JustPearlyThings - August 27, 2023


Panel Speak on The Best Way To Overcome DEPRESSION


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10 minutes

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1,974

Sentence count

171

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Misogyny

24

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Hate speech

15

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Lucy Letby was a nurse who killed 7 babies for attention, but did you know that she was also a serial killer? Do you know the story behind the crimes she committed? We discuss this and much more on this episode of the podcast.

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00:00:00.000 Nath Step, RTV, the truth is that biologically women are only loyal to their feelings, 1.00
00:00:05.620 where men are loyal to responsibility, so that's why they can cheat or leave so easily.
00:00:10.760 Yeah, what do you guys think that Lucy Letby was killing, literally killing children for attention? 1.00
00:00:17.740 I think that's disgusting, like, it's something that, the bigger picture is, like,
00:00:22.420 it's something that should never have been swept underneath the rug.
00:00:24.820 Like, fair enough, doctors do kill people by accident sometimes by giving them wrong medication
00:00:30.240 or, you know, diagnosing them or something, but realistically, like,
00:00:34.640 why would you not want to take somebody else's health so much more seriously
00:00:39.960 and sweep that underneath the rug? 0.84
00:00:42.880 Seven's just too much.
00:00:44.260 That's what I was going to say, how did that go on for so long?
00:00:46.540 For so long?
00:00:47.300 I think because she was a woman.
00:00:49.340 No, I don't think it is.
00:00:50.780 And she looked all sweet and innocent.
00:00:51.920 I just think it's the eyes, like, she just looks so innocent.
00:00:55.300 No, I know, that's it.
00:00:56.160 She probably did more for the hospital as well. 0.96
00:00:58.660 Someone said she looked like my cousin. 1.00
00:01:00.540 I was like, goddammit, it's me?
00:01:02.020 I was like, goddammit, guys.
00:01:04.500 Can someone fill me in?
00:01:05.740 I don't know what's your name.
00:01:06.480 Oh, there was a woman who, her name was Lucy Letby, 0.98
00:01:10.200 and she got arrested for killing seven children, or babies.
00:01:14.460 Yeah, she was a nurse.
00:01:15.480 All at the same time?
00:01:16.300 No, it was over the course of a couple years,
00:01:19.360 but they found out she was dating a doctor, like a married doctor,
00:01:22.360 and they think she was killing the babies to get his attention.
00:01:25.600 How?
00:01:26.880 She injected them with, like, something.
00:01:29.300 Okay.
00:01:29.780 Yeah, it was, like, the wrong...
00:01:31.280 And it was for his attention?
00:01:32.440 Yeah.
00:01:32.940 What kind of attention?
00:01:33.280 Because he would, like, help her with them
00:01:35.980 when they would go down south or whatever.
00:01:38.480 Oh.
00:01:40.680 Yeah.
00:01:41.120 Yeah, yeah.
00:01:42.180 No, but I think social media has made us insane.
00:01:45.400 Yeah, especially because we pay more attention to it.
00:01:48.060 Yeah, well, I think it's, like, we're all just so addicted to it.
00:01:51.340 And it's, like, when the social media...
00:01:53.440 And I really think there's going to be women 1.00
00:01:54.960 with a lot of mental health issues in, like, 10 years.
00:01:57.960 Because I think when the attention, like, they're less attractive,
00:02:01.100 they get older, and it's, like, when the attention starts to go,
00:02:04.060 I just think a lot of women are going to go nuts. 1.00
00:02:06.020 I think that's how we see life, though.
00:02:07.280 We see other people's lives.
00:02:08.780 We see snippets of happiness,
00:02:09.920 and that's what we kind of chase.
00:02:11.940 And that's not how everyone's life is.
