Pearl Asks Deluded Moderns What They Expect From Men
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about wine and dine and how to get the most out of your significant other in the dating world. We also talk about how to pick the right guy for you and what to look for in a potential partner.
Transcript
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Is it more normal to be courted or to, like, hang out here?
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I mean, in my head, I'd rather get, they got to show more initiation.
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I feel like when you don't have the money when you're young, maybe not so much,
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but when you get older and you know the guy can afford to take you on dates,
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it's kind of a little, it's a little different.
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Yeah, I think it's normal to be taken out on nice dates.
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Like, to be honest with you, like, I've had, like, both of the experiences.
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And not to say, when I was in a relationship, like, he whined and dined me then, you know?
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But I'm just saying, like, that courting phase up until becoming the girlfriend,
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that was a little bit different for me compared to what it seems like is most people's experience.
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Like, if you know, I just want him to give me the best experience he'll give any other woman.
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So if he's the type of guy that's more, like, emotionally in tune, I just want all of that.
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I want whatever the most he has to offer, you know?
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Well, that's what I'm trying to find out from each one of you, so I can get an average.
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Now, at this age, yeah, because I know every guy.
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So he's going to wine and dine for two to three months, and then you're going into a relationship.
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He doesn't have to, like, we don't have to go on super expensive dates all the time.
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Yeah, like, he can take me to just, like, a creative little hole-in-the-wall spot
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that has really good food, and then on a romantic, I don't know, like, watch, yeah,
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Like, I want to be taken out on dates, at least for a good two to three months.
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Not back to back to back to back and not crazy things every time.
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So it seems like the talking phase here is two to three months.
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No, no, you guys assumed, I said I knew him for a year.
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Oh, so you've known him for a year, and two months it's been romantic.
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So he's got about four weeks to pop the questions.
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Did he initiate, or did you, like, the interest after the friendship?
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Yeah, it was both, because it was kind of after a friendship.
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So it was kind of just like, wow, this works so good.
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Like, it was him, and I was agreeing, and then it would be me, and he was agreeing, like that.
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I'm still trying to figure it out, and I'm five years in.
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Okay, can we get some patterns in the last five years?
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I think I would definitely agree that the talking phase is, like, three months.
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I think in three months, a guy shows you if he's consistent.
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A guy will show you whether or not his behaviors have changed, because that usually happens, too.
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Like, you can spot, like, the patterns early on, like, within a month or two.
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You're even, it's pretty easy, honestly, to judge a guy's intentions, like, within, like, maybe the first week.
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You can tell, like, what type of mindset you have.
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It's important to know when's the last time some of the ladies been on a date.
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Because some of them probably haven't been on a date.
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How long have you, when's the last time you were on a date?
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Last time I was on a date was, no, it was, I mean, I just recently stopped talking to someone.
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Some of you take forever to find yourself, and you fucking pretty much don't go on dates for years.
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And you think you can go back into the dating market, date a guy, but you don't really have any experience dating.
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So who else said two to three months, and who else hasn't been on a date in a while?
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I haven't really been, I haven't actively been on a date since me and my ex broke up.
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Because it was, like, a nearly four-year relationship.
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Probably the most serious relationship I've ever been in.
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Thought it would be, like, the father to my children, everything like that.
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So I didn't want to jump into dating until I had, like, I didn't want to rebound or anything like that, you know?
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How long should it take, though, before you, I mean, are you on Tinder?
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I think that I'm, like, getting close to being ready.
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And I'm just about ready to maybe take some of them up, possibly.
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Are these guys that you actually are attracted to, though?
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Because you ladies get offers, but they're a bunch of guys that you don't like.
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But for me, I'm, like, physically, yes, like, check marks, like, other kind of standards or prerequisites.
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But you never really know until you're, like, talking to someone and if that chemistry is there.
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You know, so far as that's concerned, I can't say for sure.
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But in other more superficial areas, I would say, like, yeah, the box is checked.
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How many of you ladies are against dating apps, dating Tinder, Bumble?
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It's creating an image and, like, per se, it might not even be you.
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So it's, like, I'd rather meet you on site, like, on the spot.
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Yeah, I'm very much a believer in, like, the in-person.
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Okay, who's been on a date in the past two weeks?
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I haven't been on an official date since being my expert club.
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Like, a guy, like, asks you out and you're kind of, not necessarily courted and wine and dined, but it's an official thing.
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I want to spend this time with you and we show up and do that.
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I mean, I've been in situations where we're hanging out with people and then I end up hanging out with somebody, but it's not like it's pre-planned or anything, you know?
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I think you just need a vibe really well with the person on a date.
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Yeah, so I want to hear dating in Miami from the guy's point of view.
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So, all right, so typically, how long does a chick make you wait for sex here?
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Like, I mean, like, what do you guys justify as hooking up?
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Yeah, like, I mean, I guess, like, first, second date.
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If it's just some you, Miami girl, then, yeah, probably in the first 10 minutes.
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But if it's, yeah, if it's, I guess, a respectable girl or it depends what she thinks.
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I mean, there's plenty of respectable girls that could get in the first night, too.
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He's talking about the on-campus girls, for sure.
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I mean, if they're from you, Miami, like, yeah, they walk through the door and they just,
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I mean, for me, personally, I would say at least two to three dates, and then I'm hooking up.
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And I've had some one-night, a lot of one-nighters.
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I'm a DJ, so girls, like, want to be in the DJ booth.
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The only way a guy can be a whore, if he's banging twos.
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If you bang enough girls and it doesn't mean anything, I think you can be a whore.