:29.060 take myself
00:15:29.820 when I go viral
00:15:30.540 and take my platform
00:15:31.440 to other smaller platforms
00:15:32.620 and take some
00:15:33.480 of the things
00:15:33.860 that I've learned
00:15:34.440 and that's what I do
00:15:36.360 so I get my energy
00:15:37.560 and I try to
00:15:38.460 follow it to little things
00:15:39.380 so the reason
00:15:39.940 why you're going
00:15:40.400 to see me
00:15:40.780 somewhere like that
00:15:41.400 because those
00:15:42.260 I just think
00:15:43.320 all women 0.66
00:15:43.760 are pretty much
00:15:44.380 the same
00:15:45.000 yeah I mean
00:15:45.700 let me finish
00:15:50.640 let me finish
00:15:51.180 let me finish
00:15:51.600 I think there's
00:15:52.440 better choices
00:15:53.540 and worse choices
00:15:54.840 but I've seen
00:15:55.700 I'll give you
00:15:56.780 an example
00:15:57.280 you know
00:15:57.560 I interviewed
00:15:57.900 a guy last week
00:15:58.940 right
00:15:59.260 and he married
00:16:00.780 a girl
00:16:01.380 that was homeschooled
00:16:02.520 and a virgin
00:16:02.960 and you know
00:16:03.560 what she did
00:16:04.160 she did 1.00
00:16:04.640 fucked his ass up 1.00
00:16:05.960 in divorce court 1.00
00:16:06.720 now he hasn't seen
00:16:07.420 his kid in three years
00:16:08.360 I've seen
00:16:09.160 I've seen women 1.00
00:16:09.960 that are Muslim
00:16:11.000 that did it
00:16:11.760 I've seen women 1.00
00:16:12.480 that are from Africa
00:16:13.580 that did
00:16:14.080 I've seen it
00:16:14.900 so it really just
00:16:16.020 led me to the conclusion
00:16:17.080 there's no good women 1.00
00:16:18.300 because I've also seen
00:16:19.560 you know 1.00
00:16:20.380 absolute whores 1.00
00:16:21.380 make really good 1.00
00:16:22.240 long term girlfriends
00:16:23.480 so my thing is
00:16:26.240 I think there's
00:16:26.720 high risk women
00:16:27.640 and low risk women 0.85
00:16:28.820 but you never really know
00:16:30.540 absolutely
00:16:30.940 Brixton is very gentrified
00:16:32.900 I mean like
00:16:33.320 my father was brought up
00:16:35.080 was born near Brixton
00:16:35.980 and you know
00:16:36.520 shout out to the Brixton Massive
00:16:37.760 because it's
00:16:38.140 it's a good place
00:16:40.360 it's a fun place
00:16:41.320 but look the point is
00:16:42.200 if he'd have done that
00:16:43.120 that talk
00:16:43.640 and it had been in Chelsea
00:16:44.520 do you think it would have been
00:16:45.760 a lot different
00:16:46.260 probably not
00:16:47.320 because like
00:16:47.980 one of my best friends
00:16:49.020 who lives in
00:16:50.560 you know
00:16:51.400 he's from that side of town
00:16:52.340 he lives in Chelsea
00:16:52.960 he's just been 0.91
00:16:53.560 completely screwed over 1.00
00:16:55.100 by a woman 0.99
00:16:56.040 from that demographic
00:16:56.940 who's basically
00:16:58.200 taken his kid
00:16:59.360 he hasn't got access
00:17:00.200 to the kid
00:17:00.640 he's been completely 0.76
00:17:01.680 screwed over 0.96
00:17:02.260 there's a reason
00:17:02.920 there's a reason
00:17:05.800 it's a glo
00:17:06.340 I'll get to this
00:17:07.040 but there's a reason
00:17:07.840 it's a global movement
00:17:09.100 it's because women 1.00
00:17:10.120 aren't special 0.96
00:17:10.840 we're freaking all the same
00:17:12.080 but that's a culture
00:17:12.920 that's a culture
00:17:14.140 that's a culture
00:17:14.980 difference
00:17:15.320 what I'm talking about
00:17:15.900 with you
00:17:16.200 when it comes out to you
00:17:17.040 you knew
00:17:17.680 and the reason I reference
00:17:18.580 Brixton is because
00:17:19.260 you know 100%
