JustPearlyThings - Peal Exposes this DELUSIONAL Bimbo

00:00:00.000 like that though but i also said that the situations that i cases that i know cases where

00:00:04.660 the parents that they didn't know they grew up to know what had happened in the household

00:00:10.160 my thing is still that i still maintain the fact that there are things that you need to work on

00:00:18.580 by yourself that you cannot do in a relationship and i think that each person each family is a

00:00:23.560 case-by-case situation every not every child it's not a universal law or universal rules or rule book

00:00:29.720 yeah of how to raise children and so if in any situation you feel like you know what the best

00:00:34.280 thing for this child knowing how my child is how emotional my child is or whatever it is the best

00:00:38.440 thing for my child is that we go us we go ourselves and we can be healthy parents and it's a healthy

00:00:44.800 father for the child don't you think it's more mature to say um i'm gonna figure out how to get

00:00:50.880 along with a man before and before just breaking up i don't think that's a question was your child's

00:00:57.280 life ever in danger no okay so i think as far as i'm the way i'm seeing this okay let me you

00:01:04.460 sounded i'm not saying it's just you i'm saying that both of you should have worked on it okay

00:01:09.360 because it's all right saying about like what you're saying about i i won't say that my son's

00:01:13.900 my son's dad was abusive i never ever said anything bad about my son's dad i met and you see lots of

00:01:20.040 oh you're just like your father i remember being in the supermarket with my son and he was messing

00:01:25.040 about and i said to him do you know what you're just like your mother you're just like your mother

00:01:29.840 i don't know why i brought you out and this woman stopped and said oh um if his mother was here you 0.99

00:01:34.880 know you shouldn't be talking to him like that and he looked at me and i looked and i started laughing

00:01:38.800 because i have never ever said to him you're just like your father and sometimes people sit there

00:01:44.980 and they don't realize that there's sign language there's body language there's feelings

00:01:50.220 children will pick up these things some people need to be apart but by what you're saying

00:01:55.180 and how religious you are and the fact that you are married and the fact that you both know that

00:02:01.180 you need to grow and the fact that you know the child's life wasn't in danger the way i'm seeing is

00:02:06.180 that what have separate rooms have separate rooms in the same house and work out your differences

00:02:11.840 because at least the child if you're adult enough to come this far and when you're talking about the

00:02:17.220 trauma from the previous relationship that's why ask her has she had treatment for her trauma

00:02:21.280 rather than pass it on so you're going to get back together with your husband you're not going to have

00:02:25.660 this trauma from previous relationship and you're quite vocal and one thing that you said that i

00:02:31.800 haven't seen you say going to do is like come off social media don't be influenced by it no it sounds

00:02:36.400 like social media had a big part of it and the way you thought marriages should be so now you know

00:02:41.460 marriages are not like that then no so okay let me just clarify i think there's a lot of

00:02:47.020 speculations or something so yeah so when i initially uh okay so before i got pregnant let's

00:02:56.680 say oh no actually yeah before i got pregnant is when we first had conversations about him feeling

00:03:03.640 like he settled down a bit too young right now that gave me red flags in the sense that i felt like

00:03:09.620 that to me meant he wants to be out on the streets does that make sense so when i say i didn't i didn't i

00:03:15.500 took that trauma in that was the first initial uh year of meeting him let's say and all of that

00:03:21.680 it that sort of came in it's only when i got pregnant and then um i said to him like even then

00:03:28.460 i found it quite hard to swallow assuming that he might want other women because at that point even

00:03:33.920 though i came from polygynous household i couldn't accept my man being with other women 0.93

00:03:39.000 and that's when i say social media impacted me where it said it to me especially then times it 0.99

00:03:45.560 was like oh men can't cheat if men cheat they're trash leave them all of that blah blah blah right

00:03:49.820 so obviously when i after my daughter was born a couple of years later it we revisited it but it 0.97

00:03:57.600 wasn't in the sense that oh i'm going to be with other women it was more him expressing that what if he

00:04:04.380 can't stay faithful to one person for the rest of his life now to me again i was still young i was

00:04:10.960 only like 24 25 at that time for me again it was like what do you mean that means you're going to

