JustPearlyThings - May 01, 2023


Pearl Battles Emotional Only fans Model


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10 minutes

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Word count

2,047

Sentence count

159

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Misogyny

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Hate speech

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In this episode, we discuss cheating in relationships and how to deal with it. We have a guest on the show who has been cheated on in her past and we discuss why cheating is so common in relationships. We also talk about the benefits of cheating and how it can be a good or bad thing.

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00:00:00.000 My only problem with that is the phrase the easy way.
00:00:02.820 And trust me, every content creator is going to come to my defensive.
00:00:05.740 I used to be, and you can Google check me, an English teacher, fully qualified.
00:00:09.620 Went to university, GTP, the whole lot.
00:00:11.840 Then I was a managing director in the city.
00:00:13.660 So I can tell you I've done the social norms.
00:00:17.040 And running a successful OnlyFans account is 10, listen to me, 10 times harder than being a fully qualified English teacher.
00:00:27.740 That's not what you're saying.
00:00:28.840 That's not what you're saying.
00:00:29.820 So when I hear phrases like, you took the easy way out, it's not an easy way out.
00:00:33.840 No, okay, but it's easier than, okay, so it's easier than, selling sex is easier than not selling sex.
00:00:41.300 Sex is the easiest sell. 0.97
00:00:43.560 If I wanted to make more money, I could take off my clothes tomorrow and I would make more money.
00:00:48.900 And I know it's harder for a guy, so it's not necessarily the same guy versus girl, but I'm assuming you have women in your content, right?
00:00:55.620 Okay, sex sells.
00:00:56.740 Yeah.
00:00:57.220 So question, do you think everyone can jump on OnlyFans and make millions?
00:01:00.500 If it's that easy, if it's the easy way.
00:01:02.180 No, no, I'm not saying that every single person can make a ton of money.
00:01:05.560 I'm saying it's easier than not doing it.
00:01:08.000 Because if there was an easier way for you to make millions, you would have did it.
00:01:13.200 But when you say easy, don't you think it's difficult having to deal with, like, people's perceptions of you, family judgment, social judgment?
00:01:19.420 I mean, I think that's the trade-off for easy money.
00:01:23.380 But it's not easy if it comes with all those complications, is it?
00:01:26.180 It's like selling drugs easy.
00:01:28.260 I'm saying it's easier than the other option, because otherwise you wouldn't have did it.
00:01:31.840 No problem.
00:01:32.280 We can agree to disagree on this point.
00:01:33.480 We don't have to be in union and everything we say.
00:01:35.600 You have your point.
00:01:36.420 I have mine.
00:01:36.880 I disagree.
00:01:38.120 On that front, that's it.
00:01:39.560 Simple.
00:01:41.600 Who else has been cheated on?
00:01:45.360 Wait, what are we disagreeing on?
00:01:46.780 We've got stories for them.
00:01:47.900 I don't even know.
00:01:48.580 No, actually, I thought we agreed, to be honest.
00:01:52.160 Who else has been cheated on?
00:01:53.640 I have.
00:01:54.940 I got cheated on when I was little, man.
00:01:57.380 For me, personally, when it first happened, can you hear me?
00:02:04.940 Oh, okay.
00:02:05.440 When it first happened, I was in my teens.
00:02:11.960 It kind of hurt, but then I kind of got over it, and now I didn't get under another man
00:02:18.300 before people come for me, be like, yeah, get under another man.
00:02:21.260 No, it did hurt.
00:02:23.060 I kind of just stayed off the market for a bit, kind of healed from what I went through,
00:02:29.360 because when you're talking about cheating, cheating is in different ways and different
00:02:35.600 forms, and like I said, when you're in a relationship with somebody and that person
00:02:41.600 is selling you a dream, and they're telling you, oh, you're this, you're that, and da-da-da-da-da-da-da,
00:02:49.000 but then it turns out, no, really, I wasn't what you wanted.
00:02:52.320 I wasn't what you claimed that I was.
00:02:56.000 Just go.
00:02:56.660 Just, it's better you tell me, look, babe, I love you, yeah, but I'm going to have to
00:03:01.320 love you from a distance.
00:03:02.720 Cool.
00:03:03.520 I'm fine with that.
00:03:04.860 Do you.
00:03:05.840 But when you go out of your way to specifically hurt that individual, knowing full well that
00:03:11.960 I'm not doing that to you, like, I'm not getting numbers on the sly, you know, my phone's open,