00:02:14.380 Yeah, we've got to learn to live in the moment more
00:02:16.440 and just spend days off for social media completely
00:02:18.840 and just appreciate what you have, like, your family, your home,
00:02:22.140 you know, the small things.
00:02:23.280 I think everyone needs therapy.
00:02:26.340 Yeah, that's true.
00:02:27.420 Oh, no, I think that makes you worse.
00:02:29.420 No, I feel like...
00:02:30.640 I feel like...
00:02:31.280 I disagree with you.
00:02:32.480 I feel like the best cause of action for all this
00:02:34.540 is just the throwaway you found.
00:02:37.220 Well, I actually...
00:02:38.860 You better write.
00:02:39.440 It'll get older than me.
00:02:40.660 This actually...
00:02:41.260 This wouldn't help me personally,
00:02:43.000 but sometimes I'm like...
00:02:43.860 If you had a brick knocker right now,
00:02:45.660 you'd be so much better.
00:02:46.520 No, hear me out.
00:02:47.260 Hear me out.
00:02:47.880 Ban women... 1.00
00:02:48.500 Exactly.
00:02:49.020 Ban women off of social media. 1.00
00:02:51.160 It makes us too crazy.
00:02:52.420 I think the men can kind of handle it.
00:02:54.000 Is this the next t-shirt?
00:02:54.940 What?
00:02:55.500 Is this the next t-shirt?
00:02:56.720 Well, you know,
00:02:57.560 I don't want to push this one too much.
00:02:59.000 I make money off of it.
00:03:00.640 But I was like, you know,
00:03:02.260 I think that might be a net good.
00:03:04.580 But I was like,
00:03:05.280 we would find a way back on.
00:03:06.480 You couldn't keep us off.
00:03:08.220 But okay, therapy,
00:03:09.440 you think it's a good thing?
00:03:11.940 Yes.
00:03:13.140 Yes, it's definitely changed my view on life.
00:03:15.560 Okay.
00:03:16.260 Why?
00:03:16.760 How?
00:03:16.900 I've had a really rough upbringing.
00:03:20.980 Abusive background.
00:03:22.360 Dad used to beat me.
00:03:24.060 My mom was an alcoholic. 0.99
00:03:26.460 And I had like six years of therapy.
00:03:28.580 And I always used to see my glasses like half empty
00:03:32.700 rather than half full.
00:03:34.740 So what did you see before?
00:03:36.720 Like what was the difference between you six years?
00:03:39.320 It's hard to explain it,
00:03:41.060 but I used to see everything as black and white.
00:03:43.720 The world was just black and white.
00:03:44.880 And now it's sort of got its color back.
00:03:47.660 So now I can see things in a positive light,
00:03:51.880 which is,
00:03:52.320 it was really difficult before.
00:03:54.540 And, you know,
00:03:55.920 like when you tell people that they just don't get it
00:03:58.060 until they experience it,
00:03:59.440 which is like depression and just sadness,
00:04:02.620 just general sadness.
00:04:03.960 But I think Ferbby helped me understand
00:04:06.900 why things happened
00:04:07.980 and how things happen.
00:04:11.140 So the why's and the who's.
00:04:12.540 So all the questions that I've got over the six years of therapy
00:04:16.160 really helped me understand who I am,
00:04:19.620 who my parents are,
00:04:22.800 why they did the things they did
00:04:24.620 and why I am,
00:04:26.820 why I am and why I make decisions.
00:04:28.880 So there was loads of questions answered,
00:04:31.320 which now helped me navigate moving forward in life.
00:04:35.300 Just day-to-day things.
00:04:38.180 Just I can now understand
00:04:39.980 why everything is happening
00:04:42.060 and I can change it actively
00:04:43.720 if I want to.
00:04:45.580 Therapy literally saved my life.
00:04:48.300 Yeah.
00:04:48.540 What happened?
00:04:49.380 Same.
00:04:49.880 I saved my life too.
00:04:51.440 What was your experience?
00:04:53.200 So I went through a bout of depression.
00:04:55.420 Can you bring the mic up?
00:04:56.780 I actually saw it earlier this year.
00:04:58.220 Bring the mic up.
00:04:58.840 And yeah,
00:05:02.120 I made an attempt on my life.
00:05:04.360 Oh, wow.
00:05:04.700 From there I went into therapy