00:17:20.480 you're chilling
00:17:21.140 with the community
00:17:23.220 you know what I mean
00:17:23.840 so you know
00:17:24.920 they're going to get banned
00:17:25.700 but on some level
00:17:28.240 is I don't separate
00:17:29.700 myself from the community
00:17:30.620 so it's like
00:17:31.500 it's like
00:17:32.380 those are still my women 0.96
00:17:33.520 so they might be lost
00:17:34.760 or they might be
00:17:35.340 they're not lost
00:17:35.920 they just
00:17:36.320 you know
00:17:36.660 but part of my job
00:17:38.480 is that I have
00:17:39.120 I have to do that
00:17:40.080 and yes
00:17:40.840 it may come with a target
00:17:42.040 on my back
00:17:42.640 but at least
00:17:43.640 gotta say it
00:17:44.160 so I'm gonna
00:17:44.660 answer your question
00:17:45.680 you said
00:17:46.020 what did he do
00:17:46.840 for the kid
00:17:47.900 no a lot of times
00:17:49.020 nothing
00:17:49.480 a lot of times
00:17:50.480 women just get angry 1.00
00:17:51.660 and spiteful 0.97
00:17:52.440 and just decide
00:17:53.180 no no
00:17:53.720 thank you
00:17:54.300 yeah
00:17:54.600 and I do understand that
00:17:56.720 I've got also
00:17:59.360 male friends
00:17:59.860 who's definitely
00:18:00.580 experienced that
00:18:01.340 but then on the other hand
00:18:02.620 you do have the men 1.00
00:18:04.080 who will fuck over a woman 1.00
00:18:05.720 and turn a woman 1.00
00:18:07.620 into doing
00:18:08.540 such spiteful things
00:18:09.460 so there needs to be
00:18:10.360 a company on both sides
00:18:11.540 I'll get to you
00:18:12.280 wait what do you
00:18:12.880 what do you think
00:18:13.940 he would have to do
00:18:14.740 to deserve to not see
00:18:16.280 his blood
00:18:16.860 DNA
00:18:17.300 okay alright
00:18:18.100 fair
00:18:18.340 alright
00:18:18.760 nothing
00:18:20.760 there's no reason
00:18:21.980 there isn't no reason
00:18:22.680 there isn't
00:18:23.920 no reason
00:18:26.620 for you
00:18:27.540 not to see your blood
00:18:28.480 but
00:18:28.860 okay
00:18:29.440 so it's unacceptable
00:18:30.860 no it is unacceptable
00:18:32.060 however
00:18:32.540 where accountability
00:18:34.380 needs to be taken
00:18:36.980 is
00:18:37.340 there are things
00:18:38.280 that men
00:18:38.720 will poke
00:18:39.320 and keep on doing
00:18:40.180 at a woman 0.98
00:18:40.620 remember
00:18:41.060 we are women 0.96
00:18:41.660 we're females 1.00
00:18:42.360 yeah
00:18:42.620 we've got emotions
00:18:43.400 we're not like
00:18:44.340 a male
00:18:44.800 yeah
00:18:45.440 so
00:18:45.920 we're not going to tolerate
00:18:47.220 we're not going to tolerate
00:18:49.320 so
00:18:49.420 I have to disagree with you
00:18:53.200 I think there is no reason
00:18:55.320 for a woman to ever 1.00
00:18:57.040 like there's nothing a man can do
00:18:59.420 to deserve that
00:19:00.160 I think women that do that should 1.00
00:19:01.380 like and I don't even think
00:19:02.760 we should give them an out
00:19:03.900 or an excuse
00:19:04.560 like you're poking the bear
00:19:05.660 no
00:19:06.380 I'm not saying it's an excuse
00:19:08.180 I'm just giving you the scenarios
00:19:09.920 which happen a lot
00:19:11.960 so like what
00:19:12.740 so in regards to
00:19:15.120 like two people
00:19:16.580 in a relationship
00:19:17.160 let's say if a guy
00:19:18.160 is constantly cheating
00:19:18.980 on his woman 0.59
00:19:19.500 if he's constantly
00:19:20.520 disrespecting her
00:19:21.320 if he's constantly
00:19:21.940 not showing any attention
00:19:24.500 or emotion
00:19:25.080 why'd she make a kid 1.00
00:19:25.920 with a cheater?