00:03:19.580 go through my phone.
00:03:20.340 I have nothing to hide, because I'm not doing anything inappropriate, and the fact that most
00:03:25.940 people that I've actually sat down and asked, I'm like, well, why would you, like, why cheat?
00:03:31.140 Well, it's because.
00:03:32.240 But you understand that men and women are different.
00:03:34.140 No, no, no, I get that.
00:03:35.420 No, no, no, I totally get that.
00:03:37.000 I understand, well, two different entities.
00:03:39.660 Well, no, because right now you're saying, like, why would you do that?
00:03:41.520 You're trying to hurt me, but they're not trying to hurt you.
00:03:43.600 No, well.
00:03:44.700 It's just how they're wired.
00:03:46.100 No, I don't think it's how they're wired.
00:03:48.160 Essentially, they're much more complex.
00:03:49.700 Hold on, I just.
00:03:50.920 The majority of the guys here are going to tell you it's how they're, like, if you ask,
00:03:54.520 the majority of them.
00:03:55.080 I feel like that you could cheat me all, you know.
00:03:56.560 I understand that, but when you actually sit down and have a conversation with somebody
00:04:02.040 that knows themselves, knows what they're about, mentally strong, they've come out of their
00:04:08.200 little boy moments, because a lot of men still have it, whether you're 50, 40, 30, I've seen
00:04:14.220 it, I've got stories for days.
00:04:17.920 But, like I said, if that's what you want to do, do that.
00:04:21.660 But why get into a relationship?
00:04:23.160 And this is where I don't agree with it, whether it's a male or a female.
00:04:26.920 If you know you cannot be loyal to one individual, do not be in a relationship.
00:04:34.180 You can be single, and you could be free to mingle all day long.
00:04:38.600 Nobody can't come and say nothing to you.
00:04:41.020 So what if you want that woman, though?
00:04:42.760 What if you want that woman? 0.99
00:04:43.940 That's the woman you want, yeah, but you still just like to have the variety of spices. 1.00
00:04:48.940 You know, honestly, honestly, I think women, we need to get off our high horse. 1.00
00:04:52.860 We're supposed to be virgins on our wedding day.
00:04:55.500 What percent of women are virgins on our wedding day? 1.00
00:04:58.300 No, because I'm serious.
00:04:59.580 You're supposed to bring purity and youth to a marriage, right?
00:05:03.060 That's the exchange.
00:05:04.000 They're supposed to give you resources and monogamy, because they're not doing their mating 1.00
00:05:09.200 strategy, basically, which is screw as many people as possible.
00:05:11.980 We could keep being part of the harem, right, with a high-value guy, but we say, no, we're
00:05:16.580 not going to do that.
00:05:17.440 We're going to give you purity and youth.
00:05:18.720 We're not holding up our end of the bargain today.
00:05:20.480 I want to give the other side of it, is that okay?
00:05:23.980 No, go for it.
00:05:24.980 Because I'm not proud of this, but like, you know, I want to be honest here, and like,
00:05:31.240 you know, my man's given me a bit of honesty.
00:05:36.000 I love this guy.
00:05:37.000 So this is the thing, it's like, in my previous experience, when I was at my worst in terms
00:05:42.540 of like using women and stuff like that, when, you know, I was in my high-value man and I'll
00:05:49.460 do what I want phase, as they say, basically, if a girl I'd asked to come and meet me that 1.00
00:05:54.840 night said she was busy, I'd be like, cool, one of the other 10 will say yes then.
00:06:00.080 And like, that was none of her knowledge or whatever at the time, but she just wasn't
00:06:03.820 there.
00:06:04.320 And my selfishness and my childishness was just like, cool, I'll just go through the list.
00:06:09.340 The first one to say yes, it's your lucky day.
00:06:11.600 Let's go.
00:06:12.160 And in my head, I'm like, if you're not dedicated enough to me to be here, then you
00:06:17.960 can't have any complaints.
00:06:19.140 That's the way I was feeling at the time.
00:06:20.820 And I think a lot of men go through that when you're not living together and it ain't heavy
00:06:24.340 serious, but it's dating.
00:06:26.360 And I was just like, okay, the first one to say yes, that's it then.
00:06:29.960 So a question for you quickly.
00:06:31.620 Have you been on the receiving end of being cheated?
00:06:35.140 Yeah.
00:06:35.800 Yeah, it was awkward, that one.
00:06:37.160 See?
00:06:37.860 There you go.
00:06:38.400 I was 19 and I remember looking through her text message saying another guy who was like,
00:06:47.720 like I knew through a friend as well.
