JustPearlyThings - June 10, 2023


Pearl And Millionaire DEBATE Boss Babe


Episode Stats

Length

10 minutes

Words per Minute

217.2786

Word Count

2,235

Sentence Count

256

Misogynist Sentences

11

Hate Speech Sentences

4


Summary

In this episode, the guys talk about what it means to be a successful man and why it s important for a woman to be the breadwinner in a marriage. Do you think successful men want their wives to work or do you think they should share chores equally?


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Surprisingly, studies showed that the divorce rate among couples who share chores equally was 50% higher than among those where the wife does the majority of the work.
00:00:09.920 It's a financial thing.
00:00:10.920 Yeah, I know, but I'm not saying because the man doesn't do it.
00:00:15.860 Because obviously the woman for nature, even in other religions, the woman is the one that she looks after the kids, after the house and everything.
00:00:23.320 But at the same time, if a man can make that type of amount of money that he can come home and chill, then why her wife should go to work and be like, oh, I have to take care of everything.
00:00:35.640 If her wife can decide to be at home and be like, oh, I don't want to have a really big career.
00:00:40.120 Do you think that successful men want their wives to work?
00:00:42.720 Does your wife?
00:00:44.240 No, I told her when I married her.
00:00:46.220 I said, my mom worked.
00:00:47.840 My mom out on my dad.
00:00:48.800 So my parents got divorced.
00:00:50.140 And I saw it as a kid.
00:00:51.520 I wasn't a dumb kid.
00:00:52.280 I'm like, I know why it's happening because my mom started out earning my dad.
00:00:55.420 I told my wife, I'm like, look, when we get married, I want my wife to be a stay-at-home mom.
00:00:59.840 I was very open about it.
00:01:00.720 Why?
00:01:01.320 Because I want my kids to have an experience I didn't have.
00:01:03.640 And I want to work my ass off to provide my kids that experience.
00:01:06.960 Okay, can I just put that in there?
00:01:08.420 The last guy I was hit with, even though he wanted me to have this and have that, he wanted me to do all of that.
00:01:14.360 He did not want me to stay at home and raise kids.
00:01:17.660 He wanted me to go to work.
00:01:19.180 And I thought, well, listen, if you're the breadwinner and you're the alpha, why would you want to put so much pressure on me?
00:01:25.680 He ain't no alpha, Gail.
00:01:26.860 He ain't no alpha.
00:01:27.660 I wanted to have to engage you.
00:01:29.280 Wait, wait, go ahead.
00:01:30.520 One thing, guys.
00:01:32.000 So this is a topic that's come up here.
00:01:33.860 And so you're like, look, let's imagine we group men into two groups.
00:01:37.960 Some men are slimy and they just have bad character and they mistreat you.
00:01:45.100 And maybe some of us were unfortunate enough to grow up with a father like that.
00:01:49.500 I just want to give a shout out to my dad, by the way, who never made a lot of money in his life.
00:01:53.120 He's still a mechanic to this day.
00:01:54.740 He's in his 60s.
00:01:55.540 He's never going to retire.
00:01:56.880 But man, did he give me a good example of a man who suffers indignity.
00:01:59.940 My God, he suffers indignity.
00:02:01.680 And I know he fucking hates it.
00:02:03.240 Pardon my French.
00:02:04.320 But he suffered indignity for me because, you know, he had a son, me.
00:02:08.920 So we can group the men into these two categories, the slime balls.
00:02:11.900 And then we have guys that like genuinely want an optimal outcome for their family.
00:02:15.500 Pearl, I think your dad sounds like he might be that kind of guy.
00:02:17.740 Are there any other, by the way, folks here with a guy with a dad like that?
00:02:21.240 Oh, my goodness.
00:02:22.040 So about 50 percent.
00:02:23.140 You can see 50 percent.
00:02:24.240 Okay.
00:02:24.960 So and this is a painful question to ask.
00:02:27.720 But I would ask this question because if I'm coaching a young man or woman in our company,
00:02:31.140 and they're continuously getting a negative outcome, I would ask, well, if 50 percent of the guys are the good guys,