00:19:27.640 maybe she didn't know
00:19:28.780 the cheating
00:19:29.020 is actually
00:19:29.700 you don't know
00:19:30.280 the cheating
00:19:30.620 either happens after
00:19:31.760 or
00:19:32.260 I don't believe it
00:19:34.300 I actually
00:19:35.680 to her point
00:19:36.640 I once had a niece
00:19:38.060 on her 18th birthday
00:19:39.860 she said
00:19:41.500 maturing
00:19:42.220 is realizing
00:19:44.040 you don't need
00:19:45.060 a man
00:19:45.960 that's when her father
00:19:47.900 and I
00:19:48.340 looked at each other
00:19:49.240 in disgust
00:19:50.580 later that night
00:19:52.520 two robbers
00:19:53.760 broke into the house
00:19:55.360 and threatened
00:19:57.240 to kidnap her
00:19:58.460 that's when she screamed 1.00
00:20:00.340 and pleaded
00:20:01.420 for her father and I
00:20:03.080 had come save her
00:20:04.320 that's when
00:20:06.160 we took off
00:20:07.580 our
00:20:07.920 our
00:20:08.420 our hat
00:20:09.360 and showed that
00:20:10.620 we were actually
00:20:11.220 the robbers
00:20:11.800 oh my god
00:20:12.620 you know
00:20:12.920 but my niece
00:20:16.240 but hold on
00:20:17.500 hold on
00:20:18.220 hold on
00:20:19.220 hold on
00:20:19.780 hold on
00:20:20.060 but my niece
00:20:20.760 but my niece learned
00:20:21.860 a very big lesson
00:20:23.340 that night 1.00
00:20:24.040 don't be a bitch 1.00
00:20:25.880 now she hasn't 1.00
00:20:26.800 now she hasn't spoken
00:20:27.780 to us
00:20:28.260 since then
00:20:29.040 I don't blame her
00:20:30.740 and now she does
00:20:31.600 only fence
00:20:32.300 whoa
00:20:32.820 you sent her
00:20:34.940 over the edge
00:20:35.460 wait we need to talk
00:20:36.860 about this
00:20:37.400 but a lot of that
00:20:40.000 is because
00:20:40.460 I don't think
00:20:41.640 I think she's just
00:20:42.200 too embarrassed
00:20:42.660 to admit
00:20:43.160 she was wrong
00:20:44.360 and ladies 0.94
00:20:45.180 maybe she doesn't
00:20:46.040 no no
00:20:46.420 maybe she thinks
00:20:47.200 that that behavior
00:20:48.020 was like
00:20:48.540 messed up
00:20:49.700 it's traumatic
00:20:50.660 this is for y'all
00:20:56.260 this is alpha king
00:20:57.120 rule number 344
00:20:58.540 women don't need 1.00
00:21:01.240 a man
00:21:02.120 but statistics have shown
00:21:04.000 if they don't have one
00:21:05.480 they become bitter
00:21:06.740 overweight 1.00
00:21:07.900 and bitchy 1.00
00:21:09.540 plus 0.98
00:21:10.400 I disagree with that
00:21:11.420 they're more likely
00:21:12.200 to be kidnapped
00:21:13.660 take it
00:21:15.380 take it
00:21:15.940 take it
00:21:17.920 take it
00:21:18.500 take it
00:21:20.680 take it too
00:21:21.080 and you know
00:21:21.640 they tried to
00:21:22.080 kidnap me
00:21:22.540 all the years
00:21:23.060 I've been single
00:21:23.640 nah you can't say that
00:21:24.800 you can't
00:21:25.420 you know
00:21:25.900 there's a lot of
00:21:26.820 there's a lot of
00:21:27.280 things you have to
00:21:27.760 back up
00:21:28.260 you can't say that
00:21:29.020 what the culture
00:21:29.540 of that woman is 0.94
00:21:30.140 the way she's brought
00:21:30.820 up
00:21:31.060 there's a lot of
00:21:31.580 factors
00:21:31.920 you can't be like
00:21:32.660 oh vulnerable woman
00:21:33.400 she's been single
00:21:34.080 boohoo her 0.99
00:21:35.000 no
00:21:35.320 I've been okay
00:21:36.740 I've been single