00:05:05.760 and yeah,
00:05:08.720 changed the way I see things,
00:05:10.260 changed the way I am.
00:05:11.520 Yeah.
00:05:11.820 Yeah.
00:05:12.400 Yeah.
00:05:12.880 It's not a competition,
00:05:13.940 but I've made like six attempts on my life.
00:05:15.640 Yeah.
00:05:16.420 Oh, wow.
00:05:17.000 Yeah.
00:05:17.220 So if it's competition,
00:05:19.260 you win.
00:05:21.020 So thank you.
00:05:22.100 I'll tell you,
00:05:22.740 I'll tell you why I don't believe in therapy.
00:05:25.140 Yeah.
00:05:25.500 Now,
00:05:26.420 I think there's an individual.
00:05:27.660 Have you had it?
00:05:28.620 Yeah.
00:05:29.280 And I thought it was stupid.
00:05:30.200 How long did you do it for?
00:05:31.660 Like a couple sessions
00:05:33.260 and I was like,
00:05:33.760 it was stupid. 0.65
00:05:34.380 Exactly.
00:05:34.880 Because you didn't give it.
00:05:35.600 No, no.
00:05:36.080 That's why.
00:05:37.020 Let me explain why
00:05:39.060 and then you can rebuttal.
00:05:40.780 So if you look into the history of psychology,
00:05:43.500 it was started by some of these big families
00:05:45.940 and I really think it's just usually a way
00:05:49.380 to make men more feminine 0.54
00:05:50.500 and teach them how to communicate like women in general. 0.99
00:05:54.020 And I think you can see this
00:05:55.080 because 90% of therapists are women. 0.98
00:05:57.880 And I actually went to school for psychology
00:06:00.400 and those bitches are crazy. 1.00
00:06:02.160 I'm like,
00:06:02.440 if these are the women
00:06:03.240 that are telling everyone how to think,
00:06:05.400 oh my God.
00:06:06.640 Now,
00:06:06.880 I do think there's individual therapists that are good.
00:06:09.680 Usually men, 0.95
00:06:10.520 I don't think it's like,
00:06:11.340 I just think women don't look to solve problems. 1.00
00:06:13.720 They look to like hear you and listen to you,
00:06:17.100 but not necessarily solve problems.
00:06:19.660 So the therapists that I do think are good
00:06:21.300 are typically men,
00:06:22.540 not typically women,
00:06:23.880 which is only 10% of therapists.
00:06:26.260 So,
00:06:26.760 and usually what I find is that
00:06:29.920 especially chicks will go to therapists for years 1.00
00:06:33.160 and then learn all these,
00:06:34.360 like think everybody's a narcissist,
00:06:36.280 think everyone's toxic in their life.
00:06:38.200 And I really think therapy has replaced
00:06:40.420 what used to be a strong family structure
00:06:42.480 because you used to be able to go
00:06:44.320 to like someone in your household
00:06:45.960 in order to like fix problems.
00:06:47.960 But the issue is
00:06:48.940 we have such a fucked up
00:06:50.020 like family structure right now
00:06:51.400 that people don't have families to go to
00:06:53.260 and they go to a stranger instead.
00:06:55.640 And I think it would be better
00:06:57.480 if we could go to families
00:06:59.120 instead of go outside of it.
00:07:00.860 Okay.
00:07:01.540 But you do know like
00:07:02.800 there's different types of therapies,
00:07:04.440 like there's speak therapy,
00:07:06.260 there's music therapy,
00:07:07.200 like there's different forms of that
00:07:09.040 which could help.
00:07:10.060 I think there's individual instance.
00:07:12.840 I think male therapists are decent.
00:07:15.100 Like I think mostly...
00:07:16.520 I think some of my best therapists have been male.
00:07:18.000 Yeah,
00:07:18.360 I just find that women are most of, 1.00
00:07:20.800 like most therapists,
00:07:21.920 it's like 90% are women. 1.00
00:07:23.720 And I just don't think women look to solve problems. 1.00
00:07:26.420 They just look to like listen,
00:07:28.360 which is fine,
00:07:29.580 but I just think that it doesn't...
00:07:31.520 But like you said,
00:07:32.360 like if you don't have that family...
00:07:34.380 Correct.
00:07:35.020 ...unit,
00:07:35.400 who do you turn to?