00:02:37.580 why aren't they picking you?
00:02:39.400 Like, why are you being picked by these guys that are problematic guys?
00:02:42.440 Because that's the experience you're describing.
00:02:44.160 What about the good guys exist and they're picking somebody.
00:02:46.800 We exist.
00:02:47.660 Maybe why are they picking you?
00:02:49.040 Maybe them slime balls know who to pre on.
00:02:51.800 And they just see it.
00:02:52.900 So why are you such a juicy target for that?
00:02:55.480 And why?
00:02:55.940 Why?
00:02:56.640 Why are you going for it?
00:02:58.580 Well, guys, because of my personality.
00:03:02.460 This is my issue.
00:03:04.680 It's like, okay, once I'll give you one.
00:03:07.200 All right.
00:03:07.360 But it's like girls will pick two, three, four.
00:03:09.540 Like at some point it's a pattern.
00:03:10.920 At some point it's you.
00:03:11.840 Because men can be very deceiving in the beginning.
00:03:14.280 They can be lovely.
00:03:15.640 They can be kind.
00:03:16.940 No, no, no.
00:03:17.840 That's the men you pick.
00:03:20.140 That's half the men.
00:03:20.800 That's that.
00:03:21.220 Until you get to know them.
00:03:22.880 Give it three months, six months down the line.
00:03:24.820 Then we start giving them conversations.
00:03:26.520 Shall we have the kids?
00:03:27.660 Shall we move in?
00:03:28.600 Do you want to do that?
00:03:29.880 Yeah, of course.
00:03:30.700 So we're speaking about life.
00:03:32.020 We're not trying to waste time.
00:03:33.240 Are you a good judge of character?
00:03:34.260 Over in or out.
00:03:35.420 Are you a good judge of character?
00:03:37.120 I think so.
00:03:38.660 Well, that doesn't sound like it.
00:03:40.080 No, it is.
00:03:41.060 Because at the end of the day, if you come across a good man,
00:03:44.200 he's hardworking, he's very dedicated to his own game,
00:03:47.720 he's alpha male, and da-da-da-da-da, you know?
00:03:50.580 You're going to give him that time of day
00:03:52.320 because you think, oh, I like this energy.
00:03:54.340 I like this man.
00:03:55.280 So where's that man in your life?
00:03:56.220 He's giving me, me, I have so many to pick from
00:03:59.220 and I haven't chose yet.
00:04:00.900 Yeah.
00:04:01.180 Okay.
00:04:01.440 I have many that I can actually say,
00:04:03.960 I can settle down with you, Cap.
00:04:07.580 No, no, no, babe, real.
00:04:09.240 I can show you my taxes.
00:04:10.620 I'm not talking about texts.
00:04:12.100 I'm just saying any girl.
00:04:13.020 I will never, I will never, I will never Cap.
00:04:14.360 It's not just you, it's just, listen, listen, listen, listen.
00:04:16.140 I have options.
00:04:16.600 I'll be here.
00:04:17.560 And I can say.
00:04:18.200 It's any girl, if you're single,
00:04:20.300 the guys, if you're single,
00:04:22.240 it's like, then you're not,
00:04:23.180 the guys you want don't want you.
00:04:24.540 I'm on the journey.
00:04:25.260 I want to be a multi-millionaire, so no.
00:04:28.000 If you're single, it's, oh, come on.
00:04:30.000 If a guy, if a guy really you thought
00:04:31.600 was taking you serious and checked all your boxes,
00:04:33.720 you'd go for it.
00:04:34.420 Any woman would.
00:04:35.260 Yeah, but I'm a picky person.
00:04:36.660 But that's my point.
00:04:38.820 I'm a picky person.
00:04:39.460 That goes back to my point, though,
00:04:41.400 because the men that are going for you
00:04:43.140 don't live up to your standards.
00:04:44.400 So either your standards are too high
00:04:45.900 or the men aren't going for you.
00:04:47.240 There's one particular person,
00:04:48.860 and I'm like, wow, you really did do that.
00:04:51.840 Like, he really, and I'm really shocked,
00:04:53.600 and I'm really proud of the man he's become.
00:04:55.780 And I've known him for many years.
00:04:57.500 And, you know, we could have been in a relationship,
00:04:59.760 say, 15 years ago.
00:05:01.200 But I was like, no, I've come to London,
00:05:03.400 and I'm on a journey,
00:05:04.800 and I don't want to be distracted by these guys.
00:05:07.000 Because guess what?
00:05:07.860 They're going to give a baby to you.
00:05:10.240 So you misjudge a character.
00:05:12.380 No, not necessarily.