00:21:37.400 a long time
00:21:37.860 that's wild
00:21:38.780 so I have a question
00:21:40.100 but then you come
00:21:40.660 into the masculine energy
00:21:41.600 I have a question
00:21:41.940 I have a question
00:21:42.640 so
00:21:43.440 what happens
00:21:44.400 if someone breaks
00:21:45.100 into your apartment
00:21:45.840 you get to let them
00:21:46.920 I just call
00:21:47.460 you think you can
00:21:48.720 wait wait wait
00:21:49.620 wait please
00:21:50.500 go ahead
00:21:50.920 what do you do
00:21:51.560 there's a few steps
00:21:53.200 I'll take
00:21:53.580 okay okay
00:21:54.000 what's step one
00:21:54.720 try to be brave
00:21:56.000 and head on
00:21:57.040 okay so Omar
00:21:58.000 is in your apartment
00:21:58.840 yeah I'll try to 0.78
00:21:59.720 throw something at Omar
00:22:00.460 what
00:22:00.840 I'll be tactical
00:22:01.660 that's gonna fail
00:22:03.440 okay okay
00:22:04.260 so when that fails
00:22:05.140 what do you do
00:22:05.760 call the men
00:22:06.560 the Albanian men
00:22:07.540 they'll come and rescue me
00:22:08.660 how long will the
00:22:09.820 Albanian men
00:22:11.040 take to get there
00:22:11.500 when Omar's right in front of me 1.00
00:22:12.420 okay so
00:22:13.220 okay
00:22:13.880 we'll find out what
00:22:14.680 over my lips
00:22:15.120 don't worry
00:22:15.680 okay so you do need that
00:22:17.500 of course
00:22:17.920 I'm not disagreeing with that
00:22:19.540 I was just adding
00:22:20.420 but it's so crazy
00:22:21.480 how confident
00:22:22.280 and comfortable
00:22:22.940 you know
00:22:23.600 as a guy
00:22:24.740 as a guy who sits down
00:22:25.620 in this particular situation
00:22:26.640 you know
00:22:27.380 every day when I walk out
00:22:28.860 it's a possibility
00:22:29.720 of getting into a
00:22:30.520 confrontational situation
00:22:31.580 without me actually
00:22:32.540 wanting to be in that
00:22:33.440 particular situation
00:22:34.160 and every day
00:22:35.240 mentally
00:22:35.680 as a man
00:22:36.760 we are prepared
00:22:37.800 to deal with whatever
00:22:39.220 whatever situation happens
00:22:40.960 you have to
00:22:41.700 automatically think
00:22:42.920 of the negatives
00:22:43.520 before you think of the positive
00:22:44.500 while being a man
00:22:45.540 the fact that you can sit here
00:22:47.420 and say
00:22:47.920 if Omar
00:22:48.680 if me looking at Omar right now
00:22:51.420 so Pearl
00:22:52.020 so Pearl
00:22:52.920 if you remember last week
00:22:54.040 you was
00:22:54.620 literally having this conversation
00:22:56.220 with the
00:22:56.860 that was sat over there
00:22:58.800 and then she was saying
00:22:59.540 oh they would do this
00:23:00.440 and do that
00:23:01.000 if a man slept in the room
00:23:02.160 and all of this stuff
00:23:03.020 and in actual fact
00:23:04.000 oh yeah shout out to 0.95
00:23:04.660 it was Jazz
00:23:05.280 she was saying that
00:23:06.120 because King actually
00:23:07.480 pulled her up
00:23:08.020 and she was like
00:23:08.680 she'll get involved 0.97
00:23:09.300 if her brother was doing something
00:23:10.360 she'll get involved right
00:23:11.300 unfortunately you've heard
00:23:13.000 about that 15 year old girl
00:23:13.980 that got stabbed
00:23:14.580 R.I.P.
00:23:15.160 to I think her name was
00:23:15.840 was it
00:23:16.460 was it
00:23:17.340 Ileana
00:23:17.780 Ileana
00:23:18.240 R.I.P.