00:06:50.280 And a funny old thing is like, we bumped into each other in a bar about a year later because
00:06:56.200 he found out the hard way whose girlfriend, or whose girlfriend I thought it was anyway.
00:07:03.600 And he basically came up to me and went, by the way, if I'd known it was you, I would never
00:07:07.160 have fucking gone near her. 0.97
00:07:08.400 But we ended up having a pint and laughing about it because like, we just knew what
00:07:12.180 she was like, and, and that was the thing is I said to him, like, imagine she could see
00:07:16.400 us laughing about like, what a skank she is. 1.00
00:07:19.140 What was that pain like when you, when you, when you went through the phone?
00:07:21.580 Oh, when I was, I was 19, it hit me right in the middle.
00:07:24.560 Because was you being faithful at the time?
00:07:26.700 I was getting the butt home, you know what I mean?
00:07:29.000 I was struggling at the time.
00:07:30.100 But was you faithful at that time?
00:07:31.720 I was, I was more than faithful.
00:07:33.060 I was like, you know, when you're like in, like, you're like, she's the best thing I've
00:07:36.440 ever seen.
00:07:37.140 You know what I mean?
00:07:37.880 And so.
00:07:38.360 Did that change you?
00:07:39.220 Yeah, it's traumatised.
00:07:40.040 She was the prettiest girl and I was like, and fuck women. 1.00
00:07:43.040 Yeah, yeah.
00:07:43.660 I told you.
00:07:44.220 But obviously like, you get over it, but that was, that was 19 for me.
00:07:47.480 Did it put you in a space for a moment where you felt a certain type of way?
00:07:54.740 How long, or did you, are you just.
00:07:56.540 No, the thing that got me to wake up and not cheat ever again was seeing the pain it caused
00:08:02.500 when I did do that.
00:08:04.040 And it made me go, yeah, I'm, I can't do this again to someone.
00:08:08.640 Like, I really, that was, it was similar to him.
00:08:11.880 Like, it was that awakening of like, oh, I've really fucking hurt someone here.
00:08:15.000 And I never want to do that again.
00:08:16.840 And like, I never have, thank God.
00:08:18.860 But, but in that, in that moment, yeah, I was very selfish.
00:08:24.000 Okay.
00:08:24.900 Okay.
00:08:26.360 Can we ask you a question?
00:08:27.940 Oh, no.
00:08:28.500 Is that off table?
00:08:29.400 Have you ever been cheated on just like Chrissy?
00:08:31.460 You have, yeah?
00:08:32.700 Okay.
00:08:33.420 Have you ever cheated?
00:08:35.020 No.
00:08:35.580 Good.
00:08:36.240 Pell, would you stay in a, would you stay in a married relationship with your husband
00:08:40.380 happily being cheated on?
00:08:42.260 Would I be happily cheated on?
00:08:44.180 People always ask me this.
00:08:46.700 No, I would not be happily cheated on.
00:08:48.720 But I think, again, that the kids are more important than you.
00:08:51.040 Once you have kids, it's not about you.
00:08:52.580 But you would accept it.
00:08:53.520 Yeah.
00:08:53.920 If I have kids, you know, and you try to work.
00:08:56.660 But how many times is like the limit for them to like go?
00:09:00.360 If you have kids, I'm going to try to work it out.
00:09:02.780 Because I just genuinely think that if you put your feelings above the kid, like, I just
00:09:06.980 think you're selfish.
00:09:07.740 I think it's not about you.
00:09:09.040 I'm going to talk on my own experience right now.
00:09:10.260 I have a daughter, right?
00:09:12.180 I love her to a bit.
00:09:13.760 And I was in a relationship, like a long relationship.
00:09:17.060 And I've been cheated on, right?
00:09:19.260 I tried everything.
00:09:20.780 It didn't work out.
00:09:22.580 I tried it.
00:09:23.260 Obviously.
00:09:23.860 What would he say, though?
00:09:25.880 Well.
00:09:26.620 Because, you know, there's two sides to every story.
00:09:28.480 Let's get him on the show.
00:09:29.080 That's true.
00:09:29.400 That's true.
00:09:30.200 But.
00:09:31.000 No, no, no.
00:09:32.000 No, no, no.
00:09:34.860 Matthew, do some digging.
00:09:35.960 No, because I'm saying, if we asked him, is he going to say she tried everything?
00:09:40.680 I think he will.
00:09:42.020 Because he knows deep down.
00:09:44.020 And he told me that, too.
00:09:46.720 My story is similar to yours.
00:09:48.500 Hold on.
00:09:48.920 But what was the limit for you?
00:09:52.560 What made you realize that you had to walk away?
00:09:57.220 I don't know if I'm allowed to say that or not, but abuse.
00:10:00.700 Oh.
00:10:01.360 Okay.
00:10:01.740 That was my limit.
00:10:02.680 Physical abuse.
00:10:03.380 To me, if you know, I was just banned on TikTok.
00:10:06.680 And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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