00:05:14.020 Of course you do.
00:05:14.560 I'm on a journey.
00:05:15.940 How can I be judging characters when I'm on a journey?
00:05:18.420 I have a question.
00:05:19.160 You said you have kids.
00:05:20.800 No, I don't.
00:05:21.240 You have kids, and you said you're 39.
00:05:22.740 Yes.
00:05:23.160 Do you want kids?
00:05:24.460 With the right person.
00:05:25.900 If I don't, I have many nieces and nephews.
00:05:28.700 Okay.
00:05:29.240 I've got a big family.
00:05:30.520 But it goes back to,
00:05:32.180 you haven't found the right person to have kids with.
00:05:34.620 So, again, again, again, right.
00:05:37.920 So there's a misconnect there.
00:05:40.740 There has been right people.
00:05:42.440 Wait, wait.
00:05:43.200 So it's either your standards are too high.
00:05:46.280 Very high.
00:05:46.880 You don't know how to pick.
00:05:48.660 And maybe you don't have a good judge of character.
00:05:51.020 Or the men that you want don't want you.
00:05:52.580 It's one of the three.
00:05:53.560 Like, there has to be.
00:05:54.500 If you're single, there's a disconnect.
00:05:55.460 Maybe the guys who I wanted,
00:05:56.840 they probably don't want me no more
00:05:58.760 because we're in a different category.
00:06:01.840 He's far away.
00:06:03.340 I would have to move to his location
00:06:05.860 and da-da-da-da-da.
00:06:07.200 And then the ones in England,
00:06:09.600 I don't know.
00:06:10.240 They're just fine.
00:06:10.820 But do you know,
00:06:11.460 I work it for me.
00:06:12.540 They're not that homely.
00:06:13.340 You've been dating since, what?
00:06:15.640 You're 18, 16.
00:06:17.200 So in 20 years,
00:06:18.240 you're the only common denominator.
00:06:19.900 It can't be all the men.
00:06:20.980 It's you.
00:06:22.840 It's not me, though.
00:06:24.300 Because if I have some guys that are ready
00:06:28.340 and waiting for me to say yes,
00:06:31.400 do you know what I mean?
00:06:33.080 That's just my choice.
00:06:34.020 But do you know,
00:06:34.360 it's...
00:06:35.180 Okay, it might be your life choices.
00:06:36.900 It is.
00:06:37.260 It might be,
00:06:37.840 but it goes back to,
00:06:39.060 you're the common denominator.
00:06:40.300 Just like my outcomes,
00:06:41.920 it's my fault.
00:06:43.420 Everyone's own outcomes
00:06:44.420 are their own fault.
00:06:45.400 It's choices, though.
00:06:46.780 Hey, can I give...
00:06:47.600 It's choices.
00:06:47.920 I really think it's the energy
00:06:49.520 that she's putting that
00:06:50.540 because you're in your place
00:06:53.340 where you want to go high up in life.
00:06:54.940 You're also not giving those energy
00:06:56.620 to those men.
00:06:57.260 That's why things ain't happening as well.
00:06:58.780 That's what I'm listening.
00:06:59.440 I can't waste time.
00:07:00.720 Guys, I'm going to do
00:07:02.160 a little business thing here.
00:07:03.320 You said you want to be a multi-millionaire,
00:07:04.660 be super successful, right?
00:07:05.700 Yeah.
00:07:06.020 I'm going to give you...
00:07:06.760 I'm about to make you
00:07:07.620 a multi-frickin' millionaire.
00:07:08.800 You ready for this?
00:07:09.460 Go on.
00:07:09.720 Start a cat food company
00:07:10.840 and call your friends.
00:07:11.980 You will make millions.
00:07:13.460 No, I don't have friends like that.
00:07:15.300 No, I'm sorry.
00:07:15.940 You might make commence
00:07:18.060 but that's not my full time.
00:07:19.720 So you're 39.
00:07:20.080 When are you going to be a millionaire by?
00:07:22.280 Well, there's no time plan
00:07:23.960 but we're working on the journey.
00:07:25.220 Okay, so...
00:07:25.780 We're doing everything possible
00:07:27.340 to make it happen.
00:07:28.040 Do you have over half a million saved?
00:07:29.940 No, I've got some money saved, though.
00:07:31.920 Okay, so...
00:07:32.640 But it's like when?
00:07:33.980 You've had 20 years to do it.
00:07:35.560 I mean, it's not about when.
00:07:37.800 You know what?
00:07:38.380 It is about when
00:07:39.240 and it's also about who we...
00:07:41.540 Because if I have such a high mentality,
00:07:44.120 I need somebody to match that mentality to me.
00:07:47.120 What do you mean?