00:23:18.740 to 15 year old
00:23:19.520 Ileana
00:23:19.840 initially we
00:23:21.320 it was said that
00:23:22.600 she was stabbed
00:23:23.740 because by her ex-boyfriend
00:23:25.020 but now it's found
00:23:25.660 that it wasn't even
00:23:26.480 had anything to do with her
00:23:27.380 she was protecting her friend
00:23:29.140 protecting her friend
00:23:30.440 yeah
00:23:30.840 it was a guy
00:23:31.740 yeah
00:23:32.140 he was a 17 year old boy
00:23:34.260 and she was a 15 year old girl
00:23:35.880 and he stabbed her yesterday
00:23:37.120 but initially it was
00:23:38.440 he tried to give flowers
00:23:39.960 but we thought that
00:23:40.820 he stabbed his girlfriend
00:23:42.040 I knew there was more to the story
00:23:43.560 that didn't make any sense
00:23:44.580 okay but what I'm trying to say is
00:23:45.960 yeah
00:23:46.240 women you have to understand violence 1.00
00:23:48.500 you don't understand violence
00:23:50.200 her friend tried to step in to help
00:23:52.340 because you know
00:23:53.900 but us men know
00:23:54.960 when you step in to help
00:23:56.140 this is the result
00:23:57.540 yeah
00:23:57.900 and I'm trying to make you understand
00:23:59.980 when you're talking about this
00:24:01.080 oh I will do this
00:24:01.940 I will be brave
00:24:02.680 you don't understand violence
00:24:04.040 bravery has nothing to do with violence
00:24:05.820 when real men step in violent men
00:24:08.240 your life can be on the line
00:24:10.280 and the reason why I want to say this
00:24:11.680 is because women seem to have some 1.00
00:24:13.100 idealistic
00:24:13.980 some imaginary thing about beef
00:24:15.760 I'll do this 1.00
00:24:16.320 I will hit him in the nuts 1.00
00:24:17.280 no you won't 1.00
00:24:17.980 you're not prepared
00:24:18.580 you're not going to do this
00:24:19.660 with real violent people
00:24:20.780 and we just
00:24:21.620 I need to put that out
00:24:22.420 there's a lot of violent people out there
00:24:23.760 because even as a man
00:24:24.740 even as a man
00:24:25.540 we're not prepared
00:24:26.440 or we're not sure
00:24:27.280 if we actually are ready
00:24:28.200 for that particular
00:24:28.760 whenever you go to a man
00:24:30.620 you don't know
00:24:31.420 this is the last
00:24:32.160 this could be your last breath
00:24:33.080 yeah exactly
00:24:33.820 it can be
00:24:34.680 and men understand this
00:24:35.740 but women don't realize that 1.00
00:24:36.940 no they don't
00:24:37.200 so the only reason I'm saying it to you
00:24:38.360 my dear
00:24:38.600 it's only because
00:24:39.540 I understand
00:24:40.200 I get it
00:24:40.960 but part of the reason
00:24:42.000 we speak like this
00:24:42.740 is because us men
00:24:43.400 we understand violence
00:24:44.200 and the ideal thing
00:24:45.340 women are supposed to be protected 1.00
00:24:47.020 they should have a man in the home 1.00
00:24:48.480 they should have
00:24:49.460 if you haven't got a man
00:24:50.980 you should have a son in the home
00:24:52.040 because us men
00:24:52.700 with sons
00:24:53.020 will defend our mothers
00:24:54.160 but if you have nobody
00:24:56.000 in your community
00:24:56.860 to protect you
00:24:57.520 then when you get a son in the home
00:24:58.360 which can happen
00:24:59.580 ultimately you will start
00:25:01.120 looking to men
00:25:01.800 because it's not women 1.00
00:25:02.880 you're looking to
00:25:03.460 so that's all I'm saying
00:25:04.200 and obviously RIP
00:25:05.020 to that young girl man
00:25:05.900 it's just so sad
00:25:07.240 so sad
00:25:07.800 so I'm curious
00:25:10.120 so back to the
00:25:11.320 the marriage topic
00:25:12.640 who here thinks
00:25:14.000 they'll be married
00:25:14.860 raise your hand
00:25:15.820 1, 2, 3, 4, 5
00:25:19.560 oh you're already married
00:25:21.580 Ping you're not involved
00:25:23.040 okay okay
00:25:24.040 you two don't
00:25:24.840 I don't think so
00:25:27.420 not legally married
00:25:28.340 okay do you think
00:25:29.300 you'll have like kids someday
00:25:30.820 it's not top of my list
00:25:33.940 okay
00:25:34.420 to be honest
00:25:35.000 it's just