00:07:37.600 Do you know what I mean?
00:07:38.060 But now I'm more open to speak to friends.
00:07:40.960 I'm more open to speak to...
00:07:42.100 I can speak to strangers
00:07:43.300 about what I've been through.
00:07:44.880 Yeah.
00:07:45.120 Do you find that because you've spoke to a therapist?
00:07:48.260 Yeah,
00:07:48.780 it helped me open up to people and things.
00:07:51.740 But you see,
00:07:52.340 that's like a more feminine trait. 1.00
00:07:54.180 And that's why I say,
00:07:55.180 I think therapy like typically makes men into women
00:07:57.720 more feminine because... 1.00
00:07:59.360 It was either that or be dead.
00:08:01.260 You know,
00:08:01.840 I'm not saying it doesn't help in some instances.
00:08:04.220 So, you know,
00:08:05.340 I'm not trying to like knock your story or anything.
00:08:06.980 No, no, no, no, no.
00:08:07.600 I'm fine.
00:08:08.200 But I've just found that like,
00:08:10.460 I think that therapy tells men to emote like women 0.99
00:08:13.560 because typically like women are the ones 1.00
00:08:16.440 that need to talk about their problems to feel better.
00:08:18.800 Yeah.
00:08:19.120 Where men don't, 0.99
00:08:20.560 you know,
00:08:20.760 they'll like fight it out or like,
00:08:22.560 you know,
00:08:22.860 just in general,
00:08:23.840 right?
00:08:23.940 You think that that's good?
00:08:25.380 I think that making someone into something
00:08:28.540 they're not is bad.
00:08:29.680 And I think making men into women is bad. 0.96
00:08:31.840 And we've always been told
00:08:32.720 that the feminine way to do things is good. 1.00
00:08:35.220 Okay.
00:08:36.180 So I'd like to add,
00:08:37.580 typically I would say instead of therapy,
00:08:40.660 what people should seek out is mentorship.
00:08:42.900 So you want someone that would teach you
00:08:45.220 how to attack problems in life
00:08:47.360 and how to build on positive steps each day.
00:08:51.520 So the reason why a lot of people fall into depression
00:08:53.460 is usually for a few reasons.
00:08:55.580 One,
00:08:56.360 things are not going right in their life
00:08:57.800 or they don't have direction.
00:08:59.420 That is usually the reason
00:09:00.720 why people fall into depression.
00:09:02.160 So if you have someone
00:09:02.940 that can show you steps,
00:09:04.020 okay,
00:09:04.280 you know what,
00:09:04.760 today go to the gym.
00:09:05.940 Even when you don't feel like going to the gym,
00:09:07.620 still do it.
00:09:08.280 They push you,
00:09:08.860 you go.
00:09:10.120 Over time,
00:09:10.880 you tend to build up small wins
00:09:12.860 and then with each small win,
00:09:14.880 you build up character.
00:09:16.700 Yeah.
00:09:16.800 So this is the thing,
00:09:17.440 a lot of men these days
00:09:18.520 fall into the trap of going to therapy
00:09:20.620 when you should actually be
00:09:21.920 trying to be yourself
00:09:23.920 and trying to.
00:09:24.480 Because as men,
00:09:26.120 we get our source of strength
00:09:28.420 and our source of motivation
00:09:29.400 from actually building things,
00:09:32.780 making little successes here and there.
00:09:36.080 So you can't just sit in a room
00:09:37.440 and be talking about your feelings
00:09:38.600 and expect that.
00:09:39.900 I mean,
00:09:40.140 it could help,
00:09:40.700 it could work for some people.
00:09:41.740 Yeah.
00:09:42.100 A lot of people,
00:09:42.960 it doesn't actually work.
00:09:43.780 Yeah.
00:09:44.060 I think it's better for people,
00:09:45.860 not just even men,
00:09:46.860 both men and women,
00:09:47.980 to focus on doing things day by day
00:09:50.780 and getting small wins
00:09:51.820 and that way you can come out of anything.
00:09:53.360 As many of you know,
00:09:54.880 I was just banned on TikTok
00:09:56.940 and we are demonetized
00:09:58.660 on a daily basis
00:09:59.900 on this platform.
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