00:07:47.220 Okay, so...
00:07:47.900 And they can't bring me down.
00:07:49.260 So at the rate I'm at, I'm 26.
00:07:51.940 Okay, I'm 26.
00:07:52.820 I probably will be a millionaire
00:07:54.280 in the next five years.
00:07:55.960 Go girl.
00:07:56.560 No, no, no.
00:07:56.980 It's not even like that.
00:07:57.940 But I'm saying like...
00:07:58.740 No, no.
00:07:58.760 On your journey.
00:07:59.680 But I could tell you
00:08:01.020 I didn't need anyone else to help me do it.
00:08:03.160 Good.
00:08:03.460 I just did it.
00:08:04.460 And it's like...
00:08:06.760 If you're 39
00:08:07.980 and you're not on the actual path
00:08:09.780 to being a millionaire...
00:08:10.920 I wasn't able to get on my path
00:08:12.740 until I was 26.
00:08:13.760 But my whole point...
00:08:15.440 So it's still been 15 years.
00:08:17.400 That I had to come
00:08:18.800 and move from a different city.
00:08:21.760 No, let me give you the statistics.
00:08:23.200 I had to move from a different city.
00:08:25.080 Okay?
00:08:25.620 I had to start fresh again.
00:08:27.560 Okay?
00:08:28.120 Came here with nothing,
00:08:29.400 with nobody.
00:08:30.500 Yeah?
00:08:30.880 Had to start from fresh.
00:08:31.940 I did that a year ago.
00:08:32.940 You did that a year ago.
00:08:34.200 A year ago.
00:08:34.520 Maybe you had a bit more supportive parents.
00:08:36.740 I don't have supportive parents.
00:08:38.400 My dad has passed away
00:08:39.680 and my mom,
00:08:40.800 she's a single mom.
00:08:41.620 So no,
00:08:42.520 I can't look to my family for anything.
00:08:44.420 So everything is all by myself.
00:08:47.420 Which is fine.
00:08:48.640 You know what I mean?
00:08:49.220 You can phone your dad
00:08:50.580 and say,
00:08:51.180 Dad,
00:08:51.620 what a story.
00:08:52.340 I've got a problem.
00:08:54.260 I can't phone nobody.
00:08:55.640 I have to work it out
00:08:57.820 and figure it out for myself.
00:08:58.960 But you still have that.
00:08:59.440 If it's going to take me 15 years.
00:09:01.100 You still have that same problem.
00:09:03.280 And that's what I'm saying.
00:09:04.000 Babe,
00:09:04.360 I am changing every day.
00:09:06.240 And every day,
00:09:07.120 I'm getting better and better.
00:09:09.140 And that's what I do know.
00:09:10.640 To who?
00:09:11.040 For me.
00:09:11.780 It's not about pleasing anybody though.
00:09:14.540 It's not.
00:09:15.200 It's about pleasing yourself.
00:09:16.240 If you're going to be a millionaire,
00:09:17.740 and this is,
00:09:18.520 like,
00:09:18.740 this just sounds delusional.
00:09:19.320 That is a dream.
00:09:20.220 It's a dream.
00:09:21.020 It's just,
00:09:21.360 it's a dream.
00:09:22.100 And we're working towards it.
00:09:24.140 How?
00:09:25.220 I do properties.
00:09:26.240 You didn't ask me my life story.
00:09:27.840 I do properties.
00:09:28.880 I do acting.
00:09:30.300 I do music.
00:09:31.300 I'm all on intellectual property.
00:09:33.720 Intellectual property takes time.
00:09:35.800 Then,
00:09:36.240 your property games
00:09:37.820 take time as well.
00:09:39.220 You know what I mean?
00:09:39.980 I've been working on properties
00:09:41.160 since 2017.
00:09:42.660 I didn't leave school
00:09:43.740 with any JCSEs
00:09:44.860 and I've just finished university
00:09:46.380 four weeks ago.
00:09:47.420 So I had to go through that journey
00:09:49.260 of becoming intellectual
00:09:50.820 for me to go on these journeys.
00:09:53.120 Do you think you're still
00:09:53.880 going to have the type of energy
00:09:55.080 you had in your 20s,
00:09:56.280 in your 40s and 50s?
00:09:58.100 Maybe not,
00:09:58.920 but guess what?
00:09:59.680 We're going to keep on going.
00:10:00.760 But you're going to be competing
00:10:01.780 with the people in their 20s
00:10:03.420 and their 30s.
00:10:04.540 No competition.
00:10:05.800 There's no competition.
00:10:06.980 It is.
00:10:07.360 Because if you,
00:10:08.140 I'm telling you.
00:10:08.640 It isn't for you,
00:10:09.540 but there is a competition.
00:10:10.560 There is a competition,
00:10:12.100 but I can't look on that.
00:10:13.260 I promise you that business
00:10:14.780 is absolutely a competition.
00:10:16.280 Oh my God.
00:10:16.760 Good.