00:25:35.640 that's just a personal thing
00:25:36.860 I think it's a very personal thing
00:25:38.020 for each individual person
00:25:39.680 you know
00:25:40.940 I get a lot of pushback from that
00:25:42.260 because people say
00:25:42.900 that your life is not complete
00:25:44.400 if you don't have children
00:25:45.620 I personally don't believe that
00:25:46.900 I think that you can make
00:25:47.800 create meaning in your life
00:25:48.940 with multiple ways
00:25:50.220 I mean Jesus did it
00:25:51.820 absolutely
00:25:52.460 absolutely
00:25:53.280 but that's just a personal thing
00:25:54.960 and you know
00:25:55.800 I mean I've got my nephews
00:25:56.960 and all that
00:25:57.480 and also
00:25:58.340 I've got this
00:25:59.560 my second family
00:26:00.420 who've got like loads
00:26:01.400 and loads of kids
00:26:02.080 that I've known since birth
00:26:04.080 so
00:26:04.620 okay
00:26:05.180 so what makes you guys
00:26:07.620 want to have a family
00:26:08.940 oh what
00:26:10.320 oh
00:26:10.700 that's amazing
00:26:11.760 I've got a daughter already
00:26:12.760 okay you've got a daughter
00:26:13.660 why don't we
00:26:14.440 I'm going to start with the men 0.52
00:26:15.380 and then we're going to go to the women 0.99
00:26:16.220 so why don't you start
00:26:17.200 I grew up with a single mom
00:26:21.380 and a brother and a sister
00:26:23.300 and just to watch her struggle 0.70
00:26:24.540 but the feeling that
00:26:25.780 to see
00:26:26.800 how
00:26:28.160 there's a different type of feeling
00:26:29.480 that you have
00:26:29.840 when you have a child
00:26:30.600 and I can see other parents have it
00:26:32.480 I can see this different type of feeling that
00:26:34.220 a feeling that you just don't experience within life
00:26:37.100 I want to get married
00:26:38.180 I want to have
00:26:39.240 but I have to be very selective
00:26:40.280 I'm not going to just marry anybody
00:26:42.440 I have to make sure
00:26:43.240 like I said earlier
00:26:44.140 to you guys
00:26:45.280 I have to do it for business
00:26:47.520 it's not for love
00:26:48.760 I have to think about
00:26:49.680 no seriously
00:26:50.640 no
00:26:51.720 for real
00:26:52.660 I really think of it
00:26:53.580 like
00:26:53.980 I can only
00:26:55.820 I want to marry
00:26:56.680 for love
00:26:57.660 but for business
00:26:58.520 can we grow
00:26:59.620 a million dollar corporation
00:27:01.220 can we
00:27:01.700 I don't start relationships
00:27:03.220 money isn't everything babe
00:27:04.240 it's not about money
00:27:05.020 I agree with you
00:27:06.440 but I just think
00:27:07.060 it's how you're attaching
00:27:08.120 it to money
00:27:09.980 maybe phrasing
00:27:10.320 yeah it's a phrase
00:27:11.440 but I
00:27:11.820 you understand what I'm saying
00:27:12.800 it's not about
00:27:14.040 for me
00:27:14.340 Troy what do you think of that
00:27:16.220 well I think
00:27:17.500 I mean I'm a bit of an old romantic in a way
00:27:19.520 I think you should be
00:27:20.360 I think it's a shame
00:27:21.760 no no seriously
00:27:22.660 I think it's a shame
00:27:23.560 that we can't marry for love
00:27:24.720 I think
00:27:25.080 I think the ideal for me
00:27:26.340 if I was going to get married
00:27:27.360 I would want it to be for love
00:27:28.660 and I would
00:27:29.460 but unfortunately
00:27:30.260 the culture doesn't seem to support that
00:27:31.880 yeah exactly
00:27:32.380 you know what I'm saying
00:27:33.100 like I don't want to be
00:27:33.880 I don't want to
00:27:34.480 be dealing with a woman 1.00
00:27:35.500 I don't want to be dealing with a woman 1.00
00:27:36.760 and thinking
00:27:37.220 hmm you know
00:27:37.940 can we
00:27:38.260 can we become this amazing power couple
00:27:39.960 are we going to do the Jay-Z Beyonce thing
00:27:41.520 like I don't want to be thinking that
00:27:42.760 because I see love as something pure
00:27:46.160 and something distinct from that
00:27:47.520 but that's one particular moment
00:27:48.980 my biggest fear
00:27:49.820 I don't know if
00:27:50.600 I don't know if most women 1.00
00:27:51.700 make good business partners
00:27:53.140 guys guys guys
