JustPearlyThings - November 27, 2023


Pearl Asks Deluded Moderns What They Expect From Men


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Length

9 minutes

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201.35622

Word Count

1,940

Sentence Count

188

Misogynist Sentences

16

Hate Speech Sentences

9


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Is it more normal to be courted or to, like, hang out here?
00:00:05.500 I think it is more normal to be courted.
00:00:06.620 I mean, in my head, I'd rather get, they got to show more initiation.
00:00:09.860 Wine to dine, that's what she's saying.
00:00:11.740 Wine to dine, wine to dine, we can hang out.
00:00:13.940 I think it comes with age.
00:00:15.200 I feel like when you don't have the money when you're young, maybe not so much,
00:00:19.320 but when you get older and you know the guy can afford to take you on dates,
00:00:22.720 it's kind of a little, it's a little different.
00:00:24.520 So in Miami, I get nice dates?
00:00:26.900 Definitely.
00:00:27.220 Yeah, I think it's normal to be taken out on nice dates.
00:00:31.800 Yeah, normal nice dates.
00:00:33.840 I think it's a 50-50 thing.
00:00:36.700 I think it depends on what you're looking for.
00:00:39.360 Like, to be honest with you, like, I've had, like, both of the experiences.
00:00:44.260 Like, I was married for 10 years.
00:00:45.780 I've been divorced for five.
00:00:46.860 So, like, it's different.
00:00:48.720 Like, I've seen both sides of the fence.
00:00:51.160 And not to say, when I was in a relationship, like, he whined and dined me then, you know?
00:00:55.460 But I'm just saying, like, that courting phase up until becoming the girlfriend,
00:00:58.880 that was a little bit different for me compared to what it seems like is most people's experience.
00:01:03.720 Okay, what about you?
00:01:04.660 So how does it work for you?
00:01:05.900 Talking phase?
00:01:07.560 And how long are you staying?
00:01:09.420 Like, about two months, too.
00:01:12.180 But I would say it depends on the person.
00:01:15.140 Like, if you know, I just want him to give me the best experience he'll give any other woman.
00:01:19.460 So if he's the type of guy that's more, like, emotionally in tune, I just want all of that.
00:01:23.740 I want whatever the most he has to offer, you know?
00:01:26.440 Mm-hmm.
00:01:27.340 That's what I'm saying.
00:01:28.040 It just depends on the girl, though.
00:01:29.680 Yeah.
00:01:30.260 You know?
00:01:31.660 Okay.
00:01:32.100 It depends on your experience.
00:01:32.860 Well, that's what I'm trying to find out from each one of you, so I can get an average.
00:01:37.620 I definitely want to be wine and dined, yeah.
00:01:39.760 Now, at this age, yeah, because I know every guy.
00:01:41.740 So he's going to wine and dine for two to three months, and then you're going into a relationship.
00:01:47.200 He doesn't have to, like, we don't have to go on super expensive dates all the time.
00:01:51.800 Yeah, like, he can take me to just, like, a creative little hole-in-the-wall spot
00:01:56.460 that has really good food, and then on a romantic, I don't know, like, watch, yeah,
00:02:01.740 like, see a nice little view somewhere, yeah.
00:02:04.460 Okay, what about you?
00:02:06.720 I want a date.
00:02:07.860 Like, I want to be taken out on dates, at least for a good two to three months.
00:02:11.560 Yeah.
00:02:11.820 Not back to back to back to back and not crazy things every time.
00:02:15.200 I want to be taken out on dates.
00:02:17.580 So it seems like the talking phase here is two to three months.
00:02:22.480 No, no, no, you said a year.
00:02:24.080 No, no, you guys assumed, I said I knew him for a year.
00:02:27.580 I said I knew the person for a year.
00:02:29.040 Okay, how long was it romantic?
00:02:30.700 It's been about a month or two.
00:02:32.760 Oh, so you've known him for a year, and two months it's been romantic.
00:02:36.240 So he's got about four weeks to pop the questions.
00:02:39.400 Who initiated?
00:02:40.620 Did he initiate, or did you, like, the interest after the friendship?
00:02:44.840 Yeah, it was both, because it was kind of after a friendship.
00:02:47.400 So it was kind of just like, wow, this works so good.
00:02:49.780 Who was dropping the hint, though?
00:02:51.160 Like, who made that move?
00:02:52.400 Definitely both.
00:02:53.240 Like, it was him, and I was agreeing, and then it would be me, and he was agreeing, like that.
00:02:59.800 Flirtatious, back and forth.
00:03:02.240 What about you?