00:04:15.920 cheat right so it's almost like okay fine if you're going to cheat then i don't want to be with you

00:04:21.180 so we separated because for me i couldn't swallow the fact that he might in the future want to be so

00:04:27.500 so you left i thought you said he left so well the relationship got to a point where we were arguing

00:04:33.980 or i was being toxic or unhappy so he was like i can't do this right so obviously we separated

00:04:40.080 after we separated cool we've done our we've gone our separate way again when i say finding myself

00:04:45.040 i'm not talking about exploring other people or bodies i'm talking about revisiting what who i am

00:04:50.700 and my cause well and i understand that but like when you you were talking about earlier because a lot

00:04:55.420 of the things we're saying we're just saying what you said back to you so like earlier you said you did

00:05:00.320 the dating apps you you were going on dates you went to carnival and like that that sounds like

00:05:05.640 and i think that's where again a lot of my like the society will impact you because again people in my

00:05:12.180 air oh you're young you're this girl why not date i had to then ask myself i've got a child i could

00:05:17.400 date another guy is he going to treat my child the same as her dad is he going to love me is he not

00:05:21.520 going to cheat on me and then i have to say actually i can't guarantee that so that's why i

00:05:25.700 haven't dated or moved on i think it's going to take a long time for you to fetch your child

00:05:29.360 go ahead go ahead go ahead so like so how old's your child five six nearly six so you're you're

00:05:37.560 not going to be with the dad you think okay i'm going to start dating another guy you would at least

00:05:41.540 wait you know a good year before you know they're really in the child's life i have two children um

00:05:48.280 and obviously i'm not not with the dad and whatever um and i've had like i maybe i've dated one

00:05:55.280 guy since didn't meet my kids didn't speak to my kids like he knew their names that was it

00:06:00.740 because i'm not going to fetch a guy into their life just to be temporary so i think when when you

00:06:06.420 speak like that you you do need to know that they're going to be there but even that so for me

00:06:10.940 i again i date with intention but even that dating with intention is still very different in my culture

00:06:16.860 because in my culture we get married very quick to meeting people like i'm not in that culture but i

00:06:22.780 i do i date to marry that's what i personally would like to do um you know i wouldn't have

00:06:29.440 chosen to have kids this young if i'd planned it and obviously i don't regret them but i would still

00:06:34.140 try to be as traditional as i could um but i think it is it's harder in this generation and you've just

00:06:41.240 got to be a lot more careful and i think that's yeah i had my son at 17 that made me grow up yeah so i had 0.88

00:06:49.300 it wasn't it wasn't that i was gonna say oh i was too young you know shit happens you do with it 0.73

00:06:56.660 just get on with it and not once did i think to myself yeah i'm a single parent i'm gonna start

00:07:01.560 dating didn't think about that at all it was just concentrate on my child i didn't even think

00:07:07.020 consider dating at all but that's what i'm saying that's what i did yeah that's what i'm doing yeah

00:07:11.800 like i'm not considering dating that i said i'm not even mingling with people i'm not

00:07:15.300 intending if if i met someone and i thought organically and i thought oh my god they blow

00:07:20.260 my mind that's one thing you're not looking for it well it's just okay when you say that and then

00:07:24.820 earlier you said you're on dating apps it kind of it's like it was just the initial breakup obviously

00:07:29.880 when you're in your feelings and you're broken up and my friends are like oh you're single because i

00:07:33.260 haven't ever been single yeah it was the first time i'm single and women our age were all dating at

00:07:38.220 that time 25 26 they were all trying to date uh-huh not even with kids there's a lot of single

00:07:43.460 moms trying to date in in our with modern women but again that's again what i had to revisit i had 0.99

00:07:49.060 to say to myself am i going to find a man who's not going to treat me yeah but but you see like how

00:07:54.080 it sounds when you say like your story like keeps contradicting itself like it like i haven't even

00:08:00.560 really asked you like like you've been going on like talking about it and like volunteering this

00:08:04.920 information and then like you keep contradicting yourself i was just banned on tiktok and we are

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JustPearlyThings - April 06, 2023

Peal Exposes this DELUSIONAL Bimbo

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