00:27:56.300 honestly
00:27:56.700 I actually relate to the black people here
00:27:59.040 what
00:28:00.060 I can actually relate to the black people here
00:28:04.720 because many women have told me 1.00
00:28:06.780 the size of my cock 1.00
00:28:08.580 is like a black man 1.00
00:28:09.640 I mean 0.97
00:28:10.680 bro
00:28:11.200 pause
00:28:11.660 you have to say pause
00:28:12.340 you have to say pause
00:28:15.300 you have to say pause
00:28:16.640 I mean
00:28:17.160 I mean
00:28:17.580 I don't know
00:28:18.640 I don't know
00:28:19.360 I mean
00:28:20.580 how do you respond to that
00:28:21.460 I don't know
00:28:22.140 exactly
00:28:22.440 how do you respond to that
00:28:23.600 I mean
00:28:23.900 ladies 0.99
00:28:24.420 how do you respond to that
00:28:25.280 hold on
00:28:25.860 maybe just don't
00:28:28.860 no no no
00:28:29.640 you have to respond to that
00:28:31.180 you have to respond to that
00:28:32.140 alright first
00:28:32.820 first
00:28:33.140 I'm just going to say this
00:28:33.960 I'm
00:28:35.080 you know you can't
00:28:36.680 you can't respond to that
00:28:37.660 you can't respond to that 0.96
00:28:38.880 you can't refer to black people 0.95
00:28:39.920 as black people 0.96
00:28:40.420 yeah
00:28:40.660 I was just
00:28:40.960 you can't
00:28:41.700 you can't refer to it
00:28:43.140 I was going to say
00:28:44.180 hold on
00:28:44.480 let me just say this
00:28:45.080 let me just say
00:28:45.440 I love you
00:28:46.340 I swear 0.77
00:28:46.960 no homo 1.00
00:28:47.980 pause
00:28:48.320 you know what I mean
00:28:49.560 just the
00:28:49.940 but 0.97
00:28:50.480 you just can't refer to black people 0.94
00:28:51.800 as black people 0.95
00:28:52.340 that's the only thing that fit
00:28:53.940 but we understand what you're saying
00:28:54.900 we understand your attention
00:28:55.860 we rock with you
00:28:56.800 I don't know, man. What's the obsession with our black men's tings? I don't know, man. What is it, man?
00:29:00.780 Come on, you know the bars. 0.95
00:29:01.700 A lot of black men are not passing. 0.53
00:29:03.640 You man and Adam 22. What's up with you, man, man? You man and Adam 22, man? What's up with you, man? 0.88
00:29:07.820 You man love our tings, man. Well, I'll go out for that one.
00:29:09.580 Well, that's a whole other story, isn't it?
00:29:11.280 Wait, okay.
00:29:12.720 We need to get back onto the chat.
00:29:16.080 Marriage. Marriage. Kids.
00:29:17.660 Okay, so...
00:29:18.560 I think people should be able to... I think the problem is the culture is fucked. That's the problem. 1.00
00:29:22.760 People should be able to marry for love. It shouldn't be this big business thing.
00:29:25.400 It shouldn't be like, oh, my God, like, what's our 10-year plan going to be?
00:29:28.460 Why?
00:29:28.800 It should be because... I don't know, because that's what love is.
00:29:31.240 Love is something that comes in and it can eventually go in, like, a month or a year or two years.
00:29:36.860 Honestly, honestly, okay. I've interviewed hundreds of chicks. Hundreds, okay. 1.00
00:29:41.900 I've talked to lots of entrepreneurs.
00:29:48.500 Only fans.
00:29:49.280 And no, even outside of that, women that make money through Instagram. 1.00
00:29:55.400 And the women that I actually believe make money, like, I believe it, talking to them, maybe 5, 10 out of hundreds. 1.00
00:30:08.540 I think if you're looking...
00:30:09.460 Women tend to make terrible financial decisions, actually. 1.00
00:30:12.460 It's why we have so much debt.
00:30:14.340 I think, like, honestly, if you're looking for a business partner...
00:30:18.620 So are you saying that you're not a good business partner?
00:30:22.740 I would say, you know, I'm a bit of an exception because I was raised by a guy that's extremely successful.
00:30:31.700 I don't think most women come from that. 1.00
00:30:33.480 There are exceptions to every rule, but what women have had the upbringing with 10 siblings and a bunch of entrepreneurs in the family that were actually... 1.00
00:30:43.260 Like, the people that have achieved my dad's level of success is, like, 1%, half a percent.