00:03:03.520 How does it work to, you're divorced?
00:03:06.580 You were married before.
00:03:07.880 I was.
00:03:09.020 What's the process now?
00:03:11.620 I'm still trying to figure it out, and I'm five years in.
00:03:14.040 That's how complicated it is, Pearl.
00:03:15.660 So I don't even think we have enough time.
00:03:17.160 Okay, can we get some patterns in the last five years?
00:03:19.720 Patterns in the last five years.
00:03:21.460 I think I would definitely agree that the talking phase is, like, three months.
00:03:25.500 I think in three months, a guy shows you if he's consistent.
00:03:28.420 A guy will show you whether or not his behaviors have changed, because that usually happens, too.
00:03:34.980 Like, you can spot, like, the patterns early on, like, within a month or two.
00:03:39.780 You're even, it's pretty easy, honestly, to judge a guy's intentions, like, within, like, maybe the first week.
00:03:48.300 You can tell, like, what type of mindset you have.
00:03:52.140 It's important to know when's the last time some of the ladies been on a date.
00:03:54.420 Because some of them probably haven't been on a date.
00:03:56.000 How long have you, when's the last time you were on a date?
00:03:57.420 Last time I was on a date was, no, it was, I mean, I just recently stopped talking to someone.
00:04:05.060 So it was maybe a month ago, not even.
00:04:10.220 Okay, what about you?
00:04:11.640 Who else is single?
00:04:12.640 But before that, it was a long time.
00:04:14.360 It was, like, a year.
00:04:15.220 Because I'm picky.
00:04:16.400 I'm going to be honest with you.
00:04:17.160 I'm very picky.
00:04:17.600 Some of you take forever to find yourself, and you fucking pretty much don't go on dates for years.
00:04:24.380 And you think you can go back into the dating market, date a guy, but you don't really have any experience dating.
00:04:29.340 Does that make sense?
00:04:30.160 Like, if you don't go on dates.
00:04:31.700 That does make sense.
00:04:32.540 You're not going to know how to date.
00:04:33.780 So who else said two to three months, and who else hasn't been on a date in a while?
00:04:38.440 I don't know.
00:04:38.760 I've been on dates.
00:04:39.200 Sunday.
00:04:40.280 You haven't been on a date?
00:04:40.880 Sunday.
00:04:41.580 Why?
00:04:42.040 Crunch.
00:04:42.820 I haven't really been, I haven't actively been on a date since me and my ex broke up.
00:04:47.380 Because it was, like, a nearly four-year relationship.
00:04:49.460 Probably the most serious relationship I've ever been in.
00:04:51.600 Thought it would be, like, the father to my children, everything like that.
00:04:54.820 So I didn't want to jump into dating until I had, like, I didn't want to rebound or anything like that, you know?
00:05:01.920 How long should it take, though, before you, I mean, are you on Tinder?
00:05:04.640 Are you on any apps?
00:05:05.260 No, I've never been on any of the apps.
00:05:07.220 No.
00:05:08.360 I think that I'm, like, getting close to being ready.
00:05:12.700 Getting close to being ready.
00:05:14.200 What does that mean?
00:05:15.340 She's almost done healing.
00:05:16.820 I've had offers.
00:05:18.160 I've had offers.
00:05:19.300 And I'm just about ready to maybe take some of them up, possibly.
00:05:23.540 Have offers.
00:05:24.920 Okay.
00:05:25.180 Are these guys that you actually are attracted to, though?
00:05:29.640 Because you ladies get offers, but they're a bunch of guys that you don't like.
00:05:33.160 Yeah.
00:05:33.680 Yeah, I would say so.
00:05:35.220 But for me, I'm, like, physically, yes, like, check marks, like, other kind of standards or prerequisites.
00:05:41.880 But you never really know until you're, like, talking to someone and if that chemistry is there.
00:05:46.140 Yeah, that's true.
00:05:46.980 You know, so far as that's concerned, I can't say for sure.
00:05:51.060 But in other more superficial areas, I would say, like, yeah, the box is checked.
00:05:55.080 How many of you ladies are against dating apps, dating Tinder, Bumble?
00:05:59.800 I don't like apps.
00:06:00.840 Why?
00:06:01.260 I don't.
00:06:01.960 I just, I don't know.
00:06:02.960 I feel like it's capped.
00:06:04.920 It's impersonal.
00:06:06.060 It's creating an image and, like, per se, it might not even be you.
00:06:09.860 So it's, like, I'd rather meet you on site, like, on the spot.
00:06:13.480 Yeah, I'm very much a believer in, like, the in-person.
00:06:18.380 Yeah.
00:06:20.220 When's the last time?
