Peal Exposes this DELUSIONAL Bimbo
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Summary
In this episode, I speak to a mother who shares her experience of leaving her husband when she found out he was cheating on her and how she handled the situation. We discuss the impact of social media and how it impacted her decision to leave her husband and the impact it had on her relationship with her children.
Transcript
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like that though but i also said that the situations that i cases that i know cases where
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the parents that they didn't know they grew up to know what had happened in the household
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my thing is still that i still maintain the fact that there are things that you need to work on
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by yourself that you cannot do in a relationship and i think that each person each family is a
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case-by-case situation every not every child it's not a universal law or universal rules or rule book
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yeah of how to raise children and so if in any situation you feel like you know what the best
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thing for this child knowing how my child is how emotional my child is or whatever it is the best
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thing for my child is that we go us we go ourselves and we can be healthy parents and it's a healthy
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father for the child don't you think it's more mature to say um i'm gonna figure out how to get
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along with a man before and before just breaking up i don't think that's a question was your child's
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life ever in danger no okay so i think as far as i'm the way i'm seeing this okay let me you
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sounded i'm not saying it's just you i'm saying that both of you should have worked on it okay
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because it's all right saying about like what you're saying about i i won't say that my son's
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my son's dad was abusive i never ever said anything bad about my son's dad i met and you see lots of
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oh you're just like your father i remember being in the supermarket with my son and he was messing
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about and i said to him do you know what you're just like your mother you're just like your mother
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i don't know why i brought you out and this woman stopped and said oh um if his mother was here you
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know you shouldn't be talking to him like that and he looked at me and i looked and i started laughing
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because i have never ever said to him you're just like your father and sometimes people sit there
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and they don't realize that there's sign language there's body language there's feelings
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children will pick up these things some people need to be apart but by what you're saying
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and how religious you are and the fact that you are married and the fact that you both know that
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you need to grow and the fact that you know the child's life wasn't in danger the way i'm seeing is
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that what have separate rooms have separate rooms in the same house and work out your differences
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because at least the child if you're adult enough to come this far and when you're talking about the
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trauma from the previous relationship that's why ask her has she had treatment for her trauma
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rather than pass it on so you're going to get back together with your husband you're not going to have
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this trauma from previous relationship and you're quite vocal and one thing that you said that i
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haven't seen you say going to do is like come off social media don't be influenced by it no it sounds
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like social media had a big part of it and the way you thought marriages should be so now you know
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marriages are not like that then no so okay let me just clarify i think there's a lot of
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speculations or something so yeah so when i initially uh okay so before i got pregnant let's
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say oh no actually yeah before i got pregnant is when we first had conversations about him feeling
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like he settled down a bit too young right now that gave me red flags in the sense that i felt like
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that to me meant he wants to be out on the streets does that make sense so when i say i didn't i didn't i
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took that trauma in that was the first initial uh year of meeting him let's say and all of that
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it that sort of came in it's only when i got pregnant and then um i said to him like even then
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i found it quite hard to swallow assuming that he might want other women because at that point even
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though i came from polygynous household i couldn't accept my man being with other women
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and that's when i say social media impacted me where it said it to me especially then times it
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was like oh men can't cheat if men cheat they're trash leave them all of that blah blah blah right
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so obviously when i after my daughter was born a couple of years later it we revisited it but it
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wasn't in the sense that oh i'm going to be with other women it was more him expressing that what if he
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can't stay faithful to one person for the rest of his life now to me again i was still young i was
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only like 24 25 at that time for me again it was like what do you mean that means you're going to
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cheat right so it's almost like okay fine if you're going to cheat then i don't want to be with you
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so we separated because for me i couldn't swallow the fact that he might in the future want to be so
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so you left i thought you said he left so well the relationship got to a point where we were arguing
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or i was being toxic or unhappy so he was like i can't do this right so obviously we separated
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after we separated cool we've done our we've gone our separate way again when i say finding myself
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i'm not talking about exploring other people or bodies i'm talking about revisiting what who i am
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and my cause well and i understand that but like when you you were talking about earlier because a lot
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of the things we're saying we're just saying what you said back to you so like earlier you said you did
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the dating apps you you were going on dates you went to carnival and like that that sounds like
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and i think that's where again a lot of my like the society will impact you because again people in my
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air oh you're young you're this girl why not date i had to then ask myself i've got a child i could
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date another guy is he going to treat my child the same as her dad is he going to love me is he not
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going to cheat on me and then i have to say actually i can't guarantee that so that's why i
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haven't dated or moved on i think it's going to take a long time for you to fetch your child
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go ahead go ahead go ahead so like so how old's your child five six nearly six so you're you're
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not going to be with the dad you think okay i'm going to start dating another guy you would at least
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wait you know a good year before you know they're really in the child's life i have two children um
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and obviously i'm not not with the dad and whatever um and i've had like i maybe i've dated one
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guy since didn't meet my kids didn't speak to my kids like he knew their names that was it
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because i'm not going to fetch a guy into their life just to be temporary so i think when when you
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speak like that you you do need to know that they're going to be there but even that so for me
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i again i date with intention but even that dating with intention is still very different in my culture
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because in my culture we get married very quick to meeting people like i'm not in that culture but i
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i do i date to marry that's what i personally would like to do um you know i wouldn't have
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chosen to have kids this young if i'd planned it and obviously i don't regret them but i would still
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try to be as traditional as i could um but i think it is it's harder in this generation and you've just
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got to be a lot more careful and i think that's yeah i had my son at 17 that made me grow up yeah so i had
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it wasn't it wasn't that i was gonna say oh i was too young you know shit happens you do with it
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just get on with it and not once did i think to myself yeah i'm a single parent i'm gonna start
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dating didn't think about that at all it was just concentrate on my child i didn't even think
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consider dating at all but that's what i'm saying that's what i did yeah that's what i'm doing yeah
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like i'm not considering dating that i said i'm not even mingling with people i'm not
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intending if if i met someone and i thought organically and i thought oh my god they blow
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my mind that's one thing you're not looking for it well it's just okay when you say that and then
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earlier you said you're on dating apps it kind of it's like it was just the initial breakup obviously
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when you're in your feelings and you're broken up and my friends are like oh you're single because i
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haven't ever been single yeah it was the first time i'm single and women our age were all dating at
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that time 25 26 they were all trying to date uh-huh not even with kids there's a lot of single
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moms trying to date in in our with modern women but again that's again what i had to revisit i had
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to say to myself am i going to find a man who's not going to treat me yeah but but you see like how
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it sounds when you say like your story like keeps contradicting itself like it like i haven't even
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really asked you like like you've been going on like talking about it and like volunteering this
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information and then like you keep contradicting yourself i was just banned on tiktok and we are
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