00:30:50.180 So, okay, miracles happen.
00:30:52.080 The other problem, though, the other problem, though, the other problem, though, is that...
00:30:56.560 And my dad helps me a lot, too.
00:30:58.380 The other problem, though...
00:30:59.100 And no, he doesn't bankroll everything you ask.
00:31:02.980 Bank of mom and dad.
00:31:04.220 Bank of mom and dad.
00:31:05.140 The other problem is that having a woman in your life, having a close relationship with a woman, can sometimes get in the way of your career aspirations.
00:31:14.080 And you could say, okay, if you pick the wrong woman, whatever. 0.97
00:31:16.720 But I think that, in my experience, I think women like the results of the work. 1.00
00:31:21.420 You know, they like you to be successful.
00:31:22.840 They like the...
00:31:23.780 Maybe they like the money.
00:31:24.700 They like the fact that you've accomplished certain things.
00:31:26.600 They don't quite so much like you actually doing the work.
00:31:30.340 So if I say to the woman I'm with, right, this weekend I'm going to be working.
00:31:33.900 I'm going to be sat in my room.
00:31:34.840 I'm going to be writing a book.
00:31:35.740 I'm going to be there 12 hours a day.
00:31:37.280 You can go and do your own thing.
00:31:38.500 A lot of the time, they're not very happy with that.
00:31:40.520 You know, because they want the attention.
00:31:43.400 So that is an actual detriment to my career aspirations.
00:31:47.560 And even just hiring men and women, it's like women always want vacation. 1.00
00:31:51.500 Jesus Christ.
00:31:53.220 Women need vacation. 1.00
00:31:54.420 They need vacation.
00:31:55.180 Then he goes to it.
00:31:55.960 Then he goes to it.
00:31:56.600 No, look at it.
00:31:57.020 Look at it.
00:31:57.360 I mean, it's just...
00:31:58.840 And I'm not, like, you know, I'm not saying there aren't smart, talented women out there. 0.99
00:32:03.580 I'm not.
00:32:03.980 Like, there are.
00:32:04.640 There are exceptions.
00:32:06.340 But they don't.
00:32:06.780 Like, I'm like, if you want, as a rule, a guy's looking for a business partner.
00:32:10.460 I'm like, I'd say that's a terrible plan.
00:32:12.440 You think so?
00:32:13.400 I think that if you're with a woman that supports you in your business and is, like, there for you through the growing of the business and is there to support you, then I think it absolutely can work.
00:32:25.420 And that's what I think you're trying to say.
00:32:27.760 I'm going to be honest with you.
00:32:29.800 No, no, it can.
00:32:30.280 It can work.
00:32:31.480 It can work.
00:32:32.200 Let me just clarify this.
00:32:34.060 That's my advice.
00:32:34.720 Let me clarify this.
00:32:36.060 I grew up with a single mother.
00:32:39.500 But my mother was a ride or die. 1.00
00:32:41.240 She was literally that type of woman, you know? 0.97
00:32:43.400 And that's the type of woman I want. 1.00
00:32:45.020 A ride or die woman who goes wrong. 1.00
00:32:47.280 I'm going to be honest with you.
00:32:49.080 Wait, wait, wait.
00:32:49.820 King, what were you going to say?
00:32:51.060 I think it's...
00:32:52.500 They don't make it like that anymore.
00:32:52.880 I listened to what you've said.
00:32:54.860 But I just think you really don't understand the true nature of women. 0.99
00:32:57.440 Because the reality is, what you're saying you want, I think what you should be asking for is a submissive woman, not a business partner. 0.99
00:33:06.980 Yeah.
00:33:07.200 Because a business partner isn't necessarily a submissive woman. 1.00
00:33:10.380 She could be submissive and a business partner. 0.91
00:33:11.740 No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
00:33:13.580 Because you mentioned Beyonce and it's funny that you mentioned Beyonce because you have this perception that Beyonce is this business mogul.
00:33:19.660 But do you actually believe that Beyonce is the one that has pushed her career to where it is right now?
00:33:24.180 Or do you believe she has a team of men that have helped her push?
00:33:26.980 No, Beyonce... 0.98
00:33:27.480 Jay-Z being one of them.
00:33:28.060 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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