00:06:21.480 So who's been on a date in the past week?
00:06:23.980 Raise your hand.
00:06:25.940 Okay, who's been on a date in the past two weeks?
00:06:29.180 Past month?
00:06:31.460 Okay, past three months?
00:06:34.200 Six months?
00:06:35.700 Red flag.
00:06:37.300 Red flag.
00:06:38.240 I haven't been on an official date since being my expert club.
00:06:41.200 Aw.
00:06:42.520 Who hurt you?
00:06:43.300 What do you justify?
00:06:43.960 I know, I'm so hurt, literally.
00:06:45.840 So hurt, so sad.
00:06:47.160 What's, like, an official date?
00:06:48.420 What do you justify?
00:06:49.720 Like, a guy, like, asks you out and you're kind of, not necessarily courted and wine and dined, but it's an official thing.
00:06:56.400 It's, like, we made this plan.
00:06:58.000 I want to spend this time with you and we show up and do that.
00:07:00.740 I didn't know you.
00:07:01.120 I made a picnic, I think.
00:07:02.540 I mean, I've been in situations where we're hanging out with people and then I end up hanging out with somebody, but it's not like it's pre-planned or anything, you know?
00:07:11.460 I think you just need a vibe really well with the person on a date.
00:07:16.820 I don't know.
00:07:17.560 I mean, I know guys hate that word.
00:07:19.880 You like short things?
00:07:20.760 Vibe.
00:07:21.280 They're, like, short.
00:07:21.940 I'm 5'1".
00:07:22.960 Yeah, so I want to hear dating in Miami from the guy's point of view.
00:07:27.960 So, all right, so typically, how long does a chick make you wait for sex here?
00:07:35.860 Oh, look at their face.
00:07:38.200 It depends what type of man you are.
00:07:40.200 Okay.
00:07:41.000 That's true.
00:07:42.100 I'm asking your experience.
00:07:45.100 Like, I mean, like, what do you guys justify as hooking up?
00:07:47.980 Like, full out?
00:07:49.020 Yeah, like, I mean, I guess, like, first, second date.
00:07:52.320 First, second date.
00:07:53.580 Wow, okay.
00:07:54.260 So, immediately.
00:07:55.260 All right, what about you?
00:07:57.540 It depends on the girl, realistically.
00:07:59.400 If it's just some you, Miami girl, then, yeah, probably in the first 10 minutes.
00:08:04.400 But if it's, yeah, if it's, I guess, a respectable girl or it depends what she thinks.
00:08:11.520 I mean, there's plenty of respectable girls that could get in the first night, too.
00:08:14.780 How does that work?
00:08:15.860 Like, fuck the date.
00:08:16.720 Let's get out of here.
00:08:17.400 He's talking about the on-campus girls, for sure.
00:08:20.080 Did you just say, I'm ready to go?
00:08:20.640 Sounds like on-campus girls.
00:08:21.400 I'm ready.
00:08:21.940 I mean, if they're from you, Miami, like, yeah, they walk through the door and they just,
00:08:25.280 they know it's about to go down.
00:08:25.980 They take their shirt off?
00:08:27.960 They know they're going to get real, yeah.
00:08:30.040 What about you?
00:08:31.220 Oh, not real.
00:08:32.420 That escalated quickly.
00:08:33.780 What would you say the average is?
00:08:36.000 I mean, for me, personally, I would say at least two to three dates, and then I'm hooking up.
00:08:41.680 And I've had some one-night, a lot of one-nighters.
00:08:44.040 Yeah.
00:08:44.480 I'm a DJ, so girls, like, want to be in the DJ booth.
00:08:46.620 What's your body count?
00:08:48.160 Yeah, for real.
00:08:48.940 That's lost.
00:08:49.940 Yeah.
00:08:50.480 Gone.
00:08:51.000 75.
00:08:51.640 Hard.
00:08:52.000 Okay, that's not that.
00:08:53.620 Well, for a guy, that's not that.
00:08:54.820 Did you guys know that?
00:08:56.300 Pearl said, wow.
00:08:58.120 Whore.
00:08:59.280 Yes, I'm a whore.
00:09:01.220 Pearl, we know guys can't be whores.
00:09:03.160 We're more than this.
00:09:03.940 You can be a whore.
00:09:05.180 We're more than this.
00:09:06.460 The only way a guy can be a whore, if he's banging twos.
00:09:10.320 That's it.
00:09:10.720 If he's banging that twos?
00:09:11.300 That's the only way a guy can be whores.
00:09:12.840 Look, look, look.
00:09:13.200 I think guys can be whores.
00:09:15.940 Like, I think you can.
00:09:17.540 If you bang enough girls and it doesn't mean anything, I think you can be a whore.
00:09:21.160 I think they're whore makers.
00:09:23.200 Exactly.
00:09:24.060 Exactly.
00:09:24.660 Because they're making too much love making.
00:09:26.480 You ever think about 75?
00:09:27.760 I was like, that's 75 wives someday.
00:09:31.520 No, maybe like 25.
00:09:34.080 Yeah, not all of them are going to be wives.
00:09:35.940 Fair enough.
00:09:38.060 Fair enough.